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Attraction, Love & Commitment

Personal Development
Personal Development

Lesson Objectives
1. Identify the rules for finding love and creating
long-lasting authentic relationships.
2. Discuss the tips on how to keep healthy
relationships.
3. Explain the basic rights in a relationship.
4. Define key elements of sexual pleasure and
responsibility (CSE Integration).
 Group Task
• Group 1: Human Flashcards – Write ten (10) key term/s or key
word/s in a flashcard on your conceptualized “Rules for Finding Love
and Creating Long-lasting Authentic Relationships”.
• Group 2: Concept Map – Complete the concept map by listing ten
(10) characteristics of healthy relationships. Write one concept per
circle.
• Group 3: Invented Dialogues – Use the pictures to weave ideas
together to make dialogues on how they could have healthy
relationships.
• Group 4: Graphic Organizer – Fill-in the graphic organizer below
about sexual pleasure and sexual responsibility as part of healthy
relationship.
• Group 5: Group Symbols - Come up with a summary in a form of
drawn symbol about basic rights in relationships.
 Group Task
• Group 1: Human Flashcards – Write ten (10) key term/s or key
word/s in a flashcard on your conceptualized “Rules for Finding Love
and Creating Long-lasting Authentic Relationships”.
• Group 2: Concept Map – Complete the concept map by listing ten
(10) characteristics of healthy relationships. Write one concept per
circle.
• Group 3: Invented Dialogues – Use the pictures to weave ideas
together to make dialogues on how they could have healthy
relationships.
• Group 4: Graphic Organizer – Fill-in the graphic organizer below
about sexual pleasure and sexual responsibility as part of healthy
relationship.
• Group 5 and 6: Group Symbols - Come up with a summary in a form
of drawn symbol about basic rights in relationships.
 Group Task
• Group 1: Human Flashcards – Write ten (10) key
term/s or key word/s in a flashcard on your
conceptualized “Rules for Finding Love and
Creating Long-lasting Authentic Relationships”.
• Group 2: Concept Map – Complete the concept
map by listing ten (10) characteristics of healthy
relationships. Write one concept per circle.
• Group 3: Group Symbols - Come up with a
summary in a form of drawn symbol about basic
rights in relationships.
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ation others; able to without negative compromise; few work together;
compromise; all comments; able to members contribute one person does
members compromise; some all the work
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ation informative; confidence; presents responsibility; lacks
entertaining; some information; Somewhat information;
engages audience; engages audience; can informative; audience bored;
speaks loudly and be heard; some use of engages audience mumbles; body
clearly; appropriate body language intermittently; hard to language is
use of body hear; some movement lacking;
language Scoring Rubrics inappropriate
• Attraction – the action or
power of evoking interest,
pleasure, or liking for someone
or something; and a quality or
feature that evokes interest,
liking, or desire.
• Love – a) strong affection for • Commitment – It is a
another arising out of kinship or long-term relationship
personal ties; (b) attraction between individuals. It
based on sexual desire: refers to the feelings and
affection and tenderness felt action that keep partners
by lovers; (c) affection based on
working together to
admiration, benevolence, or
common interests.
maintain the relationship
 How do you
express or show
attraction,
love, and
commitment to
others?
 Can you cite
instance/s
that attraction
is negatively
expressed or
communicated
by the
teenagers?
How do you
accept rejection
and/or dismissal
from other
person whom you
express your
attraction?
Is it possible for
someone not to be
sexually attracted?
What about someone
who has sexual,
romantic or
emotional attraction
towards people
regardless of their
sex or gender
identity?
 Which of the
rules is very much
essential to
consider in finding
love and creating
long-lasting
authentic
relationships?
 Ten Rules for Finding Love & Creating Long-Lasting
Authentic Relationships
1. You must love yourself first.
2. Partnering is a choice.
3. Creating love is a process.
4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow.
5. Communication is essential.
6. Negotiation will be required.
7. Your relationship will be challenged by change.
8. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive.
9. Renewal is the key to longevity.
10.You will forget all this the moment you fall in love.
How can you
keep a
healthy
relationship?
 Keeping Healthy Relationships
In a healthy relationship, both partners:
• Are treated with kindness and respect
• Are honest with each other
• Like to spend time together
• Take an interest in things that are important
to each other
• Respect one another’s emotional, physical
and sexual limits
• Can speak honestly about their feelings
❑ Love should never hurt.
❑ Abuse of any type is never okay.
 What other sexual
responsibility
could you consider
on how you
become
responsible in a
relationship?
 Sexual Pleasure and Sexual Responsibility
• Sexual pleasure – consists of those positively valued feelings
induced by sexual stimuli, from the soothing sensations of sensual
massage, to the explosion of feeling.
• Sexual responsibility – means making informed decisions and
safer sex choices (including abstinence). Being sexually
responsible involves
a. Abstinence
b. Safe sex
c. Contraception
d. Respecting your partner,
e. Having open communication about all forms of sexual
activity, and
f. Taking precautions against sexually transmitted infections
(STIs), HIV, and unplanned pregnancy.
Why do you
need to
recognize basic
rights in a
relationship?
 Basic Rights in a Relationship
• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs
from your partner’s
• The right to have your feelings and experiences
acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
• In addition to these basic relationship's rights, consider how
you can develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect.
Do This! Write your answers in a 1
whole sheet of paper.

➢ HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS
ITEMS SET (page 70)
 PROCESSING QUESTIONS
1. What were your thoughts and feelings while
answering the activity?
2. What did you discover about yourself after doing the
activity?
3. With previous activities, how would you describe
your relationship with your parents? Siblings?
Possible or current romantic relationship? Friends?
4. Which relationship is most important to you? Why?
5. If your relationship is not doing very well, what can
you do about it?
 I Know the Signs of a Healthy Relationship
1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they
disagree with you.
6. You respect and encourage each other.
7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or
family.
8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your
money without worrying about your partner’s reaction.
9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your
view is respected..
 I Know the Signs of a Healthy Relationship
10. You feel isolated from friends and family.
11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and
who you hang out with.
12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.
13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.
14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re
not comfortable with.
15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.
16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.
17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.
18. Your partner undermines your decisions about
pregnancy and parenting.
 I Know the Signs of a Healthy Relationship healthy
1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they
disagree with you.
6. You respect and encourage each other.
7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or
family.
8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your
money without worrying about your partner’s reaction.
9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your
view is respected..
 I Know the Signs of a Healthy Relationship unhealthy
10. You feel isolated from friends and family.
11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and
who you hang out with.
12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.
13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.
14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re
not comfortable with.
15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.
16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.
17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.
18. Your partner undermines your decisions about
pregnancy and parenting.
 “Stop expecting others to show you love,
acceptance, commitment, and respect when you
don’t even show that to yourself.”
 Assignment
On an A4 size bond The right to emotional
support
paper, sketch, draw, or
design a poster which
shows one’s basic
rights in a relationship.
Here’s a sample: