Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Kimmy Seltzer
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Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.

  1. 2D AGO

    Dating In Your 40s (And Beyond): Special Dateable Edition

    Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You’re not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond):  Special Dateable Edition” Kimmy is invited onto the dynamic Dateable Podcast with hosts Julie and Yue. The conversation dives deep into the world of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond  The tables are turned as Kimmy sits in the guest seat, opening up about her own experience moving cross-country, dealing with divorce, rediscovering herself, and re-entering the dating scene as a single mom. She reveals the pivotal moment that reignited her confidence: the famous red dress story, where shopping for something outside her comfort zone became the catalyst for a complete mindset (and life) shift. The conversation dives into the real-life challenges of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond: from evolving attraction and patterns, to balancing careers, family, and social lives, to confronting limiting beliefs about “the dating pool” at any age. Kimmy unpacks why your “second act” can be your strongest yet, and how clarity, confidence, and a willingness to try new things—whether that’s a new outfit or a new approach to flirting—can make all the difference.  You’ll hear: Why dating after 40 isn’t a consolation prize — it’s often a “reset” filled with wisdom, clarity, and deeper authenticity. How to break out of old “types,” refresh your flirt game, and finally have fun again—even if you haven’t dated in decades. First-hand advice for navigating dating apps, balancing busy lives, and prioritizing your own happiness. The truth about age, attraction, and that so-called “shrinking dating pool” (spoiler: it’s all about mindset and action—not your birth date). If you are a later dater and getting caught in the friendzone often or not feeling the chemistry on dates, join Kimmy for her next co-ed interactive workshop called Unleash Your Sexy Confidence where you will learn the art of attraction and chemistry.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    1h 10m

  2. AUG 1

    ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game

    Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You’re not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game” Kimmy guides you through the essential steps to transform your love life from the outside in. Whether you’re returning to the dating scene after a long break or wrestling with low confidence, Kimmy shares actionable tips, eye-opening mindset shifts, and real-life success stories to help you polish up your social and flirt skills and enjoy dating again. In this episode, Kimmy covers everything from revamping your dating image, clarifying what you truly want, to breaking free from self-sabotaging checklists and learning to enjoy the process of meeting new people. You’ll discover why waiting for the "perfect time" never works, the importance of focusing on your own happiness, and how making small changes—like updating your wardrobe—can spark a sexy new confidence. Whether you’re discouraged, confused, or simply looking for a little motivation, this episode is packed with inspiration and clarity.  You’ll hear: Six game-changing steps to refresh your approach—including ways to stop waiting for the “right moment” and have fun on your path to finding love Actionable advice for overcoming insecurity, building a social circle, and taking small steps toward flirting, connecting, and feeling good in your own skin The story of a client who shifted from “giving up” to “excited and confident,” just by tweaking his mindset, updating his dating appearance, and learning to enjoy the process Why so many of us feel out of sorts when it comes to dating—and the simple truth that you’re not alone.   If you’re hating dating and want help putting yourself out there, start taking action by booking a FREE private call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/.     Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    27 min

  3. JUL 23

    Cosmic Compatibility: Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen

    Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, despite your best intentions to date differently? In Episode 404 of The Charisma Quotient, “Cosmic Compatibility:  Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen” Kimmy talks with renowned Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen, to decode the mysteries of relationship patterns, cosmic compatibility, and lasting love.   Carol and Kimmy have a dynamic discussion about how the interplay of your past and family dynamics combined with astrology can shape your relationships.  Carol shares her personal journey from relationship confusion to becoming a renowned astrologer, including the fascinating story of her own marriage. She reveals how astrology—and especially Vedic techniques from India, which have been used to arrange marriages for centuries—can shed light on why certain connections are so compelling or challenging, the timing of love, and what truly makes a relationship work beyond surface-level compatibility. The episode dives into the concept of "cosmic compatibility": what really happens when two people meet and there’s an undeniable energetic flow. Carol unpacks how Vedic astrology analyzes both individual and combined charts to reveal innate temperament, relationship “capacity,” timing (your seasons and cycles), and specific compatibility factors.   She explains why some couples experience effortless harmony while others feel like they’re constantly hitting invisible walls, regardless of how hard they try.  You’ll hear: Why you keep attracting the same type of partner or experiencing painful relationship patterns How unconscious patterns and “love shields” influence your dating life and emotional connections. What “cosmic compatibility” means, how Vedic astrology can reveal relationship patterns, and the factors that determine lasting love. How to use both personal growth and cosmic timing to break old cycles, increase self-awareness, and open up to the right partnership.   If you are wanting to break patterns in your love life, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you. book a FREE call with her here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣.  Want to get a personalized reading with Carol?  Book it here https://carolallen.isrefer.com/go/wgr/kseltzer/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    43 min

  4. JUL 18

    Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh

    What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today’s world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self?  In Episode 403 of The Charisma Quotient, “Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh” Kimmy dives deep with Brad Walsh, professional photographer and host of the Empowerography podcast, to unpack the hidden challenges and unique strengths of women navigating visibility, self-worth, and empowerment.   Kimmy and Brad discuss why so many women feel invisible, carry the hidden burdens of past rejection or body image issues, and sometimes lose themselves in relationships. Through powerful personal stories and Brad’s unique perspective as a man championing women’s empowerment—both behind the camera and on the mic—they explore how embracing your feminine energy and authentic self is the key to confidence. Brad shares how his journey started in photography, the profound transformation he sees in women after a shoot, and why self-love and self-care go far beyond surface-level routines. You’ll learn what sets empowered women apart, how to break free from old patterns and step into visibility, and actionable strategies to start seeing—and truly believing in—your own worth.    You’ll hear: Why so many women (and men!) feel invisible or “not enough” when it comes to dating, relationships, and self-image. The transformative power of truly being seen—how a single photo shoot, or a shift in body language, can spark radical self-confidence. How to exude feminine energy and body language hacks that showcase your sensual and open side The crucial importance of self-care and setting boundaries—not as selfish acts, but as the foundation of healthy, empowered relationships.   If you are feeling invisible, small or holding yourself back from finding love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and to help you find ways to shine.  Book it here https://go.oncehub.com/kimbreakthrough Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    41 min

  5. JUL 10

    When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy

    Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is.  But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you.  And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt.  In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation.   After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She’s now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified.   Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self.    You’ll hear: Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief Body image realities: what it’s really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional “hookup culture” The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic   If you relate to some of Nicolle’s story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    51 min

  6. JUL 2

    Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey

    Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey” In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from emotional pain to empowered dating will resonate with anyone who has ever felt invisible, stuck, or scared to put themselves back out there. After years of hiding behind layers of oversized clothes, fear, and insecurity, Lisa took a chance encounter into a life-changing adventure with Kimmy aired on TV NBC 9 News segments filled with self-discovery, a striking outer makeover, and the even more profound work of building her inner confidence.   In this episode, Kimmy pulls back the curtain on what it really means to "date without attachment"—a liberating approach that prioritizes curiosity and self-awareness over pressure and expectations. Listen in as Kimmy coaches Lisa live through her fears of being “too accommodating,” wrestles with old patterns shaped by conditional love, and guides her toward setting healthy boundaries, pacing herself emotionally, and embracing playful, purposeful dating.     You’ll hear: How Lisa went from feeling invisible to glowing with new confidence. Why “dating without attachment” is the most freeing mindset for re-entry. Real talk about people-pleasing, boundaries, and the power of self-worth. Actionable tips you can use to break free from old relationship patterns. If you are hiding and have some love shields up which is preventing you from dating or feeling attractive, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now.   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    50 min

  7. JUN 23

    400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love

    Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, “400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love” we’re looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and conversation hacks. This special episode dives into the heart of her most popular coaching: how dating yourself and learning the skills will lead to love. You'll hear highlights from the most downloaded and talked-about episodes—featuring expert guests like Dr. John Gray, Kym Douglas, Allison Raskin, Katie Krimitsos, and Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. You’ll also hear clips from episodes featuring some great client calls and Where Are They Now stories about how to get over common fears that come with dating. Discover actionable conversation hacks for introverts, high achievers, and anyone stuck in the perpetual “boring date” loop. Kimmy shares how to create instant chemistry, break out of perfection paralysis, and make a memorable impression—without feeling fake or forced. Plus, there's a peek into her upcoming interactive workshop, “Conversation Hacks That Convert to Dates.”     You’ll hear: Highlights from our most popular episodes (including date-turning advice from experts like Dr. John Gray) Real client breakthroughs and success stories Proven strategies for making small talk easier and turning conversations into unforgettable connections Ways to break through awkwardness and perfection paralysis, especially if you’re an introvert, high achiever, or just feeling rusty in the dating scene If you struggle with your confidence and not getting anywhere on dates that seem boring or contrived, come to Kimmy’s next interactive co-ed workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    1h 19m

  8. JUN 13

    Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley

    Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life. Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You’ll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it’s better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you. You’ll hear some of Jena’s most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it’ll work out.    You’ll hear: Why “perfect” opening lines actually don’t matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or “scavenger hunt” dates, can massively boost your social confidence Jena’s favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present  Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy’s next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

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Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.

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