The Sensual Woman

By Alexandra Fox

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 Introduction

A sensual woman is one who's very much in touch with

her body and the pleasures of her flesh. Many people
believe in the “inside out” approach, meaning a person's
inner happiness and fulfillment will affect how a person
looks on the outside. A sensual woman, however, has an
“outside in” approach. This means she believes that
physical pleasures will make her feel fulfilled inside. The
ideas I discuss here will be considered risqué by some
and objectionable by others. But I believe a woman's
sensuality is something you have to let go of in order for
it to blossom. Because of this, I won't, won't, won't shut
up!

On Understanding Your Own Body

Descartes had his famous motto “know thyself.” As a

sensual woman, you have to “know your body.” Without
knowing her body, a woman in the bedroom will be like a
blind person trying to find her way out, a troublesome
situation. Add a clueless man to the picture and we begin
to see something that closely resembles a disaster. A
woman's body is something so beautiful, mysterious,
complicated, and interesting that a curious person will
never get tired of exploring it. Understanding your own
body won't just allow you to stay in touch with your
sensuality, it will open the door to a new world of ecstasy
for you. Here are some ways to understand your own
body:

• How do your sexual urges fluctuate within a

day, a week, or a month?

I know some days, I just don't feel like it, no

matter how hot my dates are. It wasn't until I
started to pay attention to how my sexual urges
change by keeping a journal about that, I began to
recognize some patterns. Try to figure out your
body's natural rhythms!

• What are your sensitive spots?

Is that your ears, your inner thighs, your lips, your

neck, your breasts, or your back? Is there any
hidden spot that you've never noticed before?
This is how to find out your sensitive spots: Use
either a feather or a silky handkerchief (my
personal favorite) to lightly and gently caress each
part of your own body. Don't miss a single spot.
Try to pay attention to even the slightest sensation
and find out which spots really do it for you.

Caution: make sure you do this in a relaxed

environment with total privacy (If you suspect
your roommate may bump into your room any
minute and ask your opinion on her new dress,
 don't choose that time slot). You need your full
attention to feel your body's natural response.
Any kind of distraction is bad. Knowing where
your sensitive spots are is a great first step to
showing your man how to please you.

• How much pressure is just right?

Most women love gentle touch, but how gentle?

Do you like barely being touched, a gentle caress,
a nibbling, or a harmless bite?

• Does your body respond to specific words, a

certain male voice tone, certain types of music,
or other things?

For me, saxophone (I used to call it sexphone) is

my trigger. What's yours?

• And finally, the most important tool to getting

to know your own body is masturbation.

If you feel a bit embarrassed about it, don't!

There's nothing wrong with masturbating. You're
hurting no one in the process and will benefit a lot
from it. Here's one benefit: happy women live
longer! Start with a vibrator on your clitoris if
you've never tried it before. Once you know how
it feels to have an orgasm, use your fingers to
massage your clitoris to get yourself to climax.
Although using a vibrator is relatively easy, using
 your fingers alone to reach an orgasm proves to be
a challenge for some women. Keep trying!
Remember, once you figure it out, your body will
become more sensitive to similar, repetitive
stimulus. Eventually, you'll be able to achieve an
orgasm within a relatively short time and even
multiple orgasms in a single session.

Ways to Get in Touch with your Sensuality

What's a better way to feel sexy than involving yourself

in activities that celebrate your body? Here are some of
my favorites:

• Hot Bath:

I just love, love this one! I actually have a bath

twice a day. I start my day with a hot bath, while
reading my newspaper and drinking my coffee.
One hour or so before going to bed, I jump into a
bubble bath and play my favorite music in the
background (this month, it's Enigma).

Caution: after taking a bath, you'll feel excited and

awake. So, don't do it too close to bedtime.
• Dancing Naked:

Some of my girlfriends who tried it felt a bit

embarrassed when they danced naked the first
time. But once they got into it, they just couldn't
stop. When you are alone, try dancing in front of
a mirror with no clothes on. Celebrate your body
and the way you look! Play some hot, sexy, dance
music. Have fun, sister!

• Exotic Dance/Pole Dance:

Taking a class in exotic dance or pole dance at a

local dance studio does wonders to the way a
woman feels about herself. A woman has to feel
sexy to look sexy. On your boyfriend's birthday,
how about giving him a private dance? You don't
have to learn everything. One well-practiced
routine is good enough.

• Sensual Massage:

Scented candles, romantic lights, massage oils

(the type that you can lick and eat), and your
favorite music in the background. What could be
better? Before you do all this with your loved
one, try to get a DVD or a book on the topic of
sensual massage to learn some basics. You can
then teach them to your guy or give him an
amazing massage that he will remember forever
 and will definitely want more of!

• Sensual Desserts:

There's something very sexy about eating sweet,

mouth-watering desserts. The temperature of the
desserts is as important as the taste. Make it either
really hot or really cold. Also, it's always a great
idea to eat it from each other. It's soooooooo
much fun!

• Skinny Dipping:

This is something you have to try! You'll feel so

free with your body and your spirit.

• Sexy Underwear:

My philosophy is either to go sexy (and comfy

too) or bare.
 On Understanding a Man's Body/Mind

• A man's brain is his most important sex organ:

A man's imagination is your best friend when it

comes to arousing him. You want to engage his
imagination by dropping a sexual hint here and
there! His brain will do the rest. Besides his
imagination, anticipation is another important
tool. Make everything progress just a bit slower
than what he would hope. The pleasure at the end
will be that much more intense.

• A man's sensitive spots:

A man has some sensitive spots: his back, arms,

ears, the area right under his jaws, nipples (this
depends on the guys), thighs, stomach (not for the
fat guys), and pretty much anywhere within five
inches of his penis.

It's helpful to keep in mind a guy's sensitive spots

when you hug him or kiss him good night. When
you hug a guy, try to caress his back slowly. Start
from his upper back, move your hands slowly
down, very slowly, stop right above his butt, go
half way up his back, and go down slowly again.
Don't go lower than his waist. He might scream :)
 When you kiss a guy a good night kiss on his
cheeks, don't just kiss his cheeks. It does nothing!
Rather, go between his cheeks and his ears. I'll
even say a bit closer to his ears. If you just met a
guy, don't bite or kiss his ears.

• Ask him about his fantasies:

Asking a guy about what his fantasies are will do

you good. You'll learn about what kind of things
arouse him, the level of his sexual imagination,
and how to “dirty talk” to him in bed.

• Find out what things turn him on:

Every guy has certain things that instantly turn

him on. It might be a woman's black garter belt,
skirts, or long hair. Also, is he a breast man, a leg
man, or a guy who loves women with curves?

• Figure out his type:

Some guys like blonds; others like brunettes; a

few like no hair (except on her head). Some guys
may like the girl-next-door type; others may like
the seductress type. Find out his type. You'll then
have a blue print to work with.
 Sensual Techniques

• On Oral Sex:

Please make sure you are over 18 before reading

this. I'm not going to jail for you. The good thing
about oral sex is that the mouth can do things that
a woman's vagina never can. You should use both
your hands, make sure they are lubricated (using
either lotion or your saliva), then rotate both your
hands in opposite directions around his penis. A
lot of women try to do the “in and out” motion
like a regular sex. It's nice, but if you want to
drive a guy crazy, the rotating thing with both
hands is your best bet. You can go a bit tight with
your hands. You can also touch or lick a guy's
balls gently. This is the place you do need to go
gentle, and you should never squeeze a guy's
balls. For the tip of a guy's penis, lick it with your
tongue. Don't bite it. The tip is very sensitive.
Finally, I have to discuss the question of “swallow
or not swallow.” I suggest you keep an open mind
to it! I remember I almost puked the first time I
ate sushi, but now I just can't get enough of it.

• On Dirty Talk:

When it comes to dirty talk, men are generally

divided. Some men love it when you talk dirty.
For this type, you can pretty much say whatever
 you like (but don't mention his mom please). You
can tell him your fantasies (especially the ones
involving many hot women). Tell him what about
him turns you on and how much you have waited
for this intimate moment. The second type of man
loves to talk dirty HIMSELF, but hates it when a
woman joins the talk. This type of man generally
loves the innocent kind of woman or the girl-next-
door type. He sees it as a big challenge to bring
out her dirty side. If you show that you are
already dirty minded, the thrill and challenge will
be gone.

• On Role Playing:

Role playing is a great way to spice things up and

accommodate a guy's love of sexual variety. It can
also be fun as long as you have enough confidence
in yourself and don't stick to the idea that if a guy
doesn't like the “natural you,” he's not really in
love with you. Instead, take joy in having the
versatility to be many women. Maybe you feel
like being a mail girl today, a French maid
tomorrow, and a sexy massage therapist the day
after. Whatever it is, let your imagination fly!
Don't limit yourself to just one role! You're still
you when you can play 10 different roles. The
only difference is now you are so much more
exciting, alluring, and drop-dead sexy!
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