PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Family
Structures and
Legacies
 Objectives:
At the end of the lesson, the students should be able to:

✘ Appraise your family structure and the type of care you give
and receive, which may help in understanding yourself better.
✘ Make a genogram and trace certain physical, personality, or
behavioral attributes through generations.
✘ Prepare a plan on how to make your family members firmer
and gentler with each other.
 Call it a clan, call it a
network, call it a tribe,
call it a family. Whatever
you call it, whoever you
are, you need one.

-Jane Howard,
"Families"
 What is Family?
• Family is the basic unit of society.
• It is the smallest organization in the community.
• It is said to be the group of individual living together
in one household.
• Family comes in different forms. It could vary from
one family to another.
• It is usually composed of mother, father and
children, some other includes grandparents, aunts,
uncles, cousins, and other relatives.
 Activity 1. Model
In this activity, you will show your creativity
by making a model of a house. You can use
materials that can be found in your
surroundings. You can use sticks, leaves, candy
wrappers etc. After making a house, relate the
part of your house to your family members and
write down why that person represents the part
of the house you’ve chosen. Paste your house
model on a short bond paper. Below your
model, write your explanation.
 GENOGRAM

✘ A genogram or family tree is a useful

tool to gather information about a
person's family. This visual
representation of a family can help us to
identify patterns or themes within
families that may be influencing or
driving a person's current behavior.
Symbols for drawing the genogram or family tree:

Female symbol - name, age

Male symbol - name,age
Unknown gender
Married - add the year or
ages
De facto relationship -
commencement date or
ages Separation - date or ages
List children in b i l h order and put names and ages
either within the symbol or underneath.
Death - a small cross in the corner of the
symbol (record date if known)
Dotted circle - this can be used to enclose the
members liying together currently, for example, who
the young person is living with.
Conflict
Genogram
Symbols
Sample genogram 1:
Sample genogram 2:
 FAMILY
STRUCTURE
The traditional family structure is considered a
family support system which involves two
married individuals providing care and stability
for their biological offspring. However, this
two-parent, nuclear family has become less
prevalent, and alternative family forms have
become more common.
DIFFERENT
KINDS OF FAMILY
STRUCTURES
Nuclear Family

✘ A family unit
consisting of at most a
father, mother and
dependent children. It
is considered the
“traditional” family.
 Extended Family

✘ A family consisting of parents and

children, along with either grandparents,
grandchildren, aunts or uncles, cousins
etc. In some circumstances, the
extended family comes to live either
with or in place of a member of the
nuclear family.
 Step Families
✘Two families brought together due
to divorce, separation, and
remarriage.
Single Parent Family
✘ This can be either a father or a mother
who is singly responsible for the raising of
a child. The child can be by birth or
adoption. They may be a single parent by
choice or by life circumstances. The other
parent may have been part of the family at
one time or not at all.
 Adoptive Family
✘ A family where one or more of the
children has been adopted. Any
structure of family may also be an
adoptive family.
Bi-Racial or Multi-
Racial Family
✘ A family where the parents are
members of different racial
identity groups.
Trans-Racial Adoptive
Family
✘ A family where the adopted child
is of a different racial identity
group than the parents.
 Blended Family
✘ A family that consists of members
from two (or more) previous
families.
 Conditionally
Separated Families
✘ A family member is separated from the
rest of the family. This may be due to
employment far away; military service;
incarceration; hospitalization. They
remain significant members of the
family.
 Foster Family
✘ A family where one or more of the
children is legally a temporary member
of the household. This “temporary”
period may be as short as a few days or
as long as the child’s entire childhood.
 Gay or Lesbian
Family
✘ A family where one or both of the
parents’ sexual orientation is gay or
lesbian. This may be a two-parent
family, an adoptive family, a single
parent family or an extended family.
 Immigrant Family
✘ A family where the parents have
immigrated to another country as adults.
Their children may or may not be
immigrants. Some family members may
continue to live in the country of origin,
but still be significant figures in the life
of the child.
 Migrant Family
✘ A family that moves regularly to
places where they have
employment.
What is the
best family
structure?
FAMILY
LEGACIES
No matter who we are, where
we live, or what our goals may
be, we all have one thing in
common: a heritage.
✘ That is, a social, emotional and spiritual legacy
passed on from parent to child.
✘ It is important
spiritual, to remember
emotional thatlegacy
and social passing
is aonprocess,
a
not an event.
✘ As parents, we are responsible for the process. God
is responsible for the product.

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Emotional Legacy Evaluation. Answer each
question by writing the number that best reflects
the legacy you have received from your parents.
1. When
Then add you walked into your house,
up your
score.what was your feeling?
1. Dread
2. Tension
3. Chaos
4. Stability
5. Calm
6. Warmth
2. Which word best describes the tone
of your home?
1. Hateful
2. Angry
3. Sad
4. Serious
5. Relaxed
6. Fun
3. What was the message of your
family life?
1. You are worthless.
2. You are a burden.
3. You are okay.
4. You are respected.
5. You are important.
6. You are the greatest.
 4. Which word best describes the
“fragrance” of your home life?
1. Repulsive
2. Rotten
3. Unpleasant
4. Sterile
5. Fresh
6. Sweet
5. Which was most frequent in your
home?
1. An intense fight
2. The silent treatment
3. Detached apathy
4. A strong disagreement
5. A kind word
6. An affectionate hug
 Results:
Above 24 = Strong emotional legacy
19– 24 = Healthy legacy
14– 18 = Mixed legacy– good and bad elements
10– 13 = Weak emotional legacy
Below 10 = Damaged emotional legacy
 The Emotional Legacy

✘ In order to prosper, our children

need an enduring sense of
security and stability nurtured in
an environment of safety and
love.
 The Emotional Legacy

A strong emotional legacy:

• Provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots

can grow.
• Fosters confidence through stability.
• Conveys a tone of trusting support.
• Nurtures a strong sense of positive identity.
• Creates a “resting place” for the soul.
• Demonstrates unconditional love.
Social Legacy Evaluation: Answer each question
by circling the number that best reflects the
legacy you have received from your parents.
Then 1.
add up your
Which wordsscore.
most closely resemble the
social tone of your family?
1. Cruel and abusive
2. Cutting sarcasm
3. Chaotic and distant
4. Non-communicative but stable
5. Secure with open communication
6. Loving and fun
2. What was the message of your home life
with regard to
relationships?
1. “Step on others to get your way.”
2. “Hurt them if they hurt you.”
3. “Demand your rights.”
4. “Mind your own business.”
5. “Treat others with respect.”
6. “Put others before yourself.”
 3. How were rules set and enforced in
your home?
1. Independent of relationship
2. In reaction to parental stress
3. Dictatorially
4. Inconsistently
5. Out of concern for my well-being
6. In the context of a loving
relationship
4. Which word best characterizes the tone
of communication in your
home?
1. Shouting
2. Manipulation
3. Confusing
4. Clear
5. Constructive
6. Courteous
5. How did your family deal with wrong
behavior?
1. Subtle reinforcement
2. Accepted in the name of love
3. Guilt trip
4. Severe punishment
5. Discussion
6. Loving, firm discipline
Results:
Above 24 = Strong social legacy
19– 24 = Healthy legacy
14– 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements
10– 13 = Weak social legacy
Below 10 = Damaged social legacy
 The Social Legacy

✘ To really succeed in life, our children need

to learn more than management techniques,
accounting, reading, writing and geometry.
They need to learn the fine art of relating to
people. If they learn how to relate well to
others, they'll have an edge in the game of
life.
Spiritual Legacy Evaluation: Answer each
question by circling the number that best reflects
the legacy you have received from your parents.
Then 1. To up
add what degree were spiritual principles
your
incorporated into daily
score.
family life?
1. Never
2. Rarely
3. Sometimes
4. Frequently
5. Almost always
6. Consistently
2. Which word captures the tone of
how you learned to view/relate to
God?
1. Absent
2. Adversarial
3. Fearful
4. Casual
5. Solemn
6. Intimate
 3. How would you summarize your
family’s level of participation in
spiritual
activities?
1. Nonexistent
2. Rare
3. Occasional
4. Regimental
5. Active
6. Enthusiastic
 4. How were spiritual discussions
applied in your home?
1. They weren’t
2. To control
3. To manipulate
4. To teach
5. To influence
6. To reinforce
5. What was the perspective in your
home regarding moral absolutes?
1. If it feels good, do it!
2. There are no absolutes.
3. Let your heart guide you.
4. Dogmatic legalism
5. Moderate conservatism
6. Clear boundaries
Results:
Above 24 = Strong spiritual legacy
19– 24 = Healthy legacy
14– 18 = Mixed legacy — good and bad elements
10– 13 = Weak spiritual legacy
Below 10 = Damaged spiritual legacy
 The Spiritual Legacy

✘ The Spiritual Legacy is overlooked by many, but that's a

mistake. As spiritual beings, we adopt attitudes and
beliefs about spiritual matters from one source or another.
As parents, we need to take the initiative and present our
faith to our children.
✘ Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual legacy to
their children model and reinforce the unseen realities of the
godly life.
Independent Assessment 1
Direction: Read the
questions below and arrange
the scrambled words to
reveal the
answer. Write what you got
on a separate sheet of paper.
 _______1. What key building
blocks of children’s social legacy
begin with themselves
and working out with other people?
( ECTPSER)
 _______2. The one that
should always be responsible
for the transmission of family
legacy. ( SRPNTAE )
 _______3. Which family legacy should we
have in order to prosper the needs of our
children to endure and nurtured the sense of
security and stability into a
safety and loved environment?
(LONAITEMO ELCYAG)
 _______4. Which family legacy should
children prosper and need to learn in order
to
gain insights and socials skills necessary to
cultivate healthy, stable
relationships? ( LOIACS GLEYCA )
 _______5. Which family legacy is
overlooked by many but we should
adopt the
attitudes and beliefs about spiritual
matters from one source or another?
(PSRIIAULT GLEYCA)
 A Tribute To Family
by: Michelle A. Moran

I don't know when it started, He wanted someone to hold us

Or how it all began, And show respect for others.
But God created families, He wanted someone who'd be gentle,
As only our Lord can. So he created mothers.

He was teaching what it means He wanted someone strong,

To love, honor, and obey. A support filled with love,
He wanted a strong bond So he created fathers,
That we don't see too much Sent from heaven up
today. above.
Brothers and sisters came next,
With that, an instant friend.
Someone to look up to,
Someone on whom to
depend. We have a lot to be thankful for,
When he put them all together, The memories through the years.
He was amazed at what he'd done. The many times together,
He had created a family, Full of laughter, full of tears.
Mother, father, daughter, son.
I don't know where we'd be today,
But look at the family, If it weren't for the two of you.
Created by only two. To show us strength, support, and love,
How many we've become, Like only the two of you can do.
And all because of you.
 POEM WRITING: Make
two five-line poems about
your family.
Your poem will be checked using the criteria below:
Content ----- 15
Structure, Logic, and Transition ----- 15
Vocabulary/ Word choice ----- 10
Grammatical Accuracy -----10
Total---- 50 pts.