Rabia Muzaffar & Erum Kausar B S - 3 A
Rabia Muzaffar & Erum Kausar B S - 3 A
COUNSELING
R A B I A M U Z A F FA R & E R U M K A U S A R
BS-3A
Definition
• Latin – Consulere
• To consult, deliberate or reflect
• Insight
• Relating with others
• Self–awareness
• Self-acceptance
• Self–actualization
• Enlightenment
Aims of Counseling
(Skills or Techniques Required For
Change)
• Problem solving
• Psychological education
• Acquisition of social skills
Aims of Counseling
(Changes)
• Cognitive change
• Behavioral change
• Systemic change
• Empowerment
• Restitution
• Generativity and social actions
Don’ts of Counseling
• Do not argue with patients
• Do not praise the patient or give them false reassurance
• Do not make false promises
• Do not interpret the patient or speculate on the dynamics
of their problem
• Do not offer the patient a diagnosis even if he/she insists
on to in the initial interview
• Do not question the patient on sensitive areas of their life
in the initial interview
Don’ts of Counseling
• Do not join in attacks the patient launches on his parents,
mates, friends or associates
• Do not participate in criticism of another therapist
• Do not force patient to take therapy
• Don’t interrupt: You are supposed to be listening and
seeing it from the client’s point of view
• Don’t ask too many questions at once or multiple choice
questions- the client will probably not remember what you
said and end up more confused.
• Don’t jump into silences: They can be helpful and reflect
that client is thinking
Don’ts of Counseling
• Don’t invalidate the patient’s feelings
• Don’t automatically compare patient’s experiences with
your own
• Avoid using why and should words in your conversation
as much as possible.
• Don’t blame the patient
• Don’t display boredom or impatience e.g. looking away
• Don’t fiddle
• Don’t negate or devalue, ‘Everyone feels like that’, ‘I
don’t think that’s what you mean’, or “It will pass”
• Don’t jump to conclusions
• Don’t pass judgments: How could you possibly do that!
Don’ts of Counseling
• Don’t ask close-ended questions frequently e.g. Are you
depressed because of the way your boss has been treating
you? This is your perception of the client’s world not
theirs. Closed questions will usually get yes or no for an
answer.
Do’s of Counseling
Non-verbal Prompts
• Eye contact- including observation of body language
• Affirmative head nodding
• Appropriate facial expression
• Silence-usually feels a lot longer to you than the client
• Body posture: e.g. lean slightly forward, uncross arms,
keep comfortable, sit at the same level as the client.
Do’s of Counseling
• Remove barriers
• Maintain privacy: door firmly shut, telephone out of
hearing
• Consideration- e.g. box of tissue offered
• Touch – appropriate
• Let the client be- e.g. let them cry, even let them get up
and move around for a minute if it will help to relax them
Do’s of Counseling
Verbal Prompts
• Take your time
• Yes, I know it hurts
• I know the feeling (only if you do)
• Oh yes, this happens a great deal
• Keep going
• You are doing well
• Go on….
• Tell me something more about
Do’s of Counseling
• I don’t quite understand that
• Is this what you are saying?
• It sounds as if……
• How did you feel?
• How did that strike you?
• What effect did that have?
• What did he/she mean by that?
• Did it worry you?
• What do you think might happen if you do that?
• Have you told anyone?
Do’s of Counseling
Core Conditions
• Unconditional positive regard
• Empathic understanding
• Congruence
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