Module 7

Personal Relationship
Relationship
• Friendship
Relationship
Relationship
• Romantic
Relationship
Friendship/Teenage Relationship
• Your relationship during this stage
is pretty much different from what
you had when you were still a
child, when you focused on play
activities and had a few close
friends.
Friendship/Teenage Relationship
• During your teenage years, you form
friendships and start to develop
intimate relationships with members of
the opposite sex. Intimate or close
relationship are characterized by self-
disclosure and your capacity to trust
others.
Friendship/Teenage Relationship
• You become more open to
others by expressing what
you think or feel; you may
even share secrets.
Friendship/Teenage Relationship
• You associate yourself with
friends who care about you, with
people who listen and promise to
guard your secrets and accept
and understand you in a special
way.
Romantic/Teenage Relationship
• Aside from friendship, some
teenagers also explore different
types of relationships; thus, they
may get romantically involved with
a boy or relationship girl.
Friendship
Friendship
• is a form of relationship between
two or more people. It means
being with others and not just
thinking about yourself.
Friendship
• It is during your adolenscence that
you make time for friends and
even hang out with them.
• You are more loyal to your friends
and become more critical about
your friendship.
Friendship
• You spend more time with your
peers.
• Whom you can share your
thoughts and feelings. which you
sometimes talk about your family.
Friendship
• According to Parker and Asher
(1993), identified three types of
friendship.
Three types of Friendship
• Acquaintances
• Companions
• Intimates or Best Friends
Acquaintances
• type of friendship whom you join
only once in a while or
occasionally such as fellow
members of a choir or school
organizations.
Companions
• type of friendship where you
share same interest through
regular interactions such as
team mates in a sports.
Intimates or Best Friends
• type of friendship where you give and
received opinions and support. You
find ways to regular communicate with
your best friends through text
messages, telephone calls, or social
media.
Friendship
• According to Arthur,1999. Peer
groups has two types.
Two types of Peer Groups
• Clique
• Crowd
Clique
• composed of small members (four
to six members) and exclusive to
peers who share the same
interest.
Crowd
• composed of large members (ten
to twenty members), members of
crowd share similar social
activities such as parties.
Friendship
• According to (Newcomb, Bukowski
and Bagwell,1999), girls are more
expressive than boys and usually
show their intimacy by talking about
personal matters; boys on the other
hand, show intimacy in non verbal
ways (e.g., sports).
Friendship
• Based on (Berndt,1994), girls tend to
easily trust others, and they are more
intimate and emotionally attached to
others. They are easily affected by
threats or relationship problems and
more sensitive to rejection issues.
Friendship
• more over, becoming very
close with your friends and
failing to identify your
limitations may affect others
areas of your life.
Friendship
• therefore, choosing your friends is
very important. As most people would
say real friends are honest and will not
push ypu to do something wrong. Real
friends are like brother and sisters
who motivate and encourage you to
become your best.
Reflection:
• Think about your relationship with your
classmate. Can you identify what type of
friendship do you have with them?
• In your personal opinion, what do you think
are the qualities of a real friend? Cite
examples wherein your friends demonstrated
that they can be called your real friends.
Attraction and Romantic Relationship
Motivation: Answer the following questions in1/2 sheet of
paper.
1. Have you ever been attracted to someone?
2. What traits or characteristics make you attracted
to someone?
3. How do you feel when you see someone you
admire?
4. How do you express your feelings about someone
you admire?
Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• When you talk about your crush to your
friends, you sometimes feel very much
excited.
• Crush can cause you inspiration and also
distraction.
• Having a crush is normal, however you need
to deal with your feelings or how you express
such feelings of being attracted to someone.
Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• Being attracted to someone is different
from attraction although loving a
person begins with liking or being
attracted. People engaged in romantic
relationships experience a special
type of feeling called “love”.
Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• Romantic relationship are commonly observed
among adolescents who are involved in a girl
and a boy relationship. Although some boys
are generally unexpressive about their
feelings, girls are more likely to demonstrate
self-disclosure and sensitivity to how others
feel.
Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• love, emotional involvement, and
intimacy are more transparent
among girls because of their early
sexual development
(Montgomery,2005)
Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• According to Steinberg (2011),
romantic relationships may involve
three phases.
Three Phases of Romantic Relationship
• Discovery of interest
• Dating
• Commitment
Ways on How Attraction to Someone
is Expressed
• Love is often described as
something that is mysterious, a
powerful feeling that allows you to
sacrifice your own happiness for
the sake of others.
 Ways on How Attraction to Someone is
Expressed
• A very powerful definition of love by Scott
Peck (1978), states that love is “the person’s
ability to extend himself of herself for the
purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s
spiritual growth.”
• this definition of love involves not only taking
care of oneself but also of the other person.
Expressions of Love and Commitment
• Love is a choice. You express
your love for another person not
because you are forced to do so,
but because you have decided to
share yourself with another
person.
Expressions of Love and Commitment
• Love also involves trust and commitment.
You should have confidence such that
even if you do not see each other, your
partner remains faithful to you. As a form
of commitment, love entails being loyal to
your partner; you are there to support and
care for him/her during good and bad
times.
 Expressions of Love and Commitment
• When you are in love, you are capable of
sacrificing your wants for your love ones.
Nowadays, teenagers engaged romantic
relationships express their love by
supporting and helping each other. They
can easily connect to each other using
social media ang other gadgets.
 Expressions of Love and Commitment
• However, some teenagers fail to define the
boundaries of their romantic relationships.
They become more attached that they can no
longer separate their own identity from their
partner.
• They become more dependent on one
another, and find themselves unabel to
function well without the presence of the other.
 Expressions of Love and Commitment
• Also, exclusivity is demonstrated by
their togetherness, leaving their other
friends and not allowing one partner to
join other groups without the presence
of one another. In short, where is one
is present, the other should also be
present.
 Expressions of Love and Commitment
• Conflicts or misunderstanding may also arise
in romantic relationship. For some
adolescents who get emotionally involved with
the conflicts or problems with their partner,
their ability to focus is affected. They may not
be able to study well, or their academic
performance may suffer as a result of
relationship problems.
 Expressions of Love and Commitment
• You may hear some teenagers say “I cannot
survive without him/her.”
• The forget the limitations about their
relationship. They forget that each of them is
different from other, and that their role is to
nourish the personal growth of each other.
• In effect, they become slaves to their feelings
or emotions.
 Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

• Personal Relationship during adolescence

stage is both exciting and challenging. You
may encounter ups and downs in your dealing
with people whom you encounter.
• You should be guided on how to positively
handle and be more responsible in your
relationship.
 Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship
1. Clarifiy Boundaries - a clear boundary may be
seen by your capacity to help your partner grow
without sacrificing your own personal growth.
Clarifying boundaries means learning to say “no”,
which does not mean rejecting others or that we do
not understand them; it is a way of showing respect
to your self and other. Do not allow your personal
relationship with other define who you are; instead,
have the courage to stand with what you believe is
right.
 Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

2. Learn to communicate -
communication is very powerful tool to
maintain healthy relationship. Conflicts
and disagreements can be avoided if
you know how to state your points of
view in a nonaggressive manners.
Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

3. Invest in an “emotional bank

account” - (Steven Covey,1989),
states that an emotional bank
account is a metaphor describing
the amount of trust that we invest
in our relationship.
 Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

4. Learn to forgive others - In a

relationship, conflict or the experience
of being hurt is a part of our experience.
Forgiveness means starting all over
again and not dwelling on past negative
experiences with someone,
 Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

5. Consult professionals - at times when

you feel bothered about a relationship, do
not hesitate to talk to a teacher, your
adviser or your guidance counselor. He or
she may provide you with a lot of options
on how you can positively deal with your
personal relationships.
Reflection:
1. What is your own definition of
Love?
2. What do you think are the
healthy ways of expressing feelings
of love for someone?