Brahma Kumari Shivani: You are responsible for how you feel

Who is responsible for your emotions, you yourself or other people?How to stop feeling like a victim?Only you are responsible for how you feelThe other people only create their behaviour, but who creates your thoughts? Blaming the world for how we feel is the easiest way to be unhappy Take personal responsibility of how you feelHow to stay calm inside when there is chaos outside?‘They hurt me, she irritated me, he upset me, I am unhappy because of them.’ Such thoughts create a belief system that says our emotions are a result of other people and external circumstances. If we introspect, we will find that we have lived almost all our life thinking that who we are is a result of what is going on in the external world. Each time we did that, we believed that energy was flowing in from outside. Take this moment to check who creates your thoughts, irrespective of the external situations. Someone can be rude and abusive to you, someone can cheat or betray you, but it is only outside of you. Crisis, chaos, or betrayal is outside. It's not right, but it's outside. And what do you make of it? Shift your thoughts and focus on yourself. Just bring in your thoughts anything that happened today, which you created but blamed the outside world for. Bring it to your awareness and create a new narrative. ‘They spoke badly, they abused me, they cheated me. But actually, I created the feeling of hurt, the hurt was in what I was thinking about them; what I was telling myself; it was my creation. I create my thought, feeling and emotion.’ Stop living a life of a victim, blaming the world for how you feel, because that is the easiest way to be unhappy. Be the master, the world may not be nice, people may not be perfect, but you are the creator of your thoughts and now you have a choice to take personal responsibility for them. Crisis outside, calmness inside; abusive language outside, ‘loveful’ conversation inside -- it can be a possibility only if you take responsibility. BK Shivani has been a practitioner of Rajyog Meditation of the Brahma Kumaris for over 22 years. Her practical application of spiritual principles on the TV programme 'Awakening With Brahma Kumaris' has empowered people to overcome issues of emotional distress, depression, and relationship conflicts. In March 2019, she was awarded the prestigious Nari Shakti Puraskaar, the highest civilian honour for women in India, for her role in transforming human behaviours. She has been appointed as Goodwill Ambassador by the World Psychiatrist Association. She is an Electronics Engineer from Pune University. Introduction: Mona Mehta Text summary: Sonal Srivastava Audio production: Basant Singhal