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How To Be Bold

The document discusses ways for people to become bolder by pretending to be bold, making the first move in interactions, doing something unpredictable, asking for what you want, taking risks, and rediscovering who you are. It suggests not confusing boldness with aggression and embracing potential failures as necessary for success.

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How To Be Bold

The document discusses ways for people to become bolder by pretending to be bold, making the first move in interactions, doing something unpredictable, asking for what you want, taking risks, and rediscovering who you are. It suggests not confusing boldness with aggression and embracing potential failures as necessary for success.

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How to Be Bold

Begin, be bold and venture to be wise. -Horace

If you're shy, hesitant, or passive, you run the risk of leading a boring life marked by routine and
unfulfilled goals. Most progress has been led by people who were bold--scientists, political
servants, artists, and others who didn't wait for opportunities; they created opportunities. So if you
want to be bold and unstoppable, here are some ways to kick start your momentum.

[edit] Steps

1.

Pretend you're already bold. If you were to switch places with somebody who is as bold as
bold can be, what would they do in your shoes? If you already know someone who's bold,
imagine how they'd act. If you don't know anyone like that, think of a character from a movie
or book who's daring and brave. Spend one hour a day or one day a week pretending to be
them. When you do this, go somewhere that people don't know you and won't act surprised
when you do things that are out of character. Go through the motions and see what happens--
you might discover that amazing things happen when you're bold, and you might be convinced
to carry this bold behavior into your everyday life.

2. Make the first move. Whenever you're feeling hesitant--especially in your interactions
with others--swallow your pride and make the first move. Ask your acquaintance if they'd like
to go to the bar down the street for drinks after work. Tell the person you fancy that you've got
two tickets to a concert and you'd like them to come with you. Give your significant other a big
hug and apologize for that time you overreacted a few months ago. Smile and wink at the
attractive cashier.

3.

Do something unpredictable. What could you do that would completely surprise the people
who know you? Wear high heels? Skydive? Take a dance class? Bold people aren't afraid of
trying new things, and one of the reasons they're so exciting to be around is that they keep
you guessing. You can start small, perhaps by wearing a color or style of clothing that you
don't normally wear, or visiting a place you normally wouldn't visit. Eventually, you may get to
the point where you entertain ideas that make other people's eyes widen when you mention
them ("Are you serious? White water rafting?" or "You're kidding me. You want to buy that
restaurant on 3rd Street?").

4. Ask for what you want. Rather than wait to be recognized for your efforts, or expect
someone to consider your needs, step right up to the plate and ask. Some people feel that
asking for things is greedy, selfish, and rude--and it is, if you're asking for something you don't
deserve. But if someone is withholding something that you've rightfully earned, they're the
ones being greedy, selfish, and rude. Besides, what's the worst that could happen? They say
no. Life goes on.

o Ask for that promotion or pay raise you've been waiting (and working) for.
o Ask for a discount. A little haggling can go a long way. The phrase "What can you
do for me?" is an easy and powerful way to save money.
o Ask to have your credit card's annual fee waived.
o Ask a relative, friend, or even a complete stranger for help or advice.
o Ask for clarification if you're not sure what is expected of you.
5.

Take risks. There's a difference between being reckless and accepting risks. Reckless
people don't accept risks...they don't even think about them. A bold person, on the other hand,
is well aware of the risks, and has decided to go through with the decision anyway, ready and
willing to accept the consequences if things don't work out. Think of an athlete who takes risks
every day. Are they reckless? No. It's a measured risk. You might make a mistake; we all do.
But inaction can be a mistake as well, one that leads to emptiness and regret. For many
people, having taken risks and fallen flat on their faces was far more fulfilling than having done
nothing at all.

6. Rediscover who you are. Ultimately, boldness has to do with coming from your center,
what you believe. It is not about what you do, it is about who you are. If you do not know who
you are, you can never be truly bold. Start really appreciating your uniqueness. Discover what
makes you different and then parade it around for all to see. Put flags on it, call attention to it
and love yourself for it no matter what others think. That is the heart of boldness.

[edit] Tips

 Don't confuse being bold with being aggressive. Aggressiveness often involves imposing
your viewpoints or actions on others. Boldness has nothing to do with the people around you;
it's about overcoming your fears and taking action.

 Don't worry about rejection. Try to make your invitations to others occur as "without
consequence," i.e., the opposite of an invitation from your mother to dinner. Conversely, when
your invitation is declined, boldly accept it and leave the other person/people feeling okay with
their choice.
 While there's power in taking on something new, there's also a greater chance of failure
because of your lack of experience. Embrace the failure; it's not the opposite of success, it's a
necessary component. The opposite of success is sitting still.

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