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EXCLUSIVE

Miranda
SEXIEST Lambert
NIGHTS
Buh-Bye 2015! ,
ÒIÕm Excited for the
Awesome Times AheadÓ

EVER!
Light His
LOVE!
MONEY!
Candle, SUCCESS!
Blow His Bedside
Mind Astrologer
Predicts Your
2016
UP
NO-FAIL YOUR
WAYS CASH
FLOW
TO No Side Hustle
DROP Required

5 lbs Hangove
Fixes r
p . 54

SHUT New
DOWN Year,
New
Booty!
STRESS
TRICKS
FOR
MORNING,
NOON
& NIGHT
Look JANUARY 2016

The Back at $4.99

One Line It!


ake Him Commit
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IGNITE SOMETHING
O N LY T H E P E R F E C T C U T C A N U N L E A S H A
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J A N UA R Y 2 016

COVER
STORIES
It’s January! Ring in the year
with your Sexiest Nights
Ever! Light His Candle, Blow
His Mind (69)—then recover
in time for brunch with our
Hangover Fixes (54). Learn
the One Line That’ll Make
Him Commit (90), and Shut
Down Stress with Tricks for
Morning, Noon, and Night
(52). Miranda Lambert says
Buh-Bye, 2015! “I’m Excited
for the Awesome Times
Ahead” (92). Speaking of
fresh starts...Look Back at
It! New Year, New Booty!
(60) Find the No-Fail Ways
to Drop 5 lbs. (56), and Up
Your Cash Flow, No Side
Hustle Required (122). Plus,
Bedside Astrologer Predicts
Your 2016 (137). Love!
Money! Success!

FEATURES
Hear some shocking truths
about the state of maternal
mortality in Why Are
American Women Dying in
Childbirth? (130)

in every issue
4 27 Things to Do

98
This Month
8 Cosmotivation
12 From the Editor
14 In Her Own Words
154 Bitch It Out!/
Shopping
Information
156 Cosmo Quiz: Is He
the One?
WORK & MONEY
Calm your job-search

137 jitters for good and learn


how to Ace the Interview

114
(114). Then raise A Toast
to Hard Work (118), and

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upgrade your 9-to-5 style
with Dress for the Job You
Want (120).

LIVE IT UP!
Resolve to send more
CULTURE CRUSH “He made a letters this year? Write On!
(125) Plus, achieve your
Start off 20-SEX-teen
right: meet Mr. January BODY puppet that looked Gallery Girl #Goals in the

just like me....”


comfort of your own crib
(21). Get ready to LOL at (128).
Fun, Fearless...Fail! (22), Is your yogurt really a
then check out Hot vs. dessert in disguise? Find WORST DATES EVER
Huh?! (23) And post- out in Food Buzz (56). AND CONFESSIONS (16)
holiday food binge, here’s Then read up on your lady
The Right Way to Do bits in Body News (58).
Weight-Loss Resolutions Can a Type-A Girl Find
(24). Calm? (63) Get the answer
and carry ohm. Plus,
STYLE Should Everyone Just Get
Stoned? Cosmo clears the
New Year, New Look air (64).
(27)—check out our
trends to try in 2016. LOVE LUST
(OPPOSIT E PAGE ) TOM SCHIRMACHER. ( T HIS PAGE ) FROM TOP: JEFFRE Y WE S TBROOK /S T UDIO D; MICHEL A R AVA SIO/

Have an epic night out,


and still Look Hot the Read “I Married a Guy,
Morning After (32). but I’m Still Bi” (76). Get
Snuggle up in super-luxe the lowdown on the
Finds Under $50 (34), Relationship Resolutions
and outfit your Winter to Dump (and Keep) (78).
Warm-Up (98), whether Then master How to Talk
fireside or beach-bound. About Sex Without Dying
of Awkwardness (80).
BEAUTY And get his take with Sex
Q&A (74), Manthropology
Reinvent your routine and (84), and Ask Him
S T O C K S Y; A R T+ C O M M E R C E . S E E PA G E 15 4 F O R S H O P P I N G I N F O R M AT I O N .

Disrupt Your Look! (41) Anything (90).


Read “It’s 2016…Where’s
My Foundation?” (44) and
cash in on your next
beauty fix—$10, Tops!
(46) Then learn The
Secret to Sexier Hair (48).
ENTER
FOR A CHANCE 74
Partied All Night? Try
these beauty antidotes
TO WIN!
A TRIP FOR YOU
(50). And make good on a AND 3 FRIENDS TO
resolution to Stop Hiding UNIVERSAL G ET M IRA NDA ’ S HOT LOOK
Behind Your Makeup ORLANDO RESORT. Dress, Bec & Bridge. Necklace, Rosa de la Cruz London. Bracelets (top two)
(106). PLUS, RIDE A FLOAT and rings, Vita Fede; (zigzag bracelets) Giles & Brother. To get Miranda’s
IN UNIVERSAL’S MARDI look, try True Match Lumi Liquid Gold Illuminator in Golden, Brow Stylist
Definery in Brunette, Voluminous Superstar Mascara in Blackest Black,
GRAS CELEBRATION! Infallible Pro-Matte Lipgloss in Nude Statement, and Colour Riche Nail in
ENTER AT After Hours, all by L’Oréal Paris. Hair: Chris McMillan for Living Proof at Solo
COSMOPOLITAN.COM/ Artists. Makeup: Christian McCulloch for Dolce & Gabbana Beauty.
UNIVERSAL Manicure: Nikki Spalaris. Production: First Shot Productions. Fashion
AND SEE PAGE 155 editor: James Worthington DeMolet. Photographed by Tesh.
FOR DETAILS. THE MODELS PHOTOGRAPHED IN COSMOPOLITAN ARE USED FOR
ILLUSTRATIVE PURPOSES ONLY; COSMOPOLITAN DOES NOT SUGGEST THAT
THE MODELS ACTUALLY ENGAGE IN THE CONDUCT DISCUSSED IN THE
STORIES THEY ILLUSTRATE.

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4. HIT PAUSE on 25 to
3. G E T I N S U R E D ! catch the live show:
Open enrollment for NBC’s Adele: Live in New
the Affordable Care York City airs Dec. 14.
2. GIVE LIP SERVICE Act ends Jan. 31. Visit
with the all-natural GetCoveredAmerica
quenchers in Burt’s .org for more info.
Bees’ new lipsticks
($9, burtsbees.com).

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5. GET SPOOKED as Mulder and
Scully get back into the super-
natural game for Fox’s rebooted
miniseries The X-Files (Jan. 24).

6. F E S S U P
Your fave
drinking
game gets a
swanky
makeover
with the
Never Have
1. D R I N K O U T

THINGS
I Ever card
L O U D with a
set ($25,
glass set that
amazon
lets you say it
.com).
with shots
($27, sistersof

TODO
losangeles
.com).

& T E L E V I S I O N / M A S T E R P I E C E ; C O U R T E S Y; G E T T Y I M AG E S ; B E N G O L D S T E I N / S T U D I O D ; D E V O N J A R V I S / S T U D I O D.
THIS
C L O C K W I S E F R O M T O P R I G H T: C O U R T E S Y ( 2 ) ; B E N G O L D S T E I N / S T U D I O D ; N I C K B R I G G S / C A R N I VA L F I L M
9. CACKLE as
Ricky Gervais
roasts the

MONTH
celebs at

8
the 73rd
Annual Golden
Globes (Jan.
10, NBC).

7. B R E A K O U T T H E C R U M P E T S
Downton Abbey ’s final season
bows stateside on Jan. 3 (PBS).

S H O W Y O U R C O L O R S with shades from Max Mara and painter Maya Hayuk ($320, Max Mara, Madison Avenue).

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I WALK INTO”
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olay regenerist luminous moisturizer,


with skin brightening complex,
illuminates surface cells and evens skin tone.
see bright, pearlescent, healthy-looking skin
in just 2 weeks.
10 E N T E R for a
chance to win
a trip to see
Zumanity by
Cirque du
Soleil in Vegas
(cosmopolitan
.com/cirque
dusoleil2016;
see p. 155 for
details).

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12. TUNE IN Sutton Fos-
ter and Hilary Duff kick off
Younger’s sophomore
season (Jan. 12, TVLand).
13. RUN FOR IT An alien
invasion is no match for
Chloë Grace Moretz in The
5th Wave (Jan. 15).
14. GET YOUR PULSE UP

Rachel Platten
Luke Bracey and Édgar
Ramirez are extreme(-ly
hot) adrenaline junkies in
Point Break (Dec. 25).
15. STRIKE GOLD with
With rousing hits “Fight Song” and “Stand by You,” this powerhouse has
the A-list cast (Christian not only arrived but also redefined the pop anthem. After a bona fide
Bale, Ryan Gosling) of breakout 2015, her next album, Wildfire, is likely to spread like wildfire.
financial crash dramedy
The Big Short (Dec. 23).
ON THE STORY BEHIND PERSONAL ANTHEM: ON WHAT SHE’D CHANGE
18. L O O K H O T 16. GO JOYRIDING with
“FIGHT SONG”: “It took me “Either [Madonna’s] ‘Like a ABOUT THE MUSIC BIZ:
even in a Ride Along 2’s Miami-
blizzard, with bound Kevin Hart and Ice a while to understand that Prayer’ or ‘Call Your Girl- “The way it pins female
Sorel’s new Cube (Jan. 15). [music] was what I wanted friend,’ by Robyn.” artists against each other.
outerwear line to do with my life. I didn’t ON GETTING T-SWIFT’S It’s sad how a lot of people
17. CHOOSE YOUR DADDY grow up with musical influ- think that needs to happen.
($675, sorel.com). SUPPORT: “I played a tail-
It’s stepdad Will Ferrell vs. ences in my family. It didn’t gate show in the parking lot I don’t think it’s real, and I

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cool dad Mark Wahlberg in seem possible. But when I outside her Pittsburgh tour don’t think it’s cool. I know
COUR T E SY COMPANIE S.(OPPOSIT E PAGE ) DE VON JARVIS/S T UDIO D.

Daddy’s Home (Dec. 25). was 19, this dream would stop, and I got to meet her a lot of these artists now,
( T HIS PAGE ) POWDER: DE VON JARVIS/S T UDIO D. ALL OTHERS:

not shut up, so I started afterward. She texted me a and these fights are made
chasing it. I’m 34 now—it few days later like, ‘Yeah, up a lot of the time. We
took me 15 years. But I’m a girl, kill that iTunes chart!’ I support each other and
fighter, and I don’t take no was like, ‘Haha, thanks.’ root for each other.”
for an answer. ‘Fight Song’ No idea who it was. The HER GUILTY PLEASURE:
was the culmination of all next day she writes, ‘P.S., “Are You the One? on MTV.
that—the hurt of being this is Taylor.’ I’m like, ‘Yes, It’s a show for 14-year-olds
rejected and told I wasn’t that would change my that I’m obsessed with. Any
good enough, the indomi- response. Hello, Taylor!’ MTV show marketed to
table spirit of ‘I’m not going She asked me to come on teenagers, I’m into.”
to give up on my dream.’” her tour that Saturday.” —SERGIO KLETNOY

GO FOR GOULD. Ellie Goulding’s new MAC line gives you 24-hour glam (Powder Blush Duo, $28, maccosmetics.com).
COSMO READS
New Fiction
20
22

23
24

20. The Swans of Fifth


Avenue, by Melanie Benjamin 21
One iconic NYC socialite (Babe
Paley) plus one era-defining
author (Truman Capote)
equals a scandal for the ages.
21. American Housewife,
by Helen Ellis If anyone can
make the Real Housewives
look dull, it’s the women in this
collection of darkly hilarious
stories.
22. The Ex, by Alafair Burke
If your ex-BF was a murder
suspect, would you help him?
23. My Name Is Lucy Barton,
by Elizabeth Strout Loved
Olive Kitteridge (the Pulitzer
Prize–winning novel or the
Emmy-winning HBO mini-
series)? Meet Lucy Barton.
24. The Past, by Tessa
Hadley A totally dysfunctional
family, three hot summer
weeks, and one country house.
What could go wrong?

Non-Fic Picks
25. Navel Gazing, by Michael
Ian Black The bitingly witty
actor from Wet Hot American
Summer and Another Period
invites us to get all up in his
business.
26. Presence, by Amy Cuddy
The Harvard prof and guru of
the power pose breaks down
the science behind her signa-

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ture move and other tricks for
conquering any stress—fast.

25 26

25

C A R E L E S S , G E T M O R E . Sarah Knight explains the genius formula in The Life- Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck.

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FUN FEARLESS LIFE! 2015

Cosmotivation
JOANNA COLES
@ArielleTillett
AND KEYNOTE SPEAKER Thank you
CHELSEA HANDLER @VeronicaMarche
CHATTED ABOUT TAKING for this beautiful
BREAKS AND CELEBRATING sketch of me today!
(WITH VODKA).
I love it so much!

#ActuallySheCan
#FunFearlessLife
@Cosmopolitan

EVERY WOMAN NEEDS AN OCCASIONAL LIFE


recharge, even if her
smartphone battery’s @SymaSpeaks
#G
at the @Cosmop irlBoss–filled Saturday
at 100%. That’s why Conference!
olitan #FunFear
lessL
#NYC #Inspired ife
Cosmo’s second annual
Fun Fearless Life event,
presented by Maybelline
New York and in COCKTAILS IN
HEARST’S LOBBY/
partnership with “Be the hero
of your style,
LOUNGE CAPPED
OFF A PACKED DAY.
#ActuallySheCan, was the hero
all about how to be your of your story.”
—Anne Marie
best self, from your Nelson-Bogle
VP OF MARKETING,
career to your personal GABRIEL
MAYBELLINE
NEW YORK

style to your love life.


ALMODOVAR,
CELEBRITY

Couldn’t make it to
MAKEUP ARTIST
FOR MAYBELLINE
NEW YORK
Cosmo HQ at the Hearst
Tower in NYC? Have
NAOMI NISHI, AND SARAH ECKINGER
PHOTOGRAPHED BY ALLIE KIRCHER,

#NoFOMO. Power up @CassidyLG


I feel like I spent
@SFryzol
#FunFearlessLife
@SierraBarter
’Cause I still got a
with this advice from the day inside is like making lot of fight in me.
our badass lineup of TWEETS an issue of friends while drunk @RachelPlatten
WE @Cosmopolitan in the bathroom but is even more
speakers, and follow us LOVE and I couldn’t better because wonderful in
on social to learn about be happier. you’re sober.
@FunFearlessLife
person.
Thank you,
more Cosmo events. #FunFearlessLife @Cosmopolitan #FunFearlessLife

8 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


“All of us can
do our part
and stand
up for human
rights.”
—Opal Tometi
COFOUNDER,
BLACK LIVES
MATTER
Cosmopolitan’s
Editor-in-Chief and
#FunFearlessLeader
Joanna Coles
cracked jokes and
inspired everyone. “Rather than
e-mail, a more

POWER effective negotia-


tion tool is to see
UP YOUR how someone

CAREER
reacts in real time.”
—Ivanka Trump
EVP, THE TRUMP
“Do something ORGANIZATION
that you’re
passionate about
and you’ll have an
awesome career.”
—ELIZABETH GORE,
DELL ENTREPRENEUR-
IN-RESIDENCE

ATTENDEES “Stress happens


BROUGHT HIGH when something COSMO’S SOCIAL
ENERGY AND DJ ELISA BEN-
SPEEDY NOTE- you care about is SON REWARDED
TAKING SKILLS. at stake. It’s not a THE TOP
sign to run away— TWEETERS WITH
MAYBELLINE
it’s a sign to NEW YORK GIFT
step forward.” BAGS.
—KELLY MCGONIGAL,
AUTHOR, THE UPSIDE OF
STRESS

“If you want


something, you’re
going to get tons
of ‘No’s. Find “To be present,
allies who can prepare yourself
“I had years of not working help you.” by doing big poses.
as an actress, but I was —MARIA TERESA Stand like Wonder
KUMAR, PRESIDENT AND Woman.”
in class, going to auditions, CEO, VOTO LATINO
—Amy Cuddy
or trying to meet casting PROFESSOR, HARVARD
directors. I always did “If you don’t know BUSINESS SCHOOL
something for my artistry.” which career is for
—Laverne Cox you, think about
ACTRESS, ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK your passions and
the problems you
want to solve.”
—ANNIE CLARK
“See yourself as a
change maker.”
—ANDREA PINO,
COFOUNDERS, END RAPE
ON CAMPUS

“If you take a step “Surround yourself


and it turns out to with people who
be the wrong one, shower you with love.”
just take a right. —Dinah Jane Hansen
There’s no such FIFTH HARMONY

@LuluRocks1196 thing as doing


something wrong
@MatthewHussey
needs to stop when it comes to
running his hand creating your life.”
through his hair. It is —STACY LONDON, HOST,
super distractingly LOVE, LUST, OR RUN
hot and I’m
trying to focus.
@Cosmopolitan
Editor-in-Chief
JOANNA COLES

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Mix 3 fresh blackberries
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FROM THE EDITOR
Celebrating with

THE
the Barbs! Senators
Boxer (far right) and
Mikulski, who was
told she was “too
short, too chubby,

POWER
and too brassy”
when she ran for
Congress 40 years
ago. Some fool is
still eating his words.

OF YES
w e a ll face dozens of decisions that
bubble up every day, from Do I really
want to go to this party? to Should I
offer to volunteer for this event? to
Should I have the apple or the cro-
nut? (The answer to the last one:
Obvi, both!) After years of stressing
over my choices, I now find the most
useful guide to making the right
call is to simply default to yes.
That may sound a little crazy at first. We can’t all do
everything without running ourselves ragged. But if a
decision is haunting you, if you’re right on the fence
about it, I say go for it. Here’s why. When I look back at
all the good choices that led me to where I (happily) am
today, they seem sort of obvious. Of course, I should have Prepare, my
taken that job, moved countries, agreed to speak at that fellow Aries, for
a year of good
event, or set up a meeting that made me feel sick with fortune in love
anxiety beforehand but turned out so well. Yet at the and work. Plus,
time, I wrestled with my choice. It is often easier to say we’ll be buying
more high-
no and risk nothing. Shonda Rhimes highlights this waisted flares—

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point brilliantly in her book, Year of Yes (read it if you don’t fight it; it’s
need further “yes” inspo). written in the
By defaulting to yes, you won’t be wondering a few stars, after all.
years from now, Should I have done that? Should I have
stepped out of my comfort zone? Look, it’s not easy. We all BOOK IT!
know change is truly hard. Yet in January, you can have I’m loving the
latest from
that fresh-start moment. (Okay, that sounds a little like a
Amy Cuddy (also
douching commercial, but you know what I’m saying.) recommended on
This month is your moment to start saying yes, to take our books page),
chances, to ask yourself, the Harvard Busi-
How big is my brave? It is ness professor
your chance to start look- who taught us all
ing back without regret, to power pose—
without what-ifs. Let this now learn how
tiny tweaks get
be your New Year’s gift to Joanna Coles you big rewards.
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LO C AT IONS C OUR T E SY T HE BUSHWICK C OL L EC T I V E
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2
“I WAS HAVING SEX IN THE SHOWER WHEN AN RA CAME
IN. WE FROZE IN SILENCE UNTIL SHE LEFT.” —JOSEPH K., 22

3
W A L L A R T: ( O P P O S I T E PA G E ) J E S S I C A /A R T I S T— B U F F M O N S T E R ; ( T H I S PA G E ) A N U S H K A /A R T I S T— D A V I D W A L K E R .

“ I WA S AT A B I R T H DAY 5 GUY CONFESSION 6

“I WROTE
PA R T Y, A N D M Y F R I E N D
B AC K E D I N T O A C A N D L E
“ I WA S R U N N I NG
A ND LIT HIS SHIRT ON
L AT E T O C L A S S
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E V E RYON E S AW.”
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LAHORE, PAKISTAN
—KATIE G., 19 BROOKLYN, NY

17
GUY CONFESSION
11 “I was heading up
7 “ I A M S O AT T R AC T E D T O F E M A L E B OX E R S . W H E N a really important film
M Y G I R L F R I E N D P U T S ON T H E E V E R L A S T R OB E , shoot. I drove all the
way there with my
S HOR T S , A N D B OX I NG G L OV E S I B OUG H T F OR H E R , crew…and realized
I T ’ S B E T T E R T H A N A N Y S E X Y L I NG E R I E .” —CHRIS L., 39 we’d forgotten to bring
the cameras. I died.”
—ANNIE A., 21

12 “I went home
with a guy I’d had a
crush on for a while.
He gave me his T-shirt
and shorts to sleep in.
At 5:30 in the morn-
ing, I woke up in his
bed mid-pee. I ran out
of his room, threw his
now-wet clothes in
the hamper, changed
back into my outfit
from the night before,
and frantically texted
my friends until
one of them showed
up as a getaway car.
I can’t believe I
was a bed-wetter!”
—ALEX W., 21

13 “I heard that this

9
guy I liked was going

W A L L A R T: C H R I S A N D L I N D S AY/A R T I S T— S T E I N E R ; M I S H A /A R T I S T— C H R I S S TA I N A N D B I L LY M O D E . G E T T Y I M A G E S .
to be at a bar one
night, so I got my
friend to go with me

8
and pretend we just
happened to be in the
“ I WA S RU S H I N G T O A M O R N I N G
area and were stop-
A S S E M B LY, A N D I T R I P P E D ping in for a drink—
“I play “I knew OV E R A L L T H E B AG S O N T H E playing it totally cool.
that PS4 F L O O R . A S I F E L L , I R E AC H E D Then as we walked
video wasn’t just OUT TO GR A B ONTO SOME -
into the bar, I slipped
right in the entrance
games for DVDs!” T H I N G T H AT WO U L D K E E P M E and fell headfirst.
F R O M FA L L I N G O N M Y FAC E . Everyone in the bar
whenever —LINDSAY P., 27,
TV STRATEGIST,
NEW YORK, NY
I WO U N D U P F U L L - O N G R A B - turned to look. Totally
subtle.” —EMILY F., 28
she’s out BING THE A SS OF THE QUIETE ST
AND MOST SH Y GU Y IN M Y 14 “I asked my BF’s
of the C L A S S . I T WA S S O AW K WA R D.” dad to take a picture
house —MISHA J., 20, STUDENT, KARACHI, PAKISTAN of us. He quickly gave
my phone back—my
so she 10 C E L E B C O N F E S S I O N
birth-control alarm
was going off. At least
doesn’t “On one job, I started projectile vomiting—
he knows we’re safe!”
—DANIELLE K., 21
know I’m in front of 200 people on-set. The hair and
makeup people had to clean my throw-up!
playing I’d contracted a stomach bug. I saw the
them.” same hairstylist on another job, and she
just was like, ‘I know who you are.’ Ugh!”
—CHRIS S., 30, INVESTMENT
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bies, and he told me he was into
puppetry. When we went out “In the middle of the movie
again, he had a surprise—he we were watching, he leaned
brought a puppet that looked just over and started nibbling my
like me. He even gave it a name neck. Then he whispered in
similar to mine and made it talk my ear that he was actually
with my mannerisms! It felt creepy a 2,000-year-old vampire in a
and obsessive. He’s a better match human body. I looked at him,
with the puppet than with me.” expecting it to be a joke, but
TATIANA S., 24 he was full-on serious.”
MONICA W., 25

“This guy took me out


to a restaurant and
didn’t tell me his mom
worked there as a
waitress. She waited
on us, then sat down
and ate with us and
then paid. That was
“Over dinner, he asked
our last date.” me how old I was, then
LAURA L., 28 followed up by asking if I
would ever consider
freezing my eggs. What
“We started talking
are you, my doctor? I got
about girls he’d out of there.”
dated in the past, SKYE S., 34
and he says, ‘I’m
clearly a chubby
chaser.’ And winked
at me! Rude.”
ZULMA C., 19

“He canceled on me
last minute, claim-
ing a family emer-
gency. Then he
texted me that the
“He took me into his date was back on
room—which had bunk and asked me to
beds—and then he put come pick him up.
on High School Musical 2. He was drunk and
Not sexy, dude.” had me drive him
and his friends to
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C U LT U R E C R U S H
FUN, FEARLESS...FAIL! From wow to WTF, we call the trends like we see ’em.

DON’T (SEX) TOY WITH ME

D O N ’ T ( S E X ) T O Y W I T H M E , F R O M L E F T: R A C H E L R O Z E / C H A K R U B S ( 7 ) ; G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 3 ) ; N K B I M A G E S / I S T O C K . C O M ; M A S S I M O B R E G A / T H E L I G H T H O U S E / V I S U A L S U N L I M I T E D / C O R B I S .
H O T S H O T S , F R O M L E F T: 6 0 M I N U T E P H O T O / C O U R T E S Y S T E FA N O P E I R I S ( 2 ) ; G A B R I E L L A M U S C AT E L L O ; C O U R T E S Y F R O Z E N C H O O K . C O M ; G E T T Y I M A G E S . ¡ E Y E , C A R A M B A ! , F R O M L E F T:
G E T T Y I M A G E S ; C O U R T E S Y B R E N D A VA D E N ; Z A C H A R Y M A Z U R / W I R E I M A G E ; M I K H A I L O LY K AY N E N /A L A M Y; L U D S A M / S T O C K 4 B / C O R B I S . O P P O S I T E PA G E : G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 8 )
FUN Chakrubs: Crystal dildos FEARLESS UT-Austin students plan FAIL A Dutch dildo holds 21
for the spiritually enlightened to protest campus gun laws by grams of a dead lover’s ashes. Why
take you from “om” to “ohhh-m.” open-carrying dildos. Stick it to ’em! mourn when you can, uh, moan?

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FUN Oregon teen Stefano Peiris FEARLESS Extreme phone pinch- FAIL Frozen Chook: The New Zea-
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Where’s his Slurpee scholarship? phone dangling inches from death. as raw chickens. What the cluck?

¡EYE, CARAMBA!

FUN The World’s Biggest Eye Con- FEARLESS “Trap Queen” rapper FAIL Woman glues her own eye
tact Experiment: 115,000 strangers Fetty Wap opts against a prosthetic shut after her friend confuses eye
stare at each other, not at iPhones. eye; inspires a young fan to follow. drops with nail glue. Eye-pic fail!

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THE RIGHT WAY TO DO EVERY HOLIDAY season,


I gorge myself on corn

Weight-Loss
bread, cookies, and
champagne cocktails
from Thanksgiving to
Christmas, then swear

Resolutions
on New Year’s Eve that
I’ll drop the five
pounds I’ve gained
and another five for
good measure. Come
WE ALL DO IT—VOW TO DROP POUNDS AS SOON AS THE BALL DROPS. January 1, it’s all sal-
BUT THE BEST RESOLUTIONS HAVE MORE TO DO WITH THE WAY WE ads and intense work-
FEEL THAN WITH WHAT WE WEIGH. SARAH Z. WEXLER EXPLAINS. outs at the gym. But

24 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


#REALTALK
sleep more, find more
time for friends. Iden-
tify the things in your
INSTE A D OF FOCUSING
life that you’ve actu-
ON FOOD, TRY FOCUSING
ally been short-shrift-
ON YOUR W E L L NE S S
A N D H A P P I N E S S .”
ing but that make you
feel happy and, well,
full. “Many of us eat
when we’re lonely,
our bodies naturally bored, or frustrated,
want to keep weight so if you can get more
on to protect us. “On satisfaction from
top of that, we set out- your life, you seek it
rageous, unrealistic less from food,” says
goals that make us feel Lauren Slayton, RD,
we’re not worthy until founder of Foodtrain-
we achieve them. And ers in New York City.
if we have slipups, we Maybe that means you
feel worse about our- finally cross-stitch
selves than before we that “What would
made the resolution.” Beyoncé do?” pillow
While that sounds or actually take that
like an argument to beginners’ Italian
scrap all resolutions, class.
it isn’t. Articulat- Personally, I vow to
ing a goal ups your add more FaceTiming
chances of achieving with my BFF who
it. Six months after lives 3,000 miles
New Year’s, 46 percent away, cooking dinner
of those who simply with my boyfriend,
made a resolution felt seeing stand-up com-
successful, whereas edy, and more QT with
only 4 percent of non- my mom—like desti-
resolvers did, accord- nation spa-weekend
ing to a study in the kind of quality time.
Journal of Clinical “Instead of focusing
Psychology. The trick on food, try focusing
is resolving to be a bet- on your wellness and
ter version of yourself happiness,” says Slay-
that isn’t determined ton. Through a small
by your pants size. change like cleaning
“Make it less quantita- out your closet clutter,
tive about the pounds having a trip to
and more qualitative look forward to, or
about how you want to bonding with friends,
then one late night at weight. And now, not survey reveals only feel in your body—like you’ll feel better about
work keeps me from only can I not button 8 percent of people having more strength, yourself, and then you
hitting the good Spin- my jeans, I also feel achieve that goal every more energy, and more drop weight because
ning class, or it’s a like a huge failure. To year. “So many women confidence,” advises you’re not constantly
friend’s birthday and console myself, I fall into the trap of Jamieson. In other looking to food as
what’s a birthday watch Extreme Weight severe calorie depri- words, get off the the main way to
without chocolate- Loss and eat cookie vation in the winter,” scale and into a happy feel better.” In other
S T U D I O F I R M A / S T O C K S Y. C O M

espresso cake? In a dough with a spoon. says Alexandra Jamie- headspace. words, by doing
matter of days, I’m Losing weight is son, author of Women, How? Instead of stuff we love, we’re
completely off the the most common Food, and Desire. But making resolutions more likely to stay
resolution train. By New Year’s resolution, she says it’s actually that are about less (eat away from the snack
February, I feel terri- according to a Uni- counterintuitive to less, weigh less, spend machine—a resolution
ble that I’m still carry- versity of Scranton drop pounds in the less), focus on the worth keeping way
ing Christmas-cookie survey. Yet that same colder months when more, as in read more, past February. ■

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DRESS, Pixie
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Baby-G,
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Disrupt
Your Look! STUCK IN A RUT?
Pop into any
Sephora for a
free mini
DITCH THE makeover.
BEAUTY COMFORT
ZONE! CREATE A
MOOD BOARD
OF HAIR AND
MAKEUP #GOALS
(FLIP FOR INSPO),
THEN MAKE THEM
YOUR OWN.
BY LONI VENTI
MALINA CORPADE AN /CON TOUR S T Y LE BY GE T T Y IMAGE S

41
BEAUTY

Lime Light
Get electric lids by
coating them with
creamy neon green
shadow, then lining
creases in black.
NYX Jumbo Eye Pencil
in Lime, $4.50,
nyxcosmetics.com

Icy Hot
Platinum hair and
brows are an epic
canvas for sizzling red
lipstick. Rock a velvet
finish, and keep the
rest of your face bare.
REVLON Ultra HD
Matte Lip Color in
Love, $9, drugstores

J E F F R E Y W E S T B R O O K / S T U D I O D ( 4 ) . C L O C K W I S E F R O M T O P R I G H T: S A R A H F O R D / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M ; C H R I S T I A N
K E T T I G E R / T R U N K A R C H I V E ; G E T T Y I M A G E S ; E N I K O S Z O C S / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M ; D R E A M S T I M E . C O M ; M A R I O
S I E R R A / F O L I O - I D/ T R U N K A R C H I V E ; A N D R E W S T I L E S /C O N T O U R S T Y L E B Y G E T T Y I M AG E S . P R I N T S : S A A N YA A L I .
Just the Tips
A French mani is
anything but basic…
when edges are red!
(Bonus when worn Blue Period
with punk jewelry.) Step up your statement
SALLY HANSEN lip with a customized,
Complete Salon out-of-the-box hue.
Manicure in Shell Just mix any
We Dance and All
eye-shadow shade
Fired Up, $8 each,
drugstores with Vaseline.
ESTÉE LAUDER Pure Color
Envy Eye Shadow in
Blue Fury, $25,
esteelauder.com

Hawk Star
Four knots are radder
than one. Divide hair
into sections, faux-
hawk style, twist into
minibuns, and secure
with bright bands.
SCÜNCI No Damage Hair
Ties, $6, drugstores

42 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


Scratch,
Breathe
and #FeelGlade

Co u l d o u r n ew b e r r y f ra g ra n ce
©2015 S.C. Johnson & Son, Inc. All rights reserved.

m a ke yo u fe e l b r i g h te r ?
E x p e r i e n ce a r u s h o f v i b ra n t p i n k c re a t i v i t y
a l l ove r w i t h o u r n ew R a d i a n t B e r r i e s T M c a n d l e .

Fe e l B r i g h t . Fe e l G l a d e.¨
it ’s like it happened in slow
motion. I fumbled my MAC foun-
dation and watched my NW40
shatter on the floor. I was back
visiting my East Texas home-
IT’S 2016… town, and there wasn’t a MAC
counter for miles.
I headed to the local Walmart
for an alternative, but nothing

Where’s
matched my skin tone. I’m a black
woman but light-skinned (think
Beyoncé). While there were doz-
ens of shades, not one suited my

My
olive undertones. I knew from
years of trial and error that, once
applied, those pale shades would
give me that “trashy ashy” look.

Foundation?
My frustration grew as I
searched for darker colors that I
could mix with a lighter shade.
Combing the aisles, I wondered
why the darker shades were
When it comes to face makeup, stashed on the bottom shelves,
women of color are still looking for their match. collecting dust. And really, why
BY ANDRE A ARTERBERY am I mixing my own makeup?!
Today, we can book a blowout via
an app, but this is still a struggle?
The longer I stood in the check-
out line with my three (!) shades
of liquid foundation to mix into
a perfect fit, the angrier I became.
Days later, Nykhor Paul, a
South Sudanese model, raised the
issue on Instagram.
“Why do I have to bring my
own makeup to a professional
[fashion] show when all the white
girls don’t have to do anything but
show up?” she asked.
Considering that the U.S.
Census Bureau predicts that the
majority of the country will be
minorities by the mid-2040s and
African-Americans alone already
make up almost 15 percent of
the U.S. population, you’d think
beauty brands would want to
keep pace with the marketplace.

So What’s the Holdup?


I called about a dozen major
brands, from CoverGirl to Cli-
nique, to get to the bottom of the
problem. Part of it is geography—
retailers stock a wider variety of
shades in Los Angeles than they
do in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.
BEAUTY
1
Lupita Nyong’o. In addition to
555 Suede (Nyong’o’s match), the
I wondered if it was a case brand also added a darker hue
of the chicken and the egg. If a (560) to the collection, a plummy
retailer believes these customers brown (see left). This month,
don’t exist in their region, they’re 1. MAC Studio Lancôme is expanding its top-sell-
less likely to allocate shelf space Waterweight SPF ing Teint Idol Ultra Stick collec-
30 Foundation in
for darker foundations. 2 NC45, $33, tion to 20 shades. It’s comparable
Perception is one part of the maccosmetics.com to Bobbi Brown Skin Foundation
equation, agrees Karen Grant, 2. BLACK UP Sublime Stick—a favorite among women
Powder in NPS03,
global beauty industry analyst at $37.50, blackup
of color for years—which has 24
The NPD Group, which tracks cosmetics.com shades, with five deeper shades
retail trends. Yet, look at MAC: 3. CHANEL launching in April.
“They offer a wide range of skin Perfection Nick Gavrelis, vice presi-
Lumière in 114
tones at their stores [located across Ambré, $58, dent of global product develop-
the U.S.], and women buy them,” chanel.com ment for MAC Cosmetics, says
3 4. ESTÉE LAUDER
she says, adding it’s the number the brand relies heavily on its
Double Wear All-
one prestige brand in the country. Day Glow BB makeup artists to alert them to
As for foundation itself, creat- Moisture Makeup which shades are needed most.
ing it is more complicated than you SPF 30 in He recounts how the makeup
Intensity 6.0, $38,
might think. Balanda Atis, a scien- esteelauder.com
artists in one of the Paris stores
tist with L’Oréal USA (which owns 5. YVES SAINT were inspired by the black
L’Oréal Paris and Lancôme, among LAURENT Le Teint women of Africa’s Ivory Coast
others), explains. “While brands Touche Éclat who shopped there. “We came
4 Foundation in
might succeed in making darker B90, $58, up with a plan that helped us in
shades, they didn’t always get the yslbeautyus.com our expansion into Africa, and as
undertones or the depth right,” says 6. COVERGIRL Queen a result of this, shade NW58 [a
Collection CC
Atis, who is African-American. Cream in Golden
warm chocolate] was brought to
Typically, there are four pigments Honey, $8.99, North America.”
used to create one shade: white, drugstores Make Up For Ever—known
yellow, red, and black. To create 7. DOLCE & GABBANA for its bases—recently launched
The Lift
deeper hues, some chemists mix Foundation in Ultra HD Foundation in 40
in too much black pigment, which 5 Soft Sable, $73, shades, while Clinique has 41
can leave skin looking bruised. saks.com in its Even Better line. Chanel
8. COVER FX Total
For a caramel hue, there may be Cover Cream is also prioritizing the issue—
too much red or yellow, which can Foundation N120, expect a wider range of liquid
leave skin looking orange. Some- $42, coverfx.com foundation shades by the middle
9. LANCÔME Teint
times, chemists add titanium Idole Ultra 24H in
of the year.
dioxide, a pigment used in many 560, $46.50, For mass-market options,
cosmetics to add coverage. Result: lancome-usa.com you’d be hard-pressed not to find
JENNIFER LIVINGSTON/ TRUNK ARCHIVE . STILL S: JEFFRE Y WE STBROOK /STUDIO D.

an ashy finish. So even when dark 6 your shade between L’Oréal Paris
shades are available, many of them True Match (which Atis helped
haven’t been very good. create) and Revlon ColorStay
Makeup Collection. Those have
Next-Era Foundations 33 and 32 shades, respectively.
The landscape is still far from But perhaps the bigger sign
perfect (although shade-match- of progress is that some brands
ing apps and online shopping are finally starting to realize
options have improved). But there 7 that black women aren’t all the
have been advances. same shade…nor are we a niche
In 2014, Atis created L’Oréal’s consumer. When we finally have
Women of Color Lab, a team more sophisticated options on
devoted to formulating cosmetics the shelves—even in my tiny
for different ethnicities. A recent Texas town—that’s when I’ll be a
win: The lab identified an aqua- truly happy customer. ■
marine blue pigment that has the
ability to create deep, pure color, 8
to create the perfect foundation
9
match in Lancôme’s Teint Idole
line for their newest face, actress

JANUARY 2016 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ 45


BEAUTY
SUDDEN IMPACT
Navy liner intensifies
the whites of your eyes,
so your eye color pops.
RIMMEL LONDON
Exaggerate Smoke n’
Shine Liner in Blue
Steel, $6.50, drugstores

GO LONG
Trigger hair growth
every time you wash
with this root-boosting
niacin-rich shampoo.
OGX Niacin3 + Caffeine
Shampoo, $8, Target
BLING FINGERS
Ring in 2016 with CLIP ART
some bubbly…and a A tricked-out
sapphire mani. hairpin turns
OPI St. Mark’s the a gym bun into
Spot, $9.50, ulta.com a brunch one.
KARINA Grey
Pearl Barrette,
$8, ulta.com

$10, LIGHT SWITCH


Contouring with bronzer?

TOPS!
So last year. Dust this
pearlized powder high up
on cheeks instead.
MAKEUP REVOLUTION Vivid
WAKE-UP CALL Baked Highlighter in
When you need to fake Golden Lights, $6, ulta.com
a full eight, roll on this
Budget-friendly buys
antioxidant-packed that make you look (and
eye serum in the a.m. feel) like a million bucks
E.L.F. STUDIO Eye Refresh,
BY L AUREN BAL SAMO
$3, elfcosmetics.com

SOFT SERVE
The beauty equivalent
of a cozy sweater: this
cashmere-like cream.
H&M Cashmere
Haze Body Cream, HEAVY METAL
$8, H&M Stores HIT REFRESH A swipe of blue or
Purse-size and silver lipstick is all it
perfect for nixing takes to harness your
greasy, flat inner #BadBitch.
roots on the fly. NYX COSMETICS Wicked
FEKKAI Blowout Lippie in Stone Cold
Travel-Size Hair (silver) and Sinful
Refresher, $8, (blue), $6 each,
fekkai.com nyxcosmetics.com
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The
Secret
to
Sexier
Hair
Take care of your scalp
and your hair will reward you
in shine, strength,
even length. Seriously.
BY DE ANNA PAI
6

1 4

IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, it’s weird


that your skin-care routine 3
stops at the hairline. “Your 5
scalp is really an extension
7
of your face…and has 2
its own unique skin type,”
says Francesca Fusco, MD, YOUR SCALP SITCH YOUR SCALP SITCH YOUR SCALP SITCH
Second-day hair? No flakes—just It’s occasionally
a New York City derma- As if! You can’t go unpredictably itchy, itchy and dotted
tologist for Clear Scalp and longer than a day tight, and with teeny white
without it getting uncomfortable. specks. Hair dye
Hair. The weather, flat and greasy. SCALP TYPE: SENSITIVE may also sting.
hormones, even styling SCALP TYPE: OILY Random discomfort is YOUR TYPE: DRY
habits can throw it out of Just like fluctuating likely a reaction to
inflammation
Winter air strips your
hormone levels wreak scalp’s naturally low
whack…and that’s when havoc on your face spurred by product moisture levels. Ditto
trouble starts. “About a (think monthly break- residue or buildup— blow-dryers and flat-
quarter of my patients outs on your chin), they common if you don’t
shampoo on the reg.
irons, which can make
also control oil produc- things uncomfortable.
complain of dryness, tion on your scalp. SOLUTION Once a week, SOLUTION After wash-
itchiness, tightness, and SOLUTION Once a week, swap your usual ing, follow with a con-
stinging,” says Dr. Fusco. use a clay mask (try
Dessange Paris Bal-
shampoo for a scalp
scrub, which manually
ditioner made with
vitamin E (in Head &
Scalp imbalances can ancing Pre-Shampoo breaks down buildup. Shoulders Moisture
also mess with your look— Mask [1], $12, Target) (Christophe Robin Care Scalp Soother
cue dullness, breakage, to purify follicles. And
shampoo daily, rins-
Cleansing Purifying
Scrub With Sea Salt
[5], $10, drugstores).
Rub it into your scalp,
and slower growth. ing thoroughly, says [3], $51, Sephora, not just hair. Every
Confront your issue Dr. Fusco. (Dry sham- gently exfoliates with few days, apply a
poo doesn’t count—see foaming mineral salts.) flake-dissolving mask
head-on with our guide. below.) Use a sham- Follow with a sooth- made of salicylic acid
poo specific to oily ing, lipid-rich serum for 10 minutes pre-
hair (the botanicals in (like René Furterer shampoo (try Philip
C H R I S C R AY M E R / T R U N K A R C H I V E . J E F F R E Y W E S T B R O O K / S T U D I O D.

Phyto Purifying Scalp Astera Leave-In Kingsley Exfoliating


Exfoliating Shampoo Soothing Freshness Scalp Mask [6], $30,
[2], $26, sephora.com, Serum [4], $31, philipkingsley.com).
reduce oil production). renefurtererusa.com).
FYI Large, chunky
flakes are most likely
dandruff. A daily
A DDICTED TO DRY SH A MPOO? shampoo with pyri-
Sure, it’s convenient, but “it’s like piling on powder to cleanse an thione zinc (like Clear
oily face,” says Dr. Fusco. “Adding it to a mix of oil and sweat can Scalp and Hair
clog hair follicles and breed irritating bacteria.” When you do Complete Care Anti-
wash the old-school way, choose a shampoo labeled for scalp Dandruff Shampoo
and hair. (At left: Phylia de M. Clean Shampoo for Scalp and Hair, [7], $5, drugstores)
$35, phylia.com.) Scalp-healthy ingredients like zinc pyrithione will zap the over-
lessen the buildup of oil, product, even dead skin cells. (You could
growth of (totally
also use an anti-dandruff shampoo after a dry-shampoo binge.)
normal!) fungus.

JANUARY 2016 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ 49


BEAUTY
Tired, Puffy Eyes
Tame sleepy eyes with a
Visine soak: Add a drop
per eye then close for
Unbrushable Hair two minutes. Follow with
Piled on texturizer, hair spray, moisturizing under-eye
dry shampoo (all the above?)…and skin patches to
have a rat’s nest to prove it? Apply counteract alcohol’s
conditioner before shampoo. dehydrating effects.
The oils break down buildup so DHC’s Rich Eye Zone,
shampoo can wash it all away. Try $17.50, dhccare.com,
Aussie 3 Minute Miracle Moist, wraps around your
$4, drugstores, followed eye, infusing the area
by Hair Food Root Cleansing with moisture.
Shampoo, $10, Target.

Wake Up in Makeup?
Do a double cleanse. Start with cleansing
oil (try Boots No7 Beautiful Skin
Cleansing Oil, $12, Target) or
micellar water (we love Simple
Skincare’s, $7, drugstores) to dissolve
makeup. (If you slept in false lashes,
rest cotton pads soaked in
makeup remover on eyes before peeling
them off.) Then lather up with face
Eau So Smelly wash to target pores.
While asleep, your body
was likely sweating out
alcohol. Ew. Jump in a
lukewarm shower (not too Dragon Breath
hot or you’ll keep sweating)
If you passed out without
with a foamy scrub (like
brushing, you have to try
Nivea Daily Renewal
the tooth facial. Brush,
Lathering Body Scrub, $6,
floss, then repeat. And
drugstores). Suds plus
finish with a 30-second
exfoliating beads operate
swish of germ-blasting
like an odor magnet. Finish
mouthwash. Crest 3D
with scented body oil (like
White Luxe Glamorous
Fresh Life Body Oil, $48,
White Mouthwash, $4.59,
sephora.com) or lotion.
drugstores, lifts away
surface stains—ideal if
you were sipping red wine.

PARTIED ALL NIGHT?


TRUNK ARCHIVE

FOR TIMES WHEN YOU CARPE PM A LITTLE TOO HARD:


POP AN ASPIRIN, CHUG SOME AGUA, AND GIVE THESE MORNING-AFTERMATH TRICKS A GO.
BY LONI VENTI

SOURCES: DEBRA JALIMAN, MD, NYC DERMATOLOGIST;

50 WESLEY O’MEARA, NYC HAIRSTYLIST AT HONEY ARTISTS;


MARC LOWENBERG, DDS, A COSMETIC DENTIST IN NYC
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*strength against damage vs. non-conditioning shampoo ©2015 P&G


Relax All Day
Dial down the drama—and bring on the calm, cool, and
collected—whenever (and wherever) stress hits.

STEAM QUEEN
Clip ESSIO Aroma-
therapy Shower Kit
($45, essioshower
.com) to your shower-
head to infuse the
steam with one
of three essential
oils (we love the
eucalyptus blend).

SCRUB A DUB
A waterproof Blue-
tooth speaker? Yes,
please! Suction the
ADURO AQUASOUND ($70,
aduroproducts.com)
to your shower wall,

AM
and crank the calm.
AT WORK
This stuff is
like sneaking in
3 p.m. yoga.

Woke up to a hundo ROLL WITH IT To perk


up your posture and rub
e-mails? Slept through away tension, keep
a VIP alarm? Pimp your a tennis ball on hand,
shower with these spa- advises physical
inspired chillaxers to therapist David Reavy,
founder of React Physical
start your day serene. Therapy in Chicago. Tuck
it between shoulder
blades (not your spine),
lean back, and roll it
around to work out kinks.
TRESS DE-STRESS HEAR THIS! Gently
A fast-acting deep massage your ears, first
conditioner (like by rubbing your lobes
PANTENE Pro-V Daily
Moisture Renewal
with your thumb
3 Minute Miracle Deep and index finger, then
Conditioner, $5, squeezing the outer
drugstores) detangles edges all the way to the
and smooths hair, top and back, suggests
making post-shower NYC integrative medicine
styling a cinch. expert Frank Lipman,
MD. It works like needle-
less acupuncture to calm
CHILL OUT… you down in seconds.
Literally! Keep a gel
body wash (like LUSH
TAKE A BREATHER Rub
Refresher Shower a few drops of a relaxing
Jelly, $7, lush.com) in essential oil (H. Giller-
the fridge, and use it man Stress Remedy,
in a hot shower. The $48, hgillermanorganics
temp switch is proven .com, has super-soothing
to lower stress. vetiver) between
hands, and inhale deeply
three times.

52 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


BEAUTY
FACE TIME
Multi-masking—
treating your face
with more than one
mask—is the secret
to a spa glow. Use
a clay mask on oily
zones and a hydrat-
ing one on dry
parts. (ESTÉE LAUDER
Nutritious Radiant
Vitality 2-Step
Treatment,
$68, esteelauder
.com, offers both.)

FAUX FIRE
Get that same warm-
and-cozy feeling with
wood-wick candles
that crackle as they
burn. TIZIANA TERENZI’s
White Fire candle,
$60, peraroma.com,
smells and sounds
like the real deal.

Collapsing on the couch just

these super-soothing treats.

PM
got better. Max out a
nighttime Netflix sesh with

SO HANDY
Slip dry hands into
KARUNA Hand Masks
($32 for four, ulta
.com), gloves pre-
filled with jojoba oil
and shea butter. Call
it a digital detox
(you can’t Snap,
tweet, or ’gram!).
J O R DA N L U T E S /AU G U S T IM AG E . S T IL L S:

WRAP STAR
JEFFRE Y WE STBROOK /STUDIO D.

Mimic a spa body


wrap: Coat skin with
body butter (try THE
BODY SHOP Spa of the
World Body Cream,
$35, thebodyshop
.com), and slip into
sweats. The heat helps
it penetrate deeply.

53
SLUG
EDITED BY
S A R A AU S T I N &
D A N I E L L E M C N A L LY

SO YOU HAD A VERY


HAPPY NEW YEAR.
FOR YOUR ACHY
HEAD, THERE’S
WATER, ADVIL, AND
TIME. FOR THE
REST OF YOUR
MORNING-AFTER
DISASTERS,
FOLLOW OUR
INSTRUCTIONS.
BY CELIA SHAT ZMAN

Hangover
Hacks
You’ll
Thank Us
for on
54
Jan. 1
using just your toes. “Even if with a gentle cleanser, then
you can’t actually pick it up, apply a serum with topical
the act of scrunching your antioxidants, like vitamins C
feet can help squeeze out lac- and E, ferulic acid, green tea,
tic acid buildup, important or phloretin (an apple extract
CLEAN for reducing soreness,” says with potent antioxidant prop-
YOURSELF UP Dr. Sutera. Finally, ice your erties). Add a heavy mois-
FIRST, THEN
WE’LL DEAL feet for 15 minutes to lessen turizer—look for hyaluronic
WITH THE HALF- inflammation and pain. acid on the ingredient list. As
EATEN PIZZA ON
THE FLOOR. When you head out for the for any dark circles, pat on a
day, wear shoes with rubber cream with caffeine to combat
soles and a supportive arch. puffiness and discoloration,
Ideally, that’s a sneaker (go then a brightening concealer
athleisure!), but if you must with light-reflecting pigments
wear heels, opt for a wedge, to fake radiance.
and alternate the types of
kicks you wear throughout THE EYE
the rest of the week, avoiding
the same style or heel height. HANGOVER
If there’s bruising or pain Passed out in your contacts
after two days, see a podia- again? That’s a damaging
trist. It could be deep contu- habit, says Mitchell Cassel,
sions, which are like bone OD, an optometrist at Studio
bruises, or a stress fracture. Optix in New York City. “The
eye is dependent on oxygen to
THE SKIN nourish the outermost layer,

sipping warm chamomile, HANGOVER the cornea. When you sleep in


lenses, you deprive your eyes
ginger, or peppermint tea Skin looking as bad as your of this much-needed oxygen,
with honey throughout the head feels? “Drinking alco- causing swelling of the cor-
day can be extra soothing for hol causes dehydration, lead- nea cells and leading to dry,
THE THROAT both your throat and stom- ing to dry, cracked, irritated blurry, red, and uncomfort-

HANGOVER ach. And that ringing in your


ears? Unfortunately, there’s
skin,” says Joshua Zeichner,
MD, director of Cosmetic
able eyes.” Give them a break
and wear glasses the day after.
You were shouting over the not much you can do on your and Clinical Research in the Even those with perfect
music all night (when you own to quiet it. If it lasts for Department of Dermatology vision may notice eye pain
weren’t singing along), so more than three days, see at Mount Sinai Hospital in after a night of hard partying.
no wonder you can barely your doctor for an Rx. In New York City. What’s worse, Dehydration can cause itchy
croak out a sentence. “Nor- extreme cases, a dose of ste- “alcohol lowers the body’s lev- eyes, and a lack of sleep can
mally when someone loses roids may be required. els of antioxidants,” Dr. Zeich- produce excess oils that
their voice, it’s because the ner adds. “They’re like the compromise the tear film,
vocal cords have become THE HEELS skin’s natural firefighters, pro- leading to dryness, burning,
inflamed,” explains Chris-
topher Chang, MD, an oto- HANGOVER tecting against damage.” That
means hungover skin is more
and redness. Cassel recom-
mends prescription or OTC
laryngological surgeon in They looked flawless last susceptible to environmental antihistamine drops (lens
Warrenton, Virginia. Add to night, but you’re cursing stressors like UV light, pol- wearers should use a formula
that the fact that alcohol is a them now. High heels can lution, and cigarette smoke. made for them) to reduce the
chemical irritant that dries shorten the Achilles tendon To protect it, wash your face irritation quickly. ■
out the lining of the throat. over time, so while you’re still
F R O M R I G H T: W A A / S T O C K S Y; T R U N K A R C H I V E .

“You have to rest the voice to in bed, before putting any


give it a chance to heal,” Dr. weight on your feet, stretch
Chang advises. If you can’t your calves, suggests Jac-
keep quiet (say, you have to queline Sutera, DPM, of City
give a presentation at work), Podiatry in New York City.
do instant damage control Follow that with a mini-
by breathing in humid air—a massage, rolling feet over a
hot shower typically does the golf or tennis ball or a fro-
trick—and drinking plenty of zen water bottle. Then spend
fluids. Dr. Chang says most two to three minutes trying
beverages are fine, although to pick up a sock off the floor

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FOOD BUZZ

1 2 3
2016 DIET-BOOK CHEAT SHEET We picked out the sane advice.
EAT PROTEIN AT EVERY EAT FOR YOUR BODY TYPE. KEEP A FOOD LOG. People
MEAL. Aim for 25 to 35 Apple-shaped? Opt who do so lose twice as
grams, says David Lud- for healthy fats before much as those who don’t,
wig, MD, PhD, author of grains to slim your belly, according to Ilyse Scha-
Always Hungry? Protein in says The Doctor On piro, RD, coauthor of
dairy, meat, fish, beans, Demand Diet’s Melina Should I Scoop Out My
and nuts cue a hormone Jampolis, MD. Pear- Bagel? (Answer: Yes.)
that reduces hunger and shaped? Favor healthy Just a note on your phone
raises energy. carbs, like berries. works fine.

Go for
55 P E R C E N TA G E
REDUCTION
IN BINGE
E AT I N G A F T E R
PEOPLE TOOK
A COURSE
I N H OW
the
THE COSMO
TA S T E T E S T
How to make
sure your yogurt is
a healthy snack?
Pick one with less
than 20 grams of

Silver
T O E AT
sugar. Cosmo staffers
M I N D F U L LY.
tried a bazillion
SOURCE: COMPLEMENTARY
THERAPIES IN MEDICINE and deemed these
three good and
good for you.
Even if you’re having a
sad desk salad, grab a
real fork, knife, or
spoon. People who eat NOOSA PLAIN
It’s made with whole milk, giving
with heavy utensils one 8-oz container 13 g of fat, 14 g
enjoy food 10 percent of protein, and 15 g of sugar.
more than those eating TASTING NOTES: Smooth,
with cheaper flatware, creamy, divine, no mix-ins
a recent study finds. necessary (a good thing since
it has 240 calories).
“You’ll believe the
quality of your food is
better,” says coauthor
Charles Michel, chef- S I G G I ’ S NO N FAT P L A I N
in-residence at the Small but mighty, a
University of Oxford. 5.3-oz container of this “skyr”
(a strained version) has no fat, just
Weightier silverware
C L O C K W I S E F R O M L E F T: T R A V I S R AT H B O N E / T R U N K A R C H I V E ; L U C A S
Z A R E B I N S K I / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M ; C O U R T E S Y C O M PA N I E S .

4 g of sugar, and 80 calories.


may also help you Plus, 15 g of protein.
slow down and be TASTING NOTES: A little tart.
mindful, which could Add peaches or nectarines and
equal eating less. granola with nuts and seeds.
—ABIGAIL LIBERS

THE GREEK GODS


T R A D I T I O NA L P L A I N
It’s sweet not sour, with 9 g of
protein and 14 g of fat but also 15 g
of sugar and 220 calories.
TASTING NOTES: It reminded
testers of ricotta. Try it for dessert
instead of a quick snack.
SOURCE: AMY MYRDAL MILLER, MS, RDN; FOUNDER/
PRESIDENT OF FARMER’S DAUGHTER CONSULTING

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SO SIMPLE
YOU COULD MAKE IT AT HOME

LaraBarÕS CHERRY PIE RECIPE


a few
HANDFUL OF A CLUSTERR OF

Directions: Place in food processor, blend.

Only Food in Our Food.


Made with three ingredients: dates, almonds and cherries.

©Larabar
BODY NEWS
Ask
Scent

2
Dr. P E R C E N TA G E
OF U. S .

Ashton WO M E N

of a
A G E S 14 T O
49 W ITH
BACTE RI A L
VA G I N O S I S .

Woman
NO SH A ME !

After I got the Mirena


IUD, I started losing
my hair. What gives?
This is a very rare side Many vag smells are totally
effect: Alopecia occurs
in less than 5 percent
normal. Others, not so much.
of Mirena patients. Here’s how to know if your
Mirena uses one of the funkiness might merit a visit
lowest doses of the to your doctor.
hormone progesterone
of any birth control on
the market, so side MUSKY The solve: This
effects that appear to Mild, sweaty odors smell on its own is
be hormonal may are likely just NBD. Got itching
actually be unrelated. pheromones, which and redness too?
Have you made any diet are the body’s It might be a sign
or lifestyle changes mate-attracting of a yeast infection.
lately? If not, it may be chemicals. Your See your gyno.
worth talking to your natural scent may
doctor about finding a grow stronger FISHY
BC method that’s depending on A mild but foul
better for you. temperature, diet, odor can mean an
perspiration…even overgrowth of
wearing tight jeans. normal bacteria,
Do I need to use a The solve: Nothing typically caused by
special cleanser for to worry about douching or having
sex without a

C L O C K W I S E F R O M T O P : S A R A H F O R D / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M ; G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 2 ) ; A N D R E W H E T H E R I N G T O N .
here. Hit the
my vagina? showers (to remove condom.
Nope, the idea that you excess sweat) and The solve: If the
need something differ­ go about your day. smell comes with
ent for your face, arm­ itchiness and a
pits, and private parts is BLEACHY milky-white or gray
mostly marketing. I This strong discharge, visit

B AC T E R I A L VAG I N O S I S S TAT S O U R C E : C E N T E R S FO R D I S E A S E C O N T R O L A N D P R E V E N T I O N .
often tell patients to use chemical scent your ob-gyn. You
shampoo, because if it’s usually arises after may have a vaginal
for your head, it’s going a steamy night, infection, like
to be gentle. That said, when vaginal fluids bacterial vaginosis.
standard products can have mixed with She can write you a
contain irritants and IT’S JUST lubricants, prescription for an
even organics may have A LITTLE condoms, and antibiotic.
EAU DE YOU.
fragrance, to which semen, all of which —MARIA AZUA
people can be sensitive have distinctive SOURCE: NANCY LEBOWITZ,
or allergic. Find what odors. MD, A GYNECOLOGIST IN NYC
works for your skin.
SOURCE: JENNIFER ASHTON, MD, OB-GYN AND
SENIOR MEDICAL CONTRIBUTOR FOR ABC NEWS

WHAT THE HECK IS A GENTLE C-SECTION?!


New moms who can’t deliver vaginally sometimes feel let down. They miss
out on seeing the delivery, and the baby is usually taken away immediately
after. Enter the “gentle” or “family­centered” C­section. In this procedure,
pioneered by Boston’s Brigham and Women’s Hospital and now offered
nationally, docs use a clear drape and place monitors on the woman’s side
or back so she can hold her baby right away. —EMILY ROWE
SOURCE: DANIEL ROSHAN, MD, A MATERNAL-FETAL MEDICINE SPECIALIST IN NYC

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WORKOUT

Look
Sexier
From
Behind
Who doesn’t want an
A+ ass? With this routine from
Cosmo fave trainer Katia Pryce,
10 minutes three or four days a
week is all it takes to tone, lift,
and sculpt a butt worth
flaunting. Let the haters hate:
This year, leggings are pants.
BY DANIELLE MCNALLY

1 SIDE-BUTT SPECIAL
Get on all fours, wrists under
shoulders, knees under hips. Lift
right leg, and kick it out to side at
hip height [shown]. Reverse
motion to return to start.
Immediately repeat with left leg.
That’s 1 rep. Continue,
alternating sides for 30 reps.

AB BONUS Even though your


lower body is shifting from side
to side quickly, keep your upper
half still as a statue, says Pryce.
That way, you get a killer
oblique workout too.

60 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


2 APPLE BOTTOM
Get on all fours, resting on
forearms, elbows under shoul-
ders, knees under hips. With knee
bent, lift right leg slightly to cross
right ankle over left [A]. From
A there, lift right leg up high, keep-
ing knee bent [B]. Lower, repeat
8 times. On the last rep, pulse leg
up 16 times. That’s 1 set.
Do 4 sets, then switch sides.

HARDER THAN IT LOOKS


Don’t be surprised if this isn’t
tough at first. “The lifts are
warming up the glutes,” says
Pryce. “When you get to the
pulses, you should be dying.”

3 HIP ACTION
Lie on your right side,
resting on your right forearm,
elbow under shoulder, left hand B
on floor in front of stomach, and
legs together, knees bent.
Keeping feet together, lift left
knee [A]. Lower, then extend left
leg to the side [B], keeping knee
and foot facing forward, not up.
Return to start. Do 25 reps,
then switch sides.

DON’T CHEAT To engage the THIS ROUTINE


glutes and not the quads, it’s WORKS YOUR
important to keep your hips LOWER BODY
FROM LOADS
stacked—don’t let them roll OF DIFFERENT
backward! Pryce suggests ANGLES TO GIVE
YOU A PERKY
placing your left hand on your BUM ATOP TRIM
hip rather than on the floor and THIGHS.
pushing your hip forward.

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WORKOUT
4 THIGH TONE-UP
Sit faceup, knees bent, feet
flat, and prop yourself up on
your elbows. Extend right leg
out to side, and open left leg
slightly [A]. Draw legs toward
each other, and bend right knee
to cross it over left [B]. Do 20
reps, then switch sides. A

POST-WORKOUT SNACK
To get curves, you need to
build muscle, which
means you need to eat
protein (at least 12 grams).
Without it, you can
JACKET, Adidas by Stella
exercise all you want, but McCartney, $420,
“the muscles won’t form stellamccartney.com/us.
correctly,” says Pryce. SPORTS BRA, Solow, $70,
revolveclothing.com.
LEGGINGS, Ultracor, $168,
Bandier. SNEAKERS, APL,
$140, aplrunning.com

PRYCE’S IDEAL
PLAYLIST FOR
THIS WORKOUT:

5
“BOOTYLICIOUS,” BY
DESTINY’S CHILD;
BOOTY BOOSTER

M A K E U P : C A R R I E L A M A R C A F O R A B T P. C O M . M A N I C U R E : R A C H E L S H I M F O R A B T P. C O M .
“BOOTY,” BY J.LO; AND
“ASS DROP,” BY Get on all fours, wrists under

FA S H I O N E D I TO R: A DA M M A N S U R O G L U. H A I R: A N D R I TA R E N E E U S I N G C O R I O L I S S .
WIZ KHALIFA.
shoulders, knees under hips. Shift
weight to the right, and lower
onto right forearm as you extend
left leg out to side. Lift left leg up,
and rotate it to the back [shown].
Reverse motion to lower to side.
Do 30 reps, then switch sides.

FEEL THE BURN You want to


use your abs and butt, not your
leg muscles, to do this lift.
If you feel it in your hamstring
or quads, relax your foot.

62 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ JANUARY 2016


HAPPINESS
Can a Type-A
Girl Find Calm? Danielle McNally ran four marathons, no
“ when people say problem. It was meditation that nearly killed her. harder than popping a
they don’t have time to pill. So I pick up a few
meditate, I ask them, more tools. I down-
‘Do you have time load the app OMG.
to feel like shit?’” So I Can Meditate!,
says meditation guru which targets spe-
Gabrielle Bernstein at cific moments—con-
our first meeting, and flicts, office stress,
I have to admit she walking. I especially
has a point. like the one for wait-
The ancient prac- ing in line, which I
tice is suddenly trend- resolve to use in lieu
ing, with a new study of Instagram scroll-
practically every week ing. I also happen
touting its pros: stress upon a YouTube video
reduction, antiaging, called Fuck That: A
stronger immunity. Guided Meditation. It
It appears literally to has Enya-like music
change our overtaxed and expletive-laced
brains, turning down instructions. (“You’re
activity in the areas here now, in this place
involved in anxiety with your inner still-
and turning it up in ness. Those bitches
the areas that keep “I RUSHE D IN TO can’t get under your
emotions in check. M E D I TAT I O N skin. They can’t
The cons are...none, CL ASS BEHIND even.”) After I stop
basically. It’s like a SCHEDULE A ND laughing, I find it sur-
PA N T I N G , A N D
wonder drug with no prisingly useful.
A LL I COULD FOCUS
Rx needed and no Yet my first attempt stressed than I was I start meditating
ON WERE THE
side effects. was a flop. I had when I walked in. S W E AT B E A D S
more and more, if not
So I’d added it to signed up for a group All of which S L OW LY T R A C I N G every day. I repeat my
my to-do list. The class at The Path, a brought me to Bern- T H E I R WAY D OW N mantra at a friend’s
problem: I never did meditation studio stein, the author of M Y S P I N E .” bachelorette party, on
it. There were memos that hosts 45-min- Miracles Now. “I’m New Jersey Transit,
to prepare, runs to ute classes in an NYC trying to meditate, on a beach in Spain.
run. Even if I could townhouse. I rushed and I’m mad at myself kundalini medita- And the more I do it,
find the time just to sit in behind schedule that I can’t,” I tell her. tion: I take long, deep the less my mind wan-
in silence, how could and panting, and “It’s like I’m trying to breaths for three min- ders. I start to plan my
I stop the thoughts all I could focus on win at meditation.” utes while repeating day around classes at
about everything else were the sweat beads She assures me that the mantra sat nam The Path. One Tues-
I should be doing? slowly tracing their she hears this from (“truth identified”), day morning, I pick
Experts will tell way down my spine, clients a lot and adds then simply sit quietly out a zebra-striped
you there’s no wrong how uncomfy my that trying to medi- for a minute. After- silk jumpsuit because
way to meditate, as meditation cushion tate for 45 minutes the ward, I feel both ener- the harem pants will
long as you’re (a) in a was, and the puzzle first time out is like gized and relaxed. be perfect for sitting
comfortable position of how meditation starting an exercise Then Bernstein gives cross-legged later that
in a quiet space, requires you to sit plan with a triathlon. me a directive to med- night. I receive mul-
LUMINA/STOCKSY

(b) focused on some- even though being In fact, less than five itate daily. Bubble = tiple compliments.
thing specific, and sedentary is bad yet minutes is enough. burst. Meditation really
(c) holding a non- meditation is good. Bernstein teaches Wonder drug or does have endless
judgmental attitude. I left feeling no less me a beginners’ no, meditating is benefits. ■

JANUARY 2016 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ 63


Your classmate
in Delaware
says it eases her anxiety,
while your uncle in
California swears
it erases his knee pain.

SHOULD
EVERYBODY
JUST
GET
STONED
?
But does that mean
recreational pot is good
for you too?
VIRGINIA PELLEY
investigates the new
vice of choice.
65
They seem to be right. Last year,
researchers compared the deadli-
ness of 10 substances for a study
published in Scientific Reports.
Booze and tobacco were among
the top four. Alcohol abuse is
linked to 1 in 10 deaths among
20- to 64-year-olds annually,
including car accidents, homi-
cides, and suicides. Smoking ciga-
rettes kills more than 200,000
women each year from heart
attack, stroke, lung cancer, and
emphysema. Marijuana, mean-
while, was last on the list—about
114 times less fatal than alcohol.
“In modest amounts, mari-
juana doesn’t cause terrible harm
to anyone’s health,” says Igor
Grant, MD, director of the Center
for Medicinal Cannabis Research,
at the University of California
at San Diego. Still, he and other
experts argue that more research
is needed before we endorse pot as
a health positive. But because the
federal government categorizes try concluded. Longtime users
marijuana in the most danger- may experience withdrawal
ous class of drugs, it’s incredibly symptoms like unease, restless-
balancing 24 credits , marching band, sorority difficult to get the approval and ness, and irritability if they quit.
council meetings, and a part-time job was taking a supplies necessary to conduct a Scary, yes, but such effects aren’t
toll on Cali G., then a 21-year-old University of Mis- gold-standard study that might that different from what drinkers
souri student. Overwhelmed, she turned to alcohol show weed’s benefits. Pot may experience. A few drinks can impair
to mellow out. turn out to be a more virtuous vice memory, the National Institute on
“My responsibilities became unbearable. I would than booze, but that doesn’t mean Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism
come home from class, grab a beer, and chug my way getting baked is good for you. (NIAAA) states. And withdrawal

P R E V I O U S PA G E , F R O M L E F T: R YA N M AT T H E W S M I T H / S T O C K S Y; S I M O N E B E C C H E T T I / S T O C K S Y. T H I S PA G E : N C .
into a fog,” she says. After one particularly brutal symptoms from heavy, long-term
hangover, Cali swore off hard drinking. Then, on a POT & YOUR BODY alcohol use are much more alarm-
camping trip with friends, she had a pot epiphany. It’s no news flash that marijuana ing: hallucinations or delusions.
“My friends told me that smoking weed is safer use affects coordination, time per- There’s some evidence pot may
for your lungs than cigarettes,” says Cali, who is now ception, and memory. It can hin- have negative effects on your heart,
24 and living in southern California. “After learn- der your ability to pay attention including case reports of heart
ing how to do it, I sank into a state of relaxation and alter your judgment, says attacks and strokes among recent or
I’d rarely felt before. It was like I’d been wearing a Nora Volkow, MD, director of the heavy users. But little is known
weighted vest but now it was lifted off.” National Institute on Drug Abuse. about the link, says David Goff, Jr.,
The next morning, Cali watched as campers who “Sometimes, I do get to that point MD, PhD, dean of the Colorado
had gotten drunk staggered out of their tents. “I was where I can’t focus and realize I’ve School of Public Health at the Uni-
munching on Goldfish crackers, thinking, Damn, smoked too much,” says Annie D., versity of Colorado at Aurora. One
I’m glad I missed out,” she recalls. “That went 25, who works in e-commerce in study from 2013 shows that pot
against what I’d believed before: Weed is bad, and Washington. Teens and young may decrease fertility, because it can
alcohol is legal. There’s a reason for that, right?” adults, in particular, may not be lower levels of the luteinizing hor-
Long-held beliefs about pot are shifting fast. Fifty- able to learn as much while high, mone, needed for ovulation. And
three percent of Americans (and 68 percent of millen- Dr. Grant says. And Dr. Volkow smoking pot isn’t great for your
nials) support legalization, according to a March 2015 points out that the brain is still lungs. It can’t compare to the health
survey by the Pew Research Center. It’s already fine to developing until age 24 or 25. effects of tobacco, partly because, as
use medicinally in 23 states and DC—prescribed for Marijuana can affect mood Dr. Goff notes, “people don’t smoke
pain, nausea, insomnia, PTSD, and more—and you disorders and mental health too. a pack of joints a day.” Still, he says,
can light up recreationally in Colorado, Washington, In some, it can cause or exacer- “voluntarily putting smoke into
Oregon, and Alaska. Which means plenty of people bate anxiety and depression. And your lungs is dumb.” Dr. Grant adds,
may be wondering the same thing as Cali: Might pot those with a genetic predisposi- “When you smoke marijuana,
be better for you than alcohol? tion might be at risk of developing you bring in tars that can cause lung
In the Pew survey, about 7 out of 10 respon- schizophrenia if they use pot, a cancer.” Using a vaporizer may
dents said drinking is the more damaging habit. 2012 study in Biological Psychia- reduce your tar exposure.

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seen a rise in ER visits after people
ingested large amounts of pot-
laced goodies, which can cause
anxiousness and hallucinations.
In one tragic case, a visiting col-
lege student jumped off a balcony
and died. “When I bought weed
from a dispensary, I asked, ‘What
are the side effects? What’s the
correct dose?’” says Carla Lowe,
founder of Citizens Against Legal-
izing Marijuana. They were very
unhelpful and blasé, she says.
Most states have agencies
intended to provide some level of
oversight on how dispensaries
operate, but Paul Armentano,
deputy director of the National
Organization for the Reform of
Marijuana Laws, notes that there
are no agreed-upon safety regula-
tions of any kind: no supervision
of testing facilities, and tests for
contaminants aren’t standard-
IF YOU’RE ized. “People are used to buying
HIGH, YOU weed on the black market with no
POT & YOUR SAFETY ability to function more than pot.
SHOULDN’T
idea about quality,” he says.
Tori C., a student at a large south- When I smoke, I stay in control.” “As consumers get more sophisti-
ern university, skips alcohol and She feels the same way about BE DRIVING,” cated, they’ll demand higher
smokes pot usually. She feels it driving high. She tries not to drive SAYS DR. quality and better testing.”
keeps her safer. In the fall of 2014, under the influence of anything, GRANT. So in an ideal world, with rig-
she was sexually assaulted after a she says, “but if I had to, I could “ONE COULD orously regulated dispensaries
party where she and her attacker drive stoned. There’s no way I could and organic pot at shoppers’ dis-
had been drinking. operate a vehicle drunk.” She’s not
ARGUE THAT posal, would a healthy person be
It happens way too often: More way off base. A 2010 study pub- DRUNK healthier if she used marijuana?
than 690,000 college students are lished in the American Journal DRIVING Probably not. Studies show the
assaulted each year by someone on Addictions found that driv- IS WORSE, most support for marijuana’s
who has been drinking, NIAAA ers under the influence of alcohol BUT THAT ability to relieve pain and muscle
statistics estimate. The annual underestimate how impaired they DOESN’T spasms, per a review published in
number of victims of alcohol- are, while participants who smoke the Journal of the American Medi-
related sexual assaults, specifi- pot drive cautiously to compen-
MEAN POT cal Association in 2015. Evidence
cally, is 97,000. Pot, meanwhile, sate. Drunk drivers also have more IS SAFE. of other benefits is unclear. And
tends to lessen aggressive behav- trouble keeping a car in its lane if weed has protective qualities
ior. Moderate and high doses may than marijuana users do. that might help healthy women, it
even suppress violence and reduce None of which endorses remains to be seen. It’s still illegal
irritability and hostility in group drugged driving. Pot-related for recreational use in nearly every
settings, according to a review of road fatalities appear to be ris- state, of course. In those places
research in Addictive Behaviors. ing: About 12 percent of U.S. driv- where it is legal, it’s up to individ-
Evidence of this is emerging ers in fatal accidents in 2010 had uals to decide if pot is lifting them
outside the lab. Compared with cannabinoids in their system, up or holding them back.
the first six months of 2013, the up from 4.2 percent in 1999. “If For Tori C., marijuana became
murder rate in Denver, Colorado, you’re high, you shouldn’t be driv- a crutch instead of a cure. After
dropped by 38 percent in 2014, ing,” says Dr. Grant. “One could the trauma of her sexual assault,
the first year you could lawfully argue that drunk driving is worse, she admits she abused pot for
buy pot. The rate of forcible sex but that doesn’t mean pot is safe.” months, getting high several
offenses dropped by almost 19 times a day to “be numb.” Her
percent. Critics caution, however, POT & THE best friend set her straight: “She
that it may be a case of correla- BOTTOM LINE told me to stop smoking all the
tion, not causation. This debate is far from over, so time and do my homework. I
Tori knows the only person to maybe take it slow. Legalization found a therapist, and my grades
blame for her rape is her rapist. opponents worry there isn’t got better. Smoking so much
Still, she says, “I was too drunk to enough education and regulation just put a Band-Aid on what was
fight back. Drinking inhibits my to keep users safe. Denver has really bothering me.” ■
EDITED BY
M A RINA KHIDEKEL

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69
Romps
En Route
Why wait until you arrive?
There are plenty of steamy ways to
get it on while you’re on the go.

ON A

Plane...
If you’re ballsy enough to
pull it off—because getting
caught can potentially land
you in handcuffs—here’s
how. First rule of the Mile-
High Club? Don’t let any
unmentionables touch the
lavatory. Stand and face
away from him with your
legs together as he enters
you from behind. Bend
slightly forward, bracing ON A ON A IN A
yourself against the wall, for
G-spot in-flight delight. Yacht... Train... Car...
Have him cup your breast Make a splash by using the To make the most of your First, pull over and throw
with one hand and grip your bed as a coital diving board. train ride without getting out all the food wrappers—
waist with the other for Lie on your back with your cast out of the car, snuggle not sexy. Now, have him
balance. Or he can glide legs in the air as he stands up under the free blanket push his seat back as far as
that hand to your clit to at the foot of the bed facing and engage in light over- it goes and sit with his legs
make you feel like you’re you. Now cross your legs, the-pants stroking. If he’s out in front of him. He may
floating on air. And we don’t keeping them straight up, as in his travel sweats, it be in the drivers’ seat, but
have to tell you to be quick. he thrusts into you. Your should be easy to find and by straddling him, you get to
muscle clenching makes gently cup his balls. The control the grinding of your

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LOVE LUST
SEX CONFESSION

ON A FAMILY TRIP
TO PUERTO RICO,
MY SISTER AND I
WENT TO A
BEACHSIDE BAR
WHERE WE STARTED
DANCING WITH
SOME CUTE GUY
TOURISTS. NEAR
THE END OF THE
NIGHT, I WANDERED
TO THE BEACH WITH
ONE OF THEM, AND
WE DID IT RIGHT
THERE IN THE SAND.
EVEN THOUGH IT
WAS SUPER HOT, I
HAD SAND
EVERYWHERE FOR
TWO WEEKS!”
—ALEX K., 26

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YOU’VE In Your Hotel Room On the Beach At the Pa rent s’


ARRIVED! Want to christen that big, Wait until night, when there’s a House
You’re gorgeous hotel bathtub? deserted stretch of sand for Once he’s snuck into your room
u np acked Contrary to popular belief, water private boning. Use that half-full, at midnight, thoroughly evaluate
isn’t a natural lubricant—it can warm bottle of water from your the squeakiness of the twin bed.
a nd ready to
actually have a drying effect. So day at the beach to clean him off Can you pull off silent sex
explore (w i n k). take a cue from Beyoncé’s first. Continue to avoid a without waking the ’rents? If not,
Now sta rt you r “Drunk in Love”: Fill up the tub sandy-crotch situation by staying take the party to the floor.
vaca y i n style. halfway, and make sure that the on top and bouncing like a beach Double-up your childhood quilt,
P-in-the-V occurs above sea volleyball. Oh, and keep your and use it to make your knees
level…or use a silicone lubricant bikini top on. Just in case. more comfy during doggie.
(one that’s not water soluble).

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THE LOVE
THAT SPLIT THE
WORLD
SEX CONFESSION
by Emily Henry

I TOOK MY BOYFRIEND
A good girl
headed for the

TO MEXICO FOR HIS


Ivy League finds
star-crossed
love with a hot
BIRTHDAY, AND WE WENT Southern boy
when she
AT IT IN AN UNDERWATER stumbles into a
weird parallel
CAVE. IT WAS PRETTY universe.

UNREAL…UNTIL WE
WERE INTERRUPTED BY
A JAPANESE TOUR
GROUP. OOPS!”
—ELIZABETH S., 30

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camper feels, no matter the size Pretend that you’re the couple she meets the very Pearl, who used to and a successful
of his, um, firewood. Caution: you’re renting from…or you’re a rich and very literally serve lawyer) butt heads
Nylon walls aren’t soundproof, landlady returning to find her single father of her herself naked on a before falling,
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avoid a late-night visit from your nuts: Just be careful not to Bottom line: house parties. the movie, which, by
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Sex Q&A
No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo

Q / I can O only
when I’m on bot-
tom, but the guy
I’m dating is con-
Q / What’s a siderably heavier
lesbian position than me and kind
that will blow of crushes me
my girlfriend’s when he’s on top.
mind? Our oral What can we try
game is getting that mimics me
a little vanilla. being on bottom
A / The next time without him flat-
you’re going down
on her, try tracing tening me? Q / If my boy-
out the alphabet A / Dad bod can friend has a cold,
(or spell her name!) be cute…until you can we still have
with your tongue— can’t breathe. sex without my
the variety of Thankfully, there getting sick if we
movements means are lots of ways for
she’ll be feeling you to come out on don’t kiss?
all kinds of new top while you’re on A / Okay, techni-
feels that will build the bottom. When cally, sperm
up into a massive you’re lying on your E -M A IL YOUR SE X doesn’t transmit
O. But mouth stuff back, have him QU E ST IONS TO SE XQ A NDA the cold virus,
doesn’t have to prop himself up on @ C O S M O P O L I TA N . C O M . so you would be
be the only way his elbows so that good there. But
to get it on with your tummies aren’t even if you were
your girl. “People touching and he’s down for some
joke about scissor- not cutting off your kiss-free boning,
ing, but it has airflow. (The whole there’s a good
some really good breathing thing chance that he
qualities to is kind of important has germs all over
it because you hit for orgasming.) his body, which
all those nerve If that’s not enough means you’d prob-
endings on the room, he can grip ably catch them
clitoris and vulva,” the headboard from licking, rub-
says sex educator so your bodies are Q / A guy told teins and vitamins bing, or touching
Richelle Frabotta. more at a 45 degree that you’d ingest any part of him,
Or if you want to go angle—that way me there are from giving oral says ob-gyn Drai
the penetration you won’t lose any health benefits sex are negligible,” Bruch, DO. So
route, Frabotta clit stimulation to swallowing. says ob-gyn take this time as
suggests buying while he’s thrust- Is that just Amanda Meulen- an opportunity to
A R T + C O MME RC E . V IB R ATO R: JE F F RE Y

a strap-on that’s ing. Another something men berg, MD. If find romance
well-made with option? Prop a pil- you’re looking to in other ways.
leather and strong low under your made up? blowies for daily Consider upping
grommets that booty, and wrap A / Weirdly, semen nutrients, your footsie
your legs around is kind of healthful. you’re better off game or making
WE STBROOK /STUDIO D.

fits you perfectly.


Sometimes just his waist while he It contains protein taking a multi- chicken noodle
trying something kneels and enters (for shiny hair and vitamin. And when soup—wearing
new will make her you. Now get ready strong nails!), a guy drops that only an apron!—
melt faster than, for some hot— zinc, vitamin C, line again, know to build anticipa-
well, vanilla ice and unrestricted— and sugar. But “the that you don’t have tion for when he’s
cream. heavy breathing. amounts of pro- to, um, swallow it. sniffle-free.

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LOVE LUST

Q / I never want
to have sex unless
I have a strong
emotional bond Q / I’m six months
with someone. pregnant. Can
But all my friends I still use a bullet
date casually like vibrator when I
it’s no big deal— masturbate or
so what’s wrong during sex with
with me? my husband?
A / Um, nothing. (Please say yes!)
“There are basi-
cally two kinds of A / Yes, mother, you
routes to sexual may! Using an
arousal: the sheer external vibe on
lust route and your clit is safe
the romantic throughout your
route,” says entire pregnancy.
Anthony Bogaert, But before you
PhD, author of get your buzz on,
Understanding keep this in
Asexuality. If you mind: Internal toys
don’t ever get the are a no-no
hots for a cute because they
stranger in front of can irritate the
you in the coffee cervix and cause
line or if shirtless bleeding. (Either
Joe Manganiello kind of toy won’t
doesn’t make you vibrate the baby,
want to take a cold just FYI.) Also
shower, it could be important: You
that you lean should skip the
toward demisexu- bullet completely if
ality, an offshoot you have vaginal
of asexuality. bleeding, placenta
Demisexuals only previa, a shortened
feel sexual attrac- cervix, an STI out-
tion to someone break, or a risk of
when there’s an preterm labor, says
emotional bond Dr. Burch. And in
Nothing to first, and hey, that those cases, you
should avoid sex
see here, sounds pretty darn
romantic, right? completely.
we’re just Think about it this Otherwise, you’re
emotionally way: Taking your all-go for those Os.
bonding! time to really
know someone
—JULIE VADNAL

before you get it


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LOVE LUST

“I Married
a Guy, but
I’m Still Bi”
THE WHOLE HUSBAND-AND-WIFE teams (on the DL) since high
school—but this relationship
THING MAKES ME LOOK PRETTY HETERO… was the most serious.
SO I’D LIKE TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT. There were amazing
BY LONI VENTI times, like my 21st birthday,
when we literally danced
scope out my Facebook until dawn at an iconic club,
page and you’ll see that or how she inspired me to
my husband, Artie, and I run (starting with just a few
recently celebrated our first blocks and building up to
wedding anniversary. We a five-mile jog). And there
took a road trip, fed each were challenging times. A
other cupcakes, and drank few weeks after we met, I
champagne straight from came out to my parents and
the bottle. Keep browsing faced their initial shock and
and you’ll see our vintage- disappointment; we didn’t
inspired NYC wedding, our speak for a while. A closed-
candlelit engagement, even minded boss at one of my
a snap from the day we first first jobs called me “gross”
met in person after months to other staffers for “dyking
of OkCupid courtship. But out.” I lost a lot of my straight
way down near the start friends who were too uncom-
of my Timeline, you’ll fortable to try to understand
find me partying with me. We’d get dirty looks at
my ex-fiancée’s foot- the mall, the gym, Disney
ball team after she World, pretty much every-
(yes, she) kicked the where that wasn’t clearly
winning field goal. designated as gay-friendly
She and I dated for whenever showing a smidge
about five years. We loved of PDA. Worst of all was
having parties at our apart- being told over and over that
ment in suburban New Jer- it was “just a phase,” how I
sey, going out for half-priced needed to “meet the right
apps at Applebee’s, and hav- guy,” and more disturbingly,
ing overly dramatic fights “that a real man could f*ck
in public. She wasn’t the the gay right out of me.”
only girl I’d been involved My girlfriend’s lesbian
with—I’ve batted for both friends were reluctant about

PHOTO G R A PHED BY A A RON RICH T E R


NO, MY made me wonder: Do I still
HUSBAND DIDN’T deserve to consider gay and
“STRAIGHTEN ME
OUT.” THAT’S NOT bi people my peers when my
EVEN A THING.
current life screams “straight
girl”? Is it fair to still identify
as one of them?
I sought out an expert for
some guidance. Lisa Dia-
mond, PhD, a professor of
developmental psychology
at the University of Utah
and author of Sexual Fluid-
ity: Understanding Women’s
Love and Desire, assured me
that it’s common for married
bisexual women to feel the
way I do. “Bi people fear that
marrying heterosexually is
somehow an erasure of their
identity. Straight people
assume that your gay rela-
tionships were a phase. Gays
may accuse you of ‘taking the
easy way out.’” The fact is,
I’ve experienced both highs
(being exposed to a proud,
rich culture) and lows (feel-
ing judged and degraded)
as a member of the LGBTQ
DO I STILL DE SERV E
community. My membership
T O C O N S I D E R G AY doesn’t go away just because
accepting a bi girl into their A ND BI PEOPLE M Y seem like any straight, mar- I married a man.
crew. They worried that I PEERS WHEN MY ried 30-year-old on the sur- Diamond encouraged me
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was flaky or confused or LIFE SCREAMS face. But inside, I still feel to help others understand
I’d run off with the first hot ‘ S T R A I G H T G I R L’ ? I S that being bi is as much a that my orientation is more
guy who showed me atten- I T FA I R T O I D E N T I F Y part of who I am as it was 10 layered than my marriage
tion. To be honest, I couldn’t years ago—when I partied at reveals. So I started con-
A S ONE OF THEM?”
blame them, because that’s a ladies-only bash in Asbury versations with important
how society labels bisexual Park in a rainbow tube top. people in my life. I told my
women. But I’m not trying When the Supreme Court parents that even though I
to “double my odds.” I’m not About two months in, I felt announced that same-sex plan to live happily ever after
wishy-washy or on the fence. comfortable enough to have marriage was legal in all with Artie, my bisexuality
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I’m just someone who has the bi convo. Over an iced- 50 states, I thought I would will always be a part of me.
been attracted to both men coffee date, he told me he explode with happiness. (For the record, they are now
and women—and no, not at already knew. He had pieced There was a time when I very supportive and told me
the same time. If I’m with a it together from my stories thought I wouldn’t be able if anyone has a problem with
person, I’m just with them. (and non-gender-specific to marry legally, so not only it, “screw them.”) I told Artie
End. Of. Story. pronouns) and was waiting was I proud of my country, I that I’m so proud of being his
Anyway, my ex and I for me to bring it up when I also felt a personal connec- wife, but I’m also proud of all
ended up parting ways. Not was ready. He was respectful tion to the moment. But I the steps in my life that led
because she didn’t have and unthreatened, and from questioned whether I had the me to him.
a penis, but because we then on, it was pretty much a right to celebrate openly with A few weeks later, when
wanted different things from nonissue. Being around him anything more than a few I teared up watching Abby
life. She was all about buy- made me feel relaxed and rainbow-colored Instagram Wambach run to kiss her
ing a house in the ’burbs excited all at once. I fell hard, posts. Walking home from wife after winning the Wom-
while I was always more of a and we moved in together (in work after #LoveWins day, I en’s World Cup, he wrapped
city girl. About a year later, Brooklyn!) six months later. almost stopped into a lesbian an arm around me and
I met Artie. We listened to (No screenplay…yet.) bar to exchange a few cele- kissed my forehead. He
live music, drank too many As Artie and I got more bratory words, but I chick- gets it—and given what has
martinis, and dreamed serious, the remnants of my ened out and quelled my happened this past year, I
about moving to Brooklyn gay-ish life drifted farther emotions by buying dresses have faith that one day, the
and writing screenplays. down my Timeline. Today, I at a vintage shop instead. It whole world will too. ■

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LOVE LUST had to be like Richard
Gere in Pretty
Woman—snapping at KEEP REMEMBERING
Julia Roberts’ fingers WHAT YOUR EARS
with a jewel box, taking ARE FOR
the limo to the airport, I know it sounds corny,

RELATIONSHIP
then whooshing off in a like I’m sitting on the
private jet to the opera. couch in a corduroy
All I had was $20 and a suit talking to Dr. Phil,
Toyota that was unsafe but listening is the
to drive. Who was I magic dust of any

RESOLUTIONS
going to dazzle? I enduring relationship.
wasn’t taking anyone to And listening is so
Paris for the weekend. easy. You just have
The best I could do was to sit there! Listen to

TO DUMP
Applebee’s and a that story about the
movie. And she’d have hellish colleague at
to pay for the movie. work. Listen to the
As I’ve gotten older, account of that bad
I’ve realized that the phone call with Mom,
most successful rela­ the one where it was
tionships don’t have obvious that Mom was
the pressure to dazzle. playing solitaire on her
They don’t have to rock laptop. Listen to the
This year, you’re vowing to be a better continuously like story about the dream,
daughter, sister, girlfriend, staffer.…The good Super Bowl Sundays, the one where he was
news is, it’s easier than you think to get there. and they don’t need to back at college and his
bankrupt you either. ex­girlfriend was now
BY JA SON G AY
Good relationships an art history profes­
thrive on compatibility sor, and somehow
EVERY YEAR, I MAKE do better with every­ me—all of us can do and comfort. Just like Jason Bateman was
three solemn New one. I promise. I’ll go to better at relationships. the title of my book his roommate, except
Year’s vows: I’m going your birthday party, the And I believe it’s the says, a relationship Jason Bateman was
to declare war on my one at that tiny restau­ modest accomplish­ isn’t about the big bald.…Okay, you don’t
burrito addiction, I’m rant that’s noisier than ments that can help get moments but the little have to listen to that
going to do at least a rodeo. I’ll Like your us there. victories (shameless entire dream, because
eight crunches a week, new pants on Insta­ plug!). Things like it makes no sense. But
and I’m going to get gram, even if I’m not so DUMP THE GRAND- mutual respect, if you can make it half­
better at my relation­ into your new pants. I’ll GESTURE PRESSURE shared appreciations, way, your relationship
ships. With my wife, my return your e­mails. I’ll “Dazzle her.” I heard the unexpected ges­ will be golden. If you’re
boss, my mom, my cat, use my phone as a this early on in my dat­ ture, flirty romance. lucky, he’ll even listen
my best friends. I can phone. (I have friends I ing years, and I thought Showing love doesn’t to your crappy dreams.
text 28 times a day it meant that every date require a private jet. If
who I haven’t spoken to nothing else, just make MAINTAIN YOUR
in a year. I’m completely the bed, you savage. DIGNITY
the worst.) It’s not just No sex on a futon after
age 25.

Jason Gay is a columnist for


The Wall Street Journal and
author of Little Victories.
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How to About Sex With

80
out Dying of Awkwardness
SURE, WE DISH ABOUT IT WITH FRIENDS,
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO DISCUSSING SEX WITH
OUR ACTUAL SEX PARTNERS, A SURPRISINGLY
LARGE NUMBER OF US…DON’T. WHAT’S UP?
BY CHIAR A ATIK
HOW DO
YOU MAKE
SEX TALK
ACTUALLY
SEXY?
(and yes, it can be!)
TRY THIS LINE
the first time amelia , 30, a “I want to be your
playwright from Brooklyn, had an best ever, and I’m
orgasm with a boyfriend, it was gonna need to
by accident. “It just happened. I study up. So tell
me: What gets
hadn’t told him what to do,” she
you going?”
says. Until then, Amelia, like
many women in the early stages TURN IT INTO A
of their sexual history, didn’t care GAME OF YES/NO/
about her satisfaction enough to MAYBE
Lying in bed (it’s
risk the awkwardness of talking easier in the
about sex with her partner. But the dark!), take turns
orgasm changed everything: She’d thinking of sexual
had it, she liked it, and now she likes or scenarios
wanted to replicate it. (threesomes?
“I would get crazy enthusiastic 69ing? sex in
public?) and hav-
when I got close,” she recalls. “‘Yes!
ing the other
Keep doing that!’” But rather than answer whether
give him direction, Amelia would it’s a yes/no/
wait for him to start doing…what- maybe for them.
ever he decided and hope she’d It’s a game that’s
climax again. Because for Amelia, actually fun, plus explains Byers. The truth is, just she was ready to take a less passive
it’s a low-key way
and women everywhere, talking because they figure it out once, approach to her sex life. So with
to cover a lot of
about sex, even with a trusted sex- ground. doesn’t mean they have your O her next boyfriend, she psyched
ual partner, is tough. on lock. “Even if your partner herself up to talk about it. “I was
We watch movies about sex, EVERY TIME YOU understands you well, they still scared the first time I broached the
listen to musicians sing about it, GUYS HAVE SEX, can’t know what you want at this topic,” she says. “But the more we
do a quick post-
and gossip with our friends about moment. The only person who talked about it together, the easier
coital post-mor-
it over brunch—we’re a nation tem by sharing knows that is you.” And the only it became. I realized that by tell-
obsessed. And yet there’s one place your favorite part way for your partner to know what ing him my preferences, I had the
where we’re surprisingly silent on of what you just you want is for you to—yep—say power to make sex more enjoyable
the issue: the bedroom. did. (“When you it. And yet, whether it’s the love of for me.” And Charly’s new boy-
Most of us know communicat- cupped my ass!” your life or guy of the moment, tell- friend was more than up for a little
“When we were
ing about sex is key to sexual sat- ing someone they rock your world tutoring. “Making it good for me
moving in sync
isfaction. It’s a feedback loop: You right toward the but could they please try more of X turns him on! That blew my mind.”
tell your partner what you like, he end!”) Skip any and not Y and maybe softer/a little Communicating your sexual
or she does that, and you have sex critiquing at this higher/with less saliva can be awk- likes and dislikes is just as impor-
you like. But shockingly, the aver- point, because ward AF, especially when a fragile tant if you’re single with casual
age adult knows only 26 percent of people tend to be ego is involved. partners. Eventually, Amelia, of
their partner’s sexual dislikes, and pretty sensitive But the benefits so outweigh the elusive orgasm, got fed up with
after they’ve just
we aren’t much more informed been so intimate.
the costs. Take Charly, 29, a writer her lackluster sex life. Step one
C H R I S C R AY M E R / T R U N K A R C H I V E ( 2 )

about what they do like, according But highlighting and graduate student from New was learning how to get herself off.
to research by Sandra Byers, PhD, the good stuff is York. Her first relationship was in Step two was relaying that knowl-
a psychology professor at the Uni- always appreci- college, and the sex was just okay, edge to her partners. “Now I can
versity of New Brunswick. ated. Positive although she never spoke up. “I confidently say, ‘This works, this
“There’s a very prevalent reinforcement was scared,” she remembers. So she doesn’t work all the time, and this
means he’s way
myth that if our partners love us resigned herself to a routine that doesn’t work at all.’” That long-
more likely to
or understand us, they should repeat the action. was totally meh and put up with it awaited orgasm? Achieved (and
be able to read our minds and (And maybe go for years. By the time Charly grad- not just with one guy).
know exactly what we like in bed,” for a round two!) uated (and broke up with that BF), Of course, there’s a chance the

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LOVE LUST

WHEN
SHOULD
YOU BRING
UP SEX
WITH A
PARTNER?
IF YOU’RE DATING SOMEONE NEW (whether it’s
casual sex or with long-term prospects), a good time to start
talking about sex is, oh, probably around the first time you
have it…and then the next time…and then the time after
that. It doesn’t have to be a big discussion, but filling each
other in on what you are and aren’t into sets you up for a
satisfying sex life in which it’s not a big deal to bring up an
issue down the line.

IF YOU’RE IN A REL ATIONSHIP, it can seem a bit


more stressful, since you don’t want your partner to think
convo may not go as you’d hoped. being receptive when your part- they’ve been getting it wrong this whole time. Ease into the
Take Ann, 25, a copywriter in ner is vulnerable enough to ask convo: Start by talking about talking about sex first. “For
example, say, ‘We don’t talk too much about what we love
New York City, who once sug- for something like this,” Ann
and don’t love—and I’d like for us to try to do more of that.
gested to her then-BF that they says. “That’s one of the reasons he What do you think?’” Byers suggests. You don’t have to sit
watch porn because it turned her became an ex.” down at the kitchen table for a sexual State of the Union,
on. He replied with a critical “Um, Margo, 29, from San Diego, but start gradually bringing it up. Begin by giving positive
why? Don’t I get you excited?” says the sex convos she has with feedback on something your partner does that you like.
Intimidated by his hostile tone, her boyfriend are an integral part Then talk about other stuff you’d like more of. Remember,
it’s a flirty, ongoing discussion, not a critique!
Ann ended the conversation. It’s of what makes their relationship
annoying when talking about sex work. “Once we talked openly, it EITHER WAY, keep talking about it. Don’t think about
doesn’t go as planned—or when came out that both of us wished we this as a summit meeting that you have with your partner
your partner doesn’t want to go were having more—and wilder— once, cross off the list, and never discuss again. Instead,
there—but if a guy can’t handle sex,” she says. “Now it’s a relief to think of this as starting an open dialogue. It’s important
talking about a relationship mat- feel I can ask for what I want and to be able to express your likes and desires frequently,
because what you’re into one day might not be what
ter as important as sex, he’s prob- say what’s on my mind.” ■ you’re into next week or next year. “It’s no different from if
ably not great at communicating you’re walking and you tell your person you’d rather take
about other crucial things. “For Chiara Atik wrote the critically acclaimed a different route this time,” says Byers. “It doesn’t have to
me, honesty is huge, and so is play Five Times in One Night. be a big deal.”

WHAT WORKS: Telling him, “Touch WORKS: Saying, “I want you WORKS: “How would you WORKS: Confessing, “You

REALLY
me right here.” to spank me, hard.” feel about some role-play?” know, oral’s never really
DOESN’T WORK: Frantically DOESN’T WORK: Leaving DOESN’T WORK: Start talking done much for me.”
WORKS... moaning louder when he’s dog-eared copies of Fifty in a British accent and wait DOESN’T WORK: Staring
AND WHAT at your sweet spot and Shades around and thinking for him to do his best uncomfortably at the ceiling

DOESN’T?
hoping he’ll pick up on your he’ll get the hint. naughty Prince Harry for the next five years while
volume switch-up. impression. he develops lockjaw.

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manthropo
YOUR GUIDE TO THE MALE BRAIN

THE HUSSTLE

FOUR SUBTLE WAYS TO


MAKE A MOVE ON A GUY
Girls shouldn’t make the first move? Screw
that! Dating expert Matthew Hussey
shows you how to do it…and still make any
man think it’s part of his master plan.

Look Twice State the


A guy won’t get Obvious
the hint from you Let’s say it’s a
vaguely tilting cold day and you
your head in his are standing next
general direction. to an attractive
He needs eye guy. Just say,
contact. Like, “It’s so cold!” It’s
more than obvious, but it
once—more than works because
twice, even. That his brain tells
way, he knows him: Oh, cool, I’m
it’s safe to come allowed to talk to
over. Guys don’t her! Standing at
approach women the bar when a
who look like they new song starts?
are going to say Lock eyes briefly
“Sorry, no.” and say, “I love
But we live for this song!” It
the maybe. gives him a green
light, and he’ll be
grateful for it.
Use These 7
Magic Words
Walk up to any Make a
guy and say, Spontaneous
“Could I get your Compliment
opinion on Is his shoe game
something?” It on point? Is he
makes us feel reading a book
important. Follow you couldn’t put
up with: “My down? Tell him!
friends and I are Guys aren’t used
looking for a cool to out-of-the-blue
place to go. compliments.
What’s great Rather than
around here?” saying “You’re
When you end up WANT MORE
cute,” try “I love FROM MATTHEW?
bantering over that book. You GET HIS FREE GUIDE
nearby bars, he have great taste.” FOR COSMO READERS,
won’t even Now he’s “9 MAGIC TEXTS
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hot. Conversation,
started.

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logy
P E R C E N TAG E
OF GU YS WHO
THINK A
DIRT Y DISH
IS A
SIGN OF
S E R I O U S LY
POOR
H YG I E N E …
W HICH M A K E S
T H AT
GA ME BOYS MEAN EGGS AND HAM
SCARY SINK

THE PLAYER’S GUIDE WHY DO GUYS… M O U N TA I N


E V EN MORE OF

TO SPOTTING A HATE BRUNCH? A M Y S T E R Y.

PLAYER…AND BEATING
SOURCE: 2015 OXICLEAN/EDELMAN
BERLAND SURVEY
We understand breakfast. You wake up

fifty-nine
hungry, so you eat. Lunch makes sense
HIM AT HIS OWN GAME too. But not brunch. Brunch is the gau-
cho pants of meals: two good things
New York Giants running back—and nice that, instead of creating something
guy—Rashad Jennings wants you to avoid greater than the sum of its parts, end
these offensive daters. BY DIANDRA BARNWELL up a subpar replacement for either.

1
As for timing, say you make plans
His Lines Are Generic to meet everyone at 11. If we wake
Players live and die by up at 9, that means waiting two hours
the pickup line, whether to eat. Possible, but it takes effort. And
it’s a come-on at the weekends, as you may have noticed
club or a generic first from the sweatpants and T-shirt
message on Tinder. If we’re wearing, have nothing to do
his line could be used on
anyone, that’s a red flag.
with effort. So we eat breakfast. Then

2
brunch. Three hours after that, we’re
hungry again, so we have lunch.
He Loves His “Place” Eventually, we’ll need dinner. Brunch
These dudes take each may seem like a fun social opportunity,
girl to the same spot—it’s but to a guy, it’s an extraneous meal,
zero effort, and he trusts
the staff to keep secrets.
added to a day that was already satis-
If he suggests the same fied with three—plus a beer-and-wings
sports bar for every date, snack. It’s a lot like when Taco Bell
be suspicious. tried to make “fourth meal” happen.

3
And we don’t remember you asking us
to meet your friends for that.
He Hates Labels —PETER MARTIN
Players would rather be
benched than seal the
deal with a title. They
H U S S E Y: JA K E C H E S S U M . R I H A N N A : J E F F R E Y M AY E R / W I R E I M AG E . J E N N E R : JA S O N L AV E R I S /

see DTR talks as forced


responsibility, and the
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only ring he’s into comes


with a championship.

HEADS UP

WHAT
HE REALLY
THINKS
ABOUT RIHANNA KENDALL JENNER RUBY ROSE CHRISSY TEIGEN BELLA THORNE NICKI MINAJ

YOUR HAIR The Topknot


Are you into
A Ponytail
When your hair is
The Pixie Cut
Reminds us
Tousled
Waves
Milkmaid
Braids
Bangs
The physics
Topknot, what? It’s a karate? Try not to up, we marvel at of Peter Pan— Tousled will never We’d consider a of bangs have
be confused your facility with not Mia Farrow, enter our lexicon. summer trip to mystified
good thing we don’t do when we ask what what we think as you may have We assume Bavaria just so we even the most
our hair for guys. One color belt you is a scrunchie. hoped. We still you’ve just gotten can see you in a mathematical of
man decodes your do. are…or if we get Don’t girls still use think you’re cute out of bed, and dirndl…and to eat us, which is why
you nunchucks for those? though. (Not that that’s kind of hot. pretzels. we just simply
BY MATTHEW KASSEL your birthday. Ruby cares.) admire them.

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ask LOVE
ADVICE FROM
OUR GUY

him
GURU, LOGAN
HILL

any-
thing
Q/ M Y B F H A S A C R A Z Y WO R K
S C H E D U L E . AT T H E E N D O F T H E N I G H T,
A L L I WA N T T O D O I S J U M P H I S B O N E S ,
B U T H E A LWAY S S AY S H E ’ S T O O T I R E D.
I K NOW I SHOU L D U NDE RSTA ND, BU T I ’ M
F RUST R AT E D. HOW CA N I L E T HIM K NOW
W I T HOU T COMING OF F A S NE E DY ?
C L O C K W I S E F R O M L E F T: T O N Y K E L LY/ T R U N K A R C H I V E ;

A If it’s needy to need sex, then we’re all needy!


Tell him that you’re proud of his hard work,
IAN MADDOX; JAKE CHESSUM; GE T T Y IMAGES.

but you need him hard after work too.


Sometimes guys do get tired, but as long as
he’s not exhausting himself with someone
else, beat this impasse by proposing solutions.
Maybe you can squeeze it in before work,
meet up for a quickie at lunch, or agree that
even if he’s bushed, your bush will get his
attention one additional night per week on top
of whatever your sex frequency is now (just
one more night feels doable, not stressful).

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Q/ M Y B OY- Q/ I never know Q/ I L I V E I N L . A . A N D I DAT E A L L T H E
what to say after
FRIEND NEVER T I M E , B U T M O S T G U Y S M Y AG E C A N ’ T
sex is over during a
WA N T S T O G O one-night stand. C O M M I T. T H E Y ’ R E C O O L W I T H G O I N G
OUT W ITH JUST Tell me there’s a O U T A N D H O O K I N G U P, B U T W H E N I T
one-size-fits-all C O M E S T O D E F I N I N G T H E R E L AT I O N -
ME . I’LL A SK FOR
phrase I can try!
A DAT E N I G H T, S H I P, T H E R E ’ S A LWAY S A N E XC U S E .
B U T H E S AY S H E ’ S A You two just scored, H OW C A N I S T O P T H I S PAT T E R N ?
BROKE … E V EN so I’m not kidding
THOUGH W E DO
when I say a celebra- A Flies fly. Bees be. Players play. And the
tory high five would Lakers aren’t L.A.’s only players. These guys
O C C A S I O N A L LY
not be completely don’t wait to settle down because you did
GO OUT A S A insane here. After something wrong. That hookup life is just
GROUP W ITH HIS all, if orgasms were where they’re at. So be clear. Say: “If you want
GU Y FRIENDS. HE involved, there are
something casual, that’s cool, but I need a guy
INSISTS HE few better things to
celebrate. But if that
to commit to just me.” When that’s the only
WA N T S T O B E
idea makes you wince, way to be with you, he’ll be more willing to get
WITH ME AND
try “Well, that was onboard. If he won’t, cut him from your roster.
L OV E S S P E N D I N G
fun!” Or “Damn, boy
TIME WITH ME.
GO AHEAD AND
POUNCE. (MAYBE
(or girl)!” Either way,
JUST WARN HIM
SHOULD I BE simple is sexy.
FIRST.) CONCERNED?

A Yes. If he can
Q/ I’m heading
spring for a Bloomin’ home from college DON’T WASTE
YOUR TIME
Onion with his pals, for the holidays, PLAYING HIS
he can buy jalapeño and I grew up in a GAME.

poppers for his lady. small town so I’m


guaranteed to run
He’s showing you into my high school
his priorities, so tell ex. What can I say
him you feel dissed when it happens?
when he acts like I’m terrified of its
a bro hang is worth being awkward.
more than a date A Oh, it’s gonna be
night. Your BF awkward. But you
might feel pressured don’t have to make a Q/ I’m still a virgin. deflowering a virgin.
to hide his shaky reality-TV episode out How much will that A decent guy might
finances from of it. If you don’t want freak a guy out? I just be a little more
to catch up, treat him don’t have a great sensitive. And another
friends, but he needs sense of whether
to brush up on like an old song that virgin might be just as
that’s a pro or a con
pops up on Spotify: nervous as you are. But
Romance Finance to most dudes.
Just skip over him by the way a guy reacts
101: Invest in your saying a quick “hi” A Most guys lose will tell you a lot about
relationship if you and cruising along. If their virginity at him—quickly.
want it to grow. a convo is a must, ask about the same age
Suggest affordable about what you genu- as women do, so most
dates, and if he inely want to know dudes won’t freak
continues to prefer (How’s his sister/ out. (FWIW, the CDC
his bros, you should BFF/whomever in his found that 15 per-
probably dissolve life you liked hang- cent of all American
your merger. ing with). And if he women ages 20 to 24
digs up some difficult had never had vagi-
history, remember nal intercourse, com-
that you don’t have to pared with 18 percent
engage. Deflect him of American men ages
with a graceful “Well, 20 to 24.) But every
I’m sure we’ve both dude is different: A
FOR A NIGHT
WITH THIS changed a lot since devout dude might be Hill is a contributing
DUDE, THINK then. Good to see impressed. A jackass writer for Cosmopolitan
CORONAS, NOT and Cosmopolitan.com.
CRISTAL. you!” Keepin’ it classy. might be turned on by

S E N D Y O U R G U Y- R E L AT E D D I L E M M A T O A S K H I M A N Y T H I N G @ C O S M O P O L I TA N . C O M .
MIRANDA MOVES ON

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READY TO
PUT 2015 TO
BED AND
by Katie L. Connor
fashion editor:
James Worthington DeMolet

GET HER NEW


YEAR’S
PARTY ON,
COUNTRY’S
FAVORITE
FIRECRACKER,
MIRANDA
LAMBERT,
OPENS UP
ABOUT HER
DIVORCE,
WEIGHT
LOSS, AND
DRESS, Noam Hanoch. SHOES,
Giuseppe Zanotti Design.
NECKLACE, Rosa de la Cruz WHY YOU
photographed by Tesh

SHOULDN’T
London. BRACELETS, Arme de
L’Amour. RINGS (right hand),
Lizzie Mandler Fine Jewelry;
(left hand) Jennifer Fisher

TAKE ANY
SH*T—EVER.
“Man, I needed a bright spot this year,” she
confessed during her acceptance speech, giving
fans—who’d mainly heard from a rather cava-
lier Blake thus far—a smidge of insight into her
true feelings. She tells me she quit social media
or twice, and I was drunk,” Miranda Lambert for two months over the summer, deleting Face-
says as we’re shown to our private table at Nash- book, Instagram, and Twitter from her phone.
ville’s Pinewood Social. The restaurant/bowling “I didn’t need to be on it with everything going
alley/lounge is among Music City’s prime spots on in my life,” she says. When she emerged, she
for after-parties—which explains Miranda’s was quick to trade friendly tweets with her ex.
state during past visits. Fans just as quickly gave the former Jay Z and
Today, a rainy afternoon in early October, Beyoncé of country the side-eye. The skepticism
she’s stone-cold sober, albeit a bit raspy: “My may not have been misplaced. Over a couple of
voice is hoarse ’cause I was yelling over loud glasses of sparkling wine, the feisty “Gunpow-
music last night.” She spent the evening prior der and Lead” singer admits that 2015 has been
at Blue Bar in midtown, where “there’s always kind of shitty.
live music.” Of her outfit—a cream Rachel But a broken woman she is not. In October,
Zoe blouse and American Eagle jeans—the Miranda wrapped her triumphant all-female
32-year-old says, “I just got some new clothes tour Roadside Bars and Pink Guitars and joined
because all I had were my farm clothes and Taylor Swift as a special guest on her 1989 jug-
stage clothes.” That farm would presumably gernaut. The two fittingly sang Miranda’s eff-off
be the one in Oklahoma that she shared with anthem “Little Red Wagon.” Now, she’s fired up
her now ex-husband, Blake Shelton. The two and ready to record a new album. “Obviously, it’s
were married for four years. In other words, it’s going to be sad, some of it,” she says of what we
more than just an outfit: It’s part of a new start can expect, “but that’s good. I’m writing a ton.
for a newly single woman. My goal is to have a single in the spring.”
The couple’s split in July shocked the coun- On our way out, she’s eager to point out a
try-music world. It took only two weeks for the little something she picked up on a recent trip to
divorce—reportedly filed by Blake’s lawyer—to NYC for her friend’s “first Tiffany’s” experience.
be finalized. Come November, it is confirmed (Maiden voyages to the iconic jeweler are a tra-
that Blake’s dating fellow Voice judge Gwen Ste- dition she shares with those in her inner circle.)
fani. The timing of that news—mere hours before “I figured I needed something new for my left
the Country Music Association Awards, where hand,” she says, displaying a chunky gold ring
Miranda and Blake, both nominees, were set to paved in black gemstones. It just so happens to
perform—couldn’t have been more ouch induc- be on her middle finger. Here, Miranda gets the
ing. But not only would Miranda take the stage to last word…and laugh.
slay a particularly moving performance of “Bath-
room Sink,” she’d also win Female Vocalist of the
Year. Blake would go home empty-handed.

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COSMO: You’re known
for being a spitfire.
Would you say that’s
true to who you are?
MIRANDA: “I just am
straight-up who I am.
I don’t have a filter. I
can’t be fake at all. My
DRESS, Parker Black. dad’s sometimes like,
EARRINGS, NECKLACE, ‘I wish I’d had a South-
Rosa de la Cruz
London. BRACELET,
ern belle for a wife
Jennifer Fisher. and a daughter,’ but
RING, Maria Black he didn’t get it. He got
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still close with them?
“My mom and I go on
girls’ trips together.
We have Airstreams
and go on girls’ camp-
ing trips—glamping.
But my mom doesn’t
do all of her [Air-
stream] hookups.
She doesn’t like to do
the sewage. She gags.
So I have to do all of
hers. They’re vintage,
there’s no button.
You have to do it all
manually.”

You’re kidding.
“Nope! I do it myself.
My Airstream Wanda
is named after my
grandma—Wanda the
Wanderer. My Nonny
is amazing. She just
called. We can call her
before we leave.”

Is there any topic off-


limits? Like, say, sex?
“I grew up on a farm.
We raised rabbits. I
was like, What’s going
on there? Why’s it
so fast? They never
minced words. My
Nonny cussed and
drank. My parents
were private investi-
gators, so our whole

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were about sex and
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talking about me now
because I lost weight.
I lost 20 pounds and
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for things. But it made
me sad because it
shouldn’t matter if I
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son. I was turning 30
and was like, well, this
is gonna suck from
here on out if it’s this
hard now.”
If they’re lucky.
Had your weight always “Right. Last weekend,
been an issue? a girl came up to
“I struggled all me and goes, ‘I threw
through my 20s. Hor- my scale away because
mones, you change of you.’ I was like,
birth control, you go ‘Thank you!’”
out and party, you stop
partying, then you


The scale is the worst.
work more, then you “I don’t have one. You
fall in love and get fat know how I know I
and happy, then you need to lose weight?
fall out of love. All the My freakin’ jeans.
things you do in your When I have a muf-

I’M SURE I HAVE


20s has to do with fin top, a little extra
your weight and hanging over—well,
emotions. I wanted that always happens,
to, hopefully, in my some muffin top—but
30s steady it out.” when it’s real bad,
I ease up on the chips.
Your “before” pictures ’Cause I’m not gonna
are what most people stop drinking. But
hope to look like in their I know what I feel.
“after” shots.… And when I’m onstage
“I was normal! I almost and I think about
always wore a size 8. how I look more than
DRESS, House of CB
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RINGS, Jennifer
an 8, and they’re gone. happy. I go out with Fisher. See page
Guess why. Because friends all the time. I 154 for shopping
everybody’s a size 8.” love to drink and eat information.

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and enjoy things. It’s bunch. I’m sure I And dating? for four, were very honest. This is what it
important to me. have a hundred more “I’m not even in that quickly divorced, and is now, and we’re
I want to be healthy heartbreaks ahead mind space yet, but are friends. I’m still moving forward. We
and fit, but it shouldn’t of me. We all do. But I’m not worried about processing every- don’t need all the
be that big of a damn I’m a songwriter, so it. I had a great rela- thing and figuring out opinions. We just need
deal.” I’m okay with it. My tionship and an amaz- where to go and what y’all to be supportive,
favorite records are ing man. So I know happened. [Mar- and nobody pick a
You were the only not because people what good is. I have a riage is] a tough busi- side because there ain’t
woman up for the lived fully happy great launching pad ness, and we gave it a side.”
Entertainer of the Year lives. There are for the future. I will our best college try. I
at the CMAs. Why do pockets of sadness.” never take that for met him at 21—I am What are some of
you think that is? granted. I worked so now almost 32. You the crazier gifts you’ve
“I don’t really know. You can use it as fuel. hard in my 20s. I set- change as people. If gotten from fans?
I just love what I do “I’m not gonna be one tled down. I got mar- I’m not a different “I have this one guy
so much. I love song- of these artists who ried. I lived that life. person than I was at who’s been a fan for a
writing and the wallows in my mis- I moved to a farm in 21, then something’s long time. It sounds
road and the fam- ery so I can be artis- Oklahoma and had wrong with me. I do weird, but he sends me
ily of country music. tic. That’s not me at this strong career and have a completely pistols for Christmas,
I love being a female all. You can sit here home, and then all different outlook on which is awesome.
in country music and look at me and go, that shifted. Now I marriage and what it What other per-
and lifting up other She’s happy as shit! feel like I’m just get- should be about. If I son can say my fans
females of country. I’m I just want to live a ting started in my ever were to get mar- send me pistols for
more in it right now life full of everything. career. I have too ried again—which Christmas? It’s pretty
than I ever have been. Some of that might much to say right now, is completely not on badass.”
Going through a hard mean nights on my which is a good place. my radar at all right
time pushed me into porch crying, drinking When you feel that now—I feel like it’s How many do you
art more than ever.” whiskey, and going, way, you have to use not about it being a have now?
Man, this sucks right it. I’m just scratching step in life. It’s not “I don’t even know.
Since the divorce, now. I don’t necessar- the surface of where about a piece of paper My dad keeps a good
do you have the fear ily want to know that I can go.” or a diamond. It’s the count. I’m a cop’s
of, Well, shit, was I have really bad, long, way you feel about daughter. People have
that my one shot at lonely nights ahead You once said that somebody and the their views on guns.
happily ever after? of me, but I have had divorce wasn’t an commitment in your I don’t have a stance
“I think I’m always some, and I still have option.… heart.” on anything except
going to feel that way a bunch ahead of me. “You go into things what I was taught
about everything. I’m But it’s about living in and give it every- Did you feel like from day one: gun
constantly having this the moment and feel- thing you have. I was you were letting down safety. That’s all that
push-pull with myself. ing every tinge of pain, taught that, and I did your fans? matters to me. I’ve
Like, will I ever make then waking up the that. And I will do “Oh, of course. But I’m got pistols tattooed
another record like next day and going, that with everything a very normal, down- on my arm. I’m not all
Platinum? Or it’s, I All right, I’m going to in my life. I’ve made to-earth person. Both about gun rights and
can’t wait for my next ride my ponies. I’m those proclamations of us are. [Blake] is as all this stuff. But
I live by myself now,

A HUNDRED HEARTBREAKS
so yeah, I have a pistol,
are you crazy?”

AHEAD OF ME. WE ALL DO.”


record! Or, will I ever
fall in love again like
that? Or it’s, I can’t
wait for my next love-
life adventure. But going to have a girls’ like ‘Divorce is not an country as a biscuit. Got any plans for
I don’t live in fear, night. That’s where I option!’ You just say You look at his Twitter, New Year’s Eve?
because living in fear is am. That’s where I’m things and you hope and what you see is “I’m trying to figure
the most stifling, awful gonna live. I know I that you’re right, but what you get. I’m the out what to do.
feeling in the world.” have great girlfriends it’s fine if you’re not.” same way. So it’s like, 2015 kind of sucked,
and family and that Surprise! We’re real, so I’m celebrating.
Have you gone through there are awesome Have your views on remember? We are Maybe in the woods,
the stages of grief? times and adventures marriage changed? real people with real away from the
“I think I’m still gonna ahead. I’m excited “We were together lives and real shit. crazies, where I can’t
go through all those a about those.” for 10 years, married We’re both very get arrested!” ■

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Ace
the Interview
USE THIS DEFINITIVE GUIDE TO GO GET THE JOB YOU DESERVE.
BY JUDITH OHIKUARE

114
tions that you might be
asked, and practice your A’s FOR
answers to each one. TRICKY Q’s
The goal isn’t to spit out
responses robotically Interview
(creepy) but to look and questions really
feel poised (ding ding!). are getting
weirder. Cosmo
Before the Interview POLISH YOUR
PRESENTATION
to the rescue.
Q / “Do you know
You may not realize it, but your interview actually starts the minute you Fair or not, your speech
say, “Yes, 3 p.m. on Wednesday is great. I look forward to speaking how to ?”
patterns matter, says
with you.” Here’s everything to do between that moment and the big day. This gets hard when it’s
Laura Sherbin, director a challenge that you
of research at the non- haven’t faced before.
HIT THE BOOKS as an organic part of Review your résumé profit Center for Tal- Sherbin says women
You wouldn’t go on a building a relation- and pick areas to high- ent Innovation. Filler value honesty and often
Tinder date without ship,” says Ghosn. Your light, and have stories words such as actually say, “No, I’ve never
Googling, so why would interviewer is a human, in mind to illustrate and like are so dis- done that.” But then the
you go on an interview not a job genie, and any relevant expertise. tracting, Sherbin has
interviewer thinks, She
showing interest in this Would you be working doesn’t believe she can
cold turkey? Research counted the number of do it. Why should I?
your potential employer person will help to cre- closely with another times a candidate uses Instead, take a cue from
in full, says Caroline ate a more authentic person? Come prepared them. “Those words are men, who are more
Ghosn, cofounder and relationship from the with examples of past difficult to ignore after likely to say, “Sure, I’ve
CEO of Levo, a pro- get-go. If you get your partnership successes, a while,” she says. Ask a never done it before, but
fessional networking interviewers’ names in says Ghosn. friend to interview you I’m a fast study.” Nod to
site. If you know any- advance, read their bios for practice. Then get
the learning curve, but
on the company page always lead with a yes.
one at the organization PRACTICE AND MAKE feedback: What vibe
or can find connec- and check out their PERFECT did your body language
social-media sites. Q / “How long
tions through friends If you tend to get flus- give off? Did you speak would you see
or LinkedIn, ask them tered during interviews, too quickly? Or did yourself staying?”
for insight. Your goal ORGANIZE YOUR STORY commit your answers you, um, you know, lit-
Dodge the flighty
is to spend the inter- The first question is to muscle memory in erally kill it? millennial stereotype.
view talking about how often “Tell me about advance. Reading the People don’t want to
you could contribute to yourself.” Frame your company’s job descrip- PSYCH YOURSELF IN train someone new, only
the team, not listening story in a concise, clear tion carefully will tip Turns out, your fight- for the person to leave
passively while you’re way so that your duties you off to answers that or-flight impulse isn’t and pursue their “real”
brought up to speed. aren’t confusing. What you can provide about so useful in a job inter- passion, experts say.
Don’t pledge a specific
have you achieved in your strengths and what view. “The emotional
time commitment, but
KNOW YOUR past jobs that overlap you bring to the job— part of your brain do name check skills
INTERVIEWER with the specific role two common questions. responds to the pros- you hope to develop or
“Look at an interview you’re interviewing for? Write out a list of ques- pect of rejection by long-term projects you
thinking, Danger!” says could contribute to. Use
Keith Rollag, chair of the word team a lot.
the management divi-
sion at Babson College Q / “What’s your
and author of What to favorite cartoon?”
Do When You’re New. “Some interviewers ask
Don’t rely on a Tell yourself: This is weird questions to see
last-minute Google cram just a conversation. how well a candidate
thinks on their feet,”
session to find out that They want to like me.
the job you applied for is Rollag says. “They
Look up other job want you to give an
definitely not as hot as it opportunities that you unrehearsed answer.”
looked online.
can apply for or net- That means there is no
MICHEL A R AVASIO/STOCKSY

working events that right or wrong. Go with


you can attend just in the flow and be creative.
case this gig doesn’t If in doubt, acknowledge
the awkwardness,
work out. It might help suggests Ghosn. Say:
you feel less like every- “I’ve never gotten that
thing is riding on this question before! Tell me
one, Rollag says. why you’re asking.”
WORK
During
A SKING
so that you can adjust. SMART
Does your interviewer QUE STIONS

the Interview seem to check out when


you give a long reply?
Shorten your next
I S G R E AT !
BUT OFFERING
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You went to bed at a respectable hour, you “FE E DBACK”
answer. Do you sense
left the house with plenty of time to spare, and I S R I S K Y.
skepticism or surprise?
you are not throwing away your shot.
Acknowledge it openly.
If you think you might learn more about
BREAK THE ICE will also give yourself have missed the mark, the culture and the
The walk to your inter- time to recalibrate your it’s okay to ask, “Did I challenges.
viewer’s office can feel responses.” answer your question
endless. Rollag sug- fully?” says Sherbin. YES, ASK SOME
gests getting the other SELL YOUR “That shows you have QUESTIONS
person to talk about EXPERIENCES emotional intelli- The moment when an
himself. “Think about It’s the catch-22 of gence—you can recog- interviewer asks, “Do
topics that give people entry-level job inter- nize and address the you have questions?” is
energy,” he says. If it’s views: How are you needs of others, includ- the best chance you’ll
close to the holidays or supposed to talk up ing potential clients.” have to lead the con-
vacation season, ask your experience when versation. “Some peo-
your interviewer if he’s you don’t have any yet? REMEMBER WHO’S BOSS ple think they’re being
had time to travel, and If you haven’t worked Bubbling over with big annoying by asking a
if so, where? And don’t much, Sherbin says, ideas? Great! Just try question, or they want
get too hung up on discuss the leadership not to diss your poten- to take their wins and
awkward pauses. skills that you have tial employer. “Some- leave before they say
There’s a natural ebb developed from other times when people feel something wrong at
and flow to every places, whether in your confident, they think the last minute,” says
convo. community, school, that they are being Ghosn. “That’s a mis-
sorority—even a part- proactive by making take.” A few Qs that
BRING THE ENERGY time job in a different unwanted sugges- always work: “What
Your interviewer may industry. “Convey pro- tions,” says employ- would a typical day be
Phone off? Check.
be grumpy, distracted fessionalism and good ment attorney Lori B. like?” “What would it
Carrying multiple copies
by matters unrelated judgment through the Rassas, author of The look like to knock this of your résumé? Check.
to you, or could even be interview process and Perpetual Paycheck. job out of the park?” Comfy shoes to switch
hazing you to see how they might consider Instead of bulldozing “What challenges into later, from two
you react. Keep your redefining their idea of your interviewer with would someone with blocks away? Check and
energy high, and forge experience,” she says. “fixes” that may seem this job need to over- check again.
ahead. “If you get the presumptuous, Rassas come?” Show your
sense that an inter- ALWAYS BE ADJUSTING suggests formulating a interviewer that you
view is going poorly, Watch the other per- “30-60-90 plan”: what have thought
ask a question to show son’s reactions closely you would do in one, seriously about the
that you’re curious,” for clues to how well two, and three months role and envisioned
Sherbin says. “That an interview is going, on the job, after you yourself in it.

INTERVIEW
KILLERS
The BYOC The Spin Cycle The Text Talk The Sneak-
Your interviewer tries If you have the choice to No matter how cool the a-Smoke
to shake your hand sit in a chair that person who will interview You will likely be in close
but gets a fistful of latte. doesn’t swivel, take it. you seems, e-mailing quarters with your
You get self-conscious “Nervous interviewees them like they’re your interviewer. Strong odors
about your coffee breath. swivel back and forth BFF is unprofessional are off-putting, so don’t
Then you forget your so much, you worry AF. Take the other light up beforehand. No,
now-old, cold cup on the they’ll get whiplash,” person’s lead in tone, masking it with perfume
interviewer’s desk. says Sherbin. and keep it classy. won’t work either.

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After
the Interview
You’ve texted your mom to debrief. You’ve
danced off lingering adrenaline at home. But
you’re not quite done.

ACT FAST! including some fresh


Send a thank-you ideas. (Avoid hectic
e-mail within 24 hours. times like Friday after-
Handwritten notes are noon and Monday
increasingly optional morning.) Don’t e-mail
but may stand out more than once a week,
as a result, says Ras- and stop after three
sas. If you do send a unanswered messages.
card, mail it ASAP so
it arrives within 72 DON’T SHUFFLE
hours. Include your full OFF IN SHAME
name and e-mail so Much more goes in
you’re easy to find. to hiring—the mix of
people on a team, sal-
SAY MORE THAN THANKS ary needs—than can be
Acting quickly doesn’t seen from your side of
mean sending a generic the table. So if an inter-
e-mail, Sherbin adds. view doesn’t work out,
Mention a few topics don’t despair. Politely
that you discussed dur- ask for feedback, and
ing the process to show ID skills you can add or
that you were listen- play up next time. Then
ing, and say that you’ll ask the interviewer or
follow up shortly if you human-resources rep
were asked to do so. if you can stay in touch.
If so, let her know you’d
WIN THE WAITING GAME love to be considered
Employers can take for other roles, whether
days—or months—to with her organization
decide. Ask about the or others she might
timeline at the end of hear of. “Recruiters ask
your interview, Ghosn one another for rec-
says, and follow up ommendations all the
a week later, maybe time,” Sherbin says.

The Bad Suit The Diva Act The Phone Pas The Pen Tap The Shoe Swap
Try on your outfit two days Be friendly and polite to Turn off your phone before Are you a nervous Switch to your killer heels
in advance. If you are everyone at the office— you arrive. If it rings fidgeter? Remove any before you get there—not
uncomfortable, anyone not only your interviewer— mid-conversation, ignore ammo that might distract in the reception area or
looking at you will be too, or no one will trust you to it or turn it off discreetly, you or your interviewer. bathroom. Keep them on
says Sherbin. The key is fit work with potential clients, Sherbin says. “Whatever Put your pencil or pen until you’re a few blocks
more than fashion: Avoid Sherbin says. you do, don’t check that on the table or in your away. Sorry, no one wants
clothes that are too clingy text or missed call.” bag, and keep your hands to see your feet.
or too loose and sloppy. folded in your lap.
WORK

Get Out and See the World


In high school, I studied French and became the
first person in my family to get a passport since
we’d emigrated. I saved up to pay for a student-
exchange program and went to Provence. After
that, everything in my life was driven by what I
could do to get closer to France.

Talk to the Person With


Your Dream Job
After college, I became gung ho
about being a translator for the
United Nations. When I met
someone who had that job, it
was like meeting royalty. But he
“LOVING WINE said, “After 15 years, I make
IS NOT ENOUGH. $30,000. I translate documents
IN MY ROLE, about fish hatcheries. I have my
I HAVE TO own ideas, but I can’t express
MANEUVER them.” I was thrown for a loop. I
DISTRIBUTION, had to reconsider my dream.
MARKETING,
SOCIAL MEDIA,
Go in Through a Side Door
LEGAL ISSUES,
I asked myself again: What job
A N D L O G I S T I C S .”
can I have to speak French on
a daily basis? I happened upon
an ad requesting an assistant for a champagne
importer, Veuve Clicquot. I didn’t know Veuve
Clicquot from Adam, but the job sounded inter-
esting. I worked for the VP of sales and was sur-
rounded by wine lovers and French speakers.

Barter Grunt Work for Knowledge

F R O M L E F T: K E LV I N M U R R AY/ T H E I M A G E B A N K / G E T T Y I M A G E S ; C O U R T E S Y M I C H E L L E D E F E O .
A Toast to
I wanted to learn more by studying at a wine
center, but I couldn’t afford it. So I did dishes
and emptied spit buckets in exchange for free
classes. I also took a part-time bookkeeping job

Hard Work
at a wine store. I learned about pricing and the
relationships among retailers, suppliers, and
distributors, things that are still useful to me.

Don’t Rely on Passion Alone


Michelle DeFeo, 42, went from blue-collar New Jersey to Over the years, I worked as a sales manager for
president of Champagne Laurent-Perrier U.S. She tells Laurent-Perrier, a wine business consultant, and
how to break in when you have exactly zero connections. a vice president at Rémy Cointreau. Along the
way, I got my MBA. I was passionate, but I also
wanted to understand the intricacies of business.
i ’ m from a family of immigr ants who went
into construction and mining. Wine, let alone Respect Where You Come From
champagne, was not common at our house. One Coming from a background where every dollar
night when I was 9 years old, I saw an ad for an counted, I understand that if I’m asking someone
exchange program that showed the Eiffel Tower. to invest in one of our bottles, it better be fantas-
I had never seen anything like it before. I told tic. I keep a piece of coal that my great-uncle gave
my mom I wanted to “go where they have that me on my desk to remind myself of how lucky I
tower.” She said, “Well, then start working.” am and to never forget my roots. ■

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Why are
American
women
dying in
childbirth?
YOU WOULD BE SAFER—
10 TIMES SO, IN FACT—
HAVING A BABY IN BELARUS
THAN HERE IN THE
UNITED STATES. HOW CAN
THAT BE? AFTER JOY VICTORY
SPENT HER DAUGHTER’S
BIRTH SICK, CONFUSED,
AND SCARED FOR
HER LIFE, SHE DECIDED
TO FIND OUT.
photographed by WILLIAM MEBANE 131
i’m 40
weeks
Yet delivering a baby in the United States has
actually become less safe. After nearly a century of
enormous strides in saving women from death in
childbirth, the rate of major complications more

pregnant
than doubled between 1998 and 2011, according to
the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. For
every 10,000 delivery hospitalizations in 2010 and
2011, about 163 women had a severe complication,
like needing a blood transfusion or hysterectomy or
having cardiac arrest, sepsis, or seizures. Rewind 10
years and the number was less than half that.
The rate of maternal deaths, too, more than dou-
bled between 1987 and 2011. Pregnant women in
and nearly 24 hours into labor, and there is vomit this country have a 1 in 1,800 risk for dying of preg-
everywhere. Stomach acid and red Powerade splat- nancy complications, the charity Save the Children
ter across the kitchen floor, up the walls and the recently reported—the worst performance in the
refrigerator, leaving tiny bloodlike rivulets. developed world. And black American women, in
As I puke, I feel a popping sensation. Fluid leaks particular, face a crisis. They are three to five times
down my legs. Did my water just break while I was more likely to die in childbirth than non-Hispanic
throwing up? white women. Overall, a woman in the U.S. is more
“This is normal,” I tell my husband, Brendan, as than 10 times as likely as a woman in Belarus or
he frantically unfurls paper towels. “They said in Poland to die from a pregnancy-related cause.
Lamaze that throwing up can happen before you What’s going on? While some cases can be
start to push. Right?” linked to patient trends that make obstetric care
The truth is that things haven’t been normal trickier (namely obesity and advanced maternal
for weeks. Starting around the 36th week of preg- age), research shows that health-care quality plays
nancy, my hands swelled so much that I couldn’t a major role. Certain groups—women of color, poor
write, my upper belly ached, and my blood pressure women, and undocumented immigrants—often lack
rose. Yet at my prenatal visits at the midwife clinic “When access to care, so they enter pregnancy with more
where I was a patient, no one seemed concerned— health problems and get less prenatal care, as a 2010
not even when I showed up to the hospital in labor I became Amnesty International report outlined. Other issues
with my blood pressure at 143/99 and a pulse of pregnant, affect all pregnant women: Many communities don’t

M A K E U P : G E O R G I N A B I L L I N G T O N F O R J U D Y C A S E Y, I N C . H A I R : C A S E Y G E R E N F O R O R I B E AT A R T I S T S B Y T I M O T H Y P R I A N O .
120, both well above normal. (The clinic and hospi-
tal did not comment for this story.) Because I was
I didn’t have enough obstetric specialists, and labor and
delivery wards tend to be especially understaffed.
only dilated to one centimeter, I was sent home think There are few consistent protocols for how to react
and told to keep hydrated. The midwife on duty about the when things go wrong. And too often, hospitals don’t
declared the elevated numbers a result of labor-
related anxiety.
really share knowledge or data with one another, so the
same mistakes are made again and again.
In fact, I had some of the hallmark signs of a grim Most women in the U.S. will have normal,
condition I was only vaguely aware of then: pre-
eclampsia, a mysterious syndrome of the placenta
stuff that healthy deliveries. But for women who get sick, the
experience can be devastating. Pennsylvania pedia-
that affects blood flow between mother and baby. could trician Tricia Pil, MD, experienced postpartum
The mother’s blood pressure rises, unleashing a happen. hemorrhage in 2005. She was initially sent home
cascade of issues. Without treatment, it can cause Who with a diagnosis of false labor and ended up deliver-
potentially lethal complications. For the baby, this
can include restricted growth, premature birth,
would?” ing her baby in a hallway. Hours later, she started
passing clots the size of frying pans. “This was at one
and death; for the mom, organ failure, stroke, sei- of the best maternity-care hospitals in this country,”
zures, and death. The risk to me and my baby had she says, “not some backwoods operation.”
been lurking for weeks, and I’d had no idea. Eleni Tsigas, executive director of the Pre-
Now, standing in the mess I’ve made of our eclampsia Foundation, lost a child to the condition
kitchen, light-headed and heart fluttering, I dial 29 weeks into her first pregnancy—a soul-crushing
the midwife’s number. “Come in,” she says, sound- blow. And Ryan Hansen lost his wife, Tara. A
ing alarmed. “Come in right away.” 29-year-old special education teacher in New Jer-
sey, Tara died from an infection six days after deliv-
when i found out I was pregnant in 2012, I ering their son. Like many, Hansen says he wasn’t
P R O P S T Y L I S T: M I A K O K AT O H .

assumed the biggest risks I faced as a healthy, aware of the maternal health-care crisis until it hit
well-educated, privately insured New Yorker were too close to home. “Tara and I were so prepared
“interventions” I didn’t want, like an unnecessary for the baby’s birth, his well-being and health. We
C-section. I chose a midwife practice associated weren’t prepared for what happened to Tara.”
with a major hospital. We took childbirth classes, Tragedies like these can often be avoided, says
decorated the nursery in a forest critter theme, ob-gyn Elliott Main, MD, director of the California
settled on the name Adela. I didn’t think about the Maternal Quality Care Collaborative at Stanford
really grim stuff that could happen. Who would? University. When Dr. Main led a study of maternal
chest. Instead, she is moved to a plastic warming tray.
In spite of her rough start, she is beautiful, with long
limbs, puckered lips, blonde peach fuzz for hair, and
fat cheeks. But her breathing is raspy. Her chest
strains. It is torturous to watch.
They place Adela in my arms long enough for
Brendan to get a photo. I try to smile, but there’s a

t
look of concern instead. I glance toward the blood-
pressure cuff on my arm. Is something wrong with
me? What is wrong with her? Am I to blame?
She is taken to the NICU and given breathing
assistance and antibiotics. Her official diagnosis is
“sick baby, respiratory distress.” My blood pressure
went down during labor—a common and temporary
DANGER side effect of the epidural anesthesia. I’m moved to a
SIGN shared postpartum recovery room two floors away.
Hypertension
caused by The nursing staff never ask me about my symptoms
preeclamp- before I gave birth. To this day, I don’t know if Adela’s
sia can lead poor health was linked to mine nor what caused her

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to a cascade
of issues— illness. Our care was completely separate, as if we
even death. weren’t deeply physically connected, as if my health
couldn’t have affected hers.
deaths in California from 2002 to 2005, he found
that many were from conditions that have symptoms:
things like preeclampsia, hemorrhage, and blood tap, tap, tap. It is a day and a half after I gave birth
clots. The study, published in Obstetrics & Gynecol- and a midwife is testing my reflexes. As the epidural
ogy in 2015, concluded that at least 41 percent of the wore off, my vital signs worsened. My latest blood
deaths had a “good-to-strong chance” of preventabil- work shows something ominous.
ity and 90 percent had at least “some” chance. “She has elevated liver enzymes,” the midwife tells
These deaths, says Dr. Main, can be ascribed to the Brendan. “How elevated?” he asks.
“twin demons” of denial and delay: denial that a “Not acute-hepatitis high,” she says, “but still, they
woman is sick and subsequent delay in proper treat- are high.”
ment. Warnings signs are brushed off. Complications She moves on to the next area of concern: “Her
are misdiagnosed. Doctors fail to consult with spe- reflexes are brisk. It’s called hyperreflexia.” The word
cialists. After Adela’s birth, I reviewed my medical sounds beautiful, and I repeat it in my head. Hyper-
records with several doctors to figure out which of the reflexia. It also sounds sinister. I start to cry. “We
failures I might have endured. think you have some type of preeclampsia,” she says.
“Sometimes, providers don’t believe the vital She notices my tears. “Did you think something was
signs,” Dr. Main says. “Pregnant women are, by and wrong?” I nod my head yes, but I can’t speak. I’m too
large, young and healthy. You can withstand a lot. scared. Neither Brendan nor I can remember now
Until you can’t. Until you essentially fall off the cliff.” if the midwife explained what hyperreflexia indi-
cated—that preeclampsia had irritated my nervous
on a wednesday in May 2013, I arrive back in triage system and I was at imminent risk of a seizure.
covered in vomit and leaking amniotic fluid. The mid- She explains that I need an IV infusion of mag-
wife performs my second cervical exam of the day and nesium sulfate, which decreases the risk for seizures.
a greenish liquid spills out. The amniotic fluid, nor- I’m also started on a fast-acting blood pressure medi-
mally clear, is tainted by meconium, a baby’s first cation. She assures me things will be fine, although
bowel movement. It’s a sign of possible fetal distress. uncomfortable: The “mag” will make me feel “icky
As contractions hammer my back, I ask for an epi- and sleepy.” I’m sent to a new room with one nurse
dural, forgoing plans for a low-intervention birth. who watches four postpartum women on gurneys.
My blood pressure is 162/85 and my pulse is 113, One keeps asking for water; her voice is chalky,
but no one says anything to me about these numbers uneven, weak. I realize she is on a magnesium sulfate
or gives me medication to address them. I’m in men- drip, like I will be. The other women seem downright
tal la-la land, my body under siege from the disorien- chipper in comparison, despite having just been
tation that severe preeclampsia causes. Buried in my wheeled in from Cesarean deliveries. One asks her
chart is a note that says “watch BP closely.” husband to call for Chinese food.
About 12 hours after we arrive back at the hospital, It’s hours before my orders are put in. Just as a
I finally give birth. As soon as Adela exits my body, a nurse starts the IV, an ob-gyn resident bursts in,
doctor from the neonatal intensive-care unit swoops shouting, “Stop the drip!” She explains that my latest
into action, placing a tube down her throat to remove lab work shows key metrics have plateaued. The doc-
the meconium. I do not get to hold her against my tors want to “watch and wait” instead. The resident
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looks as if we should be elated. But I haven’t eaten or Core to California’s success have been “patient
slept, I haven’t seen my baby since the night before, safety tool kits” that can be downloaded and used by
and my room has no toilet. I’ve been using the one in any birthing facility, and which exhaustively cover
triage, dragging my IV pole along with me. Brendan standardized methods of detection, diagnosis, treat-
demands better help. I beg for sleep medication. ment, and management of issues. They offer medica-
At 3 a.m., I’m awake, hooked to a blood pressure tion boxes for specific conditions that hospitals can
monitor that whirs to life every 15 minutes. It sends keep on hand to avoid delays in treatment.
an alarm to the nurses’ station for high readings, The California effort illuminates how often
which in my case, is every reading. No one rushes in. mental symptoms are overlooked in maternal care,
With no staff in sight on a weekend night, I get out of says Christine Morton, PhD, a research sociologist
bed four times an hour to turn off the alarm myself. with the collaborative. “Sometimes women’s mental
Eventually, I take off the cuff, grab a bottle of manifestations of clinical problems are interpreted
breast milk (through it all, I have been dutifully as psychological or behavioral, which minimizes
pumping), and head to the NICU. The door is locked. their experience and doesn’t address the root physi-
I knock and knock and knock, then give up, torn to cal cause,” she says. She has seen cases where women
shreds that I’m separated from Adela. My pulse is suffering from low oxygen levels, known as hypoxia,
racing, both from the preeclampsia and the blood- get mislabeled as “combative” or “noncompliant.”
pressure pills. For the first time in my life, I’m having It’s just one example of the need for improved
a panic attack. This is temporary, I tell myself. You patient communication, says Ryan Hansen, who,
won’t be in this hospital forever. after his wife died, created the Tara Hansen Founda-
Panic is a known symptom of preeclampsia, with tion to raise maternal-health awareness. He speaks
women reporting an “impending sense of doom.” But regularly to doctors and nurses, encouraging them to
no one explains this, that I recall. I feel like I’m losing stop, look, and listen. “It sounds simple, but women
my mind. know their bodies. They know when something isn’t
The next day, Adela is declared healthy despite right,” he says. “We have to empower their voices.”
her low birth weight (8th percentile, proof of
restricted fetal growth) and released into my care. i spend one more day in the hospital. The blood
But I’m in no shape to care for her. I hear the family “I read pressure meds seem to have worked, and after a liver

b
one curtain away, whispering. I’m ashamed that I’m
falling apart and strangers are there to witness it. I
Facebook ultrasound shows no signs of rupture, I’m cleared for
discharge. But I’m far from healthy. Within two days,
ask to switch medications and to see a psychiatrist. posts my blood pressure returns to severe levels, and my
Thankfully, they agree to try a new drug, which saying dosage is doubled. My anxiety lingers, triggered by a
relieves the palpitations. Intermittently, I also begin
getting small doses of antianxiety meds. But the
‘Mom and combination of cardiac disease, psychological stress,
and medication side effects. I’m petrified that I’ll see
request for mental-health care is too much. “Sorry,” baby are flashing lights, a sign of a seizure. At one point that
the midwife tells me, shrugging, “it’s a weekend. The doing week, I ask to be admitted to a psychiatric hospital.

B
hospital is slammed. The only way you’ll see a psychi-
atrist right now is if you say you want to kill yourself.” fine’ and Instead of joy in the first weeks of Adela’s life, I
mostly feel isolation. I avoid groups for new moms,
it stings. feeling little connection with the women there. I read

“ between the health care we have and the


What is Facebook posts saying “Mom and baby are doing fine”
and it stings. What is that like, I wonder, to be fine?
health care we could have lies not just a gap but a that like, I see a psychiatrist and begin a regimen of medi-
chasm.” This is how Mary E. D’Alton, MD, summa- I wonder, cation, therapy, and journaling. This new doctor tells
rizes the crisis facing American maternity care.
to be me I’m suffering from postpartum anxiety, depres-

fine?”
Dr. D’Alton, chair of the department of obstetrics sion, and PTSD. I spend weeks measuring my blood
and gynecology at Columbia University Medical pressure, taking pills, getting my liver checked. My
Center/New York–Presbyterian Hospital in New mother-in-law stays for two months to help. With
York City, is one of the leaders working to turn the treatment, my grief becomes less disabling.
numbers around or, as she describes it, “put the One day, nearly two months after my release from
maternal back in maternal-fetal medicine.” the hospital, I take out our broom and dustpan to
Dr. D’Alton is spearheading a major effort, The sweep and find the dustpan covered in mysterious
National Partnership for Maternal Safety, to ensure dried red markings. Then I remember: vomit, my
that birthing facilities have safety programs in place for vomit, left over from the minutes before we rushed to
the most common preventable causes of maternal the hospital, when things became terrifying.
death and serious complications: hemorrhage, severe Now, more than two years later, those reminders
hypertension, and blood clots. The partnership, which lie hidden behind the life we’ve created. I’m back at
includes physicians, nurses, midwives, and organiza- work and volunteering for the Preeclampsia Founda-
tions, hopes to draw on the successes of the United tion. Family photos plaster the fridge. Adela loves
Kingdom, which has the gold-standard system of to point herself out, shouting “Baby!” Sometimes,
maternal mortality review, and of the California Mater- she’ll point to the photo of me, dancing with Brendan
nal Quality Care Collaborative. In just a few years, Cal- on our wedding day. “Mama!” she exclaims. “That’s
ifornia’s maternal mortality rate—in marked contrast to right,” I tell her, putting a hand to my chest. “I’m your
the nationwide trend—has fallen by nearly 50 percent. Mama. And you’re my baby.” ■
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You like it pretty, The forecast says
and this blush is super-steamy nights
beyond. and an adventurous,
Chantecaille Cheek sophisticated hottie 1 . “Cool,” GWEN STEFANI
Gelée in Happy, $39, 2 . “Living for Love,”
are coming your way.
chantecaille.com MADONNA 3 . “Stand by
March will be a whirl-
You,” RACHEL PLATTEN
wind of romance
4 . “Cake by the
when someone goes
Ocean,” DNCE
from sext-y friend to 5 . “Sparks,” HILARY DUFF
“oh, it’s you” in the

taste
span of a few weeks.
Then in September,
Ms. Hostess
Extraordinaire,
meet your bible.
you’re in for some
thrilling surprises that
pave the way for a real
sexy
Flirty?
You? Yasss.
The Cocktail Party, commitment in Aerie, $39.95,
$28, amazon.com November, some- aerie.com
SUCCESS thing that doesn’t
DAYS come easily to over-
thinking you. Trust!
LIF E CA S T
You could teach a JUL/
master class on get-
ting ish done behind
the scenes—and your
16
SEP/

09
star just keeps on ris-
ing! An exciting
opportunity could
present itself in May, OCT/
giving you a chance to
accomplish things 11
see
you’ve dreamed
about. If you want to
move forward, it’s
Symmetry and
time to leap and leave
beauty, your
the past where it favorite things.
belongs. Use August Chevron Flora II art

LIBRA
to recharge by spend- print, $25, curioos.com
ing some time in a 09.23–10.22
peaceful setting with
old friends or family.
Work may be a little
overwhelming in
October, when every-
one seems to need
something from you,
but keep in mind that
they’re coming to you
for advice and guid-
ance because you’re
a rock star.
GRACI OU S | AN ALYT I CAL | E NG A G ING

smell
It goes
SEXY without
DAYS saying that
your scent
needs to look
MAR/ APR/ AUG/ as good as

23 22 30
it smells!
Marc Jacobs
Decadance, $95,
Sephora

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10.23–11.21 L I F E C AST
taste

SCORPIO Never one to shy away


from a challenge,
you’re shouldering
extra responsibility at
work…and seriously
impressing your
bosses along the way.
Keep your business
cards handy in April,
and make as many
connections as you
can—you never know
who will be an asset
Some like it hot.
My Life on a Plate,
$24.95, amazon.com

see
Obviously,
you need the
OG sex icon
on your wall.
or ally down the road. Marilyn art print,
$25, curioos.com
AU DACI OU S | PA S S I ONAT E | E NI G M AT I C

Resist the urge to take


it easy this summer,
because July has the
potential to be one of SEXY
DAYS
your most productive
months, especially in
any tech-related pur- MAR/ MAY/ SEP/

20 13 23
suits. Come Novem-
ber, all those hours
you spent in power
mode rather than
beach mode will
SEXYC AS T
score you a mega
You’ll be spoiled with
career coup. Cheers!
opportunities for love
this year! Keep your
heart and eyes open
while traveling or
tearing it up at work—
you may get intro-
duced to someone
who might be that
true partner-in-crime
T Y S O N / S T U D I O D ; S T Y L I S T: S A B R I N A G R A N D E . B O O K S T I L L S : S T U A R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D ; S T Y L I S T: S A B R I N A

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ing for. If this new boo


is confident enough
SUCCESS to handle your fire
DAYS
and independence—
both in and out of the
JAN/
sexy bedroom—let your-
self fall. Until you get
03 Kitten heels
are for kids.
comfortable, keep
things quiet, but by
JUN/ Studded stil­ June, you should be

29 ready to shout your


lettos are
for Scorpios. devotion from the
Aldo, $130, aldo
shoes.com rooftops. In August,
OCT/
when it’s time for

24 some serious DTR

smell
talks, don’t hold back.
Let your love flag fly!
Beguiling and mysteri­

touch
ous is kinda your thing.
Chloé Love Story, $105, Sephora

Fingerpaint for
vixens like you.
hear
1. “Started From the Bottom,” DRAKE
MAC Cosmetics Pro
Lip Palette 6 Editorial 2 . “i,” KENDRICK LAMAR 3. “Work Hard, Play
Oranges, $40, Hard,” WIZ KHALIFA 4 . “Talking Body,”
maccosmetics.com TOVE LO 5 . “Bailando,” ENRIQUE IGLESIAS

145
see

SAGITTARIUS
Some artsy
inspiration for
future travels. SUCCESS
DAYS
World Map Canvas
Art, $99.95,
target.com
L I F E C AS T
The Notorious One MAR/
said it best: The sky’s
the limit. You can do 06
whatever you put your AUG/

27
mind to right now as
long as you don’t get
in your own way.
Major power players NOV/
at work are starting to
take notice of all you
do, so double-down
smell
Give others a
12
sense of your
and take advantage of
inner flower child.
all prime gigs that Marc Jacobs Daisy,
come your way, espe- $78, sephora.com
cially in April and Sep-
tember. Act like the
HBIC you are, and
make time to take
care of yourself. A
wacky new workout
fad might be just the
thing to rev up your
engines. You could
sexy
These boots were
meet some cool new made for walkin’—
peeps while getting and looking
your sweat on, so SEXYC A ST smokin’—wherever
you roam.
werk it! Me-ow, Sag. You’ll
Sam Edelman, $250,
spend this year purr- samedelman.com
ing like a contented
kitten, curled up in

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just the right lap. Your

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instinct is always to
be forthright, but a lit-
tle mystery will make
you all the more desir-
able. Escape winter’s
windy end with a
hear
1. “We Can’t Stop,”
beach escape in MILEY CYRUS 2.
“Put
March—you’ll feel the Your Records On,”
heat in more ways CORINNE BAILEY RAE
than one with some- 3. “Break Free,”
one thrillingly roman- ARIANA GRANDE
tic. Later, your May 4. “House Party,”
Day bae could turn SAM HUNT 5. “The

out to be your plus Night Is Still


one for the rest of the Young,” NICKI MINAJ
year. If lust has you
11.22–12.21 bursting at the zip-
pers by June, pen an
old-fashioned, racy
letter to your sweet-
heart. Slow, steady,
SEXY and steamy will win

touch
DAYS the race for you now,
so sit back and enjoy

taste
Girls on the go need
the ride.
MAY/ JUN/ OCT/ a winter glow. Wander

24 05 30
Beauty On-the-Glow Blush Get the global
and Illuminator in Coral
flavors you crave.
Rose, $42, wanderbeauty.com
Lucky Peach Presents
101 Easy Asian Recipes,
$35, amazon.com
146
LIF E CA S T
The world is your oys-
touch
Be cool for the
winter with the
ter this year, Cap. perfect smoky eye.
You’ll flourish by trust- Estée Lauder Magic
ing your instincts as to Smoky Powder Shadow
where to find the Sticks in Scorched Gold
pearls and how to and Burnt Black, $22
each, esteelauder.com
nurture them into
something beautiful
that will boost your
bottom line. A quick
trip will perk up any
taste
Easy and sexy?
Why yes.
pessimistic feelings,
Simply Nigella: Feel
especially in April and Good Food,
November. The seeds SUCCESS $35, amazon.com
DAYS
you sow in February
will blossom into big
wins by May. Reward
yourself by slowing it MAR/ SEP/ OCT/
down and relaxing
over the summer,
because your rise
23 09 11
to the top will speed
back up in SEXYC AS T

see
September! You put in the time to
make things happen
with your career—

hear
Bold from head to
now it’s time to chan-
toe to bureau.
Carnaby Zebra Stacking nel some energy to
1. “Time of Our Lives,” Dish, Jonathan Adler, your love life. Get in
PITBULL FEAT. NE-YO 2. “Dear
$24, jonathanadler.com the game and soon
Future Husband,” swipe-right types will
MEGHAN TRAINOR 3. “Don’t be blowing up your
You Worry Child,” phone. January and
SWEDISH HOUSE MAFIA FEAT. JOHN March have particu-
MARTIN 4. “Wildest larly sexy potential, so
Dreams,” TAYLOR SWIFT beat the winter blues
5. “Summer,” CALVIN HARRIS by bundling up (with
your signature chic
SEXY style, obvs) and get-
DAYS ting out there. When
someone sparks your
interest, don’t hide
your brilliance as a
JAN/
background player,
23 be the star of your
own love story. A very
JUL/ special someone will

smell 16 sexy
make you feel like the
only girl in the world
come September—
Complement your NOV/ Rock this like
revel in it!

12
confidence with you’re Kate Moss
this irresistably in Aspen.
chic scent. French Connection,

CAPRICORN
Chloé Eau De Parfum, $250, zappos.com
$105, Sephora SELF -ASSU RED | SP UNK Y | GE NUINE
12.22–01.19
SEXYC A ST
sexy
Leave the safe
This is the year you black tank to the
finally embrace the rest. Sparkle on,
unique unicorn you Aqua girl!
Asos, $47, similar styles
are and stop down- available at asos.com
playing your quirks,

see
Electrify
humor, and intellect.
Showing your true
self is the only way
your home. you’ll make a deep
Desktop heart, connection—and this
$90, neonmfg.com is the year to make
that happen. In Janu-
ary, spend time with
other spunky souls
who share your inter-
ests. It could lead you
right to a cubicle cutie
from the office, and
by August, a no-
strings-attached deal
could turn more seri-
ous. October shows
touch
Smooth on some sap­
LIF E CA ST phire for stand­out lids.
promise of sending a
Flex your creative Dolce & Gabbana Perfect Mono
charming, sociable Intense Cream Eye Color in
muscles and beef up
hottie your way. Look Indaco, $37, saks.com
your social skills right
past the flirting; this
at the start of the year.
one might be worth 01.20–02.18
You’re brimming with
more attention.
energy now, and get-

QUARIUS
ting involved in char-
ity work or other
meaningful group
activities is the per-
fect way to spread
your positivity and
cheer. Capitalize on
that momentum in
smell
Exciting, seductive,
February, and by and everything
April—one of your Aquarius.
best months for mak- Calvin Klein Euphoria,
$89, Macy’s
ing big changes—
you’ll progress in an
area that had seemed SUCCESS
out of reach. Dedicate DAYS
July to QT with the
fam and September
to yourself by making
JAN/
sure your body is
strong and well-
fueled, as you’ll need
02
energy to seize the FEB/
big opportunities
13
B OLD | P ROGRESSIVE | OFFBE AT

coming your way.


taste NOV/

09
You take everything,
including your food,
to the next level.
SEXY The Chef Next Door, $35,
DAYS amazon.com
hear
1. “Earned It,” THE WEEKND 2. “W.A.Y.S.” JHENÉ
FEB/ JUL/ AUG/ AIKO 3. “Suit & Tie,” JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE FEAT. JAY Z

17 12 03 4 . “Get Up, Stand Up,” BOB MARLEY 5 . “You


Need Me, I Don’t Need You,” ED SHEERAN

148
PISCES
02.19–03.20
SEXY
LIF E CA S T DAYS
This is the year to
spend time on the
pursuit most impor- MAR/
tant to you. Create a
routine that nourishes
your creative side out-
12
AUG/
side work to avoid
getting overwhelmed.
Scope out painting 27
studios, dance M I SCH I EV OU S | D REAM Y | C LE VE R

touch
SEP/

16
classes, or a coding
course to keep those
juices flowing. Tap Make magic on
into March’s spring- your eyelids.
Giorgio Armani Eye Tint
time vibe for a new in Obsidian and
burst of motivation. Émeradue, $38 each,
By July, VIPs will have giorgioarmanibeauty.com
noticed and give you
the attention and
boost you deserve.
When a new door
opens in October,
stride through it with
the confidence that
you are well prepared
to rock whatever is on
the other side. taste
Dream a dream
of delicious.

hear
1. “What Do You Mean?”
Atelier Crenn,
$50, amazon.com

JUSTIN BIEBER 2 . “Worth It,” FIFTH SEXYC A S T


HARMONY 3. “We Own the
If anyone knows
Night (The Chainsmokers “what is love” this
Remix),” THE WANTED 4 . “You Da
year, it’s you! Your
One,” RIHANNA 5 . “Life of the
2016 will start with a
Party,” SHAWN MENDES
series of harmless

sexy
Go glam like
but hot flirtations
between you and a
smorgasbord of inter-
the sparkling
ested parties. Febru-
sea goddess
you are. ary is the perfect
Parker, $485, month to let yourself
parkerny.com get swept away by a
hopeless romantic.

see
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Go with it, and trust


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your intuition. You


You know how know what you need
evocative words best at any given
can be. Own it. moment. If you’re
Wall canvas, $15, ready to commit and
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theankit.com
lock things down with
someone serious in
April, make sure you
SUCCESS know the real them—
DAYS

smell
not the love-at-first-
sight fantasy version
A playful, fruity you’ve created of who
fantasy for you. MAR/ AUG/ DEC/ they are.

08 12 19
Marc Jacobs Daisy
Dream, $78, Sephora

149
Aries Taurus Gemini Cancer Leo Virgo
You don’t have to A keenly sensual Geminis’ minds Your Cancer man All about the visu- He likes to look
drop hints with an sign, your Taurus are always lit up, is so tactile, he als, your Leo mate and feel put
Aries. Bold, brash loves scents like a and they’re highly practically sees can’t help but ogle together without
come-ons get his little musky per- verbal, so titillate with his hands, you, making every trying too hard.
juices flowing, so fume behind your him with creative, so linger in bed glance an act of Appeal to his clean
surprise him with ear. Threads like naughty texts. He’ll with him for a foreplay. Whether aesthetic with
frisky forays. He cashmere paja- be hooked, and his massage and you are wear- treats like organic
won’t know what mas will drive him replies will sizzle. long cozy cuddle. ing gym attire or cotton sheets or
hit him if you show wild—especially Try sending him on When you finally glammed up, keep a hearty, healthy
up for date night when you tell him a sexy scavenger emerge, splurge his eye wandering dinner made with
wearing nothing to strip them off hunt to find you on a decadent in your direction steals from the
under your coat and slip between with Snapchat brunch, complete with funky riffs farmers’ market.
but a confidence- your silk sheets. pics of lingerie with Bloodies or on old staples But remember,
boosting, barely Give him a taste leading to your bellinis someplace like leggings with he’s not all basics.
there nightie. No then dribble warm bedroom. After delicious. He loves mesh inserts or He may be into
need to spend too fudge someplace the mutual ravish- fine food, but he’ll bodycon dresses clean eating and
much on it—it’s strategic…which ing, indulge in the love working off in unexpected living, but he’s
unlikely you’ll have he’ll just have to kind of meaning- all those calories colors. When you always down to
it on very long if lick up, of course. ful, share-your- with you in bed see how he looks get dirty in bed!
he has anything to dreams talk that later even more! at you, you’ll be
say about it! will take you from the one ready to
casual to close. pounce!

STAR
SEDUCTION
GUIDE
WHAT TURNS
HIM ON IN
EVERY SENSE?
OUR SIGN-BY-
SIGN GUIDE
REVEALS HOW
TO MAKE YOUR
MAN WILD…
AND HAVE AN
EPIC TIME
YOURSELF.
Libra Scorpio Sagittarius Capricorn Aquarius Pisces
Your Libra lover As far as your Your Sag loves The cool Cap He’s usually up He’s a dreamer
is always on a Scorpio is con- mixing it up in and dislikes anything for anything, but and a cuddle bug
quest to discover cerned, the five out of the bed- tacky or frivolous sometimes he can who loves pam-
what gets your senses include room. Freewheel- and seeks out be a picky prince. pering and being
mojo going from touch, touch, ing discussions small moments Give in a little and pampered. Match
head to toe. So touch, touch, and about new ideas of luxury in each spoil him with his stroke with a
choose thought- oh yeah, touch. get his brain fir- day that make him options: Dress few of your own
ful gestures that Exchanging ing, and physical feel like royalty. up for a night of while blindfolding
show you pay just physical ges- activities (includ- On your next date dancing or dress him and keeping
as much attention tures—public and ing canoodling!) night, spring for up in kinky cos- his wrists lightly
to him. Wear a private—is how he get him all revved a nice bottle of tumes at home? bound with a silk
scent he’s compli- gives and receives up. Experiment sparkling wine at Football and beer scarf. Only your
mented, take him the intimacy he with your dates, a chic eatery as at your favorite hands allowed!
to see an exhibit craves. Keep the and visit a rock- the prelude to a bar or one-on-one When the two of
he’s mentioned, love flowing by climbing gym or night of passion. fantasy sharing? you finally come
and maybe offer holding hands take a salsa class When you’re alone Whatever your up for air, stream
to reenact a sexy during a winter that gets your again, turn on the choice, keep com- an indie flick or
scene from his walk, running your hearts racing and slow jams, climb municating so you documentary in
favorite Bond film. finger down his blood pumping! on top, and show both get the best bed that provokes
GET T Y IMAGES (2)

Double ohhh.… leg at the movies, him who really of each other’s thoughtful pil-
and playing a little reigns supreme! worlds. low talk until you
footsie under the peacefully drift off.
table at dinner.

WE ALL LIKE
THE TOUCHING.
BUT DON’T FORGET
THE LOOKING,
LISTENING, AND
TASTING.

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WRITTEN
11. Travel
6. Capricorn 7. Cancer
4. Scorpio 5. Aquarius
DOWN: 1. Virgo 2. Balance
12. Performers
9. Gemini 10. Beach
3. Taurus 8. Competitive
ANSWERS: ACROSS:

IN HOW WELL DO YOU


1

KNOW WHAT MAKES 2


EACH SIGN TICK?

THE
3 4 5

STARS
10
7 8

11

12

ACROSS
4. Dramatic entrances and OTT
eyewear are eternal musts for this
sexy, passionate, private sign.
5. The unicorn of the zodiac, this
3. With a habit for haute high-
quality, this is the most decadently sign can be stubborn and single-
luxury-loving sign of the zodiac. minded…but is always up to take
on others who present an intellec-
8. Aries are proven groundbreakers tual challenge.
and pioneers, a natural result of their
6. Hardworking, ambitious, and
not-so-secret __________ side.
DOWN subtly edgy, this sign loves to
9. Flirty music, funny books, and escape to the outdoors whenever
playful flicks are excellent gifts she can.
when it comes to entertaining this
7. Nothing delights this sign, a
fun, ever-curious sign.
1. This sign is usually up on every major foodie, more than a back-
10. A __________vacation is the health fad even before it becomes yard feast with her nearest and
dream getaway for water-loving, a thing. dearest.
romantic Pisces.
2. As the sign of __________, Libra 11. Always filled with wanderlust,
GET T Y IMAGES

12. Leos are perfect __________and is admired for her impressive Sagittarians are known for their
scene-stealers who often favor social skills and love of beauty and love of __________ and decorating
regal, dramatic looks. harmony. their pad with unique finds.

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COSMO QUIZ
Is He the One? BY ANNA BRE SL AW

1. Kissing him
makes you:
a. Feel like you
need to change your

4. The hottest
underwear.
b. Totally relaxed—
like there’s finally peace thing about him is
in the Middle East. that he:
c. A little gassy? a. Tells me how hot
I am mid-hookup. And
2. How do you his abs.
b. Makes a mean
two spend a typical
evening? frittata…or that he
loves going down on
a. Before or after me. Tough call.
he texts me “u up” with
nine eggplant emoji? c. Goes to CVS
for a box of super
b. Venting about unscented Tampax
work over a DiGiorno, Pearls when I ask.
then catching up on
Castle on DVR.
c. Poring over
5. What does
your BFF think of
Pinterest. Oh wait,
him? THE BREAKDOWN
that’s just me. He’s
probably on Pornhub. a. She calls him the Mostly As Mostly Bs Mostly Cs
GHOSTIE GUY ROCK STEADY MR. TEMPORARY
3. Your sex life
“doosh nugget,” but
she hasn’t met him so Now you see him, now You’ve been smooth Deep down, you know
what does she know? you don’t. The dude’s in sailing with this bro for a this dude isn’t it, but the
resembles that of:
b. After too much and out of your life (and, while. He is committed idea of swipe-left
a. John Mayer and sauv blanc, she’s “so uh, other parts of you) and could very well singledom terrifies you.
Katy Perry: erratic and sure he’s your soul when he feels like it. be—in the immortal Even scarier than that?
combustible. mate. Like, really.” You might think he’s words of Phoebe Buf- Playing it safe with the
b. Mila Kunis and c. She always
your soul mate, but fay—your lobster. Just wrong guy, all the way
that’s just because he remember, there still to the altar, and becom-
FOX VIA GE T T Y IMAGES

Ashton Kutcher: changes the subject


dependable and ghosts so often, you needs to be a sprinkle of ing a desperate house-
whenever I ask. Weird. romance—think date
semifrequent. barely know the real wife who cheats with
him. Tip: The right guy nights at that new Peru- the hot IT guy. Brave the
c. Olivia Pope and is usually down to hang vian fusion place and/or breakup—your respon-
a giant glass of wine: out with you in the sex that lasts longer sibility-free, fun-as-hell
What sex life? daytime. than 15 minutes. single life is waiting.

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