This site is dedicated to survival from abuse. I had the unfortunate experience to experience sexual assault as a teenager. That event led to a downward spiral of behavior, poor choices, and further abuse for the next decade.
I will be honest about my experiences. There may be some graphic material posted to this site. I will not name names and I will try to be as anonymous as possible, I really don’t want to be sued.
I will share info on the things I have done to lead a normal life.
I am in no way completely healed, but I am in a much better place in my 30s than in my 20s.
Think of this as a “It gets better” site.
I am married (to my second husband), I’m a nurse, I have a daughter. My husband has been one of my best friends since I was 14 (and pre-trauma). He is so incredibly supportive, loving, kind.
He doesn’t like to hear about my past, who wants to hear about their spouse’s past, but at least he understands. He learned how to help me through the flashbacks and nightmares and panic attacks.
It is because of him, and my daughter, that I made the decision to do the “hard work” and deal with the trauma once and for all.
I want this site to help and inspire others who have experienced similar situations throughout their life. I want to provide education and advocate for survivors of abuse.
- You will see posts on the things that I have done that help me (and some things that didn’t).
- You will probably see rants of a political nature, especially about certain politicians who believe in the idea of “legitimate rape”.
- You will see poems, memes, pictures that are intended to heal and raise awareness.
- You will also learn about my LONG journey to a quasi-normal existence. One in which the past does not control the present or the future.
Feel free to share your own experiences and ideas. This is a site to promote healing.
Thank you.
To live in the present tense 
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Stand Strong You Are Not Alone
I call you a survivor, because that is what you are. There are days when you don’t feel like a survivor and there are days when the memories trigger your past and it feels like you are losing the fight – but you are not. Take the past and heal with it. You are strong. I want you to know that the abuse was not your fault. It does not matter what age it happened. You did not deserve it, you did not cause it, and you did not bring it on yourself. You own no shame, guilt, or remorse. In your life, you have faced many demons but look around you and you will see there is hope, and there is beauty. You are beautiful, You are loved, there is hope. You deserve to be loved and treated with respect. You deserve peace and joy in your life. Don’t settle for anything less than that. God has plans for you. Your future does not have to be dictated by your past.
Each step you take you are not alone.
Stand Strong.
By: Battered Wife Seeking Better Life on April 2, 2014
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