Reading: SELF-CONCEPT

Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self?
Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics
similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your actual self, however, is the one that you
actually see. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.

The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-concept refers to your
awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In other words, it connotes
first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the
behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide
insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we think, how we
feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing
how others view us, the actual self is our self-image.

The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have developed
over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal self could include components of
what our parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we
think is in our best interest.

There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there are numerous
exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are
adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult
development. Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I
want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I
am is not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the
greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules ultimate aim is greater self-
knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these two personality domains.

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Portfolio Output No. 1 - Talent/Variety Show Presentation Your group shall have a presentation in front
of the class. The leaders of each group (including yours) shall rate your group based on the following
criteria: originality (4 points), creativity/resourcefulness (4 points), teamwork (4 points), and audience
impact (4 points), for a maximum of 16 points. Compute the average of ratings for your group and write
this average rating for your presentation in your journal. Write about your experience as a group
leader/member in this activity.
Reading: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources talents, skills, energy and time, to
enable you to achieve life goals. Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts
directly on your personal effectiveness. Being self-aware, making the most of your strengths. learning
new skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your personal performance.

Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics - talent and experience accumulated in
the process of personal development. Talents first are needed to be identified and then developed to be
used in a particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, etc.). Experience includes
knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and practical activities.

Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and risk assessment.

Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance with the plan. If the same ability
is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs automatically,
subconsciously. Here are some skills that will greatly increase the efficiency of any person who owns
them:

1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less
important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.

2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of

3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles - problems, laziness,
bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed with the
help of self- discipline exercise.

4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and other
people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of information creates
the risk of negative consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively changing
environment.

5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience. It
increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.

6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no one has tried
to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly
increased when using creative tools.

7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas. Idea is a
mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can be changed before being
implemented in the real world. For generating ideas you can use a method of mental maps, which
allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the
emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but the most important personal effectiveness skills
which make the achievement of any goal easier and less costly.

Reading: BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized but not given
appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in communications, personality or ability.
Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading,
attend personality development sessions or whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived
weakness.

Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them,
utilize them to your greatest advantage. This is where that they have a golden voice so they search for
ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international fame in the field of music.

you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and other blind singers
did not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized

Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming a Winner. A Workbook on Personality Development and
Character Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro
Manila.

Portfolio Output No. 2: Journal Reflection from My Banner

Write about your banner.

1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and talents?

2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or compensate weakness?

3. How can you further enrich your assets and strengths? 4. Where and how do you use it to your best
advantage?

Reading: Story: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE

There are three kinds of people in this world:

The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the movie of their lives, admires some parts and
criticizes others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she says the whole day is, "I like this thing and
but I don't like that thing." The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely no control of their lives except to
comment about it. Moviegoers are the most pathetic, miserable people in the world.

The second is the Actor. This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes
she's the Actor - and can control a big part of her life. She can actually make or break the movie - by how
well she delivers her lines and how she portrays her character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing
they're the start of the show and enjoy some level of control. But many times, they wish the movie
would end in another way- but realize that they have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not only watch, and she doesn't only act, but she actually
creates the entire movie from her mind. She determines what she will say, what she will do, and how
the movie will end. She realizes she has enormous control over her life, and sees to it that the movie of
her life will turn out beautiful.

Who are you among these three people? Do you merely watch your life go y?

Or do you act out a script that you feel has been handed to you?

Or do you write the script and make your life beautiful?

By the way, the Producer of the movie is God. He tells you, "Make the movie beautiful, and I will give
you all that you need for success."

Source: Sanchez, Bo. (2006). Life Dreams Success Journal: Your Powerful Tool to Achieve and Surpass
Your Dreams One Step at a Time. Shepherd's Voice Publishing.