Leader As Coach - Some Practical Advice
Leader As Coach - Some Practical Advice
1. About
This is a beta guide containing a mix of content, video clips, and downloads designed to help provide “just
in time” work references to support your coaching activities. We want to know how it helps you and how
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2. Introduction
Bottom Line Up Front
Coaching is about asking questions that help others think through their challenges and take action.
Coaching is about questions, not answers. This is a key element in getting the most out of our people and
teammates. In the video below, see what DSMC's Dick Hansen has to say about that.
What is Coaching?
Intent
This coaching content focuses on developing your leadership style or your level of leadership through
coaching. We challenge leaders to examine their personal leadership level/style, build their awareness of
presence, active listening, and powerful questioning, and find practical ways of integrating this into their
daily interactions and organizational leadership DNA.
In this worksheet we will introduce and invite you as a leader, a colleague, or a teammate to consider:
Success Equals…
You as a leader commit to leveraging coaching competencies and practical techniques to initiate and
build a culture of coaching throughout your organization.
3. Coaching 101
Coaching… What it is, and what it isn’t.
As Leaders, we wear many hats:
A Coaching Conversation
It comes from David Rock’s book, Quiet Leadership. We have a coach on the left and someone, a direct
report, or a colleague, maybe even a boss, on the right.
The person on the right presents a dilemma, a challenge, a problem, as represented by the box on the
table. This person is interested in conversing about the challenge. David Rock invites us to consider that
Coaching and our role as leader as coach is about focusing on their thinking, not on the problem itself.
This is a major takeaway for coaching.
When you get the knock at the door, “Hey colleague, got a few moments?” And the person presents a
dilemma, a challenge, a problem, don’t focus on the box… don’t “reach for” and “disassemble/reassemble
the box” and solve the person’s issue. Resist the urge to tell the person the answer (mentor, consult,
direct, solve).
Instead, coach the other person to their own answers, solutions. Help them think about the issue in a
productive way to come up with their own solutions. Give them a thinking partner, a sounding board, a
“black hat” (See Edward DeBono’s 6 Thinking Hats), or any other color hat that helps them with their own
thinking about the problem. In other words, when you find yourself focusing on the box (and we will do
that—stay tuned for the neuroscience of why we are wired for solutions), shift and lift your eyes up as a
coach and ask powerful questions, don’t tell or provide answers.
Active Listening
Active listening is the ability to focus completely on what the learner is saying, and not saying.
• Distinguishes between the words, the tone of voice, and the body language.
• Summarizes and paraphrases what learner has said to ensure clarity and understanding.
• Integrates and builds on learner's ideas and suggestions.
• "Bottom-lines" or understands the essence of the learner's communication and helps the learner
get there rather than engaging in long, descriptive stories.
Active listening is a critical coaching skill. Listen to Dick Hansen and Pat Barker talk about it below:
Powerful Questioning
Powerful questioning is the Ability to ask questions that reveal the information needed for maximum
benefit to the coaching relationship and the learner.
• Asks questions that reflect active listening and understanding of the coachee’s perspective.
• Asks open-ended questions that create greater clarity, possibility or new learning.
• Asks questions that evoke discovery, insight, commitment or action.
• Asks questions that deepen the learning and forwards the action.
Read more: https://coachfederation.org/core-competencies
Asking questions? Really? Who are we, Socrates? Some Kung Fu master on a mountaintop? In the video
below, listen to Dick Hansen and Pat Barker talk about asking coaching questions.
Coaching Competencies: Powerful Questioning
Now some mental maps might be similar or identical, e.g., the mental map that we have to lift our left arm
or to breath. When we have an “aha moment” (the Quantum Zeno Effect)…meaning our neurons just
fired (that synapse connection), we can help increase that connection with some attention density… focus
on the idea or solution and work with it further.
This enables neuroplasticity or the ability of our brains to change, create new neural networks and mental
maps. In summary, “What fires together, wires together.”
Thinking Differently
So with the almost infinite ways to think about and solve a problem, why do we think we can overlay our
vastly different mental map over someone else 100 billion neurons and expect them to get it, support it,
want to execute our way of thinking?
Let’s take that one brief step further. We’ve highlighted two areas of the brain, the prefrontal cortex and
the basal ganglia, as seen in the brain figure below.
The prefrontal cortex (PC) is a limited resource, meaning that it can only store a minimal amount of data,
takes a lot of energy to process and tires very quickly. Conversely, the basal ganglia can store a lot of
data, and takes very little effort to “process.”
Example: we often drive a car without really thinking hard about it. We’ve done it so much, its habit and
lives in our basil ganglia. Until you find yourself in Ireland, on very narrow roads, with a manual
transmission rental car. Now your PC will be glowing red from the new data, change, etc.
So what?
Here’s the challenge, we got to where we are as leaders by solving problems. To paraphrase Descartes,
“We Fix, Therefore We Are.” We have built a strong neural network in the basal ganglia (our habit center)
around identifying just what is wrong with the box on the table AND how to fix it.
Now we are asking you to consider stop solving other’s challenges, and start being present, listening, and
asking questions…focus on their thinking to let them solve their own issues. This might shift you out of
habitual solving and into questioning and focusing on their thinking; powerful questions that pull their
insight vs pushing your advice.
It is not easy to train ourselves to get into an “I must ask questions” mental mode in the middle of the
busy workday with a million distractions, but we have to do it. We must develop skills to make that mental
shift regardless of what is going on. One way to think about the dynamics of the mental shift is to think in
terms of the Plane of Action and the Plane of Observation. Check out the following video clip:
Power of Intuition
5. A Coaching Culture
Think about a coaching culture.
Lone Nuts trying demonstrate a coaching culture tend to do the following things:
6. Featured Tools
Three (3) Vital Questions
One good way to start a coaching conversation is to use the framework taught in DAU-supported
leadership programs for both the F-35 Joint Program Office “Enterprise Leadership Cohort Program” or
ELCP and the Columbia Class Program Office (PMS-397) called “Columbia Cross-Functional Leadership
Program (C2FLP). This framework not only sets up a powerful “Extraordinary Future” dialogue, but great
for ad-hoc conversations.
There are three videos below narrated by lead facilitator Abby Straus. We borrowed directly from the F-
35 ELCP, so you will hear references to a workshop. Don’t worry about that. Just focus on the main
material.
Video 1
Video 2
Video 3
The DAU Extraordinary Future is adapted from Robert Hargrove’s notion of “Impossible Future” described
in his book Masterful Coaching.
An EF is a transformational state and requires significant effort on the part of the leader to create it. Why
do we call this an “Extraordinary Future” and not just a “goal” or “objective?” Because in coaching the aim
is to get you to think a bit deeper and reach a bit higher. Even if you fall short you still end up doing a
pretty darn good job. But for now do not think of falling short.
Even though this is not a “true” DAU Executive Coaching engagement, this coaching culture program
serves as a vehicle for using some of the tools used by our coaches and asking the kinds of powerful
questions inherent in good coaching dialogue. By exposing you to these topics and questions we also
hope to promote a coaching culture at your organization, where asking powerful questions is the norm,
and where you can set the example based on your Cohort experience. Therefore, we choose to keep its
core term “EF” and its key constituent elements to remind you of your role as a coach (and perhaps “lone
nut”) in the overall transformation of your organization into one that exhibits a coaching culture.
We also keep the term to remind you that the “essence” of an EF is the notion that it is a worthy endeavor
to shoot for something which risks failure. Our definition of an individual EF that specifically tailored to this
Coaching Program is defined by the following three elements:
• Your leadership capability: What kinds of leadership skills do you currently possess and what
kind of leader do you need to be in order to see your initiative through to success?
• Your organizational health: How can you encourage your stakeholders – particularly those who
work for you – to share in the ownership of your initiative?
• Your business outcomes: What conditions must exist for you to claim success in your project or
program? How do you know you are done?
Note that the project (the stuff you do, tasks you accomplish) is only one side (the “business” leg) of that
triangle. The EF is more than just your initiative; it is also about your organization and your own personal
and professional development. In this sense, your project/task is a subset of your EF. This means you
have the opportunity to use your EF to purposely shape the parameters and scope of your job (and those
of others) to stretch your personal and professional talents.
Download the worksheet below to help you think through your extraordinary future.
T-Grow Demo
The Ladder of Inference
The Ladder of Inference describes the thinking process that we go through, usually without realizing it, to
get from data or fact to a decision or action. Each rung or step of the ladder might and often does take us
further away from data.
This subtle (or not so subtle) pattern of reasoning influences our selections, additions, assumptions,
conclusions, adoptions, and actions. The goal is to step ourselves or in this case, step your coachee back
down the ladder to original data. Watch the short YouTube animation based on a TED Talk below that
explains the Ladder of Inference Quite well!
• How is the way you are currently spending your time consistent with realizing your EF?
• Where are you using your time wisely? Not wisely?
• How could you improve how you spend your time and attention?
• What activities do you need to ABANDON?
Exercise
Here’s a quick exercise for you. Print 12 weeks past and 12 weeks future calendar by week (past quarter,
future quarter). Start with the earliest weeks and categorize or color each and every activity, event, etc.
M = Makes a Difference (green)
I = Important (Yellow)
T = Trivial (Red)
Then reflect on where you spend your time and how it supports (or doesn’t support) your EF:
You can also coach your colleagues, subordinates, perhaps your superiors using this tool. Ask powerful
questions to generate insights:
• What’s working? What’s not working or getting in the way? What’s behind or underneath that?
• What do you notice about time spent on things that actually Make a Difference?
• What’s the balance of focus on important things vs. Makes a Difference vs. Trivial?
• What “Important” things do you want or need to systematically abandon to enable time for M?
Members
Friends believe in me, listen and support
Elders offer wisdom of ages, larger perspective, and the long view
Watch the short video below to see DSMC Instructors Pat Barker and Dick Hansen coach through and
build a board of directors.
Team Coaching
According to the Defense Acquisiiton Guidebook (DAG): “Within the PMO under the PM leadership
the IPPD integrates all acquisition activities starting with requirements definition through production,
fielding/deployment, and operational support in order to optimize the design, manufacturing,
business, and supportability processes. One of the key IPPD tenets is multidisciplinary teamwork
through Integrated Product Teams (IPTs).” These words are located in the DAG chapter 1 Section
3.3.5.1. Click HERE to get to Chapter 1 and scroll down to this section.
Want to learn even more about IPPD and IPTs? Go to the original source! The DoD has a guide for all
that; it has been around a long time!
The Government Accountability Office (GAO) also has things to say about IPTs.
IPTs are the critical linchpin connecting YOU to your program’s success. Here are some things to
consider:
Define team goals, Goals must align with program goals. Other key considerations include reporting
responsibilities structure, working relationship with other IPTs, level of empowerment and
and relationships relationship between government and contractor personnel.
Train participants Participants must have a clear understanding of the DoD philosophy of IPPD, the
in IPPD principles tools available for its implementation, and the skills, such as team building,
required for its success. Different levels of management need different types of
training, focused on their part of the approach, e.g., top-level management needs
to be trained on methods of empowerment.
Determine co- Co-location is the ideal case and should be sought. However, in practice, most
location and programs have found that integrating all stakeholders into a cohesive unit is
integration neither simple nor inexpensive. An adequate budget must be available from the
requirements start of the program for personnel relocation or for investment in communication
assets if collocation is determined to be impracticable.
Provide for In an IPPD environment, all stakeholders need to have access to the most
communication current information on the program. Therefore, planning related to information
management, communication networks, and methods of formal communications
should take place at the beginning of all acquisition/development programs.
Define When properly defined and used, metrics can permit timely assessments
program/team predictive of ongoing processes and the monitoring of resource consumption.
metrics Metrics should be easily measured, exportable, simple to use, support the
program processes, and be cost effective.
Record processes, Recording IPPD-related processes, activities, and decisions is essential for
activities and program stability and communication integrity. It provides a historical record of
decisions activities and decisions; Documents tradeoff studies, cause-and-effect analyses,
and similar activities; Promotes team-oriented information and communication;
Facilitates evaluation of metrics and lessons learned
How is your team doing? How might you want to assess yourself. Here are some salient features of
teams based on a review of a variety of team-based guidance documents ranging from DoD to INCOSE
to Agile.
Checking your IPTs Performance
Desired Things in What it Means
IPTs
Chartering with Goal Getting teams off to a good start is critical. Key activities include charter
alignment preparation, conducting IPT training, and preparing a Plan of Action and
Milestones (POA&M). Since team composition is often matrixed, the
team should ensure the goals and objectives of team members are
consistent with project goals and objectives. The team must also accept
that new goals can emerge, old goals might become irrelevant, new
team organizations might be required and adapt to those changed
conditions
Open Discussion Be willing to be vulnerable. Each member brings to the team unique
with No Secrets expertise that needs to be recognized by all. Because of that expertise,
each person's views are important in developing a successful program,
and these views need to be heard.
Empowered Team All representatives assigned to IPTs at all levels must be empowered by
Members their leadership. They must be able to speak for their superiors, the
"principals," in the decision-making process. Team members must also
be willing to “call out” other team members on behaviors and hold all
members accountable for actions and tasks.
Qualified Team Qualified members must be professionals who are current in their
Members functional area They also must be knowledgeable in the mission and
organization they are representing. Required training for any aspect of
expertise in functional or process areas critical to team success must be
provided in timely fashion.
Efficient Accept the fact that consensus is not always the best solution. IPTs
Participation should be organized to allow all stakeholders to participate yet be right-
sized to the issue. Membership should be limited to the minimum
essential to enhance communication and trust. Be willing to support the
notion that collective team needs will sometimes trump organizational
needs.
Issues Raised and The IPT should try to resolve issues within the team, seeking additional
Resolved Early functional expertise or higher leadership intervention only when
necessary. In the spirit of teaming and cooperation, issues should not
be worked "off-line" beyond the purview of the IPT
In the simplest sense, the difference between a “team” and a “group” is that teams are characterized by
accountability and groups are not. With that in mind, here are even more tools and charts that you might
want to look at to help explore the dynamics of how teams operate.
Edgar Schein, one of the most eminent researchers in the field of organizational psychology, offers a
model of how groups can work together better to become successful teams. The model is known as the
“Dimensions of Effective Groups.” We prefer to replace “groups” with “teams” (see above), but the model
applies in either capacity. The dimensions, and the way they are positively expressed, include:
• Goals: Team goals are clear and shared by all. People feel involved through their contributions to
defining our desired outcomes.
• Participation: Everyone is enthusiastically involved in team activities. Team member ideas and
contributions are honored. People feel heard and included.
• Feelings: People are able to express feelings freely and openly. We listen empathically and respond
from a creative orientation.
• Diagnosis of team issues: When problems arise, careful diagnoses is made before action is
proposed. All aspects of an issue are canvassed and the best working solution is devised based on
desired outcomes.
• Conflict: We approach conflict creatively as an opportunity to learn about ourselves and our team.
• Decisions: Consensus is sought and tested. Diverse ideas are welcome and judged on their merit.
• Leadership: As need arises, different members of our team step up. We lead from our strengths and
support others in doing the same.
• Trust: We trust ourselves and each other. We hold a posture of trust toward our colleagues and
also support each other in being trustworthy in our thinking and action.
• Creativity and growth: We are flexible and creative. We try out new things. We learn from each
other and from our mistakes.
Use the survey to diagnose behaviors that limit your capacity to operate as a high performing team.
Instructions
1. Print and supply a copy of the survey for each team member
2. At a team meeting, ask team members to assess the team's performance in each of the dimensions.
Circle a number from 1 to 10 for each dimension.
3. Collect the group’s scores on a single sheet of this survey (or flip chart) or project an image from your
computer onto a shared screen
4. Calculate averages for each dimension and the range.
Dr. Meredith Belbin, a British researcher and management expert, conducted groundbreaking research
into team effectiveness and found the most effective teams tend to be composed of a balanced mix of
people. He theorized that when groups come together for some kind of joint activity, some groups have
an over-abundance of skills necessary for peak team performance, and a shortage of skills in other
critical areas.
Belbin identified nine key skills in three categories – people skills, action-task related skills, and thinking
skills - that each project or work group needs in the mix to be able to operate at peak team performance.
Some people are good all-rounders and are able to operate flexibly; but most of us have a dominant skill,
and a secondary skill, which we can contribute to the group.
PEOPLE ACTION/TASK THINKING
Some of us play more than one role on a team. But teams that are missing critical skills can run into
trouble. For example, if everyone plays a Plant role the team may focus on generating ideas and
implementing little. If the team is mostly Completer Finishers or Implementers, they just want to get on
with the job, and will settle for anything. The table below provides an example of a team that is missing
several critical skills. This team is missing the plant, coordinator, and shaper roles, and has an
abundance of specialists.
Table 2: Sample Team Roles Assessment
Plant
Resource-
1
Investigator
Coordinator
Shaper
Team Worker 1
Implementer 2 2 2
Monitor-Evaluator
Specialist 1 2 1 2 1
Completer
1
Finisher
Your team can use this worksheet to identify the primary and secondary roles that members bring to your
team. What roles are in abundance or missing altogether? Become a better-rounded team by
encouraging members to learn how to adopt missing roles, or recruit to the team, people with required
skills.
Instructions
1. Print and handout to team members the 9 x team roles table and a copy of the worksheet.
2. On a master sheet (projected on a screen) or transcribed onto a flip chart, record the names of the
group members, one in each cell of the top row.
3. Ask team members to review the 9 x team roles table and identify their PRIMARY and SECONDARY
role choices.
4. Ask team members in turn what their PRIMARY and SECONDARY team roles are, and record these
in the relevant cell for each team member.
Teams that successfully deal with the five dysfunctions can become high performing, cohesive teams
that:
• Are able to admit mistakes, take risks by giving feedback, and willing to ask for help
• Tap into one another's skills and experiences
• Are focused on and deal well with the issues
• Avoid wasting time on the same old issues
• Do more in less time using fewer resources
• Deal with critical issues creatively
• Are aligned around common objectives
We have a downloadable worksheet below to help you diagnose dysfunctional behavior of a team and
make changes so the team becomes high performing.
Instructions
1. Print out the worksheet for each member of the team.
2. Ask members of to think about the first dysfunction – absence of trust – and make notes about what
they observe, and what strategies they would suggest for dealing with the situation.
3. Ask members to share their thinking, and record ideas on a flip chart, or on a master electronic
version projected onto a large screen from a personal computer.
4. Discuss and make a short list of corrective actions.
5. Repeat steps 2-4 for all other dysfunctions.
* There is one major difference between the Personal and Group Flow experience which is reflected in
the design of assessment. During personal Flow experiences, people become less aware of their
surroundings. In Group Flow, people become highly aware of each other, and their ability to more
perfectly coordinate.
You can use the Flow survey immediately after (or during) a meeting or other team activity to ascertain
whether the group has achieved a state of peak team performance. Use with the appropriate team
meeting protocol and question sequence to help the team achieve most of the dimensions of Flow.
Instructions
1. Print and supply a copy of the survey for each team member.
2. At or after a team activity, ask team members to assess the team's performance on each of the
dimensions of Flow. Circle a number from 1 to 5 for each dimension.
3. Collect the group’s scores on a single sheet of this survey (or flip chart) or project an image from your
computer onto a shared screen.
• If you have not been using a structured meeting process to guide your meetings/workshops, do so
now, and expect a significant improvement in team performance and satisfactions
• Make sure the purpose of the meeting is made clear at the start of the session, and that each
question is adequately announced and explained.
• Adjust the meeting protocol so the meeting is more efficient and productive.
• Revise the meeting process: clear and easy-to-respond-to questions, no redundant questions, include
word prompts to scaffold/stimulate thinking and the questions are in the correct sequences, the first
question is relatively easy to discuss/respond to, the last question generates a clear outcome.
• Ensure the participants have adequate information to respond to questions.