Assignment SOC101
Love - A bliss to the lovers
and an euphoria to society
Submitted to: Aftab Alam Sir.
Submitted by:
Name: Nazmus Sakib Saad
ID: 18101562
Sec: 05
Love - A bliss to the lovers and an euphoria to society
Marriage, An important social institution in the kind of society we dwell in where every
individual wants a perfect match to suit their attributes. A perfect match who can be compatible
for them. A great marriage is not when the 'ideal couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect
couple comprehends and knows how to enjoy their differences, be it loved or arranged or
cohabitation etc. I personally would choose love over other sorts of courtship because the joy,
satisfaction and the excitement it provides tops everything else. Other than this is the longer span
of knowing one another helps in the growth of the relationship and how it breaks the social
taboo.
Love is definitely not a myth in the 21st century. People these days value their free will, freedom
of speech and independence to a greater extent than the earlier days. So where else can they
implement all these better than at the choice of marriage, a life changing decision. People would
not want to hand over this important decision on others when they know they are apt to decide
for themselves. Love marriage is solely based on independent decision making. The couples
choose to get married and are not forced or influenced to get married elsewhere other than the
person they love. They make an independent and conscious decision which also increases the
chance that they have thought hard about their options. The couple is responsible for their
decisions and the onus of the blame in future lies only on them and not anyone else. Love
marriage thus promotes free will. On the other hand, In an arranged marriage it is very rarely
seen that the bride or the groom or even both have a say in the choice. Their parents or families
decide for something as major and life altering like marriage and free will becomes a secondary
choice in the kind of society we live in.
Love marriage is superior to an arranged counterpart as it involves the longer time span of
knowing one another and marrying someone familiar. In an arranged marriage, couples may
rarely see each other and have little to no time of knowing each other or even their preferences.
As a result, when they get married, they find few shared interests with some even having
conflicts in values or raising a family. Consequently, these couples tend to fight often and even if
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the wife submits to the will of her spouse, she seems unhappy and dissatisfied or feel like they
have no say in the relationship. Eventually losing her identity and happiness These marriages are
harder to save because of the very fact that they do not know one another and hence do not know
how to communicate to solve the issues. They do not know what things might make their
partners angry or aggravate the fights. The problem of marital dissatisfaction can be reduced in
love marriages where couples have known each other for a long time. They are aware of the
strength and flaws and can thus decide if they are willing to adapt to the flaws and live with their
own differences. They mostly choose to accept one another as they are and that acceptance is
what enables the relationship to grow further every day. Mutual respect is present from
beforehand and even though the chances of the relationship breaking is there, the hope and the
love is what keeps them going despite the hurdles.
Furthermore, love eliminates the social construct of dowry that is common. Dowries are very
common and prominent in our society even in the 21st century. Arrange marriages typically
include the bride’s family paying a certain amount of dowry to the groom’s family. Also, many
times, the groom’s family may demand a certain amount or even goods whether the family is
rich or poor. Hence create a stressful situation for the bride’s side and not to mention the
financial problems. On the opposite, love marriage eliminates dowry because consensual
decision of the couple, the parents’ hopeful approval of the relationship and blessing it is all that
matters. Love marriage has simple terms with no economic demands.
If love is breaking the stereotypical society norms, the taboo and promoting free will especially
for women, then why not? These are the very reasons why I would choose love over other
courtships.
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References:
https://www.bl.uk/shakespeare/articles/marriage-and-courtship#
https://www.encyclopedia.com/international/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/courtship-
marriage-and-divorce
