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 Module 4: The Perfect Relationship
This is Eric Edgemont, and welcome to "The Perfect Relationship".

Now, I'm going to start out talking about what it's like to be in a
relationship or have a girlfriend, or be in a long-term relationship
where this woman is really part of your life. In many ways,
hopefully you can think of her and you do think of her as a partner
when you're at this stage. The truth is, having a girlfriend or having
a long-term relationship can either be heaven or pure hell,
depending on the simple choices you make.

By simple, I don't necessarily mean that those are the choices that
you recognize are making such a big difference in your relationship
or that they're the choices that you're used to making. So what I
want to do is make you aware that choices that you're making are
determining whether your relationship is going to be heaven or
pure hell.

I'm going to show you easy things to do, right now, to make sure
your relationship is always completely happy and always a great
relationship.

Let's talk about what that is. Some of this stuff that I'm going to
say, including this first thing I'm going to tell you about, is
counterintuitive. The only way to make sure that you have a great
relationship, is to make your mood your number one priority in
your life. Now, you may say, "Wait a minute. How is making my
mood my number one priority in my life going to improve my
relationship?"

Well, the quality of your relationship is directly dependent on the

quality of your mood: the things that you say; the actions you
take; or the reactions you have to whatever she's doing. All of
these things are going to be largely determined by your mood,
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depending on how you're relating to life at any given moment. So
make your mood your number one priority.

As I've been harping on over and over again in other courses of

mine, when I say make your mood your number one priority, I
mean that you're living life in such a way that you're living it with
passion and happiness and you feel good. You participate only in
the lines of thinking that feel good to you, feel right to you, feel
nice to you, feel happy to you, feel inspiring to you. You're choosing
to live your life your way because that's what feels happy to you
and that's what feels right to you.

That is what's going to contribute to your mood and you being in a

good mood is going to make you better in your relationship. What
puts you in a good mood, she might not necessarily like. She might
think it's dorky, think it's weird, or not understand it, or whatever,
but if that's what leads to you having a good mood, that is what's
going to lead to a good relationship. In a weird way, you're going to
be selfish to improve your relationship.

Now, another major choice you need to be aware of in your

relationship, is that you need to keep what you love in your life. I
remember when at one point in my life, I shifted my priorities and I
stopped playing video games because I made other things more
important for whatever reason. One of my reasons for it was I
wanted to pursue being good with women and understand what it
was to be good with women, spend time with women, and all that
kind of stuff. I felt that the video games were working against me.

But what I didn't realize I was throwing away is something that

really made me happy. I still love video games to this day, I do.
When I have the free time to play them, I love playing them. I love
playing them with my friends and my brothers and it's a good time
for me. It relaxes me and it connects me with my buddies and my
family. These are all good things; these contribute to making me
happier.

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Even when you're in a relationship, yes, you are going to be giving
time and attention to your relationship and to the woman you're
with. But do not ever sacrifice the things you love in your life or the
things that make you happy. Don't suffer from the delusion of
thinking that getting rid of the things you love is going to improve
your relationship. It's not. It's not.

Part of being great in relationship is realizing what it is that you

love, and being with a partner who gives you the space to do what
you love, and be the way that you love being. When we talked
about compatibility, choosing a compatible person automatically is
doing that. They like the way that you are and they like how you
engage with life.

So if you're at the stage where you can choose a person, you want
to be choosing someone who loves and accepts you the way that
you love being and doing the things that you love doing. You're
going to keep those things in your life.

Related to this, this is another choice that determines how good

your relationship is going to be, whether it's going to be heaven or
pure hell, is that you choose thoughts, paths, and a lifestyle that
truly feels happy and fulfilling to you. We talked about doing the
things that make you happy, but also the thoughts and the paths.
Let's talk about that a little bit.

When I say you choose thoughts that make you happy, what I'm
saying is there are sometimes things that we could think about and
it's not going to get us any closer to a resolution. It's not going to
give us any answer that we haven't thought about 100 times
before. It's only going to stress us out, it's only going to make us
depressed, it's only going make us angry, it's only going to make
us sad, it's only going to make us jealous, it's only going to make
us feel inferior, feel unworthy, or whatever.

One of the weird things to realize about human psychology is,

sometimes we buy into this idea that our misery, or thinking down
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a miserable line of thought, is going to somehow eventually bring
about what it is that we want. Kind of like a child pouting and
pouting and crying and screaming until he finally gets candy. We
can sometimes buy into that belief that being miserable or thinking
down a miserable line of thought is a payoff.

I remember for years I spent all this time trying to figure out why I
felt so bad, or figure out why my relationships weren't going the
way I wanted, why I wasn't attractive in the way that I wanted to
be to women, or whatever it happened to be. I never got answers
when I thought about it, kept thinking about it, obsessing about it,
and worrying about it.

I never got answers, but every time, it felt shitty to me. It felt
terrible to me and it brought my mood down. It absolutely
shattered my mood.

Nowadays, I don't do that. When setbacks come up in my life or

something goes in a way that I wouldn't have chosen for it to go,
instead of engaging in this whole thought process of, "This is a
problem. I need to resolve this. How am I going to resolve this?
What does this mean about me?" all this kind of crap that would
make me feel terrible, I just accept, "Well, that's what happened
and we're just going to see what happens. I'm going to be happy
through this. This is all part of the whole game of life. This is all
part of the dream.

"I don't know where things are going to go. I don't know how this is
going to affect things, but whether it's positive or negative, I'd
never know how something is going to affect things. It's just 'This
is what happened and I'm engaging with it in a way that isn't
shaking up my mood. I was happy before this happened and I'm
happy after it, and I'm happy during it. I'm happy right now.'"

So, it's a different kind of thinking. You don't pick up hot coals and
grip them tightly with your hand. When you recognize something is
burning you, you immediately drop it and you only pick up things
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that feel good to you. On a similar note, when I talk about paths
that feel good and happy to you.

I remember for years when I was learning to be good with women,

understanding how to attract women, and all that kind of stuff, I
spent many years of my life going to bars, clubs, and stuff like that
to figure out how attraction works. What made women choose one
type of guy versus another? What made me more attractive in
those environments, and how could I pick up women there?

I was successful, but to be honest with you, I don't like bars or

clubs. I like lounges where I'm with my friends and we're just
having a chat and a few drinks, it's laid back, and there's no
agenda, mission, or anything like that. I like a nice, upscale lounge
to chill out with my friends. The idea of going to a bar or to a club
to meet women just sucks. I don't enjoy it.

I'm not saying for other guys that it's a bad thing. If you love, just
inherently love bars and clubs and going there, even if nothing
happens with a woman, even if every woman rejects you, you'd still
have a good time or even if you just chilled out and you didn't talk
to any women and got no results with women but you were just
there and enjoying yourself.

If you inherently enjoy it, great. This is not me talking against bars
and clubs. What I'm saying is for me personally, it just wasn't a
match. I never enjoyed it. There was never any inherent joy in it,
so the idea of going to bars and clubs to meet women, was
constantly a grind, it was constantly an energy drain. I never felt
comfortable or happy in the environments. I had to force myself
and psych myself up into enjoying myself.

These days, because I don't really care, not just about the idea of
approaching women and picking up women at a bar or something. I
don't really care about that the way that I used to care about it.
But I don't care or stress over a lot of things that I used to care or
stress about, because I shifted into a mindset where my mood is
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the most important thing. Not results I got on the outside world,
not how people perceived me, not what people think of me, and not
how women respond to me or people respond to me.

The most important thing is my mood and that the people that I
spend my time around are people that I feel good around. I just
naturally feel good, comfortable, and happy around them and they
feel good, comfortable, and happy around me. The environments I
spend my time in, I feel good, happy, and comfortable in.

That's what I'm talking about when I'm talking about choosing a
path that feels happy and fulfilling to you. You don't keep forcing
yourself to eat poison. If you don't like something, if every time you
do something or think something it feels bad and poisonous to you,
it's time to drop it.

There are so many ways to get what you want out of life that feel
happy and natural, that there's no reason to force yourself through
some pathway that doesn't feel happy and natural to you. It's going
to be different for everybody. That's why your greatest teacher is
going to be your gut, the feelings in your body.

It's not going to be me, it's not going to be someone on the

Internet, some guy who's claiming that he can solve all your
problems, it's not going to be a book, a course, or anything. I'm
going to guide you. I'm going to give you signposts that point to
where you want to go so that you get not only the results you want
but you're a lot more successful in general in life and you're a lot
happier in life. I'm going to point you to that.

I'm going to do everything in my power to give you those things,

but ultimately, the way you're going to get there is you are also
going to start allowing yourself and your body to be your teacher.
You're going to start really listening to yourself in the right places,
and that's going to get you the kind of results that you've always
wanted.

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Along these lines, and I kind of touched on this point, we were
talking about choices and paths, the people that I spend my time
around and the environments I spend my time in now. I think this
is going to take thought on your part. You might want to journal
about this, or do whatever you got to do to figure out if this applies
to you.

One of the things that really brought me to a new level of

effectiveness, success, and happiness in my life, both with women
and in every aspect of my life, was I dumped people from my life
that felt like they ground against my happiness, well-being, and
peace. My recommendation to you is dump people from your life
that feel like they grind against your happiness, well-being, and
peace. Dump them. Drop them.

When I say dump them and drop them, I'm not talking about being
cruel to them, cold to them, or giving them an ultimatum. What I'm
really talking about is in your own mind, all the drama, all the
resentment, or all the unresolved issues that you feel you have,
give up. Give up on all those things. If it means you perceive it as
letting them win, let them win.

Give up, because whatever battle or stake you feel you need to
defend here, what you're really doing is poisoning your mood
constantly when you're around these people. Forcing yourself to be
with people who grind against your happiness, well-being, and
peace is going to destroy your mood, and that is going to destroy
your attractiveness. You don't even realize it, but it makes you
tremendously more unattractive. It tremendously brings down your
attractiveness.

You got to get rid of those people, those environments, and those
paths in your life. Because, when your mood is negatively affected,
when you're constantly experiencing worry, fear, discomfort,
disturbance, anger, hate, jealousy, depression, or any of these
kinds of things, through virtue of the people you're exposing
yourself to, the environments, and how you're engaging with life,
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that's all contributing to destroying your attractiveness and
destroying your mojo.

When you get rid of all that stuff, it gets so much easier to bring
about your attractiveness and to unlock all that mojo. You're going
to be amazed at how attractive women find you, after you dump all
that stuff that's working against your attractiveness. A lot of guys
don't really need stuff to amp up their attractiveness. What they
really needed was to dump all the things that are standing in the
way in their life, in the way that they engage with life.

Once they start engaging with life in a way where they make their
mood their number one priority, everything just becomes so easy.
They can't even believe how easy it becomes with women and with
success in life in general. It's very important that you realize that.
It's very important that you realize that you need to start dumping
things from your life. Dumping people, dumping environments, and
dumping ways of approaching life or thinking about things that
don't feel good to you.

Nature wants you to do that. Nature wouldn't make you feel bad if
something was good for you. Nature makes you feel happy, which
is a very pure feeling. I'm talking about happiness, not mistake as
happiness, like getting fired up over something or angry about
something. That's not the same as happiness. Happiness is very
light, very pure, and very easy.

You can feel that it really is good for you. It's good for your body.
Nature is trying to say, "Choose that path." That's how nature
guides people. They make things that are bad paths for them, feel
bad, and they make things that are good things for them and feel
good.

Start paying attention to that and no, this is not stuff that I haven't
said before. Of course, if you're saying, "This sounds familiar,"
yeah, it is familiar, but it's relevant here for having the perfect
relationship.
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I want to talk about a two-step system now that removes 90% of
the drama and fighting from a relationship so that you're always
happy and satisfied instead of miserable and bitter.

This is a weird concept here. I don't think anybody has ever talked
about this in terms of how it affects relationships, but here we go.
Never split your attention. When you're with her, when you're with
the woman you're with, be with her. Have you attention with her. It
doesn't mean that if you're watching a movie together, she's
staring at the screen and you're staring at her like a creep. No, of
course not.

What I'm saying is if you're watching a movie with her, be present

in that experience with her. Don't be fiddling with your phone,
checking your email, and doing all that kind of stuff. If you're
having a dinner with her, it's the same thing. Be with her, share the
experience with her, and be in the moment with her. She really
wants that.

When you're not with her mentally, when your attention isn't with
her, it's going to cause a lot of problems. I'm going to talk about
that in a moment. When you're not physically with her, when you're
at your job, you're doing your hobby by yourself, you're with your
friends, or whatever, give complete attention to what you're doing
then. That's the time that you should be focusing on your job, your
friends, your hobby, or whatever. You can be into that.

Men work best when we pour our attention 100% into what we're
doing. That's counter to what a lot of society is set up like now,
where you've got your email going off and then your text message,
and then Skype is ringing you and then someone's giving you a
Snapchat. Then somebody is calling your phone and freaking about
some problem and everything is urgent and go, go, go. You are
doing what I call "multitasking yourself to hell".

The most effective people that I know are very efficient at getting a
lot of things done, but they don't multitask. They don't split their
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attention. When they're in something, instead of trying to do 50
things at once, they go really deep into attention on that one thing.
When they're relaxing, they really go deeply into the relaxation;
they feel all the sensations, they hear all the sounds, they see all
the sights.

When they're with somebody, they're really with them; they're

really paying attention, they're really enjoying their time with them,
and all that kind of stuff. When they're doing work, they're
completely focused on the one matter at hand. They're not worried
about the relationship, they're not fiddling around with their cell
phone, they're not thinking about the next 50 things that need to
be done; they focus on that thing and they knock it out.

When you're with a woman, give her that complete attention.

Women crave that from the guy, and you're going to see this in a
moment as I explain the implications of this. You can tell her that
when you're with her, you only want to give her 100% attention.
That means that when you're handling other stuff, you need to take
care of it completely so that when you're with her, you're not
distracted.

That's one of those conversations that I usually have with a

girlfriend. I'm constantly working. I'm a very hard worker, I get lost
in my work, and I love my work. But sometimes a girl will say,
"Well, you didn't call me in X number of hours or X number of
days," or, "I sent you these text messages," or whatever. Or if I
don't feel like doing something and I want to pass on some certain
plan, the way I explain myself in a way that feels good to her, and
in a way she understands and is on board with is I say, "Look, I
have a rule with the time I spend with you.

"When I spend time with you, I want to be 100% with you. I don't
want to be distracted by shit, I don't want to be worried about
something, I don't want to feel like there's something that still
needs to get done that's only half finished, or whatever. I want to
be completely there with you.
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"It's just I feel like that's the best thing for the relationship, that's
the best thing for us, and it's just the best thing for how I operate,
too. I want to give you that version of myself, which is, I think, the
best version. The only way I'm going to be able to do that is if I do
whatever it is that I'm doing at the moment." If I'm doing work that
day for my company, I would say, "Well, I got to get through this
work so that when I see you I can really be present with you and
give you 100% attention."

If I want to go hang out with my buddies instead of hanging out

with her. Some women get bent out of shape when you hang out
with your buddies. Some women, not the ones that I date these
days, but that's aside from the point. When you can say to her,
"Look, I'm going to hang out with my buddies. That helps me
unwind, it helps me blow off steam, it helps me do guy stuff, which
I got to do. That's part of what helps make me my best version of
me.

"When I can get all that guy stuff out of my system, then when I'm
with you, I can be completely with you. I'm not thinking about
going and doing whatever else it is that I do. I'm thinking about
you. I'm there with you."

What I'm giving you here is not only a lifestyle, but a way of
explaining it. Those are the two steps. You realize that you don't
split your attention, and you have a way of explaining it, framing it
in a way that she can be on board with and like it. Because really,
what you're saying is, "I have to do this because the relationship is
important to me and I want it to be as good as possible, so that's
why this needs to happen this way."

Now, let's talk about long-distance relationships for a second

because I know some of the guys listening might be in one, they
might have been in one, or you may find yourself in a long-distance
situation, at least temporarily. There are some things that guys do
that make them completely fall apart and really go down quick in a
flaming pile of wreckage.
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Then there's stuff that will keep you bonded, and in many ways,
make your relationship stronger if you do it right. The biggest
destructive force in a long-distance relationship is your worry. She
can feel your worry, so you need to have an attitude where you're
okay with whatever happens. See, I keep talking about this and I
got to always drive the point home and connect it up to how it all
relates.

When you're in a long-distance relationship, a lot of the time, a guy

will worry, "Is she cheating? Is she falling out of love? Is she losing
interest in the relationship? Maybe this thing won't work out. We're
so far apart and there are guys there." and all this kind of stuff.

Any time that you are participating in a line of thought that triggers
negative emotions, you are destroying your attractiveness. You are
destroying your mojo. You are drinking the poison and all of your
mojo is evaporating. That's something people can feel coming off of
you, they can see coming off of you, and they can hear it in your
voice. Seeing as how participating in something that's going to
destroy your attractiveness is going to guarantee that your
relationship is going to fall apart, we need a different approach.

You need to be okay with whatever happens. My advice to guys

when they get into a long-distance relationship situation is to give
up on your relationship and just have fun. Have that attitude
towards it. I've been in long-distance relationships and the ones
that fell apart were the ones that I worried about and I got bent out
of shape. I saw that there was a problem, I tried endlessly to solve
it. I was just spiraling myself down into disaster with my worry,
concern, and my viewing it as a problem.

I wasn't having any fun with it. I was suffocating myself with
negative emotions. Your mood on the calls and the times that you
and she connect is very important. It's the most important thing.
So you got to be thinking about if there are thoughts that are
triggering negative emotions, if you are on some level viewing the
long-distance relationship as a problem, or if you are concerning
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yourself or are worried about problems and are trying to solve
them.

Can you find a place where you just give up on the relationship and
just have fun with it as it is and as it happens, even if it completely
falls apart? Can you find that part in yourself that's like, "Well, I
don't really have any control anyway, so I'm going to just give up
control and have fun. I'm going to be okay with this"?

That's really the secret to long-distance relationships; it's finding

that place. When I say "...give up on the relationship and just have
fun", I'm not saying to go cold to her, shut down all your emotions.
All of a sudden be some kind of a distant jerk to her because you
gave up on your relationship. That's not what I'm saying.

What I'm saying is to give up on all the thoughts about it that are
making you upset. Give up on the thoughts that say that if the
relationship breaks up, then it means something bad about you or
it means something bad about your future.

Give up on the thought that if the relationship breaks up, that

something bad is going to happen for your future, you're going to
lose your chance, you're going to be less, or your life is going to be
lacking.

Give up on all that and just have fun with her. Because I'm sure
that when you started the relationship, you were having fun, you
were relaxed, you were having a good time, and it was just fun in
and of itself. That's the energy that's going to keep the relationship
alive while it's long distance. So that's the most important thing.
Your mood is the most important thing in a long-distance
relationship.

One of the things that guys ask me about, on another subject is,
"How do you transition from dating to making her your girlfriend?
How do you put it into action so that she's your loyal, devoted, and

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eager girlfriend, as quickly as you want it to happen? How do you
do that?"

Well, the way that you want to be going about this is, I think guys
are really helped out a lot when they have a kind of barometer or a
way to measure where they're at with a woman or where a
relationship is at. One of the big questions that comes up is, "When
should I ask her if she should be my girlfriend? Should I ask her to
be my girlfriend? Is it the right time? Is it in the right place? Am I
going to screw things up?" All these kinds of questions come up.

The thing to pay attention to with a woman and with a relationship

is that you want to use fun, happiness, enjoyment, and energy as
the barometer of your relationship, as the way of measuring how
good your relationship is. How much fun do you guys have
together? How much do you laugh together? How comfortable are
you guys together? How happy are you guys with each other?

How much do you enjoy each other? What's the energy like? Do
you light each other up? When the answer to all those questions is
yes. When you have a lot of fun together, when you're comfortable
with each other, when you're happy together, when you enjoy each
other. When you light each other up and just fill each other with
energy being around each other, that's a very clear indicator that
she would love to be your girlfriend. That she'd really enjoy it.

This is assuming that you've been together and you've started

dating, going on real dates with her and had real romantic
chemistry. This is not like a situation where she's your friend and
you have so much fun together, but there has never been any hint
of romantic interactions between the two of you. It's someone you
fantasize about but you've never actually made any sort of
romantic move or had any sort of romantic thing.

I'm talking about this in the context of after you've crossed a

romantic plane with her, after you crossed that line where maybe
you've been intimate with her physically, or you have at least
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touched each other in romantic ways, kissed each other, or
whatever. It's not just a friend situation here.

If it's good, if things are good, fun, happy, enjoyable, and the
energy is high, then I can tell you she's going to be dying for you to
ask her to be your girlfriend. The ball will be in your court. If
everything feels good in the interaction. If the experience of you
and of you guys being together feels good, women are dying to
have that guy lock down a relationship with them.

Let's talk about bad sides. If you are with a woman, you've been
dating a woman, and you feel like you have to become her
boyfriend. You have to make her your girlfriend and lock her down
or else she's going to leave, that's a bad sign.

If you feel like you're not enough for her, you're unworthy of her,
or you're afraid to lose her so you want to throw a cage over her,
so to speak. You want to lock her down because you're afraid
you're not enough. She's too good for you. Or she's better than
you're ever going to be able to get again and that's why you want
to make her your girlfriend. That's also a bad sign.

Those are the two big warning signs that you want to be looking
out for. If you feel like you're pressured into making her your
girlfriend. There's pressure to do it or else something bad is going
to happen like she's going to leave or whatever. That is a very clear
indicator that you should not make her your girlfriend. You are
going to be way better off if you don't.

The other indicator would be if you're doing it out of fear that

you're going to lose her because you're not good enough, she's too
good for you, or whatever. That's also a reason to probably not
make her your girlfriend until you're past that, until you don't care
about that anymore.

Giving her the "girlfriend" title, if you feel like you're out of control,
you don't have any power in the relationship. It's kind of like she's
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above you somehow. You have no control and it's like you're
chasing her or something. Even if she agrees to you calling her
your girlfriend, you're not going to possess her. You're not going to
be able to keep her from being attracted to other guys if that's
what ends up happening or whatever.

When you get into a relationship and it's because both of you just
enjoy each other so much, that's an entirely different ball game.
That's a relationship that's really built on a very strong foundation
that's going to last. Just enjoy the moment and let the moment, let
your experience of being with her, be your guide.

When you can tell her that you want her as your exclusive girlfriend
without any fear, worry, or feeling like you have to do it or else
you're going to lose somehow. Then you're in the right place. Then,
it's the right time to ask and it's going to work out really well for
you.

Here's another question that comes up in relationships a lot. "How

do you handle money? What about the money and the dating
situation?" Stuff like that. Some guys are even concerned gold
diggers or women coming after them for their money or whatever.
Let's talk about that because this can be really simple.

Personally, when I'm going on dates with women, when I'm

meeting women for the first time in a date situation, I make the
initial date casual and low cost. I pick up the tab; I pay for it. I
don't mind picking up one coffee for a girl, paying for a few drinks
with a woman, or whatever. It's inconsequential to me to do it.
Frankly, I know that there are guys who say, "Never pay for
anything with a girl." and all this stuff.

Frankly, it's such a tiny thing. It matters so little to me that I don't

get bent out of shape about it. It just doesn't matter. What I do
know is that women can get weird about the issue of money and a
guy not paying. Why create a problem when solving the problem

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with just paying for a few drinks or paying for a coffee makes it go
away, makes it just so much easier?

That said, I'm not going to the bar and buying every woman I have
a conversation with a drink. If I was going to a bar situation, for
example, and I do go to bars and I do talk to women at bars, it's
just not my preferred place but I do do it. I'll have a conversation
first with the woman and I'll measure the energy.

I'll see, "Am I having fun with this? Is this genuinely fun? Is she
having genuine fun with me? Are we generally getting each other or
are we not?" If I'm having fun, if we're having a good time, and the
energy is to buy a drink, I'll buy her a drink.

It's a good thing. The conversation will keep going, we'll have fun
together, and it's a nice thing. I'm buying her the drink because
we're having a nice time together and I don't mind buying a drink
for somebody else. I don't mind buying a drink for somebody who I
get along with and I enjoy. I'm not doing it to get anything out of
her.

Again, I like to share my mentality on these things because when

you approach dating and women in this way, all the answers are
going to immediately become clear to you, about what you should
be doing in any situation to get good results. I share these tangents
and stuff like that so that I can help wire it in and show you how it
all connects.

Sometimes, once in a blue moon, I've had a woman object to a

coffee date, or a drink date, or something like that because she
doesn't think it's a real date or something like that. Frankly, I
wouldn't even entertain a woman like that at this point, if that's the
first thought out of her mouth, something so ridiculous like that.

I know that people aren't going to be able to have a great, deep

conversation with me, some kind of a conversation that I'd actually
enjoy and be entertained by, if something like whether I take them
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to dinner versus take them to drinks or take them to coffee is going
to be the make or break decision. Okay, bye-bye.

I don't need to deal with somebody like that. But let's say that for
whatever reason, you care and you want a response or she's like,
"Coffee date? Those aren't real dates," or whatever. You can just
say, "Look, I like to keep it casual for the first date because I want
both of us to know we really like each other," you don't have to say
really like each other, but, "We like each other and we'll pick it up
from there."

It's honest, it's clear, it's straightforward, and frankly, you're going
to be picking up the tab, so if she has really got an issue with that,
then congratulations, you could move on from her immediately and
save yourself a world of hurt. Because dealing with a woman like
that, I guarantee you it would be nothing but a headache and a
pain.

When you're with her, and when I say "with her", I mean you're
spending time with her, whether it's your first date or whether
you've been with her for years, focus on the quality of the time that
you have together. Don't bring up money and don't try to impress
her with anything money related. If you feel during the time that
you're spending with her, that she's fixated on money or material
stuff and you're not driving the conversation towards money or
material stuff, then that's the sign to pay attention to.

That's the sign that would show you that she's got some sort of
money fixation and she might be going after your money. Women
like this are actually pretty rare. They paint it out on the TV and the
news like it's a common thing for women to really, legitimately be a
gold digger, willing to ruthlessly do anything to get money out of
guys. But most women are not like that. They don't actually do
that.

If you feel like she's fixated on money and driving the conversation
towards money or material stuff and you're not bringing it up, then
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that's the sign that shows you that she's a gold digger. At that
point, you either decide if you're okay with that or not. Personally, I
wouldn't be okay with it. I would move on, because I want
something different from the time that I spend with a woman.

If I'm having just a fling and she's a gold digger but she doesn't
have a high price tag well, that reminds me of another kind of
arrangement, but whatever. Sometimes that can be a good thing. If
you enjoy your time with her, you don't mind buying a few dinners,
that's what keeps things moving along. It's a casual thing that
you're not trying to turn into your long- term relationship or wife,
then hey, have at it. Have the time of your life.

That's the way you detect a gold digger. You just notice where she
drives the conversation and you yourself do not drive it towards
money or material stuff. You're not going to impress her anyway.
But besides that, it's going to make it hard to see if she has that
fixation if you're bringing up money stuff.

One of the things that guys are fixated on, and I kind of blame
people who are trying to help but actually end up hurting in their
efforts to teach men about women, is that guys get concerned
about a woman testing them. "Am I passing her tests? What are
her secret tests to find out if she's attracted to me or not, if she can
trust me or not, or whatever?"

Let's talk about tests. Let's talk about tests that women use to see
if they can trust you, see if you're an attractive man, and all that
kind of stuff so that you know when she's "testing you" and you
always pass with flying colors. The truth of the matter is, you will
"pass every test" if you don't care what happens and you're
unafraid to talk about anything.

A lot of guys have this idea that being with a woman, especially a
woman that they want, is like walking this tightrope and you're
passing or failing every test. That's in their head, not her head. In
her head, she's just seeing, "Do I like this guy? How does this feel?
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Am I having a good time? Does he like me? Does he want me?" all
this kind of stuff.

They're not thinking about, "I'm going to give him a test and see if
he passes the test." They're not doing that. Furthermore, when a
guy views his interactions with a woman as something where he
can either pass or fail, the reason for that is because he has built
up an agenda in his mind. He's built it into a mission and, like I've
said before in many of my other courses, the key to being creepy is
having an agenda.

If you want to be creepy to women, which means absolutely not

just unattractive, it means repulsive, they want to get away from
you, and they're afraid of you. If you want to be creepy, have an
agenda with women. Treat them like a goal, treat them like they're
a target, or treat them like they're an object. I guarantee you'll
creep every single woman out if you view them as some sort of a
goal and that reaching the goal means passing a bunch of tests.

When people talk about objectifying women, and you hear that
term thrown around, usually, by idiots in the media just babbling
about some sort of feminist agenda or whatever it happens to be.
Let me tell you what is really meant by objectifying women.
Essentially, what it means is, instead of spending time with her,
being present with her as a person, and enjoying your time
together, you view her or getting her to do something, as some
sort of goal, mission, or objective. You do whatever you need to do
or you try to do whatever you need to do to carry out that
objective.

Usually, that's sleeping with the woman, but it could be something

else. That's objectifying a woman. In general, if someone is doing
that to you, like if a salesperson is trying to make you buy a car
and they'll say or do anything to get you to do it, even if it's against
your best interest, they're objectifying you. You're an objective in
their mind. You're not a person. They're not connected with you on
any real level.
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The way that you pass a test every time is, instead of having
objectives, you don't really care what happens and you're not afraid
to talk about anything. You just enjoy the time together and if it's
true, well, it's true. There's no reason to be afraid to talk about
anything; it's true. You're not affected by it.

It doesn't mean anything about you. You don't have any ego to
protect, image to inflate or protect, or anything like that. If it's
true, it's true, and if it's not true, you don't have to worry about it
because it's not true. Either way, it takes care of itself.

You pass a test every time when you don't care what happens and
you're unafraid to talk about anything. You don't care about
projecting some image. You don't attempt to project some kind of
an image or be some sort of something. You can't win the game if
you're trying to win or are caring about winning; that's the weird
thing.

In a bigger sense, it's not even a game in the first place. If you're
thinking of it as a game, you're already on the losing path. For the
sake of a figure of speech, you'll win everything you could win by
being this way, by being a way where you're just happy, enjoying
the interaction, not caring about winning, and not being concerned
with it.

Everything that wouldn't have worked is going to fall effortlessly

away. By that, I mean that all the stuff that you could have done to
try and win or anything that doesn't end up happening, it wasn't
going to happen. The Internet is going to have you believe that
there's some sort of backflip psychological super-technique to
psychologically warp a woman's mind into wanting to sleep with
you. That's just not the case.

Yes, there are things that you can do that are going to increase
your chances of turning her on and making her want to sleep with
you. I talk about them. There are other people out there who talk
about them. It's all good. I'm not saying that there aren't helpful
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things to do, but the idea that you can take something that wasn't
going to work and do some sort of mind-warping psychological
acrobatics, is just not real.

There are people who are going to sell you the idea that it's real.
Go ahead and buy their course, and when you're disappointed by it
you can cash in on their refund policy, because everybody has one
and most companies are very good about refunding you. By all
means, if you don't believe me, if you say, "Well, everyone is
talking about psychologically warping her," go ahead and check it
out. It's no risk to you.

A lot of the courses with a heavy sales message do have some

helpful stuff in there. So I'm not against you checking it out. I'm
trying to shift your mentality, that it's not about winning this goal,
reaching this goal, doing all sorts of crazy things, and passing tests.
It's about you dropping that entire mentality.

The ultimate trick is knowing that nothing that happens with a

woman means anything about you. Whether she sleeps with you or
doesn't sleep with you, whether she kisses you or doesn't kiss you.
Whether she thinks you're an asshole or thinks you're a cool guy,
or thinks you're a really nice guy but just a friend. None of it means
anything about you.

One of the things that guys struggle with the most is when they
buy into this idea that something a woman did or is doing means
something about them. That's when a guy's mind really latches into
it and has a lot of trouble accepting what is actually occurring.

One of the major shifts that helps guys shift out of being really
unsuccessful with women to being really successful, is that they
stop chasing pussy. I'm not saying that they don't sleep with a lot
of women now, but they stopped chasing pussy. Instead, they
started chasing their passions in life.

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I'm not saying to start a super mega-company, fly to Africa and
feed the starving. Or invent the cure for cancer, or any of these
kinds of things. When I say chase your passions, I'm saying that
you let your mood be what determines what you're going to be
doing in that moment. You participate in thoughts that feel good,
actions that feel good, environments that feel good, and hobbies
that feel good.

You pursue things in your life that feel exciting to you to pursue,
because you just love pursuing them. You just love participating in
them, and you would do it for free. When you tap into that energy
and passion, that lights up your mojo. That lights up your
attractiveness in a massive and amazing way.

Sometimes I'll tell this to guys and they'll take it in; they'll really
listen and maybe after a few days or a week of thinking about it,
they'll say, "You know? I've always wanted to do X and I just had
this impulse like I was going to look on the Internet and learn how
to do X, or learn how to start doing X, and I signed up for a class,"
or, "I just started doing it," or, "I started putting a plan together for
it," or whatever it is, and they just start engaging.

Lo and behold, a month later, these guys have a girlfriend because

they just spent the month so passionate about working on the thing
that they've always wanted to do, but just didn't do it yet. They
finally just took massive action and they got massive results.
Everything in their life started clicking, making sense, and working.
They started loving life and their energy was so good with the
woman.

Then, they say to themselves, "Oh, I got this girl. Oh, I never had a
girl like this before. I could lose her if I don't ba-ba-ba-ba-ba."
Then, they shift out of that place they were when they met her,
which was just loving life, chasing their passions, enjoying their
passions, and just having fun with life. They transition out of that
energy, which attracted her massively in the first place, to an
energy of worrying about her. Trying to keep her, and grasping
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desperately onto what it is they feel they have and the way that
they're framing it in their mind.

It's all just a fucking head game. It's ridiculous, but a lot of guys
will do that, where they'll do all this stuff to get a woman and then
once they "get her", then they feel like they can stop doing all the
things that worked in the first place. Then they start obsessing over
trying to keep her, are worrying that she's going to leave, or any of
that kind of stuff.

This whole pursuing passion and not pussy, thing that applies even
more when you're in the relationship. Because women,
psychologically, they want to be around the guy that's living life
that way, that's really pursuing his passion.

Not only does it feel indescribably attractive to women when they're

around a guy who's being like that, but women naturally want to be
that woman in your corner. But if you're not pursuing anything or if
you give up pursuing your passions, then she can't be that
anymore. Not only are you taking away that role from yourself, of
being the man who's pursuing his passions. You're also taking away
that role from her of being the woman in your corner.

She wants to be that. She selected you and she continues to select
you because you are that man for whom she can be in your corner.
She wants that dynamic, so don't cheat her out of it.

Another question that guys will ask me about is, "How can you tell
if she's a dishonest woman?" Whether she's going to cheat on you,
lie to you, or screw you over somehow down the line. This is
actually something you can very easily determine. Observe how she
is with others in her life and observe other areas of her life. One
clear indicator is her friends.

I remember years ago I knew this girl, I was dating this woman
and all of her friends were dishonest, cheating, lying people. They

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were not good to their boyfriends or the men they were with. They
were selfish, they were deceitful, and the worse kind of women.

The woman I was with I felt was not like that. I kept thinking to
myself, "Why do you hang out with these people? They're nothing
like you." Lo and behold, as time went on and as things dawned on
me, she was like those people. It really is true the saying about
how birds of a feather will flock together.

In this case, that's the truth about women. You want to look at
their friends and that's very clearly going to show you what kind of
a person she is nine times out of ten. There are other indicators,
too. Look at how she is with other people when she's dealing with
them and in other areas of her life.

If she's dishonest with others or tells stories about other people

she's close to being dishonest, you can be certain that she's
eventually going to be that way with you once she thinks that she
can get away with it. If she tells stories, even if it's like you're the
guy who's in on the joke with her, but she tells you these stories
about how she was dishonest or screwed over somebody. As time
goes on, you get comfortable with each other, and she learns you,
she will eventually start being dishonest with you when it serves
her.

You might think to yourself in those situations, "No, she'd never do

it to me. She's with me. I'm her partner in crime," and all this kind
of stuff. The thing is that dishonest people are good at making
people think that they're on their side. That's how their able to get
away with being dishonest for as long as they're able to be
dishonest.

People who aren't good at doing that quickly learn that being
dishonest is not a good path for them and they abandon it. When
you hear people talking about how they got away with being
dishonest to other people. You can be certain that they're, on some
level, watching you and learning you and if a situation ever
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presents itself where it serves them to be dishonest with you, they
will be.

I hate to tell you that. Don't pursue dishonest women. They will be
dishonest with you down the line. It's a guarantee. Well, it's a near
guarantee. I don't want to make a guarantee for something like
that. How about 99.99% likelihood she will be dishonest with you?
There you go.

As they say, lay down with dogs, you're going to get fleas, so avoid
dishonest people. The clues are always there. While they might not
be very obviously showing that they're being dishonest with you, of
course they're going to hide that they're being dishonest with you.
Dishonest people don't tend to hide their dishonesty with others.

While they might hide their dishonesty from you, they won't hide
their acts of dishonesty that involve other people. They might even
gleefully tell you about their acts of dishonesty with other people, if
they're a dishonest person. That's what you want to be looking out
for.

One of the questions that I get a lot from guys is, "Once I've got
her, how do I keep her interested? How do I keep her desiring me,
wanting me, never losing interest, or any of that kind of thing?"
Again, it goes back to making your mood the number one thing in
your life. Your mood is what's going to determine your mojo. It's
going to determine your attractiveness.

When you make your mood the number one thing and you source
your good mood from how you engage with life, not from life
conditions, not from what she's doing, not from what she's saying,
or anything like that. When you make your mood the number one
priority in your life. When you get in the habit of being really good
at engaging with life in a way where you're always in a truly,
genuinely, purely good mood, your mojo is always going to be
shining extremely bright.

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You're always going to be incredibly attractive. That's going to
attract her more and more and more. The more she's around you,
the better she's going to feel, and when she's not around you,
when you're away, it's going to feel like the sunshine went away.
She's going to be craving you and wanting you back. She's going to
want that pure good-mood energy. She's going to want to be
around that.

That's addicting to women. The more they're around it, the more
attached they become and the more they want you around. That's
really the secret. Whether you've been with her for one day or one
decade, it always, always, always is going to come down to your
mood and how you engage with life, that determines whether your
attractiveness is going to decline or whether it's going to increase
over time. Because that is possible when you start engaging with
life and with your relationship in this way.

People talk about the idea of a relationship losing its spark and
being afraid that, "Yeah, we love each other and we're friends with
each other, but it doesn't have a spark anymore. There's no
passion anymore." One of the things that really helped me loosen
up around the relationship and make sure that I wasn't suffocating
the passion out of it, is instead of having this attitude that she
needs to be doing this, she needs to be having sex with me X
number of times a day, week, or whatever.

My attitude became to let the chips fall where they may. The
relationship is going to unfold naturally. Relationships are natural;
they're determined by nature. The feelings we have in relationships
are determined by nature. Nature is trying to guide us to make it
the best possible thing it can be.

Nature is actually on our side. So, I'm going to let the chips fall
where they may and not have the attitude that I'm forcing it. I'm
going to make my mood my number one priority in life because my
mood is actually trying to show me the best kind of path.

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That's why we have mood and I'm going to be 100% in the
moment with her without needing to get somewhere. Just have fun.
There's that energy that you're going to be bringing to the
relationship.

But in terms of keeping her interested, attracted, and turned on by

you so that you're like catnip to women, there are these factors.
There's following your passion in life, so you're pursuing passion,
not pussy. That's what turns you on the most. When you have
something in your life that you love pursuing even more than
pussy, then you know that you're really unlocking your
attractiveness, you know that you're really unlocking the heart of
what unlocks your mojo.

Anything that you're doing, you're going to make sure your

attention isn't split. You're going to give it your total, deep focus.
Your focus and attention on whatever it is you're focusing on, is
going to be like the deep ocean. You're going to wrap whatever
you're working on, including if it's a person that you're with,
spending quality time with. You're going to wrap them in the warm
arms and the deep sea of your attention and your focus, because
that really turns women on.

When they feel like they're with a guy, masculine attention,

attention from a guy, and it doesn't mean that you're necessarily
on her, but you're with her in the moment, that is one of the
sexiest things possible to a woman. Let me draw a contrast
between what I mean by with a woman and not with a woman.

If you're having sex with a woman, for example, and you're off in
your head fantasizing about another woman or a porn scene,
thinking about your taxes, or anything else other than being there
with her. Seeing the sights, hearing the sounds, feeling the
sensations, sensing her, and being there with her. If you're in your
head doing some kind of bullshit, you are not with her.

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That's the opposite of what I'm talking about when I say masculine
focus and masculine attention. You're shutting down the sexiest
force that you possibly have. Because as men, you know what it
feels like to be turned on by a woman with the boobs you like, the
hair you like, the face you like, the body you like, the butt you like,
and all that kind of stuff. You know what it's like to be turned on by
a woman who is the way that you think is hot, or looks the way
that you think is hot.

To women, it's not about the looks. It's about the quality of your
attention. It's about your energy. and "energy" is one of those
words that get thrown around especially in new-age circles, so I try
to avoid it. Think of energy more like there being a million tiny little
micro-signs that women are designed to pick up on. Energy is like
all of those signals coming together simultaneously and it gives her
just this one feeling.

Your energy is made up of all these things that your body just
naturally does when you're in the right state. You're in the right
state with her when you're there with her. You're not in your head,
you're seeing the sights, you're hearing the sounds, you're feeling
the sensations, you're aware of her. You're spending the moment
with her. Even if you're watching a movie, you still have awareness
of her in your periphery.

You're not watching her like some psychopath. You're watching the
movie, but you're still aware of her. You're still sensing her, feeling
her, and being there with her. Masculine attention, that is incredibly
sexy to women.

You might feel like, "Well, I'm not even doing anything," but it's
one of those weird things that nature programmed into women,
that when you're with the woman and your attention is with the
woman. They become gradually more and more and more and
more turned on, so much that I've had women where I'm just
spending time with them and being present with them, enjoying my

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time. All of a sudden, they just lunge in, kiss me, start making out
with me, and pretty soon, we're naked in bed and hooking up.

It's a funny thing, but that's how nature designed people and
women. The funny thing about attraction with women is a lot of the
things that work like crazy, once you're doing what it is that I'm
telling you, you're going to feel a sense of, "God, I'm not even
doing anything. How is this working? How is this the secret to what
worked? I'm not even doing anything."

Attracting women is supposed to be natural. Nature programmed it

to be natural; nature didn't program it to be psychological backflips
that some guy who's wearing a crazy outfit on the Internet told you
would work. You got to use your brain on this stuff. It's simple.
Nature designed it to be simple.

Think of the stupidest person you know. There's somebody that

stupid who gets laid a lot, believe it or not. So it doesn't take brains
to get laid, to turn women on, or to keep women really interested
in you and in your relationship.

You're going to make your mood your number one priority, you're
not going to split your attention, and you're going to follow your
passion in life. But also, let's talk a little bit real quickly about
sexual banter in a relationship.

When I'm in a relationship with a woman, I'll always have a little bit
of sexual banter. I'm not dripping like a creep with sexual banter
and having that begging energy of like, "Oh, I want to have sex
now." Sometimes that can be okay if it's on the surface, because
frankly, women are very turned on by a man's sexual interest, if it's
not laced with agenda.

If a man is just purely sexually interested and just feeling those

feelings, but he's okay with the situation. He doesn't need to force
her to do something, be a certain way, or react to him in a certain

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way, then that really turns a woman on. It's okay to have these
sexual feelings.

Where you screw up your energy, where you screw up turning her
on, is when you have that energy and it's mixed with you trying to
assert some sort of mission, or agenda, or work some sort of
swerve on her. That's when things get messed up and that's when
she gets creeped out.

Enjoying that sexual banter and just having fun with it in your
relationship for the sake of what it is without trying to take it
somewhere. That will drive her crazy with desire because women
are turned on by 10,000 little things gradually happening. It's not
like guys. Where if a hot woman that I like walks into the room
right now, where I'm recording, completely naked, and says, "Let's
go," I will be fucking her within the next 30 seconds. That's not
how it works for women.

For women, it's gradual, it's subtle, and it moves along

imperceptibly. It's a bunch of little things that add up. That's how
their attraction process works. I don't know if you've ever been to a
bar or have any bartender friends who know about this, but if
you've ever drunk the beer Guinness... I love Guinness, that's a
great beer. Some people hate Guinness and some people love it. I
love it. Pouring a Guinness is a whole process and people who are
real die-hards about Guinness and serving Guinness, they take a lot
of pride in the process because if you don't do it right, it will come
out wrong.

The Guinness won't taste right and it won't be the right kind of
experience. There's a process to pouring a Guinness and you're not
going to find a bartender that just slops it into a glass and then
shoves it over to you. It takes minutes for them to do it, but that's
how to pour a Guinness. You got to do it the right way.

If you want to turn women on the right way, you got to think
gradual. You got to think that it's a bunch of little tiny things that
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add up, and you can't have some sort of agenda about it. That's the
process. You got to respect the process and work with it, not
against it. Working against a woman's process of what turns her on
is pretty stupid because you're working against nature, you're
working against evolution from the beginning of humankind, and
that's just foolish.

Working against nature, you will never, ever, ever, ever, ever win.
Working with nature, though, you'll win big. That's how you work
with nature. You understand gradual, subtle, 10,000 little things
that don't take any effort to do but they're going to add up over
time and you let her have her process. You don't have some
agenda that you're trying to force on her.

That's going to get you there, to the things that you want. That's
going to give you all those things effortlessly and easily as quickly
as they can happen. You're working with a woman's process here,
you're not slamming her into something and willing her into it.

If her process allows her to hook up with you quickly, for example,
if you're in a first-date kind of a situation and you'd really like to
sleep with her on the first date. If her process can possibly allow
her to do that, it will happen, if you're able to respect the process
and not try to force something into happening. Forcing it is only
going to screw you up.

Finally, in terms of keeping interest, attraction, and keeping her

turned on by you throughout your relationship, there's a quality
that you need to keep throughout your relationship and how you
relate to each other. That is, when you think of her, when you
spend time with her, and when you're with her, there are going to
be ups and downs in her mood.

Where people make mistakes is that they latch on to when she's in

a bad mood because she says something or she's acting a certain
way, or she's being a certain way, they latch onto it and then they
start feeding into that and they start feeding into a cycle.
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The longer two people are together, the more quickly that happens,
and the less it takes because they've trained each other and
they've trained themselves into spiraling very quickly into a
negative place. That's the habit they formed and that's the training
that they gave to each other.

That's the wrong path. It's a bad path because when you are both
feeding into negative emotions, that is an attraction killer. I've had
long-terms relationships with a woman and I can tell you the times
that we were in a fight or really angry with each other, she was
angry with me or I was angry with her, the last thing on either of
our minds was sex.

You'll hear people talking about make-up sex, how they got into a
fight and then they hooked up, or you'll see that kind of thing
portrayed in movies. But when we're talking about a real-life long-
term relationship, the idea that you can fight, then fuck, and then
make up is not a working model.

It's just not a working model; it's not realistic. But what is realistic
is that instead of feeding into each other's negativity, you focus on
what you love about her and you drop any judgments, criticisms,
and resentments. You give up on those and you don't keep battles
going. Because all those do is fix and set negativity in stone, so
you're lowering the attractiveness to each other. You're lowering
her attractiveness and you're lowering your attractiveness by
keeping that energy in a relationship.

It sounds crazy. I know that the whole energy thing can be a

turnoff to some people because it sounds new-age, it sounds wishy-
washy, and vague. But think of it like there are some snowballs you
can roll down a hill and nothing is going to happen, and then other
ones, you roll the wrong snowball down the wrong part of the hill
and that's the one that gathers enough snow and becomes an
avalanche. It turns into an avalanche, it triggers one.

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In the same way, participating down negative paths or keeping
negativity alive within your relationship through having a judgment
about her that she should be some other way. Or that you don't
accept her the way she is, a criticism of her or a resentment of her.

You had some kind of a battle with her. It's like a battle of wills
where you're on one side and she's on the other and neither one of
you wants to give in because you don't want to lose and you want
to win over her or whatever it is. All those do is set the negativity in
stone.

Any negativity could be the snowball that becomes the avalanche

and is causing all the problems. So stop rolling that down the hill.
Stop it in its track.

The way that you do it is you focus on what you love about her,
you always engage with her in an enjoyable way for you. You
engage with your mood and your life. You don't pick up and
participate in interactions that feel negative, thought paths about
her, and thoughts about her that feel negative to you. You drop all
that stuff. That's how you can keep everything on the right path.

Individually, these are all good little tidbits, but good little tidbits
aren't going to build a rock-solid, awesome relationship that really
just works, and she's continually turned on by you, remains
interested in you, and wants you forever. Little tidbits aren't going
to get you there; doing all this stuff, together, will. Because all this
stuff, these are pieces that make up a whole.

If I give you parts of an engine, that is not an engine, but if you put
the pieces together and you use all the pieces, then you have an
engine and that engine will take you places. You got to put it in a
car, but we're only going to take the metaphor so far.

Essentially, you got to use all this stuff together because it works
together. It's designed to work together. You can't pick one piece,
"Well, I like this piece, but I don't like that piece," and, "Well, I kind
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of do this, but I really don't do that. Oh, I could do this, but what
about... I can't really do that." You can't pick and choose it. You got
to do all of it; it all works together.

The thing that you're not doing is probably the thing that's screwing
up your relationship right now, so that's especially the one that you
should be paying attention to. I can be verbose. I'm thorough in
what I describe, but I tell you what, I'm not going to waste by
breath telling you about something that isn't essential.

This course is designed to be a powerful punch in exactly the right

area, so that your brain wakes up and just makes relationships
easy for you, so that they just work. You have the kind of sex you
want, she's attracted to you in the way you want, and the
relationship goes smoothly the way you want. That's what I want
for you and that's why I'm talking to you about all this now.

Let's talk about the biggest sex-life mistake that almost all guys
make in a relationship, that causes them to work too hard, they
pull their hair out, they wind up miserable, and how you can avoid
it so that your sex life with her always stays fresh, hot, and
exciting. This is really simple. The mistake that guys will make is
they start worrying about their sex life with the woman. They start
worrying about it and start feeding into the worries.

There's the quote, "We've nothing to fear but fear itself." Well, if
there's anything to be afraid of, it's worrying. Because any kind of
worrying, any kind of thinking down a worried thought path, is a
destructive path. Not because of the thoughts but because the
emotion of worry is an incredible turn-off energy.

Worrying about stuff, participating in that, and feeding into it

causes tremendous problems. It causes a tremendous turnoff. In a
lot of guys, guys who worry about sex, they end up developing
sexual problems, either premature ejaculation or they can't get
hard. Or they just are so uncomfortable and rigid during sex that
they can't really enjoy it. The sex that they have with the woman
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doesn't feel good to her because she feels all that energy coming
off of you.

They realize that she's not enjoying the sex and it's not going well,
and so then it just becomes this vicious cycle. Don't worry about
the sex stuff, just enjoy it. Just enjoy sex and don't make it a big
thing.

There are plenty of resources online that will talk about sex and
how to please her sexually. If you're wondering if you're sexually
pleasing her, you can go to www.shescravingyou.com. There's a
great, easy-to-use, cheap little sexual technique that you can get.
It doesn't cost very much at all. I don't remember how much it
costs, but it's real cheap, it's great, it works great, it works every
time, she'll have a great orgasm.

Then you'll know that no matter what, you can give the woman that
you want to give an orgasm, an orgasm. Any concerns you have
about your dick, getting hard, or premature ejaculation, you can
use this technique without any of those things mattering. I
encourage you to check out www.shescravingyou.com. That's a
great sex technique. It's real easy to use; any guy can use it.

Finally, when it comes to sex, as to what you're doing, just enjoy

yourself. Don't make it a big thing.

That concludes "The Perfect Relationship". I hope you enjoyed it

and thanks for listening.

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