feat: support tablet auth and flag to disable auth

[oh2024]

• What kind of change does this PR introduce? (Bug fix, feature, docs update, ...)

1. Add username/password authentication to tablet servers
2. Added skip_grant_tables flag to disable auth

• What is the current behavior? (You can also link to an open issue here)
  Tablet servers have only service-auth enabled, trusting the sdefault token.

• What is the new behavior (if this is a feature change)?
  Tablet servers will use the username and password from the user table for authentication

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[vagetablechicken]

add doc:

• how to use flag in server side, which servers, need restart
• how to use in client side, which clients, need restart

Release test should follow the steps in doc.

[vagetablechicken]

add doc:

• how to use flag in server side, which servers, need restart
• how to use in client side, which clients, need restart

Release test should follow the steps in doc.

是不是所有server和client（java python cli）都能用这个开关
这个开关是090才有，更早的版本不要用。
这个开关打开要重启生效。
server不打开，client打开是什么样。部分server打开，是什么样。
认证错误，客户端收到的错误是什么样的

[tobegit3hub]

LGTM