The Quick Emotional Intelligence Self-Assessment*
Emotional intelligence (referred to as EQ) is your ability to be aware of, understand and manage your
emotions. Why is EQ important? While intelligence (referred to as IQ) is important, success in life
depends more on EQ. Take the assessment below to learn your EQ strengths!
Rank each statement as follows: 0 (Never) 1 (Rarely) 2 (Sometimes) 3 (Often) 4 (Always)
Emotiona I Awareness − Total: 16
0 1 2 3 4 My feelings are clear to me at any given moment
0 1 2 3 4 Emotions play an important part in my life
0 1 2 3 4 My moods impact the people around me
0 1 2 3 4 I find it easy to put words to my feelings
0 1 2 3 4 My moods are easily affected by external events
0 1 2 3 4 I can easily sense when I’m going to be angry
0 1 2 3 4 I readily tell others my true feelings
0 1 2 3 4 I find it easy to describe my feelings
0 1 2 3 4 Even when I’m upset, I’m aware of what’s happening to me
0 1 2 3 4 I am able to stand apart from my thoughts and feelings and examine them
Emotiona I Management − Total: 35
0 1 2 3 4 I accept responsibility for my reactions
0 1 2 3 4 I find it easy to make goals and stick with them
0 1 2 3 4 I am an emotionally balanced person
0 1 2 3 4 I am a very patient person
0 1 2 3 4 I can accept critical comments from others without becoming angry
0 1 2 3 4 I maintain my composure, even during stressful times
0 1 2 3 4 If an issue does not affect me directly, I don’t let it bother me
0 1 2 3 4 I can restrain myself when I feel anger towards someone
0 1 2 3 4 I control urges to overindulge in things that could damage my well being
0 1 2 3 4 I direct my energy into creative work or hobbies
Socia I Emotiona I Awareness − Total: 35
0 1 2 3 4 I consider the impact of my decisions on other people
0 1 2 3 4 I can tell easily tell if the people around me are becoming annoyed
0 1 2 3 4 I sense it when a person’s mood changes
0 1 2 3 4 I am able to be supportive when giving bad news to others
0 1 2 3 4 I am generally able to understand the way other people feel
0 1 2 3 4 My friends can tell me intimate things about themselves
0 1 2 3 4 It genuinely bothers me to see other people suffer
0 1 2 3 4 I usually know when to speak and when to be silent
0 1 2 3 4 I care what happens to other people
0 1 2 3 4 I understand when people’s plans change
ReIationship Management − Total: 19
0 1 2 3 4 I am able to show affection
0 1 2 3 4 My relationships are safe places for me
0 1 2 3 4 I find it easy to share my deep feelings with others
0 1 2 3 4 I am good at motivating others
0 1 2 3 4 I am a fairly cheerful person
0 1 2 3 4 It is easy for me to make friends
0 1 2 3 4 People tell me I am sociable and fun
0 1 2 3 4 I like helping people
0 1 2 3 4 Others can depend on me
0 1 2 3 4 I am able to talk someone down if they are very upset
My EQ strengths! Mark your EQ total scores to assess your strengths and areas for improvement.
Domain Score
Emotional Awareness 0 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 22 24 26 28 30 32 34 36 38 40
Emotional Management 0 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 22 24 26 28 30 32 34 36 38 40
Social Emotional Awareness 0 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 22 24 26 28 30 32 34 36 38 40
Relationship Management 0 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 22 24 26 28 30 32 34 36 38 40
Measure your effectiveness in each domain using the following key:
0 – 24 Area for Enrichment: Requires attention and development
25 – 34 Effective Functioning: Consider strengthening
35 – 40 Enhanced Skills: Use as leverage to develop weaker areas
Using your EQ strength − for your strongest EQ domain, give an example of how you demonstrate your
strength in your daily life or work: Your introverted way of living has enabled you to pay
extra attention to the emotional behavior of the people around you, and even tho-
ugh you're not able to help them, you're able to understand them better.
Effects of your EQ strength − for your weakest EQ domain, give an example of how this affects you
AND others in your daily life or work: One downside to your introversion is that you've gr-
own up to be a somewhat apathetic person, and that has often obstructed you fro-
m opening up to your loved ones regarding your emotional state and its causes.
Improving your EQ strength − for your weakest EQ domain, what steps can you take to strengthen
yourself in this area? How will this benefit you in your daily life or work? Whenever you feel worn
out or happy, try to write down exactly what you feel on a piece of paper. The more
e you push your mind to express itself, the better you'll be at feeling and grasping emotions.
For help in developing your EQ strengths, visit the City College Mental Health Counseling Center (Room A−221)
