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 VOLUME 2
WOMEN'S PSYCHOLOGY AND A BOSS'
MINDSET

Indice
1. Introduzione ............................................................................... 5
1.1 The life of a Tinderboss: what awaits you ........................... 6
2. Psychology on Tinder .................................................................. 8
2.1 ............................................................................................... 8
General introduction to dating sites .......................................... 8
2.2 Male psychology ................................................................ 11
3. Women's psychology on Tinder .............................................. 17
3.2 Local girls ........................................................................... 22
3.3. Foreigners and tourists ..................................................... 23
3.4 Psychology of Women on Tinder dates ............................. 25
3.5 Advanced Women's Psychology: Types of Women on
Tinder........................................................................................ 26
4. Mindset Tinderboss .................................................................. 31
4.1 Mindset Tindeboss: why are YOU on Tinder? ................... 31
4.2 Mindset TinderBoss: It's not all up to you!......................... 33
5. Refusal Management............................................................... 38

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 5.1 Management after the first date: NEVER CRUMBLE! ........ 42
5.2 How to deal with matches and opportunities based on
your psychological state ........................................................... 44
5.3 How to manage the abundance of women ........................ 46
6. Conclusion ............................................................................... 49

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 1.
Introduction

Welcome to the second volume of Tinderboss. Before

we deal with the most practical topics, chatting and
dating (which you will find in the third volume), we
must address two issues of fundamental importance
for effective and lasting results: the psychology of
women and their Mindset. In this volume we will see
the answer to some important questions: why are
women on Tinder? What are they really looking for?
What different types of women use the app? And
much more to make sure we understand as much as
we can of the female mentality. We will also see the
Mindset that you need to have both to get the most
out of Tinder and to experience the whole process
with serenity, without too much attachment to the
result. This part I think is even more important than
everything that concerns the technical and practical
aspects. So I suggest that you do not underestimate it
and pay the utmost attention to it.

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 1.1
The life of a Tinderboss: what awaits you

As soon as you start to getting good results and

understand that you can base most of your love and
sexual life on this app... things will change a bit for
you: you will find yourself chatting with 6-7- girls at
the same time, having 3-4 dates with random girls
and having to face a radical change. In fact, most of
the girls you'll see will seem to come out of nowhere.
Sometimes it will be good for you, sometimes it will
be bad for you. You'll also have to be patient and
move around a lot to go fishing around your city.

So if you've always been on your couch so far

(because the app actually allows you to pick them up
while sitting at home), you'll have to start moving
around a lot during the first phase to get results.
A TinderBoss life is very interesting. Throughout this

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volume we will develop all the different aspects that
you need to get an effective Midnset to manage
more chats together and go out with 4-5 girls (even
6-7) per month: a variety of women that few can
have and that very few can manage. So let's go
straight to the point and start to see the psychology
of Tinder.

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 2.
Psychology on Tinder

2.1
General introduction to dating sites

Dating sites have a huge advantage over other social

networks (Facebook, Instagram, etc. ..): the intention
of the members is obvious. In fact, all the people who
are on Tinder, men and women, are on the app to
meet new people (some women only want to keep
these meetings strictly restricted to the chat, we'll
focus on this later).

If you are on Tinder, it is to meet new people and this

greatly simplifies the approach because you have far
fewer barriers when it comes to approaching others.
In social networks like Facebook and Instagram, girls
are there essentially out of vanity and to keep in

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touch with people they already know. So, on these
platforms, a cold approach can make you seem a bit
of a nuisance. That's why we're not going to talk
about Facebook and Instagram in this guide because I
want to rely exclusively on girls who have the explicit
intention of meeting new people.

Having said that, we can analyze in detail the

psychology of Tinder, both male and female: what is
a man looking for on Tinder? Why? But most of all,
what is a woman looking for on Tinder? Why? And
how can we exploit these behaviors to our
advantage?

I want to provide you with a real code to read

everything that the women of Tinder do:

- before and after the match

- before and after chatting

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-before and after the date

Cracking this code will allow you to exponentially

increase your results on Tinder, even if you have not
studied any technique of seduction.

I'm telling you this because the initial part (which is

also the most difficult one) is the cold approach and
the development of attraction: thanks to Tinder, you
can do both directly in chat. We can almost say it's
"cheating"... but the world now works like this,
women are receptive to this kind of approach and
therefore we have to take advantage of technology.

So, before exploring how a woman thinks and

behaves on Tinder, let's find out how a man usually
behaves on Tinder.

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 2.2
Male psychology
Tinder is THE social network where you can develop a
mentality of abundance. The man on Tinder usually
behaves like this:

1. Opens the application and start swiping. WITHOUT

THINKING MUCH.
The skimming is usually done afterwards (you don't
have to text whoever you don't like). In fact, one of
the best ways to develop the mentality of abundance
I told you about in the first volume, is to just scroll no
stop, see a lot of women every day and then do the
math afterwards. Remember that you have to play on
big numbers: you have to swipe right at least 100
women a day if you want to get something. Also see,
even if just for a few seconds, the pictures of 100
beautiful girls, will give you a great boost. So
basically, like as many women as possible in your
range EVERY DAY. On Tinder you have to woek on
numbers... and now you'll understand better why.

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 2.2.1
MEN ON TINDER: THE DIFFERENCES
For the sake of completeness, I will try to outline
some profiles of men that you can usually find on
Tinder.

We have these types of men:

- Guys with obvious difficulties with women

They're very introverted guys, you could call them
the classic "losers", who use Tinder to start their
adventure with women. If you think you are one of
them: don't worry, because at the end of this guide
you will understand many things that you don't know
now and the condition of being an awkward boy, if
you decide to commit, can change very quickly.

- The guy who has little experience with women

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Usually he's on Tinder because he was left by an ex
and finds himself virtually without any social circle to
support him. After a long relationship the break up
left him in bad conditions, he finds himself alone with
some friends (if he hasn't "lost" them) and without
girls in his circle (because maybe he had a very
monogamous relationship) and now he has decided
to get back in the game. If you're this kind of man,
then this guide is absolutely perfect for you. Having
already some practice with women, you just have to
change a few mental paradigms and on Tinder you
can have an extremely fast recovery from badly
ended relationships.

- Men who are already very satisfied and want to

become seducers
These guys have as their goal to have as many
women in their lives as possible, regardless of past
relationships and conditions. If you are a man who
doesn't want to have a fixed relationship and who
wants to go out with many women and have many

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experiences, then even in this case the guide is
perfect for you. Actually, a large variety of women
and possible experiences is just one of the many
advantages of Tinder.

2.2.2
The fundamental difference between an attractive
man and a pussy hound

Speaking of men, let's address a thorny issue: the

fundamental difference between an attractive man
and a desperate one.

What is a pussy desperate? And why do you have to

absolutely avoid being one? I want to debunk a myth
right away: being a desperate loser with women is
not genetic but it's all a mental condition. Now I want
you to understand what distinguishes a desperate,
why women can smell it, how they smell it and how
you can avoid being one. Of course, if your mentality

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is now full of trash, you'll have to make a bigger
effort to change it and stop looking like one. But,
once you make that kind of effort, you won't be like
that anymore, that's the good news. The key that
distinguishes a loser from an attractive man is:

- attachment to the results.

Let me give you an example: you have a match with a

beautiful girl. If she doesn't reply to for an hour, you
immediately text her to ask if everything is okay, if
she's alright... this means attachment to the results.
You gave too much importance to that person. I'll
give you another example: you go on a date with a
girl, it goes fine, the following morning you texxt her
good morning and start bombarding her with
messages. This also means attachment to the results,
giving too much importance to the woman in
question too early in the relationship. Women sniff
out this attachment because they have an instinctive

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ability to choose men who are (or seem to be) less
needy.

Trying to generalize a rule, to avoid attachment it is

always important to contextualize in your head what
is happening. For example, if a girl in a match no
longer replies to you, you have to think that it is only
a Tinder match: you have no right to expect her to
answer, nor does she have any kind of attachment to
you that forces her to answer. As a result, by
understanding the context in which you find yourself,
you will understand that you simply have to wait for
her to answer and if she doesn't... it doesn't matter!
Because you have hundreds of other girls on Tinder.
So you should have understood now that avoiding
the pussy desperate effect is closely related to your
ability to develop a mentality of abundance. From
this point of view, Tinder helps a lot, whatever your
starting point is. Later on we will see some aspects
even more specifically.

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As I told you, women can sniff out this kind of
attitude at any stage of the interaction. You have to
be careful not to give too much importance to
women, at any stage of the pick up you are, because
in the end you are on Tinder: they too have a vastity
of men to draw from. In fact, let's face what the
psychology of the woman on Tinder is instead.

3.
Women's psychology on Tinder

In this historical moment, in our country there are

many Italians and many foreigners. We will treat
them separately because their psychology obviously
changes a lot if they are "at home" or "on holiday".
Moreover, between Italians and foreigners, there are
also cultural differences to take into account (even if
they are now flattening out because Italians have
developed and have a more international mentality).

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How do women swipe on tinder?

While the man, as we have seen, swipes without

thinking too much, women work very differently. In
fact:

You MUST KNOW that women, even the ugly ones,

always have a bunch of guys around them. That's
why they'll never go through all the profiles in their
range.

Yes, you got it right. Even the fat ones, even the ugly
ones, always have 2-4-10 men (according to various
parameters) who look for them. It can be men from
their own city, men known in chat, men who text
them "you're beautiful" on social medias, in short, all
possible types of men, the competition is very high.
Fortunately, we don't have to worry too much
because 90% of the competition is composed of

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losers. While we in this guide understand how to give
the opposite impression.

When a woman is particularly bored by her admirers

and wants some change, be it sexually or to meet
new people, they start to scrolling through profiles
on Tinder (usually everything starts from sexual
desires but this does not mean that as soon as they
go on a date they will spread their legs. But let's say
that on an unconscious level it all starts with the
desire to have a new sexual partner).
When women start swiping, they are much more
selective than men. Usually they look at about ten
profiles, dwell on 2-3 guys (reading the bio as I told
you in Volume 1) and will only leave 2-3 strategic
likes.

This is because FOR EVERY WOMAN 1 LIKE = 1

MATCH = 1 APPROACH IN CHAT.

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Almost always. As I told you, men swipe randomly,
beautiful, ugly, any kind: because obviously if you're
a guy who hasn't had a woman in several months,
you'd go with almost everyone, regardless of your
taste. Now I'm not saying that this is wrong, I'm not
going to judge anyone's tastes, but in practice the
woman has an experience opposite to yours when
using Tinder.

I'll tell you again: for every woman (except the really
unsightly ones) a like is a match and, almost certainly,
a chat approach (even if they are usually the classic
trivial and boring approaches, but we talk about
them well in the third volume).

At the end of the day, they only like 1-2 guys out of
10 (who they have examined through their profile)
and then turn off the app because they are
bombarded by notifications, by guys who text them
on whatsapp, Instagram and so on. That's why you

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have to play well in advance and create an interesting
profile.

The advantage of this very selective female process is

that, if you have been liked, it means that they are
already interested in you on an aesthetic level: you
just have to accompany this type of interest and turn
it into a deeper interest in knowing you and doing
"stuff" with you.

Now let's see another important point: the timing of

your answers. Since there is a great saturation, that
is, the woman has messages coming from every
imaginable channel, it is important not to leave too
many dead times. If they like you, try to send them a
message as soon as possible. As you may have
guessed by now, their Tinder usage window is not so
large because they are bombarded by notifications
from everywhere.

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 3.2
Local girls
Let's now do a little in-depth analysis on the
psychology of Local women. The general difference
compared to foreigners is that locals almost always
live in the place where they use Tinder.

Characteristically, in general, they are a little more

boring than foreigners, in the sense that they have
few topics of conversation, they tend to block chats
by responding in a bored way and so on. Local
women will want to chat a lot to get to know you and
will resist before going on a date with you. Obviously,
you will also find women who are more open-minded
and more predisposed to quick dates.

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 3.3.
Foreigners and tourists
Foreign women are your jackpot on Tinder because
they are usually on holiday and therefore want to
meet a local person who can show them around.
(except when they are with friends. In this situation
they'll be hanging around in bars and clubs). So if
they're travelling alone, they'll open Tinder and look
for someone who can entertain them and give them
a positive experience. Again, they will get some
matches in a very selective way and wait to be
contacted.

The problem with foreign girls is that not everyone

has internet at all times. So be quick in answering
during their window of time on Tinder, because
maybe they will leave the hotel and re appear in
3/4/5 hours.

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With foreigners it's much easier because by the time
they match, they're probably already interested in
going out. It's also true that someone will only ask
you informations: it has often happened to me that
they were out and about with friends in the city and
that they were looking just for advice on where to go.
But in this case, if you're good, you can say "this is
the place, I can take you there". Remember that,
when possible, you have to deal with situations to
your advantage.

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 3.4
Psychology of Women on Tinder dates

As I told you before, women are on Tinder mainly for

sexual desire, although they do not always admit it to
themselves or are explicit about it. Precisely because
of this, it does not mean that they will be easy girls,
that they will chat with you just to fuck, and it does
not mean that they will be seducing you, this is
obvious. You still have to be a gentleman and follow
the right strategies to get them to bed (the ones we'll
see in the third volume where I'll talk about dates).

The fact that they are on a dating site is definitely an

advantage and allows you to have a better start than
a more classic situation. But remember, as it happens
with girls you met on other occasions, until you have
"closed the door", brought home the result, you
should never emphasize the fact that they are on a
dating site to have sex. But you always have to make
them feel like women and not whores.

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 3.5
Advanced Women's Psychology: Types of
Women on Tinder
We talked about the type of men on Tinder. Now let's
see the types of women we can find on Tinder and
their motivations. The basic instinct is always the
same but in detail we have some significant
differences:

- The girl who wants to boost her ego.

They are girls who for whatever reason are
disappointed and feel lonely. They decide that their
ego is injured and want to enlarge it by using their
lovers. As a result, they're on Tinder to receive a
roundup of compliments: "hello beautiful", "hello
gorgeus", "you're stunning" and all these phrases to
feel like women again. The fact that they are only
looking for ego satisfaction is a big bummer.
However, with the right strategies we can move them
away from this intention.

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- The girls who broke up with their boyfriend also
want to get back in the game, mainly from a sexual
point of view.
When a girl breaks up, if she has been left, she finds
herself in a somewhat ugly situation: she had a high
frequency of sex and affection with this boy and all of
a sudden... she finds zero. Especially if she is not
beautiful, she will have difficulty satisfying her
desires as soon as possible. A woman of this type is
interesting because she is a little more open
physically and sexually. But it can also be very
annoying because she is often still emotionally
attached to the ex: as a result she will tend to talk
about the relationship with him and then maybe,
after a date, she will disappear because she realizes
that you are not the ex and so on. I personally have
not had beautiful experiences with women of this
type and I would advise against them (although it is
obviously very difficult to realise this in advance).

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- The girls who are on Tinder because of boredom.
They have some social circles a bit 'off and sign up on
Tinder to meet new people. These girls are a great
target because if they are bored and want to waste
time, you can simply squeeze yourself in their life and
shake them a bit from their boring situation. Again, if
you can appear as very interesting in the early stages
of the approach, they will be well prepared to go out
with you.

- Women looking for followers on Instagram.

This is a new thing. Before they removed the
possibility of accessing Instagram from Tinder's
profiles, there were lots of girls registered on the app
as a simple way to increase their followers on
Instagram. And there still are. You can tell because
they have their Instagram profile in their description
and phrases like "text me on instagram"/"follow me
on instagram".

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In general they are like the others and follow the
same principles. Having more followers on Instagram
is a bit of an excuse that they tell each other to
rationally justify their registration on a dating site.
However, a strong piece of advice I can give you is:
don't fall for their game. Just text them on Tinder. If
the first thing they tell you in chat is "let's use
instagram instead" or if they have on their bio "I'm
not here much, better message me on ig", I
recommend that you always message her on Tinder,
if she answers that's great, otherwise it's not a huge
loss. You don't have to (and don't want to) be
another one of the millions of men who feed her ego
and follows her on Instagram. Don't do it.

- The bored woman who is on Tinder to... ...be

annoying!
Often in this typology you can find Italian girls. Those
girls who answer only with boring one liners to let the
chat die, as if they were looking for someone to argue
with them. From this point of view, the only way you

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can move them from their intentions is to point out that
they are being bland and annoying. These are the
classic girls you ask a question to and all they answer
is "yes" "no" "understood". They are like the others, but
they have much higher barriers. We will see how to
break these barriers in the volume about chats.

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 4.
Mindset Tinderboss

4.1
Mindset Tindeboss: why are YOU on Tinder?

In women's psychology, I've explained to you what

they're looking for and how they think. In this second
part of the second volume, I want to explain to you
how your mindset should be, your mental attitude, in
accordance to all the situations you will encounter
using Tinder. As I told you, in addition to the problem
of large numbers and that women are super
saturated by requests of various kinds, one of the
most dangerous problems is: attachment to the
result.

Women perceive who is too attached to the result

and discard him regardless, so the only way you have
to win on tinder is to have a mindset of abundance:

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you must never become too attached to a single
woman too soon but you must think in strictly
numerical terms. Until you get to the results you
want (which can be a date, sex, etc. ...), you will have
to swallow many bitter bites and continue on your
way, without giving too much importance to
individual women. In this way, ignoring and treating
some of them as a number, you will "lose" girls in the
process, i.e. the match will not continue... but it is
also true that you will improve your approach to
Tinder and seduction in general. Having this mindset
of abundance is an excellent training not only for the
management of the matches on Tinder but also for
the management of your life with women in general.

Especially since when it comes to Tinder you will

never know, if not after it actually happens, with
which girls you will really go on a date or you will
sleep with. That's why you must always be ready to
catch the next one and to have a mindset of
abundance to take full advantage of all that the app
offers.

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 4.2
Mindset TinderBoss: It's not all up to you!
Like I said, you must never lose your mind for a single
woman. The game is about big numbers: every day
you'll swipe through hundreds of girls, you'll have 2-3
matches, a couple of chats and, if you're good, you
can even go out several times a week.

That's why if a girl:

- Doesn't respond to the chat anymore and

disappears;

- Gives you her number but doesn't answer;

- Adds you on Instagram/Facebook and then

disappears ;

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-Starts to reply unwillingly and kills the conversation;

-Cancels the date last minute;

and a thousand other things...

...don't get angry because it's part of the game.

As I told you, girls have dozens of potential lovers

through various channels and you never know what's
going on in their lives on that particular day or time.
In fact, for a man it is almost impossible to identify
with the life of a beautiful woman. Consequently, you
can tend to behave as if some things were due to
you, such as a chat response, when maybe to that girl
you are the 15th person who started texting her in
the last 15 minutes, or she has something else to do
or she is simply in a bad mood and won't answer to
anyone.

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You should never take it personally. Above all, you
must never insist as you would fall in the pussy
desperate behavioural pattern. Insisting on an
answer is not a good attitude. There may be
exceptions, but you have to evaluate it on a case-by-
case basis. Generally speaking, don't insist!
Above all, you must not offend her, otherwise I will
disown you as a student: it must never be done (in
some cases it may be useful to cut contacts in an ugly
way, but never insult her).

Always remember that women don't owe you

anything, you're both playing and you can both leave
the game at any time, no one has a responsibility to
the other. Whatever happens doesn't depend on you.
I'll repeat it again: it's not your fault, it doesn't
depend on you. You can't control what happens in a
girl's life, especially if she has Tinder because it
means she's very active in meeting new people.

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For every woman who goes out with you, there are
15 men who were hitting on her and you made fail.
So sometimes you will be on one side (by going out
with the girl) and many other times on the side of
who is left home with no dates. Obviously, by making
the most of this guide, you will increase your chances
of being on the right side.

If you play on large numbers, given the high quality of

Tinder, you can date two, even 3, beautiful girls a
week, chatting a couple of hours a day (depending on
how much you want, I for example am not one who
chats much. In the next volume we will see this
further).

I'm not telling you to give up on the first missed

answer, because obviously women have a tendency
of acting as exclusive and like to feel wanted or
sometimes they just forget to reply. So sometimes a
second message can bring results. My advice is: insist
only if appropriate. Text them again if you think that

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they were simply distracted and have not lost
interest. Obviously you always have to insist with
detachment, without getting too involved in the
situation, without begging, without asking for
explanations. Try to be nice and always take it lightly.
We will see some specific cases in the third volume
dedicated to chat.

For every match that pisses you off, even if it was

with the most beautiful woman you've ever seen,
remember that:

1. You're only seeing photos! And we know very

well that between filters and various things the
photos tend not to represent very well the
reality;

2. For every girl who skips the match, there are a

hundred more that you can match you in the

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 coming days / months. Be relaxed and
continue on your way;

In fact, in addition to non-response, to maximize the

results in chat is very important to know how to deal
with another very strong male fear: the rejection,
real or apparent, of women.

5.
Refusal Management

By using Tinder, you'll happen to be rejected in a

number of situations. So in this paragraph I want to
tell you how to handle rejection at various stages. In
general, rejection must be of little importance to you
because your goal is to develop an abundance
mindset: until you create a real bond (and this can
only happen after several dates and several sex

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encounters), the girl is just one of many that you can
know. This is, because of all the reasons I have
already explained. That being said, it's obvious that
the rejections will still hurt you quite a bit (a good bit
in the early stages but you might never really get
used to them). So rejection is something you will
have to learn to live peacefully with, developing a
solid mentality of abundance.

There are various types of rejection:

- The simple one, for example in chat.

These are the girls who do not even respond to the
first message. In this case, more than a real rejection,
there could be an infinite number of reasons that do
not always depend on you: it could be a wrong
opener or maybe she didn't feel like it at the time,
changed her mind about Tinder or maybe she swiped
right on you by mistake and then realized that she
did not like you aesthetically, various things. This is

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the first form of rejection, the softest. After a while
you'll realize that you don't have to give a shit about
it because it's just a match.

- The one in which the girl at some point no longer

responds to you.
The second rejection is more advanced and can do a
little more harm. Also in this case you will have to
learn to be almost immune to this type of rejection
because it happens often. Of course you can get
around it by learning how to create an interesting
chat, to go immediately for her number and various
other things. Tinder's chat itself is a rather weak
channel, so this rejection will happen quite often. But
remember: as long as you're just chatting on Tinder
there's nothing that really ties you together. So you
shouldn't give a shit about anything. The same goes
for girls who disappear on private chats (on
Facebook, whatsapp or whatever). In the end the
concept is the same. Many girls will give you the
number even just randomly and then will not

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respond to you again. The only real difference in
having a phone number is that you can contact them
in a more intimate way.
If they stop answering you, after some time you can
try to text them again and it might work. However,
refusing to chat must not be a big deal to you.

-The girl who doesn't show up for a date.

Let's assume that everything is fine and you get a
date (this thing almost never happens but...), she
might not show up for the date. In this case you'll be
fuming but even here you still have nothing in
common yet. You don't have to worry about
anything, you can go have a beer by yourself or go
home. Find a way to take it easy, it is useless to be
pissed off or call her angrily,just let it be.

- During the date you try a more intimate approach

but she rejects you.

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The girl showed up for the date. At a certain point in
the evening you go for it but she shows several barriers.
Even in this case you absolutely must not be insistent,
make a scene or ask for an explanation. You just have
to continue your game. She may have not felt like
kissing or having sex for a thousand reasons, always
independent to you. If she is really interested in you,
you will clearly understand in the upcoming days, if
you still want to hear from the girl in question.

5.1
Management after the first date: NEVER
CRUMBLE!

The last type of rejection that can happen is the post-

date one: during the appointment, you were fine, she
was fine (or so it seemed so to you)... but the
following day she doesn't reply to you anymore.

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I used a dramatic tone because this is the refusal that
hurts the most: after a nice evening spent together,
she disappears. This can drive you completely crazy.
In fact, this is an absolutely critical aspect of Tinder
and of women in general: the management of
everything that happens in the post-date. What I
suggest immediately is that you do not absolutely
collapse psychologically EVER. I'm telling you this
with all my heart because I also fell for it a few years
ago. Unfortunately, even in this case, you can't really
know what happened in the woman's mind after the
first date, whether you kissed, fucked or did nothing
at all. You have no idea because women think in a
completely different way. The only thing you can do
is to hold on, continue your game, and react
according to what she's doing, and above all... never
make a scene. Also, if the girl is leaving in two days,
put your soul at rest because you won't ever see her
again anyway.

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So, as you may have understood, rejection is worth
very little. It can hurt but this is also part of the game
and you must learn to take it with serenity.

5.2
How to deal with matches and opportunities
based on your psychological state

We're done with the bad scenarios and talk about

your mindset instead related to your emotional state:
joy, sadness, fatigue and so on.

As you use Tinder, you'll find yourself having plenty

of opportunities to date girls. However, there are
some variables that need to be considered and that
you may have to deal with, such as your
psychological state: on that day you have the
opportunity to date a woman but you are very tired,
you are exhausted due to other things, you are sad

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for any reason ... and you start to consider whether
or not to go out with them.

To help you decide I can tell you that: every time I

gave up on a date because I didn't have the
psychological strength to do it, I almost always
regretted it (not every time but very often). So you
have to be good at understanding your mental state
and evaluating each time. Going out must always be
a pleasure for you and never a duty. We are playing
on big numbers, if by that night you just can't do it
and you want to stay home and rest for any reason,
that's fine.

Just be careful of one thing: don't confuse fatigue

with fear. You may in fact feel a certain fear or
tension just before you go out with the girl, because
maybe you are a bit 'inexperienced, it's a blind date
and for various other reasons. So if that feeling is not
fatigue but fear, then you have to take the situation
off your chest and go on the date because the only

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way you have to get over your fears with women is to
try, try and try!

5.3
How to manage the abundance of women

Another variable you might have to deal with is the

abundance of women in your life, suddenly at any
particular stage. Obviously, if you already have a lot
of girls at hand, you can evaluate with more clarity
whether you want to date a specific girl or not. You
will have the chance of discarding whoever you don't
particularly like and be able to date just the most
beautiful and interesting ones. Of course, the
opposite is also true, if you haven't really had a
chance to see a woman in the last while, it might be
useful for you to go on dates with girls that you don't
really like all that much, even if they aren't that good
looking, just to get used to some female company
again and go home with a good date experience,
after putting yourself out there again to get your

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game going. Even if you realize you don't want to end
up in bed with them, the time spent together will be
of great practice. Dating as many women as you can
is essential to be prepared for when you will actually
go out with someone you like and feel like
committing to.

In conclusion I want to give you a small but important

piece of advice on how to handle a large flow of
women. Obviously, if you are chatting with 15 girls at
the time and getting 3-4 dates, you may miss some
opportunities by poorly organizing your schedules.
For this reason, in times of greatest abundance, I use
a small notebook (you can also do it on your
computer or on the phone), in which I write down
what's the present situation with each one of the
girls: what kind of contact I have, if I have scheduled
a date, my intentions (because it's good to have a
clear goal with that woman), if I have to text a girl on
a particular day and other things of this sort. A good
organization on your part is also important for girls
that are only there on holiday because with them you

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will have a limited amount of time to go out. So, if a
girl is on vacation, you'll be well informed about her
return date and the commitments she has already
organized, so that you can go out on her free days.

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 6.
Conclusion

We've come to the end of our Volume 2. We have

seen in detail the female psychology and how to
exploit it to your advantage. In the second part I
explained to you how to have a bulletproof mindset
to become a real Tinder Boss and to face every new
situation with your maximum potential.

In Volume 3, we'll talk about the most important

aspects of seduction on Tinder: chatting and dates.

I hope you enjoyed this second volume. Read the

third volume now and remember to apply everything
down to the very last detail and you too will become
a TinderBoss too!

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