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Republic of the Philippines

Department of Education
REGION V
Schools Division of Sorsogon
PILAR CLUSTER

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEET 13 (Quarter 2 – Week 5)

I. INTRODUCTORY CONCEPT
A relationship is essential in our lives as social beings. From the previous
module, you traced the relationship through a genogram that made you realize the
traits and health situation of your family. This module covers the different
relationships and responsibilities among members of the family and a description of
a healthy family relationship. The expected task in this lesson is to create a plan on
how to have firmer and gentler relationships among members of the family.

II. LEARNING SKILLS FROM MELCS

A. CONTENT STANDARD: The impact of one’s family on his/her personal

development during middle and late adolescence.

B. PERFORMANCE STANDARD: The learners shall be able to identify the firm

and gentle sides of family care that affects a person’s development during
middle and late adolescence.

C. MOST ESSENTIAL LEARNING COMPETENCIES:

o Prepare a plan on how to make the family members firmer and gentler with
each other. (EsP-PD11/12FSL-lle-11.3).

III. ACTIVITIES

A. LET US STUDY

Family Relationships, are meaningful relationships in life and society. It is the basic
relationship people have in life since birth, especially of children born in a biological
family. They play a vital role in shaping and developing an individual’s well-being
throughout his/her life.

Types of Family Relationships

1. Couple relationship – is an intimate connection between partners as husband
and wife or two people living together through the bond of marriage or by
cohabitation (live-in partner).
2. Parent-child relationship - the connection between parents to the
child/children either biological or adopted.
3. Sibling relationship - the connection between or among the brothers or sisters
in the family.
4. Extended family relationship – refers to the connection between the nuclear
family with other members of the family like aunts, uncles, grandparents,
cousins, and other relatives.

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Family Members and Their Roles

Family Roles
members
Couple To provide the needs of each other physically, emotionally,
financially, etc
Parents The provider of the basic needs of the family such as food,
clothes, shelter, education, safety needs, love, acceptance, and
care
Children Must honor and obey their parents, respect each other, help the
household chores, study, etc.
Siblings Older siblings assist in taking care of the needs of the siblings,
while younger siblings should listen and learn from them
Extended May extend support to the unmet needs of the family like the
members grandparents taking care of grandchildren, giving advice to the
members of the family if necessary

What is a firmer and gentler family relationship?

It is a relationship that makes the family stronger amid difficulties, and
crises they are experiencing. Struggles and difficult times brought them closer
together, as they learned to be respectful, patient, kind, and tender to each other,
because they are one as a family. It is like a strong tree that can always stand still
in the face of different storms passing through it.

Ways on How to Make Family Members Firmer and Gentler with Each Other

ACRONYM of FIRMER and GENTLER PLANS

F Foster unity. There is unity in the family despite the differences in

personalities and characteristics of each member by doing its specific roles in
the family. Promote unity in the family by building a bond among the
members.
I Involve each other. Every member of the family is important. Include them
in significant decision-making in family life.
R Respect individuality. Give higher regard by appreciating the uniqueness of
every member of the family, knowing that everyone has its identity, strengths,
and weaknesses. Respect can be earned without comparing one with another.
An example is by asking permission whenever one needs another member’s
belongings.
M Model the behavior. Everyone in the family could be a model for each other.
Modeling behavior is setting yourself as an example that is worth following to
other members of the family.
E Explain expectations and consequences. Let every family member
understand what is expected of them as to their responsibility. Along with
this, consequences must be clarified, so they will also know their
accountability.
R Reward good behavior. A reward is an excellent motivation for any family
member, so they can keep on doing what is good and right. Always look at the
positive behavior rather than focusing and nagging on other family member’s
failures.

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G Give love and forgiveness. We all need love, but we also need to give love.
Love is the core of relationships to make it stronger and better. When there is
love, there is also forgiveness for they go hand in hand together.
E Express gratitude. Support one another through giving positive words and
expressing gratitude. Communicate with constructive words and affirmation.
N Nurture trust. A trusting relationship promotes dignity and integrity in the
relationship. When trust is present, it challenges the person to do better
because others are depending on him/her.
T Take time together. Spending time together helps to know each other better
and promote authentic and stronger relationships. Pray, play, eat, solve
problems together, etc.
L Listen attentively. Give your attention to the one who has concerns. It
enables you to understand the motives, feelings, and ideas of others. The
deeper the understanding between each family member, the stronger the
family is.
E Ensure safety. It is within the family that members should feel safe and
secured. Be sure that no abuses and domestic violence are happening among
the members of the family. Do not put your family in danger.
R Remember God. Acknowledge God as the Source, great provider, and the
center of the relationship. The God of love, peace, and justice is with us
always. If God is the center of the relationships, you will do everything that is
pleasing both to God and others.

P Pray always. Prayer is a necessary ingredient in relationships. Seek strength

and help from God in all circumstances. A family that prays together stays
stronger.
L Learn good communication. Good communication promotes knowledge and
understanding of the situation in the family. Good communication uses “I”
messages expressing one's concerns and feelings, not blaming and
condemning others.
A Accept failures. Nobody is perfect; everyone makes mistakes. Acceptance of
one’s failure gives room for learning and improvement in your relationship.
N Nourish each other. To nourish is to provide the necessary things needed in
the family. Nourish the family with kindness and gentleness. Stop being rude
or harsh toward each other.
S Serve one another. Serving one another is treating everyone as important to
you. When everyone is serving each other, the burden of the family becomes
lighter.

B. LET US PRACTICE

Activity 1: Understanding the characteristics of relationships

Direction: Read and analyze the situation below. Answer the questions that follow.
Do it in your journal notebook.

Joel is the eldest child in the family. His family is having a hard
life since his father is a construction worker with no permanent job,
and his mother works at home to take care of them. Joel has five
siblings of three sisters and two brothers. As the eldest, he felt the

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 burden of helping to meet the needs of his family. When he was in
Junior High School, he took a part-time job after class, in order to have
an additional income to support the needs of his family. He did it with
permission from his parents and started to work as balut vendor in the
neighborhood, until he earned money to finance his own studies.
Through balut selling, he was able to provide some of their needs
including school allowances. Joel’s parents are proud and happy of his
effort in helping them, and they always encourage him to do his best in
his studies. His other siblings are helping in the household chores and
also in the assignment of his younger siblings for they are looking
forward to a better future.

Questions:
1. What is the story all about?
2. What are the characteristics of the people involved in the story?
3. How did the story describe a firmer relationship among the family members?

C. GENERALIZATION

Why is it important to have a firmer and gentler relationship in the family?

A good family relationship creates a transformative society because whatever
happens in the family impacts the society. When the family has a firmer and
gentler relationship, it becomes easier to reach dreams and goals; it’s easier to have
a healthy and happy life. The family then becomes fruitful in any endeavor. With all
these, the God of love, peace, and justice is honored.

D. EVALUATION

Test I. Write Fact if the statement is true and write Bluff if the statement is false.
Do it in a separate sheet of paper.

1. Love is one of the essential ingredients to have firmer/stronger and gentler

relationships.
2. It is important to work on communicating our feelings properly in
relationships.
3. Judging one another makes the family relationships stronger.
4. Performing everyone’s role and responsibilities help the family relationship
better.
5. The loving relationship of the couple promotes security and safety of the
children.
6. A healthy family relationship destroys the stability of the society.
7. Envying each other builds the relationship stronger.

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Test II.: Choose the best answer and write the letter of your answer in a separate
sheet of paper.

8. What relationship is an intimate connection between partners as husband

and wife or two people living together through the bond of marriage or by
cohabitation (live-in partner)?
a. Couple b. Parent-child c. Sibling d. Extended family

9. Which of the following destroys good family relationships?

a. Appreciating the efforts of the members
b. Comparing the siblings with the other
c. Giving reward to good behavior
d. Praying together

10. Which of the following shows that they have a firm family relationship?
a. Mother takes care of the children’s need
b. Father works to support their living
c. Children obey their parents
d. All of the above

11. Which of the following shows gentle relationships?

a. Brother are bullying each other
b. Mother yells to the children
c. Ana comforts her sister who was hurt by her peers
d. Father demands service from the wife

12. Which of the family shows a firmer relationship?

a. Janice’s family members are doing things in their own way.
b. Joshua’s family sets expectations and consequences for their actions
c. Alex’s family does not talk with each other.
d. Julie’s family fights over every little matter

13. How can we have a healthy, strong, and gentle relationship?

a. By having bonding time together with the family
b. By doing our roles and responsibilities
c. By accepting the mistakes and learning to forgive
d. All of the above
14. Why do we need to have a firmer and gentler relationship in the family?
1. To honor God and live harmoniously with each other
2. To bring good transformation in society
3. To become famous in the society

a. Statement 1 & 3
b. Statement 1 & 2
c. Statement 1, 2,& 3
d. Statement 2 & 3

15. Karen was offended because her parents always compare her with her
siblings that they are better than her. What should Karen do?
a. She should talk to her mother about how she felt about it.
b. She should fight her siblings
c. She should keep silent and stay in her room
d. She should not eat so that she gets the attention of her parent

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IV. REFLECTION
Direction: write your reflection on your journal notebook.

Complete the following Statement:

I realized that ___________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
I learned that ___________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

V. ANSWER KEY

NO ANSWER KEY AVAILABLE. YOUR SCORE IN THE EVALUATION WILL BE

YOUR SUMMATIVE TEST SCORE.

VI. REFERENCES

• https://www.deped-click.com/2021/01/shs-official-2nd-quarter-self-
learning_3.html
• Arevalo, Rebecca T., et.al; Personal Development Alternative Delivery Mode
Quarter 1 – Module 25: Plan on How to Make the Family Members Firmer and
Gentler with Each Other; First Edition, 2020; Department of Education –
Region IV-A

Prepared by:

JEROM L. JACOB, JHS T-I

Pilar National Comprehensive High School

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