Communication: Siti Azilah Atan
Communication: Siti Azilah Atan
INTERPERSONAL: INTRAPERSONAL:
INVOLVES ATLEATS TWO PEOPLE SELFTALK
AND A MEANINGFUL EXCHANGE
• Communication we have with
ourselves (internal dialogue)
• Includes non verbal and verbal
communication • Usually helps and predict how
we act and perform
• Sender ------- receiver
• Affects motivation and behavior
Verbal vs Nonverbal messages
Verbal Nonverbal
• As much as 50% and 70% of human
communication is nonverbal
• Should be sent clearly and
interpreted correctly • Therefore, it is critical for
coaches/leaders to be extremely
• Pick the right time and place to observant of their nonverbal cues
deliver communication as a source of information
• Less likely to be under conscious
control therefore harder to hide
than verbal messages
• Accurate indicators how a person
feels
Nonverbal messages
• It can be interpreted inaccurately, thus we have to be cautious in
giving them meaning/ judge correctly
1. PHYSICAL APPERANCE
2. POSTURE
3. GESTURES
4. BODY POSITION
5. TOUCHING
6. FACIAL EXPRESSIONS
7. VOICE CHARACTERISTICS
1. Physical appearance 2. Posture
• first impressions • Slumpped posture conveys low
• Hairstyle/piercing/ tattoos/ self image/ depressions
clothing/ sloppy • Erect posture coveys
• Have to be careful when confidence/ energy
imparting information from
these
3. Gestures 4. Body Position
• Folding your arms across chest • Personal space between you and
can means that you’re not open others to the position of your
to others body with respect to others
5. Touching 6. Facial expressions
• Most expressive part of your body
• Another powerful form of
nonverbal communication • Eye contact is particularly important in
communication feelings
• Can be used to calm or express • Eye contact means yr listener is
affection (depending on the interested
situation) • Embarrass/uncomfortable –try to avoid
eye contact
• Touching should be restricted to
public places to minimize • Smile and other facial expresions can
both invite verbal communication and
misinterpretation of the elicit feedback about how effective yr
meaning of your touching communivation has been
• 7. Voice characteristics
• Sound of voice can powerfully
reinforce/ undercut verbal
communication
• Voice’s quality often betrays true
feelings, moods, and attitudes
• Include pitch (high or low)
tempo (speed) volume ( loud or
soft) and articulation
Guidelines for sending effective verbal and
nonverbal messages
1. Be direct 7. Deliver messages immediately
2. Be complete and specific 8. Make sure yr messages did not have
hidden agenda
3. Be clear and consistent 9. Be supportive
4. State your needs and feeling 10. Be consistent with yr nonverbal
clearly messages
5. Separate fact from opinion 11. Reinforce with repetition
12. Make sure message is appropriate to
6. Focus on one thing at a time receiver
13. Look for feedback that yr message
was accurately interpreted
Receiving messages effectively
1. Active listening
• Best way to listen –listen actively
• Actives listening enhances communication because the speaker feels that she
is being heard, acknowledged and provide with appropriate feedback
• Good listener shows sensitivity and encourages an open exchange of ideas
and feelings
2. Supportive listening
• You are “with” the speaker and values the person’s message
• Tips for supportive behavior:
• Use supportive behavior as you listen so the sender acknowledged: remain open to new
ideas
• Ued nonverbal/verbal listening: maintaining eye contact, appropriate facial gestures,
open postures, facing the speaker
3. Aware listening
• People react differently to the way you communicate
• Be flexible – different situations require strategies
• Be alert for barriers and breakdown in communication
• Not paying attention
• Lack of trustd
• Different perceptions
Improving communication
Confrontation
• face to face discussion among people in conflict
• When properly used can help both parties understand the issues
more clearly without feeling undue stress, guilt and inadequacy
• When to avoid use confrontation: angry
How to use confrontation
• express feelings constructively- do not attack
• think –take a deep breath, be positive
• understand- try to understand people position
• be empahtic- not antagonistic or sarcastic, never criticized
• Be tentative –
• Proceed gradually – give person time to understand gradually
Constructive criticism
• Positive statement, future oriented and a compliment
• Avoid the negativism that usually accompanies critical remarks
• Allows people to focus on the positive aspects of the behaviour
Breakdowns in Communication
1. Sender failures
• Inconsistent messages/ sender transmit a message poorly/ ambiguous
messages
2. Receivers failure
• Misinterpreting, miscommunication