Find the Girls Who Want to Date

The Simple Date Getter

Find the Girls Who Want to Date
Chase Amante

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 Let’s Get You the Date (and Make It Simple)
If you’re a straight male, unattached, and not a monk, it’s probably safe to say you’d love
a date with a good-looking girl.
She might be one you know, from the office or classroom. She might be a friend.
She might be someone you see once a week at the coffee shop or grocery.
You might not have a specific girl in mind. Maybe you’d like to date one of
women you see walking around every day as you go through life. Or you’d just like a
system that’ll get you dates with women anytime, anywhere, without demanding you alter
your lifestyle or be someone you’re not.
This book – the Simple Date Getter system – is that system.
The Simple Date Getter system lets you spot, meet, and connect with women who
want dates with you.
Women you find attractive – good-looking. Even gorgeous.
And most importantly, it enables you to get that date. Simply.

Dating Has to Be MORE Than “Wait and Hope”

If you’re like most guys, you’ve likely gone through life tentative about dating.
You worry if you’re too forward girls will reject you. You hem and haw on when to
approach and what to say. You wait and wait for the “right time”, but so often it doesn’t
come.
If I asked you to, I bet you could spool off a list of girls you really wanted to ask
out, whom you planned and hoped and fantasized about getting, yet never did.
I had girls like that. Every guy has.
And it blows monkey chunks.
Would you be surprised if I told you at least a third of those girls (or more) spent
as much time tied in knots, waiting and hoping for you?
The world is full of unrequited love. It’s full of waiting.
You might not realize it, but there are women out there right now, waiting for
you. Some are pretty darn good-looking, too! Some are total sweethearts. A few are your
future long-term girlfriends. One might be your future wife (or future baby mama at
least!).
And until you get off the sidelines, and hang up the “waiting game” for good, you
and the women you want who want you back will remain separate – for no more reason
than doubt and fear.
It’s time to quit the dating game, and enter the dating game instead.

What Most Dating Experts Get Wrong

 My name’s Chase Amante, and since 2008 I’ve run the most popular men’s dating
advice website on the Internet, GirlsChase.com. We’ve had 52 million men visit the site
over the years, and we’ve long been the very first stop for any and every guy who’s
serious about succeeding with women.
Along the way, we’ve built a reputation as the place the experts go to know
what’s cutting edge in the field of getting girls.
Yet while we love our experts, what’s made us BIG has been our focus on giving
men of every romantic experience level– from veteran playboys to greenhorns still
waiting for their first kisses – simple, actionable, straightforward techniques they can use
to get the women they want, without a ton of memorization or acting like they’re
someone else.
You see, what a lot of dating experts get wrong is their obsession with niche
techniques a student needs a specific personality to pull off well.
If you tell a guy, “Go up to a girl and say these five words in this specific way,”
some guys’ll take to that like fish in water. But a lot of other guys will try it and it won’t
work, because it doesn’t suit them.
I wrote the Simple Date Getter to give you universal steps to the dates you want
from the girls you want them with. There are various options for most steps, too. You
choose the option that fits you best.
And if you’re not sure which one fits? That’s okay. Try them all out! You’ll
figure out which ones work best for you pretty quick once you’re using them.
The great thing about dating is there’re always more women to ask out.
There are always more girls to try thing out with.
And our focus is to get you out, taking shots with women, lining up the dates you
want.

All It Takes Is a Few Small Tweaks

A friend of mine was down in the dumps. He’d been on a string dates, some of
which seemed to go all right. Yet in the end, after each date, the girls vanished.
He got a lot of “It’s not me, it’s you” excuses (you know… those messages about
“lacking chemistry” and “not feeling a spark”?).
After watching him struggle for months, one day I told him, “If you ever reach the
end of your rope, then give me 30 days where you do everything I say, and I will
personally get you a girl you’re crazy about by the end of that. And she will stick
around.”
When he asked me how I’d do that, I laid out my plan. Some of it had to do with
me coaching him in-person, but much of it was what’s in this book.
He liked the idea, and even though we were in different cities and I couldn’t
coach him directly, he set about putting my simple date-getting system into action.
The result? He quickly lined up 3-5 dates per week with women he was excited
about… and those dates started working out.
Two weeks in, he found a girl he really, REALLY liked. She was beautiful, smart,
a perfect personality match for him… oh, and despite how very trim and fit she was, her,
uh, endowments were the biggest of any girl he’d ever been with.

 Well, he tried to not be too aggressive with her, because this friend of mine is a
gentleman (a bad habit of his, if you ask me!).
Until one night this girl came over in a seductive red dress, sat down on his couch,
looked him right in the eyes, and asked him if he wanted to go to happy town.
(that’s not exactly what she said, but I’m trying to keep this book PG!)
Anyway, they had a GREAT night. And even better morning the next day.
And just like that, my buddy who’d been swinging and missing with girls for I-
don’t-know-how-many-months was back on top again.
All it took to get the success rolling in was a few small tweaks.
The things I had him do, any guy can do.
And despite their simplicity, they completely changed the game for him.
They will for you, too.

One Last Word Before We Start

I’m going to ask you to let go of some of what you’ve learned about dating over
the years.
I know it’s hard to let go of chestnuts like, “Don’t stare; it’s impolite,” and, “You
need to wait for her signal to make your first move.”
And don’t worry, everything you’ll be doing is totally 100% socially acceptable.
You’ll look natural doing it, and it’s all stuff the women you’ll meet will enjoy.
However, if you feel a little uncomfortable doing any of what’s in this book,
that’s OK.
Some stuff you’ll take to right away.
Some stuff you might have to do 10 or 20 times before it sinks in.
I want you to think about dating the way you think about tennis. Your first time
with a new tennis swing always feels weird and a bit uncomfortable.
Yet the more you practice that swing, the more natural it gets.
Once you’ve swung enough, it starts feeling very comfortable.
Dating is just like this.
Don’t be ashamed to treat your dating as “practice.”
You can treat each woman you meet as an individual, and simultaneously treat
each interaction you’re in as a little more practice en route to your dream girl.
And also – who knows?
The next girl you meet might be that Dream Girl.
Often though it won’t be until you hit Girl 5 or 12 or 17 or 30.
That’s one thing we can’t control for.
We can’t always control for how she’ll react, even if you do it all right.
But what we can control for is that if you do things right, and you keep doing
things right, you’re going to get some girls.

Let’s begin.

 * Tip: throughout this book you’ll see links to articles on my information-packed
how-to dating website, Girls Chase. Click those links to find out more about the
highlighted term.

 Chapter 1: Finding an Interested Girl

What’s the #1 thing guys fear about asking women out? Going up to one who doesn’t
want them and getting shot down!
Guys break out in cold sweat just thinking about it.
Imagine the humiliation… you walk up to a girl, everything on the line, and she
just bats you away.
“Sorry… I’m not dating right now,” she says.
Or maybe she says, “I already have a boyfriend.”
Or she hits you with the dreaded, “You’re just not my type.”
It’s not only the rejection itself. It’s the tail-between-your-legs walk you make as
you slink out of there.
Terrible, isn’t it?
Yet, now, what is the #1 thing guys fantasize about with dating?
Walking up to a girl and the two of them hit it off.
Where it’s magic. This is the girl he was meant to meet.
What if we could take those humiliating rejections and make them a tiny minority
of your approaches… and turn those fantasy connections into what you’re used to getting
when you say, “Hi”?
Well, we can.
The way we do it is with what we call “signs of interest.”

What Signs of Interest Are, And How to Spot Them

 A “sign of interest” is a signal a woman gives that she’d like to meet you. You
might not realize it, but most of the women you notice actually noticed you first1. Women
are experts at getting guys to approach while letting the guy think it’s his idea.
Most of women’s signals fly below most men’s conscious radars. Yet when you
see them, you can very accurately predict which women want a man to approach them2.
All women make flirtatious, inviting gestures sometimes. And sometimes it’s just
display. However, women who genuinely want to meet a man signal 8x more… and once
they’re talking to you, they continue to make far more such gestures than women who
aren’t really interested3.
If you watch her signs, it is much, much easier to tell a woman who’s game from
one who’s not.
So what are the most important indicators to a woman’s approach availability?
Scientists have found women’s gaze and speech early on don’t mean much. Yet
motion energy – such as a woman’s number of movements, how long those movements
last, the size of her movements, how fast she moves, and how complex her movements
are – is strongly tied to her level of interest4. This matches my experience with women as
well: it’s not whether she’s staring at you, but how much she moves her eyes around, how
many times they eyes dart to you, how she turns her head to you, how her body wheels
about to face you.
A woman can stare at you, and just stare and stare, and never move, and if you
approach her you’ll discover she’s uninterested in you romantically. This happened to me
plenty when I was young and rough-around-the-edges. I’d see a girl watching me like a
hawk and think, “She must see something she likes, for sure!”
Then I’d go over to her and she’d be cool as a cucumber and I’d never get
anywhere with her.
The fact is, some women look just to look.
They want to see if you’ll react. They want to challenge themselves: “Can I make
this man react with just a glance?”
They might be curious about you for some non-romantic reason. Maybe they
think they recognize you, or they’re trying to figure out why you’re wearing such a funny
coat.
They might even just be staring in your direction absentmindedly and not even
realize they’re looking at you.
Yet, when you catch the girl who keeps jerking her head around to look at you,
turning her body to sneak peeks, looking at you then looking away, touching her hair,

1 Men approach women as a direct function of women's effective and frequent use of a variety of
flirtation behaviors such as lip licking, glancing, smiling, parading in front of, and touching men.
(Moore, 1985) Further, when a man responds to a woman’s signals, but does not realize he’s
responding, he will assume he noticed the woman first and took action on his own. (Bem, 1972)
2 90% of the time, observers who know what to look for can predict how it’ll go when a man
approaches a woman based on the woman’s nonverbal behavior (Moore & Butler, 1989)
3 Women judged likely to be approached averaged 29.0 approach signals, compared to women
judged not likely to be approached’s 3.7 approach signals. Of the women actually approached, those
who eventually agreed to go out with a man signaled 39.25 times during the conversation, while the
women who did not agree to a date signaled only 11.3 times. (Moore & Butler, 1989)
4 Grammer, Honda, Juette, & Schmitt, 1999

adjusting her clothes – you know, with darn near absolute certainty, that this girl is
interested.
So this is what you’ll look for, above all: unambiguous, clear signals that a
woman is interested in you.
Look for those, and approach the women who give them, and your odds of
rejection go way, way down.
Can you approach women without these signals? Sure. I often do. And sometimes
it works. Maybe she just didn’t notice you, and she’ll love meeting you when you
approach.
However, if you’re new and you’re nervous, approaching only the women who
signal to you is a superb way to cut rejections down to the minimum and enjoy mostly
great receptions from the girls you walk up to.
But what if women never signal you to approach?
I’ve had a lot of beginner guys tell me this over the years. Yet every single guy
I’ve trained in person I’ve fast found women signaling him to approach. It didn’t matter
his age, his weight, how good or not his looks were. There are always some women
signaling any given guy to approach. I’ve yet to find an exception.
The problem beginners have is they have no idea what to look for, and they
don’t know what they’re looking at even if they see it.
So next I’m going to list out 14 signs of interest women will show you that I want
you to start to pay attention to.

14 Signs a Woman Wants to Be Approached

Here they are5:

1. Hair toss. She tosses her head, flipping her hair. Even women with short hair
do this. 90% of women who receive an approach from a man do a hair toss first.

2. Smile. The smile is the second biggest sign a woman’s interested. 70% of
women who get approached by men smile before the man’s approach.

3. Dating glance. Another major, common signal. She’ll make eye contact with
you… then dart her eyes away. If her eyes look down, this is best (submissive). But to the
side is okay as well – especially if she darts back for a second look.

4. Loud laugh. Women may use loud laughter to attract men’s attention.

5. Head tilt. If she wants to meet a man, she may tilt her head to one side.

6. Neck presentation. Another head-related movement. When she shows her

neck, she signals trust. Women do this as another approach invitation.

5 Approach signals taken from Hall, Xing, & Brooks, 2014 and Moore & Butler, 1989

 7. Primping or preening. If she adjusts her clothes, makeup, or hair, she’s
readying herself for your approach.

8. Short, sustained gaze. A woman who is more confident (or very interested)
may lock eyes with a man, then hold his gaze for a moment before she breaks it.

9. Lip licking. She licks her lips, a nonverbal way to say “yummy” or “tasty.”

10. Parading. Girls who want to meet men may parade in front of them, or march
up to them.

11. Hip swing. A woman will roll her hips in a more pronounced way as she
walks. This calls attention to the hip-waist area, a major area of interest for men.

12. Pelvis tilt. A standing woman will tilt her pelvis (hips) at an angle. This is
another way to put a man’s eyes on her hips.

13. Eyebrow flash. The eyebrow flash (where the eyebrows move upward, then
back down) is fast and usually involuntary. It happens when she sees something or
someone she likes.

14. Nostril flare. Women will flare their nostrils in interest the same way they
flash their eyebrows in interest.

The more of these you see, and the more she moves as she does them, the more
certain you can be that she wants your approach.
If you want to play it extra safe, look for three (3) approach signals before you
approach. But there are shy women who signal little, and distracted women who don’t at
all, who may still be interested to meet you6. Even still, if you seek to minimize rejection,
look for three signals, and especially a lot of movement as she makes them.
The better you recognize signs, the more reliably you’ll notice when women wish
to meet you. Signs make date-getting so much simpler. Find a girl who already likes
you and the rest is straightforward.
You don’t have to be incredibly good-looking for women to date you. Everyone
has different tastes, and women go for the top choice of men who are available to them7.
Even if she’s drop-dead gorgeous, she may not have been approached by a man in weeks.
You might think she’s out of your league, but still be her best option, and she’ll date you
anyway.
Furthermore, if you take a look at your buddies – do they totally agree with you
about which women are the best-looking and which women aren’t? Not likely!

6 Some women’s signals are very easy to read. Yet other women are consistently difficult for
observers to judge correctly (Place, Todd, Zhuang, Penke, & Asendorpf, 2012)
7 People select the choicest of their immediate options, not necessarily the best match for them
overall (Sedikides, Ariely, & Olsen, 1999)

 And women are just the same as men. A guy who’s beautiful to some women is
average to others. And a guy who’s ridiculously cool to one girl is boring to another. And
vice versa.
Because of the diversity in what women find attractive, women are constantly
signaling to all kinds of men – including you.
And if you don’t realize it yet, you will, once you start to look for the signs.

 Chapter 2: Strike Up a Conversation

Once you’ve spotted a girl to ask out, the next step is to start a conversation.
You can’t ask her out without talking to her, after all (unless you’re big on blind
dates).
Yet how do you strike up that conversation?
Starting a conversation with a woman is one of the most intimidating things for
men to do. I’ve known military men who’d served in the toughest theaters of war
worldwide who shook in their boots at the thought of approaching women they did not
know.
Why’s it so hard for men to make that first approach? What’s so terrifying about
“hello?”
The scariest part for most is trying to get everything perfectly right.
Most guys on approach want to say the right thing at the right time. They also
want to know what you’ll say after.
Then they think about it, their minds freeze up, and they can’t do it.
The best way to fix this? Have a few stock conversation starters (also called
“openers”) ready-to-go the moment you spot a girl to meet.
When you know what you’ll say, it makes it a lot easier to approach. At that
point, it isn’t, “What do I say?” but, instead, “There’s a cutie I can say my piece to.”
So, to make it much simpler for you to do Step 2 of our Simple Date Getter
system, I’m going to give you my easiest-to-use, use-them-anywhere openers to strike up
conversations with women.
Before we go listing off openers though, first let’s talk a bit about what kinds of
openers work best – and why.

 Some Openers Work Better Than Others

If a woman likes you enough, it doesn’t really matter what you say.
She’s just happy you’re talking to her!
However, for women who are more unsure about you, your choice of opener can
make a difference.
Women’s worst liked openers8 are those that use:

• Jokes
• Empty compliments
• Sexual references

Interestingly, the most common openers men use are jokey ones9. Why? It might
be projection; men like it best when women use jokey openers on them10. Regardless,
there’s a gap between what men like to use, and women best respond to.
What actually works?
Many things.
Women like innocuous openers best. These are openers where the man begins
neither jokey nor direct11. Direct openers come in second place; jokey places third. Other
effective openers are those that convey any of the following12:

• Genuine interest in the girl

• Helpfulness
• Generosity
• Athleticism
• ‘Culture’
• Wealth

Don’t worry, you don’t have to be rich or give or buy something to a woman to
start a conversation with her. I don’t ever use those myself. But if you can use them, and
you want to, they’re an option.
Notice the trend though? The effective openers are those that either a.) start a
conversation innocently, b.) show a woman you have genuine (i.e., not fake) interest in
her, or c.) display some kind of prosocial or otherwise desirable characteristic.
Now let’s talk how to use these to meet girls.

8 Bale, Morrison, & Caryl, 2006
9 Men use “cute-flippant” lines (like “I’m easy. Are you?”) more than any other type, even though
women like these least of all styles of openers (Kleinke, Meeker, & Staneski, 1986)
10 Cunningham, 1989
11 European-American females rate innocuous openers highest, better than direct or jokey, their
least favorite (Levine, King, & Popoola, 1994)
12 Bale, Morrison, & Caryl, 2006

 7 Types of Openers to Use with Women

Don’t worry, you don’t have to remember all these. Start with one or two.
In fact, you may not ever use them all. I have my own favorites from this list. You
will too.
In my experience, different men take to different kinds of openers. So rather than
tell you which I like most, I’ll give you all the most effective openers that I know work
well. I’ve seen many men use each one well.

1. Innocuous questions. These oldies like “Do you know what the time is?”
(though nowadays we all have clocks on our cell phones. I guess you could claim yours is
busted) and “Can you tell me how to get to (somewhere)?” Yet any kind of innocuous
question works to start a conversation: “How long’ve you worked here?” “How’s your
night going?” “Going anywhere exciting?” (if waiting for a bus/train/airplane) “Think
we’ll be in line forever?” (if in a long/slow-moving line) and so on.

2. Innocuous statements. Innocuous statements can be a little jokey if you like,

but they should always be more or less harmless (thus, the ‘innocuous’ label). For
instance: “I love this place, it always has great music.” “Man, the staff sure are slow
today.” “This shop has the best stuff.” “Nothing better than hitting the gym after a long
day at work.” And of course there’s always “Hi” (one of the first openers I ever used…
and it still works great).

Note: your innocuous questions and statements should be situationally relevant

whenever possible. If you’re at the beach by the water and see a girl checking you out,
it’s okay to smile and say, “What a great day!” Yet it’s even better to smile and say,
“Man, I love the smell of the ocean. Brings back the greatest memories.” Because it’s
specific and relevant, it’s more evocative, feels more personal, and is more likely to
prompt her to engage.

3. Genuine interest. More than mere “direct”, genuine interest is sincere direct,
where you pay a woman a sincere compliment about something specific to her you
genuinely like. “Hey, I saw you and thought you were really cute,” is okay, but it’s so
generic it feels like something you say to everyone. “Excuse me… I saw you walking
here and I just had to come tell you… you have the baddest walk I’ve seen all day. I’m
Chase,” is much better, because it’s so much more specific.
After you deliver your genuine interest compliment, be sure to give your name. It
takes away the pressure for her to answer, “What do I say back?”

Note: it’s generally best to compliment women on things they chose or developed,
like their outfits, walks, senses of style, hairdos, voice, and so on. When you compliment
on physical features (eyes, nose, face, figure, etc.) it’s less effective an opener. (feels
more like a “horny guy” opener than a “guy who noticed something most guys never do”
opener).

 4. Helpfulness. If a woman stumbles and you grab her, or she’s trying to get a
piece of luggage down and you lend her a hand, it’s an easy way to show your prosocial
side. What if she isn’t a damsel in distress though? Well, you can often fabricate
helpfulness out of thin air. If she looks at all confused: “Help you find somewhere?” If
she’s looking at a menu: “Care for some recommendations?” If she’s browsing in the
grocery store: “Ever try this one? It’s the tastiest in the aisle, and by coincidence it’s also
healthy.” If she’s staring at the subway map: “Where do you want to get to? I’ll help you
plot it out.” If she’s in your class: “How’re you doing in this class? Anything I can help
you understand?” And so on and so forth.
Helpfulness works wonders because a.) it’s prosocial (and prosocial behavior is
very attractive to women13), b.) it feels personal to her – you’re offering her help;
obviously something you can’t just do with every woman (who has the time?), c.) right
away it promotes a joint “us working on something together” frame, which is excellent.

5. Nonverbal/playful. Nonverbal/playful openers allow you to open women in a

playful, nonverbal way. Examples include bumping a woman’s hips with yours, and
giving her a wry smile when she looks at you, or nudging her upper arm with yours, then
copying her body language when she looks at you (such as crossed arms and a light
scowl, if that’s what she was doing). You can also get a woman’s attention, then affect a
slow-spreading smile (which will usually cause her to do the same).

6. Display openers. Display openers work best if you have a certain specialty.
For instance, money, athleticism, or some other type of attribute or skill. Example: you’re
at tennis class and want to talk to the two cute girls in the corner. So you walk up to them
and say, “Bet you I can hit the fence on the other side of the court.” Then, do so (or do
your best to do so). Or ball up a piece of paper to throw away, then nudge the girl next to
you and tell her, “How much you want to bet I can hit that trash can over there?” then
throw. And while I know not every guy has the wealth option, I’ve seen quite a few guys
of not super-rich wealth make good use of small private boats or rented beachfront
studios near popular stretches of ocean, inviting female passersby to join them for drinks.
A lot of girls say “yes.”

7. “Are you single?” A favorite opener of a good friend of mine is to simply stop
a girl he wants to ask out and ask her, “Are you single?” If she says yes, or even if she
says no (sometimes women claim boyfriends they don’t have), if he can tell she probably
likes him (by looking for those signs of interest we discussed), he’ll talk to her more, find
out her schedule, and ask her out.

As you read through this list, there were probably a few openers that appealed to
you. Pick one (or two), commit a few ways to use it to memory, and you’ve got
something ready-to-use next time you see a an attractive or signaling girl.
But we’re not done yet! The opener’s just to kick things off.
Now that we’re in the conversation, it’s time to get to know her better.


13 Prosocial men are rated as more physically and sexually attractive, socially desirable, and
desirable as dates than nonprosocial men (Jensen-Campbell, Graziano, & West, 1995)

 Chapter 3: Get to Know Her Enough to Date Her

This is where many guys drop the ball.

So many times I’ve seen guys I trained muster the courage to approach a girl…
They get their feet moving, close the distance, say hello, and the girl receives them
warmly.
Then, after a few seconds, they bail. Then they come back and tell you, “I didn’t
know what else to say, so I left.”
You need a game plan for what you’ll say next with women. It’s how you
avoid these “I got myself to approach and she seemed into it but I got nervous so left”
scenarios.
These scenarios suck for you. They also suck for the girl.
Girls don’t approach guys. Not usually. They wait for you to.
The life of a woman is full of long stretches of waiting. Waiting for a man
confident enough to approach in a normal way, talk to them, and ask them out. You’d be
amazed how few men do this, and how long the average woman waits for men who can.
You might feel nervous to approach, and think that’s obvious to everyone. Yet
women don’t see your nervousness.
When you fail to approach, or you bail soon after the approach, she doesn’t decide
it’s because you’re nervous. She assumes instead it’s because you aren’t interested14.
If you don’t want cute girls who like you whom you’d like to date to think you
don’t want them, we’ve got to get you to hang in there, make a little conversation, and
get a simple date.
The easiest way to do this? With boring questions.

14 Both men and women view their own failure to express interest in someone of the opposite sex as
being due to fear of rejection. However, they view the other person not expressing interest as being
due to that person simply not being interested (Vorauer & Ratner, 1996)

 And the second easiest way to do it? With playful banter.
And you can actually use both.

Do Boring Questions Work?

“Where are you from?” “What do you do?” “How long have you lived here?”
The infamous boring question is much maligned in dating advice circles. But is it
as awful as it’s made out to be?
While you can certainly do a lot better than this, and be cleverer and more
creative, the boring question is actually fine to use.
Women feel a stronger connection to you when you get them talking about
themselves15. They want the conversation centered on them, and assume you aren’t
interested in them when it isn’t. The easiest way to center the conversation on a woman
you’ve just met is with boring questions.
Boring questions give you an easy way to launch into conversation with a woman
who’s a stranger: “Where are you off to today?” “What brings you out?”
They also work with women you already know, but not well. Boring questions are
a straightforward way to launch into more meaningful connection.
Here’s an example of how to get a bit of meaningful information from a woman
from a “boring question” start:

You: “Excuse me… I saw you walking here, and I just had to come tell you…
you have the most spectacular sense of style I have seen all day. I’m John.”
Her: “I’m Sarah!”
You: “Where are you from, Sarah? You look like you’re from around here!”
Her: “Actually I just moved here. I’m from Centerville.”
You: “Centerville, eh? What brings you here… come for work or you following a
boyfriend?”
Her: [laughs] “No job or boyfriend. I’m starting school here next week.”
You: “No job or boyfriend! Well, that’s good to know. Is it your first time in the
city or are you familiar with it already?”
Her: “I’ve been here a few times but I don’t know it that well.”
You: “It’s a great town. Tons of fun things to do. Depends on what you like to do,
of course. You seem like a bit of an artist maybe.”
Her: “Yeah, I love art! There are so many scenes here it would be good to paint.
How could you tell?”

See how a few boring questions produced lots of good, personal information
about this girl:

• Where are you from

15 Men and women alike are more likely to report a connection if the woman talks about herself.
Females want the conversation centered on themselves (Cohen, 2016)

 • What brings you here (work or a boyfriend?)
• Is it your first time in the city or are you familiar with it?

These questions helped us find out a.) she’s new in town, b.) she doesn’t know the
town that well, c.) she doesn’t have a boyfriend, and d.) she likes to paint.
They also got her to finally engage, asking you questions back.
It’s a pretty straightforward path from here for us to talk about what ways she
seems artistic (or later on telling her you’d like to see her paintings… or for her to paint
you).
It also makes it easy to propose showing her around town and helping her get her
bearings, or taking her to the local art gallery, which you’re certain she’ll love.
You don’t have to be super clever or uncommonly engaging to get a date with
a girl. As you gain more experience talking to women and hone your conversational
skills, you can certainly get more inventive, creative, and clever. But when you’re new,
don’t pressure yourself to say exactly the right things all the time. Instead focus on
getting good basic conversation flowing that gets the woman to talk about herself and
gives you good, useful bits of information you can work with.

How to Not Turn It Into an Interview

One of the reasons guys dislike boring questions is due to having had early
conversations they use these in turn into “interviews.”
Generally speaking, if you ask a woman more than four or five questions in a row,
it’ll start feeling like an interview.
Women pay attention to who’s contributing to the conversation and how
much. If you do a lot of talking and ask lots of questions, that’s okay to a point. Both
sexes feel deeper connections when men talk more and women gaze more16.
The catch is that if it is just “you ask a question, she answers, you ask a question,
she answers, you ask a question, she answers”, it starts to feel like the only one taking
initiative is you… and the woman starts to think if she isn’t taking initiative, she must not
be interested.
So what can you do?
One of the simplest tricks is to turn questions into statements.
Note how in that sample conversation, after three straight question volleys, and
three straight answers from her where she didn’t ask anything back, we switched to a
statement?
Rather than ask, “What do you like to do for fun?” you stated:

You: “It’s a great down. Tons of fun things to do. Depends on what you like to
do, of course. You seem like a bit of an artist maybe.”

16 Men tended to like the other person when their own talking level was high and when their gazing
was low. Women, in contrast, expressed more liking when their own talking level was low and their
gazing was high (Staneski & Kleinke, 1978)

 You said there are many fun things to do, and (rather than list off things, when
you don’t know what she likes) it depends what she likes to do.
Then you made a deductive guess (based on her style of dress, behavior, how she
talks, her hair, fingernails, etc.) that she seems like a bit of an artist.
If she is, she’ll feel like you see right through her, and she’ll talk to you about
that. If she isn’t, she’ll correct you, and hopefully tell you what she likes to do instead.
Either way, she’s talking about herself, and you didn’t ask any questions.
You don’t want to assume too much about women (unless you really are a mind
reader!). Yet a bit sprinkled here and there breaks up the monotony of too many
questions, and keeps things from being an interview.

Good Boring Questions to Ask (and How to Use Them)

The best boring questions to ask, in my opinion, are:

• Where are you from

• What do you do (for work)
• What do you do for fun
• What are you up to now

What you should not do (that so many guys do) is ask one of these questions, then
as soon as she answers immediately move to the next one.
Don’t do this:

You: “So, where are you from?”

Her: “I’m from Centerville.”
You: “Cool. What do you do?”
Her: “I’m a student.”
You: “Gotcha. Well, what do you do for fun?”
Her: “I paint.”
You: “What are you up to now?”
Her: “Just heading home. Nice to meet you!”

That’s a terrible conversation, isn’t it?

Do you know why it feels so terrible?
Because you stay at the shallowest, most superficial level on every question. Take
a look: she tells you she’s from another town. Why’d she come here? Why’d she leave
there? How does she like it here (and how does it compare)? Is there anything she misses
from there? Does she think she’ll ever go back, or is she here to stay? Is this a stepping
stone to greater travels, or is she likely to settle in here and stay a while?
There’s so much you can find out about her from this one initial boring question
alone. You can use questions like this as a launch pad to elicit her values and connect
deeply.
Look how much deeper this conversation feels:

 You: “So, where are you from?”
Her: “I’m from Centerville.”
You: “Ah, right on. I’ve been there. Why’d you leave? Tired of the cows and
corn?”
Her: [laughs] “I guess. I came here for school.”
You: “Sounds like you miss it.”
Her: “I’m a country gal, what can I say!”
You: “There’s a college in Centerville, I thought. Not as good?”
Her: “They don’t have a finance program. Centerville does.”
You: “Ah. And now I know so much more about you.”
Her: [laughs] “Oh really? Like what?”
You: “Like that you prize the country, but you prize ambition more.”
Her: [laughs] “Maybe so.”

We only used one truly boring question there (“Where are you from?”).
Yet from that, we found out scads about her, including where her heart lies (the
country), and what drives her (ambition).
She feels a lot more interesting to you – and, now that she’s self-disclosed so
much, she feels far connected to you17.

Tease Her, Toy with Her, Flirt

A little good connection is great.

But you mustn’t stop there. Because connection is only part of what you need.
As I teach you in my master class One Date & The Dating Artisan, attraction
strong enough for a girl to be yours comes from three (3) components. The connection
you build with her is part of it. Yet it isn’t it all.
Another of the major attraction components is arousal.
How do you build arousal?
Well, we’ll only scratch the surface here. But one way to start is flirtation.
That is, teasing, jesting, and toying with women.
Flirtation is one of the most important courtship skills. Good flirtation signals to a
woman that you are interested and desirable, at a minimum of risk to you18.

17 Significant disclosure-liking relations were found for each effect: (1) People who engage in
intimate disclosures tend to be liked more than people who disclose at lower levels, (2) people
disclose more to those whom they initially like, and (3) people like others as a result of having
disclosed to them (Collins & Miller, 1994)
18 Flirting is a class of courtship signaling that conveys the signaler's intentions and desirability to
the intended receiver while minimizing the costs that would accompany an overt courtship attempt.
Individuals who are courting should vary the intensity of their signals to suit the level of risk
attached to the particular social configuration, and receivers may assess this flexible matching of
signal to context as an indicator of the signaler's broader behavioral flexibility and social intelligence
(Gersick & Kurzban, 2014)

 Men’s flirtation is harder for people to recognize than women’s. When a woman
flirts, 36% of the time people can tell; when a man flirts, women only realize it 18% of
the time19. Why is men’s flirtation harder to judge? Probably because male flirtation is
less clear.
We can do some things to fix that, though – so a woman has a much better idea
that yes, you are indeed flirting.
The first is to recognize the components of good flirtation: what you want to show
up in YOUR flirtations20:

• Sexual assertiveness
• Overtness
• Invitation
• Playfulness
• Nonverbalness
• Unconventionality

That is to say, you should assert your sexuality, flirt overtly (obviously) to some
degree, you must invite women to do things with you, you should be playful, there should
be a nonverbal element to your flirtation (like your body positioning, touch, and facial
expressions), and your flirtation should stand out (e.g., crack some jokes, break some
rules – do things with her her platonic best guy friend wouldn’t).
One of the simplest ways to flirt is teasing. Teasing is an integral part of flirty
banter. You can tease a woman on almost anything. An easy option is something she has
on. For instance:

You: “Wow, that purse is huge. What do you keep in there?”

Or

You: “I like that scarf! You’ve gotta be boiling in that thing though!”

Or

You: “Good choice of boots. You look stylish and ready to kick butt at the same
time.”

Nothing mean-spirited. Don’t put her down. You can even preface a tease by
telling her you like what you’re about to tease, like the previous two examples.
If she responds well to a simple tease, you can move to riskier teases, where you
tease her in a stronger way.

19 Observers judge women’s flirting twice as accurately as men’s (Hall, Xing, & Brooks, 2015)
20 Men and women use the same six (6) perceptual dimensions when judging flirtation: sexual
assertiveness, overtness, invitation, playfulness, nonverbalness, and unconventionality (Abrahams,
1994)

 One of the ways I teach to tease women (once you know she’s comfortable with
it) is with chase frames. Chase frames are little teases you do to frame the woman as
pursuing you.
For example:

You: “So, you like boots, huh?” [point at her boots]

Her: [laughs] “Yeah, I love boots.”
You: “Do you wear them just when you want cute guys to notice you, or do you
also wear them other times too?”
Her: [laughs] “Um, both?”
You: “Cool. Well, obviously it works, since here I am. But I don’t know if I can
stay; it depends how much fun we’re going to have. Are you a fun person?”
Her: “I think so!”
You: “What’s fun about you?”
Her: “Well, I like to blah blah”

Asking her if she only wears her boots when she wants to meet cute guys is a
chase frame. You frame (i.e., paint the picture) her as the pursuer.
You chase frame her further when you tell her you’re not sure if you can stay and
that it depends on how much fun you’ll have together.
Chase frames are an expectancy violation. Expectancy violations are anything you
do that violates her expectations of how things should go21. Women usually frame men as
the pursuers. Even a lot of men frame themselves as pursuers. When you frame the
woman as pursuer, and yourself (or men in general) as pursued, you violate expectations.
And expectancy violations, when positive and pleasurable (and if she likes you and like
your teases, chase frames are) excite and arouse women22.
Here’s another example chase frame, using misinterpretation to frame her as
trying to seduce you:

Her: “… blah blah. And he didn’t even buy me a drink!”

You: “What’s so important about guys buying you drinks? Is that how you seduce
them?”
Her: [laughs] “No! I just think it’s a nice thing to do for a lady.”
You: “It’s nice because it leads to you seducing them?”
Her: “No, that’s not what I’m saying!”
You: “Well look: I don’t care if you’re trying to seduce guys; I’m not judging
you. But if you’re gonna do it on me you’ve got to be a little smoother. Here, I’ll show
you.”
Her: [smiling] “Okay.”

21 Further, expectancy violations that bring two people closer together – such as good-natured
teasing – lead to feelings of greater intimacy, similarity, involvement, and dominance (Burgoon &
Hale, 1988)
22 The greater the positive or negative extent of the deviation from expectations and the effects of
deviating from entrenched patterns impact the degree and kind of emotional experience (Burgoon,
1993)

 If we wanted to continue that chase frame example, it’d go like this:

You: “First, you have to flatter me a little bit. Repeat after me: ‘John, you are SO
gorgeous and sexy, I just want to eat you up.’ Go ahead!”
Her: [laughs] “John, you are SO gorgeous and sexy, I just want to eat you up.”
You: “Thank you, you are such a sweetheart. See? It’s starting to work a little bit
already. Now I want you to kind of rub my arm, like this.” [take her hand and put it on
your upper arm and rub it a bit] “All right, you take over.”
Her: [rubbing]
You: “Wow, you’re pretty good at that. But I’m not completely sold yet. I’ve
gotta know first, do you like to try new things and explore or are you a homebody?”

You don’t have to do all that; even just the initial comment of “Is that how you
seduce guys?” is enough.
You can also flirt nonverbally. Nonverbal flirtation entails the way you look at a
woman, the way you position your body, and the level of proximity you have with her. It
also involves touch23.
One easy nonverbal flirtation move you can make is to get close to her. Lots of
guys when flirting stay far away, in the “polite zone.” Yet this doesn’t feel flirtatious.
Instead, get close to her, and she feels more attraction24.

23 As flirtation escalates, partners begin to touch each other more frequently and more extensively
(Perper, 1985)
24 Kahn & McGaughey, 1977

 Chapter 4: Ask Her Her Schedule & Make a Proposal

Now for another critical junction: you have to ask her out. It’s common for guys to freeze
here, even if things went well. Guys’ll connect with girls, feel like they’re into them…
then lose their nerves and bail. “Hey, great meeting you! See you later!” they say.
He ends up kicking himself later, of course.
Don’t feel bad if that’s you. Men feel a lot of anxiety asking women out25.
Nevertheless, you do need to make the ask.
As I always tell students, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”
Most girls won’t ask you out. You’ll have to do it yourself.
And hey, as a bonus – when you ask women out, they automatically view you as
more sociable and open-minded than they themselves are26. She’ll think good things
about you merely because you asked.
Before you ask, though, I want you do something else first: ask her about her
schedule today.

What’s the Rest of Her Day Look Like?

Why ask her what her day looks like?

So you know when you can see her again!

25 Both sexes experience considerable anxiety while initiating a date (McNamara & Grossman, 1991)
26 People rate date requestors as more sociable and liberal (but less physically attractive) than those
they request dates from (Mongeau & Carey, 1996)

 If she’s free, and you are, and it’s going well, you might as well keep spending
time together, right?
For instance:

You: “So whatcha got planned the rest of the day?”

Her: “I’m meeting my friends for lunch in a few minutes. We’ll probably go
shopping after that. But after that I’m not doing anything.”

She won’t always be available that day. Yet if you ask, sometimes she will be!
You’d never know if you didn’t ask though. And she won’t volunteer it if you
don’t, either. The only way to find it out is to ask.
The biggest green lights you’ll get are girls free immediately:

You: “What’re you up to right now?”

Her: “Nothing. I’m just hanging out.”
You: “Any plans the rest of the day?”
Her: “Nope!”

She’s free right now, and you’ve got all day with her… provided she wants to
keep spending time with you too, of course.
At this point you can tell her, “Cool, then how about we X?” [X] here is what
you’ll do with her first in your dating process. Go get ice cream, go for a walk, etc.
What if you’re not free, should you still ask? I do, if I think I might be free later.
If she’s free all day tell her, “Awesome. Well, I’ve got a couple errands to run. What say
we meet up at 4 PM?” Then tell her, “There’s a neat little coffee shop three blocks down
called Redline Café. Let’s meet there.”
Then grab her contact info.

If You Can’t Meet that Day…

If you’re unavailable all day, or she is, no problem. Propose a date and grab her
contact.
It’s important you propose dates before you grab contact info.
A lot of guys go straight for the contact grab (“Let me get your contact”) without
a date request. When you do it this way though, it feels awkward.
Imagine you’re at a mixer and talk with a guy in your industry. He seems all right,
maybe someone worth having in your network. But then out of the blue he goes, “Can I
get your phone number?”
Feels awkward, right? What’s this guy want it for?
Is he going to text you at work randomly? What’s his play?
If instead he says, “We should talk about opportunities in this industry. Let’s grab
beers next weekend. What’s the best way to contact you?” that feels about 1000% more
natural, doesn’t it. It’s very easy to go along with, too.
This is all you have to do: tell girls you’d like to see them again, propose a meet
up sometime soon, then (and only then) ask for their details.

 Also – when you ask, do it on a high point.
What’s that? It’s a point when things are great – she’s laughing, the connection is
strong, and the two of you are getting on famously.
Don’t be the guy who waits till things are winding down to ask.
Ask her out when things are good.
This means you should aim to ask her out within a couple of minutes of meeting
her. Don’t talk to her until it gets stale, then ask. Talk to her just long enough to hit a high
point, then ask.
Example:

[1.5 minutes in]

You: “You sure do love your cats, don’t you!”
Her: [laughs] “Oh God, you know me already!”
You: “I’m having a great time talking to you. I’m glad we met. We ought to get
together again soon.”
Her: “Okay!”
You: “Awesome. Let me grab your contact info.”
Her: “Sure. Want to add me?”

After you grab her info, give her a quick, memorable, fond farewell. A handclasp
and a smile and an “It’s been splendid having met you” are all you need.
You want to pack some GOOD feelings into that farewell; it’s the last memory
she’ll have of you, and a pleasant, memorable goodbye makes it more likely she’ll show
up for your date.

 Chapter 5: Do This with Enough Girls
Remember I told you your next dream girl might not be until Girl #5, 12, or 17?
It’s important you try these techniques on enough women to find the ones you
click with. Not every woman’s available. Some have boyfriends or husbands. Some are
going through something that makes them not want to date. For others, you may not be
their type.
In dating, you deal with asymmetric returns. That means you’ll get a lot of little
small losses (women you approach who aren’t available or interested), and then you’ll get
less frequent big wins (girls who accept your date request).
Recall that friend I coached at the start of this book? Well one of the things I
asked him to do was approach four (4) new women per day for 30 days straight.
He took that challenge and very soon lined up a slew of dates, including that very
attractive girl he got together with.
If you’re up for it, I recommend you do this too. Four per day is a pretty
manageable number. Stick with it, and you’ll get 120 approaches in within a 30-day
period. That’s not shabby. And I guarantee you, even if you look like Quasimodo, you’ll
find at least a couple (probably more) of girls who’ll say “yes.”
(if you’re brand new, and 4/day is still too scary, it’s okay to work up to. But
that’s where you want to get to for maximum effect)

Your Ask-Out Process Is Simple

Here’s everything we covered in just five steps:

1. Look for signs of interest. Minimize rejections and save your energy for the
most likely-to-be-interested women.

2. Open interested-seeming girls. Make your approach with one of the openers I
gave you.

3. Ask a few boring questions. Go a little deeper than the superficial. You needn’t
go super deep… but do get to know her some.

4. Banter with her. You’ll need a high point to ask her out on. For this, teases and
chase frames are ideal. These break expectations, create high points, and make
things more fun, which makes her more likely to want to see you again.

5. Check her schedule & ask her out. Find out if she’s free, and if she is (and you
are too), spend more time with her now. If she isn’t free, propose a date and take
her contact. Make sure it’s on a high note, not a low one.

And that’s it.

That’s all you’ve got to do.

 Dating isn’t complicated; or at least it doesn’t need to be.
You don’t need to do anything complex, or master difficult tricks, or turn yourself
into someone else to get a date. You only need to approach and follow the simple steps
I’ve lain out for you in this Simple Date Getter system.
If you do this with enough girls (and it doesn’t need to be a huge number), you
will find women you like who like you back, and you’ll get dates.
So stop waiting for the perfect moment, and go create some yourself.

Use THIS Approach on Your Dates

If you follow the simple steps in this book, you’ll be lining up a lot of dates with
new women.
Zoe on Tuesday, Anna on Thursday, Claire on Friday, and Robin Saturday
afternoon (followed by Steph Saturday night).
Once you’ve followed the Simple Date Getter system with a few women, it’ll
become something more or less automatic to do. You’ll barely have to think about it.
You still have one major challenge, however: what do you do ON the date?
How do you take this girl who likes you, and turn her into your woman?
How do you turn dates into lovers, paramours, and girlfriends?
As hard as getting a date is for some guys, getting the date to go anywhere is
even harder for even more guys.
There’s so much men often get wrong on dates:

• You spend the whole date trying to connect yet feeling like you can’t get past the
initial layers with this girl

• You run out of things to say, even as your mind races for where to go next. And
you can feel the date stalling out in real time

• You crack jokes with her, yet she doesn’t laugh, and you can’t figure out why it
isn’t working

• She sits too far away from you (or you do from her). It’s impossible for you to
touch her, and the date feels really awkward

• Your attempts to build commonalities with her fall flat and it ends up feeling like
you two have nothing in common, or there is no “spark” or “chemistry”

• You aren’t able to create any kind of electric feel on the date at all. It ends up
feeling like a meeting between two people who are at best platonic friends

• She crosses her arms, leans back and away, breaks eye contact and looks bored,
and makes other nonverbal signals of disinterest… yet you have no idea how to
bring her interest back

 • At some point, she tells you it was nice seeing you but she’s got to go. And all
you can do is hope that despite this dud of a date, she’s going to give you another
chance… at some point… even though you know deep down she probably
won’t…

If any of this happens to you, don’t beat yourself up. It happens to a LOT of guys.
It is a built-in challenge of the modern dating system.
In modern dating, some guys do very well with girls, dating lots of different
women, with their pick for whom they want as a girlfriend, playing the field as lucky
bachelors in between their steady girlfriends27.
These guys aren’t all you think – most aren’t particularly tall, good-looking, high
status, or rich. Some aren’t any of those things. There are a lot of regular Joes among the
ranks of “guys who get it with girls.”
What these guys have figured out is the dating game itself.
They tap into specialized knowledge called “mating intelligence.” Mating
intelligence is how much you know about the dating process. Scientists have found the
people with the highest mating intelligence – i.e., those who studied dating and attraction
the most, then used that on dates – have far and away the most success in dating28.
By reading this book, you’ve absorbed a chunk of mating intelligence that you
can use to get a lot more dates with women.
Nevertheless, getting dates is just the tip of the iceberg.
I’ve created a system that gives men every tool they need to transform girls they
get onto dates into lovers. A way to keep those girls around indefinitely as girlfriends;
women who’ll come to see them whenever they want, who are wild about them, and
totally, completely devoted to them.
This is a system I call One Date.
It’s called “One Date” because it gives you a simple, straightforward,
extraordinarily powerful way to take a girl as your girlfriend in just one simple date.
If you use the Simple Date Getter to ask her out, and then you use One Date on
the date, she’s very likely to end up yours.
One Date (and its master class, The Dating Artisan) contains hundreds of
scientific citations (there are 221 in One Date alone, and almost 1100 in all of One Date
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And it’s a whole lot of fun to use, too.

27 35% more single men than women ages 22-35 are celibate. Who are that extra 35% of noncelibate
women partnered to? Men who share themselves with more than one woman (Stone, 2018)
28 Men with higher mating intelligence are found to have greater numbers of partners, while women
with higher mating intelligence have more hookups with men who would be good candidates for
long-term relationships (O’Brien, Geher, Gallup, Garcia, & Kaufman, 2010)

 The One Date System is simpler than anything else you’ll find out there. Yet it’s
also MORE powerful, MORE flexible, and MORE effective than any other system.
Once you’ve asked her out she’s said “yes”, all you have to do from there is take
her on the One Date… and the rest is just step-by-step.
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 everything you need to do with her on the date to make her completely fall for
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men one-on-one over the last dozen years than any date coach likely ever has in history.
(if you want numbers, we often get over a million visitors a month, and I’ve directly
coached 10,000+ men, if you include live trainings, phone consultations, web forum
advice, email responses, and advice to guys in article comment sections. I’ve done a LOT
of coaching, and I am simply the best there is at giving guys the exact advice they need to
successfully get the girl in the simplest way possible)
Here’s a sample of what some “One Date & The Dating Artisan” course owners
have to say about One Date:

“... she originally mentioned she never does that first date but eventually asked me to do it.
Definitely was shocked every step along the way. All I could think of was, "Damn, Chase was
right. Next step: Damn, Chase was right. Next step: Damn, Chase... I can't believe it, she's
actually alright with moving it forward this fast." So yeah, real first date ever like that. And, yes, I
really like her, but I'm going to trust what Chase says and continue moving other dates forward.
One Date is officially a success over here.”

- Art

“This is in my opinion hands down the most complete system to get girls consistently anywhere in
the world. Thanks to One Date, I found my girlfriend. I met girls on the bus, street, library,
university campus and in the club. Some went good, some went bad. Eventually I went on 4 dates
with girls I considered girlfriend material. With 1 girl it didn't work out, but I still had the other 3
girls. They all wanted me to be their boyfriend. I finally decided which one I wanted. That girl I'm
still seeing now. We're still in a happy relationship.

“So if you want to get better with girls or you just want to find a girlfriend. This product will help
you and you can do that in just one date.”

- Andy

“Another fun fact - this year I managed to get together with my special girl that got me on this
journey. I got her phone number three years ago, but she wouldn't date me back then. Then she
saw me on a date this year with a cute girl and that was all that was needed to reignite her
passion. She messaged me and after a couple of texts I asked her out and followed my process
which resulted in a FWB relationship. It turned out that she is not that special three years down
the road. I still do day game and my life is richer and fuller because of the articles on girlschase
and from One Date.

“My review is proof that this material works like a charm - you just have to work hard and get the
results!”

- Matija

 “Eventually she invited me to her apartment because I lived with my Dad!!! AHAHAHAHA I
obviously used another move from the material to get around that hurdle plus I was 5 years
younger. You are my hero. Many Best Wishes. Oh yeah the end we ended up being partners for a
long time. I'm still seeing her today and it has gotten so mind blowing lately that I'm pretty sure it
could cure illnesses.”

- David

“I cannot thank you and your team enough for putting together One Date. I completed your One
Date course about six months ago. Apologies on the delayed reply, as I’ve been spending
significant time with my fiancé. Yes, my fiancé, which I tell you about momentarily. ... Currently, I
live in a small town of about 45,000 people, and your material still helped me immensely. I
stopped saying ‘no’ to social events and am now addicted to saying ‘yes’, which has led to many
new adventures in my life over the past year and a half! ...

“I met a girl at a NYC bar, pulled her, & got together in the same night. I was on Module 3 at that
time. ... Opened and moved a group of 3 beautiful girls ranging from ages 21-24. My friend and I
each had a girl. We successfully included the 3rd girl and was able to end up back at their place
that night. Saved hotel costs were able to pay for that month’s module. ... Pulled two Swedish girls
in the same night, 21 and 22 years old. Pulled one girl from Argentina that was jaw-droppingly
beautiful (had her rub sunscreen on my back as an opener after a brief compliment, which worked
surprisingly). ...

“Many more things happened that I’m probably missing. But, most importantly, I met my fiancé.
Exactly what I looked for in a girl. Looks, personality, education - everything. I was able to attract
her, and so far, have had a fairly drama free relationship. She acknowledges me as the leader in
the relationship. I know how to manage situations such as jealousy, conflicts, and maintain
attraction. I am now able to focus on other areas of my life, now that I feel I have a much better
grasp on this area of my life. I understand why any conflict is occurring and how to address it,
and the few times I don’t, I have a forum of active members (including yourself, Chase) to assist.

“As seen, I cannot say enough great things about your course. If someone is looking for the most
comprehensive, B.S. free, science based material, this is it. Having tried other material in the past,
your material is the only material that I fully trust on the dating market.”

- Ryan

In One Date, I show you how to build unbelievably deep connections with
women, fast, and give you potent tools to ramp up arousal. I also give you the third piece
of attraction: one that no attempt to woo a woman will work without.
All you have to do is spot a girl you’d like to meet, approach her using the Simple
Date Getter process, say hello, then use the One Date “ping system” I give you to figure
out which of three (3) types of dates she needs: connection, arousal, or hookup.
And once you know that?
Then it’s simple to get the date with her.
Simple to get her to go out with you on the date (no more flaking or women
ghosting you).
Simple to actually do the date without running out of things to say or not knowing
what next to do.
The date you’ll take women on is filled with things it’s easy to do with them. And
what’s more, women love this date!

 Because they love it, it’s simple to ramp up connection, arousal, and that third
component you need a woman to feel so she falls more and more deeply into you as your
date progresses.
From there, it’s a short, simple step (I show you how to do this inside One Date)
to take her home and turn her from “date” to “girlfriend.”
Once you have One Date, getting girlfriends becomes a breeze.
Click the link to watch the presentation I’ve prepared for you on it… and let me
show you some of what’s inside the course, right now, and give you some tips that’ll
make your dating life easier right away.

(click here to watch NOW)

or visit girlschase.com/onedate

I’ll see you on the inside.

President, Girls Chase Inc.

 About the Author: Chase Amante
Chase Amante is a leading world dating expert and founder of
the Internet’s most highly trafficked men’s dating advice site,
GirlsChase.com. His philosophy is simple:

• Improve your appearance (your fundamentals)

• Tighten your behavior (your game)
• Move faster with women
• And get girls chasing you

This simple philosophy, plus Chase’s concrete instruction and his students’
unprecedented success, is what’s led to his methods becoming so widely used by men
around the world.
Chase started dating as a university student after he hit rock bottom. Dateless,
friendless, and hobbled by social anxiety, he decided the only way to get anywhere with
women was to learn to talk to them and flirt. And the only way for a guy without friends
to do that would be start approaching women.
After a long journey (and much personal success with scads of desirable women),
Chase founded the dating advice website GirlsChase.com. Girls Chase soon evolved from
small blog to premiere men’s dating advice hub, which it still is today.

Chase (center) on the set of The Dating Artisan

Chase believes as our social environment has grown more complex, men and
women require more help, guidance, and training to enjoy romantic happiness and
success. Yet this isn’t taught in schools, it’s looked down on in society, and most people
don’t realize dating is a skill to learn.

 It’s his mission as he continues to expand Girls Chase to bring the simplest, most
effective dating strategies to the hands of men around the world… so no guy is left
behind, and men and women alike enjoy happy, mutual, fruitful unions, to free them from
experiencing loneliness or doubt in their romantic lives ever again.

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