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Your values are made up of everything that has happened to you in life. They include influence and identifiers. They help you
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Values impact every aspect our life.
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Your goal and life purpose are grounded in your values.
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Calmness
Capability
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Beliefs PLANTS AND ANIMALS
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Unlovable ANIMALS
Unwanted EVOLUTION
Imperfect GENETICS
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Positive
Accurate-reality
Flexible
Congruent-internally consistent with @ other
Empowering
Pleasure
GOAL SETTING
Definition: It is a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future and for motivating yourself to turn your vision into reality.
By setting goals you choose where you want to go by knowing what you want to achieve you know where you have to concentrate
your efforts you will also spot destructions that can easily lead you astray.
1. Setting goals gives you long time vision and short term motivation.
2. It focuses your acquisition of knowledge and helps you to organize your time and resources so that you can make the most of
your life.
It raises self confidence as you recognize your own ability and confidence in achieving the goals you have set.
Example
S- Specific
M- Measurable
A-Attainable
R- Relevant
T-Time bound
Set precise goals so that you can measure achievement. It is important to set goals that you can achieve.
SELF ASSESSMENT
It is the process of gathering information about yourself in order to make informal decision e.g. interests, values, personality,
skills, talents
iii. Communication skills iv. Weak skills for example in leadership, team work, communication
iv. Interpersonal skills Negative personal characteristics e.g. poor work ethic, lack of discipline, lack
of motivation, indecisiveness, shyness or being too emotional
v. Leadership skills
Self discipline
I am creative
List words that describe you. Many of these characteristics are your strengths. In accessing your weaknesses, we all identify
where we may need to improve if you identify a skill that you know is in your chosen field but you are weak in that skill area you
need to take steps to improve that skill.
Challenges are demanding situations, problems or difficulties. They can also be described as something hard to understand
accomplish or deal with.
Challenges
1. Health problems
2. Poor time management
1. Ignoring of cultural beliefs and norms that will affect your life goals like being a lady or a man.
2. Borrowing finance from well wishers and sponsors through donations.
Being self motivating and having positive attitude to yourself
SELF ESTEEM
Definition:
This refers to the way we think and feel about ourselves. It is the way we rate ourselves, the respect we accord ourselves and the
confidence we have in ourselves. if we have confidence and are self assured we will have healthy relationships however if our self
esteem is low we might put up with things which we should not such as bullying or violence in a relationship.
Someone with self esteem generally feels good about their ability to participate confidence and social situation and happy with
the way they are.
1. Self confidence- I believe that I can achieve good things and that I make positive contributions to my environment and
relationships.
2. Sense of self worth- I believe I am important and deserve to be treated well
1. Learn from mistakes- I make mistakes and accept it, I see mistakes as opportunities to learn so that I don’t repeat the same.
Self neglect- I don’t feel important and don’t care how I am good.
1. Vulnerability and over-sensitivity- people are always criticizing me and the way I do things, I can do anything right.
2. Anxiety- I tend to worry about things and feel anxious a lot of time.
3. Aggressiveness- humiliating and intimidating others in order to hide in policies questions and cowards who use aggression as
an effort of attack.
We become confident
We understand ourselves and what we want in life.
We become focused to determine and able to set realistic goals.
One works hard and achieves his goals in order to become successful in life.
Learn to be positive.
Identify our mistakes and deal with them.
Identify your weaknesses and seek ways of minimizing them.
Deal with peers as they arise and seek help when it arises i.e. from counselors.
Avoid self criticism and be obedient to yourself.
Learn to love yourself.
Be willing to support and help others.
Avoid self pity that is poor meant attribute.
Do not blame yourself for the mistakes of others.
They organize- plan your life and decide what you want and strike to get it.
Do not set unrealistic standards for yourself.
Get active exercises makes you feel good as the brain relaxes chemicals which cause stress and anxiety.
Look after yourself.
Learn from mistakes.
Try new things.
Give your opinions differently.
Spend time with people who respect and listen to you.
People with high self esteem are humble, have self respect and are happy.
Confidence, positive, relating well with others, learn from mistakes, good communication; maintain good health habits, goal
setting, good grooming.
STRESS MANAGEMENT
Stress: It is a normal physical response to events that make you feel threatened or upset your balance in some way. Stress can
make you feel frightened, angry or even sick.
Symptoms of stress
You may be under stress if you have headaches, stomachaches, dizziness, rapid heart bits, anger, forgetfulness, inability to make
decisions and sweating.
Excessive drinking and smoking and drug use, it can also cause yelling, depression, throwing of things around, sleepless nights.
Stress affects all aspects of the mind and body i.e. physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
Causes of stress
Growth and development- change and adjust to change are major sources of stress, physical changes mean that you have to
develop a new self image. This puts stress on the emotions as well as all the body. It is stressful when you don’t like what is in
the mirror.
Stress in the home- stress can begin at home with conflicts between parents interacting with the family can also be a source of
stress e.g. fighting with siblings, stress can also be put on parents putting excessive pressure on you to succeed. You may also
cope with money problems, divorce, death or illness of a family member, single parenting or parents who abuse drugs or
alcohol, victims of sexual emotional or verbal abuse should seek professional help for example from a counselor.
Pressure to perform- you may get pressure by both yourself and your parents to do more better i.e. in academics.
Your self image- how you view yourself will influence how you view stress and how you cope with it. If you have low self esteem
or you fear failure you are adding to your stress when you are confident to deal better with stress and may not even think of
certain situations as stressful.
Need to belong- struggling with the desire to be independent you may even consider joining a gang to feel accepted by your
viewers.
Poor pressure- it creates a lot of stress friends mat encourage you to try alcohol or drugs which you know is wrong.
Goals- you probably have goals and standards of achievement if you don’t reach those goals you create stress for yourself.
Academic performance- the most frequent cause of stress is consant with academic performance there is pressure to get high
grades in order to succeed in the profession of your choice.
Social problems- dealing with tribalism and racism can be a source of stress you may be rejected because of a mental or
physical disability, your age, your race or personal characteristics.
Stress on the job- you are afraid of losing your job or your job takes too much time or there is too much pressure put on you
by your employer or parents to succeed on your job.
Conflicts, arguments, relationships and conflicts on a job can be a source of stress to many people.
Lack of positive time management- it can cause stress because one is always late and not able to meet targets.
EFFECTS OF STRESS
Fight and flight response i.e. increased heart rate, breathing rate the muscle tense the mind becomes alert and ready to
respond.
When you are under stress the immune system doesn’t function efficiently. You can get infections and diseases easily.
It can cause headaches, diarrhea, high blood pressure which may increase the risk of heart disease.
It can lead to eating disorders burning attacks, phobia, violent behavior, depression or suicide.
Inability to concentrate, memory loss, increased use of tobacco or cigarettes drug abuse and hopelessness and helplessness.
Under stress you don’t think clearly so you are more at risk eg can easily fall sick.
With stress you may have difficult enjoying positive things in life. You may also engage in risky behavior or immorality and get
STDs and AIDS.
You may lose interest in your academics and stop paying attention in class causing your brain to drop.
Social maladjustment you may withdraw from participation in extra-curricular activities and keep away from friends you may
exhibit anti-social behavior e.g. be argumentative or taking drugs.
If you feel too much pressure to succeed you may look for ways to fail in order to relief that pressure.
Some lose interest in the appearance for example not dressing well and not paying attention to personal hygiene.
Post traumatic stress disorder (PSTD). People who have suffered a traumatic experience /event or life situation such as
robbery, death natural disaster or war often live with long term stress.
1. Organize your work in order of priority. work within possible working schedules
2. Setting goals: what are my goals, how can I reach my goals in a positive way. Will my decisions create more or less stress in my
life? Prioritize your activities.
3. You can say no, you can cope with stress by saying no to something that will add to your stress.
4. Organize your life wake up early make a schedule.
5. Make your decisions to avoid stress that comes from pressure. Think for yourself.
6. take a break/ relax/exercise eat well get enough sleep and participate in physical activities eg swimming, running, working etc
when you feel drained stop and take a break for example go for a walk and have fresh air.
7. Breathing and relaxation. Deep slow breathing is a process.
8. massage : this can lower your heart beat and blood pressure, improve circulation and relax tense muscles
9. it gives you a chance to think about something other than events that causes you stress it builds your self esteem because you
are helpful to be people in need.
1. It saves you time and money trying to treat symptoms caused by stress.
2. Not coping with stress may cause a decline in school or job performance and increase in personal conflicts.
3. if left un managed stress may lead to mental illness or complete physical exhaustion
4. it builds your self esteem. ie you gain control over your responses to your stress even if you can not completely control the
cause of the stress
5. it is an important tool for living successfully that you learn skills that you will use throughout life.
STRESSORS: These refer to any challenges or change that places a demand on the body.
EXAMPLES OF STRESSORS
illnesses
1. Conflicts in relationships
2. Public speaking
3. major life changes
1. emergency situation stress can save your life because you can avoid accidents
2. Stress response helps you to meet your challenges e.g when doing a presentation and doing an interview.
QUIZ
EMOTIONS
DEFINITION: emotions refer to any strong feelings such as fear, anger sorrow, joy and love. They are strong feelings that one has
when something has happened or something has been done to you that you don’t like. Emotions are motivated by psychological
arousal and pleasantness or unpleasantness.
Emotions can be good or bad. Common negative emotions include anger, fear, guilt, jealousy, shame, bitterness
CAUSES OF ANGER:
EFFECTS OF ANGER
1. When you are angry, your heart beats faster, you experience muscle tension, grinding of the teeth, ringing in the hear,
excessive sweating, severe head ache etc
2. With anger one may make risky decisions
3. People normally express anger in an aggressive manner e.g by cursing, swearing, fighting etc
4. Destructive behavior. With anger people do stupid things due to judgment mage while angry
5. Anger can cause depression
6. Anger can lead to drug and alcohol addiction
1. Relaxation, deep breathing and repeating calming words to calm you down, reduce the intensity of your anger. This will reduce
your angry feelings so that you can take better hold of your emotions.
2. making conscious efforts not to curse or swear when angry
3. Counseling will help you understand your anger and how to deal with anger issues.
4. Exercise it is important to learn safe and effective ways to release your anger i.e. sleeping or going away from the situation.
5. if you feel out of control walk away from the situation temporarily until you cool down
6. changing the way we react to triggering situations it is the inappropriate reactions to anger that are wrong
7. Practicing forgiveness, anger often results in resentment. This can be resolved through forgiveness.
SHYNESS: It is a form of fear whereby sometimes one shrinks from familiarity and contact with other people.
EFFECTS OF SHYNESS
GRIEF: It is a natural response to a loss. it also refers to an emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is
taken away. the death of loved one cause the most intense grief.
1. Shock and disbelief- you may trouble believing that the loss really happened or even deny the truth
2. sadness- you may feeling of emptiness, despair or loneliness
3. guilt- you may regret or feel guilty for not doing something to prevent the death or even if there was nothing you would have
done
4. Anger- you may be angry at yourself, God the doctors or even the person who died for abandoning you.
5. Fear- you may feel anxious or insecure. You may have to face life without the person who died.
Interest- it is a feeling or emotion that causes attention to focus on an object event or process.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Refers to skills, capabilities and competencies that influence a person’s ability to succeed copying with environmental demands
and is composed of 5 dimensions
1. Seeking counseling
2. Praying
3. Relaxation
4. Exercising
5. Being confident
6. Accepting that things happen naturally identifying problematic emotions
7. Talking to friends
8. Delaying your reactions
1. Humility- allow to consult and seek help when dealing with problematic emotions
2. tolerance- you will not easily get emotional about other people’s opinions e.g. becoming angry
3. respect- you will not insult/ Harm or show any form of disrespect to yourself and others because of your emotions, you will
learn to control your emotions
1. it is important to manage our emotions properly because our emotions affect our behavior
2. our emotions affect our decision making
3. our emotions affect our interpersonal relationships
4. it leads to improved health through avoiding stress
EMPATHY
Empathy Human beings at anyone point in life encounter challenges or experience problems. It is important for other members
of the society to understand what the person is going through, demonstrate care and concern and provide support to the affected
person. The facilitator is expected to expose participants to relevant scenarios that will enable them practice the skill of empathy.
Empathy is the ability to understand what the other person is experiencing and to be able to communicate this feeling in time.
The ability to understand, imagine and appreciate a challenging situation another person is going through thereby assisting
him/her to come up with a solution is demonstration of empathy.
We can help people explore and cope with their feelings if we are able to see situations from their perspective.
Situations that require Empathy: Bereavement Success in exams Failure e.g. in examinations Retrenchment of a
member of the family Celebration of anniversaries e.g. Birthdays Lose of property due to violence Sickness Birth of a baby
sister/brother
Different ways of expressing empathy: Empathy can be demonstrated in different ways. The following are examples of
different ways of expressing empathy. Actively listening Sharing resources Providing help when needed Being polite, non-
judgmental and understanding
Other skills that enhance empathy: Most life skills are interrelated and compliment each other. The following are examples of
skills that enhance empathy. Effective communication Problem solving Creative thinking Coping with emotions
COMMUNICATION
Effective Communication: Effective communication entails sending accurate information and receiving feedback that the
message has been received without distortion. Acquisition of this skill enables people to overcome their inhibitions, communicate
effectively and maintain healthy social relationships.
1. a) Communication process Communication begins with a message that is developed at the source. The source channels the
message to the receiver. The receiver then sends feedback to the sender. Communication process has the following
components:
Communication channel is the medium through which a message is transmitted. The message can be verbal or non-verbal. For
effective communication to take place the channel used should be:
Appropriate; suitable for the situation. Accessible; easily available. Affordable; within your means Convenient; easy to use.
Appealing; attractive.
Sender/ Source/Receiver/Channel/Feedback/Message
Effective Communication entails sending accurate information and receiving feedback that the message has been received
without distortion. Poor listening habits and lack of interest are common barriers to effective communication. Speaking
clearly, paying attention and active listening are factors that enhance effective communication. Effective communication entails
application of other life skills such as coping with emotions, creative thinking and living values such as cooperation, responsibility,
tolerance, peace and love.
Ways of overcoming barriers to effective communication Overcoming stereotypes Observing simplicity as a value
Speaking clearly Being open minded Exercising empathy
Factors that lead to effective communication The following are examples of the factors that enhance communication
Paying attention to and being interested in the subject/message. Willingness to respect other people’s views. Trusting and
being non-judgmental. Listening actively. Being clear and specific. Being simple, brief and straight forward. Ability to
respond appropriately.
TERM TWO
CONFLICT
CONFLICT MAPPING
CONFLICT:
Definition
1. Conflict is defined as disagreement between individuals. It can vary from a mild disagreement to an emotionally parked
confrontation.
2. It is a clash of interests, values, actions views of direction.
Causes of conflict
2. Religious intolerance.
= Different religions have different teachings, believe and practices. Without tolerance people from different religions groups will
have disagreements e.g. one insulting other religion or forcing the other to convert to their religion this disagreement may
develop into conflict.
3. Breakdown in communication.
= When there is breakdown in communication people misunderstand each other. People can also form wrong opinions about
others or about a given issue. It can make them take actions that offend others thereby leading to conflict.
4. Negative ethnicity.
= It is the believe that one’s culture and ethnic group is superior to other someone holding such an opinion may insult, mistreat
and frustrate those from different ethnic group this will result in feelings of bitterness leading to serious conflict.
= When your rights are violated by another person you are likely to confront them and this may lead to conflict e.g. if a person ties
forcefully acquire your property. Conflict is likely to arise as you defend your right of property.
= When there is an equal distribution of resources, those who are given a smaller share may feel cheated, angry and frustrated.
They may end up demanding more from the person/group responsible for the distribution they may forcefully try to acquire more
resources from those who have being allocated more and this will lead to conflict.
= Members of one political party may insult or try to intimidate members of another party. They may also try to force members of
another party to super their party. This can lead to conflict between members of the different parties.
8. Stress
= When you are experiencing stress or troubled by some issues we may overreact. In another unrelated situations we may also be
unable to reason properly and act intentionally this offend other people who may choose to confront us leading to conflict.
= Conflicts may arise as the person being abused confronts the abuser or demands an end to the abuse.
10. Drugs and substance abuse.
= When people abuse drugs they lose their self control and inhibitions. The incarge in behavior that may provoke other people into
violence they also become unreasonable and a small disagreement can become a major conflict.
= Competition for scarce water and pasture can lead to serious disagreement.
12. Incitement.
= Influencing an individual or group to harm or fight others. It involves using lies and creating fear. Those who are may confront others.
=The effects of conflicts can either be positive or negative. The negative effects unresolved conflicts will include the following:-
Strained relationship—people in relationships will not relate well with each other. We avoid talking or interacting.
Physical confrontation: – i.e. increase in the possibility of violent conflict.
People may engage in disruptive/destructive behavior i.e. riots, fights demonstrations.
Violence: – people can lose their lives, suffer, injuries, lose property.
Displacement of people: – People may leave their homes and forced to settle in other areas.
Fear and insecurity: – When people are involved in conflict they are fearful and suspicious of each other and may not feel safe
in the presence of the other. There may be also attacks on each other leading to insecurity in the area.
Positive effects.
=A conflict gives positive effects if handled constructively. They include the following: –
Types of conflict.
=There are various types of conflicts grouped according to those involved in the conflict;
Intrapersonal conflicts – These are conflicts that occur within you they occur when you act or attempt to act in a way that goes
against your values and goals.
Interpersonal conflicts – These are conflicts between two or more people who hold different opinions or perception about an issue
or situation.
Community conflicts – These are conflicts between different groups within the same community for example over sharing of
resources.
National conflicts – These are conflicts that occur within a country and affect all members of a country.
Cross border conflict – Major causes are competition for scarce water and pasture especially during the dry seasons forcing locals
to migrate to neighboring countries.
Workplace conflict – It is a condition between two workers whose jobs are interdependence who perceive the others as being at
fault and act in ways that cause a business problem.
Adjudication – This is a legal way of solving disputes, a judge listens to the views of both sides and makes a judgment that brings an
end to the conflict the parties involved do not have much choice over who listens to the case. The judge has the authority to state the
cause of action to be taken by the parties involved in the conflict.
Arbitration – The parties in conflict agree on a third party who listen to each side and then makes a decision. Both parties must agree
on the third party before the conflict resolutions proceed. They must agree to participate in the process and abide by the verdict.
Mediation – It is a process in which the parties in conflict involve a third person whom they both consider to be impartial to help them
reach an agreement. The mediation only facilitates discussions between the two parties.
Negotiation – It is the process through which the parties in conflict hold discussions in order to come to an agreement it
involves marking offers and comprises by both parties until a common agreement is reached.
Resolution – In this method of conflict resolution discussion are held to establish the cause of conflicts the parties concern
then agree on a specific cause of action which is called RESOLUTION.
Reconciliation – This method (reconciliation) of conflict resolution places emphasis on abolishing or reestablishing good
relation between those who are in conflict. This is done by encouraging conversation by violators and forgiveness by victims. It
is the basis for the formation of tone and reconciliation commissions.
Transformation – Conflict transformation involves changing various aspects of society in order to solve conflicts and to prevent
such conflicts from reoccurring. It involves going to the roots of the conflict and carrying out radical changes transforming
relationships that led to the occurrence of the conflict of the first place.
Mediation
It is a process in which a third party helps parties in conflict to find a solution to their problem. The third party facilitates the
process but remains neutral.
It is slow There is too much suspicion and mistrust It is expensive
Adjudication
Acts as a deterrent adheres to the rule of law Less expensive More save Free to express one’s feelings
No reconciliation Violence may increase Amy promote underground movements Time consuming One side wins Truth
may never be known.
Arbitration
It is a private process of conflict resolution in which one or more third parties decide how the conflict will be resolved. The role of
the disputants is to tell their stories only. The decision reached by the
More transparent Less expensive All views considered There is more freedom
Time consuming Distort information Can be biased It is expensive Attempts to judge It is slow
third party may be accepted or rejected by the parties in conflict. Should be impartial Acceptable by both sides Strikes a deal
Reconciliation
It is a process in which a third party tries to help the parties in conflict to agree to meet and determine a common way to resolve
their conflict.
Promotes forgiveness, harmony and peace Promotes unity through integration Solution is permanent All parties satisfied
No revenge Development not impended.
Helps with reflection and ingenuity. Makes people aware that there is a problem that needs to be resolved.
Prevents stagnation and fosters complex reasoning and creative problem solving leading to inventions, new institutions are
forged in the heat of conflict.
Conflict handled skillfully foster intimacy – love only endures when the differences caused by conflict are faced openly.
Encourages personal and intellectual growth and spurs development.
Helps people to better deal with conflict thus enhances healthier cognitive, social and psychological development.
When in conflict people think, observe and call on their memory and so fosters quality decision making.
People get out of passivity, increase motivation and energy to take action.
Higher quality of relationships develops.
Conflict resolutions
Empathy – It enables you to make necessary compromises and offers that will lead to a peaceful resolution conflict.
Respect – If you respect rights you ensure that your actions do not violate the rights of others and this creates room for
dialogue.
Negotiation – consider what your needs are and what the other persons are. Consider outcomes that would address what you
both want.
Assertiveness – appropriate assertiveness is being able to state your case without arousing the defenses of the other person.
Seeking assistance – e.g. from elders, religious institutions, councilors.
1. The courts.
2. Religious institutions.
3. Committees can be formed to hold for conflict resolution.
4. Council of elders.
Co-operation – When people work together they are able to come up with solutions that are acceptable to both parties.
Humility – If you are humble you will be willing to make compromises. You will be understanding and reasonable in trying to
resolve conflict.
Tolerance – You will not take offence when others express views that are different from your own. You avoid becoming angry
and resulting to violence.
Responsibility – As a responsible person you will pursue non-violent means of resolving conflict.
NEGOTIATION
Definition: refers to the process through which differing parties come up with a solution that is agreeable to both parties it may
involve compromises by both parties.
negotiations can also be defined as the process through which one is able to get what he/she wants.
Importance of negotiations
1. coexistence through negotiation people accommodate each other desires and beliefs. they are also able to resolve their
differences in a friendly way thus live in peace.
2. conflict resolution- negotiations allows people to resolve their conflicts in a peaceful way without loss of live or damage to
property. when there is conflict people engage in discussions and reach a peaceful compromise.
3. enhances interpersonal relations. in our relationship with other people we often have differences concerning issues through
negotiations. we come up with agreements or solutions that leave each party feeling satisfied.
4. formation and maintenance of friendship. people who may not haver been friends may engage in negotiation to resolve some
differences between them during these processes or after the individuals may discover they have some things in common and
a friendship may develop.
5. empathy enhanced- during negotiations the parties are given a chance to explain themselves this gives each party an
opportunity to see the situation from the other point of view in therefore enables them to emphatize with each other.
1. assertiveness- when negotiating being assertive will enable you to stand up for what you want and defend your rights.
passiveness may result in taken advantage of. aggressiveness may lead to violence.
2. knowledge on the subject matter- being knowledgeable about the subject of negotiation gives you confidence and the ability to
come up with alternatives.
3. effective communication- this ensures that you able to state your opinions and positions without being misunderstood.
4. empathy- you will be able to put yourself in the position of another. you will also understand why someone is taking a
particular position. you will make harsh judgments and appropriate compromise.
5. self awareness- it ensures that we use our strengths and seek help over our weaknesses to ensure that the negotiations are
successful.
6. calmness- it ensures that you are able to think clearly through issues. you will also be able to express yourself clearly and to
listen to others. you will not engage in violence and disrupt the process.
1.Business transaction- negotiation is necessary in order to get the best e.g. cut in prices or more items or better qualities.
2. conflict in relationships- sometimes we get into conflicts with the people we have a relationship with negotiation we can
resolve the conflict and the relationship.
3. marriage- negotiation will be necessary to ensure no one feels taken advantaged of i.e. financial responsibility.
4. harmful traditional practices- there are certain cultural practices that may be harmful to our health go against our values or
interfere with our goals for example early marriages or FGM.
5. human rights violation- the enjoyment of your right may violate the right of others therefore negotiation is needed in order to
avoid violating the rights of others e.g. listen to loud music as others want to read.
6. when in risk situation of danger using negotiation you can get out of a risk situation without getting harmed. you can convince
whoever is threatening you not to cause harm.
7. child neglect -i.e. not providing basic needs. the neglected child can engage the parent in negotiation in order to rectify the
situation.
1. Establishing the key of concern –it means being clear about what you are disagreeing about.
2. identifying the parties involved –it include all those people who are involved in the process this will ensure that they accept the
solution because they were involved in coming up with them.
3. presentations of ideas by the concerned parties –these concerned or their representatives explain their situation from their
perspective. they also make suggestion on how to resolve the disagreement. mutual points of agreement between the two
parties should be identified.
4. consensus building –this means working to reach an agreement. it involves giving and taking where the parties concern make
compromises and offers until an agreement is reached. you should make settlements that will last and be acceptable to both
sides.
= Decision making is the ability to think and come up with a solution or way forward to an issue or difficult situation. It is about
making choices.
Career choice –There are many careers that exist decision making will help us weigh our abilities against various careers so
that we make good choices.
Choosing to live a drug free life –It is important to not to engage in drug abuse, understand the effects of drug abuse on your
health. Consequences of drug abuse on your relationships. Consequences to the law and ways of avoiding drug abuse.
Avoiding harmful cultural practices –There are some cultural practices that are harmful making it important for us to avoid
engaging in them. We are required to make a decision because there is a lot of pressure from friends and adults to participate
in them.
Dealing with peer pressure and peer influence –in making decisions to resist or accept peer pressure or influence ask yourself
whether it is beneficial to you, whether it will help you achieve your goals or if it is against the values and the law, if it has
negative consequences resist it if it is beneficial to accept it.
Mass media influence –You must make a deliberate decision on which mass media content to pay attention to and which one
to avoid. Weigh the content against your values and expectations avoid those that go against our expectations for example
pornographic materials.
Use of leisure time –You need decision making skills to decide on what to do to make effective use of your free time for
example activities and their consequences. Available resources to carry out their activity and the benefits of these activities.
Choice of religion –While some regions have positive teachings and healthy practices. Others have negative teachings which
may be harmful; you require decision making skills to choose which religion to follow. Are the religion and its practices legal
and the teaching agreeable with the values?
Physical and emotional abuse –People in abusive environments have several choices for example suffer in silence confront the
abuser, seek help or revenge. Decision making skills enables people to make appropriate decisions depending on the situation.
Choosing a healthy lifestyle –It involves personal hygiene, eating nutritious meals, exercising, having adequate rest and
avoiding activities that may harm your health.
Factors that influence decision making
Personal interest –You are more likely to make a choice in favor of what you like or against what you don’t like you make decisions
based on what benefits you will get.
Values –People tend to make decision that do not conflict with their values e.g. if you are honest you will not make decision that
involve cheating or lying.
State of the mind –If you are angry you are likely to make rash in decisions without thinking through them properly.
Information —Having adequate and appropriate information enables one to make effective decisions. Inadequate information
limits your options.
Influence of friends –You are likely to make decisions that are similar to those of our friends. We also have to make decisions that
make our peer happy.
Media influence –Radio, TV, newspaper, magazines, internet affect the way we make decisions. Some people make decisions based on
what they heard or saw a person in the media do.
Personality –While some people are conscious others are impulsive some are outgoing while others are quiet and reserved people will
make decisions that suit their personality.
Social cultural factors –The cultural beliefs and practices we have acquired will play a part in the decision we make. We often make
decision in line with our beliefs and practices.
Degree of challenge –Some challenges require that we make decisions that are critical and reversible. Such decisions require that
you pay them a lot of attention.
Personal goals and ambitions –Your goals and ambitions will greatly influence your decisions.
1. Education :
2. Dropping out of school.
3. Poor grades.
4. Poor concentration in class.
5. Likely to miss classes very often.
6. Health :
7. Contracting diseases like STI, HIV and diseases.
8.
9. Injuries to your body.
10. Poor body functions.
11. Social :
12. Conflicts and disagreements.
13. Drugs and substance abuse.
14. Teenage pregnancy.
15. Legal area :
16. Being arrested and jailed.
17. Paying fines.
18. Doing community service.
19. Spiritually :
20. Joining cults.
21. Emotional/physiological area :
22. Stress and anxiety.
23. Low self esteem.
24. Mental breakdown.
1. Identify and define the problem –this involves determining the real problem rather than just dealing with the symptoms.
2. Problem diagnosis –example extend seriousness.
3. Explore possible options –exam the advantages and disadvantages of each option.
4. Choosing the best option –choose the option with the greatest benefits or advantage.
5. Implement the decision –make a plan on how to implement the decision then carry out the plan.
6. Evaluate the decision –determine whether it is working or not. If it is not working begin the process.
1.
2. Schools and colleges.
3.
4. Peer arbitrators.
5. Religious bodies.
1. Honest: It enables you to seek help that you need in making a decision and also appreciate the consequences.
Integrity: Without integrity one can be bribed to make a decision that can have negative consequences on the individual and others.
Peace: You will make decision that will bring peace and calmness of mind.
2. Kindness: You will take the welfare of others into consideration when making decision.
CRITICAL THINKING
= It refers to a very keen evaluation of a problem, situation or cause of action; Faced with demands, expectations from peer,
parents and adverts, music etc.
= It’s evaluating a challenge from a different perspective you do not take things at base value but find out more about an issue.
Risky situations
1. Going to a bar.
2. Attending unruly parties.
3. Getting involved in riots.
4. Becoming drunk.
= Integrity – you make decision based on facts rather than personal preferences
CREATIVE THINKING
Definition: It means using our imagination to come up with innovative ideas of looking at problems issues or situations.
It means coming up with new ideas, procedures and alternatives of resolving a problem or dealing with a situation.
1. In abusive circumstances creative thinking can help you find ways to escape from the abusive environment and event and
report or alert other people about the abuse.
2. Bullying- using creative thinking to avoid the possibility of it happening avoid certain places or reporting the matter without
being identified as the one who reported it.
3. Forced and early marriages- use creative thinking to escape or convince those who are forcing you to keep quite to find time to
complete your studies
4. Gender discrimination- creative thinking will help you come up with ways of dealing with the situation
5. Corruption-creative thinking will help you avoid paying bribes
Consequences of not being creative
PROBLEM SOLVING
A problem is a difficult matter, question or task that requires a solution. It is something hard to understand, accomplish or deal
with.
Problem solving is the process through which people find answers, actions or courses that effectively remove or deal with a
difficult situation.
1. At school- problem can result from poor academic performance, others are caused by disciplinary problems and interpersonal
relationships among student and staff
2. At home- domestic violence can be a problem
3. Relationships-some problems arise from the way we relate with other people, these are people who are judgmental and critical
and who always find fault with others some are arrogant and create problems for others and others lack courtesy.
4. The way we perceive ourselves-when we suffer from self image it leads to low self esteem and lack of confidence.
5. Financial problems- those who are poor lack basic needs like clothing, food and shelter, health and education. those with lots
of money misuse their money on drugs and alcohol
6. Natural calamities like earthquake. This problem is often unexpected and causes a lot of suffering to people.
1. Admitting that the problem exists- this will enable us to look for ways of dealing with the problem.
2. Being positive- problems are temporary and should not stop us from moving on
3. Seeking guidance and counseling from counselors, religious leaders people we trust our peers they may propose possible
solutions
4. Avoid rush or irrational decisions- analyze a problem and evaluate all possible solutions so that the best one is selected
5. Avoid alcohol and drugs- they may provide temporary relief but not solve the problem.
Honesty-we will be truthful and analyze the options we have before cheating
Conclusion
It’s important for us to accept we will experience problems in life some will be minor while others will be major. There are those
that can be solved and those that cannot be solved, we should confront problems realistically understand possible consequences,
find solutions where possible or learn to cope with the situation.
LEISURE
Definition: leisure refers to free time that we have to do what we enjoy. It is a break from normal work. It provides both mental
and physical relaxation from daily routine. It involves spending ones free time in a meaningful creative manner. It is beneficial to
our health that is mental, physical social and spiritual well being.
Forms of leisure
Active leisure
Passive leisure
Active leisure—here we use physical energy i.e. mountain climbing, swimming singing etc
In passive leisure we largely use mental energy i.e. reading, watching a play or a movie etc.
USES OF LEISURE
1. Entertainment:=Story telling, dances are forms of entertainment that people engage in during leisure time.
2. Religious service:=Participating in religious ceremonies, helping the needy is generally done during once leisure time.
3. Socialization:=Socializing leisure activities bring people together for sharing, entertainment and education.
4. Relaxation and enjoyment:
IMPORTANCE OF LEISURE
= It helps individuals to discover their hidden talents and develop them for useful purpose in life for example one may discover
their talent as a musician, painter and this can lead to future career.
= Leisure relaxes the mind –when we work the mind becomes tired. If we continue working in this state we find that we mistakes.
Leisure provides an opportunity to reorganize oneself for the next face of work e.g. one decides to take a nap or go for a walk.
= It releases tension, depression and anxiety as we engage our mind in positive thinking and in fulfilling our activities.
= It refreshes the body –there is need to exercise the body to be fit. There is also a need to take a rest from work and to turn to
activities that are less exhausting.
= It gives us an opportunity to visit the sick, those in prison and to welcome visitors.
= It provides time for worship and spiritual renewal. We find time to pray and to thank God.
= It enables people to enjoy their freedom. It enables us to be free from established routines.
= It can be used to do things like painting which can help a person financially.
=It’s time also that one can explore the world for example by going for walks.
Mountain climbing
1. Swimming
2. Writing
3. Painting
~~ There are people who mistake passive leisure for idleness. Idleness kills creativity. It also makes an individual a burden to
others in the community.
~~Some leisure activities require money i.e. gambling those who have no money may be tempted to steal in order to have access
to these activities.
~~Some of the programs we listen to or watch in TV or internet could influence us negatively if they promote sexual immorality
and other vices.
~~Some people may use leisure to tempt others and to lead others astray. People become drug addicts through the influence of
others especially through peer pressure.
~~If a person spends all the income on leisure activities such as drinking and gambling. A person may also spend all the time
outside the family living no time for the family i.e. time and money are spend outside the family is wrong.
~~Leisure activities that cause physical harm to the body are wrong e.g. alcoholism. When a person is drunk they weak less and
can engage in risk sexual behaviors which can lead to STIs, HIV and AIDS and pregnancy. They can also engage in criminal
activities. Leisure activities that lead to addiction is wrong (addiction is when a user becomes completely depended that cannot do
without it.)
~~Leisure activities that results in regret both now or in the future is wrong and should be avoided.
~~Diseases that are caused by smoking or drinking alcohol or drug abuse which can include mental problems.
Ø Empathy –we can use our free time to show empathy to others by visiting the sick, helping in hospitals
during our free time.
Ø Creative thinking –we can be creative in the way we use our free time even without money example;
going for walks/creative writing/drawing.
Ø Critical thinking –we should evaluate leisure activities before engaging in them.
Ø Negotiation –you can discuss with your peers about certain leisure activities are not productive and
should be avoided.
Ø Assertiveness –we should not allow ourselves to be led into wrong ways of using our free time. We
should express ourselves in a firm but respectfully way.
Values associated with leisure
Freedom ~~we should be able to choose leisure activities without being intervened or excessively influenced by others.
Honest ~~we will tell the truth about the advantages and disadvantages of various leisure activities.
Humility ~~we consider others to be as equally important as we are we will avoid hurting or disregarding others when choosing
leisure activities.
Tolerance ~~accepting others even though they hold different views beliefs and practices from our own.
ASSIGNMENT
Drug abuse:-It is the using of a substance habitually even when it may damage the body or mind.
Drug misuse:-This might be someone who takes a drug, or more of a drug that is necessary, in order to alter their perception or
thought process.
1. Peer pressure.
2. Stress in families due to family conflict.
Idleness.
1. Stress.
2. Grief.
Signs and symptoms of drug abuse.
Gets one into legal trouble –i.e. arrest for disorder conduct or stealing to support a drug.
1. It causes problems in relationships such as fights with your partners or family members, an unhappy boss.
2. You have to put up a drug tolerance by taking more drugs.
3. Loss of control over your drug use.
V. Ways of taking care and supporting the affected and infected people.
1. Educating the victims on how to prevent spread out of the disease (guidance and counseling)
2. Providing nutritious food.
3. Providing of healthcare.
4. Keeping company.
5. Washing clothes and keeping the place clean.
6. Showing love and care.
7. Provincial of capital finance.
TIME MANAGEMENT
=Time is the most valuable resource. By analyzing time usage on a regular basis it is possible to understand the most efficient
ways to use time.
=Time management refers to making the best use of time to achieve the max output in the time available.
=It is the processes of exercising control over the amount of time spent on specific activities especially to increase efficiency.
Work schedule
+It is a plan that gives a list of jobs or events together with the time at which each thing should be done. It involves blessing talks
into a timetable. You record any specific activities you need to do in a regular basis. You also leave time for relaxation and
personal needs like cleaning and laundry.
Class time
Meal time
Exercise and games
Studying time
Cleaning time
Time to get up to bed
Leisure time
1. II) At the end of the day write what you actually did in column 2 of that day so that you get a clear picture of what you did and if
you manage your time.
1. We are able to focus on priorities –We are able to identify our priorities and direct our efforts towards achieving these
priorities.
To make the best use of time you begin with your priorities.
1. Helps you attain your goals –When you manage your time well you will be able to reach your goals. You are in control of your
life and not always behind schedule.
2. Sense of direction –you will not be distracted by other activities that end up wasting your time.
3. Reduces stress –When you manage your time well you will not be overwhelmed and this reduces stress. You will know how to
deal with unforeseen circumstances that can disturb your schedule.
4. Client satisfaction or customers satisfaction –You will get important satisfaction done on time and you will be more effective
and productive this ensures customer satisfaction.
Allowing people to disturb you during periods that you have designated for work later then saying I am working go away or please
come back later.
4) Work in blocks of time –keep most effective time for hard task.
7) Learn from your experience that is determine which activities where productive and which one were not and avoid those one.
8) Question your time use e.g. do I set priorities when deciding which activities to do.
1. A) Responsibility –we will be answerable for our actions and do what is require of us without being asked hence manage our
home well.
2. B) Honest –we will tell ourselves the truth of how we use our time.
3. C) Simplicity –we will be uncomplicated and use our time well
Assignment
CHILD LABOUR
+Child –according to the laws of Kenya a child is a person below the age of 18 years. However, according to the international labor
organization convention number 138 of 1996 .The minimum age of admission for employment is 14 years (compare to
employment at 2007)
Child work
=Not all the work done by children should be classified as child labor that should be targeted for elimination. Children
participation in work that does not affect their health and personal development or interferes with their schooling is generally
regarded as something positive. It include:-
=These activities contribute to child development and welfare of the family, they provide children with experience and skills and
prepare them to be productive members of the society in future.
CHILDREN LABOUR
=It is giving children a job that should be done by adult to earn a living.
=It refers to work that deprives children of their childhood their potential and their dignity and that are harmful to physical and
mental development.
=It refers to the work that is mentally, physical, socially, morally, dangerous and harmful to children and interferes with their
schooling by depriving them of the opportunity to attend school, making them leaving school prematurely or requiring them to
attempt to combine school attendants with excessively long hours and heavy work.
1. Herding
2. Farm hand
3. Hawking
4. House helping
5. Child helping in plantations
6. Drug trafficking
1. All forms of slavery or practices similar i.e. selling and trafficking of children , death bondage and surf dorm and compulsory
labor, recruitment of children for use in harmed conflict
2. Use of children in child prostitution or production of pornography
3. Working under the difficult conditions e.g. very long hours during night or working where the child is confined in the premises
of the employer
4. Use of children in drug trafficking
1. POVERTY- lack of money forces the child to work in order to help their parent to acquire basic needs.
2. DEATH- some children work because they have lost their parents they have nobody to feed them. They work to raise money for
their fees or siblings.
3. DROPPING OUT OF SCHOOL- some children have dropped out of school e.g. because of pregnancy, indiscipline, lack of school
fees, poor academic these have lead them taking up a job to earn money.
4. LACK OF SCHOOLING- there are children who have never had a chance to go to school e.g. because of parent ignorance, lack of
interest and cultural values. These children often start wage employment at early age.
5. CULTURAL VALUE- some children drop out of school due to cultural values i.e. circumcision. They see no need of schooling
once they have been circumcised and declared as adult they regard schooling as a task for children.
6. LURE BY EMPLOYER- since children are a source of cheap labor employer lures them into wage employment. Since children do
not understand their labor rights they are exploited by the employers they may be underpaid or overworked. They may work
for many gears or casual.
Quiz
=Negotiation—get the parent’s views/opinions about child labor and makes them understand the negative effects of child labor.
=Assertiveness—we should teach our children to be assertive i.e. to express their views clearly and firmly without disrespecting
others/their parents.
HUMAN RIGHTS
=They bare rights and freedoms that all people are entitled to regardless of nationality, age, sex, ethnic religion, race, religion,
language or social status. Human rights are universal with all people having equal rights by ________ of being human they may exist
as natural rights or as legal rights in both national and international law.
=Every person is entitled to fundamental human rights simply by the fact of being human they are rights because there are things
you are allowed to do or to have. Rights are for our protection, they also help us get along with other and live in peace.
=The Kenyan constitution out lines the rights and freedom of an individual. These rights are derived UN (United Nation)
declaration of human rights and have been widely adapted by many countries of the world.
Right to life.
Right to education.
Right to marry and raise a family.
Right to vote.
Right to work to provide for personal necessities.
Protection of freedom of religion.
Protection of freedom of movement.
Protection from slavery and forced labor.
Protection of private property.
Protection of freedom of expression and speech.
1. Political
2. War within political leaders.
3. Power overthrown of government.
4. Choosing of wrong leaders.
5. Police state—police entering into your house and throwing away property inside your house.
6. Curfews i.e not entering a certain border.
7. Detention without trials—denying people’s rights.
8. Rigging of election.
9. Civil wars __________.
10. Censorship—when the state wants to control what they are watching, reading.
11. Mass murder—many people being killed i.e. from one tribe.
12. People are exiled to other countries.
13. Underground movement—i.e. mungiki.
14. Political assassination.
Social effects
1. Displacement of people.
2. Denial of right to educate.
1. Female circumcision.
2. Child labor.
3. Children dropping out of school.
Destruction of property.
Economic effects
Restriction to work.
1. Corruption.
2. Poor infrastructure.
3. Unjust wedges i.e. paying 3000 instead of 7000/=
=Human rights abuses are monitored by UN committees, government and non-government organizations/including human
international. These organizations collect evidence and documentation of alleged human rights abuses and applied pressure to
enforce human right loss.
= Needs- basic human needs are those things that are required for complete physical and mental well being. They are divided
into:-
Physical needs—these are needs for the survival of an individual. They include water, food, sleep, exercise, shelter, clothing
GENDER EDUCATION.
=Gender– it is the way society assigns roles, responsibility and power to men and women, girls and boys in a given culture.
=It is the way boys and girls are brought up and made to learn what it means to be b0ys or men and girls or women. It’s related
how women and men are perceived or perceives themselves and are expected to think and act because of their social differences.
=Girls and boys learn who they are and the tasks assigned to them through socialization, observation and imitation, boys imitate
what older boys and men do as dictated by culture. Girls learn what they see older girls and workmen doing.
=Sex-It’s the biological and physiological make up of males and females as determined by nature.
Sex roles
+These are tasks and functions done by males and females based on their biological make up for example the female role of
giving birth and breastfeeding and the male role of fertilizing the egg are biologically determined.
Gender roles
~They are tasks and functions assigned to women and girls, men and boys based on their sexy roles.
~Gender roles are learned, they vary among cultures and changed overtime. It is the society that determines what role is
appropriate for each gender. If the society is sensitized to the _______ of these roles, it can change to create a more just system.
~Because of giving birth, workers are expected to nurture and look after children. This leads people to think that child _______
cannot be done by women only.
~Gender roles are not biologically determined, they are interchanged. What is done by men in one society may be done by
women in another.
Agents of socialization:
1.
— Children are brought up differently and given different opportunities at home. Girls from a very early age are socialized and
given work to look after younger siblings.
— Boys look after animals and plays. It is within the family that gender identifies starts to build e.g. the type of toys bought for
girls from those bought for boys this signify the roles that boys and girls will grow to perform. Girls are bought dolls, plates and
cups while boys are bought toys, cars and toy guns.
2.
— As the children grow they are socialized on what it’s to be a boy or a girl in a particular society e.g. how to dress, talk, seat, and
work.
— Girls learn to be feminine while boys learn to be masculine conformity to the same behavior is encourage and rewarded while
non-conformity is punished.
— Society influences how girls and boys behave and what they grow to be.
3.
— The gender roles already learned at family level and affirmed at schools. A person’s self image is shaped at home, strengthen
and in school and by the community.
7/8/october/2014
decision making
1. goals
2. self esteem
3. a) Explain any two (2) causes of conflicts (4 mks)
4. b) In your own words explain the following three (3) ways of resolving conflicts.
(9 mks)
1. mediation
2. Adjudication
iii. Negotiation
1. c) . State any four (4) activities for positive use of leisure (8mks)
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