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Self-management Skills

Self-management

also referred to as ‘self-control

It is the ability to control one’s emotions,
thoughts and behaviour effectively in different
situations.
This also includes motivating oneself, and setting
goals.
People with strong self-management skills are
better in doing certain things better than others.

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Basics of Self-management
 Following are some of the basic skills you must master to succeed in life:-
 Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather insights on your
personality and work-specific proficiencies. Think about your daily
interactions and how you handled situations well or could have handled
them differently
 Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your tasks is very important. Taking
ownership is the step towards self-development. For example, if you have
been assigned a task by a teacher; ensure you take complete ownership.
Even if you are unable to complete the task on time, you must report it and
then correct it.
 Time Management: Prioritise the things you have to do. Remove waste and
redundancy from work. Make a time table and follow it diligently.
 Adaptability: Prepare yourself for new changes, so that you can transition
seamlessly

Session 1: Stress Management

 What is Stress?
 Stress can be defined as our emotional, mental, physical and social
reaction to any perceived demands or threats.
 These demands or threats are called stressors.
 Stressors are the reason for stress.
 For example,
• you are too close to the exams but feel unprepared.
• you are experiencing a loss of someone close in the family.
• you are worried about what people would think of you if you don’t
dress well or cannot speak confidently.
• you are stressed due to lack of sleep.

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Stress Management
 Managing stress is about making a plan to be able to cope
effectively with daily pressures.
 The ultimate goal is to strike a balance between life, work,
relationships, relaxation and fun.
 By doing this, you are able to deal with daily stress triggers and meet
these challenges head on.
 Always keep in mind the ABC of stress management
 A: Adversity or the stressful event
 B: Beliefs or the way you respond to the event
 C: Consequences or actions and outcomes of the event

 Stress management can help you to

 • have a joyful life.
 • focus and complete tasks on time.
 • be a happy person as you are stress free.
 • be more energetic and spend quality time with your friends and family.

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Stress Management Techniques

 Time management: Proper time management is one of the most
effective stress-relieving techniques.
 Physical exercise and fresh air: A healthy lifestyle is essential for
students. Stress is generally lower in people who maintain a healthy
routine. Doing yoga, meditation and deep breathing exercises help
in proper blood circulation and relaxes the body. Even taking a
walk or playing in the park will help you get a lot of fresh oxygen,
which will help you become more active.
 Healthy diet: Having a healthy diet will also help you reduce stress.
Eating a balanced diet, such as Dal, Roti, vegetables and fruits will
give you the strength to do your daily work efficiently
 Positivity: Focusing on negative aspects of life will add more stress.
Instead, learn to look at the good things and stay positive. For
example, instead of feeling upset over a scoring less in a test, try to
maintain a positive attitude and look at ways to improve the next
time.

Stress Management Techniques

 Organizing academic life; no delaying: By keeping class

notes organized, finishing in assignments on time, and
keeping track of all deadlines, stress can be reduced to
a great extent.
 Sleep: We should get a good night’s sleep for at least 7
hours so that your brain and body gets recharged to
function better the next day.
 Holidays with family and friends: Going to a relative’s
place, such as your grandparents’ house or a new place
during your summer vacations can help you break from
the normal routine and come back afresh

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Ability to Work Independently

 If you can become a calm and relaxed person, you will
be have the ability to work independently, which
means.
1. becoming self-aware, self-monitoring and self-
correcting.
2. knowing what you need to do.
3. taking the initiative rather than being told what to do.
4. recognising your mistakes and not blaming others.
5. having the ability and the will to learn continuously.

Emotional Intelligence
 Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and
manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of
others. It is generally said to include at least three skills:
• Emotional awareness: the ability to identify and name
one’s own emotions.
• Harnessing emotions: the ability to harness and apply
emotions to tasks like thinking and problem solving.
• Managing emotions: the ability to regulate one’s own
emotions when necessary and help others to do the same.

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 Emotional intelligence can also help you have better

relations with your friends and family.
 Let us take an example. Ravi and his best friend, Shiv,
have been practising for the annual school dance
competition. They are both performing solo. On the day
of the competition, Shiv won. Ravi felt extremely sad and
dejected. He shouted at Shiv unnecessarily, cried and
also did not talk to his parents for 3–4 hours. On the
contrary, if Ravi would have been emotionally intelligent,
he would have accepted defeat gracefully, and done
better in the next competition. Being emotionally
intelligent enhances your chances of success and a
balanced life.

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Steps to manage emotional intelligence

Understand your emotions: Observe your
behaviour and note the things you need to work
on. You can then work on the things you need
to improve.
Rationalise: Do not take decisions abruptly; be
rational in your thinking.
Practise: Do meditation and yoga to keep
yourself calm.

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Session 2: Self-awareness— Strength and

Weakness Analysis
 Being self-aware means that you can identify your strengths and weaknesses.
 Self-awareness, therefore, will help you in converting your weakness into strength and
strength into an exceptional talent.
 Being self-aware actually means knowing your inner strengths, hidden talents, skills
and even weaknesses.
 Examples of strengths
• I am good at creative writing.
• I am confident of speaking in front of an audience.
• I play guitar very well.
 Examples of weaknesses
• I find it difficult to solve mathematics problems.
• I would like to speak English fluently.
• I do not like to lose in any game or sports

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Difference between Interests and

Abilities (Strengths)

When your interests do not match your abilities, you can either
improve your abilities or follow some other path. For example, you
may like music, but you may not be good at singing. In that case, do
not try to become a singer!

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Techniques for Identifying your Strengths and

Weaknesses
 Finding Strengths (or abilities)
• Think of anything that you are always successful at.
• Think about what others like in you.
• Take out time and think about what you do well.
 Finding Weaknesses
• Point out the areas where you struggle and the things you find difficult to do.
• Look at the feedback others usually give you.
• Be open to feedback and accept your weaknesses without feeling low
about it. Take it as an area of improvement

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Session 3: Self-motivation
 Self-motivation is simply the force within you that drives you to do things.
 It is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel happy and improve our
quality of life. In other words, it is our ability to do the things that need to be
done without someone or something influencing us.

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Types of Motivation

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Qualities of Self-motivated People

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Building Self-motivation

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Session 4: Self-regulation— Goal Setting

 Goals and Goal Setting
Goals: They are a set of dreams with a deadline to get them, for
example, saving pocket money to buy a favourite mobile phone by a
particular date.
Goals allow you to separate out what’s important. It helps you to focus
on the end result instead of less important work. This will make you
successful in your career and personal life
Goal setting: It is all about finding and listing your goals and then
planning on how to achieve them.
The process of goal setting in your life helps you decide on how to live
your life, where you want to be, and how you want to be in the future.

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How to Set Goals?

 We can use SMART method to set goals.
 SMART stands for:

• Specific: A specific and clear goal answers six questions.

1. Who is involved in the goal?
2. What do I want to do?
3. Where do I start?
4. When do I start and finish?
5. Which means do I use?
6. Why am I doing this?
For example,
Not a specific goal: “I would learn to speak English”.
Specific goal: “I would learn to speak English fluently by joining coaching
classes after my school everyday, and in six months I will take part in the inter-
school debate competition.”

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Measureable: A measureable goal answers the questions

“How much?”, “How many?” and “How do I know that I have
achieved results?”
Not measurable goal: “I want to be rich.”
Measurable goal: “I want to have 5 times more money than what I
have today in my hand at the end of this year.”

Achievable : Breaking down big goals into smaller parts will

make the goal achievable.
Bigger Goal: “I want to become a teacher in my school”.
Breaking it into smaller goals:
 Complete higher secondary
 Complete Graduation
 Complete B.Ed.
 Apply for jobs in the teaching field

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Realistic: A realistic goal would be something that

we want to achieve and can work towards.
Example of unrealistic goal: “I will read my entire year’s
syllabus in one day and get good marks.”
Realistic goal: “I spend 3 hours every day of the year after
school to revise my subjects to get good marks in the
exams.”

Time bound: A SMART goal should have a

timeframe by when the goal needs to be achieved. This
encourages us to take actions to completely fulfill the
goals.
Not a time bound goal: “I want to lose 10 kg someday.”
Time bound goal: “I want to lose 10kg in the next 6
months.”
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Session 5: Self-regulation— Time

Management
 Sameer was a very lazy boy and always used to
postpone things. His father tried to make him understand
the value of time. Sameer promised his father that he
would never postpone his tasks. One day, he won the
first prize in a singing competition. He was asked to
collect the prize the same day. He didn’t care and went
to collect the prize the next day. But the prize was now
useless for him, as it was a ticket to a circus show for the
previous day. That day Sameer learnt an important
lesson — the importance of doing things on time.

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Time management
 Time management is the ability to plan and control how you spend the
hours of your day well and do all that you want to do.
 An example of good time management skills would be when you decide
to finish your homework immediately after school so you have time to
watch TV later in the evening.

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Four Steps for Effective Time Management

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 Time management is the thinking skill that helps you to

• complete tasks on time.
• make a daily timetable.
• make a good guess at how long it will take you to do
something.
• submit homework and assignments on time.
• not waste time during the day.

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