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Task 3:

Pick the word/term from the box which best applies to the pictures displayed
below. Write the words in your activity notebook.

Attraction Relationships
Love Commitment
Personal relationships

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What is It

BASIC DEFINITIONS

1. Relationship
- a relation between people; a state of
connectedness between people (especially an
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emotional connection)

2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between

friends, lovers and family.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy
and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social
support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

*Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the
Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or
adoption and who live together as one household." But many people have family
they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family
vary across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime.

*Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often
built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and
James Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find
that the average person has about six close ties—though some have more, and
many have only one or none.

*Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.
We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.

3. Love
- strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities. -
attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers
- affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.

4. Commitment
- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action

5. Attraction
- attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement
- a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

6. Responsibility
- a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something
or being responsible for one’s conduct
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is

compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and
happy life. Conversely, the health risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are
comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood pressure, and
obesity.

Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:

• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social
relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely.

• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer
against the effects of stress.

• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college

students who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to the virus.

• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000

people found that doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your
wellbeing as a 50% increase in income!

On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health

consequences, such as:

• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with depression,

and now research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast cancer
patients found that those with fewer satisfying social connections experienced higher
levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

• Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a
correlation between loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a
lack of social connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.

• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a

group of 229 adults over five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood
pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of isolation have long-lasting
consequences.

According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, social

alienation is an inevitable result of contemporary society's preoccupation with
materialism and frantic "busy-ness." Their decades of research support the idea that
a lack of relationships can cause multiple problems with physical, emotional, and
spiritual health. The research is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.
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10 WAYS TO EXPRESS LOVE

Here are 10 ways to express love to your special someone, your friends,
family, children. By expressing love, we bring ourselves joy knowing that love is not
just a Valentine's Day moment, but an ongoing, free-flowing experience that enriches
our lives.
1. Express gratitude. Tell someone how much you appreciate their presence in
your life.
2. Send flowers. Do it for no reason other than to say “Thank you for being you.”
3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a date if you must, in your own
home or at a quiet little neighborhood place, for coffee or a drink and just
listen to each other’s thoughts.
4. Keep anger at bay. During stressful times think of this image. If an ember flies
from a fireplace onto your rug, it will burn a hole. Flick it off immediately and
the rug is safe.
5. Be thoughtfully generous with gifts. Remember what is special about a person
in your life and buy gifts that are unique to them.
6. Order fortune cookies. Find ones with love sayings. You might also
intersperse with gratitude sayings.
7. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or someone you care about, “What
can I do for you today that will make your life easier and less stressful?” Then
do it.
8. Write a note. Here’s a simple start: “I am so grateful that you are in my life. I
love you for a million reasons. Here are the top three.”
9. Make time. Arrange to be together for events that bring you both pleasure.
10. Be forgiving. We all have quirks. When one surfaces that makes you want to
scream, either gently say something or switch to the positive-quality channel.

In the book, Around the Year with Emmet Fox: A Book of Daily Readings, Fox
challenges us to make this commitment by saying: “I have chosen the path of Love.
My own heart is to be my workshop, my laboratory, my great enterprise, and love is
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gratitude/201304/10-ways-express-love

What’s More

Copy the banner provided below in your activity notebook, then, write a
saying or quote inside it which expresses your ways of showing attraction, love and
commitment. Here’s a sample:
 “I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving
communication, appreciation, and understanding.” Miranda Kerr

Assessment

Matching Type. Match the terms in Column A with its appropriate meaning in
Column B. Write the letter of your choice in your activity notebook.
 A B
___1. A relation between people A. responsibility
___2. A close tie between two people that is often built B. relationship
___3. An attraction based on sexual desire: affection C. personal
and tenderness felt by lovers. relationships
___4. It refers to relationships between people, D. commitment
especially those between friends, lovers and family E. friendship
___5. A form of trustworthiness; the trait of being F. love
answerable to someone for something or being G. partnerships
responsible for one’s conduct.
H. attraction
___6. Attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination;
I. sadness J. family
allurement; enticement.
K. gratitude
___7. The act of binding yourself (intellectually or
emotionally) to a course of action.
___8. Refers to close relationships formed between
two people that are built upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic love.
___9. Tell someone how much you appreciate their
presence in your life.
___10. Two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household.

Additional Activities

The statements below are some relationships Do’s and Don’ts you can remind
yourselves of when entering a teen or romantic relationship. Supply the blank with
either a DO or a DON’T depending upon your understanding of its context. Write
your answer in your activity notebook.
1. ______ look for someone you feel comfortable with
2. ______ forget your friends
3. ______ be your own person
4. ______ know the difference between good and bad conflict
5. ______ know the signs of an abusive relationship