Objectives:
The session is designed to:
Identify and discuss individual
sources of negotiating strength
Practice skills that can influence the
outcome of the negotiation
Develop an awareness of the
importance of personality traits,
trust and self-awareness in effective
negotiating
What is negotiation?
Negotiation is back and forth
communication designed to reach
agreement while leaving the other side
intact and positive.
Easier to negotiate when the two sides
have some shared interests and some
opposed.
Negotiation
Soft:
Participants are friends.
The goal is agreement.
Hard:
Participants are adversaries.
The goal is victory
Negotiation
Principled =Negotiating on the merits or
principles or interest based negotiation
Develop multiple options to choose from;
decide later.
Avoid premature judgment.
Avoid searching for the single answer.
Avoid assuming the pie is fixed.
Avoid thinking that “solving their problem
IS their problem”.
From Fisher and Ury: Getting to Yes, 1981
When and where do we negotiate?
At Work
Salary and job responsibilities, space etc
With Patients
Compliance
At Home
Other ??
Negotiation
Includes:
Listening
Ability to identify the interests of
both sides
Persuasion
Diplomacy
Building and preserving relationships
Negotiation Process
Preparation1:
Know what your
interests are and
why you value them
What is the issue at
hand
What are the ”needs”
vs. “wants”
Know the strengths
and weaknesses of
your position and self
Self awareness,
personality
characteristics,
emotional intelligence
Negotiation Process
Preparation2:
See things from the other side’s point of
view- why they are negotiating?-
Research the interest of the other side
What are their needs (security, autonomy,
recognition)
Be aware of the unpleasant consequences
for both sides if your idea/proposal is not
accepted
If you succeed who else might be affected,
harmed, advanced?
Negotiation Process
Planning1:
Brainstorm all
alternatives that could
satisfy your needs
Be creative and expand
the pie
Know who is supportive
and who is not/less
Does this person has
the authority to make
the decision?
Are there any
penalties for bluffing?
Are there time limits
associated with
negotiations?
Negotiation Process
Planning2:
Imagine how it would feel to
achieve your goal
Role play your opening with a
trusted colleague and rehearse the
problematic areas
Be the devil’s advocate
Plan ways to break it/Buy time
“I need to think over what you just
said so can I have a couple of
minutes?”
The Best Alternative to a Negotiated
Agreement (BATNA)
A well thought
out BATNA gives
you more power
(leverage)
Decide on:
What you can
comfortably walk
away?
Bluffing? Don’t
allow desperation
to be detected in
your non verbal
Negotiation Process
During1:
Bring the list of your
main points and a set
of questions
Try not to interrupt;
the more they
reveal, the more
you’ll learn
Re-state as
impartially as you can
“as I hear it…)
Stay open to new
information
Take notes
Negotiation Process
During2:
Focus on interests. Not people, not
gains
Use objective criteria to make
decisions and be sure the other
party does as well
Redirect personal attacks onto the
problem at hand
Negotiation Process
During3:
Listen actively and
reflectively
Listen also for
what is not said
Learn from what
the other side says
Stay open to new
information
Synthesize the
information you
hear and use it in
your own argument
Negotiation Process
During4:
Be prepared to
walk away if an
agreement is not
reached.
Write a note or
memo if contract
or agreement is
required.
(e.g., “If I don’t hear
by x, will assume
that it stands”)
Common Errors
Assuming shared values
Assuming similar communication
preferences
Big picture thinking or detailed analyses?
Stories or facts?
Time to process or get decisions over with?
Expect reciprocity
Avoiding conflict
Trying to prove how smart or “right” you
are by talking
Not listening carefully
Negotiation: Planning
REF: Shell, Bargaining for Advantage
Negotiation Skilled Average
Behavior
Questions, as% of all 21.3 9.6
negotiating behavior
Active listening: Testing 9.7 4.1
for understanding
Active Listening: 7.5 4.2
Summarizing
Total information 38.5 17.9
exchange
The Six-Step
(Negotiation)Process
State
the problem/issue.
Identify real needs (interests)on
both sides.
Restate the problem/issue(I think
the real issue is…).
Present possible solutions.
Decide on the best solution.
Reach consensus.
Negotiation of new position/$
Salaries
Learn about the “market” regionally,
nationally and the range at the institution
www.aamc.org/ publications
Postpone until position is offered
Let the other side made the first offer
“well, so far the position is attractive, and I’m
sure you pay a fair salary, don’t you..”
Tie requests for resources to the
mission of the institution and other
party’s needs
REM: The salary offer is not fixed!
Other features to negotiate:
Benefits
Parking, vacation, retirement, insurance
Promotion criteria, track
Space and equipment
Expectations/ time commitments
Protected time
Professional development opportunities
memberships, meetings
Administrative support
Gender and Negotiation
Mythical Perceptions
Good behavior is justly rewarded
Corporate or academic family will take
care all members
One’s unique abilities naturally lead to
advancement
Reality
Unwillingness to ask for desired reward
and then to negotiate to mutual agreement
Barriers to Negotiation
Self-perception
It is more important to be liked than
anything else
Tend to feel more empowered to
negotiate for colleagues than for self
(extension of protecting children)
More likely to experience work opposition
as harmful to friendship
Too rule-oriented
When anxious, tend to talk too much!
Barriers to Negotiation
Power talk and Power actions
Disqualify assertive statements” This
needs to be done…is that OK?”
Automatically apologize when noting
another’s distress= admission of
responsibility
Invite disagreement< “You may not like
this, but….”
Barriers to Negotiation
Try 3-stage assertiveness:
When you do…..
I feel….. because….
I prefer….
Negotiation Outcomes
Both sides should come to consensus
and commit to the agreement
The agreement should help to maintain
ongoing communications and
interactions between the negotiating
parties so that future negotiations can
take place
Negotiations should lead to a better
situation
The test of a first-rate intelligence
is the ability to hold two opposed
ideas in mind at the same time and
still retain the ability to function.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
Remember…
Don’t dwell on people or gains. Stick to
the interests at hand.
Don’t close doors. Be fair. You may wish
to enter into negotiations again.
The end result should be acceptable to
both parties.
Your BATNA establishes the reality of
how important the agreement is to you
and what you are willing to accept.
Remember…
If you don’t ask, don’t expect…
Negotiations with high expectations do
better.
The pie is almost never “fixed”.
Don’t be afraid to offend: “it’s only
business.”
Most negotiations are as much about
emotion as they are money.
Remember…
Pay attention to both levels of process:
Discussion of the issue about which decision
must be made
Development of a relationship that leads
often to win/win solution
Don’t give too much credit to the other
side
You are an asset and present from
strength
