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com Alright boys and girls, here it is My NEWest pattern that is so freakin powerful i was gonna call it the OMG i have a new life pattern but then i thought better call it what it is. a 15 minute comp lete Values Breakthrough session. I had this little genius aha about a week ago whilst sweeping a floor. done it wit h every client since and the effect has been profound to say the least with ever yone of em. This bad boy is a mix of Tony Robbins 6-Human-Needs-Psychology, John Overdurf s Va lues alignment and some timeline stuff. HERE IS THE BASIC FORMULA: 1. 2. 3. elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order timeline or parts integrate the away-from off the highest Check and Future Pace. Need

This is LITERALLY a 15 minute complete VALUES BREAKTHROUGH SESSION. NOW HERE IS THE ELABORATION that explains how to do this and why it is one of th e most amazing therapeutic techniques you ll ever use. The theory: Tony Robbins does all his change-work under the principle of his 6 Human needs P sychology (Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contri bution) [refer to Tony Robbins Creating Lasting Change for details] Next, John Overdurf figured out that after eliciting someone s NLP Values Hierachy, esse ntially all you needed to do to remove ALL the conflicts in the list was to figu re-out which values had strong Away-From componants on them, then just remove th e away-from off the HIGHEST value with an away-from in the list and then 95% of the time+ ALL the conflicts in the hierachy would be resolved, even on values un related to the highest value with an away-from. For me, this proved true, i ve bee n using this for months now. VERY Fast! **(note number 3: further explaination on John Overdurf Values: elicit the values the way you were taught, once you have the hierachy elicit the toward-away motivation from the top down, then the highest one use whatever tec hnique you want to remove the away-from, then almost every single time ALL the c onflicts in the hierachy will be gone. if they haven t after you ve checked, all you do is remove the away-from off the second-highest away-from value. Apparently i n Overdurfs experience he has never come accross a time when the top 2 didn t total ly fix every conflict. and according to him just doing the highest one will get it 95% of the time. in my experience with this in the last year or so i ve never n eeded to do it twice.)** so then all this got me thinking if Robbins says that the 6-Human Needs are Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contribution, surely those values MUST have an opposite side I mean, They must have a dis-owned part in order for you to establish this valu e [or i think of them as somewhere between Values and Identity in Dilts neurologi

cal levels as the order of your 6HNP seems to dictate your values hierachy but i s not-quite Identity], so anyway, I sat down and thought about what i felt the aw ay-from or avoidence or fear of of each one of these 6HNP/values must be: and this is the list I came up with (feel free to contribute, argue, add-in, dis agree this is all theoretical at this stage) Human Need Away-From / Fear-of Certainty Uncertainty significance love/connection growth contribution igher purpose? Living a pointless life? not making a difference? Loss of Control / Safety Boredom / Routine Insignificance Loneliness Stagnation [still unsure] unfullfilling a h

(either way it s not that important as according to Tony Robbins neither Growth n or Contribution can be the highest one anyway) so maybe you can see where i m going with this: If you know Tony s 6HNP it takes like 3 minutes to elicit from the client their or der of the 6 (which is MASSIVELY easier, faster, deeper in structure and more ac curate than eliciting NLP Values). example their highest is Significance, growth etc. so you give them a little spiel about how they must have decided at some level, at some time that significance was to be of the highest level of importance to the ir identity and if they were to ask their unconscious.. was the decision to BE s ignificant or to NOT be INsignificant? [the reason I am loving this is because as you know away-froms create poor-perfo rmance and yo-yo dieters etc, so if we take off the away-from they are free to b e whoever they want without going in 2 directions at once] (**note: to do this pattern well for clients it would require a solid understand ing and explaination of the 6 Human Needs as described by Tony Robbins. Thats why I say this is a 15 minute pattern not a 5 minute one. i think with clients it r equires a good 10 minutes to get them to understand the 6HNP properly enough tha t they understand it and how it effects their life, their choices, decisions, be liefs etc and so that they can make an accurate guess at the hierachy. once you are there.. then that s when you move forward.. this pattern could be done effecti vely by someone new to NLP but it s a little confusing to explain because you rea lly need to calibrate to the clients understanding in order to allow them to und erstand exactly what they are going to release or parts-integrate. here is a lin k to Tony explaining the 6HNP a little http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cpc-t-Uwv1 I&feature=channel_page)** of course at the highest level love/connection is the same for every human, but we are talking about how their 6HNP hierachy is OPERATIONALLY like we do with nlpvalues. so then you have 2 options: TIMELINE off the away-from (ie away-from not being in significant ) or PARTS INTEGRATE the away-from and everything else (ie part that d oes not want to feel insignificant and EVERYTHING ELSE that is NOT the part that doesn t want to feel insignificant) choose which ever you feel best suits your cl ient. (**note okay second note after a little confusion by a number of people due to m y poor explaination skills. ;-P

let me pull an example outta my ass to try and explain this: if your client understands that their highest 6HNP is love/connection then you ask them if they were to know was the decision to be about love or NOT be about bein g UNloved and they give you the answer of not to be UNloved so you do a timeline pa ttern to release that decision you MAY strengthen the motivation for love [or no t] because the away-from is gone, alternatively if you parts-integrate the away-f rom unloved and everything that is not that you MAY have congruance [or not]. EITHER WAY that is probably NOT the best way to describe it overall. what i m getting at is: if you have FULLY explained to your client how this love/c onnection need works (ie- they get love and connection from being with friends, how that makes them feel, how they get it neutrally by being being a caring pare nt and also how they get it in negative ways like complaining about things, by b eing a hypochondriac, by staying in an abusive relationship [connection is bette r than being alone] etc etc etc etc) ** once they FULLY understand how having THAT as their highest need permeates and dir ects all their thinking, acting, behaving, decision making etc etc etc.. Then you can say now as you understand how this works in your life, as you look a t it and look over it, look at all your life, your history, your decisions good, bad and otherwise.. you are getting a full understanding of how this completely domainates you, your choices, your thinking and who you are so if you were to go inside.. and ask your unconscious when was the first event, that caused me to d ecide that THIS need was going to be the highest need & direction in my life etc tec tec [insert timeline pattern below] that way they are choosing the right point to release, NOT the point based on th eir preconceptions of the word love . and here s a little timeline language pattern i designed for that: go all the way back in time to the very first event in your life, the root cause, or the root-cause connected to the first event, where you came to a type of awar eness that you did not have, or were not being given the love importance/significan ce trust to look after yourself etc etc etc that you needed. The first event, which w hen resolved completely now, re-organised at the unconscious level & all the un conscious internal adjustments made genuinely and honestly, will allow this patt ern of being to be completely healed in your life from this moment forward if you were to know when this event was . was it before during or after your birth.. then just do that. so essentially taking the away-from off ALL the highest value s at an NLP values hierachy level all at the same time by using Tonys 6HNP. then re-calibrate for the change. - I have done this each time [unnecessarily] by actually eliciting the NLP value s as well to start with, then immediately after removing the away-from off the 6 HNP i re-elicited the values.. the effect is ENORMOUS!! i m talking not just balan ce and re-ordering, in a couple cases it has been a transformation in most of th e values, spontaneous full motivation.. the works. a literal TOTAL change. so to recap this simple technique: 1. 2. 3. elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order timeline or parts integrate the away-from off the highest Check and Future Pace. Need

This is LITERALLY a 15 minute complete VALUES BREAKTHROUGH SESSION. tell me what you think About these ads Like this: ?Like Loading... 1 Response so far 1 mrkrimes said,

April 25, 2009 @ 6:14 am I think once I read it over a few more times I will undestand it better. You sou nd like me when my friends and family say they dont understand what I am saying. I tend to get long winded and too deep at the same time. I think the long wind comes from trying to have understanding because I know I get too deep for most p eople around me. Anyways. I have studied NLP and read some of Tony s books along with listening to two sets of his CD courses. I have to refresh my memory a little and look into J ohn Overdurf. Maybe then I will easier understand your points better. I am in an 18 wheel trying to catch up some lost education and stumbled across your blog. I am new to blogging and I likeit. Sorry if I m all over the place. So you have my email. I would like to keep in touch with your blog and maybe you can help advance further in my education. Take care. P.S. I dont blog edicate to well so my apologies. Reply --------------------------------------Home About Troy Bakes NLP TroyBakes NLP Therapy (NLPt) SpecialistTroy s ULTRA CHANGE pattern. This can chang e ALL negative states.July 27, 2009 Filed under Uncategorized Tagged Anthony Rob bins, Christopher Howard, Counselling, counsellor, depression, health, How to, h ypnosis, hypnotherapy, Jamie smart, life coaching, mental health, Michael Hall, Neuro Linguistic Programming, New Code, NLP, overdurf, psychiatry, psychology, s ix Human Needs Psychology, success coaching, tad james, the secret, the teaching s of abraham, therapist, therapy, tony robbins, Troy Bakes, troybakes http://www.troybakes.com This pattern is the most powerful pattern that i ve ever developed. I have had num erous client go to numerous therapists and NLP experts before they came to me an d i use this pattern with them. without exception is causes the change everytime . For those of you new to NLP this is going to appear like a simple collapse anc hors pattern far from it. this is a kinaesthetic CHAIN of anchors pattern with a strategy change added in so it fires in the right situations. From a person perspective this i modified from something called the NLP secret and from John McWhirter (A scottish NLP trainer that Steve Andreas personally claim s to be so good that McWhirter is the only person Steve Andreas feels he s learnt anything from since the inception of NLP) Recently my girlfriend of 10 years decided it was time for her to leave this rel ationship [due to my unwillingness to have children yet] and obviously i was in a majorley bad way, but after doing this pattern nothing. i have been perfectly fine ever since. the power of this pattern should NEVER be underestimated. let me know what you think. Troy s Hyper Awareness Pattern. [The pattern that can change ALL negative states, feelings and emotions] Pre-frame:

*physiology creates emotion *both the positive and negative states require a process. Most people are only a ware of the negative process. *The ultrafine micro-distinctions are what make this pattern work not the larger macro distinctions and posture changes. *Do not rush this process. The longer this takes the better. I have found that t he more experienced at this process you become the longer it takes. *Do not change the steps or try and streamline or play with the process. *Both the negative state and the resource state should be accessed as close to 1 00% as possible. This amazing process will not work whatsoever if you do it from a mild state access, by remembering the state but not actually feeling it, or if you just analyse the state from an analytical perspective about the state. Just fully and totally access the state as much as possible. This is why the process can take longer the more experienced you get at it. ONE: Fully access the unresourceful/negative/unwanted state. Do this by running the strategy (problematic situation in which it occurs) in your mind over a few tim es. Give this negative state a name so that you know what it is. Fully access th is with VAKOGAd. Do whatever you need to do to get into this state. Repeat inter nal dialogue over and over in your mind make the right images, imagine the right things happening, say to yourself what you need to say. Whatever it is you do. As you do this start to become hyper aware of your entire body and all its kina esthetics, tensions, sensations ,posture and physical emotions. As this state becomes intense freeze your posture and body totally. Don t move a mu scle (this is essential). Now become aware of how you were standing/sitting, pos ture, head tilt, directional focus of your eyes, breathing pattern, now become hyper aware of your muscle tensions. [whilst keeping the negative sta te fully by running the mental memories/movies/chatter] Really take note of the kinaesthetics. Any/all the body emotions, pressures, feelings, everything. Over every square inch of your skin and body. Notice all the micro-sensations that m ake up this unresourceful state and posture. Start at the top of the head and work your way down the front and up the back, c onstantly becoming more and more aware of the micro-nuances that you ve never noti ced before that actually comprise this unresourceful state. Once you are fully and totally feeling this unresourceful state 100% (or close t o) you are solidly feeling all the kinaesthetics, emotions, body sensations, hol ding the posture frozen, doing what you need to do in your head , saying what yo u need to say and keeping your eyes around the correct place & focus create an a nchor. The best moment to do this is if you run the strategy/situation through i n your mind and for a split-second there s an intense moment where your heart has an extra beat try and set the anchor at that moment. If not, it s not that importa nt. (You can create an anchor by holding your thumb and forefinger on one hand t ogether) TWO: now stop the internal dialogue chatter and images and spend a couple of minutes genuinely pondering the question if I had complete and total amnesia for everyth ing up until this moment in my life how would I know to call this exact combinat ion of body kinaesthetics and posture [Name you gave unresourceful state]? this

is important. Really genuinely ponder the question until the body sensations fee l weird or odd breathe deeply and fully into the body sensations and keep asking th e question over and over how did I decide that this exact body feeling means X? ( sure, it doesn t feel good but how exactly did I decide that this feeling means X to me? It could have just as easily been any other negative emotion.) think abou t this question until you get a little separation of mind and kinaesthetic happe ning. A tree-falling-in-the-woods / the-sound-of-one-hand-clapping type feeling about the weirdness of the body sensations . Breakstate. Solidly break the state. THREE: Now decide on a resource state. The resource state should be in a similar contex t but where you felt the total opposite to the unresourceful state (example both states are with people or doing a project or learning or being social etc). [***this is the one people struggle to do properly because when they are in a go od state they are usually so externally focused that they are even less aware of the body kinaesthetics and sensations. This resource state will have almost as many fine distinctions as the negative state. The micro-distinctions of this res ource state need to be as thoroughly elicited as the negative state was. Remembe r- it is the micro-distinctions that will make the big change in the end***] fully access the resourceful/positive/wanted state. Do this by running the stra tegy (idealistic memories in which they occur) in your mind over a few times. G ive this positive state a name so that you know what it is. Fully access this wi th VAKOGAd. Do whatever you need to do to get into this state. Repeat internal d ialogue over and over in your mind, step into the right images, imagine the rig ht things happening, say to yourself what you need to say. Reminisce about simil ar experiences , Whatever it is you do. As you do this start to become hyper aw are of your entire body and all its kinaesthetics, muscle tensions or softenings , sensations ,posture and physical feelings that make up the resource state. As this state becomes intense freeze your posture and body totally. Don t move a mu scle (this is essential). Now become aware of how you were standing/sitting, pos ture, head tilt, directional focus of your eyes, breathing pattern, now become hyper aware of your muscle tensions. [whilst keeping the positive res ource state fully by running the mental memories/movies/internal dialougue] Real ly take note of the kinaesthetics. Any/all the body emotions, pressures, feeling s, everything. Over every square inch of your skin and body. Notice all the micr o-sensations that make up this positive resourceful state and posture. Is your b ack straighter? Shoulders back? Head up? Breathing deeper? Start at the top of the head and work your way down the front and up the back, c onstantly becoming more and more aware of the micro-nuances that you ve never noti ced before that actually comprise this positive resourceful state. Once you are fully and totally feeling this positive resourceful state 100% (or close to) you are solidly feeling all the kinaesthetics, emotions, body sensati ons, holding the posture frozen, doing what you need to do in your head , saying what you need to say, aware of the difference in your focus of vision, posture, facial muscles.. everything create an anchor. If you want you can find similar memories that had this feeling attached to them and also run that strategy/situa tion through in your mind until the state is even more intense (You can create a n anchor by holding your thumb and forefinger on the other hand together) break state. Do a solid break state. FOUR:

Now access the negative state again by firing the negative anchor and stepping i n to the correct physiology, internal chatter, posture and mental thoughts. Now, what is different? In what ways is this unresourceful state different from the resource state? pay attention to all the micro-distinctions. In what ways are all the body kinaesthetics different? Go head to toe noticing all the micro-dif ferences in skin sensations, kinaesthetics, notice all the differences. How was this negative state different from the resource state? Is one looking down and l ooking up? Does one have a feeling in peripherals and the other a feeling in the forehead? Notice all the differences. Try to stay in the negative state whilst doing this. You should also begin to notice new fine distinctions about the nega tive state that you didn t notice earlier. FIVE: Now fire the resource anchor just once. And as the state begins to change now st art to notice and describe all the similarities between the two states. how are these two states similar? in what ways are these two states similar? You are the same person, maybe they happen in the same situations? What is similar in the bo dy kinaesthetics of both states? Do they both perfect your posture? Do they both affect the way you stand? Do they both affect the direction of your focus? Are they similar in that they both affect your heart rate but in different ways? The y both affect your breathing pattern or mental clarity? List all the similaritie s. SIX: Now, fire the resource anchor a couple of times and fully step into the feeling of the resource. Really access this state powerfully as close to 100% as you can . Use all the right internal dialogue, imagine the right situations etc. Notice all the body kinaesthetics. Now, whilst maintaining this resource state how is this positive resource state different from the unresourceful state. In what ways is this positive state diffe rent from the negative state? (holding the positive anchor if you need) list all the micro-distinction differences you can. Break state. Completely shake off the state. SEVEN: Now access the negative /unresourceful state by firing anchor and stepping in to the negative state and just as you begin to feel the negative posture and state fire the positive resource anchor a couple of times, but this time become hyper aware of how your entire physiology slowly, naturally and automatically begins to change its stance, posture and kinaesthetics. Really take a mental note of th e physiological changes that happen from negative to positive. what are you awar e of happening to your body feelings? How does the focus of your eyes change? Wh at happens to your mental clarity and thought patterns as the physiology slowly adjusts itself automatically because you fired the positive state anchor? What m icro-muscle changes are you aware of? Breakstate. Completely shake it all off. EIGHT: Now, access the negative state and posture again by firing the negative and then as you are beginning to feel the negative, fire the positive anchor a few times but this time, try and maintain/freeze the posture of the negative state. Notic e what happens to your internal mental and emotional state when frozen in the ne

gative posture by firing a positive resource anchor. Notice everything you notic e. Take a few minutes to do this. Breakstate. Completely shake it off. NINE: Next, access the negative again by firing negative anchor and getting into the u nresourceful posture & state as this happens fire/hold the RESOURCE anchor a few times and allow the body posture to naturally make all the adjustments towards the positive resource state, BUT as it is making those unconscious automatic adj ustments repeat the negative internal dialogue over and over in your mind, see y ourself in the situations that used to create the old negative state, imagine t he right things happening, say to yourself what you usually need to say . Menta lly do whatever it is you used to do to create the negative state [whilst firing the positive anchor and allowing the body, posture and kinesthetics to naturall y automatically move towards the positive state]. Notice what happens and how yo ur feelings change. Breakstate. TEN: now, begin to access the negative state by firing the unresourceful anchor but v ery quickly afterwards fire the positive resource anchor a few times and genuine ly completely access the positive state to its fullness then breakstate. Repeat this conditioning process a couple more times. ELEVEN: And finally, run the old movies/situations in your mind that used to create the negative/unresourceful feelings (strategies) but only fire the positive resource anchor as you are mentally running those situations. See yourself acting/being/ feeling/behaving the way you want to be and fire the resource anchor. This will be a complete and permanent change. It is a full emotional/kinaestheti c chain of anchors that is permanently installed in the strategy where it s needed . There is EXTREMELY little that cannot be fully changed using this technique. Types of kinaesthetics (possible body sensations): heat pressure cooling tingling pulsing internal balance numbness empty or full stomach fight or flight heartrate

 micro-muscles (around mouth forehead etc) butterflies Goosebumps muscle tension rigidness jaw clenching softening tightening sensitivity pinpoint awarenesses feelings in extremities movement or spinning body feelings

skin sensations http://www.troybakes.com Leave a comment NLP PARTS INTEGRATION The super mega happy lucky jackpot versionJune 21, 2009 Fi led under NLP Tagged Christopher Howard, conflicting beleifs, Counselling, How t o, how to be happy, hypnosis, intention, jack canfield, life coaching, master pr actitioner, mental health, Michael Hall, Neuro Linguistic Programming, New Code, NLP, overdurf, parts integration, parts therapy, psychology, Richard Bandler, t ad james, therapist, therapy, tony robbins, Troy Bakes, troybakes, visual squash , www.troybakes.com http://www.troybakes.com This is a complete script for how to the NLP parts integration /Visual Squash. T his can be one of the most powerful Neuro Linguistic Programming patterns availa ble. This script i wrote a number of years ago now, but it s still pretty complet e for the beginner to intermediate NLP er. PARTS INTEGRATION The super mega happy lucky jackpot version 1.Elicit part It is important to get the precise part, in the clients own words. Also be SURE i t is a problem by asking ..and how is THAT a problem for you? repeatedly chunk dow n to specific problem. 2.VAK representation of Part Always try for personification. and if that image was someone you know, WHO would that look like now? {always go for personification of self ie its me at 14years old looking sad esult is way more powerful that a shape or an image etc] ..and if that person had a weight..what would that feel like?

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and if you were to HEAR it saying something to your now.. what would you HEAR it SAYING? 1.Elicit OPPOSITE part ..and now I d like the exact opposite part, the flipside of the coin, the completel y opposite number, the part which that part is MOST in conflict with to come sit out on the other hand (VAK part as above) 3a) Elicit other parts (this has a powerful effect but I hardly ever use it, jus t doing the opposite part is usually enough to re-create wholness) and now I d like any other parts, that are not already part of the opposite part, th at feel they are in significant conflict with the problem part to also come out and sit on the knees/float in the air.. (VAK parts- same as above) 3b) ASK the AGE of each of the parts. 1.PROBLEM PART (must always start with the problem part) I d now like to talk to part of you that [problem part] the part of you that Looks like X at the age of X, the part of you that kind of feels [weight] as it sits t here in your hand.. the part of you that said X to you . That s right 4a) realization of opposite part .. and I wonder if that part can now turn and look over at the other hand and I m w ondering if that part realises that there IS a part/s in which it is most in con flict with I m wondering if that part had realised that before now..? [no?] .. that s okay, is it okay to begin to really Notice THAT now? 1.CHUNK UP to highest intention Chunk up to highest intention as THIS boundry is what caused the part in the fir st place, when client loops, chunk 1-2 levels higher than that as the loop is ge nerally the boundry. Generally the highest intentions possible are peace, love, wholeness and existence etc whats this parts highest intention for you ? for what purpose ? why does it want THAT for you? and all of that for what purpose? and having all that, what will that get for you? 5b) [on leaving problem part and moving to next part] ..and now I d like to go over here and talk with part Y (opposite), and as I am tal king with part Y, part X[problem part] can continue to think about and re-align with its original highest intentions for [clients name] and continue to consider even more ways to now happily, easily and effortlessly support [clients name] i n achieving their goals and desires 6. Opposite Part Chunking Chunk up the opposite part til you get the SAME WORD highest intention as the pr oblem part. 6a) Chunk any other parts to same level 1.Working Together [talking back to problem part] ..did you notice that the other part/s has the same highest intention for you whi ch is your A[highest intention]? did they notice that?? isn t that interesting? d they both/all realise that they are both/all only really primarily concerned a

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bout achieving their highest intention for you now, which is your A?.. I wonder if They Can Notice That Now, that they both/all have the same highest in tention for you, which is your A?.. and I wonder if they realise that, by being in conflict, they re keeping eachother f rom achieving their highest intention for you, which is your A? and I wonder if both/all parts would be willing to work together now, to better achieve each of their highest intentions for you, which is your A now? 1.Exploring the other parts worlds . Allow each part to explore the other parts and learn from it. tell me about what s going on for you as (part X goes into part Y) [then as client finishes telling you one or two things.. follow into this as lon g as its appropriate for context] ..rapidly consciously and unconsciously learning all the learnings there is there to learn, all the positive learnings for [client s name] all the positive learni ngs for [client s name] and [name s] future, LEARNING ALL THERE IS TO LEARN THERE AN D STORING THEM IN THAT SPECIAL PLACE all the positive learnings NOW and storing them A LL in that special place you use to store ALL such learnings, the learnings of w hich NOW . will allow you NOW to easily and effortlessly make the changes in [name s] life that you ve been so wanting to make now, haven t you? that s right.. all THOSE po sitive learnings. LEARNING ALL THE WAYS IN WHICH you can work together to help [ name] to achieve their goals of X ..very good, all the learnings The ones that are making THOSE changes NOW very good 1.GROWING UP and now with all those learnings, THAT knowledge, THAT information that you ve store d in that special place you use for all such positive learnings, that make all t hose changes NOW that you ve wanted to make for so long, I m wondering how easily an d effortlessly THOSE parts of you, of ages xx, yy and zz can GROW UP NOW, grow u p now with all this information to your current age and current knowledge, leavi ng in the past, those things, those states, those emotions and those decisions i n which it KNOWS needs to be left back there.. now, and access all the resource s they need to from you re unconscious to grow up from the ages xx, yy and zz to N OW, bringing with it all the positive things you ve learned, all your new knowled ge, new learnings, new intelligence and new maturity to support you in achieving your goals and your highest intention of X now in your life ..NOW very good 1.USING OTHER PARTS RESOURCES Have all the parts look at eachother and FEEL GOOD about eachother a and FEEL GREAT about working together. and I wonder if [problem part] can look at [part B] and see if it has any resou rces or attributes that it would like to have, that would better help it better achieve its highest intention for you, you which is your A?.. [yes?] yes? it does, doesn t it?.. and as you begin to realise, now, that you were once originally part of a larger w hole that intended to work together, in harmony, to achieve your highest intent ion for [name], which is [name s] A? you can begin to see now that YOU ABSOLUTLY H AVE PERMISSION NOW, AGAIN, to do that PERFECTLY, and support eachother in achiev ing THAT highest intention NOW, by sharing THOSE resources that [part B] has tha t will help you in supporting [name] in achieving their goals ..and you can abso rb those Now. that s right.. rapidly and unconsciously learning, learning all the positive learning s now for [name] and [name s] future storing all those learnings in that special pl ace you reserve for all such learnings, that MAKE THOSE CHANGES NOW very good

10a) Do this for all parts involved (Conversationally) one of the great things about this processes is that, MOST people find that, for some reason, they unknowingly, start making connections at the unconscious level , that starts to create so many positive changes for them in their life in SO MA NY areas now that they were not expecting to make them right now that their whole life changes from ALL THE CHANGES YOU ARE MAKING NOW. I love it, it s a great pro cess . you are doing VERY WELL, you are good at this! I wonder how many changes yo u ll make after today? *** HANDS SHOULD BE MOVING TOGETHER BY NOW if they are not, you did NOT chunk hi gh enough on the intention. Something is wrong*** 11. [upon noticing hands moving together] **surprised tonality** Did you notice that? I mean, you re not doing that on purpos e are you?? [no] ..wow, I guess YOU ARE REALLY INTEGRATING, AND MAKING THOSE CHANGES NOW.. an d as you continue to allow your hands to do as they want to do, to make those ch anges for you now, I wonder if they continue making those jerky movements toward s eachother or if it will be smooth?.. [subconscious movements are normally very jerky] 12. INTEGRATE PARTS TOGETHER as one big whole if it hasn t happened already. and I wonder in which way these parts, as they have grown up completely now, haven t they? ..would best like to integrate fully now, to make those changes [note presuppositions] 12a) and if there is any other parts that would like to join in this integration p lease allow them to do this now . Maybe you d even like to throw in there a little o f that part of you that REALLY likes to have fun and enjoy what you re doing and al low that to join into the integration now very good 13. BRING INTEGRATION INTO BODY - bring into body, ask how unconscious would prefer to do that. and take that complete integration RIGHT INSIDE, and fully integrate into the WHOL ENESS and as you do, feeling it integrate now, feel that feeling make those chang es rapidly and dramatically at the unconsciously level..now, feeling it penetrat e through your entire being, right down to the cellular level and to the atomic le vels and then feel it making THOSE changes right down, to the space between the a toms, even MAKING AMAZINGLY POSITIVE CHANGES FOR YOUR AND YOUR FUTURE THAT YOU D IDN T EXPECT TO MAKE NOW, Making all THOSE changes now.. and really feel that amazin gly beautiful, releasing, happy feeling vibrate out through your entire being & essence and continuing to radiate out .really enjoying that..now 14. BREAKSTATE [clap hands once] ..You don t smell popcorn do you?

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15. TEST so, I m sorry, What was the problem again?? [if done properly they won t be able to remember or won t be able to re-state it the same way again (I can t remember) That s RIGHT, YOU CAN T! very good, in fact you ll completely forget ab

ut that old problem now (I dunno) That s RIGHT, YOU DON T! very good, in fact you ll completely forget about tha t old problem now 16. FUTURE PACE close your eye s and now imagine stepping out to some indefinite time in the future, where in the past, that old problem may have hindered you or held you back and notice what happens for you now.. (do this twice) (and as the third one) ..and now as you imagine stepping one last time to some indefinite time in the fu ture, where in the past, that old problem may have hindered you or held you back , notice how things have changed for you now, notice how amazing you feel about it now (do all VAK), notice that this change you made BACK THEN was a cause-setin-motion RIPPLING OUT compounding in a kind of massive snowballing effect and n otice what IS for you now, isn t that perfect? great! okay, and come right back to now, and right back into the room. Good work! .. ve ry good Troy Bakes is an Australian Based NLP therapist who consults worldwide for clien ts and professional therapists. http://www.troybakes.com Leave a comment NLP strategies tutorial. STRAGEDY When your strategy becomes a tragedy!April 30, 2009 Filed under NLP Tagged Anthony Robbins, Bandler, Counselling, counsellor, Dilts, health, How to, hypnosis, life coaching, mental health, Neuro Linguistic Programming, New Code, NLP, psychology, six Human Needs Psychology, strategies, success coaching, therapist, therapy, tony robbins, Troy Bakes, troybakes Troy Bakes NLPt.Mprac.NLP Cht www.troybakes.com Here is an extremely powerful [yet very basic] pattern for therapists that will give you both, massive change results and expand your knowledge and use of NLP s trategies. STRAGEDY: When Your Strategy Turns Into A Tragedy (Jan Prince) All of us operate out of unconscious patterns ten. When these patterns repeatedly harm our unwittingly creating our own tragedies. If we neffective patterns in a detached way we have matically. that get us what we have always got relationships or our careers we are can examine and experience these i the opportunity to change them dra we we

Working with a client one dayI accidentally labeled her pattern a STRAGEDY re both amused because it was so apt.

In this article I will give a brief overview of the STRAGEDY questioning process and an example of how you can use it with a client. In later articles I will go more deeply into the finer structures of the technique. Don t let the simplicity of it fool you it is amazingly impactful because it uncovers the STRAGEDY and tu rns it into a positive strategy. I present it here in a format that is helpful for those of you who work as coach es or therapists helping clients change limiting patterns. If you know NLP well, you will recognize that this is an amalgam of several basi

c NLP processes, although you do not need to know NLP well to use the process. Overview of the Five Basic Steps of the STRAGEDY Questioning Process: I. Identify the issue, circumstance or interaction in which the client is consis tently unhappy with the results. II. Ask what happens, who does/says what, and the order in which it unfolds and write down the steps and the order in which they happen. III. Repeat each step back to the client, filling in any missing pieces and maki ng sure that the context, behaviors, thoughts, feelings and motivations are incl uded. This may take several iterations before all of the nuances are uncovered. IV. Once complete, prompt the client to repeat his stragedy aloud. You may want to have him repeat it several times until it is evident he understands his compl icity in getting the unfortunate results. V. Help him identify which step he wants to change and brainstorm new ways to th ink, feel, or behave to create a new strategy that results in positive outcomes. Following is an example of how this has worked. In step IV behaviors, feelings, thoughts, beliefs and identity issues are noted by bracketing and bolding them. Throughout, the questions and comments from the therapist are in bold and Ellen s are in standard text. The therapist begins by asking her what the problem seems to be.

******************** Step I. Identify the issue. Ellen is a former accountant who decided to stay at home and raise their three b oys. She was furious that her husband Don was always complaining about her house cleaning. She felt he was putting her down in front of their children. The ensui ng arguments were causing a lot of tension and anger between them, and it was ha ving a disastrous effect on the way she felt about herself. STEP II: Ask what happens and the order in which it happens write it down. what happe The k

So that I can really understand this situation, tell me how it starts ns first?

Well, this morning is the perfect example: At the breakfast table Don said, itchen is a mess. And then?

I got angry and defensive. What makes you angry? Because he is criticizing me again. What makes you think he is criticizing you?

Because he expects me to do something about it. How do you know that? Because if something isn t right, I have to fix it. Because? Because I m responsible. And you are responsible because? I don t know I just have to be.

And if you aren t responsible? Then I am bad.

Step III. Reflect each step back to the client to make sure all the steps are un covered. Ok, let me back track on your strategy so far (therapist refers to his notes) When your husband complains, you get defensive and angry because you think it is criticism, and that means you have to fix it, because if you don t, you are bad. Is that right? Yes. And if you are bad, then what? I get anxious and lash out. And then what happens? Don gets mad and we have a fight. And then? And then I feel even worse! So let me make sure I ve got this right: When Don complains, you get defensive and angry because you think it is criticism and that means you have to fix it becau se you believe that if you don t fix it you are bad. And the thought of being bad makes you anxious and you lash out, and then you feel bad. Right. At this point Ellen is looking a little amused.

IV. Once complete, prompt the client to repeat her stragedy out loud. You may wa nt to have her repeat it several times until it is evident she understands her c omplicity in getting the unfortunate results. Ok, why don t I lead you through this and you repeat each step after I do.

1. When Don complains about something in the house (circumstance); 2. you feel defensive and angry (feeling) 3. because you think it is criticism (thought) 4. and that means you have to fix it (belief) 5. because if you don t, you are bad (self-concept identity)

6. and then you get anxious and lash out at Don, (behavior) 7. and then you feel worse. (resulting state). Yes, that is exactly what happens! So how is that working for you? She is a little stunned by the simplicity and counter-productiveness of it. The therapist helps her repeat each step several times (which has been explained as a stragedy a strategy that has turned into a tragedy), helping her fill in a ny missing details. By the fourth iteration she is laughing her perspective is s haken and ready for an intervention. Step V. Help the client identify at what point in her STRAGEDY she could think o r do something different, and brainstorm new behaviors that would create a more satisfactory result. (The earlier in the pattern, the better.) Ellen, if we were to change one step of the STRAGEDY, what would it be? She is a little stuck. What would happen if you didn t think of it as criticism, just a comment? Well, I sure would feel different. And if you didn t take it as criticism, how might you respond instead? I d feel a little detached and maybe ask him what he thinks we can do to keep it i n better order. How would that be for him? She chuckles: Well, he would be very shocked and I wouldn t feel it was all my responsibility. M aybe we wouldn t have an argument. The therapist led her through a scenario using the new response to see how it wo uld affect the rest of the interaction. She liked the results and decided to try it at home.

At the next session she reports that it is easy to catch herself early in the ol d pattern and changing the one step has allowed her to feel less defensive. Don has become more involved in household chores, and fewer fights have created a le

ss stressful atmosphere. ********************* Notice that a stragedy s structure usually involves: A: an event; B. a reaction to the event (a feeling, thought, behavior); C. guided by a belief or interpretation; D. a behavior resulting from that interpretation; E. a response to that causing the next and on to the next iteration of A to E. event ;

I have found that uncovering the details of the interaction (with the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors clearly identified), naming the pattern a STRAGEDY, and verbally repeating each step allows the client to see the fallacy in her reasoni ng and to detach from the old pattern. More often than not they find it amusing. Rarely do I have to challenge a belief or interpretation the process seems to ca use clients to do it themselves! My assistance is needed to help them identify a n intervention point, brainstorm specific reinterpretations or new ways to respo nd, try out the new responses, and predict how this will affect the rest of the in teraction. All of those with whom I have worked report that it becomes quite easy to catch themselves before they get beyond the first step or two of their old pattern and to do something else. I have been amazed that something this simple can have such a powerful impact. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to email me or make a comment. Leave a comment [The first Installment] How to take 100% responsibility for your life the NLP inte gration process.April 29, 2009 Filed under Uncategorized Tagged 100% responsibil ity, being right, Counselling, how to be happy, hypnosis, jack canfield, life co aching, mark victor hanson, Michael Hall, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, psy chology, robert dilts, six Human Needs Psychology, submodalities, success, succe ss coaching, the secret, the success principles, therapist, therapy, tony robbin s, Troy Bakes, troybakes <!--[if gte mso 9]> Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE MicrosoftInte rnetExplorer4 <![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]> <![endif]--> By Troy Bakes NLPt .MpracNLP. Cht. www.troybakes.com So the first instalment in using NLP to install the principles of success from J ack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson s book The Success Principles. The first principle is entitled take 100% responsibility of your life.

This principle is easy to install and there is number of ways to do it. The first thing that needs to be installed, is my principle of righteousness. T he reason for that this is, that absolutely no one who lives by this principle w ho would see any logic in blaming other people for their current situation in li fe. People who choose to be happy, rather than right are people who take respon sibility for themselves. [The principle of righteousness see a previous dated blog]. For me, when I work with clients, there is four main techniques i will use to in stall the principle of righteousness. As you will see, installing the principle of righteousness is essentially the same thing as installing take 100% responsib ility to your life the only difference being that The Principle of righteousness much more obviously universally applicable- all the time, everywhere. It s the sa me thing, one is just easier to hold-in-mind for easy constant awareness. Technique one: A basic submodality shift. Elicit the submodalities of a personal boundary that you have, something that yo u would never consider it appropriate to ignore. A good example of this would b e something like monogamy. If you are the type of person who would never cheat on a partner, elicit the submodalities of how you represent being monogamous and t he opposite submods of cheating (something you d never do). And likewise, another b oundary could be, if you are the type of person who loves animals, you could pro bably never work on the kill-floor of an abattoir. Elicit submodalities of bein g an animal lover and the opposite of (something you would not do) wanting a job a t the abattoir. Next, elicit the submodalities of a strong belief. Next, elicit submodalities of blaming other people for your problems, and then s hift those submodalities across to something you would not do and then over to a strong belief. Repeat this a few times. Next, elicit submodalities of taking 100% responsibility for everything that hap pens in your life (or happy to be wrong/lets everyone else be right ), Then move tho se submodalities across to the submodalities of something that is true about you , Ie monogamy or a love of animals. Next, moved that over to a strong belief. (and in that strong belief submodality set, you could make a disassociated image o f seeing yourself happy and congruant, accepting that you co-create everything i n your world and hear yourself saying I am the creator of my experience, therefor e I am responsible for every co-creation in my life Repeat the process a few time s. Technique two: timeline work.

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Those of you experienced in NLP, this will be self-explanatory. There could be any range of beliefs, decisions, or reimprinting that needs to be done to clean up decisions that being right or always winning is important. Or, Avoiding responsi bility by blaming others is easier Or, accepting responsibility would make the c lient feel like a failure, or simply a belief that it is not always my fault . Cl eaning up these beliefs will make a massive step forward quickly and efficiently . Technique three: Michael Hall s mind to muscle pattern .

This pattern, I use a lot. I would recommend it using this pattern everyday for every principle in the book. The success principles by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson.

There are numerous ways to do this pattern, and I myself have a small variation on its original form. For simplicity, i ll write out the pattern here using my va riation and as a floor pattern ie, spatially anchored. Spatial anchor one: I understand X. (say it with the gestures of understan ding or explaining a principle to someone) Spatial anchor two: I believe X. (say it with the submods and strength of something you truely beleive say it over and over until it settles) Spatial anchor three: me to X. I have decided to X, I am going to X, I will X, it s ti

Spatial anchor four: I am allowed to, I have permission to, I have permiss ion from, I am giving myself permission to, I am choosing to, I m allowing myself to, I have permission from Z to. Spatial anchor five: [stated as an emotion] [Kinaesthetic feeling of compl etion, relief, satisfaction, happiness, Etc] because I understand and believe X, I have decided from this day forward, I will X, and I now feel Y because I have finally given myself full and complete permission to start X today . Spatial anchor six: [action/movement] because I have finally decided to f eel Y about my belief of X, today I will do [one little thing / one little step forward] in the direction of X . Spatial anchor seven: of X. [step into VAKOGAd] experience the full representation

LOOP BACK TO SPATIAL ANCHOR ONE: carry this feeling and experience of anchor sev en, back to spatial Anchor one and went through the process two or three more ti mes, every time you look through this process. It will completely change. That s a good thing. After a few processes, you will feel like you ve always been this way. Technique four: my own super pattern, which is called collapsing the intentional values of the experts . I use this technique everyday. The effect is outstanding. The process is incre dibly simple yet, may be complicated to me to explain . So let s see how I go. Step one: create a semicircle of seven spatial anchors. These anchors are named A A1 A2 B2 B1 B MM the semicircle is organised so that A and B are directly opposite each other and MM is just on the opposite side of B1. Step two: think of a context, a problematic metaprogram, a problem behaviour , o r anything you want to change. Step into anchor A as the self position, and ful ly experience in all the representation systems what this is like for you. Step three: now, step into A1 and as you look at A from A1, you deeply and fully consider. What are your highest intentions, beliefs, feelings and thoughts for your actions and ways of being at A. What is it that you are trying to achieve in A? Step four: once you have all the information A1, move back again to A2. Here is another backstep: at this point, really deeply and fully consider. What is the highest intention of A1? The ways of thinking beleiving values metaprograms pl easure- pain thresholds etc what are your intentions at A2 for your way of proce

ssing an A1? what is the highest intention OF the highest intention? Step five: shake that off, really separate and change state. Now, step into B. This is a model of expertise. A person real or imagined, a person alive or dea d, a person famous or just a friend who is a wonderful model to the way you want to be. Fully step into this experience. Fully become this person. Take a ful l second position. Adopt their physiology, their breathing their muscle tension , their thought processes, look through their eyes, really take on what it means to be that other person looking back at you. Step six: do the same at B1 and B2 as you did at A1 and A2 really step into the experience of being the other person. Really get their intentions beliefs, feel ings, understandings, processes, history, upbringing, education, life experience s, beliefs about self, others, the world, time, life, everything. really get eve rything all their intentions at B1.. and then the same [another step removed] at B2. step seven: Now Step Forward into B1 and notice how that strengthens the underst anding of B1 now, step forward into B, and really notice what it means to be B. Really get into the full physiology of B again. Adopt their physiology, their b reathing their muscle tension, their thought processes, look through their eyes, really take on what it means to be that other person, with all your new underst andings, looking back at you [at A]. Step eight: now step out and shake off this experience. Change your mental stat e. Then walk over and associate back into A again. From this self position ver bally ask your model at B for advice on how to achieve that level of success in the correct context that you desire it. Imagine listening to and understanding the answer from your model. Step nine: now walk slowly from A to B allowing your unconscious mind to process the steps required unconsciously to achieve this goal when you step into B, ful ly associate in and look back at A. And have the same conversation again as if you were person B. Step 10: now step to B1 and fully and completely experience B1. When you have t his fully and completely imagine it like a bubble surrounding you, and imagine t hat way of being as a new filter, a new way of thinking.. and look through this filter and deeply and fully consider your thoughts and feelings about A, A1 and A2 from this perspective. Step 11: and again step up to B2, and repeat the process. Step 12: now step down B2 to B1 to B and over to MM (MM stands for Meta-Message as described by Robert Dilts) . This position represents the unconscious and nonv erbal higher level or heartfelt messages that the person at B is communicating o n a non-verbal level. Imagine and allow an unconscious conversation happening b etween MM and A1, and then between MM and A2, until which point you feel an unco nscious shift of understanding. Step 13: take all this conscious and unconscious information from MM and move it up to B and up to B1 and up to B2, Collecting it all together and then imagine stepping into A2 with all this information and notice how it changes A2, and the n forward to A1, notice what is different and then forward into A. Step 14: allow your unconscious to completely and totally collapse all the all t he new learnings into A and integrate it. This process should take about 15 minutes know it sounds complicated but it s very very easy. it will collapse all the internal unconscious resources that you hav

e into where you need them. Sometimes this process is a full intervention for a client by itself. In the context of taking 100% responsibility of your life yo u can easily find a model of someone who you believe portrays that completely in all areas of their life, or at the very least, an area where you struggle to ta ke full responsibility. Leave a comment A quick couple of words.April 28, 2009 Filed under Uncategorized Tagged Anthony Robbins, being right, chicken soup for the soul, Counselling, counsellor, dragon naturally speaking, esther hicks, How to, hypnosis, jack canfield, life coachin g, mark victor hanson, new habits, NLP, psychology, six Human Needs Psychology, success coaching, the secret, the success principles, the teachings of abraham, therapist, therapy, tony robbins, Troy Bakes, troybakes A few people have commented on my bad grammer, spelling mistakes and the like. I am a super-slow typer. so i use software called Dragon NaturallySpeaking v10 i t is software that all i need to do is SPEAK and it types it all out automatical ly as i speak into the microphone headset. so yes, there is errors, the software is fantastic but it s only 95-99% accurate. so sometimes you ll have to just figure out what i am saying if there is a big mistake that i don t notice the software m ake. Also, Starting this week, I am going to doing a project that will take me a numb er of months. For those of you who are fans of Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Ha nson ( Chicken Soup for the Soul books and The Secret ) I am going to start at the start of their book THE SUCCESS PRINCIPLES and everyday (or every other day due to some days been too busy with clients and life) give you an NLP formula, or offe r a serious of NLP processes to INSTALL that principle in yourself or your clien ts. For me, That has always been my biggest problem with success & self-development books, they give you GREAT ideas.. but they never tell you how to INSTALL those ideas at the unconscious level, so they become automatic and natural ways of liv ing so from here on out I am going to give you a series of processes that can be used to install each principle in their book start to finish. hope you enjoy it. Comments (1) How to be 100% Happy ALL THE TIME.April 26, 2009 Filed under Uncategorized Tagge d Anthony Robbins, arrogance, being right, Counselling, depression, ego, health, How to, how to be happy, hypnosis, life coaching, mental health, Neuro Linguist ic Programming, NLP, psychiatry, psychology, sadness, six Human Needs Psychology , suicide, therapist, therapy, Troy Bakes, troybakes Hello everyone, Now this theory is pretty much perfect, it is . One theory that I try installin g all my clients, because as far as I can tell, this is the cause of all problem s. Now, many clients.. in fact, all clients I would say, try to argue with thi s concept, and that s okay, because when somebody realises that all their problems in life will pretty much come down to this principle, their unconscious mind wi ll fight it to the maximum, they will try and find every exception to the rule, every which way in which this theory does not work. But the truth of the matte r is it works every single time, and in all the years I ve been teaching and insta lling this principle. No one. Not once ever, has anyone been able to come up with a logical argument to disprove this theory. This principle is not only pow erful. Its life changing and can take some getting used to, but once installed, life gets very easy. Very, very easy. I understand some of my readers will not be happy with this principle, but those

who know me will also know that, I don t care. I have lived by this rule about f ive years now, nothing ever bothers me. Always happy. Life is very very easy, and people just astonished at how smoothly everything in my life works on me. A lways, and I mean always. Nothing ever goes wrong in my life. I would encourage you to take on this principle in every part of your life, find a way to install it in your clients, and live it everyday. in fact, a great thi ng about this principle is that when a client really takes it on. You change th eir life. This principle , this principle, I call my principle of righteousness. When I s ay Righteousness, some people refer to this as ego, winning, being the best, loo king good, avoiding embarrassment, keeping up appearances, a whole range of othe r names-some positive, some negative. Either way, they are just bad justificati ons to keep doing what they re doing. Tell me what you think. The Principle of Righteousness You can be happy in life, or you can be right in life. Not both. choose. Humans have the strongest desire to be Right. People will go to war to be right but they will DIE to NOT be made wrong . In order to be happy in life you need to G ive up the need to be RIGHT about everything. Every argument, every judgement, every war, every conflict is over both sides wa nting to be right and refusing to be wrong no matter what They would rather die ra ther than be wrong. In fact humans will choose to be right over everything includi ng love and happiness. Some will even go to the point of finding others who believe the same as them [a ccumulating social proof] in order just to prove how right they are over someone else, or start taking a mental inventory of past events that they can reference just so that they have clear back-up proof that they are right if they get chal lenged about it. When you think about how you feel when someone makes you wrong . It s one of the worst and belittling feelings that exist people will defend agains t being wrong til death. Why would you go and do that to someone else?? Often time s, by simply just standing up for something you know to be right is some peoples wa y of declaring to the other person you are wrong! [because i am right] You ll be sur prised how easy life gets when you just being completely drop being right from you r life. In every situation (relationship context or not) if you just happily say you are right to another person everything changes. You don t have to agree, in fact , you can completely and totally disagree with every fibre of your being but you just accept that THEY believe they are right and they must have had some pretty intense experiences, learning s or realisations to be able to come to that belief . You don t say it with sarcasm just say it genuinely You are right I see your point ever saw it that way before I totally agree with you [you can always totally agree that the other person believes what they are saying - even if what you believe i s the polar opposite - your need to "correct them" or "help them think" or "tell them how it really is" is your self-centred ego trying to feel better about its elf.]. Consider this: By being right about everything WHAT FEELING ARE YOU LOOKING FOR? S atisfaction? Control? Respect? Righteous indignity? Do you honestly think being right will make you feel better about yourself? How do you feel when someone else is being like that around you?? (Do you all of a sudden recognize that they are right and you are wrong and then bow down in awe & admiration of their all migh ty intelligence?) Life becomes very easy from every angle when you can just STOP being right. Just give up being right life becomes REALLY easy. In relationships you have ONE CHOICE you can be RIGHT or you can be HAPPY what i s more important to you? The ability to tell other people they are right and giv e up your own need to be right about everything is the key rapport skill of all the world s best communicators and negotiators. How do you know when you are being

right? You are ALWAYS being right. EVERY SINGLE negative emotion you experience , you are being right about something. This is the KEY POINT: Every single time you feel anything less than perfect, ev en the slightest bit of uncomfortable or annoyance you are being arrogantly Righ t about something. So as soon as you feel that little emotion you just STOP..and say to yourself What am i being right about? and the answer will be there. Then y ou have the choice: Is it more important to be Right or to be Happy? Example: someone cuts you off in traffic. You feel annoyed. Ask yourself WHAT AM I BEING RIGHT ABOUT?? the answer that will come to you could be many; You are bei ng right that according to you [ or YOUR rules for what is the right way for eve ryone to live] he shouldn t cut people off or that he s an inconsiderate driver or t hat he shouldn t treat you like that or that he has broken the law and you have so cial proof of just how wrong he is or that the rules for getting a license are t oo easy, or that he s not a nice person, etc etc it s in this moment where you have the choice YOU CAN BE RIGHT or YOU CAN BE HAPPY. What is more important?? So in regards to your relationship: What are you being right about?? [according to you , or your rules for how everyone should be or act] What is your spouse doing tha t you consider not right for them to be doing? How are they being or behaving th at you have decided is wrong or inappropriate according to your rules? What do y ou believe about relationships/marriages that you think you are right in enforci ng on someone else? What are you being right about in your relationship and then holding it against the other person (making them wrong) in a pathetic attempt t o control their behaviour? [The situational exception] The exception to this rule is when someone else trie s to put influence you into a situation. You must always do what is right for yo u to do. Understanding that you do NOT know what is right for anybody else to do i s the most important part to living a happy life, but the other part to this is that you must always ask yourself is THIS right for me if the answer is No, then a simple reply such as it is NOT right for me to be involved in this, please do no t push the offer or in the situation of something like abuse the reply would be it is not right for me to be abused by anyone, so i am leaving You must always do w hat is right for you. Often, in fact very often I will get a client, who says something like this is ru bbish. If I am at work, and someone says, you must do X, Y and Z and it s not my job to do those things I have other things, I have to get done what am I suppose d to just say you are right and just do it? the answer is no, all that proves is th at they didn t actually understand the principle. They purposely, unconsciously, only listened to the parts of it that they could negate, so that they didn t have to make such a big change in their life. The last part interval clearly states: you must do what is right to you. If someone asks you to do that and it is not right for you to do it, the answer is: I understand right to you to ask me to do that, but I had my duties, I am supposed to perform and its not like me to do th at. You have to ask somebody else. And again, someone will always say: What if I see someone being beaten up? Am I s upposed to just sit back and say, That s right for them! -and of course, the answer is both yes and no. Yes, because whatever is going on is right for the person d oing the beating, but no, if you feel it is not right to you to just sit by and let that happen. You need to do what is right to you. Always!. But anyway, these are all just badly thought out, excuse-generating ideas to jus tify not making this change. Think about it like this: the people in life, who everybody likes are the most c harismatic people the structure of charisma is simple, they make you feel good a bout you, they talk to you about you, essentially, they make you feel right abou t you in every way. The people in life, who get nowhere, who nobody likes, who struggle, and are just generally miserable, are the opposite people. And the ch

aracteristic trait of those people is almost always the same, they are the peopl e who complain about everything. They are the people who blame everybody else f or their problems. they are the people for whom nothing is ever their fault. Th ey are people who solely talk about themselves. They are the victims of society . Essentially, they are the people who are right about everything (and often, t his rightness is justified to themselves by believing they are more intelligent th an other people!). Read over this again. You will see that every single problem in your life comes back to this. Let go of being right and you ll say hello to a happy, easy, produ ctive life. The formula is simple. step 1: Notice negative emotion from the slightest unsureness to the e upsetness. ANY level whatsoever. step 2: Ask yourself What am I being RIGHT about? -list those things step 3: Ask yourself Is it more important to be right about all these o be happy? step 4: Choose. -You can t have both. If you choose righteousness why are you doing it? who s life are you king that choice? what do you think it proves? and to who? Kindest Regards, Troy Bakes +61 405990790 www.troybakes.com Leave a comment Troy s AMAZING 15 minute complete NLP values Breakthrough Session.April 19, 2009 F iled under NLP, Uncategorized Tagged Anthony Robbins, Bandler, change work, Chri stopher Howard, Counselling, Dilts, health, How to, hypnosis, hypnotherapy, Jami e smart, Language Pattern, life coaching, Michael Hall, Neuro Linguistic Program ming, New Code, NLP, overdurf, psychology, six Human Needs Psychology, tad james , therapist, therapy, Time Therapy, tony robbins, Troy Bakes, troybakes, values Troy Bakes. http://www.troybakes.com Alright boys and girls, here it is My NEWest pattern that is so freakin powerful i was gonna call it the OMG i have a new life pattern but then i thought better call it what it is. a 15 minute comp lete Values Breakthrough session. I had this little genius aha about a week ago whilst sweeping a floor. done it wit h every client since and the effect has been profound to say the least with ever yone of em. This bad boy is a mix of Tony Robbins 6-Human-Needs-Psychology, John Overdurf s Va lues alignment and some timeline stuff. HERE IS THE BASIC FORMULA: 1. 2. 3. elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order timeline or parts integrate the away-from off the highest Check and Future Pace. Need most extrem in your mind. things or t wasting by ma

This is LITERALLY a 15 minute complete VALUES BREAKTHROUGH SESSION.

NOW HERE IS THE ELABORATION that explains how to do this and why it is one of th e most amazing therapeutic techniques you ll ever use. The theory: Tony Robbins does all his change-work under the principle of his 6 Human needs P sychology (Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contri bution) [refer to Tony Robbins Creating Lasting Change for details] Next, John Overdurf figured out that after eliciting someone s NLP Values Hierachy, esse ntially all you needed to do to remove ALL the conflicts in the list was to figu re-out which values had strong Away-From componants on them, then just remove th e away-from off the HIGHEST value with an away-from in the list and then 95% of the time+ ALL the conflicts in the hierachy would be resolved, even on values un related to the highest value with an away-from. For me, this proved true, i ve bee n using this for months now. VERY Fast! **(note number 3: further explaination on John Overdurf Values: elicit the values the way you were taught, once you have the hierachy elicit the toward-away motivation from the top down, then the highest one use whatever tec hnique you want to remove the away-from, then almost every single time ALL the c onflicts in the hierachy will be gone. if they haven t after you ve checked, all you do is remove the away-from off the second-highest away-from value. Apparently i n Overdurfs experience he has never come accross a time when the top 2 didn t total ly fix every conflict. and according to him just doing the highest one will get it 95% of the time. in my experience with this in the last year or so i ve never n eeded to do it twice.)** so then all this got me thinking if Robbins says that the 6-Human Needs are Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contribution, surely those values MUST have an opposite side I mean, They must have a dis-owned part in order for you to establish this valu e [or i think of them as somewhere between Values and Identity in Dilts neurologi cal levels as the order of your 6HNP seems to dictate your values hierachy but i s not-quite Identity], so anyway, I sat down and thought about what i felt the aw ay-from or avoidence or fear of of each one of these 6HNP/values must be: and this is the list I came up with (feel free to contribute, argue, add-in, dis agree this is all theoretical at this stage) Human Need Away-From / Fear-of Certainty Uncertainty significance love/connection growth contribution igher purpose? Living a pointless life? not making a difference? Loss of Control / Safety Boredom / Routine Insignificance Loneliness Stagnation [still unsure] unfullfilling a h

(either way it s not that important as according to Tony Robbins neither Growth n or Contribution can be the highest one anyway) so maybe you can see where i m going with this: If you know Tony s 6HNP it takes like 3 minutes to elicit from the client their or der of the 6 (which is MASSIVELY easier, faster, deeper in structure and more ac

curate than eliciting NLP Values). example their highest is Significance, growth etc. so you give them a little spiel about how they must have decided at some level, at some time that significance was to be of the highest level of importance to the ir identity and if they were to ask their unconscious.. was the decision to BE s ignificant or to NOT be INsignificant? [the reason I am loving this is because as you know away-froms create poor-perfo rmance and yo-yo dieters etc, so if we take off the away-from they are free to b e whoever they want without going in 2 directions at once] (**note: to do this pattern well for clients it would require a solid understand ing and explaination of the 6 Human Needs as described by Tony Robbins. Thats why I say this is a 15 minute pattern not a 5 minute one. i think with clients it r equires a good 10 minutes to get them to understand the 6HNP properly enough tha t they understand it and how it effects their life, their choices, decisions, be liefs etc and so that they can make an accurate guess at the hierachy. once you are there.. then that s when you move forward.. this pattern could be done effecti vely by someone new to NLP but it s a little confusing to explain because you rea lly need to calibrate to the clients understanding in order to allow them to und erstand exactly what they are going to release or parts-integrate. here is a lin k to Tony explaining the 6HNP a little http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cpc-t-Uwv1 I&feature=channel_page)** of course at the highest level love/connection is the same for every human, but we are talking about how their 6HNP hierachy is OPERATIONALLY like we do with nlpvalues. so then you have 2 options: TIMELINE off the away-from (ie away-from not being in significant ) or PARTS INTEGRATE the away-from and everything else (ie part that d oes not want to feel insignificant and EVERYTHING ELSE that is NOT the part that doesn t want to feel insignificant) choose which ever you feel best suits your cl ient. (**note okay second note after a little confusion by a number of people due to m y poor explaination skills. ;-P let me pull an example outta my ass to try and explain this: if your client understands that their highest 6HNP is love/connection then you ask them if they were to know was the decision to be about love or NOT be about bein g UNloved and they give you the answer of not to be UNloved so you do a timeline pa ttern to release that decision you MAY strengthen the motivation for love [or no t] because the away-from is gone, alternatively if you parts-integrate the away-f rom unloved and everything that is not that you MAY have congruance [or not]. EITHER WAY that is probably NOT the best way to describe it overall. what i m getting at is: if you have FULLY explained to your client how this love/c onnection need works (ie- they get love and connection from being with friends, how that makes them feel, how they get it neutrally by being being a caring pare nt and also how they get it in negative ways like complaining about things, by b eing a hypochondriac, by staying in an abusive relationship [connection is bette r than being alone] etc etc etc etc) ** once they FULLY understand how having THAT as their highest need permeates and dir ects all their thinking, acting, behaving, decision making etc etc etc.. Then you can say now as you understand how this works in your life, as you look a t it and look over it, look at all your life, your history, your decisions good, bad and otherwise.. you are getting a full understanding of how this completely domainates you, your choices, your thinking and who you are so if you were to go inside.. and ask your unconscious when was the first event, that caused me to d ecide that THIS need was going to be the highest need & direction in my life etc

tec tec [insert timeline pattern below] that way they are choosing the right point to release, NOT the point based on th eir preconceptions of the word love . and here s a little timeline language pattern i designed for that: go all the way back in time to the very first event in your life, the root cause, or the root-cause connected to the first event, where you came to a type of awar eness that you did not have, or were not being given the love importance/significan ce trust to look after yourself etc etc etc that you needed. The first event, which w hen resolved completely now, re-organised at the unconscious level & all the un conscious internal adjustments made genuinely and honestly, will allow this patt ern of being to be completely healed in your life from this moment forward if you were to know when this event was . was it before during or after your birth.. then just do that. so essentially taking the away-from off ALL the highest value s at an NLP values hierachy level all at the same time by using Tonys 6HNP. then re-calibrate for the change. - I have done this each time [unnecessarily] by actually eliciting the NLP value s as well to start with, then immediately after removing the away-from off the 6 HNP i re-elicited the values.. the effect is ENORMOUS!! i m talking not just balan ce and re-ordering, in a couple cases it has been a transformation in most of th e values, spontaneous full motivation.. the works. a literal TOTAL change. so to recap this simple technique: 1. 2. 3. elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order timeline or parts integrate the away-from off the highest Check and Future Pace. Need

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