Unit 1: Self-Development

KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING ONESELF DURING MIDDLE AND LATE

01 ADOLESCENCE

Self-Concept - These exchanges are exemplified in social

roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and
- Self-concept refers to your awareness of are derived from outcomes of social
yourself. interactions from infant to adult
- It is the construct that negotiates these two development.
selves.
- In other words, it connotes first the Alignment is important.
identification of the ideal self as separate from
others, ALIGNMENT INCONGRUENCE
- And second, it encompasses all the behaviors
evaluated in the actual self that you engage in - If the way that I am – - If the way that I am
to reach the ideal self. the actual self is is not aligned with
- The actual self and the ideal self are two aligned with the way how I want to be,
broad categories of self-concept. that I want to be, the the incongruence,
ideal self, then I will or lack of
Actual Self feel a sense of alignment, will
- It is the one that you actually see. mental well-being or result in mental
- It is the self that has characteristics that you peace of mind. distress or anxiety.
were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have. - Personal - The greater the
- The actual self is built on self-knowledge. development level of
- Self-knowledge is derived from social modules ultimate aim incongruence
interactions that provide insight into how is greater self between the ideal
others react to you. knowledge that will self and real self,
- The actual self is who we actually are. lead to higher the greater the level
- It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act. alignment between of resulting distress.
- The actual self can be seen by others, but these two
because we have no way of truly knowing how personality
others view us, the actual self is our domains.
self-image.

Ideal Self Personal Effectiveness

- Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to - Personal effectiveness means making use of
be. all the personal resources – talents, skills,
- It is the one that you hope will possess energy and time, to enable you to achieve life
characteristics similar to that of a mentor or goals.
some other worldly figure. - Your knowledge of yourself and how you
- The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we manage yourself impacts directly on your
want to be. personal effectiveness.
- It is an idealized image that we have - Being self-aware, making the most of your
developed over time, based on what we have strengths, learning new skills and techniques
learned and experienced. and behavioral flexibility are all keys to
- The ideal self could include components of: improving your personal performance.
- what our parents have taught us, - Our personal effectiveness depends on our
- what we admire in others, innate characteristics – talent and
- what our society promotes, and experience accumulated in the process of
- what we think is in our best interest. personal development.
- It can be other people you aspire to be, such
as idols and celebrities. Talents
- Talents first are needed to be identified and
Negotiation then developed to be used in a particular
- There is negotiation that exists between the subject area (science, literature, sports,
two selves which is complex because there politics, etc.).
are numerous exchanges between the ideal
and actual self.
Experience - It increases efficiency by adopting
new ways of achieving goals when
- Experience includes knowledge and skills obtaining a new experience.
that we acquire in the process of cognitive and 6) Creativity.
practical activities. - It allows you to find extraordinary
- Knowledge is required for setting goals, ways to carry out a specific action
defining an action plan to achieve them and that no one has tried to use.
risk assessment. - It can lead to a decrease or an
- Skills also determine whether real actions are increase of costs, but usually the
performed in accordance with the plan. speed of action is greatly increased
- If the same ability is used many times in the when using creative tools.
same situation, then it becomes a habit that 7) Generating ideas.
runs automatically, subconsciously. - It helps you achieve goals using new,
- Here are some skills that will greatly original, unconventional ideas.
increase the efficiency of any person who - Idea is a mental image of an object
owns them: formed by the human mind, which
1) Determination. can be changed before being
- It allows you to focus only on implemented in the real world.
achieving a specific goal without - For generating ideas you can use a
being distracted by less important method of mental maps, which allows
things or spontaneous desires. you to materialize, visualize and
- It may be developed with the help of scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn
self-discipline exercise. contributes to the emergence of new
2) Self-confidence. ideas.
- It appears in the process of personal - These are just some, but the most
development, as a result of getting important personal effectiveness skills
aware of yourself, your actions and which make the achievement of any goal
their consequences. easier and less costly.
- Self-confidence is manifested in
speech, appearance, dressing, gait, Build on Your Strengths and Work
and physical condition.
- To develop it, you need to learn about on Your Weaknesses
yourself and your capabilities, gain a - Most failures emanate from weaknesses
positive attitude and believe that by that are not recognized or probably recognized
performing right actions and but not given appropriate attention or remedy.
achieving right goals you will certainly - This could be a weakness in communications,
reach success. personality, or ability.
3) Persistence. - Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity,
- It makes you keep moving forward take action.
regardless of emerging obstacles - Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading,
(problems, laziness, bad emotional attend personality development sessions or
state, etc.) whatever appropriate remedies to your
- It reduces the costs of overcoming perceived weakness.
obstacles. - Instead of simply focusing on your
- It can also be developed with the help weaknesses, recognize your own talents
of self-discipline exercise. and abilities, build on them, utilize them to
4) Managing stress. your greatest advantage.
- It helps combat stress that arises in - This is where you can build your name and
daily life from the environment and popularity.
other people. - Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and
- Stress arises from the uncertainty in other blind singers did not brood over their
an unknown situation when a lack of physical handicap.
information creates the risk of - They recognized that they have a golden voice
negative consequences of your so they searched for ways to enrich that talent
actions. and now they have won international fame in
- It increases efficiency in the actively the field of music.
changing environment.
5) Problem-solving skills.
- They help cope with the problems
encountered with a lack of
experience.
You Need to Take Charge of Your The Power of Journal Writing:
Future Unfold Your Journal Journey
There are three kinds of people in this world: The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the Scriptwriter of your life.
1. Moviegoer
- This person watches the movie of their
lives, admires some parts and criticizes Four (4) practical reasons to maintain a
others. journal
- Aside from that, they do nothing else.
- All she says the whole day is, "I like this
1. It is cost-efficient and available. Emotional
thing and but I don't like that thing."
stress can be dealt with in many ways like
- The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely
talking to a friend over a cup of coffee,
no control of their lives–except to
eating, travelling, shopping. painting and
comment about it.
many more but writing is the most
- Moviegoers are the most pathetic,
inexpensive. Notebooks and pens are easy
miserable people in the world.
to find, available and do not cost so much.
2. It is preventive and pro-active. Writing
2. Actor yields self-awareness. When you write, you
- This person does not only watch the can discover your strengths and limitations.
movie of her life. You will know what your reactions are in
- She actually realizes she's the Actor and different situations and what better ways to
can control a big part of her life. prevent, avoid, or face your fears.
- She can actually make or break the 3. It is creative and productive. Journal
movie–by how well she delivers her lines writing expounds your imagination. You can
and how she portrays her character. see various dimensions of your problem,
- Actors are a happy bunch, realizing different points of view and better solutions.
they're the start of the show and enjoy 4. Lastly, it is personal and private. Unless
some level of control. you want to share your stories, you have the
- But many times, they wish the movie choice to keep them to yourself. Writing is
would end in another way–but realize your time alone. It is your way of loving
that they have no say in such things. yourself. You will not be judged by your
writing.
3. Scriptwriter
- This person does not only watch, and
You just need one (1) notebook to maintain a
she doesn't only act, but she actually
personal journal. You may use these questions
creates the entire movie from her
as you write in your journal:
mind.
- She determines 1. How do you find this day? What are the
- what she will say, positive things that happened? What are
- what she will do, and those things that made you irritated or
- how the movie will end. upset?
- She realizes she has enormous control 2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your
over her life, and sees to it that the day, what may be the greatest lesson you
movie of her life will turn out beautiful. can learn from them? What actions have you
done well and what actions can you do
better?
By the way, the Producer of the movie is God. He 3. What do you really want in life? What do you
tells you, "Make the movie beautiful, and I will want to achieve for yourself, your family, your
give you all that you need for success." community, and your country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and
big things you are thankful for? Who are the
people that made your day extra special
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