Keziah Murielle D.

Mores

1. Can Divorce Harm children? Should marriage be preserved for the sake of children? Is it better
to secure the kids against seeing unhappy parents? Does such family give a distorted
understanding?

When both parents are not satisfied with each other and an argument keeps happening, it can result
in sharing a feeling of resentment towards each other. These can trigger a variety of emotions and result
in filing a divorce. Divorce is a process that couples do to terminate their marriage. In our modern
society, it has been one of the focuses of public attention and discussions in mass media. It is a social
problem that causes numerous effects on our social life, especially on the modern generation. Divorce is
horrible involvement in a man's life, particularly a child's.

Going back to the question, can divorce harm children? Yes. The harm of it is much more detectable
to the offspring than to the guardians. There are plenty of factors related to the harm of divorce. They
can include financial, economic, social, emotional, psychological, behavioral, academic, and other mental
problems that affect the child's development and growth. Divorce can be hard on kids in that it might
force them to manage sudden changes in their lives since they have to deal with seeing their parents
separated or be with other people, which leaves them with a ton of unanswered questions.

As a child, numerous circumstances influence a view, feeling, behavior, and memory. The child's age
plays a crucial part in how it deals with the stress of the separation. Younger children display a higher
sense of self-blame, acting-out behaviors, regression, and shows more feelings of rejection and
abandonment. Older children may have anger issues and show extreme anger towards the parent
perceived to carry the responsibility for the separation. The harm may differ based on the gender of the
child. For example, the son may be prone to violence, criminal tendencies, and delinquency while, the
daughter may be prone to skipping school, sexual promiscuity, running away, and acting out. The incident
can be terrible for some kids since they may not comprehend what guardians are experiencing

Another problem that may arise after the separation is the hatred towards one another. The child
gets trapped within the fight. The child is now conflicted in choosing sides. Or the need to move from
household to household to spend time with each respective parent. In some cases, this can be very flexible
and the child can adjust to this method, but going back and forth can be difficult and upsetting since some
parents quarrel on whether the child spent more time with one of them than the other. The child feels
like it was not the time with them that mattered. Instead, it was only whether one of parent won the tug
of war. However, if one or both parents may decide upon taking sole custody of the child or, the child will
choose a side to either leave with its mother or live with its father. These can lead to other problems like
the lack of a mother figure or a father figure. In the meantime, if the parent that the child chose is
financially unstable, the child might have to endure it. The parent may need to do extra work and, in this
manner having them experience hardships. And extra work may result in a lack of attention for the child
since the parent might be busy. The lack of attention from parents may cause many problems such as
addiction towards mobile gadgets, separation anxiety, social withdraw, behavior problems, etc.

Situations like these can have adverse harm on the child and cause them to be at the risk of having
after-effects. Furthermore, some effects may not end in childhood but can also take into adulthood. These
can also result in the child having different views of social concepts like love, family, and marriage. For
example, the child may show anger issues, insecurity, fear of abandonment, need for constant
reassurance, attachment issues, trust issues, overthinking ( that their partner will cheat ), higher levels of
depression, and more problems with peers. Divorce can also affect the area of school work and academic
studies. In some cases, children of divorced parents can be negatively affected in academics and social
adjustments, as they have problems focusing on their studies or behaving in school due to the separation.

In conclusion, divorce can harm a child in many ways and some damages can be seen in the child’s
future. If the child fails to manage the separation properly, it may affect them to the point that they may
encounter the same problems in the future, such as marriage problems, and have to go through a divorce
themselves.

Back to the next question, should marriage be preserved for the sake of children? It depends on the
parent. Yes, since if both the parents are on good terms and they are selfless enough that they are willing
to neglect their happiness and provide a healthy home for the child. These should be a consideration. But,
there are extraordinary circumstances that are beyond your control. For instance, when a spouse
constantly belittles the other, reducing that person to a human being with no self-esteem, it is time to file
a divorce.

And no, the parents should stay in their marriage for the sake of their marriage. How can the parents
establish a happy and healthy family if they do not love each other? If the parents preserved the marriage
for the child and all the vibe that they can feel is toxic and unhappiness. It can be a problem. It connects
to the question, is it better to secure the kids against seeing unhappy parents? Yes, it is best to keep
fighting parents away from one another since it does more harm and damage to a child than a divorce
ever would. They may see how unhappy and toxic a relationship is. If they grow up in this environment,
the cycle of toxicity will continue in their future relationships.

For the last question. Does such family give a distorted understanding? An arguing family gives a
distorted meaning to children. For instance, the children are most likely to adopt and develop the kind of
behavior within their environment. The perception of relationships is another mindset that could be
altered. If the children withness their parents argue all the time, they would interpret this as how any
other married couple would act. It will be embedded upon the child that a toxic chaotic family setting is a
normal. Otherwise, this could lead to a cluster of traumatic thoughts and experiences. It can also change
their perception of love. Growing up with toxic parents can make them lose hope in love. The child may
believe that love does not exist since they have seen how their parents never show love to each other or
have seen them get out of love.

In conclusion, children tend to adapt behaviors and mindsets to the environment they live within. If
their parents know how to handle the divorce well, then their child may grow up fine. But if the parents
are toxic, their child might grow up like them.