13 Secrets of Flirting

Whether you've flirted with men only a few times over your
dating life or if you've been doing it forever, I'm sure you'll
agree with one thing -- it's a lot of fun if you do it right!

Unfortunately, "doing it right" can be a little vague to identify. A

lot of good flirts out there will tell you many different "rules" of
flirting, many of them contradicting each other.

Some say you should be yourself -- others say you'll have to

work a special "inner game."

Some say you should be a good conversationalist -- others say

exchanging phone numbers is all that matters.

Some say you should be fun -- others say you should be

interesting. Who should you listen to?

I'll tell you who. I'm Alexandra Fox, and I've been studying
about men and the dating game for the past several years. Nice
to meet you!

This special report will teach you the 13 secrets of flirting that
EVERY WOMAN needs to know. Out of the hundreds (or even
thousands) of pieces of flirting advice you can get, these 13
sums them all up.

Got your pen and paper ready? Here they are!

Secret #1 - Don't chase -- lead!

The first secret of flirting is also the most important one. It's
about LEADING instead of CHASING the men you meet in the
dating game.

I've seen a lot of women who make the mistake of CHASING

after the men they meet. I don't know what they plan to get from
chasing their men, but this much I know -- it won't end well.

When you're flirting, your philosophy should NEVER be to

chase after the man you want to hook up with.

Instead, you should be so NATURALLY good at the flirting

game that MEN chase after YOU!

So if you've been chasing men all this time, then you'll need to
tweak your "flirting mindset" a little bit. You'll have to turn
things around -- you should attract men, and not vice-versa!
And the other secrets will do just that. Here's secret number
two.

Secret #2 - Don't believe in soulmates!

Some women enter the dating game thinking that someone,

somewhere, is MEANT for them, and that it's their job to
LOOK for "the one."

Big mistake!

Sure, the idea of "soulmates" can be fun to entertain. And sure,

who's to say there ISN'T a special guy out there who was
actually meant for you?

But the bad thing about "looking for your soulmate" is that you
tend to set your standards a little too high. You begin to "filter
out" the men you're not attracted to, who doesn't dress well
enough, or who doesn't have a good enough career.

And when you DO find your "soulmate," you might end up

doing everything you can to make things work -- only to later
realize that he really wasn't the man you fell in love with.

Long story short -- don't believe in soulmates. To be a good flirt,

you'll have to be open to all kinds of men -- that way even if
most of them aren't worth a second of your time, you'll still
stand a good chance of meeting some of the few REAL MEN in
the dating game today.

Secret #3 - Don't try to be the best!

Here's a funny thing I've learned about myself and other women
in the dating game -- when we dress up for a party, we're not
really dressing up for the men.

We're dressing up for each other.

Interesting, huh? But it's TRUE! We try to dress up to become

the best-looking woman in the party, better than everyone else,
so that we draw the most attention from the men.

And yes, that's why whenever a woman who looks EVEN

BETTER than us walks in, we begin throwing her these "catty"
looks. (Guilty!)

But I've realized that when you try to be the best-looking

woman on the scene, you tend to waste a lot of time. Instead of
paying attention to the men, you spend too much time hating the
women!

Here's a tip -- don't try to be the best. Just be as good-looking as

you can be and FLIRT!

Secret #4 - Don't pretend to be something you're not!

Another big mistake that women make in flirting is pretending

to be something they're not, just so they get the guy's attention.

If you're 30 and you tried to pass yourself off as 21 in an online

chatroom, then you know what I mean!

Here's the hard truth -- you can't pretend you're rich, popular, or
anything else you're not, and expect him NOT to find out sooner
or later. And when he DOES find out, it's just going to ruin your
reputation -- perhaps even to men you've never even met!

So don't pretend. You'll have a lot more fun -- and a lot more
success -- when you follow secret #5:

Secret #5 - Just be (a better and better version of) yourself!

I agree that "being yourself" is more of a privilege than a right,

because some people out there really DO have bad attitudes.

But here's what I mean about "being yourself" -- try to find the
pieces of your personality that men find attractive, and work on
those.
And try to get rid of any bad traits you may have, as they're
going to render your flirting game a lot less effective!

Just get rid of the things that turn off men, and keep building up
on the things that actually attract them into your life.

Also, keep learning new things. A saying goes that "Only dead
fish swim with the current," and if you're not interesting
enough, men just might label you a "dead fish." Argh!

Secret #6 - Confidence is sexy!

Here's another tip you'll find VERY useful in flirting -- the

REAL MEN out there find confidence MUCH SEXIER than
looks and money!

So it won't matter much if you're not the prettiest or sexiest in

the bunch. If you have the confidence to match your looks, then
you're already head-and-shoulders above the competition!

If you don't have a lot of confidence in yourself, it's probably

because you worry a bit too much about how other people see
you. Are you worried that the men you meet will say weird
things about you?
Are you worried that they'll find you strange?

Are you worried that they'll find you "not attractive enough?"

I have good news -- 90% of the things you worry about never
happen!

Think about the things you used to worry about five years ago,
and you'll know what I mean.

Secret #7 - Be honest with the men you meet -- and with

yourself!

I've been flirting for years, and I've learned that it's A LOT
MORE FUN when I'm honest and upfront with the guys I meet.

When I don't have to pretend or lie or joke around to make him

like me, then our conversations always turn out a lot more
interesting -- and he's much more likely to ask for my number or
ask me out on a date.

But perhaps more importantly, you'll have to be honest with

yourself. Listen to your gut feeling about the guy, because your
intuition is a GREAT tool in flirting. When you have a good
intuition, you can instantly tell whether a guy is for real -- or
he's lying through his teeth!
 Secret #8 - Have fun!

Too many women flirt around trying to find men who'd make
great boyfriends or husbands. Consequently, these women don't
have a lot of fun in the flirting game.

And you know what? If you don't enjoy flirting, you won't have
any real success in it!

It's like your job. If you don't like it, you're eventually going to
get fired for your bad attitude. But if you learn to love it, your
positivity is going to pay off in spades!

Likewise, you'll have to enter the dating game with an open

mind and an intent to have fun.

Have fun meeting new guys!

Have fun talking with them and joking around!

Have fun becoming friends with the ones you're not particularly
attracted to! (Guess what -- it's okay!)

Don't go looking for "husband material" right away. When you

learn to enjoy flirting first, "husband material" will come your
way on its own!
 Secret #9 - Keep your first meetings short!

Now here's a very little-known secret of flirting -- about keeping

your first meetings short.

Sounds like it goes against conventional wisdom, doesn't it?

Shouldn't you engage him in a long, stimulating conversation so
that he'll like you more?

Actually, when you meet a guy for the first time, it's dangerous
to engage him in a long conversation. You run the risk of saying
something stupid, becoming boring, or otherwise coming off as
uninteresting.

Here's your goal -- when you meet a guy for the first time, you
should leave a great, irresistibly-attractive impression within 5
minutes. Your target is to get him to ask your number.

But when he DOES ask for your number, use secret number ten:

Secret #10 - Give him your e-mail!

Now, there's nothing wrong about giving him your number -- if

you don't mind interrupting whatever it is you're doing to
answer his phone call.
But the better you get at flirting, the more men will be asking
for your number -- and entertaining the phone calls of several
men in a single night can be quite a hassle.

So eventually, you might want to give him your e-mail address,

instead. That way you can read and reply to their e-mails at your
convenience.

Hey, it's possible to get THAT good at flirting! And I'm here to
help you BECOME that good.

Secret #11 - Reserve the "long, stimulating" conversation

for the first REAL date.

In secret #9, we talked about how it was a bad idea to engage

him in a long, stimulating conversation when you've just met
him for the very first time.

And that's true. When you meet a nice guy for the first time,
your goal is to leave a good first impression -- one that will
keep him thinking about you after you leave -- and exchange
phone numbers and e-mail addresses.

And when he DOES call you up and ask you out for coffee,
THEN you can have that long, stimulating conversation you've
been waiting to have with him!

VERY important secret. Keep this in mind!

Secret #12 - Talk about the heavier things.

There's a saying that goes this way: "Small people talk about
other people. Average people talk about material things. Great
people talk about ideas."

It's true -- a woman who talks about material things is more

interesting than a woman who gossips about other people. But
more than either, a woman who discusses ideas is at once both
interesting and sexy.

Believe me, too few women today talk about the "heavier
things" in life.

But that's why men see them as the "rare gems" in the dating
game. And I'd like you to become one of those "rare gems!"

Secret #13 - Don't be too attracted to any one man.

The last secret of flirting is to not be attracted to any one man.

It's easy to get your hopes up when you meet a great man, but
when you begin to depend on him, you increase your chances of
getting disappointed.

This is simply because 9 out of 10 single men you meet in the

dating game aren't really in the right place to handle a serious
relationship.

My advice? Keep meeting new men. The more men you make
friends with, the better your chances of actually uncovering
someone who's ready to spend the rest of his life with you.

That's it! I've just given you the 13 secrets of flirting. Now it's
up to you to put them into action and turn your love life around.
It's my hope that you'll enjoy flirting so much that instead of
looking for love, love will come looking for you.

Now go out there and FLIRT!