OUR LADY OF GRACE SCHOOL

Manzon, San Carlos City, Pangasinan

S.Y. 2022-2023

“EVERY LEARNER MATTERS, EVERY MOMENT COUNTS”

QUARTER 2: LEARNING MODULE # 3

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 11
Grade 11

LESS2. Personal relationships - ON 7

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you make
in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important
lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to develop. All
relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this is especially important when you
decide to date someone.

WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships refer to
close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often
grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences. Relationships are not static; they are
continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration,
practice, and social support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this varies
greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons who
are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household." But many people
have family they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary
across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a family are
support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of
community. Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its definition has
evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family structures and roles can
provide as much comfort and support as traditional forms.

Friends

A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each
other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network researchers and
authors of the book Connected, find that the average person has about six close ties—though some
have more, and many have only one or none. Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—
research indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life
friends.

Partnerships

Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people that
are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience this kind of
relationship with only one person at a time.

BASIC DEFINITIONS
1. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of connectedness between people (especially
an emotional connection) relationships between people, especially those between friends, lovers and
family members

3. Love - strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities <maternal love for a child>
- attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers -affection based on
admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates>

4. Commitment - the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action - a

message that makes a pledge.

5. Attraction - the act, power, or property of attracting - attractive quality; magnetic charm;
fascination; allurement; enticement - a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

6. Responsibility - the social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded by that force - a
form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being responsible
for one’s conduct.

MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by couples:

1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet
relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
2. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress, long-term illness, mental
health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many more
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most
serious relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other
issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess /
knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It is not always
women who complain about this relationship problem!

NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family
One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. But Blue
Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have something
in common: they put their families first. Family support can provide comfort, support, and even
influence better health outcomes while you are sick.
Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that expressing gratitude toward
a partner can strengthen the relationship, and this positive boost is felt by both parties—the
one who expresses gratitude and the one who receives it. Remembering to say “thank you”
when a friend listens or your spouse brings you a cup of coffee can set off an upward spiral of
trust, closeness, and affection.
Learn to forgive
It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how to
handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process. Choosing to forgive can bring
about a variety of benefits, both physical and emotional.
Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other party has
listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.
Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a
gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate toward another person—
whether a romantic partner, friend, relative, or colleague—you open the gates for better
communication and a stronger bond.
This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather,
compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs aren’t
being met and feeling motivated to help them. We are an imitative species: when compassion
is shown to us, we return it.
Accept others
It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship. Obviously, this does
not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you need foremost to protect
yourself. But otherwise, try to understand where the person is coming from rather than judge
them. As you do for yourself, have a realistic acceptance of the other's strengths and weaknesses
and remember that change occurs over time.

Activity
Questions:

1. Do all relationships have issues?

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2. How do you address a problem in a relationship?

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3. Why are relationships important to us humans?

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