The most convincing reason that proves arranged marriages is better than

Love marriages would be Statistics!. In most cases, couples who had an

arranged marriage are more understanding towards each other.Marriage, also
called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally recognized union between people,
called spouses, that establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as
between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws. The
definition of marriage varies around the world, not only between cultures and
between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and
religion. Over time, it has expanded and also constricted who and what is
encompassed. Typically, it is an institution in which interpersonal relationships,
usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is
recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual
activity. When defined broadly, marriage is considered a cultural universal.
Article 16 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights declares that "Men and
women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have
the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to
marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution. Marriage shall be entered into
only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses."

Individuals may marry for several reasons, including legal, social, libidinal,
emotional, financial, spiritual, and religious purposes. Whom they marry may be
influenced by gender, socially determined rules of incest, prescriptive marriage
rules, parental choice and individual desire. In some areas of the world, arranged
marriage, child marriage, polygamy, and sometimes forced marriage, may be
practiced as a cultural tradition. Conversely, such practices may be outlawed
and penalized in parts of the world out of concerns regarding the infringement of
women's rights, or the infringement of children's rights (both female and male),
and because of international law.Around the world, primarily in developed
democracies, there has been a general trend towards ensuring equal rights for
women within marriage and legally recognizing the marriages of interfaith,
interracial, and same-sex couples. These trends coincide with the broader
human rights movement. Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the
bride and groom are selected by individuals other than the couple themselves,
particularly by family members such as the parents. In some cultures a
professional matchmaker may be used to find a spouse for a young person.
Arranged marriages have historically been prominent in many cultures. The
practice remains common in many regions, notably South Asia, though in many
other parts of the world the practice has declined substantially during the 19th
and 20th centuries. There are several subcategories of arranged marriage.
Forced marriages, practised in some cultures, are condemned by the United
Nations. The specific sub-category of forced child marriage is especially
condemned. In other cultures people mostly choose their own partner. Arranged
marriages were very common throughout the world until the 18th century.
Typically, marriages were arranged by parents, grandparents or other relatives.
Some historical exceptions are known, such as courtship and betrothal rituals
during the Renaissance period of Italy and Gandharva Vivah in the Vedic period
of India.

In China, arranged marriages (baoban hunyin) - sometimes called blind

marriages (manghun) - were the norm before the mid-20th century. A marriage
was a negotiation and decision between parents and other older members of two
families. The boy and girl were typically told to get married, without a right to
demur, even if they had never met each other until the wedding day.Arranged
marriages were the norm in Russia before the early 20th century, most of which
were endogamous.

Until the first half of the 20th century, arranged marriages were common in
migrant families in the United States.They were sometimes called picture-bride
marriages among Japanese American immigrants because the bride and groom
knew each other only through the exchange of photographs before the day of
their marriage. These marriages among immigrants were typically arranged by
parents, or relatives from the country of their origin. As immigrants settled in and
melded into a new culture, arranged marriages shifted first to quasi-arranged
marriages where parents or friends made introductions and the couple met
before the marriage; over time, the marriages among the descendants of these
immigrants shifted to autonomous marriages driven by individual's choice, dating
and courtship preferences, along with an increase in interracial marriages.Similar
historical dynamics are claimed in other parts of the world.Arranged marriages
have declined in prosperous countries with social mobility and increasing
individualism; nevertheless, arranged marriages are still seen in countries of
Europe and North America, among royal families, aristocrats and minority
religious groups such as in placement marriage among Fundamentalist Mormon
groups of the United States. In most other parts of the world, arranged marriages
continue to varying degrees and increasingly in quasi-arranged form, along with
autonomous marriages.But,Love marriage is a term used primarily in India,
Pakistan, Bangladesh, Nepal, Sri Lanka and in Egypt to describe a marriage
where the individuals love each other and get married with or without consent of
their parents.There is no clear definition of love marriage. It is generally used to
describe a marriage which was the sole decision of the couple, as opposed to
arranged marriage.In arrange marriage Arrange Marriage is not a contract
between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.Two families
involved in arrange marriages know each other very well and are compatible with
each other.Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the
conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.Couple is
guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown
about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.

In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing
and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more
time with each other.It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage
as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may
often be taken for granted.Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues
faster. There is a sense of fear of loosing the partner,In my view arranged
marriages are better than love marriage. In love marriages partners are trying to
impress each other, they are not ready to share their weaknesses. Problems
occur when the partner doesn't like to accept their weaknesses after the
marriage. So a love marriage will be successful when both understand each
other.Parents choose our partners. I think they know what is good to their
children. Here two persons with different attitudes, mentalities and goals are
committed to live together. So they will respect their partner's choice. So I think
most of the arranged marriages are successful.Meanwhile,In love or romantic
marriages, both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to
spend the whole life with each other.Couple is responsible for its choice and
onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else.Couple is
aware of each others likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well.Couple
can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have
the independence to take such decisions at their own level.The culture of the
extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the
couple.In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very
different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social
obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.This is because in a love
marriage things may often be taken for granted.In most cases, love marriages
force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to
tackle their own problems.Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and
marriage is a decision of lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the
marriages, it’s the couple which has to live together for lifetime. So, the decision
to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can
certify the best way for a perfect marriage life because like life marriages too are
full of uncertainties.Marriage is an institution that is considered successful, if, it
lasts lifelong. There are different customs and traditions that are followed in
different societal set-ups. In Indian society, arranged marriages are known to
exist since ages. The structure of the Indian society is built up in such a way that
first preference is given to the family values and the individual’s choice follows
after. Respect towards elders and the conservative mind set paves the way for
arranged marriages. Women are generally restricted to the boundaries of homes
environment and are prohibited to move independently in the society. Therefore,
it becomes almost impossible for them to search a groom on their own.
Otherwise also, girl’s consent is not considered compulsory in orthodox society.
Even the young boys are also expected to mutely follow the decision taken by
elders related to their marriage.

On the other hand Love marriages are considered more of as western

influence. Though, the concept is now acceptable in the modern societal set ups
but it is still not embraced heartedly in rural parts of the country. Love marriage is
more acceptable and comprehensible to the modern generation. It helps the duo
to know each other well, before taking the crucial decision of life. But
independence covets highest degree of responsibility also. On one hand, love
marriages grants the opportunity to choose the partner but the responsibility of
choosing the right person is also laid on the shoulders of the couple only. In
arranged marriages, the burden and responsibility of choosing the right person is
shared by elders of the family. Hence, in times of need family stand by and help
to resolve any conflict or crisis situation. Any such cover or support is generally
missing in love marriage.When the two unknown individuals come together to tie
the nuptial knots, they don’t have any expectations from each other. Knowing
and understanding each other takes a significant duration of time. And during
this period they learn to compromise and accept each other as they are. But in
case of love marriage there are higher expectations from both the sides. Though,
the couple does possess an advantage of knowing each other but the
circumstances and responsibilities change after marriage. Many couples find it
hard to adapt to the changing scenario and expect the things to move in the
same direction as they were before marriage. This is one of the main reasons
that later lead to unjustified and unreasonable demands put up by both the sides.

Though, surviving an arranged marriage is even tougher. In love marriage,

the two individuals can easily sail through tough times if they have real faith in
each other. They are well aware about the qualities and shortcomings of each
other. Hence, can easily predict and control the behaviour. In arranged
marriages, any such advantage is missing. Most of the times, it is the newly-wed
bride who has to suffer the most. And ultimately the relationship suffers.
 There are no sure shot rules for a successful marriage. Neither are there any
set methods that guarantee 100% success rate. Yet the debate about whether
arrange marriage or love marriage is better than the other will last for times to
come. The modern Indian society is in a state of transition. New customs are
embraced by the youth readily but the age old customs and family values are still
a priority in our society. Therefore, a new genre of love cum arranged marriages
has emerged, which is a perfect blend of the two worlds.

Whether one would recognized and admit the presence of this kinds of
marriages,they still exists.Their existence where perhaps brought by tradition
and contemporary thinking,one should remain open minded.People should not
be judge by who he or she is marrying,or how they get married in the first
place.Although it could be an interesting story to hear,the person’s involved
should not be judged by it.Although there are striking differences between
arranged and love or romantic marriages,one should be able to realize that it
cannot be only one.There will have to be a compromise or common
grounds.This is having the best option possible for the couple and their extended
families.The families of the couple should not be disregarded.But they should not
also have the final say of individual should want to marry.They can only offer
their opinions and let those deliberated by the couple.On the other hand,the
couple should not be selfish.There are a lot f other people who could be affected
by their actions.If one would say that he should be able to choose who to love
,regardless of what their family would say,then the purpose of having a family is
pointless.Just like the nature of the marriage,there should be great deal of
common grounds to be able to make things work.