Giane Paolo​V.

Abeniso​
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UNDERSTANDING
THE SELF: Module 2
Unpacking the Self
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Lesson 1 – Biological and Physical Self​
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Activity 1:“How do I feel about myself?”​
Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale

Below is a list of statements dealing with your general feelings about yourself. Please indicate
how strongly you agree or disagree with each statement by putting (ü) mark in the column of
your choice.
ITEMS STRONGLY AGREE DISAGREE STRONGLY
AGREE AGREE
1. ​ On the whole, I am ✔
satisfied with myself.
2. ​ At times I think I am ✔
no good at all.
3. ​ I feel that I have a ✔
number of good qualities.

4. ​ I am able to do ✔
things as well as most
other people.
5. ​ I feel I do not have ✔
much to be proud of.
6. ​ I certainly feel ✔
useless at times.
7. ​ I feel that I’m a ✔
person of worth, at least on
an equal plane with others.
8. ​ I wish I could have ✔
more respect for myself.
9. ​ All in all, I am ✔
inclined to feel that I am a
failure.
10.​ I take a positive ✔
attitude toward myself.
SCORE: 25​
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ANALYSIS:​
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1. What does healthy self-esteem mean to you?​
Healthy self-esteem, to me, means having a balanced view of myself—acknowledging my
worth and strengths while also being honest about the areas I can improve. It’s about treating
myself with kindness and not letting comparisons with others define how I feel.

2. What do you love the most about your body?​

What I appreciate most about my body is its resilience. It keeps me going every day, supports​
my lifestyle, and lets me experience life fully—from movement to rest, from work to play.

3. What are the things you are good at?​

I think one of my strengths is emotional intelligence. I’m able to empathize with others, offer
thoughtful advice, and create space for open, supportive conversations.

4. When do you feel self-sufficient?​

I feel most self-sufficient when I can rely on my own problem-solving skills—whether that’s
budgeting wisely, navigating challenges, or making confident decisions without outside input.

5. How often do you doubt your professional/personal competence?​

I do experience moments of doubt, especially when something new or unexpected comes my
way. But those feelings are usually short-lived—I remind myself of how far I’ve come and trust
my ability to learn and adapt.

6. What could be a problem if your looks do not match your physical standards?​
If I don’t meet my own physical expectations, it could create a disconnect between how I feel
internally and how I perceive myself externally. That mismatch might influence my confidence or
how I carry myself, even though I know appearance isn’t the most important thing.

7. Based on the activity above, what is the significance of your score? Do you agree with
the result?​
Yes, I’d agree with the result if it reflects how I genuinely see myself. A higher score would
suggest I have a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. A lower one might mean I need to
dig deeper into what’s affecting my self-image and take steps to build a healthier mindset.

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APPLICATION​
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My philosophy of beauty is that beauty isn’t just about what you see—it’s about how you
make people feel and the energy you bring into a space. It's rooted in being real, showing
empathy, and embracing who you are, even in imperfection. True beauty reflects a person’s
character more than their appearance.

A beautiful person is someone who shows up with honesty and grace, who listens, cares, and
accepts others without judgment. Their beauty isn’t just seen—it’s felt. It’s in their laughter, in
their strength during hard times, and in the way they light up a room by simply being
themselves.

I am beautiful because I embrace my journey—my strengths, my quirks, and even the parts
I’m still working on. My individuality, along with how I treat others and how I grow through
challenges, defines my kind of beauty.​
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List down names of people you know who are beautiful:​
My Mom​
Airene​
Althea​
Aleah​
Mary​
Cristie​
Zette​
Stephanie​
Jay​
Joshua​
Christian

Lesson 2 – Gendered Self

Activity 1: Characterizing Myself
Fill out the chart below.
MY TRAITS My characteristics or My characteristics or My characteristics
traits most similar to traits most similar to traits not similar
those of my father those of my mother tothose of my father
or my mother

Positive Hardworking,
Disciplined Caring, Supportive Creative,
Independent

Negative ​
Stubborn, Overthinking,Sensi Impatient, Easily
Reserved tive Bored
Analysis: ​
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• Are there more positive traits than negative traits written on your chart?​
Yes, there are more positive traits listed than negative ones. I chose to focus on strengths
because they help define the best parts of who I am.

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• What type of traits have you written on the chart? Which traits are observable and
which are not?​
The chart includes a mix of behavioral and emotional traits. Traits like being caring or creative​
aren't always visible right away, while others, like being disciplined or reserved, can be more
noticeable in how I act.

• Compare the traits written on the first two columns with those on the third. Are there
more physical traits than non-physical traits that have been recorded?​
No, actually most of the traits I've written are non-physical. I focused more on personality and
values, since those are the traits I connect most with when thinking about my parents and
myself.

• Are you happy for having those traits? Have you ever expressed your gratitude?​
Yes, I’m thankful for the traits I have—they help define my identity. Taking time to reflect on
them reminds me to appreciate what makes me unique, and gratitude helps me stay grounded
and positive.

• Have you ever expressed your gratitude to your parents for passing those traits to you?​
Yes, I’ve shared my appreciation with them. A lot of who I am today comes from what I’ve
learned and inherited from them, so I try to acknowledge that when I can.

• How does gender play a role in development?​

Gender can shape experiences, behaviors, and opportunities. From childhood, society often
assigns roles or expectations based on gender, which can influence personal development and
the way we see ourselves and others.

• Why is gender equality important?​

Gender equality matters because it creates a more just and inclusive society. It allows
individuals of all genders to pursue their goals freely, without limitations or bias, and helps
create balanced communities where everyone can thrive.

• Do you think women are inferior to men or vice versa?​

No, I believe no gender is superior or inferior. Everyone has their own strengths, abilities, and
contributions. Respecting and valuing each other regardless of gender is essential for real
equality.

• Does sexism exist only to a certain gender?​

No, sexism affects people of all genders. While it disproportionately affects women and
marginalized groups, men can also face it—especially when they challenge or deviate from
traditional gender norms.

• What factors do you think contribute to gender and identity issues?​

Many things influence gender and identity struggles, such as cultural traditions, media
representation, family upbringing, social expectations, and gaps in education. These factors can
shape how people understand themselves and where they feel they belong.​
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APPLICATION​
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1. For Boys: How was your experience the first time you had your nocturnal emission?
How did you cope with your feelings of awkwardness or negativity, especially since it
was accompanied by bodily changes?​
The first time it happened, I was honestly confused and a bit embarrassed. I wasn’t sure what to
think, especially since it came out of nowhere. But after looking it up and realizing it was
completely normal, I felt more at ease. Over time, I understood it was just a natural part of
growing up and part of my body maturing. I didn’t talk about it right away with anyone, but
knowing that others go through the same thing helped me cope and accept the changes without
too much negativity.

2. Do you have a crush now? A boyfriend/girlfriend? How are you dealing or managing
your emotions? Do you consult your parents, friends, or classmates about it?​
Yeah, I do have a crush. Being in college, emotions can feel intense but also more manageable
than in high school. I try to stay focused on my studies while also giving space to explore how I
feel. I usually talk to a few close friends about it—they give me honest feedback and help me
stay grounded. I don’t always go straight to my parents for these things, but if the relationship
ever gets serious, I’d probably open up to them. Right now, it’s about balancing emotions with
responsibility and not letting feelings distract me too much from my goals.

Lesson 3
ACTIVITY: BLANK CHECK CHALLENGE
Helping Others

Help my parents with household expenses (utilities, groceries, small debts).

Support my younger siblings’ school needs (tuition, books, uniforms).

Join volunteer groups in school or donate to student-led community outreach.

Education & Self-Development

Buy a decent laptop and accessories for online classes and research
Enroll in online courses to improve skills in my field (e.g., graphic design, coding,
business).

Attend free or affordable workshops on time management, budgeting, and career pling.

Career & Productivity

Set up a simple but efficient study corner in my dorm/room (desk, chair, lamp).

Start a small online side hustle (like selling digital art, tutoring, or dropshipping

Save up for certifications that can boost my job prospects after graduation.

Lifestyle & Wellbeing

Take short trips to places near campus for relaxation and new experiences.

Buy a second-hand but reliable scooter or bike for commuting

Invest in health by joining a nearby gym or doing home workouts.

Allocate funds for medical check-ups and basic health insurance.

Future-Proofing

Open a savings account or try beginner-friendly investments (e.g., mutual funds, digital
banks with high interest).

Create a small emergency fund for school projects, unexpected fees, or personal
needs.

Start saving small amounts for long-term goals, like building a freelance career or
pursuing a master’s degree.

ANALYSIS
How would you feel as you do the Blank Check Challenge

Honestly, I’d feel really excited and inspired. As a student, I’m used to working with
limited resources, so being able to dream without worrying about money feels
refreshing. It makes me think about what I truly want—not just material things, but also
growth, stability, and ways to help my family. I’d feel motivated to work harder knowing
these dreams could someday become real.
Which among the items in your list do you like the most? Why?

The one that stands out to me the most is helping my family with their daily needs. As a
college boy, seeing my parents work hard makes me want to give back and ease their
burdens. Supporting their expenses, even in small ways, would give me a sense of
pride and fulfillment. Family comes first, and knowing I can help would mean a lot.

If ever you were given the chance in real life to have one among the list, which
would you choose? Why?

I’d choose to start a small online business or side hustle. It’s practical, doable even for a
student, and can grow over time. Having my own source of income while studying would
teach me valuable skills, help with my school expenses, and maybe even support my
family. It’s a step toward independence and future opportunities.

APPLICATION

1. Categorizing the Items in the Blank Check Challenge List

B- Lifestyle and Wellbeing

C- Lifestyle and Wellbeing

F- Helping Others

H- Career and Productivity

2. Answer the following questions:

a. Which among the categories you have the most in your list?

The category with the most items is Lifestyle and Wellbeing (2 items: B and C).

b. What do you think these things tell you about yourself?

This suggests that you place a high value on personal health, happiness, and overall
quality of life. It may indicate that you're focused on maintaining balance, self-care, and
making choices that support your physical and mental wellbeing. It shows a strong
awareness of how your lifestyle affects your day-to- day experience and possibly a
desire for long-term wellness and fulfillment.
APPLICATION

3. Make a reflection paper about material self. You may use your answers from the
above question in making your paper.

Doing the Blank Check Challenge made me realize a lot of things about myself,
especially how I see my material self. At first, it seemed like just a fun activity where I
could list down things I want if money wasn’t an issue. But when I started thinking
deeper, my answers reflected more than just wants—they showed what I value in life.

For example, one of my main priorities was to help my family with daily expenses and
support my siblings' education. To some, it might sound like a responsibility, but to me, it
represents who I am as a son and kuya. Growing up, I’ve seen how hard my parents
work just to provide for us. So, being able to give back, even in small ways, is important
to me. It shows the role I take in my family and how I define success—not by luxury, but
by being able to help the people who raised me.

I also mentioned wanting to start a small business while studying. This isn’t just about
earning money. For me, it symbolizes independence, growth, and building something of
my own. The material things connected to this—like a laptop, a decent study space, or
business tools—are not for showing off, but because they help me become more
productive and future-ready. It’s my way of preparing for life after school.

Another thing I realized is how much I value comfort and well-being. Investing in things
like a reliable scooter for commuting, or even gym equipment, might seem simple, but
they reflect how I want to take care of myself physically and mentally. These material
things aren’t about status; they’re practical needs that make daily life easier and
healthier.

Overall, I learned that my material self is not defined by expensive brands or flashy
items. Instead, it’s shaped by things that represent my goals, my values, and the roles I
play—as a student, a family member, and a future professional. The possessions I wish
to have are connected to a bigger picture: providing for my family, supporting my
education, improving myself, and preparing for a stable future.

In the end, the material self is really about meaning, not money. It’s about how the
things we own (or wish to own) reflect our priorities and dreams. For me, it's not about
being rich, but about living a life with purpose, peace of mind, and the ability to give
back.
 LESSON 4
ACTUVITY/ANALYSIS

1. Do you find that it is harder or easier to trust God when you’re losing control of
a situation (or when you finally have no control in a situation)? Explain why.

Honestly, I think it’s harder to trust God when I start losing control because my first
instinct is to “fix” things on my own. I get anxious, overthink, and sometimes even stress
myself out trying to handle everything. It feels uncomfortable to admit that I can’t do it
all. But funny enough, when things finally get out of my hands and I’m left with no
choice, that’s when I begin to rely on God more. It’s like reaching the end of my rope
makes me realize that God should’ve been holding the rope from the start. In those low
points, my prayers become more real, more honest, because I’m not pretending to be in
control anymore. And even though it’s scary, there’s also a strange peace that comes
from finally surrendering and letting God take over.

2. What is it about our human tendencies that compel us to do everything in our

power to bring about a desired outcome? Where does faith come into play?

I think it’s just human nature to want control. From school deadlines to personal goals,
we’re taught to work hard, plan ahead, and make things happen. It gives us a sense of
security, like if we try harder, we can avoid failure or disappointment. Deep down, we
fear the unknown, so we do everything to control the outcome. But faith is the opposite
of that mindset. Faith teaches us to believe even when things are uncertain. It reminds
us that no matter how much we plan, there will always be things beyond our control.
Faith doesn’t mean we stop trying—it means we trust that God’s plan is bigger and
better than ours, even when things don’t go the way we hoped. In a way, faith balances
our efforts with trust. We do our part, but we also learn to let go and believe that God is
working behind the scenes, even when we can’t see it.

3. When someone is going through a difficult time, what are some practical ways
to come alongside that person to show compassion and give support?

I believe the best way to support someone during hard times is simply by being there for
them, even in silence. Sometimes, people don’t need advice—they just need someone
who’s willing to listen without judging or interrupting. A simple “I’m here if you need me”
can mean so much. I’ve noticed that small gestures, like checking up on them, treating
them to coffee, or just sitting beside them, can make a person feel less alone. Helping
with small errands or school tasks is another way to lighten their load. And of course,
praying for them—even if they don’t know it—is a quiet but powerful way of showing
care. At the end of the day, it’s not about fixing their problems, but reminding them that
they don’t have to face it all by themselves.

4. In your own faith journey, what have been the moments that influenced you
most? How has your faith grown stronger or weaker in those experiences?

In my personal faith journey, the moments that really shaped me were the tough
ones—times when I failed exams, faced family problems, or felt uncertain about my
future. During those low points, it was easy to question “why me?” and feel distant from
God. But interestingly, those same struggles became the turning points in my faith. They
forced me to pray more sincerely, not just out of routine but out of genuine need. My
faith wasn’t always strong; there were days when I doubted, felt tired, or even got angry.
But looking back, those experiences made my trust in God deeper, because I saw how
He carried me through when I couldn’t handle things alone. My faith grew, not because
life got easier, but because I realized God’s presence even in the hardest seasons.
Each struggle became a lesson in surrender, patience, and hope.

APPLICATION

1. Whatever your religion is, how do you practice your faith?

For me, practicing my faith is not just about going to church or following certain
rituals—it's more about how I live my life every day. I make it a habit to pray, even short
silent prayers, whether I’m at home, commuting, or before going to sleep. Reading the
Bible or inspirational devotionals helps me reflect and stay grounded. But beyond that, I
believe real faith is shown in actions. I try my best to be respectful and kind, even in
small things, like being patient with people or helping classmates who are struggling. Of
course, I’m not perfect—I have my own struggles—but I always go back to what my
faith teaches: to be humble, forgiving, and to trust God’s plan. For me, living out these
values in real life is the most genuine way of practicing my faith.

2. Do you believe in spirits? Supernatural forces? If yes, do you have a personal

encounter or experience with those forces? What did you do?

Yes, I believe that spirits and supernatural forces are real. I think it would be
narrow-minded to believe that everything in this world can be explained by science
alone. Though I haven’t had any “scary” supernatural experiences, there have been
moments that felt beyond the physical. One time, during a really stressful period, I was
praying alone and suddenly felt a deep sense of peace that I couldn’t explain. It was like
a heavy burden was lifted off my chest. I also remember hearing stories from family
members about strange but unexplainable encounters, and those stories made me
more aware that there are things happening around us that we can't always see. When
things like that happen, my first instinct is always to pray. I believe prayer protects us
and keeps us connected to God, especially when dealing with things we don't fully
understand. It reminds me to stay faithful and not let fear take over.

LESSON 5
ANALYSIS

1. How do the pictures remind you of being a Filipino?

Whenever I see pictures of Filipino culture, whether it’s a photo of a fiesta, a family
reunion, or even a simple barangay scene, it brings back a strong feeling of being
home. The vibrant colors of our festivals, the traditional clothes like barong and terno,
and the images of people smiling despite simple living—all these remind me of how
Filipinos value joy, family, and community. Even ordinary things like karinderyas,
jeepneys, and street vendors remind me of how hardworking and resourceful we are as
a people. These pictures don’t just show places or events—they tell the story of who we
are.

2. Are you proud of being a Filipino? Why or why not?

Yes, I am definitely proud to be a Filipino. What makes me proud is not just the beautiful
places or the popular talents we see on TV, but the everyday strength of ordinary
Filipinos. Despite so many problems—whether it’s poverty, typhoons, or issues in the
government—Filipinos always manage to smile, help each other, and stay hopeful. I
also admire how close-knit Filipino families are, and how we always value respect,
especially for elders. Even abroad, Filipinos are known for being caring and
hardworking. Of course, like any country, we have our flaws, but these challenges only
highlight how resilient and strong-hearted we are. That’s something I will always be
proud of.

3. Imagine that you were of a different nationality. What would change in you
aside from your citizenship and origin?

If I were born with a different nationality, I think my way of thinking and behaving would
also be very different. Culture has a big influence on how people grow up—the
language I would speak, the food I would love, even my simple habits would probably
change. Maybe I'd be more independent if I came from a country that values
individualism, or I’d have a different way of showing respect to elders. My views on
things like family roles, work, and even how I celebrate holidays would be shaped by
that new culture. However, I believe some things would stay the same, like my ability to
care for others or my need for connection, because those are human traits, not limited
by nationality. Still, a big part of who I am today is because of how I was raised as a
Filipino, so being from a different nationality would definitely shape me into a different
version of myself.

4. How extensive are the effects of being Filipino in your selfhood?

Being Filipino is a huge part of who I am. It’s not just about my birthplace or the flag I
recognize—it’s in the way I treat people, how I speak, and even how I handle problems.
For example, the value of pakikisama (getting along with others) affects how I maintain
friendships and avoid conflicts. Paggalang (respect), like saying “po” and “opo,” is
deeply rooted in how I talk to older people. The importance of family is another thing
that shapes my priorities—I always think of how my actions might affect my loved ones.
Even simple joys, like sharing food during gatherings or celebrating fiestas, remind me
how Filipino culture values togetherness. These things are not just habits; they’re
reflections of my identity. Being Filipino shapes my mindset, my choices, and the way I
dream for the future. It’s like a lens through which I see the world, and honestly, I’m
grateful for it.

APPLICATION

1. Acrostic:

Family-centered, where love and strong family ties come first.

Inspired by stories of resilience from our people.

Loyal to traditions, never forgetting where I came from.

Industrious and hardworking, even with limited resources.

Positive in outlook, always finding reasons to smile.

Inviting and warm, making visitors feel like part of the family.

Nurturing to others, especially in times of need.

Open-hearted and always hopeful for better days ahead.

2. How being a Filipino affects your "self":

Being Filipino plays a huge role in shaping who I am today. The values I learned
growing up—respect for elders, love for family, and the importance of
pakikisama—influence how I treat people around me. I always try to be polite, helpful,
and understanding, not because it’s required, but because that’s how I was raised. Even
in tough times, the lakas ng loob (inner strength) of being Filipino reminds me to keep
going. By embracing these traits, I believe I become more grounded, more
compassionate, and more determined to not only improve myself but also give back to
my community in small ways.

3. Do you believe that your Filipino identity influences how you perceive and
engage with political issues?

Definitely, being Filipino affects how I see political issues. Growing up in a country
where people often experience poverty, corruption, and injustice has opened my eyes to
the importance of fairness and accountability. Values like bayanihan and
pakikipagkapwa-tao taught me to care about others and to stand up for what’s right, not
just for myself but for the whole community. Knowing our history—how Filipinos fought
for freedom and justice—also pushes me to be more aware and involved. Even if I’m
still young, I believe my voice and choices matter in shaping a better future for the
Philippines.

LESSON 6
APPLICATION

1. What are your reasons/purposes for going online?

Honestly, I go online for a mix of reasons. The main one is to keep in touch with my
friends and family, especially those who live far away. Aside from that, I use the internet
a lot for schoolwork—whether it’s doing research, attending online classes, or
submitting assignments. Of course, like most people my age, I also go online to relax,
watch funny videos, listen to music, or sometimes just to scroll through my feed and
stay updated with what’s going on in the world. It’s my way of staying connected and
informed.

2. What network site/s do you usually visit?

Most of the time, I find myself on Facebook to see updates from friends and family. I
also like browsing Instagram for photos and reels. YouTube is my go-to for tutorials,
vlogs, and even educational content when I need help with school topics. Lately, I’ve
also been spending some time on TikTok because the short videos are entertaining and
sometimes even educational in a fun way. And of course, Google is always there when I
need to search for anything important.
3. How often do you stay online? Why?

I’d say I’m online every day, sometimes for a few hours depending on how busy I am.
Since a lot of schoolwork now requires internet access, it’s unavoidable. After
schoolwork, I usually stay online to chat with friends, play games, or watch videos as a
way to unwind. Being online has just become a normal part of daily life—it’s where
school, social life, and entertainment all happen.

4. If you open your Social Media account, do you keep your identity public or
private? Why?

I prefer to keep my social media accounts private. For me, it’s important to protect my
personal life and limit who can see my posts and activities. It gives me a sense of
security knowing that only people I trust can view my content. Having a private account
also helps avoid unnecessary drama or getting random messages from people I don’t
know. I’d rather keep my circle small but safe.

5. What would be the possible “benefits” and “risks” if your online profile is made
public?

If I made my profile public, one benefit would be that I could reach a larger audience,
which is useful if I ever want to promote a business, share my hobbies, or build an
online portfolio. It could also open opportunities to meet new people or get noticed for
my skills.

However, there are also serious risks. Privacy would be harder to control, making me
vulnerable to identity theft, fake accounts, or cyberbullying. People might misuse my
photos or take my posts out of context. There’s also the risk of getting unnecessary
attention, which could be overwhelming. That’s why I think staying private is the safer
choice for now.