Restraint - How To Adjust Yourself
Restraint - How To Adjust Yourself
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How to adjust yourself ?
Sheikh
Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
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Introduction
All praises are due to Allaah and peace and blessings, be
upon His prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
To proceed:
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What is restraint?
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“Paradise is surrounded by
hardships and Hellfire is surrounded by lusts and desires.”
“When Allaah
created Paradise and Hellfire, He sent Jibreel [Archangel
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{And among
people and moving creatures and grazing livestock are
various colors similarly. Only those fear Allaah, from
among His servants, who have knowledge. Indeed,
Allaah is Exalted in Might and Forgiving.} [QUR’AAN 35:
28].
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{Who
spend [in the cause of Allaah] during ease and hardship and
who restrain anger and who pardon the people- and Allaah
loves the doers of good} [QUR’AAN 3: 134].
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1 Reported by Abu Daawood (4777) and At-Tirmithi (2021) and Al-Albaani ruled it
as sound (Hasan).
2 Reported by Al-Bayhaqi in his book As-Shu’ab (10/545) and Ibn ‘Asaakir in his
book Taareekh Dimashq (41/386).
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Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “This means,
repel with your patience the ignorance of those who behave
ignorantly with you.” He, may Allaah be pleased with him, also said:
“He is the man who curses another man and the man who was
cursed says: ‘If you are truthful, then may Allaah forgive me; and if
you are lying, then may Allaah forgive you.’”1
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{He
said, “No blame will there be upon you today. Allaah will
forgive you; and lie is the most merciful of the merciful.}
[QUR’AAN 12: 92]
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1 Reported by Abu Daawood (4777) and At-Tirmithi (2021) and Al-Albaani ruled it
as sound (Hasan).
2 Reported by Ibn Maajah (4189) and Al-Albaani ruled it as authentic
3 Reported by Al-Bukhaari (6116).
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“The Prophet’s saying to the one who asked for advice ‘Do
not get angry’ holds two possible meanings. The first is that: it
may be a command to comply with the causes that entail
good manners such as; generosity, patience, modesty,
humbleness, endurance, the avoidance of harming others,
pardoning, forgiving, suppressing anger, smiling at others etc.
This includes all beautiful manners, which if people were to
acquire and get accustomed to them, would entail the
restriction of anger when it results in. The second is that: it
could mean, do not act upon your anger when it occurs;
instead, fight yourself to avoid implementing and doing what
your anger makes you do.”1
{And if
an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek
refuge in Allaah Indeed He is Hearing and Knowing.}
[QUR’AAN 7: 200]
"I know a
word, which will cause him to relax and all his anger
will go away, if he does say it. If he says: 'I seek
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“Teach
others, make things easy, not difficult. When any of
you is in a state of anger let him keep silent, when any
of you is in a state of anger, let him keep silent, when
any of you is in a state of anger, let him keep silent.”2
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1 Reported by Abu Nu’aym in his book Hilyat Al-Awliyaa’ (2/130) and Al-Albaani
ruled it as inauthentic.
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“I was with Abu Ja’far, may Allaah have mercy on him, when a
man came and he sentenced him to death. I said to myself,
how can he kill a Muslim man when I am present?! So I said:
‘O Ameer Al-Mu’mineen (Leader of the Believers), shall I tell
you a Hadeeth that I heard from Al-Hasan? He said: ‘What is
it?’ I said: ‘I heard him say: “On the Day of Judgment, Allaah
the Almighty shall assemble people on one plain where they
shall all hear the caller and see him. A caller shall then call:
‘Whoever has a good deed with Allaah should stand. The only
ones who are to stand are the ones who pardoned (in this
life).’ Abu Ja’far, may Allaah have mercy on him said: ‘Swear
to me that you heard this from Al-Hasan.’ I said: ‘By Allaah, I
heard this from him.’ He said: ‘I have pardoned him’ [the man
whom he had sentenced to death].”1
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“What do you
two say?”
“By Allaah, if it were not for the fact
that messengers are not killed I would have cut your necks.”
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‘O Zaynab,
what do you know? What did you see?’
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“Whoever
keeps silent is saved.”
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“A man
speaks a good word without knowing its worth, Allaah
records for him His Good Pleasure till the day he will meet
Him; and a man utters an evil word without realizing its
importance, Allaah records for him His displeasure till the
day he will meet Him.”
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Zuhd (369), An-Nasaa’i in his book As-Sunan Al-Kubra (11841) and Al-Bazzaar in
his book Al-Musnad (84) and it is an authentic narration.
3 Reported by Ahmad (15852) and At-Tirmithi (2319) and Al-Albaani ruled it as
authentic.
4 Reported by Abu Nu’aym in his book Hilyat Al-Awliyaa’ (1/303).
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“It is
not lawful for a woman who believes in Allaah and the Last
Day to mourn for any dead person for more than three days,
except for her husband, [for whom she should mourn] for
four months and ten days.”2
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“A believing man
should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her
characteristics, he will be pleased with another.”2
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“O
Allaah! I had a cousin who was the dearest of all people to
me and I wanted to have sexual intercourse with her, but she
refused. Later she came across hard times during a year of
famine and she came to me, and I gave her one hundred and
twenty dinars on the condition that she would not resist my
desires, and she agreed. When I was about to fulfill my
desires, she said: 'It is illegal for you to violate my chastity
except through legitimate marriage.' So, I realized it was a
sin to have sexual intercourse with her and left her, though
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she was the dearest of all people to me. I also left the gold I
had given her. O Allaah! If I did that for Your sake only,
please relieve us from the present calamity. So, the rock
moved a little.”
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“Fasting is a shield.”1
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'Come closer.'
'People do
not like that for their aunts.'
'O
Allaah, forgive his sins, purify his heart, and protect
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his chastity.'
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1 Reported by At-Tabari in his book Tafseer At-Tabari (24/710) and Ibn Katheer in
his book Tafseer Ibn Katheer (8/540).
2 Reported by Muslim (132).
3 Reported by Al-Bukhaari (3276) and Muslim (134).
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“Whoever is given a
religious verdict [Fatwa]without knowledge, his sin is but
upon the person who gave him the opinion.”
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sentence has been narrated by Anas, may Allaah be pleased with him, that the
prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Patient deliberation is from
Allaah and haste is from Satan.” Reported by Al-Bayhaqi in his book As-Sunan
(20767) and Al-Albaani ruled it as sound (Hasan).
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“The one who has been blessed with knowledge by Allaah should
teach it to people. Beware of uttering in something you have no
knowledge on making you one of the simulated people and leaves
the fold of Islaam.”4
1Ibid.
2Ibid.
3 Reported by Ibn Al-Muflih in his book Al-Aadaab As-Shar’iyyah (2/67).
4 Reported by Ad-Daarimi in his book Sunan Ad-Daarimi (174).
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“People
will not sit remembering Allaah without the angels
surrounding them, mercy covering them, peace
descending on them and Allaah mentioning them
among those who are with Him.”1
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“…and My
servant continues to draw near to Me with
supererogatory works so that I shall love him.
When I love him I am his hearing with which he
hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with
which he strikes and his foot with which he walks.
Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely
give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I
would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about
anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the
soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I
hate hurting him.”1
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{They used to sleep but
little of the night. And in the hours before dawn
they would ask forgiveness. And from their
properties was [given] the right of the [needy]
petitioner and the deprived.} [QUR’AAN 51: 17-19]
“Who among
you is fasting today?”
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{That
[has been commanded], and whoever honors the
sacred ordinances of Allaah — it is best for him in
the sight of his Lord. And permitted to you are the
grazing livestock, except what is recited to you. So
avoid the uncleanliness of idols and avoid false
statement.} [QUR’AAN 22: 30]
“Supplication
is worship.”
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Conclusion
“The
Mujaahid [Muslim fighter] is the one who fights himself.”
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