Can You Lose Your Native Language
Can You Lose Your Native Language
I’m sitting in my kitchen in London, trying to figure out a text message from my
brother. He lives in our home country of Germany. We speak German to each other, a
language that’s rich in quirky words, but I’ve never heard this one before: fremdschämen.
‘Stranger-ashamed’?
I’m too proud to ask him what it means. I know that eventually, I’ll get it. Still, it’s
slightly painful to realise that after years of living abroad, my mother tongue can sometimes
feel foreign.
Most long-term migrants know what it’s like to be a slightly rusty native speaker. The
process seems obvious: the longer you are away, the more your language suffers. But it’s not
quite so straightforward.
In fact, the science of why, when and how we lose our own language is complex and
often counter-intuitive. It turns out that how long you’ve been away doesn’t always matter.
Socialising with other native speakers abroad can worsen your own native skills. And
emotional factors like trauma can be the biggest factor of all.
It’s also not just long-term migrants who are affected, but to some extent anyone who
picks up a second language.
“The minute you start learning another language, the two systems start to compete with
each other,” says Monika Schmid, a linguist at the University of Essex.
Schmid is a leading researcher of language attrition, a growing field of research that
looks at what makes us lose our mother tongue. In children, the phenomenon is somewhat
easier to explain since their brains are generally more flexible and adaptable. Until the age of
about 12, a person’s language skills are relatively vulnerable to change. Studies on
international adoptees have found that even nine-year-olds can almost completely forget their
first language when they are removed from their country of birth.
But in adults, the first language is unlikely to disappear entirely except in extreme
circumstances.
For example, Schmid analysed the German of elderly German-Jewish wartime refugees
in the UK and the US. The main factor that influenced their language skills wasn’t how long
they had been abroad or how old they were when they left. It was how much trauma they had
experienced as victims of Nazi persecution. Those who left Germany in the early days of the
regime, before the worst atrocities, tended to speak better German – despite having been
abroad the longest. Those who left later, after the 1938 pogrom known as Reichskristallnacht,
tended to speak German with difficulty or not at all.
“It seemed very clearly a result of this trauma,” says Schmid. Even though German was
the language of childhood, home and family, it was also the language of painful memories.
The most traumatised refugees had suppressed it. As one of them said: “I feel that Germany
betrayed me. America is my country, and English is my language.”
Speech switch
Such dramatic loss is an exception. In most migrants, the native language more or less
coexists with the new language. How well that first language is maintained has a lot to do
with innate talent: people who are generally good at languages tend to be better at preserving
their mother tongue, regardless of how long they have been away.
But native fluency is also strongly linked to how we manage the different languages in
our brain. “The fundamental difference between a monolingual and bilingual brain is that
when you become bilingual, you have to add some kind of control module that allows you to
switch,” Schmid says.
She gives an example. When she looks at the object in front of her, her mind can
choose between two words, the English ‘desk’ and the German ‘Schreibtisch’ (Schmid is
German). In an English context, her brain suppresses ‘Schreibtisch’ and selects ‘desk’, and
vice versa. If this control mechanism is weak, the speaker may struggle to find the right word
or keep slipping into their second language.
Mingling with other native speakers actually can make things worse, since there’s little
incentive to stick to one language if you know that both will be understood. The result is
often a linguistic hybrid.
In London, one of the world’s most multilingual cities, this kind of hybrid is so
common that it almost feels like an urban dialect. More than 300 languages are spoken here,
and more than 20% of Londoners speak a main language other than English. On a Sunday
stroll through the parks of North London, I catch about a dozen of them, from Polish to
Korean, all mixed with English to varying degrees.
Stretched out on a picnic blanket, two lovers are chatting away in Italian. Suddenly, one
of them gives a start and exclaims: “I forgot to close la finestra!”
In a playground, three women are sharing snacks and talking in Arabic. A little boy
runs up to one of them, shouting: “Abdullah is being rude to me!” “Listen...” his mother
begins in English, before switching back to Arabic.
Switching is of course not the same as forgetting. But Schmid argues that over time,
this informal back-and-forth can make it harder for your brain to stay on a single linguistic
track when required: “You find yourself in an accelerated spiral of language change.”
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