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What Men Should Know

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About Woman, Manliness and Life

Copyright © 2021 by What Men Should Do

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should regularly consult a licensed physician in matters
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financial, medical advice whatsoever.

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 Table of Contents

Introduction 5
How To Use 8
The New Social Order 9
The war of terms 14
What makes Alpha 17
How women choose 22
Not ‘all women’ 26
You get what you look for 29
The Myth of The Bad Boy 31
Long-term desirability 36
One crazy woman 44
Fatalities 50
Denial of modern-day feminism 58
Is she really into you? 63
Dad to the Rescue 69
Comradery 81
The Woke Squad 87
Men are Hurt 93
Channelize 102
Purposefulness 104
Half the Battle 108
Glossary 109

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References and Links 111

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 Introduction

My initial interest in gender roles, polarity between men and

women, relationship dynamics, worrisome rise in ‘woke’ and
‘liberal’ sentiments was sparked when I got increasingly
observant of the trends around me. Being a citizen of India,
an Eastern country with traditional values still somewhat
intact, western influences such as divorces, single-parent
households, hook-up culture, multiple sexual partners
before marriage baffled me when I was still in my early teens.
These ideas seemed ‘sick’. Not only to me but my friends,
everyone my age too. That was the norm – traditions and
cultures were still appreciated, followed, and celebrated here.
However, the movement from my teens to late teens and
early 20s opened up my eyes to changes in customs,
traditions that no one around us would have accepted 10
years ago. Attributed to the rise in social networking, as
more and more people, around the globe, including here in
my country, got opened up to these ideas. Western
influences had taken over everyone’s psyche. Since the West
was economically at a better level than us, naturally, we saw
it as an inspirational land where nothing is wrong, a culture
with no deformities. However, we took it too far. We failed
to realize that we had to be economically inspired by them,
not culturally. Parents scolding their kids for staying out late

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at night was generally fought by these young kids with,
“Nobody in the West ever scolds their children for staying
out late. It is NORMAL there.”

I don’t blame the West. They too had to suffer the same
calamity as us, but even worse. Increased liberality,
‘wokeness’ hurts them more than it hurts us. A mixed
influence of various movements, nonsensical ideas, and
dumb activists turned a region of progress and advancement
into a culture of degeneracy. I say this not to shame, neither
to negatively influence anyone, but to lay emphasis on this –
we all are now rocking the same boat. Even miles apart, be
it West or East, the same sick ideas have taken over our lives.
Ideas that continue to internally and externally hurt men,
women, children, economies, communities, and the world.

This was the reason why I easily could wrap my head around
the whole self-improvement area for men. It came naturally
to me. I write this book for men (even though women
readers are more than welcome to read it) because obviously
enough, I am a man myself. I am not the perfect man,
neither am I a genius. But I am a thinker. I think and act, not
based on randomness, but based on introspection,
contemplation, and very high observance. These are the
qualities, I believe, which were responsible for me to not
accept things just because ‘someone told me is correct’ or
‘because this is how it always has been’. Yes, I do turn back
to and advise men to go back to the traditional role of
masculinity because, through years of observance, analysis

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of data, and experiencing it myself and 1000s of other men
I’ve come across, I know that it works. If I believe
something that worked in the past but doesn’t now, I am the
first one to reject it as well. My ideas, my way of life has led
to an increasingly fit – mentally, physically, and emotionally
– lifestyle for not only me, but everyone that relies on me, is
a part of my circle – be it my immediate family, good friends,
or the clients I coach or people like you who read me online.
That is how I know what I have to say works. That is how I
knew I had to write this book – to make men aware that
there is a better way to live, a better understanding of the life
you have been ignoring till now. There are lies of the society
that need to be uncovered, motives of all of us that we are
unaware of, and a way to live that makes every day a
beautiful experience. And that is what I intend to achieve
with writing this book – to hyperaware all of you so that you
can take better decisions, live intentionally, and succeed in
all facets of life.

Happy reading.

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 How To Use

You can read any chapter you wish to at any point. There is
no particular order. As I’ve talked about before, my aim with
this book is all-around knowledge. To maximize this, read
with an open mind. Books related to sexuality, social orders,
and relationships become subjects of much criticism because
of the subjectivity of these topics. If you are new to the entire
red-pill arena, your old beliefs may be shattered. You might
question most of this book. In the long run, though, you’ll
realize the importance of these findings and this book and
how true most of it is. I guarantee you this. Those who are
familiar with the entire red-pill notions and have read about it
might find most of this book expanding on those same topics.
For them too, I have new teachings. All in all, everyone will
definitely learn from this book and that is the whole point.
Read it, share it, introspect, self-reflect, but most importantly
– enjoy what you read and learn. Also, you can refer to the
glossary and references, in the end, to learn about some terms
that you might find confusing or for some important links.
Don’t be upset, don’t be disheartened because of your prior
ignorance. Arrogance, aggression, and discontentment are the
coping mechanisms of losers. Don’t be one. Be happy that
you now have learned what 80% of the society won’t in their
entire lifetime.

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 The New Social Order

Times have changed. The Social Order we are a part of

now is continually shaping itself, faster than ever before. This
Social Order initially went through stages of metamorphosis
during the early sexual revolution, the 3rd feminist movement
and then further changed the moment internet took over our
lives, and then changed even further when social media
became a customary household term which completely shifted,
changed how we talk, act, earn, think about our lives, and
evaluate ourselves and others. To be completely blunt, take it
this way – the constant pressure to remove masculinity from
the face of the planet is a cause being funded like crazy. The
very traits, mental models, mental firmware that makes men
‘men’ and what has been responsible to ensure law, order,
civility, and nobility in society since the dawn of time is now
labeled unhealthy, toxic, and harmful. Back in 2019, I came
across a blog post that talked about how these innate traits and
values to men are now increasingly being labeled as ‘alarming’.
In the same year, the American Psychological Association issued its
guidelines on how to deal with boys/men and this is what they
had to say about the conventional idea of masculinity:

“The main thrust of the subsequent research is that

traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness,

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dominance, and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful. Men
socialized in this way are less likely to engage in healthy
behaviors.”

This is just one of the million examples that have been

popping up for the past 2-3 decades. The worst part is not this,
but rather men taking part in shaming other men for the
conventional ideas of masculinity, for having virtues unique to
men, and for funding and supporting studies like the one
mentioned above. What is bound to happen when men who
are troubled try to find resort through psychological therapy
when ideas like these dictate their workings? They will only
worsen.

I came across a YouTube video the other day named,

“Predatory Romance in Harrison Ford movies”. Basically, the
video is presented by a guy who talks about how the same
movie characters (Han Solo, Indiana Jones, etc.) he loved to
follow and appreciate for their bravado, charisma, and swagger
when he was a child – are the same characters he started to
‘hate’ because the feminine-centric and blue pilled
conditioning took a toll on his mental framework and taught
him, since his childhood, that what these heroes do is toxic and
harmful (see the video). This deliberate demonization of the
conventional and archetypal idea of masculinity is what is the
result of the New Social Order.

Cramps of pain, regret, and resentment that the creator

of the above-mentioned video feels because he idolized a

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‘toxic’ male character are what has been happening for a few
years now. Entire generations of men are now being raised by
a society that functions on shunning men off their uniqueness
since the dawn of the sexual revolution. The problem this new
social order presents is its self-centredness. It wants to
conserve attributes of men that serve its purpose while
disregarding other attributes that don’t. A man that provides
for his family, works 80 hrs/week to provide for them? Bring
it on. A man that uses his bravado and charism to save the
women of the ship when it starts to sink? Bring it on! But a
man that uses the same charisma to seduce women (even
though they covertly appreciate it)? No, that is toxic and
harmful. A man that uses his effective leadership qualities to
tell his kids or wife what they ought to do as per their roles in
the family? No! That is patriarchal toxicity. This feminine-
centric social order is what is responsible for the seas of simps
and betatized, femininized men we see today. Feminized,
deadbeat fathers who hold no dominance in their households,
raise boys with the same ideas as them. Let alone single
mothers. The archetypes of positive masculinity have been
erased and young boys have no point of reference and no
worthy men to look up to. All they have is feminine-centric
ideas taught to them in their humanity classes through
feminized teachers -- and after school, the brainwashed society
which religiously follows and appreciates the New Social
Order and teaches them to take offense at anything even
remotely masculine, unless and until those masculine virtues
are needed for their own utility when convenient and needed.

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 Masculinity lost its uniqueness because the sexual
revolution taught men and women that whatever traits were
unique to men are dangerous and promote misogyny by
default. Whatever things previously men were exclusively
engaged in, don’t hold ground anymore. However, remember
this is only true for things women cannot engage in. All other
activities, that have become gender-neutral by default, are not
be despised. Because if women start engaging in them, they
become socially approved. The very idea that men ‘have to live
like bugs in their own homes, go have fun in the basement
(famously known as the man cave) because their wives don’t
want any noise in the house’ speaks volumes for itself.
Generations of men have now been raised on this idea of
‘anything uniquely masculine is disturbing and to be shunned’
that men have forgotten their true nature or I could say,
learned how to repress it, because true nature never gets
eliminated through human pressure. Now media houses,
associations like the APA, schools, and humanities professors
define what is acceptable as a ‘man’ and what is not, not
evolutionary data and basic biology.

I write this section to let men know, understand the

power-hungry and ever-expanding movement of prioritizing
all-female imperatives with no questions asked about their
vitality. The New Social Order favors the feminine-imperative
and its gynocentric claims – be it in the court of law, ‘woke’
institutions or the blue-pilled society at a micro. An adult film
star can openly admit that she had her first sexual encounter
by forcefully kissing a boy in a movie theatre. Women can

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make up stories of false rape and molestation cases, very well
ruining the lives of men in their way for years to come. These
stories I tell, not to make you run away from women with your
tail between your legs, but to make you understand the New
Social Order we live in which focuses and prioritizes the over-
ambitious, unfruitful empowerment of women and taking
away as much power as possible from men and disempowering
them. It is important today, more than ever, to understand the
realities of this not-very-new social structure, and move as
objectively as possible.

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 The war of terms

I have had far too many men complain, be confused

about the terms - ‘alpha’ and ‘beta’ - their usage, necessity, or
why in the seven worlds even use them to explain masculine
nature? I know where these questions come from because I
have been there too. The 20-year-old me would outrageously
shut today’s version of me from even using these terms. But,
realize this – the manosphere uses these terms not to mark
individuals, but mindsets. There is also a possibility that we
do it because of a lack of better terminology. There are rich
alphas, then there are dead-broke alphas. There are happily
married, patriarchal alphas, while we also have playboy alphas.
We have drug lord alphas; we also have CIA alphas. You see,
we use these terms not to describe individuals, but mindsets
and that too subjectively. Where do these terms come from?
Particularly, from the animal kingdom. An alpha is the one
sitting in the top order of the dominance and societal hierarchy
in a particular group who can offer the best genetic pool and
exhibits characteristics and attitudes that align with it. While
there is a lack of true understanding and scientific study for
what constitutes a beta, for our better understanding, we
mirror them with males who are subordinates to the alphas,
lower in the dominance hierarchy. They try, through their

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evolved methods, to sneak a female away for themselves from
an alpha harem, in purely scientific terms.

As these definitions are not even objectively used for all

animals, we cannot definitely use them for human beings. But
we ought to, for a better understanding for ourselves and,
again, because of a lack of better terms. That is why we need
to stay away from providing concrete definitions to the alpha
and beta abstractions.

We subscribe to these animalistic ideologies because

we, more or less, are what they are. 60 or so years of societal
conditioning and the New Social Order’s attempts to erase its
truthfulness cannot drive away millions of years of biological
framework. People hate to categorize or state men as alphas or
betas because: 1. They see themselves falling into the latter
category and as a result use defiance as a defense mechanism
because there is not much positive attached to being beta, or
2. Have no true understanding of it.

I have no intention of tutoring anyone on why they

ought to use these terms. But remember, for a better
understanding, you need to accept that some men win at life
and others just politely take what is given to them. We already
categorize the two as alphas and betas, respectively. If some
other term looks more generous to you, use that. But drive this
home – dominance hierarchies exist and male and female
nature is real.

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I will use these terms unobjectively in this book, to drive
by my point because even if anybody likes it or not, the
message of “constituting an alpha mindset” is my ultimate
goal and it cannot be done without using them. I stay away
from objectively stating qualitative assumptions about
what constitutes the Alpha and Beta but when I do use
these terms, you will know who is who.

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 What makes Alpha

I have a friend, call him Jeff, who is a father to 9 kids,

has a loving wife, is well built too, has built multiple businesses
from ground zero, and is the literal definition of a conventional
patriarch. I have another friend who is a playboy, is well off in
terms of wealth, and has a new woman for every week of the
month.

Now, who would you say embodies true alpha? Some

will say, Jeff, while others might say the other guy. But I say,
why not both of them?

This is the problem that presents when we start defining

alphaness and what constitutes it in absolute terms. Because
being an alpha or beta for that matter is very subjective. Our
subjective perspectives of what makes a man alpha is often
clouded by our personal reasoning.

Alpha and beta are mindsets, not demographics.

The truth of the matter is, there are drug dealers,

prisoners, jobless scoundrels who are alphas and then there are
family men, police officers, normal men walking in the streets
who are alphas. The only difference being, the former

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channelized their alphaness into something destructive and
not-so-good. There are no moral police who will outline the
former party for not being an alpha because they are not
virtuous. They just are, even if they don’t align with your
definition of what an alpha should be.

The bottom line is – stop defining what should or

should not be alpha. Instead, work on cultivating a mindset
that works for you, ensures you get the best of women,
career success, business expansion, or whatever it is that
you desire. Your alphaness doesn’t reside on whether you
follow a person’s personal definition of it or not. It only cares
about whether you get out of life what you want or not.

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There are two kinds of alpha – one that is biologically

heavily favored and have to put in a little work to successfully
exploit its usefulness. Second, the ones who are a little
biologically favored and have to meld into their alphaness. But
work has to be put in regardless of biology’s favors to you.

But the underlying observation is – nobody can learn

how to game his alphaness just because he was born this way.
It is true that some men are naturally good-looking and get
their share of being surrounded by women since high school.
This is, in fact, uncontrollable and the guy on the backbench
can do nothing about it because he cannot go change his genes.
This is an example of an uncontrollable environmental ploy at
play. So, by the time the backbencher starts getting his hands

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on dating, he is far less experienced than the naturally good-
looking guy who has already started the games of womanizing
since he was 13. So, it does depend heavily on environmental,
uncontrollable circumstances in the earlier part of a man’s life.
But later on, they become changeable as you gain more
conscious control of how you look, what is your game with
women, and your successes in life.

Healthy arrogance, self-belief, dark triad traits (for

short-term mating), assertiveness, dominance, high-
testosterone physical cues (lower-pitched voice, muscularity,
chiseled jaw line) are all part of what makes or at least seems
to be alpha enough to women. Return to your primal, healthy
7-year-old alpha mindset that you lost through years of
feminized social conditioning that promised this is what
women will reward you for. While, in reality, they are busy
fighting over a douche, ignorant punk who is full of himself.

Still don’t get why women seem to run around idiots

and leave you?

I will not do the stupid task of providing an

objective definition of what makes a man alpha because
there isn’t any. A guy demonstrating and exploiting his high
sexual market value (SMV) by having 2 or more concurrent
girlfriends must be a moralistically corrupt douche because he
cannot commit to a single woman. While for another guy, a
guy marrying and settling down fulfilling his role of a patriarch
must be a ‘wannabe alpha’ who can’t get women and settled.

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However, that isn’t so. That is why I highlight the importance
of the alpha mindset and not exclusively defining alpha-ness
based on a man’s sexual preferences. So, what makes alpha?
Whatever habits, conditioning, mental models assist a man to
live a life he wants to and finds worth it. A patriarch could be
an alpha, an adult film actor could be an alpha, a minimum
wage worker could be alpha, a businessman earning 1
million/year could be an alpha too. There could be good-
looking alphas, while also skinny-fat, jerk-faced alphas too.
Notice that I make use of the word ‘could’, not ‘is’.

Hatred for the terminology

My audience and readers consist of both who believe in

traditional notions of conservatism, marriage, and long-term,
religious commitment and also those who are against marriage
because of how hostile it is for men today. I am aware that a
part of this audience stands against the BS notion of these
terms of alpha and beta too. For them, it is important to realize
that these designations are contextual. They are not
important, neither are they required. Alpha, as a term, is largely
used to sketch a man who lives in the right frame of mind, and
his particular set of beliefs, systems, ethics help him succeed,
romantically, financially, emotionally. Now, for every man,
these accounts stand different. That is why I stay away from
objectively defining alpha. Because there is no definition of it!
In the same way, beta practices are everything that do not help
men be what they could be or aspire to be, but they choose to

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stick to them just because society told them so or because of
their misled beliefs. Again, that is subjective.

Then, realize this – in this entire book, I’ll stay away

from categorizing anything as beta or alpha as far as I can. And
even if I do use them, they’ll be contextual.

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 How women choose

A woman’s mating strategy has 2 key components:

Preserving and looking out for the best genes for her children.
And second, the need for being provided for, protected and
provisioned so that her children don’t have to suffer. These 2
key components are very important in understanding the
nature of women and in understanding why they do what they
do.

It is vital to understand that men’s sexual and mating

strategy primarily focused on spreading their precious seeds in
as many women as possible so that their lineage could be
widespread and live on and on – from an evolutionary
perspective. While a woman’s mating strategy stands
completely different from this. Women wanted the best genes
for their kids (so that they are not born limped, disabled or
worse, dead) and then getting along with a man who could
provide and nurture them. As you can tell, this evolutionary
strategy of men has been completely abandoned owing to how
we evolved as a society, state laws, and the feminine-centric
social order. While promoting the female mating strategies as
just and acceptable. And this strategy with centuries of
evolution didn’t change much for her. While there are different
points of time, at which any woman has different preferences

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for a partner, I would like to emphasize the following 2
periods.

Party years

These are the years, approximately stretching from her

early 20s to mid and late 20s. Many guys have landed inside my
DMs and coaching calls where, being as confused as a dumb
sloth, they ask me – “I have my life together, but why do
women my age still keep running around scumbags who have
not even got a thousand dollars to their name? Isn’t my being
high-value supposed to be appreciated in the dating world?”
And my answer is NO. You see, women in their party years
don’t give much of a shit about your money and status as long
as you have all the looks, personality, and good game. What
they primarily look for are masculinized physical attributes
(muscularity, low-pitched voice, a dominant posture, etc.) to
optimize her breeding potential to ensure the best genes,
subconsciously. This is true to an extent. It is not that things
like money, status don’t help, but don’t depend on them to
help you get laid when cold approaching a woman in this phase
of her life because when in her mid-twenties, she is just
‘beginning’ to start appreciating cues in men that may be
beneficial for long-term provisioning. Here is what Rollo
Tomassi says about party years in his book ‘The Rational Male
– Preventive Medicine’:

“During the party years, Hypergamy is still firmly rooted in

physical attraction and short-term mating cues, however, it’s during this

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time women begin to develop an appreciation for the personality cues of
confidence and (Alpha) character as it relates to her long-term
investment.”

When in these party years, women are concerned about

the first half of their hypergamous nature, which is finding the
best genes. And your genes don’t depend on how much you
make in a year, but rather, your looks and masculinized
features. Another thing to realize is that all this is subconscious
to a woman’s mind. She is not consciously aware of this
narrative of hypergamy that dictates her sexual decisions and
preferences. They behave the way they do because of years of
evolution which hasn’t changed much, but the opportunity to
maximize on it has folded exponentially.

The age of ‘realizations and maturity’

I call this the phase of realizations and maturity because

these are the exact terms women will use to best describe their
transformation from a party girl to a ‘mature’ woman who now
wants to ‘settle down’. This may begin from the mid or late-
20s for a woman. As a woman starts experiencing her sexual
market value (SMV) declining and her being unable to
compete with women younger and hotter than her, realizations
kick in. She now wants to settle down and maximize the other
side of her hypergamy which is to be provided for, protected,
and provisioned for. This, she may achieve by 2 ways: either
by turning an alpha maximized in his physicalities (which
ensures the best genes for her) into a full-time husband and

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father (which satisfies the other narrative of hypergamy) or by
settling down with an innate betatized man even if it means
not being able to preserve the best genes for her children. If
she is unable to go through with the first way, she’ll go the
second way.

Procuring an alpha to give her the best genes for her

children and then churning out the role of a provider and
parent may happen through marriage (which does happen all
the time) or even through forced pregnancies (where she
forces you to leave your seeds inside her and binding you
legally). She may even turn an alpha bad boy who was
surrounded by women in his college into a betatized man who
wonders “what happened to his alphaness”. Either way, the
objective is clear – to ensure both alpha genetics and the
benefits of a provider from the same man. The disability to do
so forces her to optimize on her last resort – settling for a beta
provider or choosing to be single for life.

However, these are not ‘be-all, end-all’ scenarios when

it comes to how every woman’s choices might pan out.

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 Not ‘all women’

Where do exceptions don’t exist? There exist women

who are either inadequately able to or unable to maximize their
hypergamy. A multitude of reasons could be responsible for
this – religious beliefs, conservative surroundings, restrained
westernized influences, physical inability, or simply never
realizing it. And these are the kind of women that are well-
suited for LTRs. When old-school conservatives discuss issues
about the inability of men to find a ‘quality woman’ in this age,
their peers’ go-to answer is to find a woman rooted in her
religion and traditionalist culture. Why? Because, unlike the
modern, westernized, and ‘woke’ women, they are not actively
sexually abusing themselves all the time and are still rooted in
their conservative values. There are women who will stick by
their man’s side rather than jumping ships just because a better
one came through while he was struggling. Nonetheless, they
will still want the best partner for themselves in terms of his
masculine nature, how well-suited he is for a long-term
engagement.

The narrative of ‘not all women’ has changed ever since

we moved past the sexual revolution. 60 years before today,
this section would have meant – “Not all women are
traditionalist. Some want to party, compete with men too!”

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The only difference is that the majority has changed sides ever
since. The chunk of women falling into this outliers’
proportion is continually falling. Nevertheless, generalizations
always hurt. Be it for men or women. Remember, outliers
always exist. To find one is your chore.

Don’t blame hypergamy

Obviously, hypergamy is at play at all times, either

consciously or subconsciously, for a woman that has the
means and measures to capitalize on it. Even a traditionalist,
old-school, feminine woman will not stick around with a loser.

But it is important for men to deny and not start

identifying their inter-sexual failure with it. Don’t blame
hypergamy for your shortcomings. The unserious mission
of MGTOW (men going their own way) falls on these similar
paths of victimhood. Most of them, in conclusion, check out
from the sexual matrix or keep it low and themselves largely
uninvested, limiting themselves to casual dating. Their
grievances and their reasons for this response are not limited
to just hypergamy, but more. However, chickening out is never
the answer. Use this knowledge about hypergamy and the
female nature as a ‘cheat-code’ to max out your success, either
in the dating world or your marriage. It is not hypergamy’s fault
that you defaulted, checked out from working out, stopped
being the man you were, turned a deaf ear to self-
improvement, and your woman inevitably vacated you. Yes,
women will always use their hypergamous nature to choose a

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man best-fit for themselves and their kids. But that doesn’t
mean every woman is always on the lookout for a better
prospect and will leave you as soon as you go broke, has
backup plans, or it is “just your turn”. This is a mindset of
defeat, self-sabotage, and a love-less, family-less existence.

Would you blame gravity because you fell?

Experience, iterate, learn, master yourself, and keep a
strong frame. Become a man no woman would want to pass
on and take on the responsibility to find a woman that fits your
preferences. There will be no one to blame but you if you end
up locking down a dead-end feminist.

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 You get what you look for

This brings me to this section. As a writer, I am very

neutral concerning any man’s romantic, sexual preferences. I
neither promote, encourage, or pridefully side with those who
choose to engage in purely sexual relationships only, nor do I
advocate or side with LTRs or marriages. What I do find
comment-worthy though is the vindication some men use to
justify either of these choices instead of simply terming them as
their personal preferences.

“Oh, I got cheated upon, that is why I have learned never

to trust women.”

“When you invest so much in a marriage and your wife

ends up telling you that she ‘just doesn’t feel the same way’, what
do you expect?”

“There are no marriage-worthy women left. Why even

bother?”

“Men who engage in a short-term, unserious sexual

relationship with women are the reason lack of quality
relationships exist these days.”

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 You get what you look for. Obviously, times are
turbulent when it comes to women worthy of LTRs. It is vital
that men be accountable for their personal choices rather than
blaming society, female-led movements, or the entire other
gender. The entire crux of the redpill is awareness, realization,
and understanding of the inter-gender, sexual dynamics. Not
hatred, not shaming, and not blame-gaming. It is fairly
important to be accountable and have strong enough reasons
for your choices and own them, even if the consequences
prove themselves to be dire. Learn what matters and keep
going on. Coming across pieces of the redpill is a trove full of
knowledge in itself. Use it to your advantage.

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 The Myth of The Bad Boy

Women love assholes. Women love bad boys. Then

why be good if it brings no reward while being a psychotic,
unagreeable-narcissist is what might get you women? While
this juxtaposition is true to an extent, it is important to
understand the truth and the red pilling behind this truth.

I have read enough studies on how dark triad traits

(psychopathy, Machiavellianism, narcissism) have a far more
positive effect in obtaining partners for short-term
relationships (one-night stands, booty calls, friends with
benefits) while positive traits of high agreeableness, humility
have a negative correlation and a disability to obtain more
sexual partners.1 These are studies. And studies focus on the
outcome, not the reasoning behind it. So, what makes these
traits sexually seductive? One reason why high agreeableness
is associated with this statistic of low sexual interest is that
when men are always on their knees with the “Yes, no
problem” dialogue and are easy to push around, that right
there is a sign of beta. Disagreeableness is an innate trait to
men. It comes naturally to them. That is why men choose to
quit their jobs (or think about it more often), start their own
businesses. But lowering that bar with a presumption that if
you agree with her, say yes to her all the time, she’ll come

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around and respect you more – needs to be dunked and has
been with that study I presented above. Now, don’t get it
twisted. The nice guys, who are highly agreeable make up to be
better long-term partners. Because you can’t expect a guy
loathed with dark triad traits to provide with women’s long-
term needs of provisioning, protection, and providing. And
there are studies on this too. Both psychopathy and narcissism
were negatively correlated with expressed preferences for a
serious romantic relationship (Jonason, Li, Webster, &
Schmitt, 2009; Jonason & Webster, 2010). 2 Another reason
why these characteristics of narcissism and such turn women
on is because of the psychological stories she makes up
because of them. When a man thinks highly enough of himself,
she starts thinking highly enough about him too.

“Oh, he’s so cocky. Why would he not care about what

I think of him? Maybe because he has girls swamping over him.
Hmm, makes sense.” You see, there is a reason behind every
consequence resultant of a women’s decisions. Obviously,
these traits provide good short-term sexual options but can be
a problem when looking for anything long-term.

Also, there is a paradox women get confused with – the

choice between bad boys and good boys. It is very rare that
you will come along with a balanced integration of the
two. So, owing to this difficult choice between an appealing
scent of a powerful but destructive bad boy and a weak and
frail, always good boy, women have to settle for the former.
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love for thrill than get bored with an average, always ‘yes’
chump. She would rather feel overwhelmed than get bored.

These are the same good boys though, who make up

preferable partners for the long-term and the later years of a
woman’s hypergamy. But remember, this is only after a woman
has had her ‘heartbroken’ from a bunch of bad boys. Owing
to her needs of provisioning, protection, and providing for her
family and children, she then wants a man who can do all this
for her children. Obviously, you will never hear a woman talk
about this or agree to this because this is in her subconscious
psyche which has evolved over the years.

The 7-year-old kid doesn’t have to be taught how to not

give a fuck about what the other girls think about him at the
playground. He simply goes about pulling their hair, rumbling
with them, playing dirt games with them. Although domains
change over time, the ideas remain the same. Society taught
you through years of female-primary conditioning on how to
care too much about how to make her feel ‘good’. It is a time-
consuming and grueling aspect of mastering the game to stop
giving out too many ‘fucks’ about her, especially when it
doesn’t help you get laid or attract women in the first place.
Societal conditioning taught men to drop their frame over time
and become ‘nice, accommodating and the good boy.’ While
in reality, there are no rewards for being overly good or nice,
rather has more disadvantages. The female-centric societal
conditioning wants you to believe “niceness, being there for
her, if you prove yourself to her, she will reward you with

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somethin’, somethin’”, but as years of biology would have it,
she doesn’t. This fallacy has men confused about why women
choose to run after Mr. Asshole when clearly, they are the ‘nice
guy’ catch. I still remember it was in high school when girls
used to tell me how ‘cold’ or ‘uninteresting’ I seemed to be in
conversing with them. However, weirdly enough, if this same
cold-heartedness seemed to be so disheartening to them, why
still keep buzzing around me then? No, I didn’t need to read
books or attend PUA seminars then to understand this aspect
of female nature, but I understood it well. Remember,
behavior is the real indicator.

————

The real caveat of adding this section is the rampant

misinterpretation it goes through. Dark triad traits, or being a
bad boy sounds very similar to coming off as a jerk. Especially
when you read some pick-up guy telling you that women find
psychopathy and narcissism sexy, obviously you’ll believe so.
But no. Being a bad guy has less to do with being a cold-headed
buffoon and more to do with your covert deportment, manner
of conduct, and most importantly, mindset. Opting for a bad
guy over a nice catch is primarily because of the over-the-top
niceness of the good guy. Extreme consideration of ‘what she
wants, she says, they want, they will benefit from’ – be it for
women or people in general – will turn anyone off in the long-
term. The naturally predisposed respect of one’s own good and
wants before others is generally a turn-on and an attractive
trait. Knowing that a man is untamed by her leaving or

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rejecting him, being narcissistic enough to the point of taking
care of your wants and needs above hers will instinctively
attract her towards you beyond a pool of nice guys that are
used to pedestalize her. Therefore, it is incumbent for men to
realize the importance of being a rational balance of niceness
and boldness. The rarity of a guy being the perfect blend of 2
is what will make you a great catch. Although, prescriptively,
being excessively bad rather than good might land you in
more short-term, momentary flings while a balanced
integration is well-suited if you are looking for anything
long-term. Your frame of self-assurance and outcome
independence will help you take the driving seat in an LTR too.

Most importantly, forget everything that the blue-pilled

society taught you about being the ‘nice guy’ and respecting
women at default because that is what they really ‘value’. They
don’t. The medium is the message.

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 Long-term desirability

If women always want to, either consciously or

subconsciously, maximize their hypergamous nature, why then
even bother to look for a long-term partner? If she is
continuously looking for the best catch, why even bother?

The solution is to maintain long-term desirability.

Genuine desire cannot be negotiated and from the very onset
of an inter-sexual relationship, you absolutely must be desired
by her. If she has settled for you, you know it is not going to
end well. This is why the nature of hypergamy was important
to understand. A beta provider, a woman will settle for in her
early 30s, is not desirable neither is he the alpha she fucked in
her early party years. And, maybe it won’t, but chances are,
your relationship won’t be balanced and, in the end, could even
end miserably. She wanting to please you, her getting jealous
of you getting hit on by other women, and wanting to do things
for you, striving for your attention, trying to make your life
easier – are all instances of her being genuinely interested in
you. It doesn’t matter if you want it or not, if it is healthy or
not, what matters is understanding when she has that genuine,
burning desire for you and when she has just settled for you.
Making you wait for sex when you already know how she
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during her “girls’ night out” is a common example of this. A
man genuinely desired by his woman will not have to, ever
work for her sexual compliance. Reason number one for
couples going to therapy has to be a ‘sexless marriage’ while all
they need to know is that the desire dynamic has ended. She
might even reward you for passionless sex here and there, but
again, she is complying because she feels bad for not being able
to reward you for being so ‘nice and good’. The negotiation
you thought will bring back the fervent and intense desire
she had for you once in the beginning, only pulls her even
more apart. The guy she was with in college didn’t have to do
favors for her, didn’t had to separate his white socks and red
socks just so he could get laid. Doing favors for her might
make her have sex for you, but you will not get fucked. Learn
the difference. The dynamics don’t change – even when you
are in an LTR or marriage.

In a long-term relationship (LTR), the dynamics of

desirability, alphaness, bad boy ferocity, and frame control
don’t change. But it is of vital importance to enter an LTR with
a woman who, from the very onset, sees you as a desirable man
she wants to genuinely please. Entering into a relationship with
the beta traits of being supportive, kind, predictable, and
eventually – boring are all doom-worthy. Even if she is hot, a
great catch, and ‘one in a million’ (which I guarantee she isn’t),
it doesn’t compensate for having meager levels of desire for
you. Make sure she is not just settling for you after years of
exploitation of her party years. This is why a woman’s body
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on the basis of this. Higher the number of her previous
partners, the higher the chances that she is just settling for a
nice beta to provide for her.

Always be working on yourself

Nothing kills more interest and desire levels in a

relationship than predictability and ‘settling down’. When she
has known you for 10 years, the anxiety she felt in the
beginning while getting to know you, while you were being hit
by other women better than her, is long gone. A way to
mitigate this lost desire and unpredictability is to be
continuously working on yourself, making good money,
getting fitter physically. While a woman’s SMV starts declining
after her young adult years, a man’s value is just onsetting.
Exploit your ability to do this. Work on yourself. Covertly, she
will notice you getting better and this will prompt her to please
you. As your value and merit increase, so do your options and
the competition anxiety it brings with it will evoke deep desire
within her. Many guys choose the substandard of evoking
competition anxiety within her – going out to clubs, openly
hitting on other women. I am not moral police that will tell
you if you should follow this route or not. What I will tell you
though, is that you don’t need to overtly be open about your
value increment. Your woman has the vision of a doe. She
will notice your SMV increasing even before you do.

Wilderness and unpredictability

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 Roissy said it best – “A woman can promise loyalty and love
to a good man, but if his personality, attitude, temperament, and
masculinity don’t excite her then every day will be a losing battle waged
against an ancient desire.”

Sex, intimacy, romance is uncomfortable, adrenaline

provoking by their very nature. All of us remember our first
dance, our first kiss, even if that was years ago. Not only the
first ones but every one of those with someone new. The
spontaneity, the urgency, anxiety, and adrenaline pump are
natural, instinctive and that is why it feels so good. What kills
intimacy in an LTR is the predictability and the death of
discomfort. The same bedroom, the same time, the same ways
to do it eventually leads to familiarity and predictability which
further leads to comfort. I will not go into the details but bring
back unpredictability and uncertainty. Whenever you go park
your car in the parking lot, go hiking, are in an airplane, bend
her over the bonnet, make out with her against the wall, rip her
clothes off in the bedroom. Always keep her guessing about
what’s next.

Frame control

“You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying,

yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays,
shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will
rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm
passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have
mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.” – Heartiste

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 As I have talked about before, the dynamics don’t
change in an LTR or marriage. Instead, they become all the
more important because the margin of error is very low. It is
not uncommon for women to deny even taking their
husband’s last name, let alone operate in their frame. How
many men have the default authority in a relationship? How
many men have wives or long-term girlfriends who will
unquestioningly just move with them supportingly if they
decide to quit their jobs today and start something afresh
tomorrow in a new state? That innate frame control matters
because firstly, genuine desire and her operating in your frame
are mutually inclusive. A woman who doesn’t have bona
fide admiration for you will not defer to your default
frame. Even if she does want to, she won’t be able to when
you yourself have paid for the new social order’s egalitarian
perspective. This begins from the first date where you ask her
to decide the place to meet up. She can’t help you when you
won’t help yourself. You live in your own world and she
enters into it. That is the reason she looks up to you for
making decisions for the house, admires your authority. She
doesn’t know what is best for both of you, but you do. She will
eventually try to break your frame and mold you into a new -
perfect (as per her rules), predictable man even though neither
of you benefit from it. Don’t let her. Stay the same guy she got
along with when you were single, maintain the same frame that
made her fall for you. Don’t let the certainty of an LTR make
you comfortable and drop your ever-important frame.

Perfect is boring

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 Women naturally enjoy the biochemical rush they
experience through their lenses of imagination. Nothing kills
her sexually more than being fully aware of you. It is important
to not let yourself be definitively perfect. “She wanted me to
do the dishes today. And I did too. She ought to appreciate
me”. No. She doesn’t. Being perfect doesn’t guarantee you
getting laid. As counterintuitive as it sounds, it is true
regardless. Instead of trying to be a perfect husband,
boyfriend for your wife or girlfriend, maintain your frame
of unpredictability and humanness. Never let her be in full
control and sit in the driver’s seat of the relationship. Rock the
boat of excitement. A mistake most men make is that they get
too complacent with their approach to the relationship. They
drop their frame of cockiness, playful aggression, and
everything they used to do before engaging in the LTR. Be
that same old guy. Men find solace in a predictable, routine
environment where they know all about the ‘when, where and
what’ owing to their peculiarity of being logical. But not
women. They need to and want to feel their emotional side
being exploited. They hate their emotional side lying dormant.
It is important for you to make her feel that emotional rush or
she will try to find it elsewhere. Work on being the
unpredictable, neg-hitting, desired-by-other-women guy
she fell for in the first place instead of trying to earn her
sexuality in return for the perfect guy she tells you to be
consciously but despises subconsciously.

A Cry Bitch

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 New Social Order’s push to ‘connect’ men with their
vulnerable side has now gone mainstream. They have made
men believe in the fiction of ‘women find vulnerability
attractive and captivating’. And falsely, many men have
accepted this imperative too (facepalm)! True vulnerability in
men is related to acceptance of their past, the management of
their emotions of innate masculine nature (aggression,
stoicism, etc.), and such. But it has nothing to do with the overt
display of their feminine emotions through crying, whining,
and excessive complaining. It is women who are predisposed
to this unconcealed show of emotions and vulnerability. It is
important in an LTR to identify this lie of being excessively
vulnerable that The New Social Order has spread through the
years. Women, as their biological nature will have it, want
a defense wall that will stand unmoved when her
emotions are going brisk, not a vulnerable kid who
always has his own emotions on the peak. Rollo Tomassi
in one of his blog posts said – “Women want a bulwark against
their own emotionalism, not a co-equal male emoter whose emotionalism
would compete with her own.” There is nothing wrong with
showing your vulnerable chunk of self to a partner you are
long-term committed to but don’t expect to be appreciated by
her for this. In fact, it may have an inverse effect.

Start from Zero

A women’s desirability is non-negotiable. If from the

beginning of your relationship, she has envisioned you as a
beta she had to ‘settle’ for rather than a man of value her

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feminine nature naturally deferred towards, it will be a hard
road ahead of you. It is better to be with a 7/10 woman who
has that burning desire for you instead of a 9/10 who just
sees you as ‘meh’. Unless there is a complete 180 turn from
your side that wholly changes her outlook towards you, long-
term desirability will be as close as a lost cause. More about
this later.

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 One crazy woman

Don’t underestimate a crazy woman’s ability to fuck up

your entire life. Especially during turbulent times like today,
where even the government doesn’t care about your well-being
above hers.

I had been following a local TV series for the past week

because my girlfriend had been watching it and I couldn’t stop
but notice the irregularities and the hypergamous
maximization of the women presented in it. Basically, a multi-
billionaire marries down an elementary school teacher who
becomes the “beauty to his beast”, tames down his alphaness,
becomes his “savior” by eventually making him sell all his
company’s stakes to another crazy woman just so she divorces
him so that he can go marry the school teacher Just because of
his “love” for her. This is the main crux of the story, but in all
its generality, the truth. What about all the times when this
happens in the factual world we live in and not the virtual
world of a TV show? The answer is – regret, suicides,
existential crisis, and insanity years later. What the blue-pilled
man and the brainwashed society sees as a virtuously
competent woman who saved a man from his beastly
tendencies is in fact just a crazy woman who manipulated a
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feminized, doing-good men realize that what they sacrificed in
the name of a higher purpose of ‘love’ was just them writing
stories of their own annihilation. Even worse, some just stay
confused for the rest of their lives about what ‘went wrong’
because the feminine-primary social order told them this was
ought to make them feel good and on top of the world. It must
have something to do with himself, right? And then goes again
the train of “I need to change myself” and the negative
loophole he has cemented himself in continues. Years after
going through the turmoil, sacrificing his ambitions for his
pretty lady who ‘saved’ him and he didn’t even ‘deserve’, laid
down everything on the line just so he can serve her, he realizes
life hasn’t given him what it promised it would, and eventually
hangs himself. This might look like an exaggeration to some,
but this is the reality of what has been happening all around
the globe. I know suicidal tendencies aren’t one-off or
dependent on a single reason, but I also know the trajectory
from its inception to the execution.

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Earlier in 2019, a man turned to Reddit for advice after

returning from the bathroom to find his girlfriend trying to
impregnate herself with the contents of their recently-used
condom (AKA sperm-jacking). And parenting sites are rife
with secret confessions from women who became mothers via
the various methods of stealing sperm. Journalist Liz Jones
confessed in the Daily Mail3 to stealing her ex-partners’ sperm

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in an attempt to get pregnant. This is what the crazy woman
wrote:

“Because he wouldn’t give me what I wanted, I decided to steal it

from him. I resolved to steal his sperm from him in the middle of the night.
I thought it was my right, given that he was living with me and I had
bought him many, many M&S ready meals.”

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From pretending to be on the pill to purchasing ‘sperm

injecting’ kits online, it is not uncommon to come across
women who have engaged in such practices. 19 out of 20
women admit lying to their partners or husbands, a survey on
attitudes to truth and relationships has found. Half said that if
they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with
their partner, they would lie about the baby’s real father.
Remember these stats don’t generalize the entire existing
population but only a ‘part’ of it. False rape cases, dowry
accusations, men being forced to raise another man’s
children, women blatantly exploiting the feminine-
prioritized social system all combine to make up a hostile
environment men have to be a part of. Every man needs to
understand the state of affairs related to where we stand in
terms of these power imbalances.

It is important, vital to be in control of the birth. Don’t

believe when a woman tells you she is on The Pill, will take it
after you leave, or took it when you went to the bathroom. Not
even when she tells you to throw away the condom in the

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dustbin instead of flushing it down the toilet. I have heard and
even witnessed anecdotes of women extracting sperm from a
used condom, lie about being on The Pill, using another
woman’s pregnancy test kits to blackmail men. Even a woman
you have been with - for years and have vetted suitably can
turn hostile when it comes to issues related to this. Don’t let
your dick take over your sense of rationality. It does feel good
when she tells you, “Leave it inside me. I am on The Pill,
nothing will happen.” Some minutes of ‘goodness’ can make
you her personal ATM, provider, legally-bound provisioner
for the next 21 years at a minimum. It is a well-known,
controversial chronicle about how the NBA teaches its players
in their Rookie Transition Program to always dispose of their
used condoms by either “flushing it down the toilet” or taking
it away with them.4 It is not uncommon for personalities such
as these NBA superstars to have to pay and provide for
children born off of women not married to them. But the real
question arises – how many of these were intentional and
how many were through illegitimate means by women to
lock down these men’s resources for the rest of their lives?

A woman’s primary accusation, without any proof, is

considered righteous without even taking into account the
man’s point of view. In 2017, I personally came to know a
man, from a local neighborhood who got stripped of his job,
went to a legal and financially troubled 2 paramount years of
his young adulthood when he was showed off on social media
as a savage openly ‘disrespecting’ a woman (according to the
woman’s accounts). Remember, he got stripped of his job, his

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own family turned against him, and a whole country started
mocking him just because of a woman’s accusations.
Remember, accusation, not a charge. She had no video of
him, neither any witness – just a made-up story of hers.
Women now openly threaten men of using this power of theirs
and accusing men of crime just because they themselves are
aware of the consequences even their false claims can bring
upon men and that too without any remorse on their faces.
This serves as a prime example of the feminine-primary social
order we live in.

Don’t even try your hand at standing up against women

like these because the juice is just not worth the squeeze. It is
important to be protective of your dignity at all times.

Men have been drilled into a domain of disorderly and

wild sexuality with the normalization of porn and easily
accessible women ready to show their bodies off for
$10/month or garner valueless followers on Instagram. Hence
it is important for men to be in control of their dicks.
Unprotected sex, getting sexually involved with a woman with
a parade of red flags just because she is hot will do more harm
than good. “The sex is great but... everything else is just below
the acceptable line” is something I have heard countless men
say. Good sex and good looks are not worth everything wrong
that comes with them. Is it worth getting her pregnant at 18
and having to provide for that kid for the next 20 years of your
life? Is good sex worth all the drama you’ve to tend to for the
rest 14 hours of the day? Would you say it was worth it for the

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20-year-old who was threatened that his leaving her would lead
to her killing herself and all the drama that ensued? These
mentally ill women do a very good job at leveraging their
sexuality to slurp all the resources out of ignorant and
sexually disturbed men (who think she is way out of his
league, is the hottest chick he could’ve ever imagined).

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 Fatalities

A man shooting himself, another man killing the

parents of a woman who won’t let her marry him, killing off
new lovers because a 17-year-old would rather have his ex-
lover dead than see her with someone else is what happens
when a little psychosis combines with a lifetime of being
plugged-in to the matrix.

Making a killer, self-killer, shooter out of a man is not a

one-off process, but is the result of years of believing in the
myths of ‘the one’, soulmates, extreme possessiveness, and
obsessive disorders to name a few. When men are not taught
early on about the invalidity and damaging tendencies of these
myths, the internalization gets so strong that it leads to harm –
either of themselves or others. It is important to terminate
these harmful ideologies from every man’s brain. One thing
that stands out in these men’s ideas about women, dating in
general is their predisposition to the fallacy of ‘the one’.
Constructive, early childhood and early teen years of modern
media’s message of “there exists a ONE, a soulmate for
everyone” is what is responsible for this. Combine that with a
fatherless home, zero parental guidance, a scarcity mindset,
self-esteem issues, and personality disorders, it becomes a
deadly propensity.

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 Another idea that predisposes these men to such
actions is their self-belief of already having scored big. When
they believe they have gotten together with a woman who is
far above their own SMV (sexual market value), someone they
didn’t deserve, is smoking hot, and a one they never thought
would even be by their side, they fall hard when things go
south. Obsessive behavior, insecure possessiveness are the
symptoms of a man who believes in this. His locking down
a woman whom he didn’t deserve and a woman who can
always find a far better man than him makes him go
insane. Even if he doesn’t go to such extreme levels of harm,
he will always have an insecure frame of control and
possessiveness. And when she maximizes on her hypergamy
(finds the best bang for her SMV buck), the possessive man’s
worst fears come true. Again, combine this with other
disordered propensities, and his responsive behavior may even
become fatal.

While we have talked about the most fatal and

dangerous sides of falling for these myths, there is also a side
that is less destructive but nonetheless, personally damaging.
Crying day and night over a breakup, not being able to
move on from a past relationship, having trouble letting
go of a woman who broke up with you are all examples
and results of men being prey to these ideologies. That is
why it is important for men to unplug from this matrix and
learn about hypergamy, the new social order, and how to
maximize their potential in life – things we talk about in other
sections of the book.

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 It seems and feels obvious, but try to change your
perspective for a bit. A man deep-rooted in the blue-pilled
ideas of the soulmate, the one, “give her your all and she’ll give
you everything in return” is bound to feel helpless, used,
worthless when that woman leaves him behind. “What if I am
not good enough?” – These self-deductive ideas are the closure
that makes the most sense to him. When you have been
indoctrinated with the reasoning of men being respected only
when they are useful to his wife and children, will be respected
when he gives his everything to the woman he loves, he
makes his worth get attached to whether he can be the
‘right’ lover, provider and provisioner. The reality, though,
is very different as we’ve talked about before. When his years
of painstaking and diligent work are erased in a span of one
‘girls night out’, he starts to question his entire existence. Some
realize the blatant hypocrisy of the New Social Order and turn
to the Red Pill, others still move on with the same ideas, and
unfortunately, the rest give up. The process of getting up
again from ground zero is not easy by any means, but a
necessity nonetheless. Even though the intention and focus
of this book are inter-gender dynamics, these fatalities are not
the sole result of only that. Being rejected, left heartbroken,
disappointed, coming to terms with a loss, failure is all part of
man’s journey towards self-improvement. That is why the Red
Pill is life-savior. Because the dejection you feel doubles down
when the helplessness kicks in when you realize you have been
lied to your entire life. The Red Pill helps that dejected man
make sense of all the lessons he had to learn the hard way,

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but a bleak hope shines out of that blackness of
powerlessness.

Don’t lose hope brothers. A million women, a million

things to do – you will eventually work everything out. I know,
it is easier said than done, but remember, when your back is
against the wall, that is when you go all in. Every man rises
from ground zero, not once – but many times throughout
his life. I did, I still do and you need to too. Masculinity’s
primitive principle has always been to accept and eventually,
rise from adversity. Wounds heal, but fatalities kill. Don’t turn
a wound into a causality.

Young men

When those early years of puberty knock off hormonal

changes in boys, and life seems to be a never-ending cycle of
experiences, it becomes harder and harder for these young
transitioning boys to rationalize their decisions in terms of
their long-term consequences. Rash decisions taken at such an
early point in life, unfortunately, may or fortunately may not,
lead to years of struggle. Investing their sexuality in bipolar,
psychotic women that may lead to STDs, early pregnancies,
getting along with peers that may be the worst people to be
influenced by, abusive relationships with drugs, alcohol which
further lead to even more regrettable decisions can all too soon
turn that late teenage, seemingly, ever-lasting years into
greatest regrets for a man’s life. A father’s involvement in this
regard is indispensable. However, with trends related to single-

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mom, fatherless homes, the number of kids who’ll engage in
such recklessness is only going to go up.

If you are a young man reading this and have no father

or a less-involved one – remember, the churn of time will
favor you as you grow older. The juice is never worth the
squeeze when it comes to involvement in any quest that might
make you rub off your hands from your future years. Remain
sane, remain rational at all times. Have fun responsibly and
dutifully. It is in your future self’s best interest that rather
than investing your time and soul into unrighteous,
virtue-less, valueless friends, tasks, drugs, you become a
man of vision. Become your own dad. How to? Read the chapter
‘Dad to the Rescue’.

I don’t have a lot of women readers, but it is important

for me to make fathers or men who will be fathering children
at some point in their lives, aware –although women’s issues
are no longer a backend fight, we need to let our daughters
know how they are susceptible to these fatalities too.
Every human is, in fact. It is vital for all of us to be conscious
of our surroundings, what goes on around us, learn self-
defense and stop letting our sexual energy come in way of a
bright, self-righteous future of possibilities.

Turbulent Times

We live in turbulent, uneasy times. Political

dramatization, excessive activism, unchecked victimization,
power abusers, a female-primary social order – this isn’t a joke.

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And so isn’t you and your family’s safety. Dangerous times call
for stronger measures. It makes sense to keep your guard
on at all times, learn a martial art, be armed and intuitive
when it comes to safety. This is no era to seek fame,
unwanted public attention, and clout. Especially for people like
us, who will be termed as ‘politically and socially incorrect’. I
am not recommending anyone to live like a petrified turkey,
but be self-reliant, strengthful, and appropriately stocked to
fight off turbulence. This stands even more important for men.
The responsibility to train your kids, manage and look out for
your household’s welfare is yours. Have your skin in the game,
but at the same time, be willing and ready to defend it as well.

Modern-day delusions

The modern-day myths of “soulmates”, “there is a one

for everyone’, etc. propagandized by multi-billion-dollar media
industries, fictional bestsellers have raised an entire generation
that harms themselves, their mentalities, the people around
them because their ‘perceived’ soulmate broke up with them,
or someone whom they thought was ‘the one’, isn’t anymore.
When reality shatters a belief, that you hold in such high
regard, everything you believed to be the universal gospel
turns out to be nothing but delusions. One day or another,
these ideas prove themselves to be false, but many people still
refuse to change their minds.

There are people you meet, you romantically involve

yourself with, you make good friends only to be cheated upon,

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lied to, and hurt by. Eventually, you grow, realize what you did
wrong – in terms of understanding their intentions, ignoring
their red flags, and now knowing better. Most people,
however, have themselves so disintegrated after their
‘soulmate’ leaves them, that they are unable to process
anything logically. Soulmates don’t exist. People do. Good
people do, bad people do. People you get along with do,
people you don’t get along with do as well. What you see on
TV and in theatres should be naturally perceived as ‘not
reality’. Many people start idolizing ideas of media because that
innate need to have someone who understands them better
than they themselves do, someone who will put their neck on
the sword instead of theirs, someone who will always make
their happiness a priority above theirs – are all ideas each one
of us somewhere innately desires. However, desires do not
always come true and they are not supposed to either. We only
believe in their validity because we have not yet seen the
consequences those desires would present if they were to turn
to reality. Acceptance of reality is vital. This doesn’t mean
you stop loving, engaging with other human beings, or trying
to have meaningful relationships, or turn hostile towards
relationships. It only means that you learn to be in tune
with reality and refuse to give heed to idealistic and
unrealistic expectations.

Protect your neck at all costs

If you are young, or even older, remember that it takes

a lifetime to build a reputation, a name for yourself, and a

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minute to destroy it. Keep this at the back of your mind at all
times. It is never worth it to engage in fraudulent, deceitful
activities. Even if you believe ‘just one time’, ‘nobody will
ever know’, ‘there is no way I’ll get caught’, it is still not worth
it. I have seen countless examples of people whose crooked
past came to bite their ass 20 years down the line. Especially,
in this age of social-media exposures, one night gone
wrong can have you rub off your hands from your job,
career, goodwill everywhere. Stay upright, uphold your
values and integrity as a man. Nothing breeds confidence
more than knowing that you have built yourself up from
zero, with utmost integrity, honesty, and honor. Let
yourself live that life of nobility.

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 Denial of modern-day feminism

The primary, first-wave feminist movement of

providing a basic level of security, dignity, responsibly-led
freedom to women did real good for humanity. Fighting for
legitimate issues that helpless women and young girls
had to face were the primary motives of the early women’s
movements. And its contributions are cherished by women
all around the globe to this day and will continue to do so for
the rest of their lives. Integration of the female workforce into
industries and areas that function well with feminine energy –
such as nursing, therapy, consultation, etc. has helped entire
economies operate more efficiently.

But did we even realize how this movement of

empowering women turned into a movement of taking away
power from men? Not really. Made-up issues of “men earn
more, women are primary victims of violence and crimes,
women work two jobs; men work one, etc” started surfacing
and it started teaching young women to view men as
competitors at best and as sworn enemies at worst. Quoting from
Mr. Warren Ferrell’s bestselling book “The Myth of Male Power”:

“By the 1980s and '90s, feminism's ability to articulate women's

light side and men's shadow side led to women's magazines, talk shows,

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‘self-improvement’ books, and TV specials all equating ‘progressive’ with
women as victims and men as victimizers but rarely with men as victims
(of false accusations, emotional abuse, visitation deprivation . . .) and
women as victimizers.

We saw TV specials titled Does the Man Next Door Molest

Girls? But not Does the Man Next Door Save Girls? In our everyday
lives, we might see six firefighters saving women, but no TV special titled
Men as Saviours points out that all six were men—or that firemen who
save women's lives are far more ubiquitous than men who jeopardize
women's lives.”

If there is one man who recognizes feminism’s real

contributions more than anyone else, then it is Mr. Warren
Farrell. Farrell served on the New York City Board of the
National Organization for Women (NOW); was a prominent
supporter of the second-wave feminism that followed the first
one. But it was only a few years later, that a peculiar realization
hit him – “I wondered if the reason so many more women than
men listened to me was because I had been listening to women
but not listening to men… When women criticized men, I
called it ‘insight, assertiveness, women's liberation,
independence,’ or ‘high self-esteem.’ When men criticized
women, I called it ‘sexism, male chauvinism, defensiveness,
rationalizing,’ and ‘backlash.’”

When Warren integrated both sexes’ perspectives in his

talks and speaking engagements instead of just being women’s
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public events started to dry up. That was the reality. That is
what the women’s movement had turned into through years
after its much-needed contribution to society in its early years.
It had become an open demonization of masculinity’s
dark side and blatant ignorance of its goodness. And
unfortunately, even though Farrell published this book in
1993, things haven’t changed much still. However, we as a
community of men, have begun to recognize modern-day
feminism’s misconducts and started to speak against it.
Gender feminists’ sole motive is to ‘make men pay’ and
female supremacy. Gender studies’ undergrad and postgrad
programs have entire textbooks that teach young men and
women this extreme propaganda of gender feminism and how
masculinity’s core is based on violence and oppression and
men ought to pay for all the ‘sins’ they’ve committed over the
centuries. Mind you, there is no section on how to reward
men who built everything in sight we have today – the
buildings, the planes, the cars, basically, everything that
our hands can touch and our vision can see. But as Dr.
Shawn T Smith said, “The facts don’t matter when you are on
a mission to be oppressed. Victimhood is modern-day
feminism’s currency.”

The Rise of Masculinized Females

Let this be clear, you are either biologically born male

or female, there is no other gender in between (the woke
sentiments that gave rise to 100 other genders is nothing more
than socially constructed propaganda).

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 What modern-day feminism induced as equality
has now led to an age of hyper-feminine men and
masculinized women. More than equality, its agenda has
shifted towards gender-role reversal – Everything men can be,
women can be too and everything women ought to be, men
should do too. This mentally sick connotation has caused an
entire generation to think they should excel at and then
subsequently, immensely fail at tasks they were never meant to
be good at biologically. I came across a video, some time ago,
named “The Reality of Biology”, wherein, a mixed relay race
was presented where each team had to choose two female and
two male participants to compete. Logically enough, 4 out of
the 5 teams decided to line their players in accordance of –
Male | Female | Female | Male. This was primarily done to
provide a head start to the team owing to the men’s natural
ability to be physically more efficient than women. But Poland
had other plans. They chose Male | Male | Female | Female.
Even though having the largest lead in the last leg, Poland still
lost and came 5th. Although their plan was not based on the
woke squad’s ‘gender equality’ myth or so, they still realized
one thing – you cannot bargain with biology and nature.

Even though we all would love to throw this movement

out of the window, the reality is this– it has taken over more
than half of the world and continues to do so, even more
extensively. The rise of masculinized females has now become
a norm and you’ll hardly come across a woman that will
happily be ready to devour her life as a stay-at-home mom and
love to complement a man’s role inside the house. The best

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you can do is stay away from hyper-masculinized women. If
she actively works in a masculine environment
surrounded by other men or in jobs that require
masculine traits such as physically enduring sports,
managerial, high-stress posts in offices, it is better you
don’t vet her for a long-term relationship. Exceptions
always exist, but 99% of you won’t stumble across those
exceptions. If you are a woman reading this, maintain distance
from hyper-feminized men who seek pleasure in being stay-at-
home dads or exhibit feminine traits such as excessive
emotional dependence, physical weakness, or feminine
dressing sense.

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 Is she really into you?

Every blue-pilled man’s focus is on a woman’s overt

words rather than reading and focusing on her behavior and
between the lines. This is what Rollo Tomassi says about the
same in his book ‘The Rational Male’ – “When a woman goes from
hot to cold and back again, this IS the message — she’s got buyer’s
remorse, you’re not her first priority, she’s deliberating between you and
what she perceives is a better Hypergamous prospect, you were better
looking when she was drunk, etc. — the message isn’t the ‘what ifs’, the
message IS her own hesitation and how her behavior manifests it. 10 dates
before sex? This IS the message. Canceling dates? Flaking? Strong
interest to weak interest? This IS the message.”

Women, or in fact, the majority of the human

population, don’t play around when it comes to being
with people they are genuinely into, interested in, and
would like to thicken relationships with. Not only inter-
sexual relationships, but business relationships, same-sex
friendships - all have this principle of interest indication in
common. And this principle holds even more true with
women because of the competition anxiety that starts to breed
in when they come across a man they deem as high-value.
There is no reason for her to engage in ‘mind games’,
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options open and would not waste his time playing her
stupid games. Men that fall back to the interpretation of,
“Man, I don’t know… She says something and behaves the
polar opposite way” do so because they focus on what is not
her natural biological response to things – her words, instead
of her covert behavior and behavioral response towards you.
A rookie fallacy of not being able to assess a woman’s interest
levels towards you, being able to recognize if she has ‘just
settled’ for your beta ass after years of exploitation of her Party
Years is rather an important skill men need to grasp. Indicators
of authentic interest are what a woman may overtly or covertly
display for a man she finds desirable. The objective of this
section is to give guys a basic understanding of how
women turn their behavior, body language, their entire
beings 180° for such men, and to stop getting caught up
in her words.

A woman will rarely play games with you, flunk upon

you, cancel dates with a man she sees as the best bang for her
SMV buck (meaning she knows he is a high-value man). A
woman’s sense of feminity rises when she is around a
masculine man of high standards. She will want to tame you
down to disable you from being able to get along with a
woman better than her (thanks to her hypergamous nature and
competition anxiety). Wanting to tie knots with you after only
a month of dating as a boyfriend or, hell, even a husband is a
sure-fire indicator of her seeing you as a man of worth and
immense value.

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 A girlfriend or a wife putting her best foot forward in
terms of looking good when she is to hit the road for a ‘girls
night out’ and not, most of the time, for you – is the strongest
indication she can give you about her disinterest in you.

Don’t work for it

Women use sex as a currency. And it is men's fault to

accept it. Negotiation in terms of desirability might seem to
work from an extrinsic perspective or when looked at logically.
But a woman’s course of action doesn’t depend on sensibility.
It favors emotions. And you trying to rationally negotiate her
desire might make her do the ‘right thing’, it will never be as
good as when it comes naturally. Washing the dishes tonight,
cook and clean for her, bring her a gift just so she rewards you
with that genuine sex and desirability are all facades men
believe are supposed to work. They don’t. You doing things
for her is never going to stir up that emotional storm inside
her. On the contrary, though, you look like a sweet 10-year-old
kid that does tasks for his mommy so she might reward him
with something.

She loves it when she earns it

On the other side of the coin, women love when they

have to work, labor, toil for your attention and love. In this age
of mindless sexual abundance, a guy they have to work for,
they have to please comes as a soul-struck thunderbolt to
them. They are used to be surrounded by a million other simps
willing to sacrifice their houses, sanity, and soul for them. A

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guy whom they have to compete for, work for is what stirs
her emotional juices. Be it an LTR, marriage, or casual fling,
nothing screeches, “I am genuinely, 100% into you” than a
woman who wants to please you.

She’ll even love a jerk

Over the course of my adult years, especially during my

early 20s, I came across a few women, around my college or
workplace, who seemed to be so in ‘love’ with their jerk
boyfriends that their eyes were basically immune from their
‘jerk-ness’. Their willingness to go to great heights to not
let their boyfriends slip from their hands was so serious,
that everyone would term them stupid. You could hand
them videos of their boyfriends kissing other women and they
still would want a ‘stronger’ reason to let him go. What we then
termed as stupid and brainless was basically these women’s
genuine desire. I can even go as far as telling you that these
women will even cover tracks for their criminal boyfriends and
husbands if they were to do such things. It is not a matter of
morality or if it's right or wrong, but about the lesson it brings
along. Women are emotionally wired and dependent upon
their emotions heavily. This isn’t a flaw, but their innate
nature. Women are logically impractical when they are with a
man they deem as someone they are genuinely, sexually
inclined towards. They would go through darkness, break all
hell loose for an asshole they are genuinely attracted towards,
even he goes broke, bankrupt. While they’ll start rationally
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$100,000,000/year to $70,000/year because they had no real
desire for him. After reading this, it should be crystal clear to
men what they are dealing with. How long has it been since
your girlfriend cooked something delicious for you,
dressed sexy for you, go to great heights to make your life
easier, make you feel important? Would she still stick by
you if you went broke, bankrupt?

These are uneasy, hard questions but important to

assess nonetheless. Women have a natural inclination towards
a man they perceive as an alpha, high-value. And her wanting
to please him, do things for him is the best indicator of this
reality. You don’t need to exploit her desire, but her
willingness to do things for you is the strongest indicator of
her longingness for you.

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Disclaimer: One mistake, though that unaware men, who

still haven’t grasped the idea of frame control and mindset of
abundance, will surely make is that they will notice these
peculiarities of negotiated, disinteresting desire with their
current girlfriends and instead of being calm and going about
this issue sensibly, they will start being a sissy. Jealousy,
shouting, being a tyrant are their go-to tools to make sure their
women abstain from acts of not cheating on them, going out
with their girls, forcing them to do things for him, etc. In
short, they will forcefully try to negotiate her desire for
them. If you are a guy like this, it is going to be a tough road

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ahead for you. No matter your love for her or your issues of
child-like attachment with her, you need to accept that the boat
is already off the shore. Unless things change drastically for
whatever reason (which rarely do), it is better to let her be and
start working on yourself, putting your best foot forward in
front of a new woman who is genuinely interested in you rather
than trying to rekindle a lost fire.

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 Dad to the Rescue

The New Social Order takes pride in undermining every

dad’s importance in a household setting and the families
involved. All those who have come across arguments denying
a father’s importance know how misinformed this society is
currently related to dads and their importance in a social
hierarchy. Be it for whole communities, a particular family, the
wife, or most importantly – the kids involved, especially boys.
The ever-increasing number of single-mom households,
societies where dads are devalued, demonized in the eyes of
their kids is what the real pandemic is. The feminine-primary
legislation system’s and state laws’ undisguised
favoritism towards mothers is what has been pushing
more men away from taking up fatherhood. But I will put
statistics on the table for people who still live in under a rock.
To again honorably quote Dr. Warren Farrell from his
international bestseller ‘The Boy Crisis’:

• A study of ISIS fighters concluded that almost all

had in common “some type of ‘absent father’ syndrome.”
• Boys vulnerable to gangs and furthermore targeted
by sexual predators all have an issue related to dad deprivation.
• Dad deprivation is the single most responsible factor
for suicide among teens than any other factor.

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 • Many of the children recruited by Hitler Youth were
fatherless boys.
• Children living without fathers in single-mom
households are more likely to struggle with delinquency,
substance abuse, and depression.
• The American Psychological Association found in
its review of 153 studies that father absence predicts the profile
of both the bully and the bullied: poor self-esteem, poor
grades, and poor social skills.
• Among rapists who were specifically assessed as
raping out of anger and rage, 80 percent came from father-
absent homes.
• A staggering 85 percent of youths in prison grew up
in a fatherless home.

Need any more statistically proved ‘data’ to highlight

what I have been trying to, here? If yes, head over to these
websites5 and see for yourself.

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The point though is not to imply that a dad’s presence

and involvement are more important than a mother’s. In fact,
the opposite is what is true. Houses with the involvement of
both the parents outperform both single-mom and single-dad
households and are the best living conditions a child can be
blessed with. What motivates me to write this section,
however, was the fact that dads struggle to have a sound and

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qualitative involvement in their children’s lives as compared to
mothers.

What can be done?

What a father ought to be for a child is a topic I am not

personally familiar with as I am no dad. But undermining a
dad’s importance in his kid’s life is what needs to be
demolished. The bigger problem, however, is not the absence
of a divorced dad but the non-engagement of a dad in an
already existing marriage or LTR. Now, this may occur for a
myriad of reasons - not establishing a frame of that of an
authoritative, leading dad that puts the mother in his place,
staying away from activities, tasks, duties, responsibilities that
fall into a father’s corner of parenting, or simply just not being
interested.

From times in the past, a dad’s conventional role of

being the sole breadwinner of the house provided him
with a sense of purposefulness. The mother, on the other
hand, complemented his role by being the homemaker. But as
more and more countries adopted the ideas of post-modernist
liberalization and the options for women increased (marry or
not marry, earn for yourself, easy divorces, etc.), the distinction
between a father and mother decreased. Fathers began to
experience a void of purpose, and rightly so because their
efforts were no longer appreciated and valuable. And as
another implication of dads being unable to feel a sense of
purposefulness, their boys were hit the second hardest. As Dr.

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Warren Farrell puts it: “However, with women often sharing the
breadwinner role, a young man could no longer find his purpose as a man
by being a “sole breadwinner.” And, as fewer warriors were needed, boys
began experiencing a “purpose void. Dad-deprived boys, without the
guidance of dads in finding alternative senses of purpose, were hit the
hardest.” As the distinctive line between the natural
complementary contributions of both dads and moms got
thinner, it was the children who suffered.

A dad’s way of nurturing, getting involved with his

children is far different than their mother's. Nonetheless, it is
vital for a healthy father-children dynamic to function well. If
you are a father or going to be one, reading this, it is essential
that you don’t put away with your way of parenting to
accommodate a mother’s. And if you are going to be a
mother after reading this, make sure you appreciate your kids’
dad’s way of engaging with them rather than shunning him off.

A reason we are currently amongst a pandemic of low

father-involvement in kids’ lives is that the feminine-centric
society has taught young women that their husband’s or ex-
husband’s involvement is not necessary in the child’s life in the
first place. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. The way a
dad enforces healthy boundaries, roughhouses with
them, helps them explore, teaches the values of
discipline, respect for boundaries, self-control, controlled
aggression, is there for them as a safety-net they know
they can fall back on, teaches painful – but rather
important lessons, encourages to do more and be more,

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teaches them emotional intelligence, teaches their boys
how wit-covered put-downs are essential to a man’s
friend circle are all part of an all-exclusive dad’s style of
parenting. No matter how often or how manipulatively the
New Social Order teaches the society its opposite, this truth
doesn’t change to suit their false convictions.

A dad’s way of being involved in his kids’ lives is crucial

to their well-being. It is not passive-aggressive or harmfully
patriarchal.

A dad’s engagement in his work is a kid’s first and

foremost encounter with what a purpose looks like.
Watching him, be it openly or secretively, is what image they
form of what a grown-up man ought to be like (especially
boys). A dad’s natural frame in front of their mother is what
they perceive naturally relationships should look like. It is
important to realize a kid’s brain soaks up stuff in his/her early
years. What they see, they learn. It is vital for them to be
around a positive male role model. As they grow up, talking
about ‘things’ with their dads is how they find answers to
their most intriguing questions. A daughter identifies with
her mother, while a son with his dad. A dad helps his son find
a sense of ever-changing, but always fulfilling purpose.
Initially, a dad needs to get his son to ‘do’ stuff because
naturally, 9 times out of 10, he doesn’t know what might pique
his curiosity. Engaging in activities with dad is how he learns
what his natural inclinations might be. Thereafter, inspiring
and making him do stuff with other kids, enrolling him in a

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sports club, going on ‘men-only’ trips with him is how you
‘program’ him into his masculine side before The New Social
Order teaches him otherwise. When there is no fatherly
association in a son’s life, they are more likely to fill that void
created by purposelessness through destructive resolutions
such as gangs, ISIS, criminal tendencies as discussed above.

What a dad can teach his children about life, no one else
can. His means to teach are far beyond anybody’s capability to
comprehend unless and until they are a dad themselves.

I am no dad, but I attest to this and others who term

positive involvement of their dads responsible for them being
wealthy in terms of health, mental conditioning, and
framework. Not only for the kids, but a dad separated from
them does no good too. Most men would rather spend more
time with their kids than at their careers. It is of relevance that
dads are meant to go through this struggle but divorce
separations only add to that agony.

The Narrative Matters

As much as the relationship between dads and kids

matters, so does the mother’s involvement and what narrative
she serves her kids in terms of their dad matters a lot too.
When the father isn’t around, be it after a divorce, unfortunate
death, or even when he has gone off to work, what light the
mother projects him in is what image the children feed upon.
Not only the mother’s sketch but what other friends, close
family members present matters to an extent too. For an

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illustration, dads killed in war are presented as war heroes and
their kids benefit from it too. As Dr. Warren Farrell in his book
‘The Book Crisis’ says:

“Dads killed in war are portrayed as heroes. And in his father’s

absence, the oldest boy is sometimes told he is the new “man of the family,”
with special responsibilities. He often steps up to that new sense of purpose.
In each case, the children retain a positive, even larger-than-life image of
their dad, and the son feels a special responsibility to live up to his dad’s
memory.” ··· “In contrast, children of divorce report that they rarely hear
their dad honored, and instead often hear their dad bad-mouthed. They
“inherit” more negative feelings about that half of themselves, and often
for men as a gender.”

The modern kids from single households have an

‘inherent’ hatred and contempt for their dads because of the
narratives they have had to follow. As a dire consequence,
fewer and fewer boys want to be dads when grown up because
they have no net positive to look up to.

No decision matters as much as deciding who the

future mother of your children will be.

The Absent Father

The absence of a father hurts young kids more than

anything else, especially boys. Boys who grow up to be men
from these households are either too weak to carry the
responsibility of masculine burdens or too hostile for a
civilized society. Boys who grow in a single-mother

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household learn behavioral patterns of a woman because he is
surrounded by them. As they never have had a male leader to
learn from, they learn the patterns from their mothers, either
intentionally or unintentionally. The school teachers don’t help
either – most of them being females. And the societal
conditions definitely don’t help. As a result, we have young
boys who have learned how to behave like women and
expect the same treatment in return. The real tragedy
strikes when there is no same treatment for them. The margin
of error women have in this social order, men don’t. But
fatherless boys have no one to teach them this, unfortunately.
I respect single moms around the world raising their kids, but
realize this – they can’t become fathers. And boys need fathers.

These kids, then become visionless, hopeless adults,

unfortunately. If you had an absent father, it is in your
future’s best interest that you become your own dad. You
are not better off or worse off than kids who have their dads
by their side. Because the lessons will be learned by all of you.
You just have a less available resource to help you out with it.
Use this struggle as a springboard to walk into a lifetime
of honorable and meaningful existence. Becoming a man
doesn’t come with age. If and when you learn to responsibly
take charge of your life, learn, experience, grow, you will
eventually outwork and outsmart your peers and mature
drastically before they do. Proudly acknowledge this. No one
is stronger than a man who carves himself from an ugly
lump of marble into a beautiful, well-crafted figurine. Let
this be you. I have enlisted a few ways young boys can look

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out for themselves in this epidemic of fatherless homes. If you
are a single mother reading this, make sure your kid follows
the advice below.

Take them to places where masculine values and traits

and encouraged. Let them play. And there is no better way to
do this other than engaging in sports. As young boys, it is
vital for them to learn early on the merit of teamwork,
strength, discipline, accountability, and emotional
control. Learning the significance of strength and physical
prowess is crucial to a boy’s masculine development.

Work closely with people. As I’ve already highlighted

how young men often struggle to develop social skills and
become increasingly socially anxious as they grow up, working
closely with people will help them develop these ever-
important soft skills. Working in jobs that include engaging
with people on a regular basis, like sales, consulting, or
customer services will help them develop emotional control,
control their anger, humility, and of course people skills. Most
of these jobs often will be commissioned-based which will
further assist them in learning the importance of being
hardworking, diligent, and smart effort and improving in one’s
life. They can also be hugely rewarding if done correctly.

Don’t seek validation or attention from unwanted

sources. As someone who is without a parent, attention
becomes a currency and its cravings might make one
fruitlessly shake hands with everybody that comes

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his/her way. More often than not, these won’t be the people
you ought to befriend. Befriending someone, starting to trust
them just because you have their attention might not end well.
Make friendships based on shared goals, values,
ambition. People can sense insecurity from far away,
especially people not good for you. Don’t fall into groups or
circles that are not ambitious, are complacent, engaging in
illegal or negative activities. It is always better to hold onto a
single influential friend than ten degenerates.

Look out for positive male role models. The internet is

your best friend in this regard. Generally, it is important for
you to connect and kindle with as many men as you can. Join
clubs (again, there are numerous men’s groups available online
as well now), gyms, dojos, boy scouts, and boys’ clubs. If you
are a motivated single mother, let your boy away from your
grip for a while. Send them off for life-enhancing, mentoring,
or rites-of-passage programs conducted by men’s and boy’s
groups around the world now.6

Lastly, the work shouldn’t stop. Irrespective of your

origins, self-improvement is a lifelong sprint. It never ends,
neither does it care about where a person is coming from.
Becoming a man, out of a boy is not only a fatherless kid’s job
but rather every child’s. We all have to put in the work, get 1
percent better each day and make things happen. Seek
guidance, read, and take up all your challenges as levels to be
passed in a video game. Take responsibility. Success will never
be served on a platter, work will have to be put in.

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 We, as men of this falling society, need to lend our
hands to these boys too. An hour of gardening with a
neighbor’s boy, inviting him over to play with your kids, taking
the responsibility to lead a boys’ scout group can all make us
do our part and make a huge difference in any boy’s life.

Dads to be

More and more men keep on shunning away from

becoming future dads, owing to the New Social Order that is
so hostile towards fatherhood. The tension and issues that
breed such thinking are understandable, but becoming a father
is the greatest blessing a man can instill upon himself. A
newfound sense of purpose motivates many men to start
looking at life from an entirely different perspective. Yes, the
current society prefers the mother's perspective if things start
rumbling down between the parents, but is that reason strong
enough to let go of the blessing that being a dad is? Ending
your lineage and a legacy that outlives you is not at all crucial
to you? Decide for yourself. Again, I will abstain from
prescribing any man to be a father or not to be either. That is
for you to decide.

If you do decide to be one, though, it is essential that

you keep your head in place regarding certain things.

Who you decide the mother of your future kids will

be – is the single most important decision you will ever
make. Yours and your kids' lives depend on it, quite literally.
Unprotected sex, because you were over-stimulated, highly

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aroused, are not mistakes you can afford to make. As we’ve
talked about before, women are no longer the ones suffering
from the consequences of unwanted pregnancies. The hostility
of some ‘crazy women’ will catch you off-guard, systematically
get your sperm from you and use it as a hedge against you and
reap the benefits of all your future resources. Being careful
while being in sexual relationships is paramount.

Decisions related to child-birth, their upbringing, and

everything related to parenthood should take precedence when
deciding to engage in any long-term relationship, ideally
marriage. A woman’s motherly instinct is the best
indicator of her feminity. You could even use this as a red
flag checklist. How does she react around kids? What are her
views on having kids? Is she even passionate about being a
mother in the coming future? Or does she value her career
over a family? Answers to these questions can unlock
subsequent doors to her personality you never knew existed.

Fatherhood is not all fun and games, neither it is gloomy

and dark. It gives rise to a man’s sentimental side, a selfless
side, a side that will even be ready to kill for his kids if need be.
The influence a dad has on his kids, even though
underappreciated, is quite significant and influential as
compared to any other human being other than their mother.
What pleasure is greater than watching a young-you carry your
habits, learn from your actions and carry forward your
heritage?

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 Comradery

Friendship and association among men is a weird one.

Firstly, because there are so few plain emotions involved. Men
being men, their preferred way of socializing, getting to know
each other is through covert means of having drinks together,
engaging in physical tasks together, or going away to do things
men are better disposed to (hunting, woodcutting, fighting,
etc.). Unlike women, they never bond over talking or chit-
chatting. Dr. Geoffrey Greif, sociologist and author of “Buddy
System: Understanding Male Friendships7,” illuminates this
contrast by describing8 male friendships as “shoulder to
shoulder,” while female connections are “face to face.”
Through ages of early war days, 19th century, early
industrialization, and to this day of post-modernism, the way
males bond has evolved, but the essence and importance of a
male comradery haven’t. The way men share their emotions in
a not-such-an-emotional way is something that women
struggle to comprehend. Men who have male friends they
can confide to are generally happier and live longer than
men who don’t. Yet, between 1985 and 2004, researchers
discovered the number of people Americans called
“confidants” fell by almost one-third.9 This steady drop in
male friendships is, to say the least, detrimental to both - the
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homophobia, increased work hours, femininized social
culture, decrease in physical and outdoor campaigns are all
partially responsible for this culture. However, it has never
been more important for men to embrace their brothers they
can genuinely turn to when/if tides turn.

The modernist culture of everyone being a self-

proclaimed ‘brand’ in themselves pushes them to signal how
many ‘friends’ they have. But what these people fail to
acknowledge is that friendships, especially true, realist,
dependable ones are hard to find and even effort-
inducing to maintain. It is true that large social networks
help people, but a large social network and a good friend circle
are two different things, more often than not. Aristotle, in his
Nicomachean Ethics, wrote that friendship being such a
wonderful state of affairs, it should be held in high
esteems that one really can’t have too many friends,
because a true friendship takes so much out of one
(paraphrased).

There is no worthy replacement for a men’s only

friendship and rightfully so. Your wife or girlfriend may be a
certified Sensei, might share all your interests and pastimes, but
she is, by no means, supposed to be the placeholder of a close
comrade or group of male friends in your life. In the same way,
your family unit is not enough too. Admittedly, prioritize your
kids, your family, their needs, but it is rather important for you
to take out time for your comradery. Your internet friends,
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guys in close proximity, you need a perimeter, men you
have intentionally crossed paths with and have chosen to
involve yourself with. Think about it this way – if they can’t
be there for you (either intentionally or by the circumstance of
nature) when the familiar ‘shit hits the fan’, their friendship
cannot be termed as gang-worthy. They are good and
dependable friends, undoubtedly, and their companionship
matters to you, but you need men close to you too.

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Your Life Depends on it

Quite literally. Your honorary gang is your go-to party

for motivation, to learn truths about yourself, to understand
‘you’, working to meet their high expectations, compete
healthily, and grow and nurture an ever-important human
social circle.

A healthy comradery that is hell-bent on personal

growth will push your bounds and leaps to maximize
your potential, constantly meet their level of growth. Not
in an envious manner, but rather, in a manner that promotes
healthy competition and growth as a clan. The motivating
punch in the gut that a friend’s success provides you with is
the wake-up call a man needs to start making shit happen for
himself, the same way his close man did.

Men’s ways to use wit-covered, shrewd put-downs as

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responsible for a man’s success to some extent. As Dr. Warren
Farrell puts it, “The exchange of wit-covered put-downs is boys’ and
men’s unconscious way of training each other to handle the criticism it
takes to become successful. Try running for president if you can’t handle
put-downs.”

Around other men, a man learns to 100% rationally

debate ideas, open himself to 100 other perspectives, work and
discuss plans, which further develops his ability to learn, listen,
philosophize.

A remedy for purposelessness

A group of goal and growth-driven companions is what

will positively challenge you to push through the woods of
comfort and cushions. It is important to have friends that
focus on ignoring the bullshit of wilful comforting words to
make you feel ‘good’. There should be a group of friends that
cut through the chase and challenge a nonsensical way of going
through life. They should provide constructive criticism,
offer valuable advice, set joint goals with you and you be
the same friend for them. These friends help you find a
purpose in your gloomy days of being lost.

Your lady isn’t enough

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 As much as modern media, romcoms have tried to
popularize this idea of “your wife/girlfriend being your best
friend”, it doesn’t hold ground in reality and for masculine
nature. It, doubtlessly, helps to have a ‘good’ friend as your
romantic partner, but not your best friend. The spot for close
and best friends is kept differentiated from a romantic partner.
The more he deviates from his comrades, the more he
seeks that comradeship from his woman. Failing to do so,
he falls into her frame. Don’t do that.

Not only for you but even for her, spending too much
time together will prove to be detrimental. In due course, both
of you will start picking up traits, patterns of each other. That
is something neither of you should want. Realize the
importance of employing time with same-sex friends.

Your family makes you weak

As controversial as it sounds, it holds some extent of

truth to it. Hear me out on this.

Women and kids soften a man. From an abstract point

of view, a family’s support proves to be a strengthful system
for him. But the more time he spends with them, the more he
deviates from his masculine world of hardness, challenges that
initiate growth. Men being creatures of rationality and
pragmatism rely less on their emotional verges that are
ultimately what their family needs and benefits from. His

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home, and being in the proximity of close ones is the only
place he lets his guard of sensibility fall off, and play and jam
with his kids senselessly, jokingly, and happily. The implication
of this though is that if he lavishes more than what is required
and appropriate, he loses his sense of rationality and logical
reasoning and increasingly becomes feminized and highly
neurotic. The family eventually suffers from this weakness of
his. Men need to take out time away from their families,
engaging in manly tasks with other men so that they
don’t lose their sense of realism. Balance it out, men.

Lone wolves get hunted

As the number of men who are increasingly becoming

friend-less, have no tribe to go to, they have started to provide
themselves with rationales as to why it doesn’t matter. The
proposition of the ‘lone wolf’ is one of them. Truth be told,
lone wolves get hunted. This is not the warriors' age of
swordsmen and kings fighting. This is the post-modern era.
And being alone does more harm than good. The number of
opportunities you miss, the contacts that are never made,
the plans that are never discussed, the experiences that
are never had is never worth these foolish rationales as to
how being a ‘lone wolf’ is alpha. It’s stupid, to say the least.
Any animal, be it a lion or a bull, if separated from its pack will
be an easy target.

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 The Woke Squad

The cancel culture, woke culture, instances of false

‘me too’ accusations, the pride movement, and such are
all brainchild of the modernist ‘wokeness’. Nickelodeon
pushing out drag queens singing songs about gay pride to
small children, brainwashing young kids through public
school propagandization, socialist, useless, social studies
activism is their go-to weapons to offensively attack
century-long cultures. Who are ‘they’? They are the ones
who push both genders as neutral and equal. They want
to distill the traditional values of family, culture, and
sexual polarity. They applaud a man-turned-woman to
compete with natural and biologically-born women
because “gender is a social construct”. They applaud a 5-
year-old girl ‘twerking’ at Times Square and call it
progressive and a ‘boss move’. They term porn a human
and professional progression. The overt revealing nature
of women is empowering to them. Abortion and killing
babies in the womb are revolutionary to them. Get the
point. ‘Progress’ is their treasured choice of
expression and cultural wars, riots, inducing a
mindset of victimization and negative connotations
are their go-to ways to make people join their false
and purposeless activism.

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This woke sentiment has hurt traditions and anyone going
the cultural way around the globe. The entire basis of this
movement depends on being the victim of just about
anything that goes on in the world. They are people
fighting capitalism, free markets, freedom of speech, self-
defense for children, individual sovereignty, traditional
family culture, conventional gender roles, and
conservative values. It is a cultural fight to destroy all long-
established values and replace them with instant
gratification, uncivilized behavior, the disintegration of a
familial unit through independence.

The problem presents itself when people start

mistaking that progression as a society is only
possible through canceling out everything that has
worked in the past. Progression of a single unit, for
them, is only possible through the regression of another.
Only through the elimination of one way, we can make
way for another. This is a defective way of thinking. There
are no notable benefits this modern-day wokeness has
provided society with. Rather, there are more detriments.
Extreme individualism has led to failed institutions, a
culture of narcissism, and extreme hedonism. Future
generations are made, appreciated to follow these ideas
rather than teaching them about respect, the importance
of a community.

Sexual Liberation

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Since sex became cultural normalcy, progress has become
regressive. The True Love Waits movement10 is an
international Christian group that promotes abstinence
from sex outside of marriage for teenagers and college
movements. I came across it while trying to find things in
the past that promoted family, culture, and conservatism
rather than hedonism and sexual liberation. Their
documentary produced in 1995 shows a college couple
how they were excited to live door side with their friends,
marry and have kids, drop off them at school and basically
embrace the culture of a family – something that is
unheard of today. Today, young women being on birth
control, men and women racking up body counts and
wearing them as batches of honor is deemed
progression for the masses.

A woman’s deep connection to her reproductive

nature, which previously provided her a sense of purpose,
belongingness, is now lost. Marriage has now become a
taboo and divorce has been normalized. It is difficult than
ever to look for a decently cultured man or woman for
any long-term commitment. Even if you do find one,
his/her brain chemistry is so racked up that they have no
idea how to cruise the ship of a healthy relationship. In
the US alone, 1,200+ women, aged 15 years and younger,
aborted in 2016. That number ranks up to 18,500 for
women 19 years of age. The fertility rate has plummeted
since the 1960s. Even though we advanced economically.
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kids, in 2018, was 45-50 – ages where they are hardly 10
years away from menopause, being infertile. You can owe
it career priorities, sexual liberation, maximizing that
liberal nature as far as they can, or lack of finances. But it
still doesn’t undermine the fact that these children, born
from these women have the highest risk of suffering from
illnesses, genetic and birth abnormalities.

Why not men?

A counterargument Womens' Movement advocates put

forward is why men are not taught to remain
conservatively sexually dormant and why their ‘notch
count’ is not deemed inappropriate and a deal-breaker, the
same way a woman’s does. It is not that men should be
appreciated and seen in high regard because they have
been with more women. No. But a man having to
maximize his sexuality will have to put in years of work
into his body, into his finances, his understanding of
game, women. Most men will never be able to cash-in on
many women throughout their lives even if they wanted
to. Women, on the other hand, are born sexually high-
value. As soon as they hit 18, their SMV ascends. They
just have to look pretty. In today’s date, even that is not a
necessity to attract a mate. Just being a woman is enough
and she’ll always be having options to choose from. An
average man, on the other hand, will have to toil hard to
get laid even once. Whilst, even a below-average woman
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many women shows the work he has put in (exceptions
of purposeless clout-chasers aside), while a woman’s high
partner count indicates her inability to preserve her
sexuality.

Secondly, I neither promote nor condemn men for being

monogamous. I would promote it if we were living in
times of conservative, traditional social values which
equitably favored both genders. We don’t. I would
condemn it if there were women who were taught to
marry, have kids and live monogamously in a familial
order. They are not. However, I would still tell men to
follow what works for them. I still promote being a father,
having kids, and expanding your lineage beyond yourself.

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The sexually liberated public is taught to value

orgasms above love. The statistics presented above are
enough to exhibit the handicaps put forward by the sexual
revolution. The drawback is simple – too much freedom
without enough responsibilities for its consequences.
This liberalization normalized casual sex, notch
count, whoredom, which resulted in an ocean of
deeply unhappy people living unfulfilling lives. This
modern sexual revolution also gave birth to modern
divorce laws, which decays the traditional values which
would bind a family together. After the introduction of
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marriage without the consent of the other spouse) and no-
fault divorce (No-fault divorce is a divorce in which the
dissolution of a marriage does not require a showing of
wrongdoing by either party), divorce rates have risen
remarkably. Although these liberal laws did help both men
and women on some grounds eventually, this change in
legislation led to much exploitation too. Increasingly, as
we moved even further, these laws started weighing
progressively in a woman’s favor than men. This trend has
pushed both the genders away from each other and the
old-school familial culture has plummeted ever since. The
U.S. marriage rate reached a historic low in 2018,
according to federal data spanning more than a century.11

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Will you be comfortable if these men and women, who

are absolute disasters themselves, with loose morals, lost
dignity, excessively liberal ideas tutor or babysit your kids?
The answer to this question should open room for some
self-introspection. Finding ways to reject the woke
squad’s ideas and normalized doctrinarians is a
chore worth investing in.

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 Men are Hurt

What looks normal and standard is detrimental to

men’s health – physically, mentally, emotionally, and
spiritually. The New Social Order has done an excellent
job in normalizing this degradation. Lowest testosterone
levels ever in mankind’s recorded history, refusal to
engage in marriages and long-term relationships,
dependence on short-term dopamine hits, porn, obesity,
ever-increasing screen, and indoor time have hurt men
extensively and continues to do so. Through our collective
actions as a society, we have neutered and demasculinized
men globally.

The Endocrine System

Over the past two decades, testosterone levels in men

have been declining rapidly.12 These are attributable to health
and lifestyle changes our society and men as a whole have gone
through during this period. Pesticides, excessive sedentary
lifestyle choices, lack of sun and imbalanced nutrition,
processed junk, all collectively lead to increased obesity
and medication use. Lifestyle choices of lesser physical
activity than ever, mass emasculation and feminization of men
through modern media, plastics, blue lights, lack of purposeful
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part about this whole narration that is the most saddening is
that the New Social Order doesn’t bat an eye as long as these
choices among men and its results only affect men. They take
it up as a troublesome issue only when these men start hurting
them. There is no sympathy or pity for the individual going
through this.

As men, we have always had and always will have

a pressure to perform and more will always be expected
from us. But men who are hurt internally can never fully come
to terms with how to channelize these expectations into
meaningful, purposeful ventures. As we’ve talked about
before, they turn to gangs, crimes, lawless, illicit activities if
they lie in the absolute extremes of purposelessness and will
constantly barge themselves with cheap porn, will binge eat,
work on empty, good-for-nothing jobs, excessively game, and
take-up nightly booze. The actuality of the matter is – all these
have made men fragile, weak, simps and cucks.

Where does our endocrine system come into play here?

Actually, it is the most important strand of a man’s sexual
nature and what boosts him all around – be it mentally,
physically, or spiritually. Your body fat level decreases, lean
muscle mass increases, your heart stays healthy, you stay
sexually healthy, your energy levels remain uptight. These are
just some of the direct benefits healthy and optimal
testosterone levels in men provide them with. Because this
hormone is so vital to a man’s well-being, it is easily
understood that the fight against hurting masculinity is a direct

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war waged on every man’s testosterone. Many men don’t
realize it but their testosterone levels are far below normal, let
alone optimal. Everyone should get their testosterone levels
checked as soon as convenient and start doing whatever is in
their reach to optimize and increase it. I recommend this article
by The Art of Manliness to check what levels are optimal, how
you can get your T levels tested to draw your conclusions
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/normal-
testosterone-levels/13

Optimal sleep: Most men fail to realize that before any

useless test boosting supplement they go for, they have the
power to grasp the vitality of nature’s best test boosting
supplement ‘optimal sleep’. A quality, deep, interruption-
less, 8-9 hours of sleep is required by all means for your
mind and body to function flawlessly.

Consume high-quality saturated fats through eggs,

butter, animal meats, animal fats, coconut, etc.

Lift: The body’s natural response to heavy resistance

training is the secretion of different catabolic and anabolic
hormones including your T.

Manage Stress: Our body’s natural response to stress is

to release cortisol levels in our body to manage and fight
through that situation. Elevated cortisol levels for prolonged
periods can do some serious damage to our bodies and minds.
It is important to avoid stressful situations and people and
manage it well through meditation, walks, deep-breathing

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exercises even if it does present itself.

Avoid endocrine disruptors: Many household chemicals have

endocrine disruptive properties. Industrial solvents/lubricants
and their by-products [polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs),
polybrominated biphenyls (PBBs), dioxins], plastics [bisphenol
A (BPA)], plasticizers (phthalates), etc. are all part of them.
Plastics, shampoos, gasoline, pesticides are all loathed with
them and xenoestrogen, which imitates estrogen in our body.
Choose glassware instead of plastics, wash your hands
thoroughly whenever you come in contact with gasoline and
pesticides, eat organic and supplement yourself well.

Supplement: Supplement yourself with quality zinc +

magnesium supplement, creatine, vitamin D3, omega-3 fish
oil, and Whey if necessary.

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Realizations

Realizations are of the essence. When we fail to

understand the motives behind free and cheap access to
dopamine hits, nutritional junk, we fail to break those
habits. Most men today fail to realize these truths because
they have fixed these notions in their psyches as ‘normal’ and
a ‘way to live’. Conventional ideas of pleasure (which had to
be worked for) have been erased with modernist ideas of ‘it’s
natural’. Realize that all this is done with a single motive – to

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docile men. When men reward themselves with pixels on the
screen, they are easily tamed, easily controlled. Men that allow
themselves to be controlled by this cheap array of modern
items, stop finding anything else far more purposeful and
meaningful and allow themselves to stagnate. They don’t
revolt against anything worth fighting for because they have
been weakened and domesticated. They are easily controlled
and directed towards whatever their ‘masters’ tell them
to. Men who can be easily mastered allow degradation
and corruption of the society. This is a waged war against
men of today. And its prominence is easily noted by how easily,
cheaply, freely, and shamelessly accessible these objects of
degeneracy and meekness are all around the globe.

Addictions

The most problematic component of the entire tussle

to break free from our addictions is our own underestimations
about our addictive tendencies. Many people make the novice
mistake of engaging themselves in “just one drink, there’s no
harm in trying, just one game, oh, I’ll never get addicted”.
These products, systems are so well designed, so well
built, that normal people can never realize about how
they got addicted to them. Years of psychological, marketing
research goes into studying human nature, what will get us the
most addicted, what will kick the highest levels of dopamine
inside us. You’ll only be a fool to believe that you can outwit
the devil here. Although I was always motivated as a teen to
get a PlayStation someday, I never did. Because I had studied

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psychology as a minor and had seen plenty of cases of always-
unintentional addictions among my peers and had realized that
I was no different than them, I thought it was wise enough to
not lay my hands on it rather than trying to quit. Yes, you can
have fun. But fun has a healthy limit. Don’t let your fun
become a dictator before you even know it.

Break Free

The chains of weakness hold us back in more ways than

one. And even after identifying their adverse harmfulness,
many men find it difficult to break free from these habits that
hold them back. Our mindset is of prominence when trying to
quit these habits.

Break patterns: Most of us will benefit tremendously

by trying to break patterns that have automated our addictive
tendencies. Whenever you get the urge to jerk off, stand up
straight, and perform 10 push-ups. Whenever you feel stressed
and your hand automatically moves to smoke, shout, “What
are you doing?” You need to break patterns, use them as tools
of interruptions for your mind that pushes you. Your will is
more powerful than your internal degraded monologue.

Know your triggers: You need to work around your

lifestyle so that situations that trigger you get no chance at
controlling your impulses. To avoid getting beat up by a bully,
the second-best way is to avoid visiting the street he lives on.
Know what triggers you to fall back on your old patterns of
addictions and cravings and avoid them as much as you can. If

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your trigger is the gaming console sitting on your desk or the
sweets sitting inside your refrigerator, it is always better to set
them on fire (not literally). Throw away your triggers.

Defend yourself: It is possible that you got enslaved

by a habit because you began employing it as a defense
mechanism because you were either hurt, bored, or influenced.
Instead, being enslaved life-long by that mechanism, replace it
with better defenses. Go work out, break a sweat, pick up a
long-lost hobby, make new friends, learn a new skill, and set
challenges for yourself. When you are consumed by stuff
that tinkers you intellectually, physically, or emotionally,
you’ll have no time for anything you used to previously
spend your time upon. Defend your mind with new
productive weapons. Most of you can break free from your
addictions by developing better supplementary routines and
habits.

Timid Men

The reality is, men have got weak. More than extrinsic
components that hurt them, their own timidness hurts them
more. A pitfall of the entire red-pill movement or men getting
more aware of today’s social order is it being used as a fall-
back justification to excuse their own lack of masculine
strength. Instead of taking charge of their own lives, they
use bad societal conditions for their failures. There is
always a difference between becoming increasingly aware and
working out solutions to that problem and using that problem

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is to make men increasingly mindful of how the current
social scenario functions and even more importantly
“how to navigate through that mud and make better
decisions for a better quality of life”.

Historically, men had no other option than to be strong

or they might get killed at worst or kicked out of their clan at
best. Being strengthful was not a choice, rather a
compulsion. But as the world got increasingly ‘soft’ and
comfort became a default state of being (owing to
technological, industrial, and economical revolution), strength
became a choice. It was all good as long as it led to a healthy
psychological, physical, and mental progression. Elimination
of excessive mental toll because men had to be always highly
alert due to the uncertainty and general toughness of life, was
necessary and added to their life’s overall wellness. However,
there was a limit to that. Instead of adding to the years in a
man’s life, it has led to subtraction of those years. As comfort
became a norm, weakness and complacency curbed men.
Their ‘reasons’ to live a life of discomfort, struggle and growth
dried out. This weakness has hurt men, women, children,
entire societies, and humankind globally. Weak fathers raise
weak children which further leads to a timid society.

The entire problem solves itself as more and more of us

choose to embrace discomfort and move away from a life of
excessive lavishness and comfort. Being strong is a choice

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against the agenda of today’s society.

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 Channelize

Masculine energy is extreme. What way it is

channelized – either productively or destructively, is
responsible for what consequences it brings up. If
productively projected, it can invent, create,
procreate, and pioneer revolution. If it is destructively
utilized, it will hurt, destroy, and create havoc. So, all that
matters is how well a man learns through his family,
societal surroundings, environment to channelize it
correctly. If he has no one to teach him the accurate way
of being, the responsibility to learn dawns upon his own
self as a boy. He will turn to the TV, his not-so-good
neighbors, bullying gang in the school.

Since this energy is so paramount, the New Social Order

self-pronounced that the best way out is to suppress it.
How they do that, we have already talked about before.
Most men, since they are a product of indoctrination of
these modern-day influences, have no idea how mighty
they have the potential of becoming. It is important to
note, they repress themselves, not their innate energies.
Energy by its very definition, cannot be suppressed, only
repressed. Men still have a need to channelize this vitality
of themselves into something. They might turn to criminal

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offenses, misdeeds, felonies at the worst or, at the micro
level – bullying, tormenting others, or end up hurting
themselves. Even if they choose not to be physically,
emotionally, or verbally abusive to others or themselves,
they, at the very least, are still subject to simping for
women, trying to be a beta savior to unworthy women or
susceptible to drug abuse, living a purposeless life, jerking
off to porn, living an adventurous life through video
games. Whatever road is chosen, it ends up creating a
wasteful, unfulfilling life void of any meaning for them.

An all-around, worldwide phenomenon that can

make any man more physically, mentally healthy, feel
internally good, and look externally better is a deep
sense of purpose. What makes purposefulness such an
important factor that once dialed in, can even increase a
man’s lifespan by years? One answer is the positive
channelization of their masculine energies. Even the
process of trying to find one’s passionate pursuit makes a
man feel important about himself. Since it is not a one-off
process, it might take years, but those years are an
important chunk of that process of positive, productive
channelization.

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 Purposefulness

The Japanese call this ‘Ikigai’. It refers to having a

direction or purpose in life, providing a sense of
fulfillment and towards which the person may take action,
giving him satisfaction and a sense of meaning. A 2012
study in the Global Journal of Health Science14 suggested
that having the feeling of ikigai influenced the functioning
of the frontal lobe15. Some studies showed that people
who do not feel ikigai are more likely to experience
cardiovascular diseases. The significance of these studies
is simple – when we have a personal goal to pursue, it
further provides us with a sense of meaningfulness and
relevance. Previously, throughout history, the society
provided men and women with particular roles to pursue.
In the very beginning of humankind, everyone’s primary
purpose was survival and procreation. As things got better
and the society revolutionized a bit, and families became
normality, gender roles were assigned. For women, it was
to get married off, serve and take care of their children
and families. Men were supposed to fulfill the role of a
protective provisioner for their families. However, as
modern influences, industrial and technological
revolutions resulted in a new social order that permitted
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they personally find meaningful – (multiple careers to
choose from, raise children, start a family, etc.), the age-
old default roles no longer remained a necessity, rather a
convenient choice. Men stopped finding a sense of
purpose through their role as a sole-breadwinner.
Younger men increasingly went through phases of
purposelessness. Comparable to history, when they were
automatically designated their role as a breadwinner of the
family, men now have to find goals personally meaningful
to them. And that assignment of finding their ‘purpose’ is
what most find troublesome and a lost cause.

Initially, fathers help their sons find and create a personal

meaning through various activities. As the society moves
from nuclear familial values to fatherless and single-
parent homes, young boys increasingly find it
difficult to understand both the importance of a
personal meaning and how to find it because they
have no other role models such as their dads
displaying the importance of it.

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Most people fail to understand that purpose is not static

but rather an abstract invention that flourishes through
the years from a single seed to a flower, petal, leaf, or an
entirely different branch. Your purpose is just not a career,
it could be your hobby, something you invest in when at
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child? What activity or hobby activates that glint in
your eyes and you lose the track of time? Obviously
yes, sometimes our passions don’t align with our needs of
financial security, familial needs. Sometimes the
realizations of stark reality dawn upon us and we realize
what we wanted to be as kids, we can’t be now. But those
early inclinations can be used as helpful tools to find what
your natural inclinations were. And you ought to rekindle
your curiosities of childhood and teens. Be it after you
reach back home from your 9-5, throughout the
weekends. Even if it means sacrificing a few hours of
leisure, partying, or time with friends. Take out time for
your hobbies, your passions. Also, it is essential that you
know your talents as well. There is no point in trying to
fight through a hobby you find interesting but are not
good at. In the initial phases, everybody struggles, but will
your work let you become one of the top 10%? This is an
important question to ask yourself. Eventually, you want
a sweet balance of what you’re interested in and what you
are capable of being good at as well. You can find a job
that is purposeful to you (a rarity), a small business, side-
business, or a hobby. But your ultimate aim should be
to eventually turn that side-hustle or hobby into a
full-time vocation (it should have an earning
potential, otherwise it is only as good as a hobby) as
to spend the majority of your time engaged in it. Life
is too short trying to fit forcefully into a meaningless mold
not meant for you.

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 ————

Your Purpose is not uniform or static but an ever-

changing philosophy of life that might or might not
advance throughout your years of life. What you might
find meaningful and worth investing in today might not
interest you anymore tomorrow. Don’t fret over lost
interest. The time you invested into it was not wasted. It
has molded you into the man you are today. Find
something else now. I went from art --> digital art -->
graphic designing --> freelancing --> social media
marketer --> a self-improvement business through my
early teens to mid-20s and continue to follow it. And there
is a high chance that I might be doing something
completely discrete 10 years from now. I continuously
engage in sports, read and learn about anything that
inspires me, tinkers my curiosity and that is how I might
find something even more purposeful 10 years down the
road. At the same time, it is of paramount importance that
men don’t start jumping ships every month. Knowing,
understanding that discovery of a true passionate pursuit
requires years of consistency and persistence is vital. One
path will lead to another, one branch will grow into
another, and eventually, you find that you have that ‘glint’
in your eyes when you do your work instead of dreading
or hating it.

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 Half the Battle

Knowing is only half the battle. The other half is solutions

and action. The objective of this book was to let men
know what they had been missing, been lied about, and
should have known better.
You can’t solve a problem if you never realize that it
exists. But now you do. You know the truths of life – the
ultimate redpills. However, the work isn’t finished here, it
has just started. Apply all of the knowledge you have
gained. Start making changes in your life that promise a
better version of you – physically, mentally, financially,
and emotionally.
Read good books, exercise, learn – about
EVERYTHING that piques your interest and is
important, have great sex, start a family, be a leader, earn
a lot, and remember – it takes time. A hell lot of time.
Presumably, years. There will be pitfalls, failures, and even
more things you’ll have to learn. But you won’t stop. That
is what a man does. He pushes. Relentlessly learn and act
upon it. Don’t stop, don’t get disheartened. Do it – do it
when you are broke, heartbroken, afraid, or have failed.
What matters – not quitting.
If you do, I guarantee you this – you’ll make it, and
generations to come will benefit from it.

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 Glossary

The New Social Order – This is the term I use

throughout the book to explain the new order of
jurisdiction, the feminine-primary social order we live in.
Read chapter 1 to learn more.
SMV (Sexual Marketplace Value) – The SMV is a term
coined to identify where a man or woman lies in the
sexual marketplace. The higher your levels of
competence, looks, status, the higher will be your SMV.
Frame – Your frame is the personal core values you hold
and the boundaries you hold in life. The more you let
people step over those boundaries, the weaker your
frame is and vice-versa. The more your authority, voice,
and leadership in a relationship is challenged, the weaker
your woman perceives your frame is. Also, the more you
let her bad behavior go and lose sight of the more
important things in life, the weaker your frame gets.
The Pill – This is an oral contraceptive used by a woman
in the form of a medication, a few hours or the next after
having unprotected sex.
Competition anxiety – This is what a woman experiences
when she sees women younger and better than her
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woman’s SMV starts declining as she ages, her
competition anxiety kicks in.
LTR (Long-term relationship) – This is a relationship
where both partners are involved for the long term. The
goal might or might not be marriage, but these are done
and experienced the same way a marriage or engagement
would – completely different one-night stands or flings.

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BOOKS MENTIONED

The Boy Crisis by Dr. Warren Farrell

The Rational Male series by Rollo Tomassi

The Myth of Male Power by Dr. Warren Farrell

Buddy System: Understanding Male

Friendships by Geoffrey Greif

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Instagram - @whatmenshoulddo

Twitter - @WhatMenShoulDo (with a single ‘D’)

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