How to win back your ex boyfriend

Almost everyone who see their relationship ended against their will takes time to recover themselves from the loss. It’s normal for the people who are living and suffering this process ends up calling their exes, insisting on they, or maybe going after this person. All those actions only push your beloved away. Most of the people end up freaking out and asking for anyone’s help, wondering what can they do to have the love of their life back. But no one teaches us how we should act to resolve our real problem, what we should do, what kind of attitudes can bring them back and which will permanently drive they away.

In fact, few are those who teach us something useful when we are talking about matters of the heart. Of course, many people have something to say, but few are the ones who really know what they are talking about. There’s a lot of advices in this world, but just a few experiences. Many people spend the rest of their live believing they never find the woman or man of their lives. Others meet them every two months.

Sometimes people ask me if I’m a psychologist. I’m not, and when I say that, they tell me that I would be a great psychologist. No, I don’t, and I can say it for sure. If I were a psychologist, two things that disconnect me from the real purpose of my work would happen.

First of all, if I were a psychologist, I would have an office, I would attend by appointment and this costs money, which goes against the work I do today. I like people. I like to hear what people think, I like to stay awake at night and answer questions from those who are online and call me, I don’t like to set a date and time to talk to anyone.

Many people come to me every day, and as I can’t respond immediately, I end up given their answer through texts I writ on my website and social networks, because I know it can be useful to more people. But somethings someone contacts when I’m free so I give them my opinion.

Unfortunately, despair, sadness, the desire to throw everything away, the fear that you and your ex are never get back together again and all the discouragement don’t ask for permission to show up. That’s why I’m always around, to be able to help you as much as possible. Help as many people as possible to feel better about themselves, to get back to believing themselves. I also help them to get what they want, get their beloveds back. Sometimes I give a schoolyard teacher vibe by scolding them. It only happens when I saw them doing what I’ve already said is a mistake.

Second, if I were a psychologist, then I would have to be impartial. And, to be honest, that’s something I don’t know how to be. Usually, the person tells me a story, their problems, what happened, and I show them the options, so they can decide what they want to do. I know it’s very easy to say do this or do that, but when the time comes, you feel lost, everything you had memorized to say disappears from your mind and you lose your patience and end up talking too much, even arguing, and I tired to tell to you don’t argue.

Many believe I only had perfect and amazing relationships, because I know the tricks to avoid fights and keep everything ok, they believe I know how can make it works perfectly to avoid all bad stuffs. Others tell me that they want to be like me, so their romantic life would be very different. But is not like that.

I could never write about relationships if my life had been just rainbows and butterflies until now. How would I know what irritates a man, how to get out of an argument, what causes a fight, how to get a man back if I had never lived through it all? In terms of relationships, it is not enough to read, it is not enough to research, you have to live it, watch people around you going through different situations, so you can draw conclusions and turn them into a thesis.

Among so many themes that I developed during the last years; this was the one I had the most pleasure to write. When I self-released the first edition of this book, the responses I received from readers were astounding. Many people have no idea what can happen to a person who is facing a break up. As strong, independent and full of themselves as they are, most of them don’t know how to deal with changes that happen suddenly, unexpectedly and unwantedly.

During these years I had seen people losing their jobs because they got into depression or because they didn’t even want to get out of bed or simply because they couldn’t concentrate and kept crying in the bathroom. I saw people believing that nothing made sense anymore, and thinking about taking their own lives. I saw people being impulsive, doing crazy stuffs to be forgiven and get the person back.

There is nothing more pleasure to me than hearing someone say that they were suffering in depression, but started to feel better after reading what I write. There’s nothing more satisfying on this planet than someone coming to thank me and letting me know that they’re happy again with the person they love. And, luckily, I hear this almost every day, which keeps me in the purpose to help people.

Based on that came the opportunity to rewrite a second edition of the book. Now it has more content for you who want to win the love of your life back. I have male and female readers, and all the tips in this book are for both, men and women – I used feminine pronouns throughout the text because it’s easier, as my experience dealing with women’s issues is greater.

Human beings are not used to dealing with losses. It’s hard to talk about it, even with best friends. That’s why I wrote this book: for you, reader, who needs the shoulder of a friend who went through it, overcame the pain and conquered the victory: true love.

Cheer up! You will get there too!

YES. You may have had a long and passionate love story for ten years, or an intense and unforgettable passion for three months, it doesn’t matter. The fact is, he didn’t want you anymore, period. What are the reasons for the end of this love story? Sometimes there are many reasons and sometimes there’s none. Maybe insecurity, fear of getting too involved in it, lack of interest, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, lack of sex, lack of pleasure, lack of privacy, lack of freedom, maybe even lack of jealousy. There are so many reasons that may have led your relationship to an end, as well as so many excesses that may have caused him to not want you anymore. Too much jealousy, too much control, too much fights, too many arguments, and maybe you’re always there for him and... sometimes it’s good to be missed.

He could have broken up with you for just one of the reasons above, or for all of them. Maybe he tells you a specific reason, but the true is he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore.

But you still do, and that’s why you’re reading this book. You’ve probably tried everything and nothing has worked, you feel more and more distant from your loved one and