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When I was nursing my son, my compulsive multitasking kindled a desire for the only other thing I was able to do in a glider: read The Classics.

Maybe it was my sudden brainlessness oh, the irony or the fact I didnt have a paying job, but I was going to tie up one of my lifes (questionably valid) loose ends. I started with The Hunchback of Notre Dame. I mean, the Disney movie was hilarious. The book, however, turned out to be a melodramatic tragedy that could only compete with my stretch marks for epic proportions. By the time I had read halfway through, my skin had become damp and pale and my brain had started pealing with bells that might or might not have been the result of sleep deprivation. Oh the bells. There were so many, many bells. When our family moved to a new house a couple of years ago, we discovered it was about five minutes from a church with a bevy of bells, if you will, that tolled every hour in full voice, and also chimed the quarter hour. I can sing the melody in my sleep. I still wonder sometimes if there is a present-day Quasi Modo living at Saint Stephens and if he could use someone to pick up his dry cleaning every now and then.

My favorite thing about our neighborhood bells is how they are able to put me instantly within the context of the world. Bells chime, and I remember its 3 oclock in the afternoon, and that everyone around me is also living the 3 oclock hour. Bells provide a distraction, not like Facebook or the relentless buzzing of my email, but a mechanism by which I can pull my head above water and survey the long calm of Right Now; a way to lasso the present and bring it close for inspection. The bells power lies in their commonality. I set an alarm for one reason or another, but it is just for me, set by me, and turned off by me. Bells, however, apply publicly, whether you want to be reminded of the hour or not. They tell us that we all need a conscious way to mark time everyone from the garbage man and the kid walking his dog, to the earnest woman nursing her son while reading The Classics. Bells remind us we are all in this thing together and that this thing, whatever it is, is going by in a measurable way. Perhaps the Saint Stephens bells are one of the ways God answers my prayer from Psalm 90:12: Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. When I number my days, I see how things really are and how fast they are moving. I see how dust-born and dust-bound I am; what a miracle it is to be here at 3 p.m., then again at 3:15, then again at 3:30. I break my stupor and see the stage, the set, the costumes, the other characters, and the Director in his chair. I have a moment to breathe, to ask, Whats my line, again? Even though Im not nursing anyone right now, I still think I should ponder the bells and read the great books, and I suppose the next most logical thing on my list should be For Whom the Bell Tolls if I can handle another stretchmark-worthy saga, that is...

It appears church bells have been part of society for a long time. Before mass communication, bells were the only way to gather a village together heathen and devout alike for emergency meetings or the weekly stag hunt. (Are stags still a thing?) In World War II in Great Britain, all church bells were silenced, to ring only to inform of an invasion by enemy troops. The practice and hobby of bell-ringing is sometimes known to non-ringers as campanology. I didnt realize this could actually be a hobby, but I suppose if you felt the need for a past time and happened to have access to a belfry, that there are worse ways to spend your time.

Editor Julie Rhodes Art Direction, Design & Goodness Josh Wiese, Dennis Cheatham, Lindsey Sobolik The Final Say Julie Pierce Admin Extraordinaire Victoria Andrews

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Irving Bible Church: a community on a journey.

Thanks for picking up Chatter. Chatter is a publication of Irving Bible Church in Irving, Texas.
Why are we here?
IBC is on a journey committed to growing in Christ, connecting in community and joining the mission. This commitment comes from Jesus words in the Great Commandment (Matthew 22:36-39) and Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20).

How do we do this?
Growing in Christ At the heart of the journey is the gospel of Jesus Christ, the story of the Son of God coming into our dark world to bring light, life, hope and transformation. The journey begins when we trust Christ, but it doesnt end there. Gods desire for each of us is for our hearts and lives to become more like the one who has saved us (Ephesians 4:11-13). Connecting in Community The gospel story draws us into a community of people whose lives have been transformed by Jesus. This journey is not one that we undertake alone. We are designed to do life together as a community of Christ-followers. It is essential that we walk with one another on the journey (John 13:34-35). Joining the Mission The gospel tells us that one day God will take all that is broken in this world and make it whole. Those of us who are on the journey together are called to be people who do what we can to make glimpses of that day show up in our day. We do this by telling the gospel story and demonstrating gospel-shaped love to a needy world (Matthew 28:18-20).

Contact IBC

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Photo Update: Easter Eggsperience

On Saturday April 7, hundreds of families gathered at IBC for the annual Easter Eggsperience (one of IBCs largest outreach events), a fun-filled morning of egg hunts, petting zoo animals, bounce houses, face painting, carnival games, live entertainment, and prizes. Kids and adults alike also enjoyed the Easter Path, a hands-on experience designed to help participants understand and encounter the true meaning of Easter.

Mothers Day is May 13. Heres what Zone 6:30 kids had to say about what they love so much about their moms.

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Zone 6:30 is a great way for elementary kids to grow deeper in their spiritual walk. Kids meet to read Gods word, memorize Scripture, learn to write their personal testimony, and much more. Zone 6:30 kicks off this fall after summer break. Watch Chatter for details.

A Pentecost Primer
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Whats in a Name? Traditional Color and Lectionary Readings

The word pentecost means fiftieth day. In most Christian traditions, Pentecost Sunday occurs 50 days following Easter Sunday (counting Easter Sunday, since it is the first day of the week). Those 50 days span seven Sundays after Easter, making Pentecost the seventh Sunday after Easter. Since Easter is a movable feast, meaning that it occurs on different days in different years (it is tied to the lunar cycle while the calendar is solar-based), Pentecost is also moveable. It can occur as early as May 10 and as late as June 13. Pentecost represents Gods gracious, enabling presence actively at work among his people, calling and enabling them to live out their witness in dynamic ways. Perhaps there is a direct connection with the Pentecost of Judaism, where Gods instruction to his people (the Torah) is the means by which they become his witness to the world. While the Jewish Pentecost commemorates the giving of Gods law on Mount Sinai, the Christian Pentecost celebrates the descent of the Holy Spirit on the disciples following Jesus ascention into heaven. This is the famous scene in Acts 2 in which what looked like tongues of fire came to rest on each disciples head. Pentecost Sunday is a day to celebrate hope; a hope evoked by the knowledge that God through his Holy Spirit is at work among his people. It is a celebration of newness, re-creation, renewal, purpose, mission, and of our calling as Gods people. It is a celebration of Gods ongoing work in the world. Yet, it is also a recognition that his work is done through his people only as he pours out his presence upon them.

The traditional color for the sanctuary on Pentecost Sunday is red, the color of the church. Technically, red is used only for the Sunday of Pentecost, although some churches also use red for the Sundays between Easter and Pentecost Sunday. Red symbolizes both the fire of Pentecost, as well as the apostles and early followers of Jesus who were gathered in the Upper Room. The Pentecost Sunday lectionary readings are rich with symbolism. The Old Testament reading from Ezekiels vision of the valley of dry bones (Ezekiel 37:1-14) dramatically illustrates the sense of newness and renewal of mission. The reading from Isaiah 44:1-8 also connects to the theme of renewal with beautiful imagery of streams in the desert. The reading from Genesis 11:1-9 emphasizes the restoration of community and unity of purpose that had been disrupted by sin and selfish ambition. The Psalm reading (104:24-34) also uses creation language that speaks of newness and renewal. The New Testament readings include Acts 2, as well as John 14:8-17, 16:5-15, and 20:19-23, all of which carry the theme of God-enabled mission in the world. The Epistle reading from 1 Corinthians 12:3-13 emphasizes the gifts of the Spirit that enable Gods work. The Pentecost focus on the churchs mission to the world, and the enabling presence of God through the work of the Holy Spirit, should provide a powerful impetus for churches especially those in evangelical traditions to recover this season of the church year. It is a tremendous opportunity to call people to renewal though the work of the Holy Spirit in their lives. We hope youll join us on Sunday, May 27 as we celebrate Pentecost as the IBC family. Pentecost Sunday will be even more special for Jason Elwell and his wife Crystal, who are expecting their third child May 27. (Crystal has not approved Jasons baby name idea: 50.)
Jason is IBCs worship pastor.

Pentecost at IBC: Symbolism and Celebration

Pentecost is the birthday of the church, commemorating when God poured out his spirit on his people. At IBC, Pentecost has been an opportunity to celebrate the diverse family that God has brought together to be his agents of reconciliation in the world. For the past few years, IBC has celebrated Pentecost with a festival of the cultures represented within the IBC body, along with music, food, and activities for the kids. Because Memorial Day Weekend falls on Pentecost Sunday this year (Pentecost falls on different dates depending on the year), we are holding our Pentecost celebration in the Town Square following each Sunday service. Please plan to join us for some great food, music, and fun after the 9 a.m., 10:45 a.m. and 5 p.m. services.
According to legend, King Arthur always gathered his knights at the round table for a feast and a quest on Pentecost.

It was once customary in Italy to scatter rose petals from church ceilings on Pentecost Sunday.

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Stepping Up
When a mentor steps out, God steps up.

very child needs an adult in their corner someone they can count on, confide in, and lean on for support, someone who values and believes in them. Realizing that many children in our community lack this type of caring relationship, three special people Christopher, Lauren and John committed to mentor an at-risk child. All three will be the first to admit that they are imperfect and do not have all the answers, but God has been faithful to strengthen, empower and equip them to fulfill the roles he has assigned. They are living proof that when obedient people step out in faith, God steps up, too.

From Hurting Inside to Helping Others My heart almost stopped, describes Christopher Lenzini, upon first meeting the boy from IBCs Single Parent ministry that he was to mentor. When he showed up at the flag football game for potential mentors and mentees, Christopher wasnt sure he was up to the task God had in store for him. He bore scars from his own childhood when his father passed away and his mother was incarcerated. But he also believed that God had brought him through trials and suffering in order to help him relate to and encourage others, and thus bring glory to God. Sure enough, a fresh-faced five-year-old named Gideon stepped up to introduce himself, and Christopher realized God had answered his prayers to make clear to him the boy he was to mentor. The Bible story of Gideon has always been one of Christophers favorites, and he realized in that moment that this meeting was no mere coincidence, but rather a divine appointment. Christopher was officially matched with Gideon and their relationship began to unfold. Christopher clearly heard Gods call that he was to go beyond being a buddy who takes Gideon to ride go-carts and eat ice cream. He was convinced that God wanted him to show Gideon what it means to live as a man of God. His conviction was confirmed when he spoke to Gideons mother, Brandy, and she shared her hopes that Gideons mentor would not just talk about the Word, but also live it. Looking in the mirror at my struggles and sins, I didnt feel worthy to be an example of a godly man who lives the Word. This pushed me to the cross and to God, where I realized I have everything I need in Christ, that I am fully equipped in him, and that my focus needs to be on him, says Christopher. God has been faithful to allow the pain in Christophers life to be a lifeline of compassion and comfort to Gideon. Christopher has found it so satisfying and encouraging that what Satan intended for his destruction, God intended for good both in his own life and in Gideons. Most boys in our culture have no idea what being a man looks like, much less what being a godly Christian man looks like, notes Christopher. He is grateful for the ability to model biblical manhood to Gideon through both his successes and his failures. But this relationship is definitely not all about Gideon. Gideon has taught me a lot about love, says Christopher. He will go up and hug and talk to people without fear. His love, without blinders and prejudice, and with childlike innocence, is at the very heart of Christs love. Christ is teaching me about his love through this little boy, and it has been transforming for me. Friendship Takes Time and Cheetos It is the loudest part of my week! explains Lauren Moussa, about her experience as a lunch buddy to Hilary at Sam Houston Middle School through IBCs partner ministry, Schoolworks. The lunch room is so chaotic and has so many people. When I first met Hilary, we could not understand each other because of the noise and my Oregon accent. In addition, Hilary, who was a 6th grader at the time, had a fondness for telling tales instead of sharing what was really on her mind.
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Lauren began to get a sense that Hilarys love language might be gifts. Right before Christmas the first semester they began meeting together, Lauren presented her with a small Christmas gift. This one act of kindness seemed to break the logjam, and when Hilary returned from Christmas break, she began to open up little by little and tell me more and more, says Lauren. Lauren also purchases Hilary two packages of spicy Cheetos each week one for herself and one to share with a friend. These small but tangible tokens of friendship have paved the way for deeper conversations. Sometimes Hilary shares tribulations involving middle school drama. Now that they are good friends, Lauren is able to give advice about these situations, such as, You can still respond with grace and make good decisions.

John and Steven have had plenty of good times together riding the Titan at Six Flags, attending football games, watching movies, and just hanging out. Steven began playing football and showed a real talent for the game. John had the thrill of watching Steven grow and mature as a star athlete in West Dallas before transferring to Juan Seguin High School in Arlington for his senior year. But John also remembers, in his words,Receiving phone calls, time and again that the adults were gone from the house for days, if not weeks...that there was no water...that there was no food...that Steven and his little brother were hungry. John admits that there were times he cried, and other times he felt frustrated. Rarely did he feel he was doing a good job. He struggled to keep his heart tender and not become cynical. There were temptations to believe he wasnt really making a difference and to throw in the towel. But as he cried out to God for wisdom and patience, God never failed to deliver. When John and Steven began their relationship, Steven was a ten-year-old boy. Now, Steven is a grown man who had the courage as a teen to make good decisions even when he was standing alone. He is graduating from high school this year, has earned a full football scholarship from the University of Houston, and his future is filled with promise. John has come to realize that despite the challenges, Whatever good you do for a child like Steven is better than what they would have had otherwise. God will take a mustard seed and build something bigger out of it.

The counselor has definitely noticed an improvement in Hilary, who is now in 8th grade, citing fewer disciplinary issues and commenting that often Hilary will confide in Lauren about matters she is unwilling to discuss with the school counselor. As their relationship continues to progress, Lauren hopes to have more discussions with Hilary about spiritual matters and the difference Jesus has made in her life. She has also learned that Hilary loves animals, and is researching ways Hilary could volunteer with animals and possibly pursue a career in line with her passions. Ideally, Lauren would like to continue the relationship through high school. Ive learned that relationships in life grow and change. A really sweet relationship has come out of an awkward beginning, Lauren says. Trust takes time to build, but it is worth it. From Two Different Worlds

Kelly Jarrell has never been good at painting her nails, so her husband Jeff paints them for her.
Kelly works as a stay-at-home wife and mom, and volunteers as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) for children in foster care. Check out her blog at suburbanvolunteermom.blogspot.com.

Hunger. Drugs. Poverty. Gangs. Absence of a responsible parent. When John Dwyer answered the call to mentor through Mercy Street Ministries, an IBC partner ministry, he soon realized that the mean streets of west Dallas his mentee Steven called home bore little resemblance to his safe, comfortable, suburban neighborhood.

Find Your Spot. Are you ready to step up and make a difference in a childs life? No experience is necessary except a willing heart and a commitment to connect regularly with a child who needs your encouragement. Here are some ways to start. IBCs Single Parent Ministry mentors are matched with children who need encouragement, support, and a caring, godly adult to build into their lives. Mentors spend a minimum of four hours a month with their mentees either one-on-one or through scheduled group activities with other mentors and their mentees. Schoolworks offers the opportunity to be a Half Hour Hero a Lunch Buddy to a middle school student or a Reading Buddy to an elementary student, or a Mentor to a high school student in the Irving School District (or at Las Colinas Elementary in the CFBISD). A Half Hour Hero is a source of stability, support, and friendship for at-risk students. Mercy Street Mentoring is a long-term program where mentors are matched with children in elementary school and commit to walking alongside their mentee through adolescence and the completion of high school. For more information on these and other ways to impact the next generation, visit findyourspot.irvingbible.org. Also, be sure to check out the Find Your Spot ad on page 1o.
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It was a realization for John and his wife that the types of people Jesus spent most of his time with would have been outside their circle of friends, neighbors, and activities. John understood that if his family isolated themselves within their own community, they would be missing the opportunity to address great needs, as well as the opportunity to address great needs in our own lives, as he puts it. John is careful to caution mentors that even though they may be well educated and come from the affluent suburbs, they do not know everything. He states it is important to get to know the family, build trust, pray for them, and respect them. It is tempting to see massive problems and want to take over and run the show, but advice must be given sparingly and in the context of relationship.

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MInD THESmall Groups PLEaSE GaP, Summer Book Suggestions for

For 30 weeks a year, the IBC small group study materials are based on the Sunday message. During the summer months, however, many small groups suspend or reduce their meeting schedules. But for those die-hard groups who cant stand not to see one another over the summer (and there are a lot of you), here are some IBC-endorsed materials to fill the gap.
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and small groups wishing to explore the question, What does God expect of us? Cost: Study Guide, Free; Book, $11 on Amazon. More info at theholeinourgospel.com. In keeping with IBCs 2012 emphases on generosity and growing in Christ, here are two stewardship study options.
BaLanCED Generous Living

Author Dan Webster spoke at the first Parenting at IBC event this spring and his book, KidUnique, has proven helpful for many IBC families. Heres a description from the KidUnique website:

Todays kids are crying out for your attention...are you listening? Explore the truths, principles, and practices that youth ministry veteran Dan Webster has shared with parents and leaders across the country through the Kidunique Video Workshop, an engaging DVD training resource. This resource will equip you to powerfully affect kids by clarifying the four windows through which we see them observation, exploration, affirmation, and revelation and present a simple system for collecting insights that a kid will carry into the future. Webster will lead you through 11 teaching sessions, each lasting between 10 and 15 minutes. The training includes hands-on, experiential activities that will reinforce the teaching you just heard. Cost: Book, $18; Video Workshop, $79. More info at kidunique.com.
The hole In our Gospel

Balanced A six-week curriculum from Andy Stanley and North Point Church. This program is free and includes six audio files (Stanleys sermon series) with accompanying worksheets for very practical application. There are printable forms for tracking spending, investment planning, and the like. And there are downloadable spreadsheets to help you get on top of your financial situation. Cost: Free. More info at northpoint.org/balanced. The companion study to the bestselling book, this curriculum offers 12 short lessons in printed form. Heres the description from Amazon.com:

THE TrEaSUrE PrInCIPLE BIBLE STUDy

This book, written by World Vision President Richard Stearns, is part Bible study, part biography, and part commentary on the state of world affairs. This book has had an enormous impact on IBC staff and missions leaders. The study guide is available for free in PDF form on The Hole In Our Gospel website. The study guide can stand alone as a small group curriculum, but the experience will be much more meaningful if the study guide is used as a complement to the book. Heres a description from the website:

Readers of Randy Alcorns bestseller The Treasure Principle encountered a revolution in material freedom and generosity that utterly changed their quality of life. In this companion Bible study, the principles become personally applicable and more real than ever, with a powerful combination of biblical concepts, practical quotations from the book, thought-provoking questions, group discussion starters, and short Scripture passages for meditation and memorization. Managing Gods investment in their lives will become a new delight, as Christians learn to put their resources to their most rewarding use. Cost: Book, $7.99 on Amazon

This is a story of how a CEO faced his own struggle to obey God, whatever the cost, and his passionate call for Christians to change the world by actively living out their faith. Believing that the good news is more than a private transaction between God and us, Stearns challenges readers with this question: What does God expect of us? Two thousand years ago, twelve people changed the world. Stearns believes it can happen again. The group study includes six sessions designed for individuals
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The IBC Small Group fall session runs September 9 november 11. Sign-ups will run august 5 September 2. Contact ryan at [email protected].

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e started NAMI a few years ago because our 13-year-old daughter Drew had been showing signs of severe ADHD. We did not know what was wrong and started going to doctors for help. We received many different diagnoses that were confusing and misleading, and nothing seemed to work. Because of her difficulties, Drew fell behind in her schoolwork and lost hope that she would graduate high school or attend college. It was then that we heard about NAMI. I signed up for a Saturday morning Family-to-Family course held at Argosy University in Dallas, and came home every week telling my husband about another great thing I had learned. In January of 2011, my husband and I began attending another 12-week Family-toFamily NAMI course held at Irving Bible Church. Again, we couldnt believe the valuable concepts we were learning, and wondered why no one had ever shared these things with us before. We also participated in a Mental Health Grace Alliance Family Grace Group each week for family members at IBC; no one understood what we were going through at home except for the other members of our Grace Group. We prayed so hard for Drew, and the Lord has since changed her situation dramatically. Now 16 years old, Drew has been working at Main Event as a party hostess for the past several months, and is about to complete high school one year early. She has been busy modeling for several outlets around the D/FW area, including a runway show at the World Trade Center for the Designers Choice Fashion Preview. Drews desire is to attend college and be a social worker to help troubled kids. She also enjoys serving at the homeless shelter Beautiful Feet in Fort Worth, and in the Girls Mentoring Ministry at IBC. Drews is a true recovery story, but there are still challenging times. What the Lord has allowed us to learn in NAMI and the Grace Group has given us the tools to deal with difficulties in an educated, empathetic manner. Our lives have completely changed. I am now a Family-to-Family course instructor/advocate at Irving Bible Church, and we are offering a new Family-to-Family class starting May 26 for families who are hurting and looking for practical tools to care for their loved one. Also, please consider joining a Grace Group at IBC for ongoing support and education.

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A young womans family finds hope beyond mental illness in IBCs chapter of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

Mental health support at IBC

NAMI Family-to-Family Class: May 28Aug 13, 6:30 p.m. West B

A 12-week class structured to help family members, friends, and caregivers understand and support individuals with serious mental disorders. Contact Debra at [email protected].
MHGA Family Grace Groups: Begin June 11

A support group designed to help families hold each other up and gain practical skills to care for a loved one with mental illness. Contact Buzz at [email protected].
MHGA Living Grace Group: Begins June 11

By Debra Moore, Family-to-Family instructor at IBC

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A support group designed for those living with serious mental illness to connect and find hope. Contact Melissa at [email protected].
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S T E P H E N MINISTRY AT IBC
care for and walk alongside those facing difficult life circumstances within the church body. Below is a recent interview with key Stephen Ministry Leaders at IBC by national Stephen Ministry staffer Amity Haugk. (Used by permission.)
IBC recently launched Stephen Ministry, a network of lay leaders trained to

This year Irving Bible Church of Irving, Texas, became the 11,000th congregation to enroll in the Stephen Series. This congregation sent a team of five to the Stephen Series Leaders Training Course in Dallas during July 2011. Stephen Ministries presenter Amity Haugk met with three of Irving Bible Churchs Stephen Leaders Sherri Sharp, a church staff person known as organizer of all things, and laypersons Jamie Bethea and Sharon Arrington to learn about their road to Stephen Ministry.
Amity Congratulations on being the 11,000th congregation to enroll in Ste-

phen Ministry! Tell me about the road to beginning Stephen Ministry in your church.
Sharon Many roads came together to bring us here. It reminds me of Philippi-

IBC Stephen Leaders Ryan Sanders, Sherri Sharp, Sharon Arrington, Bev Ridgway, Jamie Bethea

Jamie Our congregation leadership is also very high on empowering and

ans 2:13: God is at work to will and act according to His good purpose. Weve seen God at work in different directions to bring us to Stephen Ministry. I first heard of Stephen Ministry several years ago, and I thought it would be a great ministry to be a part of. Then, a friend of mine at a different church told me that a member had donated money to get Stephen Ministry started there, and that created a little buzz in my ear. Ive been a widow for five years, and recently Ive been praying to the Lord, Whats next? What do you want me to do with my life? Then the topic of caregiving came up in a staff meeting, and the conversation shifted to Stephen Ministry. So I looked into it online, attended a Stephen Ministry Workshop, and really started praying about it.
Amity After you learned more about Stephen Ministry, what made your

enabling believers to use their gifts in ministry. And they recognize that its not all about them and that they cant do it all alone. So a lay-led ministry like Stephen Ministry that equips believers to do very effective ministry fits great with that approach. ering Stephen Ministry?

Amity What would you say to other churches like yours that might be considSherri One thing that can happen in a church of any size is that hurting people

can fall through the cracks. Weve struggled with that over the years helping people get the care they need, when they need it, for as long as they need it. Pastors cant do it all. Stephen Ministry is a great way to meet peoples needs so they dont slip through the cracks.
Jamie Were also a creative church with creative people, so we write a lot of

church decide to become involved?

Jamie The leadership in our church recognized that weve been very focused

and effective on outside-the-walls ministry but that we needed better balance and greater effectiveness in caring for our flock inside the walls. We were looking for a ministry that could get us there quickly but effectively.
Sharon We had a lot of support groups, but nothing like Stephen Ministry.

our own material because we want to make it our own. What weve found with Stephen Ministry is that everything has already been thought of the training and materials allow us to implement it quickly and effectively, yet its also flexible enough to fit our situation. Doing things with excellence is part of our culture, and Stephen Ministry helps us do caring ministry extremely well. So Id say to other churches like ours: Stephen Ministry will help you do caring ministry very effectively and very well you dont have to create your own system. Its a complete package with a lot of integrity. Its been excellent for us, and it will be the same for you.

Providing one-to-one care for people when they need that level of focused care without tying up the pastor is something were really excited about.

IS YOUR LIFE AT A CROSSROADS?

We all experience challenges in life, times when we could benefit from the support of a caring Christian. Stephen Ministry at IBC provides one-to-one Christian care to individuals who are experiencing difficulties such as loss of a loved one, divorce, terminal illness, depression, infertility, loneliness and much more. A Stephen Minister is a carefully selected layperson with extensive training who will listen, pray, support and encourage you while you are hurting. They will be there to meet faithfully with you for an hour a week to help you navigate through this difficult season. This is a confidential ministry. The identity of those receiving care and what takes place in each relationship will remain private. For more information or to request a Stephen Minister, please contact Stephen Ministry at [email protected] or leave a message at (972) 560-4636.

hope and healing at IBC

IBC offers several support groups to help you deal with difficulties in life. Check out page 14 for meeting times and contact info. Recovery: for those dealing with hurts, habits and hang-ups. DivorceCare: Sign-ups begin in August. Watch Chatter for details. Grace for the Wounded: for those who have suffered all types of abuse. Mental Health Support: Classes and support groups. (Info on previous page.)

In 1911, Hope was the 507th most popular name for newborn girls. Amity didnt make the list.
Source: Social Security Administration

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THIS MONTH
BIBLE COMMuNITIES
Groups on Sunday
Theres always something new going on in Bible Communities! Heres a taste of whats happening this month:
Synergy 9 a.m. Middle School Room Couples in their 40s & 50s Join us as we dive into scripture and deepen our faith. The Tree 9 a.m. West D 20s & 30s, married and young families Please join us as we grow together in faith and in our marriages. Crossroads 10:45 a.m. High School Room 20s & 30s, Married Join us as we continue in the Quest study, looking at Gods design for your life. Journey 10:45 a.m. Middle School Room All Welcome Currently we are studying the life of Job. Renew 10:45 a.m. Training Center Diverse, All Ages & Stages May 6, 13 Hope Lives. May 20, 27 Empowered by the Spirit. Thrive 10:45 a.m. West D Singles in their 30s & 40s Join us as we look at Islam and effective tactics for sharing Christ with the Muslim culture. Legacy Builders 6:45 p.m. West A All Welcome Join as we enjoy fellowship, prayer, and in depth bible teaching. Zone 6:30 Will be taking a break for the summer. Zone 6:30 resumes September 11. Contact Beth at [email protected].

MARRIAGE

Growing Together
Marriage at IBC is currently on break and will resume in the fall. Watch Chatter for more details.

Potluck Lunch and Fellowship Sunday, May 20 Immediately following the second morning service in the Commons Annex adjoining the Haven.

Please contact bgroezinger@ verizon.net.

ESPAOL

Bilingual Ministry
Traduccin del servicio dominical Ser suspendida temporalmente. Checa Chatter para futuros detalles. Sunday Service Translations Will take a temporary hiatus. Watch Chatter for details.

MEN

SINGLE PARENTS

Ministry to Men
First Watch Summer Series Kicks off June 29 at 6:30 a.m., Mario Flores will be speaking on The Heart Centered Mind. Save the Date: First Watch will resume September 7 and 11. First Watch Xtra Meets Wednesdays at 6:30 a.m. in the Training Center.

Community and Resources

Volunteers needed! Mentor children from single parent families. Contact Marsha at [email protected]. See Find Your Spot ad pg. 10. Sit with us on Sunday! Several single-parent families enjoy worshiping together in the 9 a.m. service. Come and join us in the lowest right-hand section, Rows 5 & 6, facing the stage. Single Parent Carnival May 12, 5-8 p.m. Mustang Recreation Center Join us for this FREE event, featuring bounce houses, petting zoo, games, and a DJ. Food costs extra. Contact Jennifer at jerlenbusch@ irvingbible.org. Girl Stuff May 12, 10 a.m.1 p.m. The Alcove Join us for some Spring Fling activities. Breakfast is included. Guy Stuff May 19, 10 a.m.1 p.m. The Alcove Join us for fly, fly away with kites. Snacks included.

FAITH & BELIEF

Events and Resources
Alpha Wednesdays, 6:30 p.m. Alpha is an opportunity to explore the meaning of life and a safe haven for all honest questions. Contact Kym at [email protected] for more information.

Visit men.irvingbible.org for more info.

MISSIONS HOPE & HEALING

Community Care
Recovery at IBC Thursdays, 68:30 p.m. West Wing Youth Lounge Do you deal with perfectionism, pride, overeating, inappropriate anger or control? Recovery is confidential and all are welcome. Join us for a light meal at 6 p.m. for just $4. NAMI Class Mondays, 6:30-9:30 p.m. West B Please join us starting May 26, for our Family to Family class. Contact Joey at (972) 672-5896 or joey@ netbreezeinc.com. Mental Health Support Every other Monday, 6:30 p.m. West A and C Family Grace Group is for family members, friends, and caregivers to understand and support individuals with series mental disorders. Contact Buzz Moody at myrabuzz@ gmail.com. The Living Grace Group For those who have mental illness. Contact Melissa Clark at [email protected]. Stephen Ministry at IBC A one-to-one caregiving ministry for people going through hard times on lifes journey. Stephen Ministers provide a listening ear and a caring presence for IBCers going through emotionally difficult times such as the loss of a loved one, loss of a job, illness, injury, divorce or other life events. If you or someone you know could benefit from the care of a Stephen Minister, contact [email protected].

Local and Global

Laundry Love first Saturday of the month, 9 a.m.12 p.m. Located at Amigo Laundromat, 3349 Country Club Dr. in Irving (just down from Sam Houston Middle School). Please join us as we provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships. For more info visit http://llpirving.org or contact [email protected]. Mercy Street Mentor Training May 6, 12:45 p.m. West C Join us as we look at how to be an effective Mercy Street mentor. Lunch is provided. RSVP at [email protected].

Please visit page 20 for more Sunday Bible Communities.

SMALL GROuPS
Community at IBC
Save the Date Registration for the fall will begin August 5. See pg. 11 for more info.

CHILDREN

Infants Through 5th Grade

Save The Date: VBS: SKY will be June 1821. For children entering K-5th grade. Cost is $20/child, max $50/ family. Register at vbs. irvingbible.org. Respite Care every fourth Saturday For families that have children with special needs. For info on how to register or to volunteer with this ministry contact Shannon at [email protected]. MyZone Wednesdays, 6:308:30 p.m. Zone/Zone Jr. A mid-week event for kids thats great for bringing friends. K-5 grade. Semester ends May 30. Contact Beth at [email protected].

PARENTING

Events and Resources

Save The Date Shop Talk September 9, 6:458 p.m. Topic: Creating and Maintaining Wise Boundaries.

Contact Ryan Sanders with questions at [email protected].

STuDENTS

Middle/High School and College

High School Leadership Retreat May 46 Sign up at students.irvingbible.org. Save The Date: Beach Camp July 1317 (High School), July 1720 (Middle School). 6th Grade Connection Sunday, May 6 Open House: Merge AM. 10:45 a.m.12:05 p.m. in the Alcove Parent/Staff Meet and Greet 12:30 p.m. in High School Room

Visit parenting.irvingbible.org for more info.

SENIORS

For Folks Ages 55+

Dinner and a Show Saturday, May 5 3 p.m.: Museum of the Biblical Arts. Check biblicalarts.org for more info. Dinner to be held afterwards. Email [email protected] to RSVP.

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Middle School Sundays MERGE AM Meets in the Alcove, 10:45 a.m.12:05 p.m.

Life Groups meet in the Commons, 6:458 p.m.

Middle School Wednesdays The W Meets in the Student Ministry area, 6:30-8 p.m. High School Sundays Life Groups Meets in the Student Ministry area, 6:458 p.m. High School Wednesdays SWAG (Students Worship and Gathering) Meets in the Alcove, 6:30-8 p.m. IBC College Ministry Meets Sundays, 6:458 p.m. in the Mo.

Weekly Groups Many young adults (marrieds, singles and mixed) meet in smaller groups during the week and Sunday evenings to connect in community and grow in Christ. If you are interested in learning more, contact [email protected]. The Point Sundays, 6:45 p.m. The Alcove Central Park Sundays, 6:45 p.m. The Conference Room The Breakfast Club Sundays, 10 a.m. The Mosiac Caf Join us for some conversation and light breakfast before the 10:45 a.m. service.

you for the main components of the new citizenship test. Contact Michael at [email protected].
IBC Career Transition Ministry Wednesdays, 6:308 p.m. Want to find a job? Come learn how to craft a rock-solid resume, use the Internet and LinkedIn to network, and ace the interview. For more info, contact Lisa at 2435jobtransition@ irvingbible.org.

IBC spring softball, Mens and Coed. Summer sessions will begin late April to early May, depending on the location of play. We like to form teams in the city leagues of Lewisville, Euless and Carrollton on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday nights. Contact Kurt Heinemann at [email protected] or (972) 765-9912. Hearing Assistance Hearing Assistance is available during all three worship services. Stop by the Journey Lounge for instructions. New Arrivals Congratulations to the following families on the births of their children:

Visit 2435kinwest.org.

MISCELLANEOuS
A Little Bit of Everything
In His Image Bible Study Wednesdays, 6:307:45 p.m. AZ15 A small group for adults (18+) with special needs. If you know of someone who would benefit from this group, contact Shannon Miller at [email protected]. NICHE (North Irving Christian Home Educators) On break until August 2012. For more info, contact texasniche06@ gmail.com or check texasniche.com. Stitches of Faith Mondays, 6:30-8:30 p.m. The Haven Join as we crochet, knit, and work on various projects. We would love to help teach those who are still learning. Please contact Myrna Vick at [email protected]. IBC Crop Night No Crop Night in May Please plan on joining us Friday, June 1 for our next event. For more information please contact nikki at [email protected].

IBC serves a delicious meal each Wednesday and Sunday night for $3. Contact [email protected].

2435 KINWEST

Wednesday nights at IBC

Vox Humana Choir Wednesdays, 6:308:10 p.m. IBC Worship Center The choral community of IBC is always looking for new singers of all levels beginner or pro. Everyone is welcome and you can join at any time! no auditions necessary. Contact Crystal at celwell@irvingbible. org. ESL: English as a Second Language Wednesdays, 6:308:30 p.m. AZ14 & 15 Do you want to learn English? Improve your English? Come practice all four skills: speaking, listening, reading and writing. For more info, contact Corey at [email protected]. FREE Citizenship Class Wednesdays, 6:308 p.m. IBC For those at least 18 years old who have been issued a Permanent Resident Card. Well guide you through the n-400 paperwork and prepare

Heather and Sean Koval and their son Luke David, born March 6, at 7 lbs, 6 oz, and 19 inches. Jill and Jeremy Varnell and their son Luke Benjamin, born March 7, 8 lbs, 10 oz, and 21.25 inches.

WOMEN

Ministry to Women
Save the Date Summer Womens Bible Study July 10 Learning How to Pray, see ad pg. 15.

Visit women.irvingbible.org.

YOuNG ADuLTS
20s and Early 30s
The Gathering Thursdays, 7 p.m. The Alcove A weekly event for young adults to engage truth, connect, and serve.

The Gospel of Mark

Sundays at IBC Becoming a Christian means embracing a Savior who loves us and calls us to follow him. We call this discipleship, and at its core is learning how to live like Jesus lived, love like Jesus loved, and serve like Jesus served. Discipleship is what the Gospel of Mark is all about. As we follow along with Marks story, we will experience what Jesus really means when he says,Come, follow me. Join us Sundays at 9 a.m., 10:45 a.m. or 5 p.m.

May 6: Friend of Sinners May 13: Authority over the Law May 20: Together on a Mission May 27: Pentecost Sunday Visit media.irvingbible.org to listen to recent Sunday sermons.

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Andrew Esparza Memorial

Invite your single-parent friends and neighbors to this FREE* event!

Join other single parents and kids for a fun-filled afternoon of live music, bounce houses, midway games, visits from the Irving Police SWAT truck, a petting zoo, pony rides, and more. For more information or to volunteer, contact Jennifer at [email protected] or visit irvingbible.org.

at Mustang Park Rec. Center (across from IBC)

*event is free except for concessions

Saturday, May 12, 58 p.m.

THE END IS* NEAR!

(*Or maybe not. But still, its good to be prepared.) On May 19, Generous Living at IBC is offering a Legacy Planning Seminar with Stan Craig, author of Foretalk. At this seminar you will learn:
How to have a conversation about end-of-life planning Who needs an updated will and why What everyone must know before they are admitted to the hospital How to find the right attorney for your family What every family needs to know about burial or cremation Why you should plan your own funeral or memorial service How to create a positive, lasting legacy

Did you know IBC has a safety team of trained medical personnel and law enforcement? We do! If you have a background in one of these areas and are looking for a place to serve, visit the Information Center on Sunday or contact [email protected].

Details Saturday, May 19 from 9 a.m.12 p.m. in West C and D. Cost is $20. Register online at legacy.irvingbible.org. Get proactive. Plan well. Rest assured.

June 3 & 10, 10:45 a.m. West A&B

M e M be rsh i p At i b C

If IBC is your church home and you are interested in becoming a member, this two-part event is for you. Come the first week and get to know elders, learn more about our core beliefs as a church, and discover what membership is all about. If you are ready to take the next step, come the following week to share your own story of faith and complete the membership process. For mor information contact Donna OReilly at [email protected]. Register at membership. irvingbible.org.

Do you sometimes struggle with prayer? How to pray? What to pray?

Being a Christian is more than merely believing promises and obeying commands. At its very essence, Christianity isnt a religion; its a relationship. And as we all know, a relationship requires a high commitment to communication. Thats where prayer comes in. Join us this summer as we learn to pray Gods way, according to his Word.

A 5-week Bible Study for Women Lord, Teach Me to Pray by Kay Arthur

A Summer Womens Bible Study

July 10 August 7, 2012 Tuesdays, 6:308:30 p.m. Registration is $15 (includes workbook). For more info or to register, visit women.irvingbible.org. KidZone is available by advanced registration, and costs $10/child. Register your child for: KidZone-Summer Womens BS-7/10/12.

SuNDAY SCHEDuLE
First Worship Service: 9 a.m.
Childrens Classes (all ages) The Tree (young marrieds and families), West D Synergy (30s, 40s and 50s couples), Middle School Room

HOW DO I GIVE?
My Time, Talents & Skills
Respite Care Volunteers By giving a few hours of your time to do crafts, play games, and spend time with special needs children, you give their parents a few hours for themselves. Every fourth Saturday evening. SonShine Volunteers A SonShine Pal helps a child with higher-functioning special needs to participate in ministry with their peers. Commitment: weekly or bi-weekly, all services available. Our SonShine rooms are available during the 10:45 a.m. service for children who need more individual attention. Commitment: anywhere from once a month to weekly. For any of the above opportunities, contact Shannon at [email protected]. Middle School/High School Summer Mission Trips Middle School students will be working on projects in new Orleans, LA and Dallas. The High School students will be going to Honduras and the navajo Indian Reservation in Apache, Arizona. Contact Mary Ann at [email protected] to find out how you can support them through prayer or financially. Meals for New Friends, New Life IBC has the privilege of providing a meal once a month to the women and children of nFnL. Contact Christine at [email protected]. Laundry Love Volunteers Volunteers needed to provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships at Amigo Laundromat in Irving. For more info, contact [email protected]. Mentor Kids in Single-Parent Families Men mentor a boy, and women mentor a girl from a single-parent family. All it takes is a little time and a big heart. Contact Marsha at [email protected]. Kids Night Out Volunteer Kids night Out, a ministry for single parent families is designed to give parents a much needed evening to themselves. Contact Jennifer at [email protected].

Second Worship Service: 10:45 a.m.

Childrens Classes (all ages) Crossroads (mid 20s-30s couples), High School Room On Track (single parents), West C Journey (all welcome), Middle School Room Renew (multi-generational), Training Center Thrive (30s & 40s singles), West D

Third Worship Service: 5 p.m.

Childrens Classes (all ages)

My Resources
Laundry Soap and Dryer Sheets Laundry Love is collecting laundry soap and dryer sheets for their monthly events in Irving. Please bring these to the Laundry Love box in the donation area by the Training Center. For more info visit http://llpirving.org or contact [email protected]. Cars for Missionary Families Do you have an extra car to loan a missionary family on furlough? Contact Missions at [email protected]. Online Giving Option If you would find it more convenient to donate to the ministries of Irving Bible Church online, visit give.irvingbible.org.

Community Dinner: 6 p.m. Community Events: 6:45 p.m.

Legacy Builders (all welcome), West A Middle School, The Commons High School, Student Ministries Area

SuNDAY COMMuNITY MEALS

Each Sunday in the Town Square at 6 p.m. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 5/6 5/13 5/20 5/27 Pasta with meatballs, salad bar. Fajita Madness, salad bar. Burgers and brats, salad bar. nO MEAL. Memorial Day Weekend.

If youd like to serve on a Sunday night meal team, contact Pat at [email protected].

Interested in learning more about IBCs budget for 2012 or other financial nuts and bolts? Visit budgetinfo.irvingbible.org.

WEDNESDAY MIDWEEK MEALS

Each Wednesday night from 56:20 p.m. in The Commons. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 5/2 5/9 5/16 5/23 5/30 Loaded baked potatoes, salad, dessert. Burgers, tater tots, salad, dessert. Lasagna, salad, rolls, dessert. Pizza, salad, dessert. Sloppy Joes, cole slaw, salad, dessert.

New to IBC?
Information Center
information.irvingbible.org

Were so glad youre here. Sometimes its hard to know where to begin, but we want to make the process of connecting and feeling at home as easy as possible. Here are some ways to start. The Information Center is a great place to get your questions answered, find help and encouragement for your personal journey, or just have a cup of coffee and settle in. Our team of volunteers would be happy to help you, and our goal is to make you feel at home. The Information Center is open every Sunday after all three worship services. The Newcomer Gathering is an informal get-together for those new to IBC and/or those wanting to learn more about who we are, what we believe and how to get plugged in. Meet other newcomers, ministry leaders and elders. Cant seem to figure out what IBC is all about or how you fit into the larger picture? Want free breakfast every Sunday for four weeks? Propel is designed to help you figure out how to best plug in to IBCs culture and calling. Well talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community and join the mission and what that might look like for you. Youll also learn more about membership at IBC. Small groups exist to cultivate deep relationships that advance the kingdom of God in dark places dark places in our world, in our relationships and in our hearts. We do this in the context of sermon-based Bible studies that meet in homes. Groups comprise 12 people or fewer and are formed by leaders who have completed small group leader training. To sign up for a group or get more info, contact Ryan Sanders at [email protected].

Have questions? Were here to help.

All May meals are hosted by Mike Gwartneys Team.

Changes to the menu may be made depending on cost and availability and Bob Downeys whim. If youd like to serve on a Wednesday night meal team, please email [email protected].

THE MOSAIC CAF (THE MO)

Hours Monday: 8 a.m. - 5 p.m. TuesdayThursday: 8 a.m. - 7 p.m. Friday: 8 a.m. - 12 p.m. Sunday: 8 a.m. - 12:30 p.m. & 4 p.m. - 7 p.m. Phone: (972) 443-3323 May drink special: Ocean Mist, a zesty tropical refreshment

Newcomer Gathering
Learn more about IBC and meet others like you.
newcomergathering.irvingbible.org

Ready to get plugged in?

propel.irvingbible.org

Propel

Connect with others on the journey.

smallgroups.irvingbible.org

Small Groups

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out. They bury themselves behind the sofa cushions to avoid the piercing gaze of my Newman-esque* eyes. They throw their silkies at me. They give me The Look. The second thing Ive discovered is that selfishness is not a learned behavior. (Unless my wife taught it to them while I was outside pulling weeds.) Satisfying the I has been their primary goal from the word waaaaaah. Which was cute when they just wanted to be fed. Less so when they imply Im some sort of undergarment sherpa and potty seat wrangler. As they grow, however, its reassuring to know that the culture at large will discourage such self-centered attitudes, and instead promote a true sense of Christian charity and I-am-secondness. Sorry, that must be the Canadian Zyrtec-D talking. Because and Im not spilling any trade secrets here there may be no I in team, but theres plenty of me to be actualized to the fullest extent of my spiritual beingness if the purveyors of pop culture are to be believed. But its not just the obvious New Age wags spewing forth the mantra of selfcenteredness that has me worried. No, its the way that the elevation of the self has permeated the culture to such an extent that we dont even give it a second glance, askew or otherwise. This two-bit, my way or the highway psychology sounds great on its surface because, duh, it appeals to our basest sense of pride. Also, as we shall see, it often comes set to a nifty beat. However, sans a focus on Christ, it is all destined to go the way of disco. So, let us examine some of the more popular clichs of popular self-propitiation and droppeth some Holy Ghost bombs upon them, ye and such forth and whatnoteth. This above all: to thine own self be true. Often paraphrased as be true to yourself, this bromide is often trotted out as a valid reason for breaking up with ones baby mama or choosing to sing a Celine Dion song on American Idol. Sure, its from a little-known Shakespeare play called Hamlet. But it was spoken by one of the most duplicitous villains ever to stumble through iambic pentameter, Polonius. You know, the guy you sort of remember from high school English. No, not the one played in a BBC miniseries by Colin Firth. Oh, forget it. Regardless, being true to your own self does little good if said self enjoys consuming entire boxes of Little Debbie Swiss Rolls in one sitting. Or so I imagine. We are called to be true to Christ. Because even when he spent 40 days in the wilderness, he never once spoke an Oatmeal Cream Pie into existence. Its in Mark, look it up. I did it my way. Frank Sinatra was many things. A fine balladeer. A hit with the dames. A man who really knew how to wear a hat. But when it comes to personal mantras, Old Blue Eyes could have done a bit better than espousing this bit o hoo-haw (pardon the language) that was adapted by Paul Anka from if my two years of high school German are any help a French song about mime solidarity. (And just by typing that, a neighbor of French descent spontaneously surrendered his leaf blower to me.) The crux of the song is that, when one reaches the end of ones mortal coil, one can look back and be proud to have done things my way. As if that carries special weight with the cosmos. Well, Bob, I see here that you cheated on your wife, taxes, business partners and Words with Friends, but at least you did things your way off to Paradise with you! To which Jesus simply says, I am the way.
Firth and foremost, the Firth of Forth is a fjord. Frank Sinatras little brother, Biff, was known in playground circles as Old Black Eye.

Get Thee Behind Me, Stedman

If theres one thing Ive discovered from observing my children these past few years, its that they really hate being stared at. It freaks them

Follow your bliss/heart/dreams. I see this bit regurgitated as sound advice for everyone from college kids entering the workforce to people in troubled marriages. Apparently, the heart knows more than the rest of our bodies when it comes to lifes important decisions, and following its capricious moods will lead to a life filled with snuggly kitties, rainbows and Snickers-like satisfaction in a life well-lived. Frankly, if Im going to trust a body part to determine any segment of my lifes journey, Ill go with my gut. At least it will lead me to In-N-Out. For everything else, I recommend following the truth of Gods Word. here I go again on my own, walking down the only road Ive ever known. like a drifter I was born to walk alone. Sure, its fun to crank up the Whitesnake on the way to work and snap a vocal cord trying to match David Coverdales Aquanet-enhanced wailing. But if you think this 80s anthem has enough mojo to get you through the valley of the shadow of death, well, I have two words for you: White Jaguar. Anything oprah says. I dont know how or why Oprah Winfrey went from spouting, You go, girl! to Self-actualize your inner goddess, goddess! Im just glad shes taken her Eckhart Tolle teachings off mainstream television and into the netherworld of basic cable. While its true that you should be the best you you can be, the best you happens when you let God shape you in his image. Not when you release the Gayle-shaped diva inside. I know why we turn to these phrases, these false promises. They appease our itching ears and nascent belief that, deep down, were all pretty okay. Its much less fun to admit that weve sinned and come short of the glory of God. Or that we need to take up our cross and follow him. But as Matthew recorded Christ in chapter 7 of his gospel: Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. So to my kids I will say, be one of the few, the called, the truly complete. Not in yourselves, but in Christ. * Seinfeld Newman, not Paul. Jason Fox has yet to figure out where you girls are supposed to go.
Jason is a freelance creative director, copywriter and columnist who offends the prevailing culture at jasonfox.net.

Bill Murray has portrayed Polonius on film. (He took baby steps to The Globe.)

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Chatter takes in the views of Amen Corner with Mike and Sandy Sauer at The Masters in Augusta, Georgia.

Chatteryou CAN take it with you. Send us your Chatter photos on location, and you may see yourself in an upcoming issue. Email us at [email protected].