MANIPULATION TECHNIQUES

How to understand and influence people

using Mind Control, Subliminal Persuasion,
Self Discipline, NLP and Body Language.
101 Tips&tricks and Dark Psychology
Secrets. Manipulation techniques: How to
understand and influence people using
Mind Control, Subliminal Persuasion, Self
Discipline, NLP and Body Language. 101
Tips&tricks and Dark Psychology Secrets.
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1. Nlp
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
The Keys to NLP
Chapter 2. Body Language
What Is Body Language?
Chapter 3. Subliminal Persuasion
Chapter 4. Dark Psychology
What is Dark Psychology?
Importance of Dark Psychology
The 4 Dark Psychology Traits
Chapter 5. Mind Control Techniques
Chapter 6. Manipulation Techniques
Chapter 7. The Subtle Art Of Deception
The Attacks May Involve the Following Life Cycle
Social Engineering Techniques
Social Engineering Prevention
Chapter 8. How To Influence People
Business Negotiation s
Closing Sales
Getting Prices That Are Better
Leading the Desired Lifestyle That You Want
Getting Out of Things
Chapter 9. How To Identify And Counter A Manipulation
Identify it
Build a reputation to avoid them
Know how you feel around them
Run for your life
 Develop the right attitude
Engage in physical activity
Share your experiences
Chapter 10. Tips & Tricks
Change of environment
Make it about the other person
Speak quickly
Dress nicely
Scare tactics
Consistency is key
Silence is golden
Play nice
Carry your cros s
Talk that talk
Put the data aside
Be unique but also predictable in a relatable way
Newbies are easy targets
I need your help…
It’s all in the name
Conclusion
Introduction
Lying, is perhaps the simplest tactic mental manipulators
like to use on their prey. The simple reason is that lying is
fairly easy to accomplish and does not require much skill.
Truthfully their real reason for lying tends to be to hide
information that would damage them or become a barrier to
their goals.  Because if they did something bad. Well,
they're not going to want you to know about it. As while
manipulators love to be charming. The thing they love
above all else is maintaining appearances. So, if they can
keep the appearance that they are a good person through
deceit then they most certainly will. We encounter liars
every day in our life but, often, fail to realize they are telling
us falsehoods. Detecting a liar can be difficult, as some
people have mastered the craft of spewing falsehoods, so
you’re not going to be looking for overt signs like
nervousness, scratching their nose, etc.  
You want to look for patterns of untruthful behavior that you
can notice and from there, you’re able to slowly build up this
pattern as a log in your mind, use that to your advantage.
Sadly, the truth is that you have a very high likelihood of
detecting a liar in a romantic relationship than you do say
the nine to five workplaces.  
This is because during a romantic relationship emotion is
high, therefore this places the emotional stakes higher. 
This, in turn, means that someone who would do something
that crosses these emotional stakes is willing to do
whatever required to not get caught. A liar in a relationship
will probably take the form of a partner who is never home
but always has some elaborate excuse for why they're
absent. Also, they may try to quickly divert the conversation
from the matter at hand when asked where or what they're
doing. Defusing a liar through thought is easy enough, but
you must be persistent and firm in your belief of the truth.  
Do not falter the manipulator will try and get you to become
convinced that it is, in fact, you who is wrong and not them,
that your version of the truth is the real lie. Remember
though if someone is innocent, they will not protest their
innocence and will trust you. Simply put, think of the old
saying that if you have nothing to hide, then you have
nothing to fear. 
Tying well into lying as a manipulation tactic, some people
will spin the truth to make themselves look like the victim or
to allow blame to be placed on you. This kind of
manipulation tends to just be called playing the victim and
spin.  
Most of us commonly associate the idea of spinning the
truth with news and politics. But the truth is cover
manipulators will do that whenever they can. The partner
who is always absent and always seems to have a
convenient explanation for them not being present. At times
when confronted with this information, they will try and pin
it on you by claiming you must be insecure in the
relationship and how it has to be you who is jealous since
you’re so suspicious of them. This covert manipulation tactic
works by preying on our own emotions and getting us to
question them. Getting us to look at our feelings and actions
with distrust allows the manipulator to convince us that we
must be the crazy ones, we must be the manipulators.  In
simple terms spinning the truth works by trying to downplay
whatever someone is being accused of in hopes that you
will believe and trust them.  
Flattery will Get You Everywhere 
Moving on from lying and deceit I would like to discuss one
of the more effective methods of manipulation and that is
flattery. Flattery is an idea we think of when the thought of
relationships come to mind. The husband and wife out to
dinner joyfully juking and jiving with each other. Or someone
at a bar trying to pick up a girl. On the surface that is
technically flattery as in its simplest terms, flattery just
defines a behavior where someone goes out of their way to
give platitudes to you regardless if their truthful or not.
Because of how flattery can make us feel good about
ourselves, it can be challenging to view it as something
manipulative or bad. And the strange truth is that flattery or
outright being a kiss-up is not always a bad thing if you
want to get ahead in something. As mentioned, prior this is
especially true if you are trying to woo a girl.  
To be honest flattery in its milder form is one of the integral
parts of our whole courting process as humans. Flattery
used well in the workforce, for example, can be extremely
advantageous for the person doing it. As it allows them to
try and endear themselves to their boss or other co-workers.
In doing this they will gain those individuals' trust allowing
them more upward movement within the company.  
The issue with flattery is that it can be used to create
relationships on false pretenses, i.e. it lures someone into a
false sense of security about how someone views them.
Trust like this that is easily generated is always something
you should be cautious about. For example, you start dating
a man and he is overly flirtatious and goes seemingly too far
to make you feel good then perhaps consider that maybe
his intentions are not quite pure. The line between flattery
and genuine true compliments lies first in you knowing
yourself and your self-worth. If you are a strong confident
person than you will know if someone is trying to
compliment you in a way that seems to both try too hard
and also be untrue. 
So, remember generally flattery is not always a bad thing
but it can be a segue for someone into getting you to give
them a false sense of trust which is not always the best.
Remembering this and what kind of behavior to look for will
help you avoid being a victim of a manipulator in the future.
As the line between simple flattery to be friendly and
flattery for malice has a fine line, just as anything does. 

Remember – Manipulation isn’t Necessarily Bad 

Not all manipulation has to be used for bad purposes. Some
forms of manipulation we encounter regularly such as
advertising and mass media. It can be used for good, so
much so that they can make someone a profit. Or they can
be used in the corporate world to climb up the ladder of
hierarchy. In simple terms at times, it can be required that
you grease some palms and perhaps act a certain way to
get ahead.  
Using manipulation techniques such as bending the truth or
flattery may be required here to give you an advantage over
the competition. In this case, it could be argued that it can
be morally permitted due to the honest fact that if you don’t
try to push your way into these positions someone else will.
At this point you are only playing the game everyone else is
playing so by going out of your way to being friendly to your
boss or bending the truth in how you present your
accomplishments.  Yes, you are using manipulation by
giving your boss the impression an assignment you just
completed may be better than it really might be.  
Is that form of manipulation so bad?  All you are doing is
simply leveling the playing field. This type of behavior is less
manipulation and more in line with the idea of being
persuasive or charismatic.  
The difference here is you are using charm and ingratiation
to convince someone further toward your line of thinking
regardless of what that may be. It is still them making the
decision in the end, all your doing is guiding and influencing
them. This is far different from coercion where you are using
subtle threats and fear to get what you want. An example of
this type of coercion would be lying to your boss about the
performance of another coworker to put them down and
allow you to get a position that they currently hold.  
Now that you understand manipulation from a moral aspect
let me explain how you can use it yourself. I am sure we
have all been at home watching the television when a flashy
add with cool music comes on and it catches our attention.
But did you ever stop to realize that those ads are designed
purposely like that to draw and suck you in? Pay attention
next time you walk down the supermarket at how so many
different items have such colorful and unique packaging, it’s
all done on purpose to draw you in and make the item you
may or may not purchase all the more enticing. 
Marketing and Manipulation
For simplicity sake, think of the mass marketing campaign
for popular consumer electronics like the I-phone. Apple the
company that produces the I-phone will release a new one
every year that is not all that different from the one they
released a year prior. The way they do this is first by hosting
these big insider conferences and then allowing in only a
few select journalists.  
On the surface, this may just seem like perfectly normal
industry practice done to perhaps protect job secrets. But
the opposite is, in fact, true, by making access to this new
product seem exclusive and hidden they are then able to
get people interested in it simply because people will always
gravitate to what is mysterious and new.  
Speaking of new the main tactic most companies like to rely
on for sales is a psychological phenomenon called the “fear
of missing out” simply put all this means is that, you a
potential customer are more likely to purchase a product
because it is new. In your mind, if you do not purchase the
new fancy phone you have somehow fallen behind the
social curve and are now missing out on something
exclusive that all the cool people own.  
This form of manipulation relies heavily on spinning the
truth by the fact, that while, yes, the new product they are
selling is slightly more advanced than the prior it really is
not all that new, and the accompanying excitement around
it is somewhat synthetic and not perhaps a natural
occurrence.  
So how can you use this tactic for yourself, well the best
place this kind of covert manipulation works is the business
world. Especially if you are in a sales-driven business. When
trying to sell a service or good people tend to only focus on
what said service or good offers, not so much ring home
how much it can benefit a potential customer. 
This may sound like common sense but in plain terms play
up and ingratiate yourself to your customer base, let them
know how lucky they are for looking into your product and
how if they purchase the product they will be amongst some
exclusive group. In these kinds of instances, you are not
really harming the customer as you are persuading them to
your side of the aisle. By making them feel good about this
potential purchase they, in turn, leave feeling validating and
like they have perhaps earned something useful in their
life.  
While you the salesperson has just sold a said product to the
customer, therefore, increasing your profit and meeting your
requirements. Moving away from the idea of selling
something, you can use this type of manipulation in your
personal life to meet new and interesting people. Put on an
air that you are someone unique, cool or special when you
are acting with someone. They will pick up on this and it will
translate into the appearance of confidence, in short sell
yourself, why should they be friends with you, what do you
bring to the table.  
These are all the things you can covertly show by how you
make yourself appear to them. By using flattery and charm
while also being integral you make both you and the people
your meeting feel good something that is rarely a bad thing.
Some people will call this charm the truth is that this a form
of manipulation.  
Now that you are aware of these kinds of sales tricks you
are now armed to defend against them. But how do you
defeat something that prays on basic instinct?  
Manipulation and Basic Instinct 
Well, the answer lies in your basic instinct. Confidence
brings with it the appearance of charm by putting on a
confident mask you can get a potential manipulator into
thinking that you are a hard target to hit. Think of the
common image of the used car salesperson an individual
who will try to sweet talk an individual into an overpriced
purchase even though they know the person can’t afford it.  
They prey on people they can tell are not going to call them
out on their behavior. This stereotype exists for a reason, it
is because it is somewhat true if you present yourself as
weak and powerless people will pick up on that. Recognizing
that confidence is needed is only one step in the battle
against manipulation. 
The second is using a bit of common sense and taking a
step back and thinking. If something someone is telling you
seems too good to be true, then do not just take it at face
value. Start by considering the context of the situation and
what could motivate someone to be untruthful or
manipulative in a situation.  What if someone is cheating in
a relationship?  They may be willing to lie and be dishonest
to keep that relationship going.  Or, if someone is trying to
sell you something then they have the incentive to lie in
that context because their livelihood most likely depends on
how many of a good or service, they can sell someone.
Knowing this context allows you to look at what your being
told as a piece of a much larger picture instead of just an
isolated occurrence.  
Trust and Manipulation
Without trust, nothing can be gained either in business or in
personal affairs. You can gain this trust in a variety of ways,
but you first want to begin by presenting yourself as
trustworthy, because if you were not then why would
someone want to pay attention to you. 
Knowing now how commonplace manipulation is, and how it
can occur from your house down to the sales floor. It allows
you to defend yourself against manipulation which could
harm you and stop you from accomplishing your goals.
While also allowing you to use some of the tricks lightly to
attain your own. 
Simply put using your enemies’ weapons against them is
your best approach to defeating them, there's nothing
wrong with trying to be overly friendly and flattering to
someone. It makes them feel good about themselves and
gives you companionship. This same moral attitude can be
taken with business.  
Think of it this way, if you can get the customer convinced
that what they are about to purchase will benefit their lives
in some way or the other then you have fulfilled a need of
theirs.  They will always go to someone searching to fill that
need regardless of what it may be, so why shouldn't it be
you who fills that need?  Finally, you then gain something
from a job well done, because you understood these tactics.
By fulfilling two needs through one act you could argue that
using these manipulation tactics for good could be better
than using normal behavior to accomplish a goal.  On the
other hand, you may sometimes find yourself in situations
that require you to use manipulation for survival or to even
just get a meal. 
In conclusion, I will always remember the context of the
situation you are in before you do anything regarding
manipulation. By knowing how to navigate using these
techniques effectively you can go far with them. As opposed
to being in a situation you are unsure of and trying to apply
manipulation tactics.  
One of the most important components of manipulation is of
course confidence. If you are not confident in what you are
doing, then why should anyone else have confidence in
what you are saying? 
It may seem difficult to try and be confident when you know
you are being somewhat deceitful.  
To try and avoid this think of it as an actor would. In short
look at what you are about to do and engage in as a
performance of sorts. Convince yourself first of what you are
saying. Now, this does not mean that you have to
wholeheartedly believe every word coming out of your
mouth.  
But what it does mean is that you need to create the
appearance that you believe what you are saying. This is
the same tactic that politicians like to use when trying to get
elected, they try and seem personable, and like an everyday
joe. Remember this when you are trying to use manipulation
tactics to your benefit. Because if you do you will be
amazed at how well it goes and how much you can convince
someone of.
 Chapter 1.               Nlp
Have you ever gone through the effort of trying to
communicate with someone else that does not speak the
same language as you? Perhaps you speak English, and the
other person speaks Chinese. The person speaking Chinese
is desperately gesturing for something, but you are entirely
unsure what it is that they need. They gesture frantically,
but you never figure it out. You make many guesses—you
offer a phone, and they shake their head. You offer water,
and they shake their head. No matter what you offer, the
other person becomes more and more annoyed or
frustrated because he or she cannot get through to you.
Eventually, the other person storms off without having ever
gotten whatever it is that he needed and you are left
wondering what it was that was so desperately needed in
the first place.
Now, imagine that same exchange, but you are both the
English and Chinese speaker—one half of you only speaks in
English while the other desperately tries to communicate in
Chinese. Neither side is able to communicate with the other,
and both end up disjointed, frustrated, and without any
proper communication. This is actually what does happen in
your mind. Your conscious mind thinks in one way, and the
unconscious mind thinks entirely differently. You may want
to be setting up a life to be happy and successful, but in
reality, your unconscious has never received the message.
As a result, you find that your unconscious continuously
sabotages you. Your emotions do not line up with your
goals. Your body language does not fit. You simply run into
complication after complication, despite the fact that you
know what you want.
Keep in mind that your unconscious mind is not meant to be
your adversary. It is not something that needs to be tamed
or controlled. Rather, it is something to harness and work
within tandem. However, this means that you need to learn
to communicate with it appropriately. If you can figure out
the right way to communicate with that unconscious part of
yourself, you can get it lined up with your conscious desires
and expectations. You can get it to help you achieve your
goals. It is not a matter of your unconscious being out to get
you or subvert your attempts to happiness; it is a matter of
you do not know how best to communicate with your
unconscious mind to get what you want .
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
This is where neuro-linguistic programming comes in. NLP is
designed to help you facilitate getting the results that you
want and need. It helps you figure out how best to act in
ways that are conducive to your success. Those who
practice NLP say that the unconscious mind is what drives
you to achieve your goals, so long as you are able to
communicate those goals effectively. NLP recognizes that
both the conscious and unconscious minds are important
and serve their own roles.
NLP helps to bridge that gap between the two, acting as a
sort of translator, so your conscious desires are
communicated to the unconscious mind in order to ensure
that your mind works together rather than against each
other. By working together, you will find that you are far
more likely to see your desired results simply because you
are not running into the problem of having the two parts of
your mind clash. 
Effectively, neuro-linguistic processing is a method of
learning to communicate with the unconscious. You are
learning to become fluent in your unconscious mind’s
method of communication so you can finally tell it what you
want. It allows for that communication with yourself, but
also facilitates the communication with others as well. This
means that you can use the processes learned during the
practice of NLP to also communicate with the unconscious
minds of others as well. You can implant thoughts, facilitate
behaviors, and encourage changes in lifestyles all by
learning how to tap into the unconscious minds of others. 
While this may sound manipulative, you actually see people
paying others to give them the NLP treatment. People will
pay practitioners to help them overcome phobias or bad
habits. People can be taught to overcome emotions, create
new coping methods, and more all by interacting with
someone fluent in NLP.
For example, imagine that you have severe anxiety
because, as a child, you went up to present something, but
you really needed to use the bathroom. You could not go
before the presentation, and as you gave it, you accidentally
had an accident. Everyone laughed at you, and ever since,
you have been terrified of ever getting involved in
presentations. Being in front of a crowd became something
that you could not possibly bring yourself to do. You failed
several assignments all through school because you simply
would refuse to present. You would do the work, but you
would not go up to present it.
Obviously, there are plenty of job choices during which you
would never have to be in front of a crowd, but if you
happened to choose a job that would regularly put you in
front of people to deliver reports, you may find that you
struggle. You know that you are not a child anymore and
that realistically, you would not be wetting yourself again
any time soon, but you cannot get over that feeling of being
laughed at and horrified.  
As a solution, you may have spoken to an NLP practitioner.
The practitioner would have access to several tools that
could help you process that trauma in order to get past it.
You could reframe the situation, learning to laugh at it
instead of feeling traumatized. You could learn to create
anchors that will have you begin to feel an entirely different
feeling when you go up to present. No matter the method,
there are several tools that can be used to help you get over
that trauma.
This is just one example of a time that NLP can be used to
benefit. However, it can also be used in ways that are
harmful. Manipulators love the tools of NLP because they
grant access to the unconscious mind. The manipulator can
use NLP techniques to create tendencies to obey almost
mindlessly. They can create tendencies to give the
manipulator exactly what he or she wants. The manipulator
will be able to communicate with the unconscious mind
without ever tripping the alarms of the conscious mind.
Effectively, the manipulator is able to completely bypass the
conscious and tell the unconscious exactly what is expected
—and the unconscious will comply. Without any clear way to
communicate, the individual will be left frustrated,
wondering why they keep behaving the way that they are
with no clear answer. 
 The Keys to NLP
For NLP to be effective, there are a few steps that need to
be followed. These are the keys to NLP that will help you
figure out how to access the mind. At this point, you are
being shown a brief overview of what needs to happen.
There are techniques that will more or less use these steps
on their own and other steps that will seek to change things
up a bit. However, at the heart of things, these must
happen. These three steps, the keys to being able to
practice NLP, are being able to examine and identify beliefs,
choosing an appropriate anchor, and then setting that
anchor in an efficient manner. 

 
If you can master these three simple steps, you will find that
the more specific techniques seem to fall into place with
ease. You will be able to convince people to do almost
anything, simply by knowing how to get into the other
person’s mind. This is a strategic endeavor, but once you
are able to follow that strategy, you will find that the control
that you can exert over both yourself and others around you
is far more than you had access to ever before. You will
become the master over your own behavior, while also
having the power and access to other people to be a master
over them as well. You can effectively use these NLP
techniques and strategies to figure out how best to win the
long game.  

Examine beliefs
First, you are figuring out the information at hand. This is
where you start to piece together what you or the other
person think or feel surrounding a certain event or situation.
You may find that the other person is highly anxious about
socializing and being in front of crowds. When in front of a
crowd, they tend to melt down and freak out. You know this
and acknowledge it. 
You will be examining beliefs to figure out why that is felt. In
this case, it may link back to that one incident of wetting
herself in front of a crowd and then being mortified any time
she is under public scrutiny. 
If you are attempting to use NLP on yourself, which is a valid
technique that many people will use, you may take this time
to identify the emotion that you have that you wish was not
problematic. You may figure out that you tend to feel angry
during certain situations, and because of that anger, you
struggle to really communicate with other people effectively.
That lack of communication usually has the unfortunate
result of causing problems in your relationships .
As you identify those feelings, you will find that you can
figure out where the problem lies. In figuring them out, you
can start to figure out how best to target and destroy them.
In NLP, this process usually involves the use of anchors—
points that are directly related to a certain event or feeling.
An anchor for your stress, for example, maybe you bite your
nails out of habit, but after a lifetime of biting your nails
when stress, just the act of absently biting your nails can
make your anxiety begin to flare up.
Choose an anchor
Knowing that you will be under the influence of several
anchors already, certain situations or actions that cause you
to feel a certain emotion, it is time to figure out which
anchors and emotions you can use to overcome the
problem. If you know that you have an anger issue, you may
go through the effort of learning how to combat that anger
issue through triggering new emotions instead. Whenever
you would feel yourself getting angry, then you would make
sure that you trigger your anchor, and that would then
cause you to feel something else.
Effectively, if you are familiar with basic psychology, you are
conditioning yourself. You are effectively training yourself to
act a certain way in response to certain situations, and in
doing so, you are able to make sure that you can overcome
the negative feelings that have been holding you down. If
you have bad habits in relation to your emotions, you can
begin to counter them. You can figure out how to create
new, healthier habits that trigger you to behave in new,
healthier ways. You can figure out how best to protect
yourself from your negative emotions so you can heal and
move on in life.
Your new anchor can be just about anything. You could use
an affirmation or word that you repeat to yourself to help
keep yourself under control. It could be a movement or an
action that you use to remind yourself to stay under control,
such as snapping your wrist with a rubber band whenever
you find that your anger is getting out of hand. It could be a
scent that makes you feel secure. It can even be a certain
thought or memory that you return to during times of
distress. 
When you choose an anchor, you want to make sure that it
is something that you can regularly access for maximum
impact. You may be best served with a short phrase that
you use or a motion of your hands. That is something that
you can do subtly and at any point in time .
Set an anchor
Finally, you must figure out how to set your anchor. This is
where you see the most deviation in your behaviors and
techniques. There are several different methods that can be
used in order to set a good anchor point for you or for those
around you, and how you decide to do so will largely be
dependent upon what you are hoping to do and how you are
dealing with. You may choose to use visualization if you are
working with someone intentionally, with the other person
knowing what you are doing. You may choose to use
something more along the lines of mirroring and subtle
mimicry and emotional triggers if you want to be entirely
unnoticed. You may choose to do something like
intentionally reframing a memory from negative and
traumatic into something funny if you want to change your
own way of thinking and your own emotional reaction.
Ultimately, the method that you choose will largely be
subject to who you are attempting to persuade and how you
want to go about it.
If you want to make it a point to, for example, persuade a
stranger to buy something that you want them to, you may
make it a point to trigger a mirroring relationship—do not
worry if you do not know how to do this. From there, you can
subtly influence him to nod his head by nodding your own
head, making the other person’s mindset far more likely to
be agreeable, and leading to the other person being
influenced to nod along with you without ever realizing that
you had influenced and encouraged that decision. 
Whether you want to control yourself or someone else, you
always want to choose an anchor that is simple and easily
implemented, but not so common that it will be randomly
triggered by strangers during the course of the day. While
you probably could trigger someone to make a certain face
every time you do a very specific and common movement,
such as giving a thumbs up, it would not be particularly kind
or ethical to do so. You would be triggering the other person
in a way that will likely be distracting and problematic. After
all, no one wants to be grimaced at every time they give a
thumbs up to someone else. 
 Chapter 2.               Body Language
Body language points to the nonverbal cues that us as
humans use to have effective communication with each
other. Such nonverbal signals, according to scholars,
constitute a major part of daily interaction. The stuff we do
not say can still transmit amounts of knowledge from our
body language to our physical movements. It has also been
reported that body language can account for about 60
percent and 65 percent of all communication. It is necessary
to understand body language, and it is also vital to pay
close attention to other signals such as meaning. In many
situations, instead of relying on a single event, you must
look at signals as a band. When you learn and master how
to use body language for effective communication, you will
also be able to manipulate individuals psychologically in a
positive manner.
What Is Body Language? 
Even when they don't express their opinions verbally, the
majority still miss clues about what they think and feel. Non-
verbal signals communicated through the formation of the
sender's body, physical appearance, voice inflections and
intensity of the voice, and various signs are all referred to
as non-verbal communication. 
Non-verbal communication is usually not as simple as it is
conveyed in words, but how it is expressed could take on a
major job by recognizing somebody and interfacing with
others. It's a quiet ensemble: mini-expressions (short
presentations of feeling that individual attempts to
disguise), hand gestures, and the recording of posture in the
human mind very rapidly in any event, when someone is not
consciously aware of them.
These acknowledgment snapshots, however short, can have
lasting repercussions on how an individual translates the
inspiration, disposition, and receptivity of others as well as
how they see their own inner identity. Regrettably, certain
psychological well-being issues, particularly
neuropsychiatric issues such as mental defect, may make it,
even more, trying to test to recognize and respond to non-
verbal communication messages.
Types of Body Language
There are types of body language. This is because we
cannot classify the different styles in the same category.
Different body languages can be distinguished. So, which
body language styles can be differentiated? Generally, the
body language is divided into two columns. That
includes; Body parts and the Intent 
So what kinds in each class can be observed?
Let us start with the body parts and the language they
communicate.

The Head - The placement of the head and its

movement, back and forth, right to left, side to
side, including the shake of hair. 
Face - This includes facial expressions. You
should note that the face has many muscles
ranging from 54 and 98 whose work is to move
different areas of the face. The movements of
the face depict the state of your mind.
Eyebrows - The eyebrows can express
themselves through moving up and down, as well
as giving a frown
Eyes - The eyes can be rolled, move up down,
right, and left, blink as well as the dilatation
The Nose - The expression of the nose can be by
the flaring of the nostrils and the formation of
wrinkles at the top
 The Lips - There are many roles played by the
lips, that include snarling, smiling, kissing,
opened, closed, tight, and puckering
The Tongue - The tongue can roll in and out, go
up and down, touch while kissing, and also the
licking of lips
The Jaw - The jaw opens and closes, it can be
clinched and also the lower jaw can be moved
right and left
Your Body Posture - This describes the way you
place your body, legs, and arms connected, and
also concerning other people
The Body Proximity - This looks at how far your
body is to other people
Shoulder Movements - They move up and down,
get hunched, and hang
The Arm - These go up down, straight and
crossed
Legs and the feet-these can have an expression in many
different ways. They can be straight, crossed, legs placed
one over the other, the feet can face the next person you
are in a conversation with, they can face away from each
other, the feet can be dangling the shoes
The hand and the fingers-the way that your hands and
fingers move is powerful in reading other people's gestures.
The hands can move up and down, they can do some
hidden language that only people of the same group can
understand.
How one reacts to handling and placing of objects-this is not
regarded as a body part but it technically plays a role in
reading a body language. This may predict anger, happiness
and much more. 
This includes willingly making body movements otherwise
known as gestures. These are the movements that you
intended to make for example shaking of hands, blinking
your eyes, moving, and shaking your body in a sexy way
maybe to lure someone and much more. There are also
involuntary movements-this are movements that you have
no control over. This can be sweating, laughter, crying and
much more .
Importance of Body Language 
Most individuals rely on social networks and texts to
connect in the modern digital age, and this is a very reliable
way for doing so.
While digital communication enables people to speak at
convenience and can reduce stress on certain individuals,
something can be lost in so doing, and because you are
incapable of recognizing the person when you speak to
them, you can miss key non-verbal signs in addition to
verbal ones such as vocal inflections. Digital communication
has become the main method for people around the world,
and to satisfy this, there is the likelihood that body language
will proceed to develop. Most of the time you may hear the
negatives of body language. Maybe you are told not to twist
in a certain way, sit this way or that way. However, body
language can influence your life positively. Let us look at
what you should do to maximize body language.
How Body Language Can Influence Effective Communication
While we may feel and wish that interaction is as easy as
the phrases that we say, it is not the truth. The reality is
that our message is heard more than just our words. If in an
email, text, or instant message you've ever been mistaken,
you know what I'm talking about. Words alone are not
enough. The body language is part of what strengthens and
wraps up the message and if individuals see us may be
face-to-face or using video cameras, our body language
influences our message and presentation. You may find that
body language helps the receiver of information read your
mind and interpret your thoughts. Acknowledge that there's
more to the message that you're sending, there's the meta-
message of who you're and the intention to send that
message. Body language is constantly communicating to
your audience.
My aim in this is to offer you some specific advice to help
your communication in the body language that you use and
to increase the chances that your message will be heard
and understood properly. 
Always Make Eye Contact 
It is first on the list, without a doubt. You will be surprised to
note that, our eyes talk more on our behalf. However, this is
prone to some cultural differences. We develop confidence
in what we say and believe the other individual once we
make eye contact. Our eyes may be the portals to our soul,
but they are certainly a way to develop a relationship and
provide effective communication. You may say that you are
shy and unable to make eye contact most of the time. Well,
the shyness may cause you to look down or sideways while
communicating. Your audience may interpret this as a lack
of confidence in your message. I would advise you to
nurture your eye contact. The good thing about body
language is that you can learn it with time. Purpose To
develop the skills step by step.
Walk Energetically
Picture the first time you meet anyone. In a sluggish
posture, they come to you, ambling towards you. Picture the
same scenario now with an individual walking with intent
and power–we're not thinking about sprinting, but a
deliberate walk. This mere act is the individual's opinion,
isn't it? Our walking style sends out a message of trust and
authenticity and also beauty. When you walk in confidence,
you depict that you know what you are up to and believe in
yourself. You know what happens next, people will be able to
believe in you too .
Bring Out a Reflection
Our feelings and considerations appear through our non-
verbal communication which is the purpose of this article.
When you need to discuss better with others, consider
reflecting their non-verbal communication. This isn't a
YouTube snapshot of an infant emulating another person,
the fact of the matter isn't to copy or ridicule somebody, yet
rather to show sympathy through your non-verbal
communication. This must be inconspicuous and will take
practice, however, it can enable your messages to be gotten
all the more effectively by others. 
Give Individuals a Chance to See Their Hands
We as a whole utilize our hands to convey a message. You
can even watch individuals on the telephone, when the
other individual can't in any way, shape or see them,
utilizing their hands to present their meaningful conclusion!
At the point when individuals can't see our hands, they
wonder on the off chance that we are concealing something,
if we are anxious, and maybe numerous different things.
Your hands are a piece of your effective communication; so,
use them and maintain a strategic distance from any
negatives that may originate from concealing them from
others.
Utilize Empowering Non-Verbal Communicatio n
Two quick models: eye to eye connection is referenced as of
now, and gesturing with individuals to show that you
comprehend and additionally concur. When somebody does
that it conveys capably to you, isn't that right? This isn't the
main model. Identified with reflecting over, this is utilizing
our body development and motions to show individuals we
give it a second thought and need to tune in to and gain
from them and that what we are sharing is to their greatest
advantage as well. 
Slow Down
A few of us speed up our communication. It is advisable to
slow down, however, it hinders your signals and
development. While some speed conveys vitality, there is an
almost negligible difference that we cross that leads our
non-verbal communication to show tension, apprehension,
or even contemptibility. Take a full breath and relax a little
bit. 
Have an Incredible Handshake
If you have one, you realize how significant this is. If you are
unconscious of this reality, you might just have a limp, dead
fish, or overwhelming and over-controlling handshake. A
handshake communicates something specific about what
your identity is. Work on a firm and welcoming handshake
and you will impart believability and certainty to other
people. 
While we as a whole can and should deal with these things,
perceive that the beneficiary of our message, the watcher of
our non-verbal communication is the judge. Their view of
our non-verbal communication runs the day. At the point
when we apply the thoughts above however, we will
improve the odds that their discernment is certain and will
bolster better correspondences and connections. 
Here Are More Powerful Tips and Their Relevance in
Communication
To enhance your confidence, undertake the power pose 
Research shows that actually holding your body in broad,
high-powered poses that involve leaning back with your
arms behind your feet and head up on your chair, or
standing with your arms and legs wide open for as little as
two minutes promotes higher levels of testosterone a
hormone connected to dominance and power. Do this when
you 're getting nervous but want to look confident. Such
positions, in addition to triggering hormonal changes in both
males and females, lead to increased emotions of
dominance and higher risk perception. 
Act like You're Listening to Encourage Participation
If you want your audience to take action, don't multitask
while they're doing it. Do not be tempted to check your SMS
messages, to check the time, or see how the other
members respond. Alternatively, by moving your head and
body to face them directly and making eye contact, you can
concentrate on those who are speaking. Leaning forward,
nodding, and rotating your head are other ways to
demonstrate your commitment and attention through body
language. Hearing people is essential. Being sure they
understand your attentive is just as critical. 
Get Rid of Barriers to Have a Connection 
To promote cooperation, remove everything that prevents
your vision or creates a wall for both you and the rest of the
group. Even as you take a breather, be mindful that by
keeping your teacup in a style that seems to shield your
body intentionally or separate you from everyone else, you
can form a barrier. A senior executive once observed that
the higher they kept their coffee cups, he could determine
the satisfaction of his staff. To rate the nervousness of the
individuals, they tend to hold their coffee cups at a high
position. People held at waist level with their hands were
more relaxed than those with high chest arms. 
Shake Hands to Build a Connection 
The act of touch has been regarded as the most powerful
non-verbal cue to create a great connection with people...
Touching others with as little as a few seconds on the arm,
side, or shoulder establishes a human internal connection.
Looking at the workplace, through the handshake tradition,
bodily touch and comfort are developed, and this tactile
contact gives a lasting and positive feeling. Handshake
research showed that if you shook hands with people, you
are twice as likely to remember them after you leave.
Research has shown that people are more open and friendly
to the people they come into contact with and shake hands. 
Smile to Stimulate Good Feelings 
A genuine smile not only triggers your sense of well-being,
but it also tells those around you that you are accessible,
supportive, and reliable. A real smile slowly emerges,
crinkles the eyes, and widens the lips, shines up the face,
and slowly fades away. Most significantly, a smile has a
direct impact on how others relate to you. You may have
noticed that when you smile at someone they respond with
a smile. Facial expressions have a way of triggering more
feelings associated with the smile. When you get back a
smile, it transforms the emotional state of the other person
in post-trigger corresponding feelings, the smile that you
get back actually changes the emotional state of that
person positively. 
When in Agreement, Always Show Through Expressions and
the Posture 
When clients or business partners unintentionally mimic
your body language, it is their way of stating how much they
like or comply with you in a non-verbal manner. It can be an
essential part of developing relationships and fostering
shared sentiments when you mirror other individuals with
purpose. Mirroring begins by examining the gestures of a
person's face and body and then allowing your body to take
on similar statements and poses consciously. The other
person will feel recognized and welcomed to do so.  
Always Watch People's Feet if You Want to Learn the Truth 
As individuals try to regulate their expression of the body,
they focus mainly on facial expressions, postures of the
body, and movements of the hand/arm. Because the feet
and the legs have not been rehearsed, they are where all
the reality can be identified commonly. By enhanced foot
motions, individuals will often show anxiety and discomfort
while undergoing any form of stress. The feet will always
fidget together around the seat. The Feet can spread and
curl to ease tension, and even jump out to flee in a remotely
controlled effort. Studies have found that viewers are more
effective in determining the real emotional state of an
individual as they see the whole body. Maybe you don't
know, but you have been reacting to feet gestures all of
your life. 
Keep Your Voice Down to Command Authority
As you plan to make or receive a call or else a speech, you
should let your voice relax into its optimal pitch. You will
achieve this by putting your lips together and make the
voices of ‘um, um hum’. Also, take note that your voice does
not go so high at the ends of the sentences. It may be
confused with asking questions or trying to seek approval.
To counter this, if you want to state an opinion use the
authoritative pitch that starts with a low note and raises the
voice throughout the sentence and the voice goes down
towards the end. When you adopt this, you will be able to
take control and command authority in each space.
Don’t Cross Your Legs, You Will Enhance Your Memory
According to a study, people in a lecture room who had
unfolded legs and arms recorded a higher memory of more
than 35 percent compared to those who had crossed them.
Therefore, to enhance your retention of information, you
should unfold your arms and legs. If you are making a
presentation and note these characteristics among your
audience, change your strategy and do something that will
enhance their listening. You could take a break and make
sure that you see a change happen by making them open
and loosen up for concentration.   
 Chapter 3.               Subliminal Persuasion
Subliminal persuasion is the technique of convincing your
target, or your group of targets, to do something, without
them knowing. There isn’t going to be any outward
suggesting of the idea, and often the victim isn’t going to
realize that you were trying to influence them at all. It is one
of the types of persuasion that manipulators and others can
use, and it uses words, along with some gestures, to get
ahold of different people. So, you may find things like
smiling, use of the head, eye expression, and more being
used, both in a positive and a negative manner. It is a
powerful technique, but often a difficult technique, that not
only uses words, but uses the meaning behind the words,
and body language, to ensure that the victim does what the
manipulator wants.
In the modern world, the techniques that are used for
subliminal persuasion are going to be powerful weapons
that can really help you get ahead. They can help you to
manipulate others, or even gain an advantage in a market
where there is a lot of competition, and you need to stay
ahead of the game. According to some experts in the field of
marketing and persuasion, many people are resulting in
subliminal advertising because it is more effective. As they
say, “Persuasion that looks like persuasion isn’t persuasive
anymore.”
Even a manipulator can use this information to help then
take control of the victim. If the persuasion that they use is
too obvious, then the victim is just going to walk away. You
see a lot of examples of persuasion in your daily lives that it
is easy to recognize the more obvious signs and stay away
from them if you don’t want to purchase something or do
something.
If a manipulator comes at their victim with a big sales pitch,
lots of bright flashing lights, and other obvious techniques of
persuasion, then they will get nowhere. The victim is smart
enough to recognize these signs, and they will get away
from the manipulator, and this is where subliminal
persuasion can come in.
Every time that the manipulator communicates with their
victim, they are going to be very careful about the
nonverbal signs that they are sending out as well. The
manipulator is going to try and send out extra messages
and extra persuasion through the body language and the
nonverbal cues that he/she is sending out as well.
Since subliminal persuasion is going to deal with the
feelings that the victim has, there is going to be some kind
of subconscious element in this kind of persuasion. As a
manipulator or another kind of person who needs to use
persuasion, you will provide the victim’s mind with some
feelings of enthusiasm and comfort about doing a given
task. Those thoughts and emotions are going to be sent out
to the subconscious mind, but then you have to take to the
logical mind too. You can then talk to this part of the mind
by discussing the things that are rational about the choice.
Some subliminal factors are going to influence whether the
manipulator is going to be believable. For instance, the way
that the manipulator does dress is going to be a factor. The
manipulator is going to make sure that the victim sees
him/her at his/her very best. The manipulator will dress
nicely, make sure that his/her appearance is kept up, and
always look like he/she is doing well. Even when the
manipulators are trying to play the victim and say that they
are hurt or dealing with a big illness, your manipulator will
still dress nice.
You are programmed to be more likely to help out someone
with a nice appearance, someone who is well-groomed,
compared to someone who is not. If the manipulator wants
to exploit this factor, then they are going to take some extra
precautions with their appearance.
There can also be a level of subliminal persuasion that is
used in the language of the manipulator as they ask for a
favor. There is a lot of truth in the idea of “it’s not what you
say, but how you say it.” The manipulator isn’t going to say
anything that is too out there, because this is something
that may raise some flags with their victim. But the way
they use their words will make a difference, and usually gets
them what they want.
The way that the manipulator will use their inflections and
intonations will also have a large bearing on the meaning of
what you say. If you see a sentence like “I can’t promise you
that price,” you may assume that it has just one meaning,
and that is it. But depending on the way that the
manipulator, or salesperson, uses it, there may be a few
different meanings. Take a look at some of the examples
below:
•            I can’t promise YOU that price. This one is going to
infer that the manipulator isn’t willing to get you that
price, but maybe they will promise that price to someone
else .
•       I can’t promise you that price. This one can infer that
one person can’t do it, but maybe there is someone else
who can offer that price.
•       I CANNOT promise you that price. This one is going to
infer that there is just no way that the person is going to
get that price.
•            I can’t PROMISE you that price. This one is going to
infer that there isn’t a guarantee but that the
manipulator might be able to do them a “favor’ and get
that price.
•       I can’t promise you THAT price. This one infers that the
manipulator is going to see what they can do. They may
 not be able to offer exactly that, but they could still get
you something good.
•            I can’t promise you that PRICE. This one is going to
infer that they will still be able to promise you something,
even if the price point doesn’t fall in the desired spot.
The importance of these statements is a great way to utilize
the ideas of subliminal persuasion. And there can be so
many different meanings based on the words that the
manipulator, or any other person, decides to emphasize.
And it is sometimes such a subtle process, that you can
hear the sentence and infer the meaning, without even
realizing what is going on.
Think about the intonation that you can use when you say a
specific sentence, and then imagine the power that goes
behind those words based on what a manipulator would be
able to use with them as well. In fact, there are about three
choices that come with intonation and the way that it can
change up the meaning of the whole sentence. As you go
through and say something, the three ways to finish up that
sentence would include:
•       An intonation that goes up
•       A downward, which would mean that the intonation is
a deeper voice
•       A voice intonation that does not change at all
Subliminal Persuasion Advertising
One aspect of subliminal persuasion that you need to take a
look at with this topic referred to as subliminal advertising.
This type of advertising aims to use your subconscious
minds against you to profit from another company. The
business is going to sneak different emotions, feelings, and
thoughts into the things that you consume, in the hopes
that you are going to want to purchase more of that same
products. In some countries, the idea of subliminal
advertising has been banned because it has been
recognized how dangerous this kind of manipulation tactic
can be against the consumer.
However, it is pretty common that an advertiser can get into
the head of the consumer, and most of these advertisers are
really good at doing it. They sometimes even pay to have
potential consumers what the advertisement to monitor how
the brain functions while watching that commercial. This
helps the advertisers to get a better idea of how the brain is
going to work while watching the advertisement, and then
they can make adjustments to really make it stronger.
The advertisers are going to monitor several things. For
example, they may decide to track eye movement to see
what part of the commercial is drawing the attention of the
crowd more. The advertising company can then use this
information to sell a product and to be as effective with the
subliminal persuasion as possible. This shows just how
powerful advertising can be, and how it has broken into your
brains, understanding how to sell you something better than
your understanding of capitalism, and what it means to be a
consumer.
Think about a chocolate commercial for an example. The
advertisement could just show a picture of a peanut butter
cup. You see the logo, just for a second, but then there is
nothing else on the screen that tells you to purchase that
treat. However, this is enough to tell you about the candy
bar, and the idea gets stuck in your head. This can make it
more likely that you will purchase that same treatment
when you head to the store next time.
Of course, you don’t always give in to what we see in
advertisements, even with subliminal persuasion. You see
thousands of advertisements during the week, and of
course, you are not going out and purchasing thousands of
items. But it is effective. Think about the reason that you do
purchase some of the things that you own. Think about the
reasons that you have a tone of stuff around the house that
you never use. All of this could be due to the process of
subliminal advertising and persuasion .
Different Ways of Being Subliminally Persuaded
Whether you feel comfortable with the idea or not, it is
highly possible that you are subliminally persuaded in one
way or another. For example, if someone has ever used a
form of passive-aggressive behavior on you, then they have
tried to use this kind of persuasion on you as well. For
example, your mother could make a comment about how
she saw someone at the store that she hadn’t seen for some
time, and then she makes a side comment about the weight
of that person, in a certain tone.
The reason that the mother was doing this could be a
subliminal message about how that mother feels about the
weight of her daughter. The persuasion then is that the
perception of that daughter is going to be altered. For
example, the daughter may feel like she isn’t meeting the
standards of beauty that her mother has. And as a result,
the daughter could try to alter her life, choosing to stay
away from the mother to avoid these comments and not
feel bad or try to work and lose weight if possible.
This is such a tricky tactic of persuasion, one of the hardest
to fight off out of them all. Those who are using this kind of
persuasion are often going to be so lost in their own
personal delusions, ones that no one else is going to share,
and they are never able to recover. Of course, they are
never going to admit that they are using these manipulation
tactics, and the victim will either need to remove
themselves from the situation or be stuck in the cycle
forever.
Asking for More
One method that someone who is a subliminal persuader
will use to get something from others is to start out by
asking for more than they really need in the end. Perhaps
that person needs to have $5000, but they know that is a
big amount to ask someone for, especially right from the
beginning. So, instead of starting with that amount, they are
going to ask for one that is much higher. This is done to kind
of shock the victim into thinking the lower amount is more
reasonable, and they are more likely to give in to the
request.
The person who was the victim of this subliminal persuasion
may feel guilty at the end of this conversation because they
weren’t able to give more, and they weren’t able to help out
for the full amount. Even though that person already asked
for something once, the manipulator can keep on coming
back because their victim will feel like they hadn’t given
enough the first time. Or, since they helped in the past, they
may feel obligated to keep up with this pattern and offer
help again.
Doing Favors
Someone who is using subliminal persuasion on another
person may first choose to ask for a favor. With
manipulation, it is more of a demand or a blatant telling of
what the victim needs to do. But the persuader will ask for
the favor so that there is an illusion that they need some aid
or help that only the victim can provide. The victim is going
to feel like they should help out because they may have
some kind of need to care for others, and they may feel
good about themselves for doing a favor for someone else.
In some cases, the manipulator may do a favor for the other
person first. This helps the victim feel like since they had
gotten help first, they need to return the favor, and they
become indebted to the manipulator. However, with
subliminal persuasion, the manipulator is just going to cut to
the chase and will focus on appearing like they need help
with something.
Those who are the victim in these cases may feel like they
are someone special just because they get the privilege of
helping this other person out. They may feel good about
themselves like they had some value because they were
able to help someone else. Of course, the manipulator is the
one in control of that situation, and they are taking
advantage of the need to care in the victim to their
advantage they will get what they wanted from the victim,
even though the victim is going to feel good about doing the
favor.
Being Flattered
Flattery can be great at this, but it is definitely something
that can be used against the victim when the manipulator
gets to work. The manipulator will believe that if they can
build up their victim, and if they can make that victim feel
good about themselves, then they can get what they want
out of that person.
You can see how well flattery works when you watch young
children use this technique. Children often learn how to use
flattery at an early age in an attempt to get people to do
what they want. They already understand that using their
charm can lead to a lot of happiness in other people, which
will lead them to do things for the manipulator .
This is something that can occur in abuse, too. The abuser
gets into a pattern of building up the significant other a
bunch, and then later, when it works for them, they are
going to tear this person down and be the one in control of
the situation again.
You will find that people are much more willing to do
something for the manipulator when there is flattery
involved. The flattery, even if it is shallow or even if it is
from someone we don’t know well, makes us feel good. It
makes us feel smarter, prettier, stronger, and more like.
Choosing the Appropriate Time to Ask for Something
Those who are going to be using subliminal persuasion are
going to make sure that they calculate out the right time to
ask for something. They won’t just focus on who to go after
as a victim. They are also going to put in some effort into
deciding when it is the right time to ask the victim to help
with the favor to make sure the answer is going to be a yes.
There are a lot of times when the manipulator can choose to
ask you for a favor. But it will never be at a time when you
are at your best. They won’t ask you when you are having a
good day, or when you are well-rested and happy or ready
to think through the answers that you give. This is when
normal people would ask because they want to get a good
answer from you.
But remember that the manipulator just wants to get the
answer that benefits them. And they often know that you
will turn them down if you are alert enough to catch on to
what they are asking for. This is why you must be careful
about requests for favors or help when you are tired, or
even times when you are in a good mood. The manipulator
is going to spend some time looking for these times and
then using them to their advantage when they ask you for
some favors.
Someone who is trying to subliminally persuade you will
also try to ask for favors when both of you are in public
settings. They believe that this is going to give them the
upper hand of the situation. They like to do this because it
can take away the chance for a confrontation that is going
to be uncomfortable and unfavorable for them.
And that is why this kind of persuasion can be so difficult to
detect in some cases. When the victim can help, they are
going to feel good about themselves. They can see what the
other person needs, and then will step in and offer to help in
some way. They can feel good about themselves, and they
can sometimes look good in front of the other people who
are important to them, and the manipulator gets to leave
with exactly what they wanted because the victim followed
the plan.
 Chapter 4.               Dark Psychology
What is Dark Psychology?
Having Knowledge is the central point of the existence of a
human being. One of the main reasons for us to evolve from
primates and to become what we are today is the evolution
of our mind yet the human mind is far much more
complicated to understand. The potential of the human
mind is still not known to us and with all the advanced
technologies of the 21st century; scientists are still finding it
very difficult to understand the capabilities and the potential
of the human brain.
Having said the same thing I can say that someone knowing
human psychology is far more powerful than the rest of us.
Knowledge of psychology can be applied in every aspect of
life. With the resources in our time getting fewer day by day
and population increasing day by day, the tendency of
human being preying over each other is increasing at a very
high rate. Dark psychology is nothing but the study of the
nature of human beings to prey upon each other. If you are
unaware of all this then you must pay attention to what I am
saying because anybody can take advantage of you without
even letting you know with or without a purposive intent in
his/her mind. This is not something only certain people are
associated with; this is a human tendency and this does not
need to be justified. Taking advantage of our well-being we
often try to take advantage of people even if they are very
close to us without even thinking of what he or she will go
through. 
So, the human mind indeed is designed like that while some
of us find a way to bury down these thoughts and train our
brains to sublimate these thoughts, some people act upon
the impulse of these thoughts. While most of the times
there is always a purpose to why human being does such
things, which are going to affect someone and there are
some rationale and motivation behind them doing that stuff.
But in a very rare case, it also happens that one can
develop the tendency to prey upon others without having
goal, motivation, and intent. Dark Psychology is associated
with the study of the psychological nature of human beings
as to why they do such things and it seeks to understand
the thoughts, processes, and ideas that lead to the
predatory nature of human beings.  
Importance of Dark Psychology
As mentioned above the basic principle of Dark psychology
is to know the facts and thoughts going inside the human
brain that induces the preying upon others mentality in
human beings and obtaining psychological knowledge about
someone is itself a very tough nut to crack. Someone having
knowledge of Dark psychology is a person of far much more
important than one can realize. 
The human brain is filled with numerous thoughts. Even if
we sleep our brain does not sleep and keeps generating new
ideas and it shows the beauty of our brain. To separate the
useless thoughts from the useful ones is a very tough job
and only a psychologist can do that. You might not like it
when I say that Dark Psychology is at work in the world right
now. But you can’t change this fact. A person who
understands the true meaning of dark psychology has so
many advantages over the ones who don’t understand it.
While it is true that most of us don’t even care about
understanding the basic meaning of Psychology and remain
ignorant about the same, any man who understands dark
psychology is rare to find. There are ideas and principles
embedded in the dark psychology that can help us grow in
every aspect of life. Having knowledge of dark psychology
can help you in fulfilling your professional and personal
endeavors. You don’t need to become a psychopath to do
that but, having some common sense and a little bit of
curiosity is enough to understand all about dark psychology
and how it’s going to prove fruitful results for you. You don’t
need to understand dark psychology as a defensive
measure as it covers vast aspects of life other than just
defending you. 
The 4 Dark Psychology Traits
Narcissism
Narcissism is the dark trait that is displayed by individuals
who are narcissists. Narcissists display high levels of
grandiosity, superiority, dominance, and entitlement.
Narcissists tend to be charming people who have a positive
outlook, which is why they are good at fooling other people.
According to psychologists, narcissists are usually on the
lookout for people to feed into their “narcissistic supply”
because they want to use those people to build their own
egos. They also lack empathy for others.  
One main characteristic that you see in narcissists is that
they are quite good at building and cultivating relationships,
and they can initially blind people to the fact that they are
acting out of self-interest. We all tend to have narcissistic
traits to varying extents, but there are few among us who
have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 
The terms Narcissist and Narcissism come from Narcissus, a
character in Greek mythology. Narcissus was a hunter and a
very attractive young man. He was so attractive that
everyone seemed to fall in love with him. However, he only
treated people with contempt and disdain, and he never
returned the love that others showed him. Because of this,
he was cursed by Nemesis (the goddess of revenge) to fall
in love with his reflection in a pool of water. 
Just like Narcissus, modern-day narcissists are in love with
themselves. However, psychologists have come to discover
that narcissist don’t love the real versions of themselves;
they are in love with perfect versions of themselves, which
only exist in their imaginations. It’s easy to assume that
narcissists have high self-esteem, but that is not actually
the case; they have a perverse kind of self-esteem that is
not predicated on accepting or loving who they are but
loving a fictitious grandiose version of themselves. When a
narcissist acts out of self-interest to someone’s detriment,
it’s usually in pursuit of that grand vision of himself, even
though he knows for a fact that it’s not real. 
Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
They think they deserve to be treated better than everyone
else around them. They have an exaggerated sense of
entitlement, and they truly believe that when they receive
favorable treatment in certain situations, it is for the
common good. A narcissist thinks that when he is taking
advantage of you, he is actually doing you a favor. This way,
he can rationalize a lot of selfish and evil acts. In a
relationship, a narcissist will think of himself as more
important and more deserving than the other person. In the
workplace, a narcissist will think that he has more natural
talent than his colleagues, and he, therefore, deserves to be
put in charge of projects or to be promoted ahead of
everyone else.
Narcissists believe that they are special, and to reinforce
this belief, they surround themselves with people who tend
to be agreeable. They want to be around people who will
validate their inflated sense of self-worth. Now, even the
most agreeable people have the ability to spot flaws in
others, and after spending some time with narcissists, they
will stop affirming the negative actions of the narcissist. To
prevent this, narcissists try to control the thoughts and
actions of the people around them. 
Narcissists are very controlling. They control people in both
covert and overt ways. They try to manipulate others so
that they keep feeding their “narcissistic supply,” and when
people try to break from their control, they can react with
anger or rage. In relationships, narcissists are more likely to
practice domestic abuse because they are trying to keep the
other person under their thumb. At work, narcissists are
more likely to act vindictively because they want to punish
others for challenging their dominance. Later in the book,
we will discuss ways to deal with narcissistic people.  
Machiavellianism
Machiavellianism is a dark trait that involves deceitfulness
and manipulation. Machiavellians tend to be very cynical
people (not that they are skeptical or they have doubtful
curiosity; they just don’t care for the moral restrictions that
the rest of society adheres to). They tend to be amoral and
self-interested. They don't have a sense of right and wrong;
they'll take any course of action, as long as it serves their
interests. 
Machiavellians are cold, unprincipled, and they are naturally
adept at interpersonal manipulation. They believe that life is
a zero-sum game and that the key to success is
manipulating others. They approach all kinds of
relationships with a cold, calculating attitude, and to them,
when they desire a certain outcome in a given situation, the
end invariably justifies the means.
Machiavellianism is named after Niccolò Machiavelli, the
Italian political philosopher who is best known for writing
The Prince. The book offers advice on how one can control
the masses and manipulate people in order to gain power
over them. The book teaches people to be cunning,
manipulative, and deceitful, as long as they get what they
want. It argues that in pursuit of one's interests, it’s morally
justifiable to harm others. In this sense, Machiavellianism is
similar to narcissism because, in both traits, there is an
underlying belief that one’s own interests serve the
common good, even if people are hurt in the process.  
People with these traits are likely to cheat, lie, and harm
others in order to achieve their goals. They are emotionally
detached from the people around them, so if you are in a
relationship with them, you may notice that all your
experiences are shallow. They won’t hesitate to harm others
if it’s expedient for them. Where narcissist, sadists, and
psychopaths may harm others for their own enjoyment,
because they lack empathy, or to fulfill certain emotional
needs, Machiavellians will do it for a rational and arguably
pragmatic purpose. They have little consideration for the
emotional collateral damage that they leave behind; in fact,
they only care about others’ emotions if they know it will
come back to haunt them. 
Some psychologists and anthropologists have argued that
Machiavellianism could be an evolutionary advantage and
that it’s, therefore, a desirable trait. Machiavellians
understand people’s emotional reactions, which helps them
deal with real and perceived threats, but they can
technically bypass empathy when reacting to threats, which
means that their actions are more effective. If the rule of the
jungle (survival of the fittest) applies, then Machiavellians
are more likely to thrive. The problem with this argument is
that we are not in the jungle anymore, and society only
functions if we all care about the welfare of others. 
Machiavellians are master manipulators, and they are highly
likely to be involved in white collar crimes. People with this
trait are more likely to be involved in embezzlement
schemes, pyramid schemes, stock swindling schemes,
overpricing schemes, and political crimes. They work their
way to the top by manipulating people, and when they get
to positions of power (whether in business or in politics),
they use the same techniques to manipulate the masses. 
Psychopathy
Of all the dark traits, psychopathy is the most malevolent.
Psychopaths have very low levels of empathy, so they don't
care for others. On the other hand, they have extremely
high levels of impulsiveness, and they are thrill-seeking
individuals. They are very callous, very manipulative, and
they have a heightened sense of grandiosity. They seek
thrills without caring about the harm that they inflict on
others in the process.
Psychopaths are more difficult to spot than you might think.
They tend to keep normal outward appearances; even
though they lack empathy and a conscience, they learn to
act normally by observing others' emotional reactions. They
can even come across as charming when they are trying to
manipulate you. They are volatile, and they have criminal
tendencies, although this isn’t always the case. 
There is a lot of interest and fascination with psychopaths,
which is why you see so many depictions of them in pop
culture. However, with fascination comes misconceptions.
We tend to think of psychopaths as serial killers, bomber,
super villains, and people who are certifiably insane, and
the danger here is that we forget that most psychopaths are
just normal (at least by all appearances), and they can harm
us in other ways. People who like starting fights, who
disregard your emotions and those who consistently lie to
you may turn out to be psychopaths. 
Adult psychopathy cannot be treated. However, when
psychopathic tendencies are observed in children and young
people, they can be put through certain programs that
teach them to be less callous and more considerate of
others.  
A key thing you need to understand is the difference
between a psychopath and a sociopath. In colloquial
conversations, these two terms are often used
interchangeably, but in psychology, they have different
meanings. A sociopath is a person who has antisocial
tendencies. Now, these antisocial tendencies are usually a
result of social and environmental factors; for example, a
person who has a bad childhood may turn out to be a
sociopath because he doesn’t trust society in general, or he
has developed certain psychological issues as a result of the
unfavorable upbringing. 
On the other hand, psychopathic traits are innate. People
don't become psychopaths; they are born psychopaths.
However, social and environmental factors may contribute
to a person's particular brand of psychopathy. For example,
people who are born with psychopathic traits and are
brought up in an environment that is chaotic and violent,
are more likely to have more pronounced manifestations of
their psychopathy. Experts agree that there are three main
factors that contribute towards psychopathy; genetics, brain
anatomy, and environmental factors.   
Like the other dark traits, psychopathy exists on a
spectrum. Clinicians use a scale assessment system to
measure the level of psychopathy; everyone falls
somewhere on that scale, but people with a score of 30 and
above as considered to have psychopathy that rises to the
level of clinical significance. The Hare Psychopathy Checklist
is used by mental health professionals to check for
psychopathy, mostly in clinical patients and in criminals, but
if you suspect that someone you are dealing with is a
psychopath, you can find it online and use it for free as a
guide if you want to know for sure that you are indeed
dealing with a psychopath. 
Sadism
Like the other three dark traits, sadism is characterized by
callousness. Sadists tend to have normal levels of
impulsiveness and manipulation, which explains why this
trait wasn’t originally included in what is now known as the
"dark triad." The defining characteristic of sadists is that
they enjoy cruelty.  
Everyday sadists tend to be normal and functional by all
indications, but they enjoy harming others. Sadists are
referred to as “everyday sadists” because it’s important to
make a distinction between them and the narcissists,
Machiavellians, and psychopaths who may manifest sadism
as part of their other dark traits. Sadists are intrinsically
motivated to cause others harm, even if they are completely
innocent. Sometimes, sadists can prioritize the infliction of
emotional pain on others even if it comes at a personal cost
to them. They find cruelty to be pleasurable and exciting,
and some even find it sexually stimulating. 
Some psychologists have noted that sadists are often drawn
towards career paths where they are allowed to harm other
people under the guise of legitimate work. That means that
many of them flock towards law enforcement, the military,
etc. Psychologists have observed that when the levels of
sadism in police forces are compared to the levels of sadism
in the general population, the levels within police
departments are always invariably higher. This could explain
why police forces often have problems with some of their
members taking the law into their own hands.  
Sadists tend to inflict pain on people around them for no
reason, and they are likely to escalate, especially when they
discover that the person in question is less likely to push
back. That explains why bullies keep picking on people who
don't stand up to them.
Sadists are the kind of people who would tell your secrets to
other people even after promising to keep them private
because they enjoy it when you experience discomfort.
They are also more likely to portray others in false or
unflattering terms, with the intention of damaging the other
person’s reputation; while Machiavellians may do this to
advance their personal agenda, sadists would do this
because it’s fun for them. Sadists may also work actively to
get you fired from your job or to jeopardize your success,
not because they want to get ahead of you, but just
because they want you to be unhappy. They may also try to
ruin your personal relationships; they’ll cause turmoil in
your relationship, then sit back and enjoy the drama and
misery. They are more likely to steal other people's
property, not because they need it, but because they don't
want what the other person to have it. They are more likely
to bully you either in real life or online.
You can always spot a sadist by the comments and remarks
he makes online. Most internet trolls tend to be everyday
sadists. They will make negative comments about pretty
much anything, not because they strongly believe in the
opinion that they have, but because they want to annoy you
or get a rise out of you. They’ll always find something
negative to say about even the most unifying things online.
With trolls, the more you engage with them, the more
energized they become, and the more they’ll bother you
online
 Chapter 5.               Mind Control Techniques
Some synonymous terms of mind control are brainwashing,
thought reform, manipulation, exploitive persuasion,
sociopsychological manipulation, behavioral change
technology, and a few others. As previously mentioned,
there are both good and bad reasons for mind control, but
we tend to only see things which are negative.  
There are a few different types of manipulation. Here, we
are going to discuss 2 of those types. First, there is the
sociopsychological manipulator. This is someone who
attempts to use social influence in order to lead someone
into a change in behavior or a decision. This can be indirect
and deceptive in nature. It’s also possible for this to be
direct. With this form of manipulation, there is often great
pressure put on the target individuals. An example of this is
peer-pressure, but there are much bigger examples that we
rarely notice.  
One of the best and most common uses of psychological
manipulation is marketing. We don’t think of marketing as
being this and it isn’t usually negative in nature. One
exception to this is with negative political ads. However,
marketing is simply persuasion on a large scale. Let’s look
at television commercials. What are they exactly? Years ago,
there were ads for cigarettes. Most of those who have a few
years under the belt will probably remember the Marlboro
Man. He was a healthy cowboy who portrayed a tough
image. He was usually on horseback and sucking down a
cigarette. We never saw anyone with cancer or being unable
to breathe on those commercials. There were also numerous
tobacco ads with very physically attractive people, both
ladies and men, who were holding lit cigarettes in the ad. In
reality, those who smoked for a long time usually looked
anything but like the people portrayed on television and in
the printed ads.  
What about the commercials that attempt to lead us to
believe that if we buy a certain product, our lives will
somehow instantly become great? “Buy this drink and you
will forever be ecstatic!” I like the pharmaceutical ads. “Are
you feeling sad and depressed? Talk to your doctor about
blah medication and kiss the sadness goodbye.” There is no
mention of what the possibilities for the cause of this
sadness may be and how the best treatment is to stop what
may be causing the problem, if possible, and not simply
medicating it. They may even use pictures of cute little
puppies or laughing children. They have associated
something joyful and peaceful with their product leading
you to subconsciously form the same connection. This is
manipulation at its best. How about fast-food ads? It’s a
well-known fact that most people need to eat healthy in
order to be physically fit. Eating this which are proven bad
for you may not be a terrible thing if done in moderation but
only in moderation. Have you ever seen an out-of-shape
person on a fast-food ad? 
When we are teenagers, in high-school, we are bombarded
by psychological manipulation from all angles. We had to
deal with the advertising seen on television and in
magazines. We had to deal with growing up and listening to
our parents. Then there was the, ever so dreaded,
bombardment of peer-pressure. I am sure that everyone
remembers this. Peer-pressure is simply the culmination of
several kinds of social manipulation. This happens when
outside ideas are placed in one person’s head and then that
individual passes them on. One child is made to believe that
a brand of clothing is the best thing since sliced bread. Then
he or she tells others that leading them to believe the same
and to run to the store to buy them. This goes on and on. As
time goes on, and we progress in technology, the pressure,
and the manipulating, of teens is increasing at an
exponential rate. Now, not only are kids pressured at school
but due to social media, this is a never-ending cycle. It’s
worth mentioning that this all takes place without commonly
being noticed and recognized for what it truly is. We call it
“life” or “growing up” but what it is it really? It’s mass
manipulation.  
Previously mentioned in this book, there is the beautiful art
of political persuasion. We are constantly subjected to
political ads and campaigns. Most of the time, important
issues are thrown out of the window and candidate’s pasts
or mistakes, or transgressions, are brought to the forefront.
A particular person may actually have the answers needed
for positive change, but that does not matter when the
political ads come out. We are led to forget that a certain
candidate has an impeccable record of public service and
good deeds and led to only think about one night that
individual had too much to drink while back in college 20
years ago. This is becoming ever more prominent.
Candidates don’t even need to do this kind of advertising or
manipulating, themselves. Anyone who can afford it can
take it upon themselves and begin a smear campaign
against someone and because of the way our brains work, if
we see an ad enough times, we will begin to believe what
we are being told. 
Here, let us look at what we have learned, and are learning,
about manipulation from another perspective. Let’s look at
it in a way that we can protect ourselves from it. Yes, you
may be reading this book in order to learn how to do it, but
you can also learn how to recognize that it’s being done to
you and how to block it. It begins with knowledge and
mindfulness. If you are aware of these tactics and why they
are being done, you are able to protect yourself from them.
If you see a cute puppy on a tire commercial, know that
puppies have nothing to do with car tires and that the
commercial is only trying to manipulate your thinking and
attempting to lead you into associating the two. 
The examples for psychological manipulation are so
numerous there could be an entire series of books written
on this topic alone. However, for our purposes, we will move
on to the other form of manipulation. Now, we are going to
discuss a much darker method utilized to manipulate others.
With this particular tactic, there is usually never a positive
outcome for the target. This tactic is harmful to others and
is not recommended for you to try in this book. Personally, I
would rather you stay far away from this form of
manipulation.  
Now let’s look at an emotional manipulator. Unlike with
psychological manipulation, emotional manipulation is
almost always negative and does harm to others. With this
technique, the manipulator preys on the emotions of those
in which he or she is targeting. An example of this is when a
child is able to manipulate parents into making decisions
based on their feelings of guilt. Whatever the cause of this
guilt, the manipulator will use it to his or her advantage. For
instance, if a parent needed to cancel out on some outing
with a child. Then the child brings that up at a later date as
a reason for why that parent should or shouldn’t do
something. “Dad, you didn’t take me to the record store last
Friday. So, the least that you can do today is taking me to
the clothing store.” The child is playing on the fact that his
or her father feels bad about not being able to take the child
to the record store and is using that to persuade or
manipulate him into going to buy some clothes.  
One area where this manipulation often creeps up is with
those suffering from addiction. It may seem odd to bring up
something like addiction in a book about manipulation and
persuasion, but that is actually a big part of the world of
addiction. Anyone who has been touched by this disease
can relate. This isn’t simply referring to addicts. It includes
their family, friends, and support network too. Actually, the
ones who are not actually addicted are most likely to be the
targets of emotional manipulation; Not the other way
around. Why is this case?  
Most addicts need to be rather intelligent and able to
manipulate others. Otherwise, they probably wouldn’t be
able to be addicts. They wouldn’t usually have the
necessary resources. Addicts need those who are known as
enablers. These are those who, with or without their
knowledge, enable addicts to continue their use of whatever
substance they desire. This can be with money or can be
something like babysitting an addict’s child so that the
addict can go out and use. Most people wouldn’t help with
things like this, but they are put in positions where they see
it best to go along with the program of helping that addict.
One common method an addict will use here is emotional
manipulation. 
I have personally been part of the life of an addict and I will
use some of what I experienced as an example. A very good
friend of mine, due to things beyond his direct control,
became an addict in his adulthood. Although he was an
adult at the time, his addiction led him to regress back to
his teenage years. What is meant by that is he began to live
his life as if he were still a teenager. He moved back in with
his parents and began to look to them for financial support.
It’s here were my example of how addicts will manipulate
falls into place.  
As we have seen, guilt is one method where an emotional
manipulator will use in order to successfully get what that
manipulator is trying for. With my friend, he was trying to
get money in order to feed his addiction. I’m not talking
about a few dollars here and there. He was spending
somewhere in the area of $100 to $250 per day on drugs.
Although he did have an income, it wasn’t sufficient enough
for these expenditures. So, he went to his mother for money.
At first, she was able to tell him no. Then he began the guilt
tactics in his manipulation. He used mistakes that his
parents had made against them. He was able to identify
those things from his past which bothered his mother the
most. It didn’t take long before he had turned his mom into
a total enabler and this began her emotional downfall.  
It wasn’t his intention to harm his mother. Addicts think
differently than everyone else. He just wanted the drugs he
felt that he needed. Although it wasn’t his intention to hurt
her, that’s exactly what he did. He would remind her of
some time back when he was a kid where things were not
especially rosy. His father hadn’t been the best dad and that
is what he brought up. His mother, on the other hand, was a
great mom but she felt partially responsible and guilty for
what he had to endure from his dad. He didn’t hesitate to
bring those things up with her. She would jump at his every
word. He played the emotional manipulation card well and,
because of this, created an enabler that helped him drag
out his addiction for years.  
One of the best things that an emotional manipulator can
use to lead another is love. This is just as, if not more,
powerful than fear. This form of manipulation is probably the
most damaging. It towers over blackmail and other trifling
techniques. Love is a powerful motivator and this can be
tweaked to be very unhealthy. Eventually, he regained his
life, dropped the drugs, and is now spending what life he
and his mother have in order to make amends to her and his
entire family.   
Other relationships are also subject to emotional
manipulation. Unhealthy marriages are one example. In
these relationships, usually one of the two will be the
manipulator and the other his or her target. This is a very
one-sided relationship that commonly is one person living
only to please the other. The other will continuously take
and take until there is nothing left. He or she will use
whatever tactics are necessary to keep this going. Of
course, there is almost always severe and irrefutable
damage done to one of the two. This not only leads to
divorce but can lead to much worse. It can lead to one of
them being destroyed for the remainder of their life. 
Now, let’s look at one area where both psychological and
emotional manipulation can occur simultaneously. We have
all heard of cults but what do we actually know about them
and those in which are affected. Cults, and those harmed by
them, are widely misunderstood. There are many myths
associated with cults and unfair stereotyping of those who
are former members of them. Nevertheless, cults, and cult
leaders, are prime examples of manipulators who use all of
the available tactics in order to control their subjects.   
What are some of the myths that are associated with cults?
Here are a few. People can just leave if they are in a cult and
wish not to be. Only stupid or non-assertive people join
cults. Cults are based on religion. Cults are strange and their
members are anti-social and usually outcasts. These are just
a few. Now, let’s look at the truth and how manipulation
plays a key role in the cult leader’s abilities in controlling
members.  
I remember learning about the cult leader Jim Jones and how
he led over 900 followers, a third of them children, to
commit mass suicide. In truth, not all of them drank the
poison. Some were shot. They were the people who refused
to drink poison because they wanted to live. How did they
wind up in that situation, to begin with? It’s complicated and
is another topic that an entire series of books could be
written. Here is a short summary.  
Jones was very charismatic and intelligent. He was able to
identify, or be mindful, of the wants and needs of people
specific to that time and location. He was able to identify
with those people who would follow him and he made them
truly believe that he would be the one to lead them to
better lives. He did this through manipulation and
persuasion. He was both honest in some things and
dishonest in others. In the beginning, the cult wasn’t the
way it had become at the end. As with all successful
manipulators, he had to slowly progress in his power and he
had to demonstrate extreme patience. After making them
believe he was best for their lives and it was in their best
interest to follow him, he began to place more control over
them. The members were virtually prisoners by the end.
They had invested all of their financial, emotional, and
psychological resources into the cult and now we're trapped.
Then Jones became dark and his mental health drastically
declined. He was able to take them all down with him. We
say to each other that there is no way we could harm a
child, especially our own child, or anyone else for that
matter. However, by the time the mass suicide took place,
they had no choice. It was poison or a bullet. A horrible truth
but a real example of the power that a manipulator can gain
and the destruction that can come as a result.  
Now that we have taken a look down that dark path, let’s
come back to the lighter side of persuasion. Here is
something to think about. What is the first step in
persuasion and manipulation? First, you need to find out
what it is that you are wanting. Then you need to find a way
to make your target feel as if he or she needs or wants the
same. If not the same, a way for your target to think that he
or she will somehow benefit from what you are trying to get
them to do. You need to make it enticing. This does not have
to be a lie. This is especially relevant to the workplace.
There is probably nothing that will benefit you, while at
work, that will not also benefit someone else. Use this to
your advantage.  
If you are truly intelligent and able to read and understand
others, you will probably be able to identify reasons for that
person to go along with your wishes and those reasons are
genuine. You won’t need to go to the dark place of
manipulation. You will be able to simply persuade someone
else based on joint benefits. A good word to remember is
conglomeration. This means to bring together. If you have
the ability to cause someone else to make a decision and
you have done this without lying, harming another, and with
integrity, you have proven yourself to be a true master of
persuasion without gaining the stigma of being a trifling
manipulator.  
 Chapter 6.               Manipulation Techniques
There are a lot of techniques that are used by manipulators
to gain absolute or a substantial level of control on their
victims. Most times, manipulators lookout for some types of
personalities to prey on. The reason for this is that they feel
the need to manipulate their victims easily. They look out for
the vulnerable parts of others and use it against them.
Most of the time, their preys are either naïve, empathetic,
those with low self-esteem, or with a lack of confidence.
Below are some common techniques used by manipulators:
Gaslighting
This is a style of manipulation that makes use of three
different phrases: “it didn't happen," "you are out of your
mind," "it's your imagination." Some experts believe that
this may be one of the most dangerous manipulative
techniques there is as it aims as disorganizing and killing
the victim's sense of reality. 
When a person is manipulated with this technique, he loses
touch with his reality and is no longer able to trust himself.
What is worse is that the victims of this type of manipulative
technique do not feel the need to call out the manipulator
for maltreating them.
Projection
In this type of manipulation, the manipulator finds someone
else to blame for everything that goes wrong around them.
This is something that is common with most people but is
more common amongst narcissists and psychopaths.
Here, the manipulator makes use of a defense tactic, which
involves shifting responsibility from his/herself for
wrongdoings and negative attitudes and blames everything
on another person asides himself.
Generalizations
This happens in cases where a person chooses to
misunderstand another for ulterior motives intentionally.
Have you ever found yourself in a case where a sibling, for
instance, refuses to think about the long-term effects of his
actions or that of your parents? Though you haven't said
anything as such, this sibling goes about telling everyone
who cares to listen that you called your parents "wicked"
just because you stated that you were not comfortable with
a certain major decision they are making for you.
In cases like this, you find yourself wondering what is really
happening and start to believe that maybe your sibling
didn't understand what you said. The truth is that this type
of person understands their victims clearly, but they choose
to run with an entirely different story. 
This is very common with narcissists who aren't very good
at making very sound intellectual decisions because they
are plain lazy when it comes to using their brains, so they
would rather make hasty generalization of whatever a
person says than to make a critical assessment of the word
of another person.
They usually make conclusions and statements that are not
in line with the thoughts and words of their victims, and
they do not try to look at things from a different perspective
to see where their victim is coming from or consider the
reasons why they said what they said.
Moving the Goalposts
There is a common logical fallacy known as moving the
goalposts, and sociopaths and abusive narcissists make
good use of it all the time. In this case, the manipulator
makes sure that they always have a cause to complain
about their victims, because they find reasons to, and not
because they are actually not pleased with the actions or
words of their victims.
Even in cases where the victim has found every possible
reason to justify their actions or validate their words or even
done things to meet their demand, they remain adamantly
dissatisfied. In most cases, they simply set higher
expectations or change their terms, or they simply ask that
you give more proof.
Changing the Topic
This may seem like an innocent action, but it is not.
Changing subjects in conversations is one of the techniques
used by manipulators. With is a way to run away from being
held accountable for their words or actions.
This is also common with narcissists as they do not wish to
ever dwell on a topic that will demand that they should be
responsible for anything at all. To avoid this, they simply find
ways to change topics in order to favor themselves .
This type of manipulation will go on for as long as possible if
the victim keeps letting it happen. In cases like this, it
becomes difficult to have relevant discussions whenever the
manipulator is around.
Name-Calling
This is a technique that involves attacking the victim's
personality by calling him derogatory names. Most victims
may think this is normal because they have become used to
it from bullies in school, to parents, friends, or partners who
call them names, but it is not, and it is as destructive as
other manipulative techniques. This type of manipulation is
found in all areas of life, and it goes as far as presidential
politics.
Devaluation
This is common with friends or colleagues who tend to show
love to you while they always have bad or terrible things to
say about the last person that was in your place. 
Narcissistic abusers always do this. When it comes it
intimate relationships, they have very terrible things to say
about their exes, but eventually, the new partner is going to
find out the reason why the ex was such a “terrible partner”
because the narcissist will eventually mate the same
treatment that he gave to the ex, on the current partner.
This type of person can also be found in a professional
setting as much as it can be found in personal settings.
Making Aggressive Jokes
Sometimes, you find yourself uncomfortable with the jokes
that a coming from someone else. Your sense of humor may
not be the problem as you will be made to believe. Maybe
the main problem is the motive behind the joke.
There are people who derive pleasure in making malicious
comments at the expense of others. These comments may
be presented as jokes so that they can easily pull through
with it without consequences. This way, they are able to say
terrible things without having to apologize for the things
they say.
Because they maintain their innocence in saying what they
want to say, you are rendered powerless and unable to
complain because anytime you try to react, you are seen as
one who does not have a healthy sense of humor .
Less Common Manipulation Techniques
There are some manipulation techniques used that are not
so common but have been proven to be effective when
used. Let’s take a look at some of those:
Home Advantage
When a person wants to manipulate you, he may insist that
you both meet in a place where it will be easy for him to
exert his dominance over you and control you.
What they do is simply take you to their homes, office, car,
or any other place where it will be easy for them to maintain
their ownership or familiarity because you simply do not
have such an advantage. 
Rather than having you call them, they will prefer to do the
calling in a phone conversation. Since they are the ones
paying the bills, they are able to maintain their dominance
or ownership, and if for any reason you choose to hang upon
them, you are tagged rude and manner-less for not
observing phone ethics.
Speak First To Determine Your Strong And Weak Points
This is a technique that is common with marketers when
they are trying to pitch their sales to you. They come at you
by asking general probing questions, which will give you
room to speak for a while. This way, they are able to
determine your personality, thought pattern, and attitude. 
It is with these findings that they are also able to know your
strengths and weaknesses.
Certainly, their questions come with ulterior motives, and
they are going to use your answer against you later. This
type of manipulation can manifest in your office or your
personal relationships.
Manipulation Of Facts
Lies and excuses are a common part of this technique.
These types of manipulators are two-faced people. They find
ways of blaming the victim for getting victimized. To do this,
they alter the truth or choose the information that they are
willing to let out. They may also choose not to give very
vital information. 
This type of manipulators exaggerates, they are biased and
may also be prone to understating issues in order to have
things go in their favor .
Presents Overwhelming Facts And Statistics
This is a form of "intellectual bullying," and some people like
to engage in it. This is done by assuming that they are
experts in certain fields or areas of discussion. They present
themselves as though they know the most about some
particular areas.
They, however, manipulate people by giving false facts,
statistics, or other data because they know that their
victims do not know so much about the topic. This is a
common strategy in sales and the world of finance. It is also
common in professional terrains and negotiations. People
usually make use of this technique in social gatherings and
other arguments.
By placing themselves as experts, they wield the power that
comes with the position, so they try to push through with
their real motif in a more convincing manner. There are
people who do not have any other reason for using this
technique, aside from the need to feel a sense of
intelligence.
Overwhelming Victims With Procedures And Red Tape
There are some types of manipulators who use officialism,
processes, laws/by-laws, organizations, and another possible
roadblock to exercise their superiority or power while
making things harder for others. 
This is a technique that is commonly used to delay the
quest for facts and truths. It is used to hide the
shortcomings of manipulators, their weaknesses, and it
helps them to avoid scrutiny.
Display Of Negative Emotions By Raising Their Voices
In order to manipulate others in a very aggressive manner,
some manipulators raise their voices while discussing with
others. They tend to think that they will be able to have
things their own ways and have others submit to their wills
and get what they want from them if they are able to raise
their voices and react to things in a negative way.
The over-projection of their voices always comes with some
strong body language like pacing or display gestures that
depict excitement in order to boost the impact of their
emotions.
Negative Surprises
This is a technique that is used to throw people off balance
and gain an advantage over them psychologically. This
happens more in negotiations. It entails having the victim to
make assertions that he/she may not be able to pull through
with or deliver on in one way or the other.
In most cases, the most potent type of negative surprises
comes without giving any signs or warnings. This way, the
victim is not able to get himself set to counter their moves. 
Since you have already made commitments that you are not
able to deliver on, the manipulator then asks that you make
certain compromises to be able to continue the business at
hand.
Giving Little Time To Make Major Decisions
This is a common strategy used in marketing and
negotiations. In cases like this, the manipulator pressures
the victim into making hasty decisions without letting
him/her get enough time to think it through. 
By creating tension and gaining control over the victim, the
manipulator aims at breaking the victim’s defenses, such
that he/she will finally give in to their demands .
Silent Treatment
This is a technique where the manipulator creates a sense
of anxiety by making their victims wait. To achieve their
aims, they refuse to pick calls, respond to messages, or
attend to their victim's inquiries. 
What the manipulator hopes to achieve with this technique
is to create a feeling of doubt and uncertainty in the mind of
the victim. This usually works in their favor as they sit back
and leverage on the silence they have created.
Feigned Ignorance
Manipulators use this method by simply acting dumb. They
pretend as though they do not understand the needs of
their victims, or pretend like they do not know what the
victim wants from them. This way, they become both
possessive and aggressive, such that you begin to take on
their responsibilities and stress over things that you
ordinarily should not concern yourself with.
This strategy is common amongst kids who wish to
manipulate adults into doing things for them, or just to
stress, or delay them. There are adults who also use this
method to hide their selfish interests or to hide secrets away
from people. It is also used by adults to evade their duties.
Inspire Others By Creating An Attractive Vision
Before you attempt to manage others, you will need to
create a clear vision to determine your goals as a leader and
as a team. If you cannot set your goals clearly, it is may not
be easy to have others follow you.
Create A Friendly Environment Based On Trust
If you don't have a real connection with the people you hope
to manage, you may end up being a figurehead or just a
title bearer. This means that people will only respect you
because they need to obey your position and not your
person. This may not help you in your quest for
management. 
If you must tap into the strengths and abilities of those you
are relating with, you will have to engage with them as
people who matter to you and who you care about, rather
than relating with them as people you are compelled to
work with .
Gain Valuable Insights Into The Thought Patterns Of Others
Every day, as you relate with others, you are going to get
hints at the things that are in their minds and what they are
thinking. NLP experts pay keen attention to linguistic and
paralinguistic features, as well as behaviors in
understanding the things that are going on within others.
They also believe that they are able to get the best out of
others by asking relevant questions.
Use Perceptions To Gain New Points Of View
In managing people, one of the most common practices,
especially in the hospitality industries, and amongst
customer care representatives is putting one’s self in
someone else’s position. This way, you will get to be
appreciative of the other person and get to know what it
feels like to be them.
Making use of perceptions will also help you to try to look at
things from another angle. You may choose to look at
situations with the eye of an observer or try to look at things
objectively from both angles to get both ends of the story .
Use Others As Ideals For Excellence
As a manager, one good practice is for you to look at the
things that everyone is good at, then learn how they do
what they do. Just like the early fathers of NLP, observe and
ask questions. Reach out to those that are experts in
particular fields and ask them about the series of events.
Also, try to pry into their thoughts by asking what they are
thinking at every stage.
Try to replicate this process by making it your own model
and practice it on your team. This way, you will get good
results.
When You Are In Difficult Situations, Find Useful Internal
Resources
Take sports, for instance; a good coach is always aware of
the fact that most times, his team already has all they need
to succeed. To be a good manager, the coach has to help
everyone in his team to find these resources.
The simple trick is to encourage them to savor the feelings
of joy, strength, and confidence that comes from all the
times they have won in the past, and make use of these
feelings in other different situations.
Understanding What Matters To Other s
People always gain motivation from their personal values.
When, as a manager, you are able to understand the things
that matter to people when it comes to their work, you will
be able to give them a conducive environment for success. 
Consider the fact that people often wish to work without
interference, even from their managers, and try to respect
that fact. If this is what will make them work better, try to
give it to them.
One common practice in NLP is approaching life with a
sense of curiosity and asking questions as to the reasons
why a thing works or doesn't work. Work on building your
own sense of curiosity and discover the chance of opening
yourself up to a world of endless possibilities.
 Chapter 7.               The Subtle Art Of Deception
There are ways people use deception; sometimes, the
deception is self-deception, while at other times, other
people deceive someone else for selfish gains like money or
getting confidential information that should not be shared. 
Self-deception does not only involve lying to ourselves but
also consists of the mind playing tricks on us. With lying,
someone is aware of the truth but chooses not to use the
truth but instead lie while self-deception people convince
themselves unconsciously that a lie is a truth. In self-
deception, a person does not realize when they are telling a
lie. There are various types of self-deception which include: 
Functional self-deception – a person will lie to themselves
and even go ahead to convince himself that what he just did
is not wrong. A person in this will try to turn a lie into a truth
so that it can suit them best. A person who continues to
continually deceive themselves this way does not face any
risks because they will not see the need for taking a chance
no matter how beneficial the risk is. They will convince
themselves that the risk is not worth taking.  
Value and believe - a person here deceives themselves
that the more expensive something is, the more valuable it
is. They place worthiness at the value level. If something
does not seem valuable to them, they will not go for it. This
might make such a person continue chasing things that are
valuable but not helpful to them. They think the difficult it is
to attain it the worthy it is, so much time may be lost while
trying to get something that wasn’t going to help them in
any way. 
Consolatory self-deception - in this, somebody refuses to
be accountable for anything and instead continually tries to
find the nearest person to blame for everything. For such
people, nothing is ever their fault; it's always the other
person's fault that something didn't work in a certain way.
Such a person is unlikely ever to face their problems
because they do not acknowledge them, to begin with. 
Lying to others to assure yourself is also another form of
self-deception. You tend to make small lies when talking to
people until the lies become your truth somehow. Such
people lie to others until they also end up forgetting what
the truth was, to begin with. The lie becomes so real that
even the truth now becomes a lie. The mind somehow
captures the dishonesty, and therefore, the truth is easily
forgotten. 
The other deception, which is very dangerous involves
offenders trying to deceive people in a criminal way. The
scammers will get their targeted victims, who will cheat and
up sometimes robbing them of a lot of money, getting very
confidential information, and sometimes even risking the
victim's life. Such offenders are criminals who are
continually sought after by the law enforcers. Sometimes
they are able to get away with it but at the expense of living
the victim in a tragedy of loss and having to deal with the
recovery of whatever they have lost from the perpetrators. 
Art of deception has been well mastered by some
individuals to exploit people into disclosing confidential and
personal information, which may be used for scheming
purposes. The art of deception is a way of brainwash people
to achieve a sure selfish thing. It involves social engineering
manipulation, which is the psychological tricking of other
people for them to do or disclose their personal information.
A lot of malicious activities happen when people interact.
People are tricked into making security errors and giving out
the very sensitive information that may work against them
in the long run. 
Social engineering attacks happen when people take a lot of
sensitive issues for granted. An offender will first carry out
his investigation on his targeted victim and gather as much
information as he could get. The information may include
social security details that the victim doesn’t think is very
important. The offender will then try to befriend the victim
and gain his trust before proceeding to expose the
information by either releasing it or sharing with other
sources that may have hired him. 
The Attacks May Involve the Following Life Cycle 
Preparation – an offender gets their intended victim, gets
all the information needed to base the attack, finds the best
strategy or method to carry out the attack. 
Approach – making friends with the intended victim, faking
a believable story so that the victim may be free with them, 
Gathering more information – this involves tricking the
already made friend who is the victim to give more
additional information, delivery of the attack after all the
information has been collected, and there is no loophole,
destruction of data. 
Sealing the deal - the offender erases any evidence that
may tie him to the crime, covers all the track to ensure that
his attack is not easily traceable, making a natural exit as if
nothing happened and as if he is not aware of anything
related to those activities. 
The most dangerous aspect of this whole social engineering
thing is that it is dependent on human mistakes or
recklessness. The software and operating system are highly
efficient, but when somebody makes a mistake, there is
nothing that can prevent this attack from happening. It is
very difficult to predict human errors and, therefore, the
vulnerabilities. 
Social engineering can happen at any time, anywhere in
the world, as long as there is human interaction. Below is a
list of some of the most and widely known social
engineering attacks that exist. 
 Social Engineering Techniques
Baiting is a deliberate attempt to try and provoke someone
or something. Baiting attacks involve giving fake promises
to provoke the greed or curiosity of the victim. A victim is
lured into a trap where their information is stolen, or their
system is inflicted with malware. The most common type of
baiting involves the use of media to distribute malware. An
example of this is when an offender intentionally put a
malware-infected flash where the victim is most likely to
access like in a mall, in the washrooms, or parks where the
victim can quickly get hold of it. The bait has an original
look and has a label that may indicate things that the victim
is most likely to be interested in. When the victim picks up
the flash, and due to curiosity inserts the flash inside a
home or work computer, there will be an automatic
installation of the malware on the system. 
Scareware involves constant scaring of people with false
alarms or fabricated threats. The victim is made to think
that his system has a malware infection, which may make
them install software that is not really needed for the victim
but may be useful to the offender or even be deceived into
installing the malware itself without them realizing that it is
malware. Scareware is also called deception software or
“Fraudware." The most famous or used shareware includes
the pop-up banners that pop up on someone's browser
when they are on the screen that screams that the
computer is infected and may need to be cleaned. What the
pop-up banner offers a person is the installation of a tool
that may be malware of may be infected with malware. You
may also be directed to a site that has infections, and when
you get to the site, the computer now becomes infected.
Often scareware is distributed as a pop-up banner in the
mails as a spam mail or even as a buy offer to buy things
online with very low prices or even in the form of very
catchy promotions. If someone does all or one of the above,
their computer will be infected. 
Pretexting – the deception here is wisely crafted with
trickery lies involved. An offender will trick the victim by
engaging them and asking for sensitive, confidential
information so that the offender can be able to perform a
specific task for the victim. Usually, the task includes
something that may help the victim. To be able to achieve
this, the attacker will first try to engage the victim by
impersonation. They may pretend to be a family member,
friend, co-worker, police, bank official, or any person with
authority to make such inquisitions. The offender will begin
by asking questions that are intended to gather a victim’s
real identity from which they will then be able to gather
confidential information. The pretext may ask questions
about the social number details pretending to be the police,
and later use the features to access all the data belonging
to the victim. This scam is used to gather the most detailed
information that is supposed to be a top-secret, and that
could quickly bring a person down. The information may
include social number details, bank statements, personal
address, personal number, phone’s recording, and even
information that gives a person their security. With this
information lying on the wrong hands, destruction is very
easy, and that’s why it is essential to be sure of who you are
sharing your details with. 
Phishing is one of the most well-known social engineering
attack types. Phishing involves mail, text messages that are
intended to create a sense of fear, curiosity, and urgency to
the victims. When the victims are at this phase of fear and
curiosity, the offender makes the victim reveal their most
sensitive information by clicking on links of the most
dangerous websites or even by accessing malware-infected
websites. The example of this scam is an online service
provider tricks the user into thinking that they have violated
the policy and need an essential password change with
immediate effect. To change the password, one is required
to follow a specific link that usually leads them to a
dangerous website that looks exactly as the real website or
the actual legit version of the site, and then the victim will
be trusting enough to enter the relevant information plus
password. Once this information is fed on the website its
sent and immediately gets to the offender, since most of
these scam emails are usually the same or most likely to be
the same, and only changed in several areas to make them
seem more authentic and yet sent to everyone, it’s very
easy for them to be detected and blocked before they get to
a lot of innocent victims. The mail servers should try tracing
them so that they are blocked on time because they have
access to threat sharing forums. 
Spear phishing is a version of the phishing scam, and
attackers in this scam choose specific individuals or
companies. They fake the messages based on a person's
well-known identity or character, positions they hold at their
workplace, and people that the victim well knows so that it
is easily believable. Spearfishing requires so much time and
work for the attacker and takes longer for the attacker to
implement. This is because it is harder for them to gather
everything and also apply, although it's also the best
rewarding method for the attacker. A spear-phishing attack
may involve someone pretends to be the company's IT guy,
and he may send emails to a specific or several employees.
The mail is written precisely as an IT guy would and also
have the same signature as the IT guy. It is, therefore, very
easy for the mail recipients to think it's an authentic
message because of how detailed and genuine it looks. The
email may persuade the recipients to change their password
by following a link that the offender intends them to follow
for them to be able to capture the company’s details. There
are several ways that people can avoid and stop this kind of
scams. 
Vishing – sometimes, the attackers are not always using the
internet to scam, but then other scammers will use the
phone calls. What the scammers will do is create an
interactive voice response system of a certain company.
They will then manipulate people to call using the toll-free
number. When people fall into this trick, they will enter their
details before making the calls, and therefore, the attackers
will get access to their information in this way. 
Tailgating – Here, attackers will get help from someone on
the inside who can access the information on their behalf or
even who can tip them on various issues. 
Quid pro quo – this involves people impersonating the
technical support team. They will make calls to a particular
company and pretend to be trying to solve a technical issue.
The offender will try to solve un existing hitches through the
phone call by making the victim do precisely as they want
or intend them to. This kind of scam involves a reward from
the offender in exchange for the information they will get.  
Social Engineering Prevention
Social engineering is a scam intended to manipulate people
by playing with their emotions by creating fear or curiosity
for the attackers to be able to gather information. There are,
therefore, cautions that a person can take in order to avoid
these scams. Emails received should be taken with great
caution, reading, analyzing, and getting to know every
detail before acting on them. Be alert of all the pop-ups,
promotions or adverts, and any digital information that is
just at the disposal. 
Improving emotional intelligence is the most significant
prevention of any manipulation. The attackers will try to
play with your emotions; what they most want from you is
to make you fearful, guilty, and anxious. A person with high
emotional intelligence cannot be played in this manner and
is therefore safe from manipulation.   
Be cautious of your environment before accessing your
account or any activity on the internet. One glance at your
computer from the wrong person might significantly expose
your confidential information. 
Avoid and stop opening emails from sources that are not
well known to you. If you are not familiar with the sender,
you should not feel obligated to reply to a mail. And even
though you know the sender but the message seems
suspicious, or you do not understand the message, it's good
to do a follow up before acting on the mail. To do this
confirmation, you may call them through their phones to
hear directly from them, or instead of following the link; you
should go directly to the server's original site to be sure. It’s
good to always remember that emails are hacked all the
time, and even though the source of the email may be
genuine, he may have been hacked himself, and the
attackers used his mail to scam you. 
Multifactor method – the essential information for an
attacker is user credentials. The multifactor authentication
enables a person to secure their account so that in case the
system is compromised; your mind is still safe. The security
information of the report should always be safeguarded.  
Being careful of all those too good to be genuine offers is
very important. Attackers know how to play with your mind,
and suggestions are very enticing. Next time before you
click an offer link, it’s good to pause and think because you
might be protecting yourself from a massive scam. You may
decide to look the offer up on google to find out if the offer
is indeed genuine or not.  
Keeping your computer’s antivirus updated is also very
important. Regularly updating the antivirus should be a
norm or downloading a new antivirus on a daily basis. Then
the next thing should be continually checking the computers
to make sure that the system has no infections.  
Attackers are very daring because they will get a person’s
phone number and make the victim the most irresistible
offer. They are very friendly because they intend to make
you trust them. Sometimes they will ask the victims for
money in order for the victim to get the offer, which is
usually much valuable than the money they are asking for.
This art of deception is called a Fraud. But then the extreme
of deception is when attackers decide to use psychological
games of deceit with the victim who is now the social
engineering.  
Sometimes attackers do not just manipulate for financial
gains. Sometimes the attackers will manipulate to gather
information. This manipulation sometimes involves even
having your friends manipulating you for them to access
your password. 
 Chapter 8.               How To Influence People
There are going to be certain times in your life when you will
find that manipulation is going to come in handy. While you
know that it is so important to practice in as many scenarios
as you can, there are going to be ones that you will find
manipulation will be the most useful. We are going to focus
on the best places where you can use the skills of
manipulation so that you can get ahead and really benefit
from the things that you have learned so far. 
Business Negotiations
When it comes to working on some negotiations in business,
it is easy to see how you want to make sure that you can
get your way. Getting your own way will usually mean that
you want to close a better deal, one that is going to be
highly favorable to your own company. Closing these deals,
and making sure that they are in your favor, will mean that
your company is able to get most, if not all, of the things
that it is asking for, and that you will barely have to deal
with any inconveniences in the process to do this. 
There are a lot of things that you can negotiate during these
meetings, such as better terms on the deals, better pricing
on the services, and more, and if you use your skills in
manipulation, you are more likely to get the whole thing to
work in your favor. 
When it comes to negotiating on some better deals for the
business, you will find that manipulation is a very powerful
tool for you to use. Whether others like to admit to this or
not, negotiations are rarely fair, and there is usually going to
be a person who comes out on top. You want to make sure
that the person who comes out on top is you. 
When you use manipulation in these efforts, it means that
you are easily able to dominate the conversation, without
the other person even realizing it. When this happens,
others in the negotiation are more likely to give in without
even doing a fight, because they think they are getting
something good out of it as well. Because of this, and all of
the good benefits that you can get from this, you should
bring out the manipulation skills that you learn as much as
possible when you are working with a business negotiation. 
Closing Sales
If you are at all involved in a sales process at some point,
then you know that it is not always easy to close sales. If
you work in retail, for example, you likely notice that many
of the people who come into your store are dreaming and
looking around, and sometimes, they won’t be prepared to
buy anything. Because of this, it can sometimes be valuable
to know how to manipulate people as you can encourage
them to spend money that they did not otherwise intend to
spend. 
What this means is that when you get the other person to
purchase something through your manipulation techniques,
it results in more sales for the business. If you are the one
who owns the company, you know how important this is. If
you are an employee, you know that effective numbers of
sales, and good sales strategies, means that you are more
likely to be respected by your employer, and then you can
make it up the ladder of the company. 
If you are in a sales position that is considered business to
business, then you know that manipulation is so important.
People who end up going to a meeting with you are likely
interested in what you are going to offer, but they could also
be shopping around to a few different companies at the
same time, and you need to find ways that will put your
business ahead of all the other choices that they are
considering. 
Knowing how to use the right skills of manipulation at any
level of sales means that they can close more deals and
that they will be left with happier customers. This only
means that good things are going to be available for you in
the future. 
Getting Prices That Are Better 
You can use manipulation from the other side of the
perspective as well. If you are the customer and knowing
how to manipulate during this time can be highly valuable.
As you know, many times the salespeople have been given
some room to negotiate with their customers in order to
encourage sales. This means that if you are willing to use
some manipulation and work with them, you can get a
special and better deal. You are able just to take the price,
but wouldn’t it be much better for you to go through and get
a better price if you are able to. 
Being effective at manipulation means that you can easily
manipulate companies to give you the best in deals for
services and products. By promising them your praise and
services, for example, you can essentially get them in the
palm of your hand. They become far more willing to
communicate with their managers and negotiate the best
possible deal for you so that you will actively buy from
them. Salespeople, especially those who are based on
commission, are always eager to close a deal. This allows
you to use manipulation in order to get the deal to close in
your favor. 
Leading the Desired Lifestyle That You Want 
Each person has a goal about the desired lifestyle that they
would like to have—but the lifestyle that you have right
now, and the one that you desire, might not always be the
same thing. However, the good thing about using
manipulation is that you are able to use it to help you get to
the desired lifestyle. There are a lot of ways that you can do
this—you just need to learn how to make it work. 
Let’s say that right now you are living in a house that you
are renting, and you want to buy your own home at some
point—but right now, the types of homes that you are the
most interested in purchasing are not within the price that
you can purchase. However, with the right kind of
manipulation, you may find that you are able to get a better
deal, putting you into the home of your dreams sooner as
you would like. This can work with any of the big-ticket
items that you would like to purchase, such as cars. 
Another way that this can work is with some of the
relationships that you are in. If you are someone who would
like to find a new group of friends, the friends who are going
to help you reflect your new lifestyle, you may find that
working with manipulation is going to help you out. You can
also use the art of persuasion to convince others to become
your friends and spend time with you—and from that, you
will then have the friends that you need to live this new
lifestyle. 
Take this a step further and see how it can work with some
of your intimate relationships. If this kind of relationship
doesn’t look like the one that you would like, then you can
bring in some manipulation and see if it is possible to make
the right changes towards a better relationship. If you want
to have more romance, for example, you would spend some
time with fancier places or people. 
Getting Out of Things 
Have you ever gotten into a situation where you were asked
to do something, but you didn’t have any want to do it? All
of the time we are going to be signed up for things, or given
offers, that we aren’t really that interested in—and
sometimes, it can feel difficult to turn these things down in a
polite manner. Depending on who is asking for the favor,
you may feel obligated to help them out with it. 
However, once you learn how to work with manipulation a
bit more, you will find that this is not as big of a problem for
you anymore. You may even find that this is a good place to
start when it comes to practicing your manipulation. You can
bring it up any time that you get stuck doing something that
you would rather not be doing. 
Not only are you able to use manipulation for your benefit to
get out of the reunions or things that family and friends
want you to help out with, but you can also use it at work as
well. If your boss went and signed you up for something that
you don’t want to do, you can use manipulation to convince
them to let you get out of it, or you can convince someone
else to go and do the work for you. 
You can use manipulation in any manner that you would like
to make sure that you are able to live the life that you want.
It can help you to get the business negotiations to work the
way that you want, to help you get the friendships,
relationships, and to get yourself out of the things that you
don’t want to do. There are just so many different things
that you are able to use manipulation with, and this can be
a great way to ensure that you have the life that you have
always dreamed about.
 Chapter 9.                           How To Identify And Counter A
Manipulation
Identify it
The first key principle about manipulation can identify it.
And to identify it, you have to understand the laws of
human nature which are gotten from Robert Greene. The
first law is that people will attack you if they think that you
are weak. The second thing is that people are trying to
sense any weakness in you to know whether they should
attack you or back off. And the last one is that people are
after easy victories. So people are going to sense whether
you are weak, and then they're going to think about
whether they should attack you or not. If they feel like
you're going to be an easy win, then they're going to attack
you. And if they think that they are going to get hurt in the
process, then they are going to back off and look for the
easier victim. And the thing is that these people try to sense
your weakness. If they sense that you are weak, they will
attack you, and that is where you should use a defensive
stand as an offensive stand. 
So, to identify somebody who is a manipulator, you have to
give up the impression that you are weak and that you are a
naive person and that you depend on them because you
want to see how they react to power. You want to see how
they react when they feel like you have them. You want to
appear like a weak victim and see how they react to it and
see how they react to your weakness. Appear like you
depend on them. Test them as much as you can. You want
to appear weak to see how the person will react to you.
Because that is when somebody really shows who they
really are. So to identify them, you, first of all, show that
you’re weak and see what happens. You want to test them;
you don't want to get attached to them. 
Build a reputation to avoid them
The next thing is to build a reputation to prevent
manipulation. Your reputation is what precedes you in life.
So to determine manipulation, you must send signals that
you are not to be messed around with. You have to send the
signals, and you can do that by really taking bold actions.
For instance, if you are with someone and you notice that
they are starting to get too comfortable with you and
they're starting to be late and get too comfortable, you can
break it off. You can tell them that you are done, you don’t
like this kind of stuff with you, and that you have zero
tolerance.  
You are telling him that you could dump him any second if
he messes around with you. If he's actually playing again,
he's going to change that, and he will know that you are not
somebody to be messed with. You want to set the tempo
from the beginning. If you noticed that he's deviating from
your standard and a healthy relationship, then cut him off.
If you see that he wants to act cool on you, then tell him
that you are done. The thing is that you have to be willing to
fish him out because that is the signal that people feel when
you do that. They feel as if you can walk away any second.
Most times, people are bluffing, and they show weakness.
So, by actually making some bold moves like that, you are
actually making them know that you know that they are
playing games with you. So, in other words, you should
make it like they got you all wrong because they thought
that they are good by fucking with you, not knowing that
they cannot mess around with you.
Do the subtle thing that suggests that you are about to do
it. This tells him that you are not paranoid. So if you're with
somebody and you want to communicate with them that
you're not happy with how things are going on and you're
noticing that he is trying to guilt-trip and he's trying to make
you do the things that he wants you to do rather,  than say
that you are going to leave him. Say subtle things that
communicate that you are losing interest in him. For
instance, not calling him back and telling him that you're
not going to call him back or not calling him back when he
texts you. So you’re responding in a very direct way, but
you respond in a very bland way. The thoughts about you go
away. There is no emotion when you text. There is no
consistency when you text him. Don't stop till thing, and
that will show him that you are losing interest in him. And
that you are willing to walk away, and the guy knows that
you are willing to walk away because of your past action. 
Now since you are showing that you're losing interest, the
guy will start changing his behavior. So you must show
people that you don't need them. You must make them
know that you have more than you are paying and more
than you have. So that if you lose them, you will still be ok.
This will make them stop such things. If they feel that you
are going to dump them, they will respect you more. The
feeling that you are about to dump them or the feeling that
you are losing interest because of their stupidity will make
them respect you. And when they respect you, they will not
play these games with you because they know that you're
not to be fuck with. It is important to let them know that if
they mess with you, you will not be nice anymore, and you'll
be downright difficult to deal with If the fuck with you.
You are going to communicate that you are not easy to deal
with. So you have to be like that with yourself, or you have
to realize that people are looking for an easy win and if you
don't give them a hard time when they are looking for shit,
they are going to keep giving you shit because it feels good
to put all your problems into someone. So one thing that
you can do is that you should tell him a story of how
somebody did the same shit and you dump them. You may
say, “I remember one time that one dude kept fucking up
with me, and I stop going out with him. I literally told him
that we are done because he kept being late to the date,
and I found it disrespectful”. And he might say, “for real, you
dumped him, and you will say yes if somebody messes with
me, I will dump him.” I am I like you a lot for one second,
but if I feel that you are disrespecting me and you are
playing games with me, then I will be done with the
relationship”.
Then you can just change the topic, and in his mind, he will
know that you are no joke and that you're not a person to
you fuck with. That's one way to do it. Tell them a story in
the past of how you dump somebody that fucked with you. 
Know how you feel around them
Now the best way to catch them is by knowing how you feel
around them. So, you have to be aware of the way you are
feeling around them. Usually, they make you feel discomfort
around them. Also, they try to put you down. They make
you hurt, and you find yourself thinking about what they
said for a long time or finding out that they said some things
that hurt you, even though you did not feel it during the
conversation. Their behavior is recurrent, which means they
try to do it repeatedly. They also push you to do things for
them, and they only appreciate you when you do what they
want. 
They are moody about you. Today, you are the best person
in the world; and the next day, they cannot believe that you
exist in the world. What they really do is that they pretend
to be on your side while they're working behind your back.
They work behind your back subliminally, and they do that
when they find out you are vulnerable. They don't hurt you
directly, but they hurt you sublimely, and they do that to
serve their real purpose. When you start to know them, they
really become aggressive whenever they are confronted or
whenever they're told that they are wrong. Whenever they
feel that they will lose an argument or when they feel that
you are winning the argument, they become very
aggressive. You can also tell this kind of people through the
words that they use, that they try to manipulate you.
They try to look really innocent and easy going with you.
They tell you that they are not trying to put you down, but
then they say something hurtful or negative to you. They
start by putting you at ease and tell you that they are not
trying to hurt you, that they really like you. Sometimes
when you actually face them or confront them with what
they are doing, they start telling that it is your fault. That
what you did is making them act that way. 
They even make you pity them by saying that they hate
themselves because of how you make them feel or how you
behave with them because you are not giving them all to
supposed to give them. You should watch for any subtle
statement or sarcasm that tries to put you down. These
people are very dangerous when they are in contact with
you, especially when they're your close friend, a boss, a co-
worker, a wife, or a husband. 
Run for your life
If you know someone like this, try to run for your Life stays
away from this kind of Personality because they can do
some psychological damage to you. Sometimes you may
not be able to run away from this kind of person. You might
start thinking about someone who will make you feel hot
and uncomfortable, but you are not sure why. It is because
they're manipulators. They are extremely smart. If they are
in business, they are in a leadership position. And because
they know how to manipulate and deceive others, they use
it to get to what they need in your organization. Most people
will actually have values, and they will trespass on the
values just to get their own personal game. This type of
person will do anything in their power, whether ethical or let
go to get what you want. They are in your personal life and
in your workplace. Them now, how do you deal with this
kind of manipulative people. 
Develop the right attitude
First, you have to develop the right attitude; you have to
know that they are one of the most difficult people to deal
with. So, you should remember that it is not your fault about
the way they're behaving or a reaction to something bad
that you have done even if they try to convince you that it
is. Another thing you should remember is that you can
never win the first square against them, so don't even do
that because they don't even play fair, instead what they do
need I to be able to maneuver you were around them and
also had them. 
Remember never to get absorbed by their drama, no matter
how good they are. Do not allow them to find the stage for
the fight because sometimes, they try to prepare, organize,
and then set up a fight in a way to favor them. And also, do
not trust anything that they say to you. 
No matter what they say to you, they are sick. You should
also have the right preparation and learn about their tactics.
You need to learn about how they act around you. Try to
expose them. Learn about them than about what they really
are. Also, have social support around you that works which
are people who support you and are positive around you.
This will help to remove the effects of somebody who is
Cunny and deceitful. If you can seek help from a supervisor
from somebody, then seek help from somebody in authority
or somebody who can help you and guide you whether it's a
friend or your doctor. It is ok to seek help. It doesn't mean
that you are wake. 
Engage in physical activity
The next thing is to do a lot of activities that boost you
morally, like sports. Sports are very good to help you feel
good about yourself. Try to have routines, and disciplines
that will help you build confidence in yourself, remember
that it’s not your fault you there, but that does not mean
that you are a terrible person that or you are weak. Or that
you are bad. If you feel that, then act. Just get up then from
the scenario and trying to find smart ways to deal with that
hurtful situation again. Most people fall into the trap of such
personalities. Think about the right action.  
Set the Rules of Engagement
One of the right actions to take is to set the Rules of
Engagement. When you are dealing with such a person,
make sure that you set the rules of engagement in your
favor in a way that you will not get hurt. Do not allow them
to drag you into their manipulation. Point out the
inappropriate behavior. If they do something that does not
make you feel comfortable, point it out, bring it up, and
insist that they stop that abusive behavior. If they don't stop
their behavior, then do not fight with them because you
cannot win against them. 
Refuse to engage in them refuse to tolerate that behavior
tells them exactly what you want them to do or what you
don't want them to do.  You should remember that they
can’t be outsmarted. Most of them are spoilt kids. So, speak
to their sick mind and tell them what it is for them. Prepare
very well against them before having any engagement with
them. Try to minimize engagement with them. Give them
what they want, so that they will give you what you want.
Do not give them anything free. Do not excuse their actions,
no matter what they do will not excuse them. Even if what
they are saying is relevant or true, know that it is he will put
you down and able to manipulate you. They are not hurt by
what you are doing. And feeling guilty.
They pretend to be hurt so that you will feel guilty, and they
will control you. You will mostly see these people at work.
And most people do not fit this description, but many people
do. So, if you're confronted and have to deal with people like
this, then you have to be able to trust your gut feeling.
Sometimes we tell ourselves that we are doing something
wrong because they are very good at manipulating you. So,
you have to be able to protect yourself you need to have
your own strategy on how to deal with them. 
Do not be naive why most people are good at their Hearts.
This kind of person is not good at the heart. Remember that
not everybody will see their deception because they try to
create that deception around you. So that you will doubt
yourself they might not use, they are tricky on everybody at
the same time. They chose their victims carefully. So do not
assume that you'll be able to change them; nobody can
change them. Even psychologists can fall into their trap
occasionally.
Share your experiences
One way that you can do this and help is to share your
experiences. Most people are dealing with this kind of thing
daily, and it is not easy to deal with. So if you are sharing
your experiences with other people, you be able to help
other people with ideas, tips, and tricks that you have tried
that worked, and things that try did not work. 
Manipulation is a major problem even if it is only one person
at work that it is doing all these things to you. They will turn
your workplace into a very difficult, uncomfortable
environment. Also, if you have this kind of person at home,
they will turn your home environment into a very toxic,
unhealthy environment. The world today has produced more
of this kind of people than ever because of the corruption
that is around us. We also have the same situation around
the world because of the high mentality right now. 
Almost Everybody now does things because of himself, and
they don't care about whether other people are losing. If
they are confronted with their problem, they will try to fight
you, and they will never admit it. So don't waste your time
doing that. Instead, become the enemy, and when you
become the enemy, You will be put under scrutiny and put
you under their deceitful ways. They always find excuses
not to believe you, or to even make it out yourself by saying
that this is a waste of time what does this people know it is
not me that has the problem it is you that has the problem.
You should also try to pray and ask God for help always and
it will help you get confident and overcome this kind of
hurdles. 
 Chapter 10.          Tips & Tricks
Change of environment
Often times, the environment that you are in can determine
how people respond to your requests. In a business
environment such as the workplace, it is likely that your
colleague perceives you as rivals or competitors. As such,
they might be unwilling to help you out when you ask them
for one thing or the other. To get more favorable answers to
your requests, consider asking for favors when you are out
for drinks or at an office party. Jim from Finance will be more
willing to consider your requests to expedite the invoicing
process if you ask him after he’s had a few beers at a party
as compared to when he is at the office and buried in
paperwork. This is because he perceives you as less of a
rival when he is having a good time. While at the office
breaking his back, Jim considers you as part of the reason
why he cannot get home on time.
Make it about the other person
Here’s the thing--you are looking to learn how to manipulate
people for your own gain, but you do not have to make that
your selling point. Nobody will be looking to help you
advance your agenda if you let it know that this is your
objective from the get-go. You are more likely to experience
success with manipulation if you instead set out to help the
other person, while also looking to help yourself. When a
person feels that you have helped them get what they want,
they will be more likely to also help you get what you want,
be it knowingly or otherwise. Instead of always asking your
colleagues or friends for favors, offer your help from time to
time. This way, the next time you need something from
them, they will likely be willing to help.
Speak quickly
When people do not understand what you are saying
because you are speaking quickly, they will give in to your
demands. There are two reasons for this: they might be
unable to process what you are saying and do not want to
look stupid by asking for clarification, or they do not want to
process what you are saying because your energy is
overwhelming and they do not want to deal with it. Next
time you need someone to do something for you, walk up to
them and give them swift instructions on what you need
done, and then walk away. Do not give them too much time
to process what you just said. This especially works when
you are in an authority position and are giving instructions
to your juniors. You are an important person and do not
have the time to slowly elaborate every detail. You need
them to be quick on their feet to respond to your demands.
This is a tactic that salesmen, especially car salesmen,
seem to love. By speaking quickly to your customer and
rattling off all the details of this and that car, the customer
easily becomes overwhelmed and settles on the next choice
that is offered. It might not be in the best interest of the
customer, but it is definitely in the best interest of the
salesman.
Dress nicely
If you want to make a good impression and gain something
from making this impression, you must dress well. Whatever
stage you are at in your life, you must make an effort to
dress well. Nobody pays attention to raggedly dressed
people. The only attention you might get is having people
clutch their purses tighter when you approach them. In
many stories told about con artists, you’ll hear their victims
say how the con artist seemed like a trustworthy person
based on how they presented themselves.

He looked like a nice guy, they say .

You look like a nice guy based on how you present yourself--
and clothes have a huge role to play in that. If you want to
hear yes more often, invest in some nice clothes and shoes.
Keep your hair well-groomed. Buy some nice cologne and
maybe a nice watch. The way people treat you when you
are well put together is different from how they treat you
when you look like you have put zero effort in your overall
look. A well-groomed gentleman who smells nice and looks
great will have an easier time getting what he wants from a
woman as opposed to a man who looks like he crawled out
of a hole. And remember, you do not have to buy designer
labels or the most expensive outfits on the planet to make a
great impression--you just have to make it seem like you
did.
If you do not believe that dressing nicely works, consider
this--studies have shown that males who show up in court
well-dressed and clean-shaven tend to get more lenient
sentences. If dressing nicely works to your advantage in a
court of law, there is no reason why it will not work in your
everyday life .
Scare tactics
Nobody likes to be caught flat-footed. Human beings have a
survival instinct that includes wanting to be prepared
against everything and anything that might be harmful to
them. In the world of marketing and advertising, the fear of
the unknown is used on a daily basis to convince consumers
to spend their money on certain products and services. All
you need to do is convince the said consumer that there is a
very high likelihood that a particular thing will go wrong and
that they need to be prepared for this likelihood by buying
your product or service. If human beings did not have a fear
of the unknown (and the desire to survive the unknown), the
insurance business would not exist. If the insurance
business has made it so far, you can also ride on scare
tactics and convince people that they need you for an
elaborate number of reasons. This tactic works really well if
you are hoping to manipulate people into accepting a
solution that you are offering. It could also work in personal
and workplace relationships depending on the context and
the angle you work it.
Consistency is key
There is a saying that goes like this: a person who is nice to
you but rude to the waiter is not a nice person. This is
something that you must always remember when you are
trying to step up your manipulation game. You must remain
consistent in your behavior when interacting with everyone
around you, regardless of whether that person is your target
or not. Consistency is important because you need everyone
to think that you are a nice person. If people have
conflicting impressions of you based on behavioral mistakes
that you have made, the red flags will start to go up. Red
flags are the stop signs that will prevent your potential
assets and victims from assisting you in furthering your
agenda. Stay consistent. Speak the same way to everyone.
Let everybody think of you as the charmer who always has a
nice thing to say about everyone. You’ll win more people
over this way, and once you do, you will have an even larger
pool of people to manipulate.
Silence is golden
Silences make most people uncomfortable. Sometimes, the
most effective thing you can do to get information from
someone is to remain silent. This way, the other person will
be compelled to fill this silence with some talk, thus giving
you an opportunity to gather as much information as you
want. The trick is to ensure that you say enough so that you
encourage them to keep talking. For example, you can
repeat the last bit of every statement they make so that
they keep on adding more information. An example:

I ran into Robert yesterday.

Robert?

Yes, at the new Chinese restaurant.

Chinese restaurant?

Yes, the one that opened down the street last month. I was
having lunch with a friend.
Notice how you have been able to gather additional
information without giving anything for in return. You can
keep this going for a while, but you do not want to overdo
because then it becomes awkward.
Play nice
This tip is somewhat related to tip number 6, but also
somewhat different. Here’s why: in order to get what you
want out of people, you must have the patience to play nice
even when you are screaming internally. Even the nicest
people have their breaking points, and some people seem to
have the talent to push you over the edge. You must be
careful to always stay positive and begin your conversations
on a positive note even when you are nearing your boiling
point. For example, if you want a colleague to do something
for you (for example, correct a report that they have
messed up on), you’ll want to phrase your statement in a
way that absolves them of the majority of the guilt. For
instance, instead of telling them that they are a dummy and
have mixed up all the numbers, ask them whether they sent
the right report and if they would like to take a second look
and send another version. This gets you what you want
without making the other person feel foolish, and this is
exactly what you want as you need to be able to keep
getting what you want from this individual.

Replace the I don’t think this is right with have you

considered…?
Carry your cross
There are certain things that you can do that will make
people automatically assume that you are a good and
trustworthy person, even when really you are not. For
instance, wearing a cross necklace or rosary will make
others assume that you are a well-meaning Christian with
good morals. Once people make this assumption about you,
they will lower their defenses when around you and you can
manipulate them to do as you wish.
A lot of men have figured out that the accessories that you
carry along with you can influence the kind of interactions
they have with other people (read women). It is for this
reason that you will find some men walking their cute dogs
(even when they are not really interested in the dog) or
taking their pretty nieces along to social events because
these two accessories (while not really store-bought
accessories) give a great boost to their appeal. A man with
either of these two accessories automatically comes across
to most women like a decent, nurturing and well-grounded
guy who can make a good father to a baby, be it a real one
or a fur baby. This might not necessarily be the case, but it
is a ploy that has worked for the longest time and continues
to be effective to date.
This tip does not require you to borrow your nieces or
nephews. The point here is that you can create an illusion of
who you are by incorporating a few things in your being .
Talk that talk
If you sound smart, everybody assumes that you are smart.
If you are not articulate with your words and like to use filler
words like a teenage girl would, nobody is going to take you
seriously. Widen your vocabulary by listening to great
speakers and reading books. Watch documentaries about
important topics so that you can have serious dinner
conversations without seeming like you are out of your
depth. People tend to trust intelligent-sounding people, and
you need to ensure that your smarts earn you this trust.
Sounding intelligent has nothing to do with using big words.
In fact, the more you use ridiculous sounding words, the
lower your credibility dips. Learn to be measured in your
intellect. You do not want to use up all your big words in one
night. Come the next night, you will have nothing left to use.
Put the data aside
Some people will never be convinced unless you have a set
of data to back up your claims. Your CEO, for instance,
wants numbers and not stories about how you embarked on
a marketing campaign that won over customers. Top level
management wants to be convinced that you are doing your
job by looking at the numbers that you have to show them.
However, the vast majority of people don’t care for numbers
and prefer stories. If you are speaking in front of an
audience, you stand to influence them more if you rely on
anecdotes to push your message. Anecdotes lend a
personal touch to claims and make you seem more
relatable. They humanize your message and win you the
trust of the audience. Don’t worry if you have not had
enough experiences to have interesting anecdotes--you can
always borrow other people’s stories or make up some of
your own. It is not a sin to have an imaginative mind.
Be unique but also predictable in a relatable way
As a manipulator, you want to stand out so that you can be
remembered, but you also want to blend in so that you do
not arouse suspicion. To achieve this balance, you must
ensure that you do what everyday people do. Use clichés,
talk about predictable topics like the weather and be
generally easy-going. This way, you’ll be just another guy,
and there will be nothing unusual about you. You will have
plenty of time to advance your agenda, but in the
meantime, you must perfect your ordinary, decent guy or
girl act. Learning to blend in also has the advantage of
giving you the protection of a crowd around you, so to
speak. When you are just another guy (but who is also
smart and charming), you will likely have a social group of
individuals who are like you surrounding you in your life.
Getting to you will be harder as opposed to when you are
that guy that sticks out like a sore thumb.
Newbies are easy targets
Newbies, be it at the workplace or any situation, are always
eager to come help and fit in because nobody really is a fan
of sticking out like a sore thumb. If you have a new intern or
colleague at your workplace, this is your lowest hanging
fruit as far as getting what you want. You can have this new
employee do whatever it is that you want without much
resistance. You will, however, have to be careful to not come
across as overbearing as you want to be able to use this
newbie for as long as you can while having them think that
you are looking out for them. In the case of the intern, you
can have them perform any tasks that you find unpleasant
by disguising it as a learning opportunity. Take them out for
pizza once a week, and you will have a faithful servant for
as long as their internship lasts.
I need your help…
The way you phrase a request can mean all the difference
between someone doing it grumpily or happily, or not doing
it at all. If you are a boss, your employees already know that
they need to abide by your rules, and do as you say.
However, phrasing your orders and instructions as requests
for help will get you better results and make you come
across as a likable person. This is exactly the kind of
reputation that will be beneficial to you in the future when
you need more things done for you.
Never feel the need to flex your authority muscle all the
time. Everybody knows that you are the boss. They do not
need to be reminded all the time. In fact, if you come across
as that guy who is in charge but is not drunk with power,
you will seem more trustworthy. Political leaders have
especially mastered the art of making their constituents
think that they are just another buddy, but with a better
office. They’ll attend local events and sit with communities
to chat and catch up on a cup of tea. This is just a trick to
seem more relatable. At the end of the day, the constituents
go to their homes convinced that the politician is just
another well-meaning husband and father who wants to
transform their community. Only after some years will the
constituents realize that they have been duped .
It’s all in the name
People like the sound of their names, especially when it
comes from someone they find attractive or superior to
them in one way or another. When meeting someone for the
first time, repeat their name as many times as you can
without making things awkward. Not only will this make you
seem like a nice and likable person, but it will also help you
remember their name which comes in handy when you need
something from them. At work and in other social situations,
address people by their names. Walk up to colleagues and
call them by name before asking for favors. Get to know
your neighbors’ names and call them as such. You will have
created a bond of familiarity just by this simple gesture, and
you can count on this bond to come in handy down the road.
At the same time, ensure that these people know your name
so that they know you as [insert your name] as opposed to
knowing you as just a neighbor or colleague. When people
feel some form of familiarity towards you, they are less
likely to say no to you.
Saying no to Liz sounds a whole lot worse than saying no to
that girl from accounting. In the first instance, there’s a
whole feeling person behind the name. In the latter case,
there is this nondescript colleague that you couldn't care
less for. So, make sure you know people’s names and
ensure they know yours as well.  
Conclusion
Manipulation isn’t making people do what you want them to
do but to get them to do what you want them to do. But
how can you get people to do what you want them to? First,
you need to identify their genuine desires and reverse
engineer it to achieve what you want.  
The closer someone is to you, the easier it is to manipulate
this person. So this means that romantic partners are the
best to test the secrets of manipulation.  
If you want to persuade people, you have to be ready to
make people see and feel like it was their decision.  
Many people want to manipulate others for short-term gain.
However, the genuine art of manipulation is defined by the
long game. One has to be patient. The same way
professionals make their skills look easy; you need to make
manipulation sound easy. But it will take time and patience
to learn to execute the manipulation secrets.  
One thing about the manipulation that you need to keep in
mind is that you should never reveal your true intentions.
Maintain your consciousness of how you are making them
feel and attempt to manipulate for the best.   
Lastly, the more familiar you are with manipulation tactics,
the harder it will be for anyone to use them against you. The
truth is that manipulators are found everywhere, and they
are everyone: 
·          Your boss
·          Your family
·          Your boyfriend or girlfriend
·          Your workmates
·          The media
·          99.99% of people.
It is only the techniques that vary, and now you k now what
they are. 
The next time a person attempts to influence you, you will
see it coming from a mile away, and you can either decide
to ignore it, or you can choose to call them out on it.