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How to know if he or she is “the One”
October 16, 2018astrologyanonymous27
Out of all the questions I get from my clients, the most popular is “Is he/she the One?”
There are so many factors that go into whether your partner is your soulmate. I will
outline a few below:
2. Good composite is more important than good synastry
This may not be a popular opinion, but throughout my consultations with
clients, I notice over and over that good synastry cannot outweigh a bad
composite chart. Why is this?
A good synastry chart shows the chemistry between two people. It shows if
they are attracted to one another and why. It shows basic compatibility
between a couple. This is very important when first bringing two people
together.
The composite chart, on the other hand, relates to the destiny of the couple.
It shows what the two of you create when you come together. You could
have the most incompatible synastry connection with someone, but if you
have a great composite chart, somehow things seem to keep you together.
From my personal experience, I’ve had some pretty significant synastric
connections with my previous exes. For example, with one man I had Moon
conjunct Venus, Mars conjunct Mars, Venus conjunct Ascendant, Venus
conjunct Pluto, and a Sun conjunct Saturn double whammy! We were
immediately attracted to one another and I was definitely thinking long-term
with him. We went on a few dates and things were going well. Then, as things
started to progress and things started getting serious, he started to pull away.
This confused me – we felt so good in each other’s presence so why the
sudden lack of interest?
I looked at our Composite chart and found the answer: we had a tight Sun
conjunct Saturn AND Moon square Saturn connection. In Composite charts, it
is said that the man represents the Sun while the woman represents the
Moon. Saturn, on the other hand, rules responsibility, duty and limitations.
While he felt very responsible and committed towards me, the relationship,
for whatever reason, made both of us feel very insecure. First of all, work
always got in the way of our relationship. He was a very busy doctor who
worked in another city, which made things difficult to begin with. When we
did have time to go out, perfect strangers would tell me I was “too good for
him”. He had a lot of difficulty with that – his ego was shattered when people
said those things to us. On the other hand, the Moon in square aspect to the
Composite Saturn, which I felt very strongly. I felt ignored, neglected, and
cold in this relationship because he always seemed to put work ahead of me.
To top things off, I didn’t feel I could express my ‘inner child’ around him; I felt
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I always needed to be a ‘grown-up’ around him, even though he was 3 years
younger than me.
Inthe end, him and I didn’t work out. Regardless of what happened, I always
felt happy around him when we were together (I credit this to Moon conjunct
Venus – it’s really one of the best aspects in synastry you could hope for).
However, we could not seem to ever get past the Saturn blockages we faced.
3. Timing
Through Astrology, I have learned that all things come in good time!
You could meet someone amazing and feel that you are completely in love,
but I find that the timing of your meeting is very helpful in telling whether this
relationship will end up as a marriage.
Three things to check:
Transits:
Transits
through the 7th house: major planets (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus,
Neptune and Pluto) can signal a major relationship change.
Obviously,
Jupiter, the planet of good fortune and expansion, can bring
someone into your life. This will likely be a joyful and expansive relationship
for you.
Saturn entering the 7th can either end a current relationship or bring a new
relationship into your life. Saturn can mean an older person or a relationship
that will come with its obstacles/burdens along the way. My best friend got
married to a man 20 years older than her when Saturn entered her 7th house,
but it ended quite suddenly (she is a very Uranian person so Saturn didn’t suit
her)
Uranus is the planet of freedom and originality. When this planet is in your 7 th
house, it can bring a new, exciting relationship that fizzles out just as quickly
as it started. I do personally know some marriages that began when Uranus
was in the 7th house of at least of the partners, but the two people were very
different professionally, culturally, and ethnically.
Neptune can bring a dreamy love and a true feeling of finding one’s soulmate,
while Pluto can bring a complete overhaul in the love department. You could
attract a very intense and transformative love relationship at this time.
Transits to Venus and the ruler of your 7th house
Venus is the planet of love and affection, and has a direct link to relationships
and especially soulmates! Because of this, transits to Venus are some of the
best indicators of finding the “one”. You definitely want to look out for
harmonious aspects to Venus from the outer planets, such as trines and
sextiles, and sometimes even conjunctions
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The ruler of the 7th house represents the type of partner you will end up with.
This is very similar to Venus, as it relates to one-on-one partnerships and
relationships
The BEST love transits are:
Jupiter conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
Saturn conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
Uranus conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
Neptune conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
Pluto conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
Ifind that a lot of people fall in love during a strong Neptune transit to natal
Venus, but these relationships often do not work out. This is because
Neptune is the planet of illusion, and by the end of the transit, you may find
that the person you fell in love with isn’t the person you thought they were.
During a harmonious Neptune-Venus transit, you can easily fall in love and
the effects of Neptune will be much less taxing
Solar Returns
Whatdoes your Solar Return chart look like this year? The Solar return shows
potentials for the year, including for marriage
Eachand every Solar Return chart for the years I entered relationships were
very heavy in the 5th and 7th houses
Look for a well-placed Venus and ruler of the 7th house for more details and
clues
If
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Consultations page to set up a reading with me
Progressions/Solar Arc
Idon’t think it’s possible to NOT have a special progression or solar arc aspect
when meeting the “one”. Progressions show major trends in our lives, so there
needs to be some sort of progression involving the 7th house, Venus, or the
ruler of the 7th house when the “one” enters your life.
Some examples of progression or solar arc aspects indicating love:
Progressed Sun-Venus aspects or Venus-Sun aspects – sextile, trine, conjunction
Progressed Ascendant-Venus aspects or Progressed Venus-Ascendant aspects –
this one is the best indication for finding love
Progressed Venus-ruler of the 7th house or ruler of the 7th house to Venus aspects –
indicates love and union
Progressed planets in the 7th house
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Progressed planets making a harmonious aspect to the 7 th house or 7th house ruler
I truly believe that true love comes down to compatibility, which is reflected through
the synastry and composite charts, but it really comes down to the timing. THE
UNIVERSE WILL NOT SEND YOU THE ‘ONE’ UNTIL YOU ARE READY. For those of
you worried about your romantic future, fear not! You will find the ‘one’ in good time.
