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Openers
09 August 2017 22:56

Openers' list/Creator
These are the different category/formats that openers fall into.
The more you use these formats, the more they’ll start to come out naturally and effortlessly as your
normal conversation.

Greeting
• Basically, just say Hi.
• Examples:
○ Hi, Hey, Hello, Oi, etc.
○ Hi, I'm <name>
• Not direct, but conveys entitlement (I'm Ankit. And you should care deeply that I'm Ankit,
because you're lucky enough to have met Ankit.)
• This is a good test opener. If you do it successfully, it means that your eye contact, body
language, vocal tonality, etc. are good. So, it's good to practice with this.

Compliments
• Nonphysical Compliment
○ Compliments are great—but physical compliments make you look needy or like you’re
only interested in sex. Also, a compliment should not appear as if you’re buttering her
up for something.
○ Examples:
 "I love your (look, smile, dress, shoes, style, etc.)."
 "That (whatever she just did) was amazing."
 "You just had the most adorable expression."
• Ambiguous Compliment
○ Give a compliment that doesn’t give your power away—or even one that possibly makes
her slightly insecure.
○ Examples:
 "Hey, you looked (adorable, interesting, fun, etc.), so I thought I’d say hi."
 "You seemed very… interesting."
 "You surprise me."
 "You've the funniest expression. The way you did that was so interesting."
• You're cute. Who are you?
○ This opener has various degrees of directness.
○ More direct: "You're sexy. I was curious about you."
○ More indirect: "You seem fashionable. I'm intrigued."

Mini Cold Read

• Make a comment on her - some light, funny observation that causes her introspection but is
nonthreatening.
• Format: "You seem very…" / "You're so…"
• Example:
○ "Wow, you are so (California, New York, soulful, stylish, business casual, etc.)."
○ "You remind me of (insert name of a cartoon character, movie star, etc.)."
○ "You seem very X." (insert adjective, i.e., quirky, stylish, businesslike, fashionable, feisty,
etc.)"
• You can take it further by adding a little push/pull tease.
○ "You seem very endearing. You're just like my little sister."
○ "You seem very feisty, like that little dog that yaps & yaps & yaps, but you can never
shut it up."
• This is good because it creates relevance (see Chapter 5. Hook).

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Push/Pull opener
• Give a compliment and a negative statement in the same sentence.
○ i.e. Compliment and take it away.
• Format: "You seem so X, but also Y."
• Examples:
○ "Trouble" is a one word push/pull.
 "You look like trouble . . . in the most adorable way."
 "You look like trouble."
 "You're trouble."
 "You're a trouble maker."
 (Todd used to rely on this opener a lot.)
○ "You seem fun . . . but I don’t know you yet. So, who knows, you might be totally weird."
○ "That (refer to item or action) was awful, but you actually seem pretty okay."
• You're essentially saying that you love her, but maybe not.
○ It's being direct without giving your power away.

Female Opinion Opener

• Ask a female opinion, ideally (but not necessarily) on a topic that women enjoy talking about.
• Format:
○ "I need your opinion on ____. The reason I ask is <story>."
○ "Hey, I need your opinion…" and then the story.
○ "Hey, I've a question for you…" and then the story.
○ "Hey, are you from Bombay…" and then the story.
• Example:
○ "Hey, I need a female opinion on something. Who lies more: men or women? The
reason I ask is <story>."
○ "Hey, my friend’s shirt? Too gay? Or just gay enough? The reason I ask is <story>."
○ "Hey, I need to ask you something: Can men and women be friends? The reason I ask is
<story>."
• The idea with this is to tell a story because story is one things that builds both value & comfort
at the same time.
○ Everything else that increases your value, decreases her comfort level. Everything else
that decreases your value, increases her comfort level.
○ You build value because you've people's attention on you and you're handling the social
pressure. You can even talk about things that are high value in your own life or that
convey good traits about yourself.
○ You build comfort because you're opening up and letting her to get to know you, and
you're spending time with her.
○ So, opening with a story is pretty powerful.
• You can launch directly into a story, but preceding the story with a question makes it more
normal and natural.
○ "You know what, I love/hate XYZ. <launch into a story.>"

Setup Punch
• Start towards a cliché, then change it up. Good for humor and shock value.
• Examples:
○ "Are you shy? I’ve been here for at least five minutes and you haven’t come over and
complimented me or grabbed my ass yet, so I thought you must be shy…"
○ "Hi, you looked bored, so I thought I’d come over here and amuse… myself."
○ "You have such nice… timing. You’re lucky I came here today."

Statement of Lighthearted Arrogance

• Say something massively arrogant but in a way that’s silly or fun enough that it’s not off-
putting (should be said with a smile).
• Examples:
○ "I’m sorry, hate to bother you, but I was wondering if you’d by any chance noticed how
ridiculously attractive I am."

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 ridiculously attractive I am."
○ "Hi, I’m Todd. I thought I’d grace you with my presence for a moment."
○ "Hi, I saw you noticing me. I thought I’d help you out by introducing myself."

Nonpersonal Negative Spike

• Just how it sounds. A negative spike gets her attention and conveys value, but because it’s not
personal, she can’t really get offended.
• Examples:
○ "Don’t do it!" (Don’t buy that/Don’t go in there, etc.) [and typically follow up with “just
kidding”].
○ "Don’t gimme that look."
○ "Wow, I hate x" (where x is unrelated to her).

Negative opener ("Yuck"/"Eww"/"Gross"/"Dog"/"You suck")

• Doesn't make sense in daygame.
• Makes sense if you're in a crowded club, you bump into her and go, "Ewww!" Then take it
from there based on her reaction.

Illogical opener
• "I need a water mellon. Are you a lawyer?"
• "You know, sometimes you feel so golden and sometimes you just want to kick a field goal."

False Indirect.
• Todd really likes this and uses it a lot.
• This way you the reap the benefits of both indirect (more sets open) and direct (faster results).
• Calibrate: Start off indirect, and…
○ As soon as there’s a positive response, immediately go direct.
○ If you get a neutral or negative, continue indirect.
• Examples:
○ "Hey, I need your opinion on something… Actually, you know what? I don't even care.
You're cute. Hi, I'm Ankit. Nice to meet you."
○ Hey, are you from . . . Actually, you’re quite cute. Who are you?
○ Hey, I need your opinion. . . . Actually, you seem rather interesting. What’s your name?
○ Hey, where’s the— Oh, you know what? I like your (x).
• See the infield @02:40:39

Physical opener
• Hi-fi.
• Bump them with your butt.
• Handshake spin.
• Hand of God: She's sitting, shake hands & pull, making her get up.
○ Demonstration @01:45:48
• Plant and stare in a good natured way (Smile & shake head, as if you're admonishing a cute
little kid. Go, "Awwww"), and wait until they crack (laugh or giggle) first.
○ Demonstration @01:46:01
○ It's in the same category as the physical opener because it has a lot of similar
characteristics - you're invading their space, putting social pressure, and waiting for
them to react i.e. you're using social pressure as your physicality.
○ Almost every girl will crack and react.

Nonverbal gesture openers

• Waving hi
• Pointing
• Middle finger

THE BEST: Whatever comes spontaneously.

• These are your main openers.
If you're doing spontaneous opens less than 75-80% of the times, don't give yourself

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 ○ If you're doing spontaneous opens less than 75-80% of the times, don't give yourself
permission to use the other openers for a while, even if you're still blank when you
reach the girl.
• There are 3 reason to have the other openers:
○ Just in case: Go in blank & clear, but have 3 of the above openers in the back of your
head, just in case you're still blank by the time you reach the girl.
○ You can't use the excuse of, "I don't know what to say," to chicken out of opening a girl.
○ They help you being persistent in the right way, which we'll talk about next.

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