Lt.

Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation

Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

G12 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

UNIT 1: SELF-DEVELOPMENT

MODULE 1:
Knowing and Understanding Oneself during
Middle and Late Adolescence

Big Question:
How can understanding yourself pave the way to self-acceptance and better
relationship with others?
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

Objectives:
At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. explain that knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and limitations
and dealing with others better;
2. share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences; and,
3. start and maintain a journal.

Activity: SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY

Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-concept inventory
in your journal. Give yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = weak; 2 =
somewhat weak or somewhat strong; 3 = strong; 4 = very strong

___1. I have strong sex appeal.

___2. I am proud of my physical figure.
___3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
___4. I exude with charm and poise.
___5. I am easy to get along with.
___6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
___8. I am lovable and easy to love.
___9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
___10. I am intelligent.
___11. I have special talents and abilities.
___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
___13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
___15. I have integrity and good reputation.
___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating.
___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept what I say.
___19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
___20. I am a good listener.
___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
___23. I feel and act with confidence.
___24. I am a mature person.
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

Scoring: Copy this table in your journal. Write your score opposite each number and get
the subtotal.

Physical appeal Human Relations Intelligence

1 __________ 5 __________ 9 __________
2 __________ 6 __________ 10 __________
3 __________ 7 __________ 11 __________
4 __________ 8 __________ 12 __________

Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:

Character Communications Maturity
13 __________ 17 __________ 21 __________
14 __________ 18 __________ 22 __________
15 __________ 19 __________ 23 __________
16 __________ 20 __________ 24 __________

Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal

How do you perceive yourself?

Look at the results of your self-concept inventory and answer the following questions.
1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score 14-16 or somewhat
weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below 10).
2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but other people consider as
your strength? What are these? Check with a partner. Example: A lady can say “I`m ugly”
yet other consider her very charming. Or conversely, one can have the illusion of saying “I
am very intelligent or competent” when most of his ideas sound unreasonable or illogical
to most of the people. There is indeed a big difference between what you see in yourself
(real self-image) and what is projected in the eyes of the others (your social image).
3. How realistic is your self- image?
4. To what extent does it reflect your real self?

Reading: SELF-CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or
your actual self? Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope
will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your
actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self that has characteristics
that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-
concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two
selves. In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from
others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you
engage in to reach the ideal self.
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social

interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we
actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen by
others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is
our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that
we have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal
self could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in
others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because
there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are
exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is important. If
the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal self),
then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is not
aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real
self, the greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules ultimate aim
is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these two personality
domains.

Portfolio Output No. 1 – Talent/Variety Show Presentation

You shall have a presentation in a contest. The teacher will rate you based on the
following criteria: originality (4 points), creativity/resourcefulness (4 points), teamwork (4
points), and audience impact (4 points), for a maximum of 16 points. Write about your
experience in this activity. (Do this virtually)

Reading: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources – talents,
skills, energy and time, to enable you to achieve life goals.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your
personal effectiveness. Being self-aware, making the most of your strengths, learning new
skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your personal
performance.
Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics – talent and
experience accumulated in the process of personal development. Talents first are needed to
be identified and then developed to be used in a particular subject area (science, literature,
sports, politics, etc.).
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive
and practical activities.
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and
risk assessment. Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance
with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes
a habit that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are some skills that will greatly
increase the efficiency of any person who owns them:
1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without
being distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with
the help of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of
getting aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences. Self-confidence is
manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition. To develop it, you
need to learn yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and believe that by
performing right actions and achieving right goals you will certainly reach success.
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles –
problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles. It
can also be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the
environment and other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation
when a lack of information creates the risk of negative consequences of your actions. It
increases efficiency in the actively changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack
of experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when
obtaining a new experience.
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action
that no one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually
the speed of action is greatly increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional
ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can be
changed before being implemented in the real world. For generating ideas, you can use a
method of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your
ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but
the most important personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal
easier and less costly.
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

Activity: MY BANNER– THE TREASURE WITHIN ME

In the spaces indicated by numbers, write down the following

1 and 2 two things I do very well Instead of simply
3 and 4 my two greatest achievements in life focusing on your weaknesses,
5 what in myself am I proudest of
6 my happiest moment recognize your own talents and
7 positive words that my friends use to describe me abilities, build on
8 a personal goal that I have already achieved them, utilize
9 three blessings for which I am most thankful to God them to your
10 three of my positive qualities greatest
11 difficulties, challenges and problems that I was able to solve
and overcome

Reading: BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR

WEAKNESSES advantage.
Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably
recognized but not given appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness
in communications, personality or ability. Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity,
take action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend personality
development sessions or whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived
weakness.
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

This is where you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose
Feliciano and other blind singers did not brood over their physical handicap. They
recognized that they have a golden voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent and
now they have won international fame in the field of music.

Portfolio Output No. 2: Journal Reflection from My Banner

Write about your banner.
1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and talents?
2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or compensate for your weakness?
3. How can you further enrich your assets and strengths?
4. Where and how do you use it to your best advantage?

Reading: Story: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE

There are three kinds of people in this world:
The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the movie of their lives, admires
some parts and criticizes others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she says the
whole day is, “I like this thing and but I don’t like that thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has
absolutely no control of their lives --- except to comment about it. Moviegoers are the most
pathetic, miserable people in the world.
The second is the Actor. This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She
actually realizes she’s the Actor – and can control a big part of her life. She can actually
make or break the movie – by how well she delivers her lines and how she portrays her
character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing they’re the start of the show and enjoy some
level of control. But many times, they wish the movie would end in another way – but
realize that they have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not only watch, and she doesn’t only
act, but she actually creates the entire movie from her mind. She determines what she will
say, what she will do, and how the movie will end. She realizes she has enormous control
over her life, and sees to it that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
Who are you among these three people?
Do you merely watch your life go y?
Or do you act out a script that you feel has been handed to you?
Or do you write the script and make your life beautiful?
By the way, the Producer of the movie is God. He tells you, “Make the movie
beautiful, and I will give you all that you need for success.”

Reading: THE POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING: UNFOLDING YOUR PERSONAL

JOURNEY

The purpose of journal writing is to help you become the Scriptwriter of your life.
There are four (4) practical reasons to maintain a journal:
1. It is cost-efficient and available. Emotional stress can be dealt in many ways like
talking to a friend over a cup of coffee, eating, travelling, shopping, painting and many
 Lt. Jacob O Meimban Memorial Foundation
Eastern Visayas College, Incorporation
Brgy. Dalakit, Catarman N. Samar

more but writing is the most inexpensive. Notebook and pens are easy to find, available and
do not cost so much.
2. It is preventive and pro-active. Writing yields self-awareness. When you write, you
can discover your strengths and limitations. You will know what your reactions are in
different situations and what better ways to prevent, avoid, or face your fears.
3. It is creative and productive. Journal writing expounds your imagination. You can
see various dimensions of your problem, different points of view and better solutions.
4. Lastly, it is personal and private. Unless you want to share your stories, you have
the choice to keep them to yourself. Writing is your time alone. It is your way of loving
yourself. You will not be judged by your writing.
You just need one (1) notebook to maintain a personal journal. You may use these
questions as you write in your journal:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive things that happened? What are
those things that made you irritated or upset?
2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your day, what may be the greatest lesson you
can learn from them? What actions have you done well and what actions you can do
better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for yourself, your
family, your community, and your country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and big things you are thankful of? Who
are the people that made your day extra special?

Processing: Write your answers in your personal journal.

1. What have you discovered in yourself?
2. What are your core strengths?
3. What are the qualities you want to hone and improve on?

“A pen is certainly is certainly an excellent instrument to fix a man’s attention and

inflame his ambition” – John Adams

Prepared by:

ALLAN S. IGBUHAY LPT, MACOED