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365

Days
With Self-Discipline
365 Life-Altering Thoughts on
Self-Control, Mental Resilience, and Success

By Martin Meadows
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Self-discipline means living your life the hard way: resisting temptations
and instant gratification, in order to receive bigger and better rewards in the
future. It’s certainly easier to avoid all kinds of discomfort and indulge yourself
whenever you want, but in the end, all that you get from that approach is fleeting
pleasure now at the expense of your future, which otherwise could have been
much better.
Consider a weak-willed person who, when faced with a challenge,
immediately opts out. How likely is this person to achieve anything substantial
in life if their primary value is to feel comfortable? How is this person going to
manage a crisis that they must face? Even a relatively insignificant problem can
become an insurmountable obstacle for a person who’s been living a sheltered
life and always avoided what’s difficult or disagreeable.
Now contrast that with a person who voluntarily makes his or her life
harder. They seek out and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow. Each
self-imposed affliction strengthens them, so that fewer and fewer difficulties in
life overwhelm them. Day by day, they immunize themselves against problems,
precisely because they seek them out. When life deals them an unexpected blow,
they’re ready to handle it because — thanks to living their lives the hard way —
they’re always ready for hardships.
Day 2: On Your Choice s Your choices are made in a
moment, but their consequences will transcend a
lifetime.
—MJ DeMarco 2

Eat this greasy, high-calorie hamburger or prepare a healthy salad? Sleep in

and barely get to work on time or wake up at 5 a.m. to work on your side
business before going to work at your day job? Stop trying the moment you get
rejected or swallow your pride and keep going, despite hearing “no” dozens of
times?
It takes only a moment to make the wrong choice and jeopardize your
future. What feels like an insignificant decision today can have a great, lasting
impact on your future.
Each choice sets a precedent — and when you make the same wrong choice
several times in a row, it becomes your standard modus operandi .
While one hamburger every now and then isn’t likely to ruin your overall
efforts to lose weight, underestimating the impact of repeatedly making the
wrong choice can profoundly affect you over the course of the rest of your life.
Each time you’re faced with a decision between exerting self-discipline and
taking it easy, remind yourself that the choice you’re making today doesn’t
affect the present moment alone. A momentary decision can (and often will)
reverberate for many years or even decades into the future.
Day 3: On Being a Human Willpower is what
separates us from the animals. It’s the capacity to
restrain our impulses, resist temptation — do what’s
right and good for us in the long run, not what we
want to do right now. It’s central, in fact, to
civilization.
—Roy Baumeister 3

Humans have the capacity to act against their urges in exchange for a better
future. Unfortunately, many people live by the principle of “if it feels good, do
it, and if it doesn’t, don’t do it.”
Caving in to your temptations whenever you feel them emerge is like
relinquishing your humanity, in a way. As an intelligent human being, you have
an ability — and I daresay an obligation — to make decisions that are based on
rational thinking, not on your instincts alone.
Strive to be a better human and embrace your humanity by exercising your
“willpower muscle,” instead of succumbing to your most primal (and least
helpful for your long-term goals) part of the brain. Your most primal instincts
may provide temporary comfort, but seldom are good for the long term, except
when there is a direct threat to your survival.
Day 4: On Creating System s I value self-discipline,
but creating systems that make it next to impossible to
misbehave is more reliable than self-control.
—Tim Ferriss 4

A lot of people think that being self-disciplined means that you can sit in
front of a delicious piece of cake and stare at it for hours without eating it. They
think of resisting temptations as being like a knight defending his kingdom
against the invader.
If you go to seedy bars every week, your chances of getting punched in the
face are higher than those of a person spending their evenings at home with a
book. Likewise, the best way to protect yourself against temptations is to avoid
them — and for that, plain old preparation is more valuable than self-control.
Your chances of cheating on a diet are higher if you have forbidden foods at
home. Removing them from your house — a simple act that requires little
willpower, as long as you’re satiated while doing so — will protect you when
you get hungry and the urge to gorge on them hits you like a ton of bricks.
Your chances of sleeping in are lower if you set three different alarms and
place them away from your bed.
You’ll be less likely to waste time at work when you block the most
distracting websites instead of relying on your willpower to stop you before
loading those funny cat pictures.
Prepare yourself for difficult situations by putting up roadblocks ahead of
time, when your resolve isn’t being tested. Your self-control system will do some
of the heavy lifting for you, leaving your reserves of self-discipline to be used
for the unplanned situations, when they arise.
Day 5: On Enslavement to Sel f
Before complaining that you are a slave to another, be sure that you are not
a slave to self. Look within; you will find there, perchance, slavish thoughts,
slavish desires, and in your daily life and conduct slavish habits. Conquer these;
cease to be a slave to self, and no man will have the power to enslave you.
—James Allen 5

It’s easy to delegate the responsibility for our lives and choices to other
people.
It’s not your fault that you can’t stick to a diet — it’s because your friends
constantly tempt you to grab something to eat with them.
It’s not your fault that you can’t control your finances — it’s those evil
corporations that spend millions on advertising and leave you powerless to
change.
It’s not that you lack willpower to exercise — people always want
something from you and you never have the time to develop this healthy habit.
In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. While external
circumstances can affect you, in the end, whether or not they control your life
depends on you. Just like James Allen said, when you achieve self-mastery, no
one (and no thing) will have the power to enslave you.
The next time you blame an external factor for your lack of self-discipline,
think again. Was it the person eating chocolate next to you who controlled what
you put in your mouth, or was it you?
Day 6: On Superhumans
Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything
around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than
you and you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things
that other people can use.
—Steve Jobs 6

Despite an enormous selection of movies about superhumans, they don’t

really exist. I know, it’s shocking news, right?
Nobody — including the world’s biggest geniuses — was, is, or ever will
be a superhuman, infinitely better in all aspects than the average mortal.
It’s easy to forget this fact when you look at the accomplishments of the
people who are changing the world around you. After all, they appear to be so
perfect — extremely productive, intelligent, beautiful, creative, persistent,
strong… and the list goes on.
Behind the scenes, everyone struggles in some areas of their lives.
I’m an author of several books about self-discipline, but it doesn’t mean
that I never struggle with self-control. I deal with the same problems as every
other person, and the only difference is that I’ve discovered how to handle some
of them a bit more effectively. I’ve had my fair share of failures, found myself
unable to resist some temptations, and I jeopardized some long-term goals
because I succumbed to the allure of instant gratification .
This is the human condition. People whom you consider to be extremely
successful aren’t that different from you. Many of them in the past had less
willpower than you exhibit now, and many of them might be more disciplined
than you in one aspect, but less disciplined in another.
Becoming a self-disciplined person is within everybody’s grasp. You don’t
need to have won the genetic lottery or get introduced to a country club to
develop self-control — and neither you nor anybody else will ever achieve
permanent, flawless self-mastery over every aspect of life. Accept that and
accept yourself, as well.
Day 7: On Poverty and Self-Discipline
A second line of research has shown that economic stress robs us of
cognitive bandwidth. Worrying about bills, food or other problems, leaves less
capacity to think ahead or to exert self-discipline. So, poverty imposes a mental
tax.
—Nicholas Kristof 7

Financial stress (or for that matter, all kinds of stress) diminishes your
ability to delay gratification. Consequently, poor people find it harder to resist
temptations. In the end, they get stuck in a vicious cycle — they can’t escape
poverty because it imposes constant mental stress on them, which then leads
them to making bad decisions — not only the financial ones, but also those
relating to their health, relationships, and general future.
Does it mean that if you’re struggling financially, you’re destined to have a
bad life? Not necessarily. Taking personal responsibility and becoming
conscious of the source of the problem can help you push ahead and overcome
your circumstances.
Launching one of my businesses put me in debt. It exerted immense daily
stress on me. No matter what I was doing, there was always the thought in the
back of my head that I had a debt to repay. In some months, I was so close to not
meeting my obligations on time that I would have been forced to close up shop if
it weren’t for some money I managed to make at the last minute .
This experience has made me realize that no matter what they say about
money not bringing happiness, at least several months’ worth of income kept as
savings in the bank means the difference between a relatively stress-free life and
the soul-crushing fear when you can’t cover an urgent, important expense.
If you’re struggling with finances, make it one of your priorities to get out
of debt as quickly as you can and build an emergency fund covering at least
three to six months of basic living expenses. In addition to improving your
financial health, it will dramatically reduce stress and strengthen your ability to
delay gratification and make more optimal choices favoring your future.
WEEK 2
Day 8: On Unessential Necessities Epicurus wanted to
examine the things he thought he needed so he could
determine which of them he could in fact live without.
He realized that in many cases, we work hard to
obtain something because we are convinced that we
would be miserable without it. The problem is that we
can live perfectly well without some of these things,
but we won’t know which they are if we don’t try
living without them.
—William B. Irvine 8

Ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus would have his hands full in modern
times if he wanted to spread his philosophy. We live in the world in which you
feel you deserve to have luxuries. In fact, they’re no longer considered luxuries
but necessities because most people mistakenly think they can’t live without
them.
The problem with mistaking luxuries for necessities is that it’s impossible
to develop powerful self-discipline if you need a lot just to function.
How is a person who believes that they need to eat empty calories in the
form of burgers, pizzas, or white bread supposed to lose weight? How likely is
that an individual who thinks that it’s necessary to lease a new car every two
years will exert enough self-discipline to save money and “deprive” himself or
herself of what they consider a basic human need?
Periodically try living without something that you consider a necessity.
You’ll benefit in several ways .
First, you’ll voluntarily put yourself in an uncomfortable situation that will
help you expand your comfort zone and develop your mental resilience.
Second, you’ll discover whether you really need this thing in your life —
and if you find you don’t, it will provide food for thought as to how many other
things in your life are in fact not as important as you thought they were. This can
then help you eliminate the unessential from your life and free up additional
resources to focus on what’s important.
Finally, you will increase your ability to feel happy with less — including
being happy in a situation when you’re deprived of something involuntarily.
Day 9: On Your Future Self
In four studies, participants interacted with realistic computer renderings
of their future selves using immersive virtual reality hardware and interactive
decision aids. In all cases, those who interacted with virtual future selves
exhibited an increased tendency to accept later monetary rewards over
immediate ones.
—Hal E. Hershfield 9

Studies suggest that people who are aided with technology to imagine their
future selves are more likely to delay gratification. In the case of the cited study,
they’re more likely to save money for retirement.
This shows that your self-discipline is largely affected by your ability to
feel empathy toward your future self. If the vision of you ten, twenty, or thirty
years from now isn’t particularly vivid, you’ll have a hard time denying yourself
pleasure today so that the stranger in the future can benefit.
For this reason, consider occasionally meditating on your future self. Ask
yourself if today you’re grateful for the choices you made several years ago, or if
you wish that in the past you had been more concerned about your future. Are
the choices you’re making today choices that are only benefiting the present
“you,” but don’t contribute to — or worse, jeopardize — your well-being in the
future?
The person you’ll become in ten years will most likely not be the same
person you are today, but it will still be you — and it’s in your hands whether,
ten years from now you’ll look back and feel glad you extended self-empathy
well into the future, or find that you decided to be selfish and steal from your
future for some fleeting pleasure today.
Day 10: On Building Your Story
Words create sentences; sentences create paragraphs; sometimes
paragraphs quicken and begin to breathe.
—Stephen King 10

Writing a novel is a daunting task if you’ve never written one before. It’s
hard to write even a single paragraph, let alone write two or three hundred pages
that will capture the attention of the reader and keep them reading until the last
page. What’s worse, after all this effort, you’ll probably realize that your novel,
when compared to a widely-acclaimed bestselling novel, is only good for
kindling.
What you fail to see is that the author of that bestselling novel most likely
has spent a decade or more mastering their craft. They started with words, which
then became sentences, paragraphs, and eventually stories. Their first attempts
— like those of everybody else — were unsuccessful. It took them hundreds of
thousands of words’ worth of practice to finally write a masterpiece.
Building self-discipline is similar to writing a novel. You might consider a
disciplined person who always wakes up at four in the morning, is physically
active every day, eats a healthy diet, is super productive, and is capable of
balancing it all with their social life and family obligations as a superhuman. But
in reality, this person, like the bestselling novelist, probably started with one
simple change and kept building on top of it.
Whenever you get discouraged, or feel tired by how far you still have to go
to accomplish your goals, remind yourself that everybody who has built self-
discipline had to go through the same process — starting with little changes
which then turned into habits, which then led to big lifestyle changes and
identity shifts, and eventually, into successes.
Day 11: On Self-Discipline and Talent
Self-discipline without talent can often achieve astounding results, whereas
talent without self-discipline inevitably dooms itself to failure.
—Sydney J. Harris 11

When you look at some of the most successful high-performers, it might be

tempting to say that they were born this way. They’re talented, end of story. In
fact, talent — while undeniably makes life easier — is but one part of the
equation.
I used to be a shy and fearful person. If you compared me, the awkward
outsider, with the most successful guys at school, you could say they were born
talented to be popular, liked and as alpha male as you could get, while I didn’t
have such luck.
However, my apparent misfortune turned out to be a source of strength
because it provided a spark to introduce big changes in my life. By continuously
pushing my comfort zone, I not only overcame social shyness and improved my
communication skills, but also developed high self-confidence and overcame
other fears in my life.
I might not have been born with the talent to be a “people person” — I still
prefer solitude to crowds — but with self-discipline and consistent work, I still
achieved astounding results.
Next time, before you complain that you don’t have a talent for something
or weren’t “born this way,” remind yourself that self-discipline, in many
situations, can more than make up for a lack of inborn traits.
Day 12: On Calmness of Mind Calmness of mind is
one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of
long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is
an indication of ripened experience, and of a more
than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations
of thought.
—James Allen 12

If I asked you to show me a symbol of self-discipline, you might think of a

Buddhist monk, capable of sitting still for hours on end with an empty mind and
only a hint of a smile on his face, content simply to be .
Such self-control feels like a superpower in today’s busy and fast-moving
world, in which distractions lurk at every corner and buzz in every pocket. A
person who’s capable of maintaining calmness of mind is a rare individual —
but fortunately you can also become one, if you’re only willing to put in some
effort.
Implementing some kind of a meditative practice in your weekly schedule
will not only help you increase your self-control and develop more patience, but
also reduce your stress and make you feel happier.
The most common practice to learn how to calm your mind is to meditate.
However, meditation isn’t the only habit that puts you in a meditative state.
The key to developing everyday calmness is focusing your attention on the
present moment or on a single activity that you’re performing. Engaging in a
high-focus sport like yoga, rock climbing, or boxing can be a good way to tap
into this state — and so can be something as mundane as gardening, dancing, or
knitting.
The more often you put yourself in a meditative state, the calmer you’ll
become in everyday situations. Cultivating calmness will lead to even more self-
control, and that will lead to an ever-heightening ability to control your state of
mind and prevent emotions from clouding your judgment.
Day 13: On What You Want Now and What You
Want Most Discipline is choosing between what you
want now and what you want most.
—Unknown If you’re on a diet and decide to eat a piece of chocolate, you’re deciding that the
instant fleeting pleasure is worth it more than your long-term goals.

Obviously, one piece of chocolate doesn’t immediately translate to gaining

weight, but it sets a precedent that (over the long term) does change your body in
such a way that it reflects your preference for “what you want now,” not “what
you want most.”
Each time you make a choice that favors instant gratification, your behavior
signals that you have weak motivators. If your “reasons why” were strong
enough, you’d be less likely to go with what you want now .
Imagine a straight line. On one end, there’s the satisfaction you get from
what you want now , and on the other end, there’s the satisfaction you’ll get
from what you want most . If the two ends are close to each other — meaning
you only want what you want most a little bit more than what you want now —
you’ll have a problem delaying gratification. If, on the other hand, the thing you
want most is so much more rewarding than what you want now, you’ll have an
easier time resisting the temptation .
To achieve your long-term goals, make sure that the satisfaction you get
from what you want most is always much stronger than the satisfaction you can
get from what you want now.
Day 14: On Long-Term Focus
In order to succeed, you must have a long-term focus. Most of the
challenges in our lives come from a short-term focus.
—Tony Robbins 13

I spent several long years starting one business after another, deluding
myself that it was possible to build a six-figure business in a few months. Each
time I failed to reach this goal, I closed one business and started working on
another. Sometimes I worked on two or three ideas at the same time, thinking
that one of them would surely succeed.
I would have saved myself a lot of time if I had realized that I had a short-
term focus and this attitude had been the very reason why I couldn’t accomplish
my goals. The moment I switched my mindset to that of being in it for the long
haul, things started falling into place.
When I look back at my other goals, I struggled in a similar way due to the
same reason.
In fitness, I wanted to build a well-defined physique as quickly as possible.
I frequently reduced my daily caloric intake to levels that were impossible to
maintain over the long term. In the end, I would have accomplished my goals
more quickly by taking a more sustainable approach that would take me a year
or two to reach my goal than fooling myself I could reach it in two or three
months.
In learning languages, I wanted to learn new words as quickly as possible
and soon found myself discouraged from looking at even one more word. I
wanted to learn a few dozen words a day, but in the end I would have
accomplished more with a routine of learning just 5-10 words a day but
maintained and used over years, not just weeks or months.
Analyze your goals and how you approach them. Replace short-term-
oriented behaviors with those that show that you’re in it for the long haul. Self-
discipline isn’t limited to rejecting a cake or sticking to an exercise habit; you
also need self-discipline to maintain a long-term focus in all of your endeavors.
WEEK 3
Day 15: On Constant Improvement Knowledge has to
be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or
it vanishes.
—Peter Drucker 14

Just like knowledge, you can’t take self-discipline for granted.

Unfortunately, being a self-disciplined person isn’t a “one and done” kind of
thing. Once you have learned how to live that way, you can still lose it if you
don’t consistently strengthen it by setting new challenges and rejecting instant
gratification in favor of bigger future rewards.
Never assume that you’re “disciplined enough.” There’s always a new area
in which you can improve your self-control and further expand your comfort
zone.
For example, regular exercise poses no challenge for my self-discipline. In
order to strengthen it, I need to set bigger and bigger exercise-related challenges
for myself.
Instead of focusing on fitness, I can also find a new area in which my
discipline is lacking (such as developing more patience when dealing with other
people) and focus on improving it until it’s no longer a test for my resolve.
Such consistent practice ensures that you’re at least maintaining your level
of self-control, and ideally always getting better at it.
Day 16: On Self-Relianc e
A man then must stand erect, not be kept erect by others.
—Marcus Aurelius 15

There’s no doubt that surrounding yourself with people who support your
goals is helpful. It’s easier to exercise with a friend, diet along with your spouse,
or belong to a community of frugal people.
However, as Marcus Aurelius says, you need to beware of relying too much
on others.
If the only reason why you exercise is because you’re doing it with a friend,
the moment they drop it, you’ll likely revert to the old ways, too.
If you’re on a diet only because you want to lose weight to attract this
beautiful friend of a friend, the moment you learn they’re in a relationship or
aren’t interested in you, your self-control will be gone.
If you’re productive at work only because you’re afraid of your boss, how
likely will you be to exhibit productivity when they aren’t around?
Your motivators should always start with you and your own resolve to
make changes. External support can be valuable, but just like a person
recovering from an injury isn’t fully recovered if they can’t stand without a
crutch, you aren’t self-disciplined enough unless you can still stick to your
resolutions even without the help of other people.
Day 17: On Rising from the Ashes of Failure
A setback has often cleared the way for greater prosperity. Many things
have fallen only to rise to more exalted heights.
—Seneca the Younger 16

No matter how self-disciplined you are, there’s no escaping the fact that
sometimes you’ll stumble. Perhaps you’ll eat a piece of a cake instead of a salad.
Maybe you’ll skip a workout out of laziness. It’s possible that when your efforts
result in a failure, you’ll lose the self-discipline to continue and revert back to
your old undesirable habits.
It’s all par for the course, and the sooner you accept, it, the easier it will be
to handle the setbacks once they occur. However, don’t consider your failures a
useless waste of time and energy; a failure can often present new opportunities
or lead to important realizations.
I failed to learn how to play tennis despite putting considerable amount of
time, energy, and money into it. However, this made me realize that I wanted to
concentrate on rock climbing, and the failure with tennis cleared the way for
dramatic improvements in my climbing performance.
When discouraged, remember that all struggles present opportunities that,
given enough time, you can convert into successes or lessons that will aid you in
other areas of life.
Day 18: On Higher Standard s Hold yourself
responsible for a higher standard than anybody else
expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity
yourself. Be a hard master to yourself — and be
lenient to everybody else.
—Henry Ward Beecher 17

The only standards that should concern you are your own standards. If you
act in accordance with the standards of the majority of people, you’ll be
overweight, unfit, unhealthy, lazy, hating your job, not having enough time for
your family, and in debt.
I sometimes get flak for my goals. “You’re already slim. Why do you still
watch your diet?” “Why do you save so much money? You should live it up!”
“Can’t you live like a normal person, instead of waking up at 5 a.m. and going to
sleep as early as 8 p.m.?”
By the standards of the person criticizing me, I should have stopped
improving myself a long time ago. According to my standards, the growth should
never end. I always hold myself responsible for a higher standard, and this
allows me to maintain success-friendly habits in my life and achieve even more
success.
If you allow yourself to have low standards, how are you supposed to ever
achieve excellence? Exhibiting self-control is one of the most powerful
demonstrations of having high standards; letting fleeting emotions and urges
control your life — as most people do — is a sure-fire path to mediocrity.
Day 19: On Fighting Well
The important thing in the Olympic Games is not to win, but to take part;
the important thing in life is not triumph, but the struggle; the essential thing is
not to have conquered but to have fought well.
—Pierre de Coubertin 18

Nobody will ever give you any grades for your level of self-discipline.
There’s no finish line and there’s no podium for the winners. The only purpose
of building self-discipline is to conquer yourself — your own urges, your own
weaknesses, and your own self-sabotaging behaviors.
It’s easy to forget this fact and assume that when you reach your goals
you’re done. In fact, the moment you make your dreams come true isn’t the most
important moment. It’s important, no doubt, but without the process leading to it,
in itself it means little.
The most important moments are the moments of struggle, when you’re
striving to fight even when you can barely stand and the whole world is spinning
around you. It’s this very act that proves your mettle and showers you with life-
encompassing benefits, not the act of winning in itself.
Whenever you find yourself frustrated that you’re still a long way from the
finish line, remember that it’s right now, at this very moment, that you’re
collecting the biggest rewards. It’s the struggle in itself that improves you and
makes you a more successful person.
Day 20: On Taking Small Step s
We should discipline ourselves in small things, and from there progress to
things of greater value. If you have a headache, practise not cursing. Don’t
curse every time you have an earache. And I’m not saying that you can’t
complain, only don’t complain with your whole being.
—Epictetus 19

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and you won’t build self-discipline overnight.
If you’ve never been particularly disciplined, start small with easy challenges
and then build on top of them.
Epictetus suggests a simple exercise of not complaining when you feel
unwell. To make the first step even easier, he says that you don’t even have to
immediately stop complaining at all — just stop complaining “with your whole
being.”
Could you do it just for today? Once you successfully go one day without
complaining with your whole being, how about two days? Three days? A week?
A month? Could you then add other little challenges and consistently strengthen
your willpower?
Other simple practices you can implement to begin building more self-
discipline include:
- Resisting the temptation to yell in anger when another driver does
something that irks you.
- Eating just slightly less than you’d like to eat, like one square of a
chocolate or one potato chip less.
- Working for just one minute longer when you’re ready to call it a day .
Work on several such little challenges and soon you’ll gain more self-
control and be able to progress to bigger changes.
Day 21: On the Importance of Habits Success is
actually a short race — a sprint fueled by discipline
just long enough for habit to kick in and take over.
—Gary Keller 20

Habits are like magical powers. The moment they kick in, you no longer
need more than perhaps a modicum of self-discipline every now and then to
continue performing the same action on a regular basis. What originally was
extremely difficult to do is now something you largely do automatically, with
little thought or willpower.
When something becomes a part of your routine, resistance drops to nearly
zero. The challenging part is forming a new habit. Research suggests that it takes
anywhere from 18 to 254 days 21 to form a new habit, with 66 days being the
average time (not 21 days, as the common knowledge goes).
When working on your goals, remind yourself that it’s the first months that
will be the hardest. Once the proper habits kick in, things will get easier.
Remember that in the long term, only habits — and their subsequent
permanent changes in lifestyle and identity— can ensure lasting success.
Consequently, it’s key to think in terms of lifelong routines .
As long as you’re jumping from one two-week diet to another instead of
establishing new nutritional habits, you’re destined to regain weight. As long as
you’re switching between different six-week workout programs to lose some
weight — and not thinking of exercise as a permanent part of your weekly
routine — sooner or later, you’ll revert to inactivity.
Analyze your goals and assess whether your plans employ self-discipline to
help you build a habit or if you’re using self-control as a means of temporarily
sustaining an impermanent change.
WEEK 4
Day 22: On Self-Discipline as Freedom
Self-discipline is a form of freedom. Freedom from laziness and lethargy,
freedom from the expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness
and fear or doubt. Self-discipline allows a pitcher to feel his individuality, his
inner strength, his talent. He is master of, rather than a slave to, his thoughts
and emotions.
—H. A. Dorfman 22

Changing the way you think about self-discipline can help you become
more self-disciplined. If you think about it in terms of deprivation and suffering,
guess what! You’ll never find enjoyment in personal growth, and most likely
will soon give up on your endeavors.
On the other hand, a person who thinks of self-discipline as a form of
freedom will welcome opportunities to practice his or her self-control.
When facing temptations and fighting hard to not let them enslave you,
remember that through letting go of them, you aren’t losing anything substantial;
the freedom to be a master of your thoughts and emotions is ultimately worth
more than any temporary gratification, of which you’re depriving yourself.
Day 23: On Disciplined Education
To read a newspaper is to refrain from reading something worthwhile. The
natural laziness of the mind tempts one to eschew authors who demand a
continuous effort of intelligence. The first discipline of education must therefore
be to refuse resolutely to feed the mind with canned chatter.
—Aleister Crowley 23

The way you get information can affect your self-discipline. By getting
your news from just one source and blindly believing it, you run the risk of
mental laziness. After all, why think about what the provided news really means
or whether it’s even true in the first place? It’s the job of the newspaper or news
site, isn’t it?
Take advantage of the opportunity to improve your self-discipline by
exposing yourself to other points of view and thinking for yourself. It takes work
and questioning your beliefs is uncomfortable, which results in a great exercise
for your self-discipline.
Another risk lies in defaulting to easy entertainment or avoiding difficult
topics. While there’s nothing wrong in reading easy books to relax, you miss out
if you stay away from more demanding and complex works.
Reading thought-provoking and/or long titles conditions your brain to
eschew mental laziness. When a book provides an intellectual challenge and you
keep going, you train yourself to stay with problems for as long as necessary to
figure them out instead of giving up — and that’s a habit that will surely help
you in other endeavors, too.
Day 24: On Happiness Through Self-Discipline
It is one of the strange ironies of this strange life that those who work the
hardest, who subject themselves to the strictest discipline, who give up certain
pleasurable things in order to achieve a goal, are the happiest. When you see 20
or 30 people line up for a distance race in some meet, don’t pity them, don’t feel
sorry for them. Better envy them instead.
—Bruce Hamilton

For a person who has never tested their self-discipline over a long period of
time, it’s hard to believe that giving up pleasure can lead to immense happiness.
Most certainly, it doesn’t feel that way when you’re fighting against the craving
for chocolate, compare exercise to torture, or feel sad that you have to set money
aside and can’t spend it on this new cool gadget.
However, in the long haul, based on my personal experience, subjecting
yourself to a strict discipline does lead to a happier life — and it can be a
powerful motivator in the moments of doubt.
Let me explain why…
Firstly, as we talked about in Day 1, living your life the hard way makes it
easier. People who voluntarily expose themselves to challenges are more capable
of handling unforeseen hardships.
Moreover, giving up certain pleasures (such as unhealthy food and sitting
all day in front of the TV) can lead to immense improvements in one’s well-
being. Maintaining a healthy weight and beneficial nutritional habits doesn’t just
lead to physical improvements; it also affects self-esteem, reduces the risk for
depression, and improves your body image 24 .
Giving up on pleasurable things (such as spending money without control)
can also help you avoid crushing problems in the future. Today it might be
inconvenient that you can’t spend your entire salary, but tomorrow your savings
can save you from bankruptcy or pay for an urgent medical intervention.
Lastly, self-discipline is in itself a manifestation of your higher being, and
is connected with nobler strivings. A human being, reduced to its primal form,
has little ability for self-control. Operating in “scarcity mode” and left to its own
devices, your primal brain will stuff your body until you won’t be able to walk.
It will make you cheat on your partner with every passing stranger. It will
assume that every step outside the comfort zone is a danger, and so you’ll never
grow.
Exerting self-control is working against the dominance of your primal
brain. You forego primal urges in order to reach bigger and more important
goals or to cultivate values that are important to you. You can live your life in a
way that is congruent with who you are as a deeply complex human being, not a
mere animal with the ability to reason. This leads to experiencing a wide variety
of experiences that life has to offer; many of them are immensely more
gratifying than merely satisfying the most basic human needs.
Day 25: On Starting Today Don’t wait for tomorrow
to do something you can do today.
—Spanish proverb Have you been pondering starting on a new goal but are still procrastinating on
it? Come up with the easiest, simplest, and quickest action you can take today to initiate momentum.

If you want to stop eating sugar, eliminate all chocolate bars from your
house or choose one day a week during which you won’t eat sugar in any form.
Take it from there, step by step.
If you want to start exercising on a regular basis, do three push-ups and
three squats now or any other super quick exercise. Tomorrow, do one more
repetition. Find a more suitable workout once you establish the basic habit of
some exercise — even if it’s just a few push-ups a day.
If you want to start saving money, take just one dollar out of your wallet
and put it in a jar. Yes, it won’t change anything today, but if you add one dollar
for the next three months, you’ll have saved 100 bucks and established a habit of
saving.
There’s no excuse to not take any of those simple actions now and finally
break the chain of procrastination. Don’t overthink it and don’t obsess over the
future; take care of establishing a tiny habit today, and take it from there.
Day 26: On the Long-Term Consequences of Your
Choices Whenever you are presented with a choice,
ask yourself which option you would prefer to have
taken in ten years.
—Erik D. Kennedy 25

Self-discipline is largely dependent on your ability to look into the future

and imagine yourself not having taken the difficult choice today. If you paint the
mental picture with enough detail, you won’t be able to bear the thought of
letting the situation remain the same or getting worse.
A simple exercise of asking yourself which option you would prefer to have
taken in ten years can help you avoid succumbing to temptations. And let’s not
fool ourselves — it probably won’t work every time, but even if it doesn’t work
every time, at least it will make you pause sometimes .
Let’s imagine that you’re torn between buying a new piece of furniture you
don’t really need but like a lot, or saving that money for your retirement. In ten
years, would you rather have a crumbling piece of furniture you rarely use or —
thanks to the power of compounding — twice the amount you’re now pondering
on spending?
For this technique to work, you need to consider your failure to stick to
your resolutions not as a once-off event, but a precedent that can ruin your long-
term progress. Otherwise this technique won’t work.
For example, if you’re on a diet and are tempted to eat this awesome
chocolate chip cookie, if you tell yourself that it’s simply this one time,
obviously in a ten-year timeframe it means nothing. And it’s true — one cookie
eaten today won’t ruin your diet for the next decade.
However, it’s not about eating this specific cookie. It’s about the precedent
it sets and a possible pattern of cheating during a diet that might develop from
making this decision. In ten years, would you prefer to have developed a habit of
eating cookies while on a diet or established a habit of not eating cookies at all,
or only on special occasions?
Day 27: On Following the Wrong Path
If something scares you in an excited way, (something that gives you
energy) — that’s a good sign.
BUT IF SOMETHING IS MAKING YOU MISERABLE AND DRAINING
YOUR ENERGY, PLEASE STOP.
Life is telling you that is not the path for you.
—Derek Sivers 26

When you think about pursuing your goals, you might be tempted to think
that the process will be long, arduous, and painful. While it’s good to assume
that it won’t be a walk in the park, there’s a danger in equating the journey with
being miserable.
Self-discipline is powerful as long as you apply it to the goals you care
about— the ones that, even when they are difficult to accomplish, energize you.
If, as Derek Sivers points out, your goal is draining your energy, chances are it’s
better to stop.
For example, I was working on building a company in the Software as a
Service industry. I know nothing about programming, and this business not only
required some technical knowledge, but also relied heavily on phone sales —
something I hate to the core.
My goal to build a successful company was of immense importance to me,
but the path I chose was making me so miserable that I hated waking up every
morning. I could have pressed on, tapping into the deepest reservoirs of my
willpower, but ultimately life was telling me that this path wasn’t for me; I made
the right decision to cut my losses and sell the business.
Day 28: On Living in Offensive Mode Life is an
ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of
fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of
progress and growth): Make the growth choice a
dozen times a day.
—Abraham Maslow 27

If you’re reading this book, you’re most likely living in relative abundance,
whether you agree with that perception or not.
You have access to some kind of an electronical device for reading, which
means you have some disposable income, which means you don’t live in
extreme poverty. You also most likely don’t live in a native tribe somewhere in
the jungle or in a small village in the warzone, where survival is a daily
challenge.
Consequently, you don’t have to live in defense. The negative
consequences of your acts, when compared to people who aren’t as lucky as you,
are in most cases negligible.
You can afford to venture out into the world without the risk that the enemy
tribe will kill you. You can risk launching a side business because even if it fails,
you’ll still have a secure job and perhaps even some savings. You can go on a
diet and temporarily restrict caloric intake — I assure you that you won’t starve
to death.
Analyze the decisions you’ve taken during the past week and ask yourself
whether they were motivated by the need for defense and safety or by the
prospect of progress and growth. Make sure that the great majority of your
decisions favors some smart risk-taking instead of letting the fear stop you dead
in your tracks.
WEEK 5
Day 29: On Avoiding Effort
There is just something wrong with getting up every day and moving
through your existence with the least possible effort. If your expectations are
always those of someone content to live without physical challenge, then when it
comes time for mental, moral, or emotional challenge, you fail to meet it because
you are out of practice.
—Mark Rippetoe 28

I consider physical exercise a fundamental habit for every person who

wants to build self-discipline and achieve their goals. Granted, not everyone has
the health required for strenuous physical activity, but there’s always some kind
of effort you can undertake to move your body in a beneficial way.
In addition to obvious health benefits, physical activity provides another
immense benefit: it’s an exercise in exposing yourself to effort and challenge for
the sake of bettering yourself. As Mark Rippetoe states in the quote, living your
life without physical challenges makes you rusty when it comes to dealing with
other types of challenges — including mental, moral, or emotional challenges
that sometimes require more strength than a fitness workout does.
How often do you avoid effort when it would have been beneficial to face
it? If you’re content to live an easy, effortless life, are you also content to live
your life without ever realizing your full potential as a human being that has
evolved to thrive in a challenging environment?
Day 30: On Looking Like a Foo l You have to look
like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t
have.
—Dan Waldschmidt 29

A frequently overlooked aspect of building self-discipline is the fact that if

you want to rise above mediocrity, you need to be fine with the fact that you’ll
undoubtedly make a fool of yourself every now and then.
Perhaps you tell all of your friends that you’re going to build a business, but
the business goes bankrupt and you lose all of your savings.
Maybe you set a goal to harness the power of your self-discipline to learn
public speaking (even though you’re terrified of standing in front of the crowds),
and then deliver a less than stellar performance.
This is normal — you have to fail your way to the success — but for many
people, it’s a blow they can’t withstand. They might be so harmed by it that
they’ll do anything to avoid future humiliation — including giving up on their
goals.
Failure, rejection, and humiliation are anything but pleasant. However, the
ability to withstand it and keep going is one of the key differences between
successful individuals and those who fail to make their dreams come true.
As disagreeable as it can be, accept that occasionally looking like a fool as
a part of the process of becoming a successful person. Fortunately, the more
often you voluntarily expose yourself to rejection, humiliation or failure, the
easier it will be to handle the feelings they generate.
Day 31: On Being “Normal ”
To be “normal” is the ideal aim for the unsuccessful, for all those who are
still below the general level of adaptation. But for people of more than average
ability, people who never found it difficult to gain successes and to accomplish
their share of the world’s work — for them the moral compulsion to be nothing
but normal signifies the bed of Procrustes — deadly and insupportable boredom,
a hell of sterility and hopelessness.
—Carl Jung 30

There’s nothing “normal” in building self-discipline. Most people avoid all

kinds of discomfort and effort. They don’t want to experience personal growth
because it interferes with them stuffing themselves with French fries, wasting
countless hours in front of TV, spending money they don’t have on things they
don’t need, lollygagging at work, and cutting corners whenever they can.
If you want to join the minority of people who do possess self-control and
strive to strengthen it even further, you’ll be considered weird. This means that
you need to prepare yourself for potential ridicule, being frowned upon, and not
being understood.
It might be hard at first to face so much adversity when all you want to do
is to improve yourself. To overcome this situation, get the following fact at the
forefront of your mind: “normal” is the ideal for the mediocre, “exceptional” (or,
in the words of the unsuccessful, “weird”) is the ideal for the high-achievers and
trailblazers.
Every time you feel out of sync with the rest of the world, remember that
there are other people like you. During the challenging times, when’re you’re
stumbling, remind yourself that even when you’re failing, you’re still forging
your own path, something that the vast majority of people will never do. You
can enjoy the fruits of your success in a way that they will never experience, and
that’s why it’s worth it to be exceptional. Be exceptional.
Day 32: On Cultivating Self-Discipline Like a Plant
Virtue is not a mushroom, that springeth up of itself in one night when we
are asleep, or regard it not; but a delicate plant, that groweth slowly and
tenderly, needing much pains to cultivate it, much care to guard it, much time to
mature it, in our untoward soil, in this world’s unkindly weather.
—Isaac Barrow 31

If self-discipline were like a mushroom that springs up of itself without the

need for a gardener, everybody would possess it. Unfortunately — or
fortunately, depending on how you look at it — it’s more like a plant that you
need to constantly cultivate, or else it withers.
Some people believe that one either possesses a “green thumb” or not — as
if one person were born with an inborn talent to care for plants and another not.
In reality, the person with the supposed green thumb is simply more
attentive to their plants. They make sure their plants have everything they need
to thrive and regularly check up on them to make sure they stay healthy.
Think of self-discipline in the same way. You plant its seeds the moment
you decide it’s time to stop coasting through life and prioritize long-term
rewards over instant gratification. However, this moment is just the very
beginning; as in the case of planting the seed for a new flowering plant, there’s a
lot of time and energy you’ll still need to invest to make it bloom. If you want to
have a beautiful plant, you can’t water it occasionally or move it from one place
to another every other week.
Ask yourself: what kind of a gardener am I for my own self-discipline? If
your self-control were a plant, how would it look based on how you’ve been
cultivating it the past years?
Day 33: On Things You Can’t Rush
The bearing of a child takes nine months, no matter how many women are
assigned.
—Fred Brooks 32

Patience and self-discipline are close cousins. If you want to reject instant
gratification for the sake of accomplishing your long-term goals, it might take
months or years before you receive your big compensation. Without patience,
you’ll get nowhere.
While sometimes you can force results to come more quickly — by pushing
yourself harder and being as diligent as you can during the process— oftentimes
things take time and there’s no way to rush them, no matter how many resources
you apply.
Like pregnancy, some things follow a natural schedule you can’t control. If
you fail to identify which things cannot be rushed, you might misapply the
power of self-discipline and instead of achieving them more quickly, fail to
achieve them at all.
For example, a body has a natural limit of how much body fat it can burn
during a week without breaking down your muscle. If you try to rush the process
by starving yourself, the most likely end result is an unplanned cheat week that
will not only take you back to square one, but most likely add some additional
body fat to your frame .
Even with things that are difficult to measure, such as learning to control
your mind so that you can eventually radiate optimism, you can’t force yourself
to change overnight. Rewiring your brain takes time, and it doesn’t matter how
much time you spend meditating or reading books about emotional control; a
process that is so profound takes time.
Generally speaking, if it has taken you years or decades to develop a
negative trait, don’t expect that you can reverse it within weeks or months.
Approach such undertakings with the belief that you’ll do your best, but that you
won’t get discouraged or frustrated if the process is slow. It would be as futile as
a woman complaining that pregnancy lasts nine months.
Day 34: On Enlightenmen t
Before enlightenment, chopping wood and carrying water. After
enlightenment, chopping wood and carrying water.
—A Zen saying, attributed to Xinxin Ming

It’s tempting to believe that, after enough time passes, suddenly you’ll
attain enlightenment and acquire permanent, unbreakable self-control.
In reality, there’s no sudden awakening that will happen if you deny
temptations for long enough. Just like today you’re consciously choosing to
reject a chocolate bar so you can enjoy an attractive physique a year from now, a
year from now you will still need to reject a chocolate bar to maintain the body
you attained.
There are no secret powers that self-disciplined people have somehow
attained that give them magical powers to resist temptations.
Despite having built a healthy, fit physique, I still fight — and sometimes
fail — to overcome temptations. I still need to make sure my plates are full of
satiating, healthy foods so that I don’t fill them later on with something less than
healthy, yet again. I still need to monitor how much I eat and avoid places where
I’m likely to overeat. I still do full-day fasts every now and then to practice self-
control that is associated with hunger.
No matter the challenge, I still mostly use the same strategies I’d been using
prior to accomplishing my goals. The actions don’t change. What changes is the
person performing them .
For example, rejecting chocolate today may feel like the greatest
punishment in the world. A year from now, rejecting chocolate is simply a fact
of life: you want to stay in top shape, so you don’t stuff yourself with chocolate
on a daily basis.
It will still require self-control, but as long as you diligently exercise your
willpower muscle, the temptation will most likely be easier to overcome. And in
the end, that’s what building self-discipline gives you: an easier life, through
voluntarily choosing to live it the hard way.
Day 35: On the Value of Difficult y
What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly.
—Thomas Paine 33

Easy successes may be pleasant, but if they’re the only successes you
achieve, you’ll come to expect quick, effortless results. Then, when life hits you
hard with a difficult challenge, you’ll lack the mental toughness to overcome it.
Moreover, you’ll never appreciate the easy successes as much as the ones
that required blood, sweat, and tears.
Does it mean that you should reject easy successes and seek the most
difficult ways to accomplish your goals? Of course not.
However, you should make sure that you don’t deliberately avoid
hardships. Resist the temptation to set your aims low. Scoring exclusively easy
wins might feel good, but you’re limiting your potential that way.
Over the long term, make sure that you always have at least one big,
ambitious and demanding goal in life, as that’s where the power of self-
discipline shines, where most personal growth happens, and which delivers the
greatest feeling of having accomplished something worth doing.
WEEK 6
Day 36: On Pushing Your Limits Step by Step
That day, for no particular reason, I decided to go for a little run. So I ran
to the end of the road. And when I got there, I thought maybe I’d run to the end
of town. And when I got there, I thought maybe I’d just run across Greenbow
County. And I figured, since I run this far, maybe I’d just run across the great
state of Alabama. And that’s what I did. I ran clear across Alabama. For no
particular reason I just kept on going. I ran clear to the ocean. And when I got
there, I figured, since I’d gone this far, I might as well turn around, just keep on
going. When I got to another ocean, I figured, since I’d gone this far, I might as
well just turn back, keep right on going.
—Forrest Gump 34

There’s no law stating that if you want to build self-discipline, you need to
immediately wake up at four in the morning, eat nothing but vegetables and
fruits, work productively for 12 hours, seven days a week, and abstain from
every pleasure, trying to mimic the life of a medieval ascetic.
Setting aside the fact that most of these habits are not necessary to become
self-disciplined, self-control isn’t built in one day. You’re building it step by step
— starting from an easy challenge, and then building on top of it.
Don’t feel anxious or guilty that you begin your exercise plan with a 5-
minute walk or that you commence your new nutrition plan with a resolution
that you’ll add one vegetable and subtract one candy bar a day. Try it, see what
happens, and if it works out, set a bigger challenge. Nothing else is needed to
begin the journey to a new you.
Day 37: On Initial Resistance It is easier to resist at
the beginning than at the end.
—Leonardo da Vinci 35

To avoid procrastination at work, I use a rule I like to call “the zero-second

rule”: the moment I realize that I’m wasting my time to avoid work, I
immediately stop whatever unproductive thing I’m doing and start working.
If I let myself ponder whether I want to start working or not, my resistance
will only grow, and soon, it will be so difficult to overcome that I may fail to
accomplish anything productive for the rest of the day.
This trick works because (like Leonardo da Vinci said) resistance is greatest
at the beginning. Once you start performing an unpleasant task and gain some
momentum, it’s easier to stick to the task than to give up and return to
procrastination.
Whenever you catch yourself putting off something unpleasant, act right
away and deal with it now. The sooner you act, the sooner you’ll be done with it.
For example, I always wash the cookware I used to cook my dinner before I
eat my meal. This way I can eat my dinner without the unpleasant thought in the
back of my mind that I’ll not only have to wash the dishes, but also the pots and
pans I used for cooking.
Small habits like that can help establish a habit of choosing to do the hard
things now instead of letting all the hard tasks accumulate like a backlog at
work. When you adopt this habit, you’ll greatly reduce the impact of
procrastination on your life — and enjoy more tranquility to boot!
Day 38: On Moderation as a Good Thing
Monks, these two extremes ought not to be practiced by one who has gone
forth from the household life. What are the two? There is addiction to indulgence
of sense-pleasures, which is low, coarse, the way of ordinary people, unworthy,
and unprofitable; and there is addiction to self-mortification, which is painful,
unworthy, and unprofitable. Avoiding both these extremes, the Tathagata has
realized the Middle Path; it gives vision, gives knowledge, and leads to calm, to
insight, to enlightenment and to Nibbana.
—Gautama Buddha 36

When you set firm resolutions to improve yourself, you might be tempted
to push your limits well outside of what you’re capable of doing. Ambitiousness
is a virtue, but there’s danger involved in going from one extreme to another.
If you’re currently struggling to be productive, don’t force yourself to work
sixteen hours a day. If you’re struggling to control your appetite, don’t impose a
week-long fast. If you can’t find it in you to choose the stairs over the elevator,
don’t expect that you’ll maintain a workout plan that requires you to work out
every single day.
Find the middle path, stick to it for at least several weeks, and then, based
on the results you get, decide whether you can further stretch your limits or
require more time before advancing.
As much as I believe in pushing your boundaries and exploring the
extremes, you don’t need to put yourself through mortification to achieve good
results. Subjecting yourself to extreme hardships has some merits, but over the
long term it’s unsustainable, if not downright dangerous.
Remember that there should be moderation in all things, including
moderation itself. Sometimes a more extreme approach is needed for a short
period of time, and sometimes it’s beneficial to set your goals lower. In whatever
you do, seek to not spend too much time loafing around, but also make sure that
your life hasn’t turned into the life of a self-flagellating ascetic.
Day 39: On Moderation as a Bad Thing
Sometimes moderation is a bad counselor.
—Fausto Cercignani 37

In yesterday’s entry, we talked about moderation being a good thing. Today

we’ll approach the topic from a different perspective.
Some people use moderation as an excuse to not do their best, often
mistaking mediocrity for moderation.
“Let’s call it a day. I’ve already worked five minutes more than yesterday.
You gotta stay in balance.”
“Let’s stick with the same weight for the next five workouts, even though I
can easily lift it. Moderation is key.”
“I’ve already gone down two sizes. I guess I’m still a bit overweight, but
let’s not forget that going to the extreme is a bad thing.”
If you use moderation as an excuse not to push your limits, you’re
mistaking moderation with mediocrity. If you’re trying to lift a weight that you
can barely lift off the floor, some moderation will be good for you. If you’re
lifting it like it’s a feather and telling yourself you’re still doing great because at
least you’re exercising, you’re letting mediocrity limit your growth.
Sticking to easy things that are well within your grasp isn’t moderation .
Equating mediocrity with moderation largely comes down to having low
standards. A person who thinks that exercising once a week is incredible because
most of his friends only exercise with a TV remote will most likely stop
challenging themselves well before it would be wise to remember about
moderation.
That’s not to say that you should compare yourself to other people;
compare yourself to yourself from the past. If today (a year since you started to
exercise) you’re still performing the same exercises with little to no
improvement, perhaps you’ve confused moderation with self-congratulation.
Moreover (as we’ve already covered when talking about moderation as a
good thing), you should also apply moderation to moderation itself. It’s
impossible to always follow the middle path.
Sometimes you’ll zig and sometimes you’ll zag. One day might spend 12
hours working on an important project so that you can spend the entire next day
with your family. There’s nothing unbalanced in it, as long as you move from an
extreme in one thing (like work) to an extreme in another (like family), without
staying too long in either one.
Day 40: On Talking vs. Doing
It is better to practice a little than talk a lot.
—A Zen saying, attributed to Muso Soseki

Announcing to all of your friends, family members, and colleagues that

you’re going to change and going deep into details how you’re going to do it is
useless at best and sabotaging at worst.
Firstly, not everyone will be happy to hear that you want to improve
yourself because it will make it painfully obvious that they’re lazy or don’t have
as much courage as you do. Instead of support, you can receive criticism that
might make you less likely to act upon your dreams.
Secondly, research suggests that announcing your plans makes you less
motivated to accomplish them. 38 By talking about your plans, you get the
erroneous satisfaction that you’ve already taken action to change yourself and
consequently, you’re less likely to take real action.
If you want to tell your friends about your new goal, choose a person whom
you know will support you. In addition, instead of telling them in a self-
congratulatory way that you’re finally going to achieve your dreams, ask them to
hold you accountable if you don’t honor your resolution.
Day 41: On Arroganc e
Receive wealth or prosperity without arrogance; and be ready to let it go.
—Marcus Aurelius 39

Never take self-discipline for granted or assume that if you can control your
urges, you’re now invincible.
Humility plays an important role in helping you maintain self-control. An
arrogant person will be more likely to unnecessarily test their willpower, which
will eventually lead to their downfall. This happens because of the restraint bias
— the tendency for people to overestimate how capable they are of controlling
impulsive behaviors.
Research shows that people who had an inflated belief in their self-control
overexposed themselves to temptations, such as recovering smokers putting
themselves in situations tempting them to smoke, which increased the risk of a
relapse. 40
Assume that your self-discipline is like prosperity. It’s possible that it will
stay with you for a long time, but it’s also possible that it will disappear.
Consequently, you’ll work harder to keep it in your life. If it does go away when
you make some mistakes, you’ll accept it with more tranquility and be more
likely to regain it quickly.
Day 42: On Diligent Practice You can know how to
win through strategy with the long sword, but it
cannot be clearly explained in writing. You must
practise diligently in order to understand how to win.
—Miyamoto Musashi 41

Reading hundreds of books, blog posts, articles, and watching countless

videos on self-discipline isn’t going to automatically reprogram your brain so
that one day you’ll wake up with the self-control of a samurai.
The intention behind this book is to offer you quick, interesting tidbits
related to self-discipline that you can easily act upon. No matter how detailed my
writings are, you’ll always learn more by taking one little action than by reading
ten of my books or re-reading the same book over and over again.
For example, I can tell you that the greatest amount of willpower is needed
during the first few minutes of an uncomfortable task, such as taking a cold
shower. Once a couple of minutes pass, your body will adapt to the challenge
and it gets easier to handle.
But that’s just me talking. Go and actually take an ice-cold shower.
Experience the wild emotions, start shivering, feel the overpowering temptation
to turn on hot water, and wonder if you can last even a second longer, and then
— two or three minutes later — feel your body start to relax, with the ice-cold
water no longer feeling like the worst torture in the world. Then step out the
shower feeling, elated that you managed to overcome your weakness of will .
The next time you face an uncomfortable situation, tap into your real-world
experience — not mere words read in a book — to realize that, just like with an
ice-cold shower, you can adapt to this situation, as well.
WEEK 7
Day 43: On Making Continuous Efforts
Genius is often only the power of making continuous efforts. The line
between failure and success is so fine that we scarcely know when we pass it —
so fine that we are often on the line and do not know it. How many a man has
thrown up his hands at a time when a little more effort, a little more patience,
would have achieved success. As the tide goes clear out, so it comes clear in. In
business sometimes prospects may seem darkest when really they are on the
turn. A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless
failure may turn to glorious success. There is no failure except in no longer
trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier
save our own inherent weakness of purpose.
—Elbert Hubbard 42

I’m an avid rock climber. In rock climbing, particularly when climbing long
routes, your forearms can get pumped to such an extent that you can no longer
hold onto the rock. Climbers afraid of failing will often ask their belayer to take
in the rope so that they can rest and try again with renewed strength.
While this strategy is good for learning how to climb a difficult route,
sometimes it costs a climber an on-sight (a clean ascent with no prior practice of
the route) or a redpoint (completing a route without resting on the rope) because
they give up too quickly, right after they start feeling overpowering discomfort .
Even when you can barely hold onto the wall, often you can still perform
one or two moves more — and those moves may be enough to upgrade your
position to a rest stance where you can safely recharge and continue climbing
without resting on the rope.
It’s the same with many other areas of life. You believe that you can’t go on
any longer, that your self-discipline has run out and it’s time to throw up your
hands in defeat, while in reality, persisting just a little bit longer is all that
separates you from success.
The next time you feel like giving up, persuade yourself to push a little bit
longer. Chances are, success is right around the corner.
Day 44: On Optimis m
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement; nothing can be done
without hope.
—Helen Keller 43

A positive attitude is essential if you want to build self-discipline. What’s

the point of denying yourself instant gratification if you don’t believe that you’ll
get a greater compensation for it in the future?
If you suffer from pessimism, realize that along with improving your self-
control, you’ll need to improve your ability to see the world in brighter colors.
Three easy steps you can take today to become more optimistic include:
1. Express gratitude for what you already have. If you can’t be happy with
what you have today, you won’t be happy with what you have tomorrow.
2. Reframe negative events into opportunities and lessons. An event is bad
for you only if you decide it is. Think of it as a lesson or an opportunity to
change your life, in order to give it a positive meaning.
3. Surround yourself with positive input. If you only read fear-mongering
news and hang out with pessimistic grumblers, you’ll have a hard time
exhibiting optimism.
Day 45: On Honest y
I hope I shall possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I
consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.
—George Washington 44

For many people, one of the hardest challenges for their self-discipline is
the resolution to stop lying. We constantly encounter opportunities to lie,
wherever we go and whatever we do. It seems it’s even socially permissible to
lie a little, whether by telling a white lie, making yourself look better on a
resume, or tweaking your height, weight, and financial situation on online dating
sites.
As the old saying goes, honesty is the best policy — and it’s also one of the
best ways to strengthen your character. It’s one thing to deny yourself a piece of
cake, and it’s a completely different thing to tell the truth when you think it will
make you look bad or threaten the relationship you have with someone. Yet,
over the long-term, the truth always emerges — and if not, it still eats away at
your conscience, so why postpone the discomfort you’ll eventually feel anyway?
Vow to tell the truth no matter the circumstances (except for extreme
situations, such as your life being in danger).
Please note that being honest doesn’t mean that you need to share
everything about yourself with other people. that Telling them, “I don’t feel like
answering that question” (without giving any justifications — it’s your right to
not explain any of your decisions) is a simple way to remain honest when a
person asks you a question you’d normally answer with a lie.
Day 46: On Looking Fear in the Face
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which
you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived
through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” (…) You must
do the thing you think you cannot do.
—Eleanor Roosevelt 45

Self-discipline is a lot like dealing with fear. When you face temptations,
look them straight in the eye and send them packing, the next time they appear in
your life, you’ll be able to say to yourself, “I managed to overcome them once. I
can handle them this time as well.”
The more times you successfully overcome the temptations, the easier it
will be to handle them again. Regular practice will make you less susceptible to
temptations and even more likely to ignore them, just like looking fear in the
face will make you more likely to act in spite of it.
Granted, it’s not that with enough experience, you’ll become
unconditionally self-disciplined, just like you won’t one day stop being afraid of
anything. Just remember that each situation that tests your resolve is another
experience from which you can draw inspiration to overcome future challenging
circumstances when they occur.
Day 47: On the Folly of Loafing Around
The loafer believes he is enjoying life, but sooner or later he must face
disillusion.
—Fausto Cercignani 46

Since self-discipline shines in the long term, and often doesn’t seem to
provide any benefits in the short term, you may be tempted to believe that people
who are loafing around have it better.
While you’re watching your finances like a hawk, they spend money they
don’t have and show off with all the new cool gadgets.
While you’re eating a salad and washing it down with a cup of green tea,
they’re eating a bag of delicious potato chips and gulping down sugary cans of
Coke.
While you feel like throwing up during your workout from trying to to
squeeze out one more rep, they squeeze more mayo out of the bottle to put it on
the French fries they gorge on while watching their favorite TV shows.
It might seem they have it better, but sooner or later the person exposing
himself or herself to discomfort for the sake of achieving their long-term goals
will come out on top, while the people loafing around will get to feel the
negative consequences of their laziness.
Irresponsible spenders will realize they’re on the brink of bankruptcy.
Potato chip addicts will be diagnosed with diabetes. The inactive TV fans will
start taking hypertension medication .
You, on the other hand, will look back at your past sacrifices and smile,
happy that you’ve never succumbed to the temptation to take it easy and loaf
around.
Day 48: On the Deadening of the Soul
Most of us dread the deadening of the body and will do anything to avoid it.
About the deadening of the soul, however, we don’t care one iota.
—Epictetus 47

It’s curious that millions of people all over the world spend countless
amounts of money and time to improve their appearance through the use of
cosmetics, plastic surgery, expensive clothes, supplements, and other treatments,
but spend little to nothing on improving themselves on the inside.
It’s more important to avoid wrinkles than to prevent negative habits from
forming. It’s a better investment to fix your sagging cheeks than to learn how to
exercise restraint in unnecessary spending. Nobody will comment or even notice
your deterioration of mental toughness and a growing preference for
complacency over growth, but everybody will praise you for your new clothes.
$10 for a book that can change your life is too expensive. $100 for another pair
of jeans is a screaming deal.
Your spending habits — including spending in the monetary sense and the
investment of energy or time — reveal your true priorities.
How much do you spend on your external appearance, and how much do
you expend on developing your inner world? Is the proportion healthy, or do you
find it hard to justify spending for personal growth, but never fail to invest in
your superficial appearance?
Day 49: On Obeying Lusts
Bad men obey their lusts as servants obey their masters.
—Diogenes Laertius 48

A forbidden fruit is the sweetest. If it weren’t so pleasant to submit to your

urges, nobody would ever struggle with self-discipline.
However, notwithstanding how much pleasure it can bring, it’s important to
see the temptation for what it is — your enemy on the path toward freedom.
Obeying your lusts enslaves you, while rejecting them increases your
freedom. The reward you’ll get for not succumbing to your temptations will
more than make up for the price you pay today for missing out on the instant
gratification.
Self-disciplined people may appear to some as if they were the ones being
enslaved. After all, they’re the ones whose lives are so limited: they don’t get to
eat junk food, they follow a strict routine, deliberately expose themselves to
discomfort, and reject what society considers the spice of life — gluttony,
laziness, and engaging in other vices.
What the critics fail to see is that, through the rejection of those
temptations, the self-disciplined become the masters of their lives. They serve
the goals chosen by themselves instead of fleeting, spontaneous temptations.
They choose to forego temporary satisfactions for deeper, more lasting ones later
on .
In the meantime, in the long haul, the people who fail to control their urges
— or rather, don’t even try to control them — fail to control their lives,
manipulated by the temptations like a marionette.
WEEK 8
Day 50: On Not Resting on Your Laurels
I think if you do something and it turns out pretty good, then you should go
do something else wonderful, not dwell on it for too long. Just figure out what’s
next.
—Steve Jobs 49

To be human is to grow, challenge yourself, and strive to always become

better. It’s important to celebrate your triumphs, but dwelling on them for too
long can lead to resting on your laurels and jeopardizing your future growth.
After you’re done celebrating your success, figure out what your next
challenge is. How can you take your life to an even higher level?
For example, if you’ve successfully lost weight, now is a good time to gain
some muscle or improve your nutritional habits. If you’ve put your financial life
in order by building a small nest egg, it’s a good opportunity to take it one step
further and work on achieving financial independence.
Treat wonderful accomplishments as opportunities to accomplish even
more wonderful things, and not as permission to become lazy.
Day 51: On Taking Action, in Spite of Potential
Criticism
People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing
it.
—Unknown

Some people don’t want to start exercising because they’re afraid that
others will laugh at their inability to perform a pushup or run for more than sixty
seconds without losing their breath. They might be afraid that their friends will
talk behind their backs, taking bets when they’re going to fail.
Thousands of people all over the world dream of entrepreneurship, but are
afraid to take the first step because if their business fails, their ego will suffer too
hard of a blow.
Self-discipline isn’t only about forcing yourself to do things that are
unpleasant for the sake of long-term goals. It’s also about resisting the
temptation to stay mediocre in order to avoid criticism. True, staying in your
comfort zone is safe and there’s little criticism you’ll encounter along the way.
However, there’s a high price associated with this choice: you won’t ever get to
change your current situation.
Over the long term, how important is it really that some unintelligent
meathead smirks at you at the gym when you’re struggling to complete a set of
pushups? Is the momentary pain of that really greater than the pain of regret
when you realize that another year has passed without you acting on your goals?
Day 52: On Thinking for Yourself
When I meet someone, I consider how normal their life is. I do this not
because it’s a one hundred percent accurate heuristic on how much I’ll respect
someone, but because it’s damn close. If you have a totally normal life, then
there are only two possibilities: you’ve thought through every aspect of your life
and miraculously agree with society on each one, or you don’t think at all. I try
not to associate with people who don’t think.
—Tynan 50

Self-discipline is hard to attain, and because it’s not common, sooner or

later somebody will deem your behaviors abnormal.
I maintain a healthy weight and physique, but I still fast for 16 to 20 hours
daily, and abstain from food for 36 hours or more every several weeks.
My relationship with food is often criticized by other people. If I don’t stuff
my face with food every three hours, then surely I’ve developed an eating
disorder. The norm is to eat often, and if your behavior differs from it, you’re
weird. However, I do what I consider to be best for me, and I refuse to follow
different eating habits merely because it’s the most common way of doing
things.
It’s difficult to trust your own judgment when everybody around you is
doing something different, but if everything you do is in accordance with
society’s norms, then what you’re going to get is the same results as everybody
else does who follows those norms.
So what if others think it’s weird that you’d rather save money instead of
buying a new car every two years? You’re the one who has less financial stress,
even if it costs you a little to reject the temptation to spend money unnecessarily.
So what if you’re not partying every weekend like everybody else and
instead work hard to grow your business? You’re the one who will eventually
enjoy wealth, while those others will complain about their finances for the rest of
their lives.
So what if people consider you weird because you go to sleep at nine and
wake up at five in the morning, while they stay up until two in the morning
watching TV shows? It’s you who’s going to get more done by ten in the
morning than they’ll accomplish in the entire week!
Trust your own judgment and think for yourself. It’s better to suffer from
your own choices than waste your life away because you were mindlessly
following the herd.
Day 53: On Having a Burning “Yes” Inside You have
to decide what your highest priorities are and have
the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, non-
apologetically — to say “no” to other things. And the
way to do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning
inside.
—Stephen Covey Without the bigger “yes” burning inside of you, there’s no way you’ll continue
making the uncomfortable choices over the long term for the sake of your goal.

The primary reason why I stuck to entrepreneurship, despite countless

failures, was my intention to help my parents build a house in the countryside. It
was their dream, and by extension, my dream.
This big “yes” had been burning inside me no matter what was happening
with my business. Even after another big defeat, I still knew that I would never
“lay down my arms” in the fight to become able to give them their dream. If you
have such a strong “yes” inside you, you’ll also refuse to surrender the fight to
achieve your dream.
Your burning “yes” will also help you pinpoint your priorities and disregard
distractions. For example, if you decided to save money for the future education
of your child, saying “no” to spending money on things you’d like to have (but
don’t need) would be much easier than without such a powerful motivator. You
would be focused on the long-view of where you wanted to be when your child
was older .
If your biggest dream in life is to become a surgeon, you won’t feel
apprehensive about declining an invitation for a party because you want to
prepare yourself for an important exam. The “yes” burning inside you would be
stronger than the fear of missing out on a few hours spent drinking with your
friends.
Granted, as we’ve already discussed, there should be some balance in
everything, but generally speaking, you’ll do well if you can discover a burning
reason why you want to accomplish a given dream and unapologetically say no
to anything that might threaten your chances of making it come true.
Day 54: On Underestimating the Long-Term Approac
h We always overestimate the change that will occur
in the next two years and underestimate the change
that will occur in the next ten. Don’t let yourself be
lulled into inaction.
—Bill Gates 51

Bill Gates’ quote refers to the evolution of personal computing, but the
world of self-discipline isn’t any different.
A staggering number of people give up on their goals just weeks or months
into them, discouraged that they still haven’t reached their goals or that their
results are lackluster.
Sorry to have to break it to you, but the world doesn’t work that way. With
few exceptions, nobody can build a successful business in six months, achieve a
perfect physique in three months, learn a new language in four weeks, or become
a self-disciplined person overnight.
However, the sky is the limit for those who are in it for the long haul. Ten
years of dedicated practice can turn anyone into a world-class expert. When you
gain momentum, you’ll get exponential results. The trick is to stick to your goals
long enough for the velocity to accrue.
For example, in the first year you might only get your business off the
ground, but in its third or fourth year it can explode virtually overnight. What
actually happens is not an overnight success, but a process that took place over
several years, during which it built upon itself in an exponential way.
When you look at my catalog of books, you might be tempted to say that I
succeeded right away. “Martin’s first book became a bestseller, so it’s possible
to become a bestselling author in a few months.”
That would be a great example of overestimating what you can achieve in a
short period of time. My first book wasn’t actually my first book. I’d been
writing — articles, blog posts, books, etc. — for a long time before I started
writing about self-discipline. It was a process of well over ten years that resulted
in my becoming a bestselling author.
Whenever setting a new goal, take the long-term approach. Unlike the
person who assumes that their world can change overnight, be in it for the long
haul, and the short-term fluctuations won’t make you give up.
Day 55: On Bearing Misfortunes Nobl y Remember
too on every occasion which leads thee to vexation to
apply this principle: not that this is a misfortune, but
that to bear it nobly is good fortune.
—Marcus Aurelius 52

Hardships are a part of life and while nobody (with the exception of
masochists) enjoys pain, they can be valuable because they present an
opportunity for personal growth.
I like to say that you discover how deep your self-discipline goes when you
struggle, and not when everything goes well.
You aren’t self-disciplined because you worked hard when you were fired
up to work. You’re self-disciplined when you continue to work hard when the
last thing you want to do is work.
You aren’t self-disciplined because you can’t afford candy, so you don’t eat
it. You exhibit self-control when you deny the treats that are offered freely to
you, for example when you’re at a party with a buffet selection of high-calorie
snacks.
You aren’t self-disciplined when you wake up early in the morning to work
on your new business. You’re self-disciplined when you still wake up early in
the morning when it seems that your business is going nowhere.
Misfortunes aren’t fun to deal with, but bearing them nobly strengthens
your ability to handle even worse circumstances in the future. In a sense, trials
and tribulations are like training. You may not enjoy it, but you know that
eventually it will pay off and more than recoup for any suffering you’re going
through at the moment.
Day 56: On Thinking You Can If you think you are
beaten, you are; If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t, It’s almost certain you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost, For out in the world we find Success
begins with a fellow’s will.
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you’re outclassed, you are; You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go To the stronger or faster man.
But soon or late the man who wins Is the one who thinks he can.
—Walter D. Wintle 53

We often limit ourselves because we don’t think we can achieve something.

Today it may be hard for you to imagine that you can live without dessert or that
you can live below your means. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible, though; it’s only
your subjective opinion , not a fact of life .
Moreover, thinking that you’re unlikely to win means that you’ll put in less
effort than you could. Why would you work your fingers to the bone if you were
uncertain of success?
Rock climbing has made it particularly clear to me. When you approach the
route thinking that it’s beyond your abilities, you won’t do your best. After all,
why try your best if you know that you aren’t going to climb it anyway?
You’ll most likely give up when you encounter the first obstacle, while a
person thinking they can climb it will fight as hard as they can to keep climbing.
In the end, the person that doesn’t believe in their abilities will give up along the
way while the person that is certain of their abilities will reach the top.
Periodically try things that you think are outside of your ability with a
positive attitude and the belief that you can succeed. Chances are you’ll get a
positive surprise and achieve something you thought was beyond your reach.
WEEK 9
Day 57: On Two Types of Happiness
People who have high levels of what is known as eudaimonic well-being —
the kind of happiness that comes from having a deep sense of purpose and
meaning in life (think Mother Teresa) — showed very favorable gene-expression
profiles in their immune cells. They had low levels of inflammatory gene
expression and strong expression of antiviral and antibody genes.
However, people who had relatively high levels of hedonic well-being —
the type of happiness that comes from consummatory self-gratification (think
most celebrities) — actually showed just the opposite. They had an adverse
expression profile involving high inflammation and low antiviral and antibody
gene expression.
—Mark Wheeler 54

Science suggests that the fleeting happiness you get from succumbing to a
temptation is inferior — at least when it comes to its effect on how your genes
express — to the type of happiness you can draw out of a sense of purpose and
meaning in life.
According to the study, a person guided by a deep sense of purpose is less
likely to suffer from inflammation and more likely to have a stronger immune
system. While both types of happiness can generate the same positive emotions,
it’s those with high levels of eudaimonic well-being that benefit more .
Since the results come from a study on just 80 participants, we shouldn’t
treat the conclusions as a broadly-applicable scientific fact. However, there’s
definitely immense power in having a mission in your life.
When all of your decisions are aligned toward a better future (even if
you’re suffering at times because things don’t go as planned or it’s hard to
maintain self-discipline), you wake up fired up, with vigor and a sense of
purpose you’d never get if you were to prioritize hedonic well-being.
Day 58: On Cultivating Physical Excellence
For in everything that men do the body is useful; and in all uses of the body
it is of great importance to be in as high a state of physical efficiency as
possible.
Why, even in the process of thinking, in which the use of the body seems to
be reduced to a minimum, it is matter of common knowledge that grave mistakes
may often be traced to bad health. And because the body is in a bad condition,
loss of memory, depression, discontent, insanity often assail the mind so
violently as to drive whatever knowledge it contains clean out of it.
But a sound and healthy body is a strong protection to a man, and at least
there is no danger then of such a calamity happening to him through physical
weakness: on the contrary, it is likely that his sound condition will serve to
produce effects the opposite of those that arise from bad condition. And surely a
man of sense would submit to anything to obtain the effects that are the opposite
of those mentioned in my list.
Besides, it is a disgrace to grow old through sheer carelessness before
seeing what manner of man you may become by developing your bodily strength
and beauty to their highest limit.
—Socrates 55

Socrates points out that there are several dangers in not cultivating physical
excellence.
First, an unhealthy body leads to an unhealthy mind. Can a person suffering
from preventable health disorders dedicate all of their resources toward personal
growth? Physical debilitations that you can overcome with your own efforts
(such as obesity or a weak immune system due to bad nutritional habits) sap
your energy and limit your potential.
If you’re constantly getting sick, how likely are you to maintain self-
discipline? I don’t know about you, but whenever I get so sick that I can barely
walk around the house, my routine is out of the window and it takes a
considerable amount of time to return to it. The more often you get sick, the
more difficult it is to build new habits and maintain successful routines.
Second, a strong body is better prepared — both physically and mentally —
to deal with any health problems that you can’t prevent. Consequently, you can
more quickly recover from those hardships (or accept them with more ease) and
refocus your efforts on your most important long-term goals.
Last but most definitely not least, developing your body to your own
highest limit (which doesn’t mean becoming a muscle head or having a perfectly
sculpted body) is a valuable goal in itself. It shows you how much you can push
your limits, teaches you how powerful long-term dedication can be, and can
transform your entire mindset. In fact, just cultivating physical excellence on its
own can develop powerful self-discipline.
I can attest to these benefits. When I started exercising and my body began
to change, I soon saw my mental state reflect the positive external changes. A
great amount of the experience I have had with overcoming temptations and
sticking to my resolutions comes from physical activity and my resolve to
become the strongest person I can .
If you aren’t putting your health and fitness first, it’s high time you change
that.
Day 59: On Your Vices Masquerading as Virtues
No vice exists which does not pretend to be more or less like some virtue,
and which does not take advantage of this assumed resemblance.
Jean de La Bruyère 56

Bad habits are so difficult to give up not only because they’re pleasant, but
also because they often masquerade as virtues. When you think of your vice as a
friend rather than your enemy, it’s even harder to eliminate it from your life.
For example, people who sleep in and suffer from low productivity might
claim that, thanks to staying up late, they have a great social life. They fail to
notice they’re paying too high a price for a benefit they could obtain in a
different way without jeopardizing their long-term goals.
I used to believe that it was good to jump from one business idea to another.
I thought that by trying different things, I would eventually find the perfect idea
that would magically grow into a successful business.
In reality, I lacked the self-discipline to focus and wasted several years on
endeavors that were destined to fail. Were there some benefits in spreading my
attention so thin? Certainly. They weren’t more valuable than what I was losing,
though, and what I considered a virtue was actually a vice that was sabotaging
my goals .
Are there any vices of yours that might masquerade as virtues? Question
your deeply-held beliefs and ask yourself if your supposed virtues are indeed
helpful, or perhaps they’re like a friend that gives you one dollar with one hand
while stealing five dollars from your wallet with the other.
Day 60: On Pressing On
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not;
nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not;
unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of
educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan
“press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.
—Calvin Coolidge

When in doubt, press on. It sounds obvious and trite, yet the simple fact of
life that people who are persistent are usually more successful than less-
determined geniuses often escapes us. Time heals all wounds, and time — or
rather, persistence that is exercised over a long period of time — also leads to
success.
In the world of self-publishing, many authors are extremely talented, but
they fail to achieve success because they give up after releasing one or two flops.
Meanwhile, the ones who initially lack writing skills or formal education but
keep on going, writing one book after another until one finally succeeds, are the
ones who occupy the bestseller lists.
People who can speak foreign languages aren’t born with a gene that allows
them to acquire them quickly. Most of them aren’t smarter than you or me, yet
they manage to master several languages, including the ones that are thought to
be almost impossible to learn by a foreigner. Their secret lies in persistence. If
you learn 10 new words a day, you learn 3650 words a year. Consequently,
within a few years you’ll possess an extensive vocabulary — all thanks to a
small, daily time investment that doesn’t require any special talents or being a
genius.
If you’re currently struggling with your goal, remind yourself that even if
you feel like you’re lost in a maze, pressing on will eventually help you reach
your destination and in many cases, it’s the only thing that separates the winners
from the losers.
Day 61: On Extreme Actions
You don’t get extreme talent, fame, or success without extreme actions.
—Derek Sivers 57

It’s important to approach your goals in a sustainable way, thinking in

terms of months, years, or decades instead of mere days or weeks. However, at
the same time, taking extreme actions can pay handsome dividends, too.
Balancing between the extreme and more sustainable approach is a difficult
art, but in essence it comes down to taking extreme actions during a relatively
brief period of time, while ensuring that your actions are sustainable over the
long term.
For example, when my first book became a bestseller, I stuck to a strict
publication schedule to benefit from the gained momentum. I launched my
second book (on which I had been working since I finished the first draft of my
first book) a mere three weeks later. My third book went live in another two
weeks, and my fourth was released three weeks after the previous one.
From there, I slowed down my pace, but I still managed to release at least
four new books each year. In the short term, my actions were extreme. And
precisely because of that, I was able to build a large following quickly. However,
after an initial sprint, you need to slow down to go the distance— and that’s
when I transitioned to a little less extreme approach, but one still exhibited by
few authors .
Are you taking extreme actions to gain momentum and separate yourself
from the ones who don’t have the self-discipline needed to push themselves hard
for a short period of time? How can you intensify your efforts for a couple of
weeks or months to maximize your results before transitioning to a more
sustainable and less extreme approach?
Day 62: On Moonshot Projects We choose to go to the
Moon in this decade and do the other things, not
because they are easy, but because they are hard.
—John F. Kennedy 58

As we’ve already discussed several times, living your life the hard way
makes it paradoxically easier, while avoiding the hard things makes your life
more difficult.
When it comes to accomplishing your goals, the hard truth is that easy
accomplishments often go away quickly, while larger projects produce more
lasting results.
For one, setting close to impossible goals requires you to think in categories
producing pivotal differences, and not mere tweaks.
For example, losing 5 pounds (or 2 kilos) requires a small tweak. You can
eat less for two weeks and you’ll accomplish your goal. However, you won’t fix
the underlying issue of being overweight, and probably soon regain the weight.
How about losing 50 pounds (or 20 kilos) this year? You can no longer
afford to think in terms of small tweaks. You need a permanent change — a
change in your habits and identity that will address the cause of the problem and
lead to a permanent solution.
Audacious goals can also transform your life, while reaching safe, easy
objectives won’t change much in the grand scheme of things.
If you want to save a million dollars for retirement, you’ll need a different
strategy than if you only want to save enough for a rainy-day fund. A moonshot
project of building a $1 million nest egg might lead you to building a business
that will not only generate a million dollars for retirement, but also help you
retire early — a pleasant side effect you initially didn’t anticipate at all.
As an additional benefit, big goals are more motivating, which means you’ll
be less likely to give up when you encounter obstacles. Granted, you need to
pursue the hard things in a smart way so that you won’t find yourself walking
with your head in the clouds. Set an audacious goal, but accompany it with a
realistic deadline. An ambitious goal is still a big accomplishment, even if it
takes you years to achieve it.
Day 63: On the Will Being Stronger Than the Skill
Champions aren’t made in gyms, champions are made from something they
have deep inside them — a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have last-
minute stamina, they have to be a little faster, they have to have the skill and the
will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.
—Muhammad Ali 59

When you switch your focus from instant gratification toward long-term
accomplishment, create a mental image of why you should reject the instant
rewards and keep going — despite hardships, failures, sacrifices, and lack of
compensation.
A detailed vision of your wished-for future will fuel your resolve,
compensating for any weaknesses you might have or difficulties that might stand
on your way toward success.
For example, I struggled with extreme shyness as a teenager. I set a goal to
develop self-confidence and feel relaxed in all kinds of social settings. I was, and
still am, an introverted lone wolf who needs solitude more than I need other
people.
However, my will was strong. I knew I needed to make this change in order
to stop limiting my personal growth, something I found and still find is one of
my most important values. This deep desire kept me going, despite my
personality being extremely unsuited to social settings .
Note that your deep desire doesn’t have to be about you. You’ve surely
heard stories about people performing incredible feats of strength to rescue a
victim of an accident. For example, in 2013 in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna
(age 16) and Haylee (age 14) lifted a 3,000-pound (1360 kg) tractor to save their
father, who was pinned underneath it. 60
The mechanism that supports such impossible actions still baffles scientists.
We only know one thing for sure: under normal circumstances, Hanna and
Haylee wouldn’t be able to lift a tractor. It was their will — their immense desire
to save their father — that gave them superhuman strength.
If you’re struggling with a certain goal, think who could benefit from you
achieving it. How could you improve somebody’s life — or perhaps even save a
life — thanks to persevering and accomplishing your objective?
WEEK 10
Day 64: On Seeing Obstacles as Hurdles If we choose
to see the obstacles in our path as barriers, we stop
trying. If we choose to see the obstacles as hurdles, we
can leap over them. Successful people don’t have
fewer problems. They have determined that nothing
will stop them from going forward.
—Ben Carson 61

One might argue that it’s mere semantics — barriers or hurdles; both make
it difficult to reach success. However, thinking of a problem as a hurdle means
approaching it as something that you can possibly walk around or leap over, but
a barrier sounds like something that is impermeable and a fixed limitation.
Nobody likes to face obstacles, but it’s thanks to the obstacles you face
today that you gain the ability to overcome other hardships in the future — ones
that would possibly crush you if it weren’t for the experience you’re having
today.
Problem-solving skills are exactly that — skills. The more often you
encounter problems and resolve them, the better you’ll get at dealing with them.
For this reason, as a great exercise for building self-discipline and mental
resilience, I strongly suggest exposing yourself to difficult tasks. Embrace
problems in your life and look at dealing with difficulties as training yourself to
see problems as hurdles instead of barriers.
Exert willpower to deal with the hard problems, instead of looking for the
easiest way out. Consider several ways to tackle the issue and try to visualize
how each solution can help you leap over the hurdle. You don’t necessarily have
to throw problems at yourself from every direction; you can also practice by
helping your friends solve their problems or by imagining you’re facing the
problems you’re reading about in a book or seeing in a TV show.
Just for practice, imagine that you were about to launch your business when
a key investor backed out, leaving you $20,000 short of the budget necessary to
produce the first line of your product. To make matters worse, you’ve already
accepted payments from your first clients and need to deliver within two months.
Most people would consider it an impermeable barrier. Game over, say goodbye
to your dreams. You, as a mentally resilient and self-disciplined person will look
at it as a hurdle. What can you do to leap over it and keep going, despite such a
difficulty being thrown in your way?
Day 65: On Self-Discipline with Money
Try to save something while your salary is small; it’s impossible to save
after you begin to earn more.
—Jack Benny

Whenever the topic of winning the lottery comes up in a conversation, I

always say that what so many people consider the biggest blessing in their entire
lives is actually the biggest curse for most people. Let me explain why, but first,
some curious facts…
The numbers are terrifying. According to 2015 research from The Pew
Charitable Trusts, 41 percent of respondents don’t have enough liquid savings to
cover an unexpected $2,000 cost (such as a medical emergency) and a typical
household can’t replace even one month of income with liquid savings. 62
It’s important to note we aren’t talking about people living in poverty; the
same respondents are the ones buying new homes, cars, TVs, smartphones, and
other gadgets. The reason for their lack of savings isn’t lack of income; it’s lack
of self-discipline.
While a small percentage of respondents probably do exercise some kind of
financial self-control, a great majority doesn’t. What do you think? How likely
would they be to exercise self-discipline with money upon winning the lottery if
they can’t manage their finances now? Even if they won millions of dollars, later
on they would be in the same spot as they are today — if not in an even worse
situation. That’s why winning the lottery — the dream of so many — can
actually be the biggest curse.
For this reason, no matter how well off you are today, it’s of crucial
importance to start saving your money now if you aren’t doing so already. It
doesn’t matter if you’re saving ten dollars or ten thousand dollars a month; it’s
the habit that counts. When your financial situation improves (and as a person
interested in building self-discipline, it most likely will), it will ensure that you
continue exerting self-control with money.
If you’re lacking such a habit today, don’t fool yourself into thinking you’ll
control your finances when you start making more. Build healthy financial habits
when you have little disposable income, and saving money will be easier when
you’ll have more money to save. And if you do win the lottery, you’ll thank me
for encouraging you to instill financial discipline today!
Day 66: On Pointless Complaints
“But my nose is running!” What do you have hands for, idiot, if not to wipe
it? “But how is it right that there be running noses in the first place?” Instead of
thinking up protests, wouldn’t it be easier just to wipe your nose?
—Epictetus 63

Grumbling about everything is a favorite pastime of countless individuals,

all over the world. It’s incredible how much time and energy people waste on
something as pointless as complaining, particularly when they can do nothing
about their source of protests.
It takes self-discipline to stop complaining — and a great deal of it if you’re
like most people, who can’t go even one day without voicing their dissatisfaction
with the world. Consequently, managing your complaints is a great exercise to
improve your self-control.
Starting today, try to go without complaining for as long as you can.
Whenever you catch yourself complaining, turn it into a solution, try to find
something good about whatever dissatisfies you, or let it go if the solution is
beyond your control or the problem isn’t worth your energy.
For example, if you’re at a restaurant and your meal isn’t as warm as you’d
like it to be, you can ask the waiter to heat it (turning a complaint into a
solution), consider it an exercise in voluntary discomfort (finding something
good about the source of the complaint), or simply eat it, having decided that
complaining about it isn’t worth your energy .
Such mental training will not only improve your impulse self-control, but
also make you a more positive person. In contrast, what do you get out of
complaining besides ruining your mood?
Day 67: On Borrowing Money
Every time you borrow money, you’re robbing your future self.
—Nathan W. Morris

Borrowing money for consumption is a widespread disease in today’s

world, fueled by excess and materialism. Unlike taking on a business loan to
achieve a return on investment that is higher than the interest rate — a practice
that, when done wisely, can enrich your future self — consumer loans only serve
to satisfy the desire for instant gratification, while robbing (sometimes
spectacularly) your future self.
Each time you’re thinking about getting a loan to satisfy a desire to own an
item that belongs in the “want” category, imagine that you have the power to
stop your past self from getting all the consumer loans you have today (if you
don’t have any, pretend that you do). Just like that, you can erase all of them and
finally gain peace of mind. Would you still go into debt to finance your toys?
Five years from now, you’ll look back at your past self, puzzled at how
short-sighted you were to gift yourself with such a bad future for the fleeting
gratification of getting a new car or TV.
“But I can get such great terms, it’s almost a free loan!” you’re saying? The
terms don’t matter; the habit of prioritizing your present self over your future
self eventually affects not only your finances, but every other area of your life.
Developing discipline to do without unnecessary feel-good purchases you
can’t afford is one of the most important things you can do to gain more self-
control and ensure that your future is better than the present.
Day 68: On Choosing the Right Motivator
For me success was always going to be a Lamborghini. But now I’ve got it,
it just sits on my drive.
—50 Cent 64

External rewards like a Lamborghini are poor motivators.

For one, I’ve heard countless times about people willing to endure immense
torture to stay true to their values or save their loved ones, but I’ve yet to hear a
story of a person willing to die for their new Lexus.
Second, materialistic rewards give fleeting happiness and often come with
more problems than benefits. Just ask any owner of a Lamborghini how much
fun it is to see people constantly taking pictures of their car, how fun it is to
spend thousands of dollars for a simple check-up, or how stressed-out they are in
the parking lot, afraid of an envious driver of a beat-up car dinging their shiny
vehicle.
Last but most definitely not least, a powerful motivator should feel like a
necessity, a thing you can’t live without, and not a mere toy that displays your
high status, which ultimately nobody cares about.
If you’re struggling to stick to your resolution, perhaps the only motivation
you have is the extrinsic type, driven by money, fame, or prizes. This type of
motivation isn’t bad per se; what’s bad is when it’s the only thing that keeps you
going.
Whenever you’re setting new goals, go beyond mere external rewards.
Instead, support your self-discipline with intrinsic motivators — internal
rewards, such as doing something out of a need to grow as a person, achieve
more independence, realize your full potential, enjoy yourself, learn, or explore.
Combine this motivation with a need to make the world a better place, and
you’ll have a powerful source of inspiration that will enable you to grin and bear
the difficulties that you’ll undoubtedly encounter along the way.
Day 69: On Climbing Steep Hills
To climb steep hills
Requires slow pace at first.
—William Shakespeare 65

If you think of your goal as a steep hill, imagine how ridiculous it would be
to stop midway just because you’re slowly scrambling up instead of sprinting all
the way to the top. That’s precisely what many people do when they start
working on a new goal and realize that the journey will take longer than they
expected.
What difference does it make that reaching a goal takes you longer than you
planned? If you want to climb a steep hill, will you stop climbing it because you
can’t climb it in two hours, but can in three? Will you retreat to the bottom of the
hill and forever stare at its peak, frustrated by the dissatisfying pace of the
climb?
Another mistake is the assumption that if something is slow in the
beginning, it will stay that way.
When I started my career as a self-published author, I tried several different
genres. Things were going slow at the beginning because I needed to figure out
which genre and style fitted me best. Once I established the proper direction, I
released my first bestseller, then the second, and soon there was a snowball
effect. How wise would it have been to give up during the first several months,
frustrated by the slow pace?
Day 70: On Parkinson’s La w
It is a commonplace observation that work expands so as to fill the time
available for its completion.
—Cyril Northcote Parkinson 66

Limiting the time available to complete a given task is one of the most
powerful secrets of productive people and a powerful way to overcome
procrastination.
If you lack the self-control needed to work in a focused way, give yourself
a challenging deadline to enforce concentration. Suddenly, what normally takes
two hours to accomplish (or rather, two hours of intermittent work and
distractions) will only take thirty minutes (or less) of 100% focused work at your
highest potential.
At the moment I’m writing these words, I have a goal to write four entries
in 50 minutes. Because of my self-imposed time pressure, I’m 100% focused on
the task at hand. I can’t distract or second-guess myself, two things that interrupt
the creative process and slow down my writing pace.
Since I have given myself little time to get the task done, procrastination is
a non-issue — I can’t afford to dilly-dally because I’ll miss my deadline. To
further motivate myself to work quickly, I established a reward for performing
the task on time: reading the new autobiography of Richard Branson, one of my
business idols.
This simple trick can become one of your most powerful allies toward
increasing your productivity. If you’ve been putting off a certain unpleasant task,
get to it now, but instead of giving yourself plenty of time to finish it, do it in
25% of your usual timeframe.
The new, greatly shortened period of work should reduce your resistance to
getting started, and the challenge of doing it more quickly should bring out some
excitement that will additionally fuel your resolve to get it done.
WEEK 11
Day 71: On Taking a Step Forward
If you don’t ask, the answer’s always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re
always in the same place.
—Nora Roberts 67

When I was battling against my shyness, I set a goal to approach attractive

women in the street. I knew that if I did it several dozen times, I would most
likely overcome my social fears and transform into a new person.
What helped me act (in spite of immense anxiety) was the realization that
talking myself out of approaching a woman would certainly equate to a “no.”
Approaching her and getting rejected couldn’t worsen my situation. In fact, I
could only gain, because even a rejection was still a valuable lesson I wouldn’t
learn if I chose inaction.
Likewise, many people hesitate to start working on their goals out of a fear
of failure or self-doubt. They fail to realize that if they don’t a take a step
forward, they’ll be in the same place. Even if they take an unsuccessful step
forward and need to backtrack, they’d still gain some experience. There’s
nothing to lose, and potentially a lot to gain.
Are there any goals you’d like to pursue, but are afraid that you’ll
embarrass yourself or fail? Have you ever considered that not acting on them
leads to sure-fire failure, while an attempt gives you at least a small chance of
success and a 100% chance of learning something new?
Day 72: On the Value of the Struggle
To have striven, to have made the effort, to have been true to certain ideals
— this alone is worth the struggle.
—William Osler 68

We fantasize about the day we receive a trophy, cash out, step on the scales
and see the perfect weight, travel to this beautiful place, step into this new
spacious house, or marry that beautiful girl or guy.
The focus is on the success, not the struggle. And it’s understandable —
success is glamorous, memorable, and marketable, while the struggle is drab,
disagreeable, and unattractive for the general public.
Yet, it’s making the effort, struggling, and sticking to your resolutions that
shapes you as a person. Success is a reward for having given it your best, but it’s
not always within your control whether and when you get to enjoy it.
Whenever you find yourself discouraged by your lack of success, remind
yourself that the process alone is your reward. It’s in your hands whether you
allow yourself to see the rewards the struggle generates or ignore them,
mindlessly pursing the end result as the sole indicator of success.
I failed numerous times in business. I could have despaired that I had lost
so much time and money, but I hadn’t really failed. I had been true to my values
of pursuing the entrepreneurial life. I kept going, despite the obstacles I
constantly encountered along the way. Over and over again, I beat
entrepreneurial depression and found it in myself yet again to get back up and try
again.
Eventually my efforts paid off, but even if it had taken longer to get the
results — or if I had died before reaching them — the struggle would still have
been worth it for the immense changes I underwent on the journey to pursue my
dreams.
Day 73: On Having Fun
Fun is at the core of the way I like to do business and it has been key to
everything I’ve done from the outset. More than any other element, fun is the
secret of Virgin’s success. I am aware that the idea of business as being fun and
creative goes right against the grain of convention, and it’s certainly not how
they teach it at some of those business schools, where business means hard grind
and lots of “discounted cash flows” and “net present values”.
—Richard Branson 69

Building self-discipline and working on your long-term goals doesn’t have

to be a chore. In fact, if it is, you’ll have a hard time reaching success because if
something bores you to tears or doesn’t produce much excitement, it’s difficult
to stick to it in the long term.
Probably the most common area in which I see most people struggling
because of lack of fun is exercise. If you succumb to the popular notion that
exercise has to be repetitive, painful, and boring, guess what… A few weeks
from now, you’ll be back in front of your TV, wondering what motivated you to
do such a stupid thing as attending those torturous fitness classes.
The only way to develop a permanent habit of regular physical activity is to
find an exercise you enjoy. Without the fun factor, exercise will always feel like
a chore, and you probably already have enough obligations in your life.
The same applies to virtually any other endeavor. I treat my business
seriously, but at the same time I’m trying to make it a bit more fun, either by
throwing in a joke here and there while writing a book, coming up with a fun
writing challenge, or testing new exciting ideas.
Do you consider working on your goals enjoyable and fun or is it mostly a
chore? If it’s the latter, time to grab a notepad and make a list of things you can
do to introduce more fun and excitement.
Day 74: On Acting Less and Thinking Mor e
Act less, think more. Reflect on what really matters to you. Stop doing
anything that isn’t valuable, that doesn’t make you happy. Savor life.
—Richard Koch 70

This advice goes against the grain as self-help authors usually suggest to
behave the other way around: think less, and act more. The danger in acting
more than thinking is that eventually you’ll find yourself working on goals you
don’t really care that much about or doing things in a less than optimal way.
For example, when I was working on my fitness goals, I acted a lot. I
religiously followed my workout schedule and did everything I could to build a
strong body, including eating foods recommended for bodybuilders, recording
videos of my lifts to improve my technique, and even hiring a fitness coach.
I acted a lot, but thought too little.
It was only when I stopped and reflected on what mattered to me that I
realized that I had never wanted to be a bodybuilder. I was following the wrong
ideal, chasing something that didn’t make me happy or produce any visible
results. Upon this realization, I redesigned my entire approach to fitness and
started doing something that finally felt natural instead of forced .
Periodically pause and reflect on your own choices. Are you pursuing goals
that matter to you? Are you working on your goals in a way that fits your
lifestyle, or is there imbalance and disharmony?
Day 75: On Hater s
Luke! Don’t give in to hate. That leads to the Dark Side.
—Obi-Wan Kenobi 71

It’s a fact of life that when you do something worthwhile, you will have
haters. People will criticize you for everything and anything, for a variety of
reasons.
People accused me of a lack of respect toward women merely because I
wanted to overcome shyness and be able to talk with attractive females. Others
criticized me for my efforts to lose weight and build a fit physique. Yet others
laughed at my attempts to build a successful business, claiming that I would
never accomplish my ambitious financial goals. Today people criticize my books
or send me impolite emails because I annoyed them in some unfathomable way.
In the beginning, it bothered me a lot. I wondered if there was something
wrong with me, if the people criticizing me knew something that had escaped
me. Time passed, and with the growing number of goals I had reached and the
trust in myself I had consequently developed, I realized there was no value in the
feedback that was coming from haters. Giving in to hate and letting it get to you
leads to rancor, a poison that can jeopardize your long-term goals.
I’d love to share with you a secret, foolproof way to deal with haters, but in
the end the only solution is the most obvious one — you ignore whatever insults
and malice they throw at you and focus on yourself instead.
We don’t know each other, but I know that if you’re still reading this book,
you’re a person who cares about self-improvement and making the world a
better place. Don’t let the negative individuals instill low self-esteem or doubt in
you. I’m sure you have good intentions and the ability to make your dreams
come true.
Shield yourself from negativity by surrounding yourself with the Light
Side: other people pursuing their goals, empowering books, mentors, and
visiting venues or participating in online communities that exhibit positive
values.
Day 76: On Changing Your Min d When my
information changes, I alter my conclusions. What do
you do, sir?
—John Maynard Keynes 72

I like to say that self-discipline is a powerful force, but only as long as you
apply it deliberately in the right circumstances.
Blindly exerting self-control when your efforts are fruitless and unlikely to
lead to positive results is dangerous because it’s not only a waste of time, but
may also lead to bitterness.
“I was so self-disciplined and yet I failed! Self-discipline is overrated, I’m
done with it!”, a person might exclaim upon realizing that their efforts were for
naught, but failing to notice that their self-discipline wasn’t to be blamed — it
was their wrong use of it that resulted in wasting time.
For example, I once worked in the Search Engine Optimization (SEO)
industry. I helped clients build backlinks to their websites so that they could rank
higher on Google.
In addition to client work, I built my own sites. At one point, I had 40 sites,
each targeting different keywords and covering a different topic. I was extremely
self-disciplined about this business, as I was building new sites every week and
constantly writing new articles for them.
When my revenue had finally shot up to around $1000 a month, Google
introduced an update to their algorithm and my most successful sites dropped in
rankings. My income fell by over 50% overnight. I discovered that it wasn’t
anything new in the SEO industry. Google periodically introduced new updates
and people like me regularly had to rebuild their businesses according to the new
rules.
Upon realizing that my business would forever stand on wobbly legs, I
stopped working on new sites and retreated from the industry. Choosing to stay
self-disciplined would have been the wrong choice, because it would probably
never lead me to building the lucrative, stable business I was seeking to achieve.
From time to time, revise your goals to factor in any new information you
have recently acquired. Does it solidify your reasons to keep going, or is it a sign
that perhaps you should alter your conclusions and refocus your efforts on
something else?
Day 77: On Hurting Yourself with Your Own
Judgments If you are pained by any external thing, it
is not this thing that disturbs you, but your own
judgment about it. And it is in your power to wipe out
this judgment now.
—Marcus Aurelius 73

When people who are on a diet slip up, it’s not that one-off slip-up that
causes them to fail; it’s their judgment about it, namely persuading themselves
that since they made a mistake, all of their prior efforts are now for naught. What
follows is self-guilt, which leads to self-doubt, which awakens the need to self-
comfort, usually by eating forbidden foods (after all, in their minds they’ve
already lost) and subsequently ruining their entire diet.
A similar phenomenon happens with other goals, too. A person saving
money who was forced to spend their entire savings on an emergency expense
might consider it a reason to stop saving money. What’s the point of saving if
one unplanned cost can wipe out the entire fund? Their incorrect judgment of the
situation subsequently destroys the positive habit they’ve built, instead of seeing
the situation as a powerful demonstration of how important saving money is.
Whenever you find yourself doubting that you can achieve your goal
because you made a mistake or failed to hold out against a temptation, remind
yourself that it’s in your power to give this event either a negative or a positive
meaning; you can consider it as a reason to give up or as a valuable lesson that
will help you in your future endeavors.
WEEK 12
Day 78: On Collaboration
Life is not a solo act. It’s a huge collaboration, and we all need to assemble
around us the people who care about us and support us in times of strife.
—Tim Gunn 74

Even though there’s “self” in the word “self-discipline,” it doesn’t mean

that you need to refuse the help of other people or that you need to reinvent the
wheel because you can’t make your decisions based on the knowledge acquired
by other people. It’s easier to put up a fight against temptations and stick to your
resolutions when others have your back. Learning from the experience of others,
regardless if it’s in the form of a book or a conversation, makes things easier,
too.
I’ve greatly benefited from the power of social support by participating in
online forums. I’m pretty sure that if it weren’t for the people I’ve gotten to
know over the years of my entrepreneurial journey, it would have been much
harder for me to reach success. Knowing that the people who inspired me also
had faced obstacles and were tempted to give up, it was easier for me to keep
going when it was me who was facing the immense difficulties.
It doesn’t mean that you need to become great at making online friends,
though. Most of the people who immensely helped me on my journey don’t even
know me — it was the breadcrumbs they left in the form of forum posts and
articles that changed my life, not my friendship with them.
Another way to collaborate is to find a person who will hold you
accountable: a friend who’s on the same journey as you or perhaps an online
support group.
The key to benefiting from this strategy is choosing the right accountability
partner. Go with a person who’s strict, rather than lax, so that when you don’t
feel like doing something, he or she will push you to keep going rather than give
you a pass and a pat on the back. Ideally, this person should be great at what you
want to accomplish, and if not great, at least slightly better than you.
Last but most definitely not least, if there’s a way to accomplish your goal
more quickly through working with a reputable coach and you can afford it, do
that. I learned the fundamental knowledge about self-publishing in just a couple
of weeks, thanks to working with a person who was knowledgeable about the
industry. It greatly shortened my learning curve, inspired me, and helped me
avoid several obstacles that would have otherwise tested my resolve, if not
outright discouraged from entering this business.
Day 79: On Book s Books are the quietest and most
constant of friends; they are the most accessible and
wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers.
—Charles William Eliot 75

Continuing the topic of support, by far the most important friend on my

journey of building self-discipline, developing mental resilience, and working on
my long-term goals were non-fiction books that were written by people who
have achieved my dreams.
Book were, are, and will always be one of the most valuable things a person
wishing to change themselves can learn from to make their dreams come true.
Instead of idle talk about books being incredible — I think I’ve already
made my case clear — today I want to share with you three books I believe you
should read for education and inspiration. Here they are: 1. The Millionaire
Fastlane by MJ DeMarco
The Millionaire Fastlane was the book that changed it all for me when it
comes not only to business, but also my attitude about work and life in general.
In addition to countless lessons about how to start and run a successful business,
you’ll learn how to become a person tuned in to the needs of others, a skill that
will aid you in all kinds of endeavors .
Granted, not everyone equates success with financial success, so if you
don’t care about achieving financial independence, you can probably skip this
book.
2. The One Thing by Gary Keller
Richard Koch is the original author of books about the 80/20 principle
(stating that 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). I strongly
recommend his books, but when it comes to the most accessible introduction to
the topic, Gary Keller’s book is the winner.
The premise behind The One Thing is answering the following question:
“What’s the one thing you can do such that by doing it everything else will be
easier or unnecessary?” The book delves deep into the details on why and how
single focus is so powerful and important for success.
I’ve made this rule one of the most important guiding principles in my life
and I strongly suggest implementing it in your life, too.
3. A Guide to the Good Life by William B. Irvine
Roman Stoicism adapted to the modern world by William B. Irvine is one
of the most helpful life philosophies you can embrace to live a happier life.
Stoics were also big on self-control, mental resilience and preparedness, so
Irvine’s book is an all-encompassing guide on how to banish negative emotions,
gain more happiness, and become a more valuable member of society .
The most important takeaway for me is practicing your resilience by
visualizing bad events. I regularly use this strategy for reducing worry and
increasing my peace of mind.
Day 80: On Cultivating Positivity When Things Go
Bad
Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety
and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens
human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment.
—Grenville Kleiser

Treating everything seriously is a sure-fire recipe for frustration and

depression, particularly when you repeatedly get hit with one obstacle after
another with no chance to catch your breath. Negative thoughts can sprout in
even the most positive minds, but it’s your choice whether you nurture them or
pull them out.
When I was struggling to grow one of my businesses, my laptop broke
down. I not only had to buy a new computer to be able to continue working, but
also pay a steep fee to have my data recovered (I’ve since learned how important
regular data backup is!).
To make matters worse, all of that happened while I was deep in debt. I
tried to keep my spirits high, but make no mistake — it was one of the darkest,
most hopeless periods of my life. Still, if it weren’t for at least trying to be
positive about the future, I’m sure I would have had a challenging time sticking
to the business that had landed me in so much trouble.
I’m not going to sugarcoat it. You will face seemingly hopeless situations
and your self-discipline will be tested on numerous occasions. How will you
maintain good spirits despite the negative circumstances? What are your most
effective techniques to make yourself feel better?
I strongly suggest creating a list of simple ways you can improve your
mood that you’ll be able to turn to when you find yourself in a distressing
situation.
Day 81: On Identifying Your Resources
With every accident, ask yourself what abilities you have for making a
proper use of it. If you see an attractive person, you will find that self-restraint is
the ability you have against your desire. If you are in pain, you will find
fortitude. If you hear unpleasant language, you will find patience.
—Epictetus 76

For every problem you face, there’s an ability or resource you can tap into
to overcome it. The key is to discover what it is and immediately put it to use.
Unfortunately, many people default to discouragement or frustration rather than
adopt a resourceful attitude and look for possible solutions.
Little good comes out of covering your eyes, wishing the problem will go
away on its own. The best way to prepare yourself for setbacks is to visualize
them and seek solutions before these problems materialize. Not all of your
negative predictions will come to pass, but the ones that do won’t paralyze you
as much if you prepare yourself for them.
For example, if you’re on a diet, think of some common scenarios that
might jeopardize your adherence to it. What will you do if somebody you always
wanted to meet invites you to dinner at a less than healthy restaurant? What will
you do if you find yourself starving at the airport while waiting for the
connecting flight? What will you do when you fail to resist the temptation to eat
chocolate and turn an unplanned treat into a full-blown cheat day?
By creating a list of potential solutions while being at the top of your game
and not being influenced by negative emotions, you’ll save yourself the time and
energy that is wasted on trying to solve problems with a clouded mind.
Day 82: On Extreme Focus
Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life — think of it, dream of it,
live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full
of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.
—Swami Vivekananda 77

While flawless, 100% focus on a single idea is close to impossible for a

modern human being, there’s a lot you can gain from focusing as much as you
can on just one goal. In fact, I consider it so important that I wrote an entire book
about it titled The Ultimate Focus Strategy .
There are two primary benefits of making a single idea your life.
The first one is that limiting your focus to a single thing requires a great
deal of self-discipline, which subsequently makes it an excellent exercise in
cultivating self-control. I’ve acquired a lot of self-discipline (and finally
achieved my goal of building a successful business) thanks to limiting my focus
to one business model. Sticking to one thing has taught me the value of patience,
dedication, and made me realize how powerful small (and consistent)
improvements can be over the long term.
The second benefit of extreme focus is that by centering your life around
the one most important endeavor, you’ll be more likely to reach it than if you
were to spread your attention thin.
You have higher chances of implementing new nutritional habits and losing
20 pounds (or 10 kilos) in the next six months than trying to lose weight while
also implementing a new workout routine, building a side business, fighting
against your fear of public speaking, saving money for an emergency fund, and
learning a foreign language.
If self-discipline is a resource that you can deplete (scientists are still trying
to figure it out), it makes sense to spend it judiciously, starting with your most
important goal.
Day 83: On Changing Your Identity
Every time you make a decision to stick with your principles instead of
indulging your weaknesses, you get stronger spiritually. And eventually this
spiritual strength becomes a part of your identity. I don’t think of myself as a
nonsmoker or “ex-” anything, because smoking and other vices are things I
would never do in a million years.
—Frank McKinney 78

The only way to instill a permanent change is to change your identity. As

long as you define yourself by a behavior you want to eliminate, your efforts to
change will be in vain because subconsciously, you’ll treat your changes as a
temporary situation.
I don’t define myself as a person who doesn’t take drugs — I’ve never done
drugs and never plan on doing them. Why would I define myself as a non-drug
user?
In essence, that’s what people do when they say they’re ex-smokers or ex-
convicts. That’s behind you. Embrace the present and develop a different,
positive definition of yourself that will explain who you are and what you do
today, not what you’re no longer about or what you’re no longer doing.
As a vegetarian, I don’t think of myself as a person who used to eat meat.
I’m a person who eats a plant-based diet. It doesn’t matter how flavorful you tell
me this piece of chicken is — I won’t eat it .
Your decision to be self-disciplined has to be equally firm. Don’t define
yourself as a person who used to be lazy or lacking discipline. Define yourself as
a person who’s doing his or her best to ensure the best future possible. No matter
how enticing the temptations are, your self-definition will ensure that you’ll stay
away from them.
Day 84: On Work and Chatter The only relationship
between work and chatter is that one kills the other.
Let the others slap each other on the back while you’re back in the lab or
the gym or pounding the pavement.
—Ryan Holiday 79

If you often talk about what you’re going to do instead of doing it, you’re
not only wasting time you could have spent working on your goal, but also run
the risk of not doing anything at all.
Self-congratulatory chatter carries with it the danger that you confuse it
with what actually matters: work. Merely talking about your goals doesn’t turn
you into a person who is working on them.
This phenomenon is most visible in entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurs who
talk the most are usually the ones doing the least. They attend every seminar,
meet-up, workshop, and are heavy social media users, but when it comes to
making actual progress with their business, somehow it slips between the cracks.
Some of them don’t even have an actual business. They’re in a never-ending
“research phase.”
But don’t worry, everybody thinks you’re taking a lot of action based on
how much you talk about business and that’s what matters, right? Sadly, while it
can gain you points for popularity among the gullible, it isn’t a substitute for
work and achievement.
To ensure that you actually do the work and get the results, be cautious
talking about your goals with others. Use a simple rule of thumb: if you’re
talking merely to show off, save it. If you’re talking to gather valuable feedback
or get support, do it, but what’s more important, actually act on the advice you
receive.
WEEK 13
Day 85: On Experimenting to See What Happens
It often feels like everything is so serious — that if you make one mistake, it
will all end in disaster. But really everything you do is just a test: an experiment
to “see what happens”.
—Derek Sivers 80

I learned how to feel good in spite of failure when I adopted the “let’s see
what happens” mentality. Now, whenever I want to try something new that has
an uncertain chance of success, I tell myself it’s an experiment. I assume that
whatever I invest in it, I invest it to gather data, and not necessarily to get a
return.
For example, I started investing in video courses for my business. In the
end, it was a spectacular failure, but I wasn’t particularly worried about it
because my experiment was still a success: it proved that my business idea
wasn’t a good one. I also learned a lot working on this goal, and that alone was
worth it. I’m not sure if I would have taken action if I had told myself that this
endeavor absolutely must deliver a positive return.
You can apply the same mentality to every other goal. For example, if
you’re afraid that you’ll fail to develop a habit of getting up early, consider it a
30-day experiment to see how waking up early will make you feel and whether
you’ll be more productive. When you think of it this way, you ensure from the
get-go that no matter how your experiment goes, it’s a success. After all, you
aren’t trying to make a permanent change: you only want to test a hypothesis.
Usually, if the experiment goes well, it leads to a permanent change
anyway, and that’s the purpose of adopting this different mindset: you’re
breaking through the initial resistance by lowering your expectations, and you
consequently eliminate the fear of failure.
Day 86: On the Spillover Effect of Success
I’ve come to believe that success at anything has a spillover effect on other
things. You can take advantage of that effect by becoming good at things that
require nothing but practice. Once you become good at a few unimportant
things, such as hobbies or sports, the habit of success stays with you on more
important quests.
—Scott Adams 81

The first time I discovered that success in one area results in success in
other walks of life was when I started exercising. Thanks to my own efforts, I
got stronger, lost weight and gained some muscle. This small success made me
realize that I had control over my life.
From then on, I embarked on other projects to change my life, including
objectives as varied as overcoming shyness and building self-confidence,
launching my first business, living in a foreign country, learning foreign
languages, and eventually becoming a self-published author.
If you don’t believe in your abilities to succeed, heed Scott Adams’ advice
and pick something that requires nothing but practice to become good at it.
Invest several months of your life into it and when you notice progress — based
entirely on your own efforts, not “luck” — I’m sure you’ll discover in yourself
the power to tackle other challenges .
In addition to that, every goal you’re consistently working on will help you
develop the proper habits and traits needed to achieve success. Whether it’s
learning how to play chess, dancing, learning Russian, setting up a backyard
garden, or mastering table tennis, the real-world experience of going from a
complete newbie to a person knowledgeable about the topic will transform you
from the inside out.
Day 87: On Attributing Failure to External Factors
When interpreting their own failures (...) individuals
tend to make external attributions, pointing to factors
that are outside of their direct control (such as luck).
As a result, their motivation to exert effort on the
same task in the future is reduced.
—Bradley R. Staats 82

Failure can offer valuable feedback that will help you achieve your goal.
Unfortunately, many people lose the learning opportunity by attributing the
failure to an external factor, such as luck.
Consequently, instead of identifying the root cause in something they did,
they wrongly assume that they had no control over the situation. This not only
makes them less likely to exert equal effort during subsequent attempts (which in
itself reduces their chances of success), but also increases the risk they’ll repeat
the same mistakes over and over again.
As a result, they enter a downward spiral: each failure makes them less
motivated to try again, and soon they give up, frustrated at how unfair the world
is. It wasn’t really the world that was responsible; it was their own failure to take
responsibility for their failure and learn from it.
Make sure that whenever you fail, you always look for the cause of the
failure in something that you did, and not in something that you couldn’t control
.
Even when it looks as if something was indeed outside of your control, it
doesn’t mean that you didn’t make any mistakes that might have increased the
chances of such an outcome. Identifying those mistakes — even if they were
only partially responsible for the failure — will help you in future attempts and
prevent you from developing the unhelpful mindset that you don’t have direct
influence over your life.
For example, if you weren’t hired by your dream company, perhaps it
wasn’t your fault. Maybe there was a better candidate, the hiring manager didn’t
like you, or the company later decided against hiring a new employee.
However, even in such a case, it’s valuable to ponder whether there was
anything you could have done better. Perhaps you could have improved your
resume, asked better questions during the interview, or been better prepared for
the questions you had assumed were unlikely to be asked.
Maybe it still wouldn’t have resulted in success, but at least that way you
will have learned something new that will increase your chances of getting hired
the next time, and consequently, you get to lift your spirits and boost your
determination.
Day 88: On the Comfort Zone
People will do almost anything to stay in their comfort zones. If you want to
accomplish anything, get out of your comfort zone. Strive to increase order and
discipline in your life. Discipline usually means doing the opposite of what you
feel like doing.
—Dave Kekich 83

I used to be terrified of heights. When I was a teenager, I remember shaking

with fear while I stood on top of a 130-feet (40 meters) tower, afraid to approach
the railing. Today, I hike through the high mountains and climb cliffs up to the
same height as that of the tower. I jumped out of the airplane, visited the tallest
building in the world as of 2017 (Burj Khalifa in Dubai) and flew in a hot-air
balloon — things I would have never done in a million years if it weren’t for my
consistent attempts to face my fear of heights.
Don’t get me wrong: I still experience fear, but it has greatly diminished,
thanks to years of stepping outside of my comfort zone. Exposing myself to
heights was the opposite of what I felt like doing, but I knew it was necessary to
help me grow. What started as a mere desire to get rid of a fear of heights turned
into a full-blown personal transformation.
Whether it’s a fear of heights, an aversion to exercise, or any other kind of
animosity toward the uncomfortable, scary, or out of the ordinary, stretching
your comfort zone by gradually exposing yourself to such stimuli will lead to
immense personal growth.
I strongly recommend regularly stepping outside your comfort zone in both
little and big ways .
Little ways can include something as simple as pushing a little bit harder
during a workout or working for a little while longer when you feel like you’re
about to fall asleep.
Big ways include things like skydiving if you’re afraid of heights, camping
in the wilderness if your biggest love in life is your warm, comfortable bed, or
learning public speaking when you’re terrified of speaking in front of more than
two people.
As uncomfortable and difficult it is to step outside your comfort zone, it
pays incredible dividends in the long run. Make it an inherent part of your life to
expose yourself to discomfort and face your fears head on. Few things will
change your life more than going outside of your comfort zone.
Day 89: On Not Making Excuses You have to deliver
results when making excuses is an option.
—Dan Waldschmidt 84

Self-discipline comes down to choosing between instant and delayed

gratification. Instant gratification feels good today but compromises your long-
term goals, while delayed gratification usually doesn’t deliver much in the way
of instant pleasure, but it can lead to bigger rewards in the future.
Sometimes you’ll find yourself in a situation in which you’ll be able to
make excuses; they may even sound so sensible that (upon hearing your
rationalizations) nobody would question your backing out of that situation.
However, don’t let them fool you — even if there’s some legitimacy to them, in
most cases it’s still nothing other than choosing instant gratification.
For example, if you want to establish a habit of jogging three times a week
and one day it rains and you’re afraid you’ll get sick, you have a valid excuse to
skip exercise. After all, there is a higher risk of getting sick when running in bad
weather, right?
However, it sets a dangerous precedent: you’re making a decision that your
habits depend on the weather. Your self-control (or your lack of it) is now at the
mercy of external factors, largely dependent on whether jogging in the given
circumstances is easy or not. Is this the right way to build mental toughness and
self-discipline ?
If you decide to keep going instead of defaulting to the easy choice of using
(partly valid) excuses, you’ll immensely strengthen your resolve. It takes even
more discipline — and consequently offers a greater opportunity to exercise
your self-control muscle — to stick to something when you have a good
justification to not do it.
Day 90: On Quitting in a Smart Way Quitting when
you’re panicked is dangerous and expensive. The best
quitters are the ones who decide in advance when
they’re going to quit. You can always quit later — so
wait until you’re done panicking to decide.
—Seth Godin 85

They say that quitters never win, and winners never quit. However, quitting
is sometimes more beneficial than stubbornly sticking to something that’s not
working for you. The key is to quit in a smart way — as the result of a process of
logical thinking, not on a whim in the heat of the moment.
For example, after a couple of years of sticking to a bodybuilding routine
I’d grown tired of it. I was often so annoyed during the workout that I wanted to
stop it and go home. However, doing so would have allowed my temporary state
of mind to make the decision — and that could have negatively affected my
resolve in similar situations in the future where, having once allowed myself to
quit on a whim, I would consider it a sensible thing to do again.
I took my time and carefully considered the implications of giving up
bodybuilding before I finally parted ways with it. This way, I quit strategically
instead of impulsively .
If you’re currently discouraged with a certain goal of yours, make a
decision that you won’t quit until you can make a logical, educated decision that
will take into account all of the repercussions of doing so. After carefully
considering your options and their logical consequences, if you still want to quit,
you’re probably making the right choice.
Day 91: On Starting Now We don’t tell ourselves,
“I’m never going to write my symphony.” Instead we
say, “I am going to write my symphony; I’m just
going to start tomorrow.”
—Steven Pressfield 86

Here’s a principle to introduce today and adhere to it for the rest of your
life: whenever you’re saying “I’m going to start tomorrow,” stop whatever
you’re doing now and do something — anything — to start now .
It doesn’t have to be anything big and it doesn’t mean you have to be
reckless and start working on your goals without any kind of research on how to
tackle your new challenge. Just take an action that is in alignment with your new
resolution and it will take you at least a little bit closer to accomplishing your
objectives.
Let’s say you want to start a new diet. Instead of saying that you’re going to
start tomorrow, take the first action today: inspect your pantry, lay out on the
table all of the foods that you’re going to give up, and get them out of your
house.
If you want to start saving money, don’t put it off until your next paycheck.
Inspect your house, find things you no longer use and list them online for sale.
The money you make from selling your old possessions goes straight to your
emergency fund.
Such simple actions are real-world implementations of your new resolution
and will greatly diminish the risk that when you wake up the next day, you won’t
remember your decision to change your life ( or tell yourself that you need one
more day before you start). They also make it easier to overcome your inertia
and begin to develop momentum toward reaching your stated goal.
WEEK 14
Day 92: On Pleasure Gained from Abstaining
If you are struck by the appearance of any promised pleasure, guard
yourself against being hurried away by it; but let the affair wait your leisure,
and procure yourself some delay. Then bring to your mind both points of time:
that in which you will enjoy the pleasure, and that in which you will repent and
reproach yourself after you have enjoyed it; and set before you, in opposition to
these, how you will be glad and applaud yourself if you abstain.
—Epictetus 87

When you delay gratification, it’s tempting to think about it in black and
white: delaying gratification means no pleasure now in exchange for pleasure in
the future. Succumbing to instant gratification means some pleasure now at the
expense of your future. In reality, things aren’t that simple.
As Epictetus says, there’s pleasure to be found in abstaining. When you
successfully deny yourself something, even if you feel deprived of it, at the same
time you’ll feel proud of acting in accordance with your values and long-term
goals.
And what might surprise you is that there’s some pain found in instant
gratification. Yes, you get to enjoy the reward right now, but this also means that
you’re betraying your future self. You’re missing out on the positive feelings
you could have gotten by successfully exerting willpower and in the end, the
anger you feel at yourself might not be worth the initial pleasure.
Day 93: On Connecting Dots
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect
them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect
in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma,
whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give
you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well-worn
path and that will make all the difference.
—Steve Jobs 88

All you need to do to achieve your long-term goals is to stick to them. Easy
to say, hard to do, particularly when working on those objectives means months
upon months of depriving yourself, making sacrifices and hard choices.
That’s why the belief that things will connect in the end is so important for
maintaining a high level of self-discipline over the long term. Willpower alone is
a precious tool in your arsenal, but if it isn’t combined with the confidence that
one day it will all be worth it, you may run out of juice well before reaching that
point.
When I started my entrepreneurial life, I instilled in myself the belief that
no matter what would happen along the way, every sacrifice, hardship, blood,
sweat, and tears would be worth it in the end. I had a powerful reason why, and I
was confident that I could make it come true.
If it weren’t for this belief, I know that I would have given up before
reaching my objective. And with a more than fair share of knockout-like failures,
this would have probably happened a long time before the dots would have
finally connected. It took me seven years before all of my dots — previous
experiences and acquired skills — connected and helped me build a successful
self-publishing company.
When in doubt, remind yourself that change takes time. What you now see
as completely unrelated things can soon connect and form a beautiful picture.
Day 94: On Overidentifying With Your Emotions
People overidentify with their emotions. “I was really
mad; I couldn’t help it.”
—Mark Manson 89

“I was tired, so I didn’t do my workout.” But were you really so tired that
you couldn’t at least try, or did you feel slightly tired and consider it a great
excuse to skip exercise altogether?
“I was angry, so I shouted at her.” But does feeling anger mean that you
have to vent it, or did shouting at your spouse simply feel better than trying to
resist the urge to do so?
“I felt so joyous, I had to buy it to celebrate.” There’s nothing wrong in
celebration, but if every joyous occasion leads to unnecessary purchases to treat
yourself, isn’t your joy really acting as an apparently legitimate excuse for not
saving money?
Take notice of whenever you overidentify with your emotions. How often
do you use them as excuses for failing to exert self-control? Letting your fleeting
feelings control your actions is a sure-fire way to jeopardize your resolve to
become a self-disciplined person.
Day 95: On Early-morning Workouts
I learned the advantage of training early, before the day starts, when there
are no other responsibilities and nobody else is asking anything of you.
—Arnold Schwarzenegger 90

There’s a reason why so many successful people wake up early: early

mornings tend to be free of distractions — people asking things of you,
emergencies you need to tend to, and dozens of obligations you need to fulfill.
By the time other people are awake, the early risers have accomplished more
than the rest will accomplish during their entire workday.
One of the best ways to start a day is with exercise. For one, exercising in
the morning means that you’ll always have time to perform this crucial habit.
Leaving exercise for the evening carries the risk of skipping it because of
tiredness or other pressing things that require your attention.
Second, exercising in the morning sets a powerful example for the rest of
the day: you start the day with a conscious decision to do something that requires
self-control and dedication. The way you start your day is usually the way the
entire day unfolds.
Last but not least, training early is usually most effective because that’s
when you have the most energy. It’s hard to have the same reserves of willpower
and stamina in the evening, after you’ve depleted a lot of your mental energy on
other things.
If possible, try to include exercise in your morning routine. It doesn’t have
to be an entire workout if for some reason you need to have your workout in the
evening. Even just a few reps of some simple exercises, some stretching or a
quick walk around the block can provide benefits and start your day on the right
note.
Day 96: On Silenc e Silence is the absolute poise or
balance of body, mind, and spirit. The man who
preserves his selfhood ever calm and unshaken by the
storms of existence — not a leaf, as it were, astir on
the tree; not a ripple upon the surface of shining pool
— his, in the mind of the unlettered sage, is the ideal
attitude and conduct of life. (…) If you ask [him]:
“What are the fruits of silence?” he will say: “They
are self-control, true courage or endurance, patience,
dignity, and reverence. Silence is the cornerstone of
character.”
—Charles Alexander Eastman 91

In today’s noisy world, silence is uncomfortable. Most of us rarely, if ever,

experience true silence. We listen to podcasts when exercising, listen to music
when commuting, and interrupt work with a chat or two with colleagues.
Silence is uncomfortable, because it means there are no outside distractions:
it’s just you and your thoughts. Silence in a conversation is even more
uncomfortable because there’s an unspoken rule that when people have nothing
to talk about, they should come up with any topic just to avoid an awkward
silence that might require them to become fully present and aware of how they
really feel.
Since silence can bring so much discomfort, it can be a potent tool to
improve your self-control.
First, sitting in silence and listening to your inner thoughts without any
external distractions can help you slow down and analyze your recent decisions
or assess how well you’re doing with your new goals. Try to spend at least five
minutes a week in silence and you’ll be surprised how much valuable feedback
you can retrieve from within you.
As a second strategy, embrace silence in a conversation. No, I don’t mean
that you should make the conversation weird by deliberately not saying
anything. I refer to using silence as an exercise in improving your self-control
when dealing with other people.
For example, try the following challenge for one day: when talking with
somebody who has a different opinion than you do, resist the temptation to
immediately attack them and instead listen silently until they have fully
presented their arguments. You will have positioned yourself for a more
intelligent participation in the conversation, simply because you took the time to
listen carefully to what the other person said.
Another exercise is to practice self-control by using fewer words. For one
day, focus on listening to the other person. Ask as many questions as you can to
maintain an interesting conversation and resist the urge to comment or share too
many of your opinions.
Both of these exercises will train you to be more focused on the other
person and less impulsive during a conversation.
Day 97: On Treating Yourself Wel l Nearly every
human action is in some way an expression of how we
think about ourselves.
—Gordon Livingston 92

If nearly every action of yours is an expression of how you think about

yourself, what do your actions say about how you see yourself?
If a person is stuffing themselves with unhealthy food and drinks, do they
respect their bodies or is it an expression that they don’t value the only vessel
they’ll ever have in this life?
If a person is constantly playing video games, watching pornography, or
trolling on social media, what does choosing to engage full-time in such low-
value entertainment options say about their self-esteem? If for one day they were
to play host to an important guest — say a successful person they admire —
would they entertain their guest in the same way?
If a person is spending money they don’t have and never saving even a
penny, how much respect do they have for their own well-being, knowing that
financial emergencies do happen and that, without savings, they can be some of
the most stressful events in life?
Consider your actions and ask yourself what they express. Do you treat
yourself well or are most of your actions things you would never do to a dear
friend of yours?
Day 98: On Society (Not) Holding You Back It’s not
society that holds us back, it’s ourselves. We just
blame society because not only is it easier but it’s a
nearly impossible weight to move. This way, we don’t
actually have to change.
—Neil Strauss 93

It’s easy to use society as a crutch.

“I can’t lose weight because there are billboards of fast food restaurants
everywhere, and besides, I just got a free coupon for a burger.”
“I can’t become more productive because my colleagues laugh at me for
making an effort, and besides, my boss won’t appreciate it anyway.”
“I can’t stay faithful to my significant other because dating apps make it so
easy to meet sexy people.”
Is it the billboard, your colleagues, or dating apps that control your life? If
so, is that really how you’d like to live — at the whim of advertisers, other
people, or new technologies?
Every time you claim that it’s the surroundings that hold you back, ask
yourself if it’s really your environment or perhaps it’s just an easy excuse for
you to not act. And if you still think it’s your surroundings — because that might
be the case — then change them.
Nobody forces you to hang out with the same people, install a dating app,
or drive by your favorite fast food joints. If your long-term goals are important
to you, you can always consider moving to a place that will be more conducive
to your personal growth.
WEEK 15
Day 99: On Applying Knowledge Reading 32 books
means you’re reading a lot, but does it mean you’re
applying it?
—Darren Hardy 94

It’s day 99, so you’ve already read 98 entries, with most of them offering
tips you can immediately implement in your life. How many have you applied so
far? If the answer is zero and you have no intention of doing so, what’s the point
of continuing to read this book?
Whenever you’re reading a non-fiction book for educational purposes, try
to find at least one important lesson that you’ll apply in your life. It doesn’t have
to be anything big — the point is to develop a habit of applying at least some
knowledge from each book you read.
I’ll give you some examples from my own reading list.
When I read The One Thing by Gary Keller, I decided to always seek only
one key action to improve any given area of my life. In the case of my self-
publishing business, it was the decision to stick to a consistent publishing
schedule (an activity I discovered to be the one thing that makes everything else
easier or unnecessary) and foregoing any other endeavors that take a lot of time,
but bring few results (such as participating in social media) .
When I educated myself about dividend stock investing by reading some
books, countless articles and blog posts, I used their suggestions for building my
own portfolio. Within a couple of weeks of educating myself about dividend
stocks, I’d already bought some shares.
When I read two practical books about rock climbing, I identified a
technique I considered to be a key tool for self-improvement (establishing a
specific intention prior to scaling a wall, such as an intention to focus on proper
hip-positioning), and started using it during my workouts.
If you finish a non-fiction book and don’t act upon any of its suggestions,
you’ve wasted time. When reading, always think about how you can apply the
teachings in your own life — not about how you can finish the book faster so
you can begin reading another one.
Day 100: On Being a Leader
If you wish to control others you must first control yourself.
—Miyamoto Musashi 95

One good way to boost your willpower when you’re struggling to maintain
it is to remind yourself of the benefits of self-control. In other words, give
yourself an answer as to why you should resist yet another temptation and stay
self-disciplined. Failing to find a good answer will make you succumb to the
urge, so it’s useful to know as many practical benefits of self-discipline as
possible.
One overlooked benefit of self-control — or a big weakness in a person
who lacks it — is that leadership is impossible without it. If you demand self-
discipline from others, you should first have it yourself. Otherwise, you’ll lack
the credibility that makes other people want to follow you.
This applies not only to the most common use of the word “leader” (such as
a business leader), but also to any other role in which you’re responsible for the
well-being of another person of a group of people — being a parent, being in a
relationship, being a part of a local community, etc.
Whenever you’re struggling to stay disciplined, think of people whom you
consider your loyal “followers,” whether they’re your colleagues, your children,
your friends, or your neighbors.
What would they think of you — and would they still be willing to follow
you — if they knew that you’d failed to embrace the quality that they admire in
you so much that they consider you an important person in their lives?
Day 101: On the Ultimate Excellence in Self-Discipline
Ultimate excellence lies not in winning every battle,
but in defeating the enemy without ever fighting.
—Sun Tzu 96

Some people wrongly believe that self-discipline is a never-ending series of

battles with temptations. Today you’re battling against the temptation to drink
wine, tomorrow you’ll battle against the temptation of laziness, and the day after
tomorrow you’ll struggle with a temptation to eat pizza instead of steamed
vegetables. In the meantime, you’ll have dozens of smaller skirmishes, each
attacking you from a different front.
In reality, if your life looks like that, there’s little chance that you’ll stay
self-disciplined in the long haul. The ultimate goal is to design your life in such a
way that you’ll rarely fight against temptations. There are three primary tools
you can use for that: 1. Identity change. When your identity changes, you no
longer need to desperately fight against temptations because you don’t see them
as such. If eating potato chips daily is no longer a part of your identity, there’s
no temptation to defeat; previously overpowering urges are now a non-issue
because they are incongruent with your new identity.
2. Habits. Unlike identity change, you might still need some self-discipline
to act or to overcome a temptation, but it will be only a modicum of what had
been necessary before you established your routine. Instead of a full-blown
battle, either you won’t need to fight at all, or it will be a short brawl at most.
3. Avoiding temptations. If you don’t want to eat fast food, avoid fast food
restaurants. There’s little benefit in needlessly exposing yourself to temptations,
particularly when you know that the enemy is hard to beat.
Day 102: On the Deeper Meaning Behind
Temptations Monastic rules that advise renouncing
liquor, renouncing sex, and so on are not pointing out
that those things are inherently bad or immoral, but
that we use them as babysitters. We use them as a way
to escape; we use them to try to get comfort and to
distract ourselves.
—Pema Chödrön 97

Deconstructing a temptation piece by piece can uncover interesting facts

about why you engage in them at all. Of course, you can say that you eat
chocolate simply because you enjoy its taste. However, what if there’s a deeper
meaning behind it, a need it fulfills beyond the need for something sweet to eat?
If you address this need in a different, more positive way, you’ll no longer need
to eat chocolate.
I’ll share with you a personal example of mine. I was once going through a
period in which I couldn’t control my eating. I would eat a big meal that would
normally satisfy me for the entire day, and then would continue eating afterward
— sometimes a few snacks, sometimes another large meal an hour or two later.
I discovered that the primary reason behind this behavior wasn’t hunger in
itself; I ate a lot because I didn’t have anything productive to do, and I didn’t
have anything productive to do because I felt slightly depressed. I was in a
downward spiral: I was low-spirited and demotivated, so I didn’t take any
actions that led to boredom. Then, because I wanted to fill my days with
something , I filled them with food. When I came up with a new business goal
and started working more, the problem soon disappeared.
Think about your problematic behaviors and temptations and seek a deeper
meaning behind them. Why do you use these particular methods to comfort or
distract yourself? Why do you need to comfort or distract yourself in the first
place? What is the trigger or emotional need that leads to the negative behavior
and what kind of emotional payoff do you expect to get out of engaging in it?
Day 103: On Controlled Burn Small forest fires
periodically cleanse the system of the most flammable
material, so this does not have the opportunity to
accumulate.
—Nassim Taleb 98

Fire is a natural part of the forest ecology. Regular small fires serve a
cleansing purpose, reducing the amount of fuel build-up and consequently
lowering the likelihood of a potentially large, disastrous fire.
Fires promote the growth and biodiversity of surviving healthy vegetation
when the old, sickly trees burn and the ashes add nutrients to the soil. Moreover,
burned trees provide habitat for the wildlife which often grows in numbers after
a fire.
A controlled burn is a strategy that foresters around the world use to
regulate plant and animal life, usually as a way to reduce the risk of a larger,
uncontrolled fire.
You can use a similar strategy: give yourself some slack every now and
then to prevent yourself from a massive, uncontrollable loss of self-discipline.
The most obvious application of this technique is in dieting: allowing
yourself a cheat meal every now and that will help you avoid an unplanned cheat
day or cheat week that could result in disastrous consequences for your long-
term progress.
You can use a controlled burn in any other endeavor that requires you to
maintain high levels of self-discipline for a long period of time. For example, if
you’re working hard on your business, every other week give yourself an entire
day to slack off instead of working your fingers to the bone and burning out.
Controlled burns, as long as they remain controlled and limited to a defined
period of time, can increase your long-term discipline, so don’t feel guilty about
scheduling one every now and then. You might temporarily lose some
momentum, but in the long haul it will be worth it.
Day 104: On the Past Predicting the Future
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
—Phil McGraw 99

If yet again you’re telling yourself that you’ll do something once X or Y

happens, stop fooling yourself; the pop psychology maxim of past behavior
being the best predictor of future behavior is absolutely correct for that situation.
This cynical rule isn’t always right. If it were, nobody would ever be able to
change. However, it holds true whenever you’ve been thinking of doing
something for years and always ended up by putting it off, thinking that when
the conditions would change, you’d certainly do it.
There’s only one way to get out of this trap: when you catch yourself
making a list of the right conditions before you act on your goal, tear the list up
and take action now.
If you’re telling yourself that once the conditions are right, you’ll surely do
it, count how many times you told yourself the same thing before (and didn’t
ever do it at all) and add one more instance — because that’s what most
certainly will happen this time, too.
Day 105: On Predicting When You’ll Give In
People who think they have the most willpower are actually the most likely
to lose control when tempted. Why? They fail to predict when, where, and why
they will give in.
—Kelly McGonigal 100

If you don’t know yourself well, you’ll struggle with building self-
discipline because temptations will often catch you unprepared.
A key practice you should embrace in your everyday life is to make a note
of when, where, and why you give in to temptations. This knowledge will help
you structure your life in such a way that you’ll reduce the chances of a similar
situation happening again or help you become prepared to overcome the urge
when it arises again.
For example, I know that when I take a nap during the day, I’ll most likely
wake up hungry. I have no idea why; all I know is that if I fall asleep during the
day, it’s almost guaranteed that I’ll wake up so hungry that I’ll have to eat
something — and while it’s usually a piece of fruit and some nuts, often (in my
still groggy state) I’ll overeat.
Consequently, whenever I feel tired and know that I’ll need to take a nap, I
mentally prepare myself for the hunger when I wake up. If I can, I simply eat
less prior to taking the nap so that when I wake up, I won’t eat more than my
intended daily calorie ration. Alternatively, I try to set up a meeting with a friend
so that when I wake up, I’ll immediately have to leave, with no time to spare for
a visit to the pantry.
Think of some of your most common slip-ups and figure out when, where,
and why they happen. What can you do when you’re most likely to give in to the
temptation? What can you do to avoid visiting the venue where they’re most
likely to happen? Why do you think you’re succumbing to this temptation and is
there any other way in which you can address the need this temptation fulfills,
without actually giving in to it?
WEEK 16
Day 106: On Valuing Your Own Opinion
I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all
the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the
opinion of others.
—Marcus Aurelius 101

Publicly refusing instant gratification — such as ordering a salad when

everybody around you orders a pizza — can result in criticism from other
people. If you lack trust in yourself, this negative feedback can cause self-doubt
and compromise your long-term goals.
As Marcus Aurelius points out, it’s a curious fact that even though we
consider ourselves the most important people in our lives, we still often value the
opinion of others more than our own.
Usually people who are the opposite of what you want to accomplish
criticize you out of fear of being inferior to you. If you manage to reach success,
what does it say about them? Consequently, even if they aren’t malicious by
nature, you may sense resistance coming from their direction, often
masquerading as good-hearted advice, but intended to make you conform to the
status quo.
While I doubt that there is a foolproof way to stop valuing the opinion of
others more than our own (and I doubt that it would be smart to assume that we
know everything best) forever, there is a way to protect yourself from self-doubt
upon hearing criticism.
It’s really quite simple. Whenever somebody criticizes your choices, ask
yourself if they can serve as a model for you. If your overweight friend ridicules
your resolution to stop eating fast food, is his or her opinion valuable for you?
Does he or she set a positive example and have the credibility to change your
mind? If not, why listen to him or her?
Day 107: On the Innocent Distractions Distraction
and displacement seem innocent on the surface. How
can we be harming ourselves by having fun, or
seeking romance, or enjoying the fruits of this big,
beautiful world? But lives go down the tubes one
repetition at a time, one deflection at a time, one
hundred and forty characters at a time.
—Steven Pressfield 102

While it may seem that I place self-discipline as the most important thing in
life, I want to clarify that that’s not the case. We weren’t made for work alone
and it’s important to celebrate what life has to offer, particularly as a reward
after a job well done.
However, we weren’t made for constantly entertaining ourselves and
engaging in low-quality pleasures, either. These innocent distractions can make
life more pleasurable, but at the same time a monster hides behind the
innocence: developing an erroneous belief that there’s nothing wrong with
exceptions.
An exception every now and then won’t hurt you, but when you do it
regularly, it isn’t an exception anymore; it’s a habit. And that’s how people
continue to drink fizzy drinks, while they said a long time ago they’d stop; how
people continue spending money they don’t have, even though they vowed to
make smart purchases; and how people watch TV instead of learning for their
next exam.
“Doing it just one more time” quickly converts into another, another, and
yet another exception, and soon the exception becomes the new norm. Every
time you catch yourself saying that you’re going to do it for the last time,
remember that (as Steven Pressfield nicely put it), lives go down the tubes one
exception at a time.
Day 108: On Following a Routin e
I only write when inspiration strikes. Fortunately it strikes at nine every
morning.
—William Faulkner 103

If you depend on inspiration to act on your goals, don’t expect to achieve

them quickly (if ever).
The only way to ensure that you consistently advance toward your
objectives is to establish a routine and force inspiration upon yourself. It works
in the same way as with people who always feel hunger at the same time:
they’ve accustomed their bodies to eating at the same hour every day.
My preferred time to write is early morning. That’s when inspiration strikes
me — but it’s only so because I established a routine and followed it religiously
for years. Likewise, an inspiration to improve my foreign language skills strikes
me at nine in the morning because that’s when I usually have language classes.
Again — I don’t rely on fickle and elusive motivation; I rely on a routine.
You can benefit from routines when working on virtually any other goal.
Always exercise at the same hour, and soon you’ll train yourself to be ready
for exercise at the same hour.
Always meditate right after waking up, and soon you’ll find yourself
automatically inspired to meditate upon getting out of your bed .
Always set aside a fixed portion of your income each week or each month,
and soon you won’t even think twice before sending it away to your emergency
fund.
Making your life predictable by sticking to a set of routines might seem
boring, but imagine how exciting it will be to finally accomplish your goals,
thanks to following those routines! It also uses less energy when you follow the
routines as a habit, so you can accomplish more with less energy, leaving you
more time and energy for other things that increase your pleasure in the journey
itself.
Day 109: On the Size of Container s
Moviegoers who were given fresh popcorn ate 45.3% more popcorn when it
was given to them in large containers. This container-size influence is so
powerful that even when the popcorn was disliked, people still ate 33.6% more
popcorn when eating from a large container than from a medium-size container.
—Brian Wansink 104

Sometimes weird tips can go a long way toward helping you accomplish
some common goals, such as losing weight.
In the cited study, the size of the popcorn containers affected how much
people ate from them. What’s interesting is that, even if they didn’t like popcorn,
when they were eating it from a larger container, they still ate more than people
who were eating from a medium-size container.
Conclusion? If you want to eat less, and consequently, increase your
chances of success when dieting without the need for more willpower, consume
in smaller containers: smaller plates, bowls, and glasses. When the plate is
bigger than the food on it, it looks like there’s less food than when it’s a small
plate filled to the brim with a smaller amount of food.
As a bonus random dieting tip for today, if you’re struggling not to eat
something, go and brush your teeth. For some strange reason, brushing your
teeth — at least in my experience — makes you less likely to indulge, probably
because you don’t want to lose the freshness you now feel in your mouth (plus
things don’t taste well immediately after brushing your teeth, so it gives you
time to pause and think before you cheat).
Day 110: On Moving Yourself Closer to the Finish
Line
People find it more motivating to be partly finished with a longer journey
than to be at the starting gate of a shorter one.
—Chip and Dan Heath 105

Think of the difference between having run the first 5 miles (or kilometers)
out of 25 and having just taken the first steps of a 5-mile or 5-km run. Even
though they’re so similar, according to bestselling authors Chip and Dan Heath,
people are more motivated when they’re facing the first option.
Based on my own observations, I think the main reason for their findings is
that people usually find it difficult to start something challenging, so if they can
get past the first barrier and are partway there (with some achievements under
their belt), they’re fired up to continue.
You can benefit from this observation by moving yourself closer to the
finish line — yes, even if you’ve just set a new goal for yourself. The idea is to
fool yourself that you’re actually somewhere along into the journey, and not just
about to start it — a proposition many people find so discouraging that they
don’t even begin.
How do you do it? If you want to build a financial emergency fund, you can
convince yourself that you’re already on the right track because you have some
source of income (while others have to find it first), or if not, that you have some
things you can sell that are actually just money waiting to be converted into
physical cash (you surely have something you could sell, so this always works).
Just like that, you’re no longer just getting started with the goal — you’re
already partly finished.
Let’s go with another example. Imagine you want to have a flat stomach or
become more muscular. You’re already partly finished with this goal when you
can perform basic bodyweight exercises (people who can’t need to learn them
first), if you’ve read some articles or books about exercise (people who haven’t
have to educate themselves first), or if you have fit friends and support (others
need to find it first), etc.
Whatever your starting point is, think of what you already have or what
you’ve already accomplished and use it as a way of seeing that you’re closer to
the finish line than you thought.
Day 111: On Patience With Mindset Change s
Nothing important comes into being overnight; even grapes or figs need
time to ripen. If you say that you want a fig now, I will tell you to be patient.
First, you must allow the tree to flower, then put forth fruit; then you have to
wait until the fruit is ripe. So if the fruit of a fig tree is not brought to maturity
instantly or in an hour, how do you expect the human mind to come to fruition,
so quickly and easily?
—Epictetus 106

Here’s a rule everybody would be wise to remember: don’t expect to

change the negative habits you’ve been engaging in for years over the course of
a few days or even a few weeks. Mindset changes — in both positive and
negative directions — take time to develop.
At the very least, it will take you months or even years to eradicate negative
habits and traits from your life. Getting angry at the timeline is futile because
you can’t change the past. All you can do now is do your best to stay faithful to
your new resolutions and be patient.
If you’re starting from zero, without a vice you first need to get rid of, it
will obviously take you less time to acquire the virtue you’re seeking, as you
don’t have to reverse the negative effects of the vice. Even so, it doesn’t mean
that you’ll be able to implement a permanent change overnight .
Just as it takes time for fruit to ripen, so it takes time for a mindset to
mature. A new trait or habit only becomes firmly ingrained in your identity with
the passage of time and a growing number of experiences that reinforce it.
Think of it as learning how to play basketball. No matter how much talent
you have, you still need to take thousands upon thousands of shots to build
muscle memory and develop a sixth sense for shooting the ball. Since you can’t
shoot hoops 24/7, it usually takes years to become a great player, and there’s no
way to shortcut the process.
Mindset changes are the same. One successful shot doesn’t make you a
great basketball player. A consistent series of successful shots does — and for
something to be considered consistent, it needs to be repeated over a long period
of time.
Day 112: On Self-Licensin g
Past good deeds can liberate individuals to engage in behaviors that are
immoral, unethical, or otherwise problematic, behaviors that they would
otherwise avoid for fear of feeling or appearing immoral.
—Anna C. Merritt 107

Self-licensing, also known as moral licensing, is a phenomenon in which

doing something good makes you more likely to do something bad. This
irrational behavior is visible in many walks of life, including political
correctness, prosocial behavior, and consumer choice.
Being aware of this danger and remaining vigilant when it’s most likely to
manifest can help you avoid it. Basically, it comes down to monitoring your
actions when a good behavior inflates your ego (say, you resisted a temptation to
eat a piece of cake at work), or when you’re telling yourself that you’ve earned
the right to indulge yourself, just because you did something you consider good
for your goals.
Here are several situations in which self-licensing can rear its ugly head:
- seeing a great deal when shopping and thinking that, since you’re going to
save so much money, it’s intelligent to buy it (but you don’t realize that you
don’t actually need it),
- going through an aisle with healthy food and buying something with a
“healthy” label, and then proceeding to buy some sweets because, after all,
you’re eating healthy, so why not indulge yourself every now and then?
- eating a huge post-workout meal to “recover” after exercise and fooling
yourself that you’ve burned so many calories that one meal isn’t going to
replenish them (while in fact you’re eating twice as much as you burned during
exercise).
WEEK 17
Day 113: On a Lack of Time Instead of saying ”I
don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and
see how that feels.
—Laura Vanderkam 108

“I don’t have time” has to be the biggest and most common lie people tell
themselves daily. It’s never about a lack of time, because it’s you who controls
how you spend it, and you can always forego one thing in favor of another.
Telling yourself that you don’t have time to exercise means that nothing
that you have in your schedule is less important than your health. With all due
respect, I doubt that you (or anyone else, for that matter) do super-important
things 24/7 and that there’s not even a single low-value activity in your routine
that you could easily eliminate to make time for exercise.
I strongly suggest eliminating the phrase “I don’t have time” from your
vocabulary. People repeat it so often and so freely that it only serves as a
convenient excuse — and self-disciplined individuals shouldn’t make any
excuses.
The next time you want to claim that you don’t have time, tell yourself
instead that it’s not your priority. Now consider what that means for you: if
exercise (and subsequently, your own health) isn’t your priority, then what is? If
you don’t have time to attend your child’s first play but still work overtime even
though you don’t have to, then what is more important? If you’re too busy to
read books, then what do you prioritize over education if you still spend time
watching TV?
Day 114: On Fulfilling Your Own Standards
It’s far better when doing good work is sufficient. In other words, the less
attached we are to outcomes, the better. When fulfilling our own standards is
what fills us with pride and self-respect. When the effort — not the results, good
or bad — is enough.
—Ryan Holiday 109

When your motivation depends on the results of your labor, it poses a big
challenge: if the results are slow to come, you’ll most likely give up well before
you see your efforts bear fruit.
When you set new goals, think not only of the results you want to achieve,
but also your own standards that you want to fulfill. While you’re waiting for the
results, draw inspiration from your efforts to do your best. Even if the results
don’t materialize for this particular goal, in itself this appreciation of your own
efforts will help you to build a disciplined work ethic that will benefit your entire
life.
For example, for me as a writer, I know when my writing is up to my
standards and I always strive to make every book better than the one before.
Even if a book I consider to be my best work turns out to be a commercial flop
— as has already happened a couple of times — it doesn’t discourage me from
writing new books. I know that I fulfilled my own standards and did my best. If I
were motivated only by the results for each new release, I would have given up a
long time ago .
Do you know what your standards are and do you strive to fulfill them,
even when there’s no hope for gratification in the foreseeable future?
Day 115: On the Cost of Indulgenc e
The cost of a thing is the amount of what I call life which is required to be
exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.
—Henry David Thoreau 110

When succumbing to a temptation — or after having done so, when you’re

analyzing what you did to avoid making similar mistakes in the future — think
of the entire cost of your indulgence, both now and in the long run.
This delicious cake? Right now, it can deliver a sugar rush and make you
feel happy as it hits your taste buds. However, it’s also additional calories that
you probably don’t need and will need to burn off. In the long term, this one
cake alone can lead to another, another, and yet another delicious cake, resulting
in gaining more weight, and then requiring even more time to lose it again.
And what do you exchange for this indulgence today? Your life — the time
that you have here on Earth to do something more exciting and fulfilling than
eating a cake. Is it really worth it? Are you fine with the fact that an indulgence
today can rob you of weeks or months of your life?
Day 116: On Taking the Low Roa d
The problem with making an extrinsic reward the only destination that
matters is that some people will choose the quickest route there, even if it means
taking the low road.
—Daniel Pink 111

Being obsessed about the outcome can help you achieve it more quickly,
but it carries the risk of achieving unsustainable results, or worse, ruining your
life in the process by taking the low road.
For example, consider a person who wants to build a successful business.
Their end goal — making a million dollars — is more important than anything
else. They don’t care about the why or how; it’s only money that counts.
Whenever there’s an opportunity to make money, even if it’s unethical, they’ll
take it. After all, the end justifies the means, right?
Taking the low road is yet another temptation you must battle on your
journey toward success. There’s no glory in building a business the unethical
way, ruining your body with an unsustainable, unhealthy diet just to be slim, or
ruining your body forever by taking steroids and other unsafe medications just to
become more muscular.
One way to prevent this from happening is to always think of something
bigger than an extrinsic reward as a source of motivation. Think how working on
your goal — not merely reaching it — can improve you as a person. How much
fun it can be or how much meaning it can give to your life. Focus on those
internal rewards in the first place, and you’ll greatly reduce the risk of giving in
to the temptation of taking the low road.
Day 117: On Dressing New Things in Old Habits
Whether selling a new song, a new food, or a new crib, the lesson is the
same: If you dress a new something in old habits, it’s easier for the public to
accept it.
—Charles Duhigg 112

You’ll find it easier to change your current negative habits if you make
your new, positive habits seem similar to your original, disempowering patterns.
For example, if you’re a huge fan of potatoes (more specifically, French
fries), and now your diet forces you to give them up, it might prove to be too big
of a challenge for you to eliminate them just like that.
What if you allowed yourself to eat potatoes, but in a healthier form?
Instead of eating French fries, you could eat baked potatoes that were sliced in a
similar way as your beloved fries.
It’s an improvement to your diet, it gives you some positive momentum,
and yet it shouldn’t cost you that much in terms of willpower.
If you want to start jogging and you’re a fan of listening to podcasts, why
not tell yourself that you’re going to listen to some podcasts and in the
meantime, move a little? It doesn’t sound like such a big, difficult change, does
it ?
Whenever you can, find a way to link a new change or make it as similar as
possible (in appearance, not consequences) to your previous negative habit. That
way, it will more easily become a permanent routine in your life.
Day 118: On Free Things
Most transactions have an upside and a downside, but when something is
“FREE!” we forget the downside. “FREE!” gives us such an emotional charge
that we perceive what is being offered as immensely more valuable than it really
is. Why? Because humans are intrinsically afraid of loss. The real allure of
“FREE!” is tied to this fear.
—Dan Ariely 113

“Free” is the ultimate marketing method, and it’s also the one that can do
the greatest damage to your resolutions, primarily those of the financial and
fitness kind.
From now on, whenever you see that something is free and you want to act
on it, ask yourself whether you really need it. If you were to pay for it, would
you still want it or do you want it simply because you don’t want to miss out on
a freebie?
The first practical application is for people who are on a diet and gorge on
food whenever they find themselves at a party with free snacks. What are you
gaining by eating all this food and what are you losing? Unless food is scarce in
your world (and it probably isn’t if you’re on a diet), the only thing that you’re
gaining is avoiding the fear of missing out. And what are you losing? Your
dream, your hard work until now, and possibly your future. Are the free snacks
worth it?
The second application is for people who want to exert more self-control
when it comes to their finances. When shopping, if there’s a deal where you can
get one thing for free, ask yourself whether you’d pay for this thing if it weren’t
offered for free and if you’re really going to have a use for it. If not, what’s so
special about this deal? It might be a deal to someone who would buy the thing
on sale anyway, but it isn’t for you.
There’s nothing you’re losing out on if you don’t purchase something that
has no use for you. And if you do buy it, you’re losing a lot: your money, space
in your house, time needed to maintain it, etc.
Day 119: On Hatching the Egg
We shall sooner have the fowl by hatching the egg than by smashing it.
—Abraham Lincoln 114

In today’s world of abundance, there’s always the next hot thing, a new
miracle solution, a cure for it all. It’s no wonder that so many people lack the
self-discipline to stick to one thing and constantly jump from one thing to
another, deluding themselves that the new thing will surely be better than the one
they have now.
If we think of pursuing your goals as being in the business of breeding
chickens, how big will your fowl empire get if you constantly smash all of the
eggs you have, thinking that those other eggs you’ve seen online will hatch more
quickly?
In essence, that’s what a person is doing when they are constantly changing
their mind. An important aspect of self-discipline is the discipline to stick to the
specific strategies you’ve chosen to follow, in order to get the results.
If the strategy you’re following has been proven to work for other people
(as in the case of following popular healthy diets, tested workout plans, personal
finance strategies, etc.), switching out of it to another one only because you think
the other one could be better is nothing but an act of self-sabotage.
If you’re currently thinking about giving up your current strategy because
you’re tempted to try something else, remind yourself of the metaphor with the
egg. Nobody has ever accomplished anything by constantly destroying the fruits
of their labor. If your strategy has been proven to work for many people,
dedicate yourself to it for at least a year before you even consider the thought of
trying something else.
WEEK 18
Day 120: On Handling Interruptions to Your Routine
Planning a variance, make it concrete, black and
white, and specify exactly when the variance will end.
For example, instead of doing your regular gym
routine while traveling through Europe, you commit
to do twenty pushups every morning, and then as soon
as you return home, resume your normal routine.
—Tynan 115

Things change and routines get disrupted, with travel being one of the most
common culprits. Whenever I can, I try to maintain the exact same routine as I
follow when I am back home. If I can’t, as Tynan suggests, I come up with an
alternative that is specifically to be used during the time of the disruption.
For example, in a few days I’m going to travel to Cyprus, an island country
in the eastern Mediterranean. I have no idea whether I’ll have access to any
fitness equipment there, including something as simple as a pull-up bar.
Consequently, I plan to take advantage of the surroundings as much as I can
to maintain my shape: swim in the sea, take long walks or run at the beach, hike
in the mountains, and if I find the time, perform some simple bodyweight
exercises that don’t require any kind of equipment whatsoever .
This way, when I come back home, I won’t feel as if I’ve lost my normal
routine. And I won’t — it will only be altered for the special occasion, but I’ll
still perform it, and consequently, won’t run the risk of falling off the
bandwagon.
When you know about an approaching situation that’s likely to disrupt your
routine, prepare yourself beforehand. Think if there’s any way that you can
maintain your routine despite that situation, and if you can’t, come up with an
alternative routine modified for the special circumstances. Even if your best idea
is not a great one, at least you’ll still be sticking to your routine in some way,
and that will prevent you from losing it.
Day 121: On the Mark of a Champion
The mark of a champion is the ability to win when things are not quite right
— when you’re not playing well and your emotions are not the right ones.
—Carol Dweck 116

At the time I’m writing these words, I’m struggling. Instead of following
my usual routine of writing in the early morning when I’m the most productive, I
spent the entire day catching up with other tasks that all popped up at the same
time. Now it’s 8 p.m., I find it hard to focus, and I’m only beginning to write my
daily word count.
And yet, I’m sitting here in front of my laptop and pushing myself to stick
to my resolutions and yes, I’ll sit here until I get it done. Wouldn’t it be better to
take it easy and just start again tomorrow? If I were sick and barely able to work,
then yes.
However, in my case, even though I don’t feel even half as creative and
mentally prepared for work as in the morning, I’m going to persist because it’s
when you struggle and things aren’t quite right that you can strengthen your self-
discipline the most.
I know that once I finish my work today — even if it takes me several hours
of strenuous work in the late evening (when I’m usually asleep) — I’ll feel good,
knowing that I’ve kept a promise I made to myself .
If you’re struggling while reading these words, please remember that the
mark of a champion is to keep going, under all circumstances. Sometimes it will
be hard, sometimes it will be easy, and since you can’t control it, the best thing
you can do is to keep going, regardless of what’s happening.
I promise you that after a long, hard day of struggling, you’ll still be
happier than you would be if you decided to take it easy and then had to deal
with the guilt of not having done your best.
Day 122: On Making Agreements With Yourself
Agreements you make with yourself: When you make an agreement and you
don’t keep it, you undermine your own self-trust.
—Roy Baumeister 117

I strive to value the agreements I make with myself as much as the ones I
make with other people. The reason is simple: just like when you lose the trust of
another person when you fail to keep your promise, so you lose your trust of
yourself when you don’t keep an agreement that you made with yourself.
Without self-trust, it’s impossible to have the self-discipline and self-
confidence to achieve big goals and change your life. Your doubts will nag at
you and you’ll sabotage yourself because, deep down, you’ll believe that you
can’t trust yourself anyway.
Whenever you make commitments with yourself, honor them just like you
honor the word you give to other people, if not more. If you frequently betray
yourself, you’ll make it harder and harder to rebuild trust with yourself, and
soon, it will take many months of consistent wins before you get to regain self-
trust.
Your brain rewires itself according to your repeated actions, and if you
teach it to expect that you go back on your word, it will get better at exactly that
skill: backing out of your agreements.
Day 123: On Doing This or Nothin g
The important thing is that there should be a space of time, say four hours a
day at the least, when a professional writer doesn’t do anything but write. He
doesn’t have to write, and if he doesn’t feel like it, he shouldn’t try. He can look
out the window or stand on his head or writhe on the floor. But he is not to do
any other positive thing, not read, write letters, glance at magazines, or write
checks. Either write or nothing… I find it works. Two very simple rules, a: you
don’t have to write. b: you can’t do anything else. The rest comes of itself.
—Raymond Chandler 118

If you’re struggling to get to work, give yourself two options: for the next
several hours you can work or do nothing.
Entertaining yourself with your smartphone, social media, Internet, talking,
listening to music or anything else that serves as a distraction isn’t allowed. You
can walk around the room, sit, look out of the window, or stare at the monitor,
but you can’t do anything more exciting than that.
This technique gives you a license to goof off, but since you can’t do
anything remotely interesting, sooner or later you’ll probably get to work. And
that’s the purpose of this trick: you aren’t forcing yourself to work, and hence,
there’s no resistance that you need to overcome. If you spend an hour bored out
of your mind, even the most despised task you need to do will be a relief.
Day 124: On Daily Gratitude
The more you regularly experience gratitude, the more self-control you
have in various areas of your life.
—David DeSteno 119

Research suggests that daily gratitude boosts self-control. Researcher David

DeSteno says that expressing gratitude for little everyday things, such as the
kindness of a stranger, functions like a vaccine against impulsiveness. It
enhances self-control and makes you more oriented toward the future.
In addition to boosting your self-control, expressing thankfulness daily
makes you a more positive person, and that in itself is a huge benefit that can
affect your ability to stick to your goals when the going gets tough.
Each morning or evening express gratitude for five small things. For
example, I’m now sitting outdoors (one thing to be grateful for is our beautiful
planet), enjoying sunny weather, and doing work I like. I’m grateful because I
was able to spend a few hours climbing today and because (after I finish my
work for the day) I’ll cook myself a tasty, healthy meal.
Such simple things are what makes life great. Why not regularly express
your gratitude for them and become happier, develop more mental resistance,
reduce impulsiveness and gain more self-control?
Day 125: On Going Away From Work
Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come
back to your work your judgment will be surer. Go some distance away because
then the work appears smaller and more of it can be taken in at a glance and a
lack of harmony and proportion is more readily seen.
—Leonardo DaVinci

A productive, self-disciplined person isn’t afraid of taking a break and

relaxing a little. They know that if they don’t do it, they won’t recharge and soon
their greatly decreased creativity and problem-solving skills will ruin their
resolve.
I strongly suggest traveling — even if it’s just a weekend trip — to get
away from your work, forget about it for a while, gain a fresh perspective and
return ready to solve the challenges.
Often when you’re struggling with the same problem for weeks or months
on end, it’s because you’re too close to it and unable to see the forest for the
trees. An act of what you might consider a lack of self-discipline — taking it
easy and going on a trip — is ultimately a smart technique to ensure maximum
productivity and persistence for the long haul.
Day 126: On Shedding Light on the Dark Things
Much as we must keep returning to the gym and pushing weight against
resistance in order to sustain or increase our physical strength, so we must
persistently shed light on those aspects of ourselves that we prefer not to see in
order to build our mental, emotional and spiritual capacity.
—Jim Loehr 120

Who likes to think about their flaws, let alone put them on full display? We
hide our dark side — our mistakes, our failures, temptations we couldn’t
overcome, and so on. Instead, we focus on our strengths and proudly talk about
our successes.
While bombarding yourself with self-guilt or embarrassment isn’t a
particularly bright strategy for success, sometimes it’s necessary to shed light on
the dark side and pick a weakness to address or a temptation you finally need to
face and overcome.
Self-denial is ultimately a self-sabotaging strategy. By telling yourself that
you don’t have anything to worry about, you might feel better temporarily, but
the flaws and weaknesses don’t go away. You’re missing out on the opportunity
to overcome them.
Right now, spend a few minutes thinking about your unpleasant traits —
the ones that you always ignore, or worse, don’t even admit that you have them.
If you’re good at accepting criticism from other people, ask your friends what
they think your biggest flaws are — and work on fixing them.
WEEK 19
Day 127: On Cold Exposure
Take cold showers first thing in the morning. As soon as you get up. Jump
in the shower. Close your eyes and turn the temperature to cold. Not just cold.
Not ice cold. Try we-just-piped-this-water-in-from-Antarctica-because-the-
penguins-won’t-swim-in-it-cold. Do this for thirty days in a row. I call it Cold
Shower Therapy because it, quite literally, is therapy.
—Joel Runyon 121

Doing a two-month challenge of only taking cold showers was one of my

first deliberate endeavors to improve my self-control. Unlike other goals that I
pursued for the specific benefits that they would give me, my cold shower
challenge was primarily about testing myself.
During those two months, I learned a great deal about how to overcome
temptations and how my own mechanisms of self-control work (and when they
cease to function).
I strongly recommend taking up a similar challenge to push your limits and
toughen up. Is an entire month or two necessary to benefit from this exercise?
Not really. Even just a few cold showers can be valuable lessons that will
strengthen your self-control. Willingly exposing yourself to such a torture is
something very few people are capable of doing, so this in itself is a great
accomplishment.
If your health doesn’t allow you to take cold showers (and as a side note,
please note that you should always speak with your doctor before making any
decisions of such a nature), try other ways of cold exposure.
Underdress in cold weather, submerge the lower part of your body in a cold
bath, or turn your thermostat down. Voluntarily exposing yourself to the
discomfort you feel when you’re cold, no matter if it’s a cold shower or
something less extreme, will still be an excellent way to improve your impulse
control and become tougher.
Day 128: On Principle s
Principles are fundamental truths that serve as the foundations for behavior
that gets you what you want out of life. They can be applied again and again in
similar situations to help you achieve your goals.
—Ray Dalio 122

Do you follow a set of principles in your life? If not, it’s time to design
them and adapt them as an inherent part of your decision-making process, to
ensure that you make better choices.
For example, I have ten fundamental rules that guide my overall life and
many more that I apply to different aspects of my life. Here are three examples
of my general principles that are applicable to every endeavor:
1. I never give up on anything that’s important to me.
2. Time is my most important asset. I always focus on achieving more in
less time.
3. Growth happens outside one’s comfort zone. Security leads to
mediocrity.
These rules ensure that I live my life according to my most important
values and help me avoid making decisions that favor instant gratification.
For example, following the first rule means that if I establish that something
is important to me, I won’t give up on it, no matter what. Embracing the second
rule means that I resist the temptation to do things mindlessly and always seek a
more effective way of doing something. Living by the third rule means that I
face my fears and resist the urge to stay complacent. This way, I’m always
growing and reduce the risk of becoming too comfortable.
These are not just mere words — I consider them as important as promises
made to somebody else, so I need to fulfill them. What rules do you want to
embrace in your own life? Make a list of your own fundamental truths that will
help you get what you want out of life and treat them as agreements that you
can’t break.
Day 129: On Everyday Practic e
I mistakenly only associated the word “practice” with art forms such as
music, dance or painting. I did not see dealing with a cranky child, an over-
burdened work schedule, or a tight monthly budget as actions that required
applying the same principles as did learning music.
—Thomas Sterner 123

You can view everyday annoyances in two ways: as frustrating experiences

or as opportunities to practice your willpower.
A stranger bumped into you and didn’t apologize? Practice your self-
control by wishing him or her a good day.
Your child is misbehaving and you feel like being a parent is sometimes too
much to handle? Consider it an exercise in manifesting mental toughness.
You have so much work to do and then your car breaks down, an
unexpected bill comes, and a friend needs your help? Don’t wish there were
more than 24 hours in a day — accept it as a challenge in improving your
productivity so that you can get everything done on time despite new difficulties
thrown at you from every direction.
If you take advantage of every problem and look at it as a means of self-
improvement, you’ll improve your self-discipline and mental resistance just by
going about your day.
Day 130: On Working on Lazines s
If you are smart, but not lazy, work on laziness. To do everything, simply
because you can, lowers effectiveness. Concentrate on the really important
things that get amazing results. Do only the few things with greatest benefit.
—Richard Koch 124

As contradictory as it sounds, some self-disciplined people need to work on

laziness to get to the next level of personal growth. Just like it takes discipline to
work on the hard things, it also takes discipline to resist the temptation to work
on unnecessary things.
For example, as a self-published author there are countless ways for me to
promote my books. I dabbled into different marketing methods, but in the end
had to limit my focus to only the few things that offered the greatest benefit.
Doing everything would have perhaps portrayed me as a more hard-working
author, but it wouldn’t increase my effectiveness, and most likely would only
reduce it.
Restlessness can be a good thing to inspire a person to take action, but if it
leads to mindless work for the sake of work, you’re wasting your potential and
resources you could have spent on another area of life where increased effort
would have led to noticeable improvements.
Periodically assess tasks you perform most frequently and ask yourself if
you’re not only exerting willpower to keep working, but also showing restraint
when it comes to performing tasks that add little or nothing to your life. Crossing
off unnecessary tasks from your to-do list might feel good, but it’s just another
form of instant gratification that ultimately compromises your long-term
objectives.
Day 131: On Building an Ark It took Noah 20 years to
build an ark. And people said he was being silly
because the skies were beautiful. And of course, the
whole time, he looked stupid — until it started
raining. You can spend a long time building an ark
while everybody else is out there enjoying the sun.
—Peter Bevelin 125

Your efforts to improve will draw criticism or ridicule from people who
don’t care about self-improvement. It’s possible you’ll spend a long time doing
things without a reward and start wondering whether your goal makes sense.
Is it worth it to spend several years working so hard to get a degree, build a
business, or move up the ladder in your company while others are partying and
enjoying their lives on credit?
During the process you might face doubts and even feel tempted to give up.
However, five or ten years from now, the ones who were wasting time will get
the short end of the stick when they realize that they wasted their time on
ultimately meaningless pleasures. Now they’re in debt, worried about how to
pay their bills, and doubting that they’ll ever have a successful career, while
you’re enjoying the fruits of your labor.
Whenever you’re in doubt, remind yourself that you’re building an ark and
that rain will come. Maybe now you aren’t enjoying yourself as much as others
are, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s better to be prepared and suffer a little
now to prosper in the future than live in sweet denial and one day realize it’s too
late.
Day 132: On Being Willing to Be Bad
To get good, it’s helpful to be willing, or even enthusiastic, about being
bad.
—Daniel Coyle 126

An expert is a person who has made all of the most common mistakes in
their field and learned from them. They embraced being bad so that they could
get good.
For example, in rock climbing I noticed that if I stick to routes that are
within my abilities or only slightly above them, I improve less quickly than if I
climb routes that are well beyond my current limits.
Sometimes I make a fool out of myself because I can’t even start the route,
and sometimes I surprise myself when I climb 50%, or sometimes even 75% of
the route before it defeats me.
The great benefit in climbing such difficult routes is that I make many more
mistakes than when I climb easier routes. This is good, because it reveals my
weaknesses and gives me more opportunities to learn.
If you only stick to routes with easy holds, you’ll never learn how to
properly climb when the holds are no bigger than your finger tip. If you only
climb on routes with easy footholds, you’ll never learn the proper footwork that
a route with sparse, slippery footholds requires .
It’s tempting to climb routes within your abilities because they make you
feel good and capable, but ultimately it’s nothing but instant gratification. It’s
the hard routes that will defeat you that teach you the most in the long run, even
if you hate climbing them at the very moment you are doing so.
If you only set easy challenges for yourself (the ones that will never make
you look bad or show you your deficiencies), you’ll hamper your progress or
even bring it to a halt.
Overcome the temptation to lower your bar. Come up with difficult
challenges — the ones that make you doubt you’ll succeed — and get to work.
Get as bad as you can now, so that you can become as good as possible in the
future.
Day 133: On Self-Carin g Self-discipline is self-caring.
If we feel ourselves valuable, then we will feel our time
to be valuable, to organize it and protect it and make
maximum use of it.
—M. Scott Peck 127

The way you look at what self-discipline is can affect how self-disciplined
you are. If you think of self-discipline as punishing yourself in return for some
possible benefits in the future, how likely are you going to be eager to maintain
it in your life?
Instead, what if you embraced self-discipline as self-caring, a way of
manifesting that your time is valuable to you and that you want to make the most
of it?
Now, instead of seeing every temptation as something pleasant that you
must avoid for the possible future benefit, you’d look at it as a threat to your
well-being. For example, upon adopting this outlook on life, you’d understand
on a deeper level that watching TV for hours on end is not entertainment; it’s
killing your valuable time, and in the case of low-quality TV, killing your brain
cells.
And the other way around: things that you currently consider torturous
(such as waking up early, eating vegetables, saving money, expanding your
comfort zone, and so on) would all become manifestations of self-care. You’d
understand on a deeper level that waking up early makes you more productive,
and consequently, creates more time and energy for you — even if it isn’t
always fun.
WEEK 20
Day 134: On Staying Congruent Immediately
prescribe some character and form of conduct to
yourself, which you may keep both alone and in
company.
—Epictetus 128

If there exists a “hack” for quickly embracing self-discipline as a part of

your identity, it’s clearly communicating to everyone around you how important
this value is for you — and then taking actions that are congruent with that
decision.
The key is to maintain that behavior both when you are around other people
and also when you’re alone — we’re not talking about faking it in public. The
beautiful part is that when others associate you with a certain positive trait,
you’ll want to maintain it.
Think of a child who’s considered to be tough by other kids. The next time
he or she scrapes his or her knee, will he or she cry or try to remain congruent
with his or her public image and walk it off? Obviously, we’re adults now, but
the basic premise doesn’t change: humans need to stay congruent, particularly
around other people.
All of my friends know that I’m a bit of a freak when it comes to self-
discipline (okay, not a bit of a freak , I am a freak about that!) and consequently,
this form of conduct is pretty much forced on me. I don’t want to be incongruent
with myself and I don’t want other people to think that I’m saying one thing and
doing another .
For example, if there’s a challenge in front of me and I know that my friend
is thinking that I’m going to face it instead of quitting, I’ll face it (obviously only
after I ensure that it’s relatively safe).
Then, when I’m alone dealing with a self-imposed challenge, I’ll be less
likely to give up, too — after all, I don’t want to lose the respect I have for
myself, and most certainly don’t want my friends to be disappointed in me upon
learning that I’m a different person around them and a different person when I’m
by myself.
Day 135: On Staying in Love With Your Goals
Skipping around from one kind of pursuit to another: grit is about working
on something you care about so much that you’re willing to stay loyal to it. Not
just falling in love — staying in love.
—Angela Duckworth 129

It’s easy to fall in love, but hard to stay in love, particularly when the
waters get rough. It takes constant recommitment, sacrifice, and a willingness to
deeply care for what you already have. In a sense, falling in love is like
immediate gratification, giving you butterflies and all that jazz without any
unpleasantries, while staying in love (although it’s rewarding in the long run) is
sometimes an act of sacrifice that requires a great deal of self-control.
When you set your goals, do you tend to stick to them for the long haul, or
do you let the temptation to change things decide for you?
If you constantly jump from one thing to another, perhaps you don’t care
about your goals enough to stay loyal to them. Ask yourself if that’s the case,
and if so, how you can find new, stronger motivators or if perhaps you should
give up altogether.
If it happens with every objective of yours, even when you deeply care
about it (like it was for me when I was constantly launching one business after
another), it’s probably not a question of not caring enough, but about a failure to
exert self-control when faced with the shiny object syndrome.
The shiny object syndrome is the inability to maintain focus on one thing,
mistakenly believing that the grass is greener on the other side. Instead of
investing all of your resources in just one thing (for example, a specific
relationship, business, diet, etc.), you constantly replace the thing you have now
with something else, just because it’s new and shiny. What you fail to realize,
though, is that by constantly “upgrading,” you never get to build something that
lasts, so you fail to achieve your long-term goals.
The next time you find yourself researching a new diet, workout plan,
business model, way to save money, technique to stay productive, and so on,
remind yourself that unless your approach is clearly not working at all (and for
that, you need to stick to it in the long term), all you’re doing is falling under the
spell of instant gratification that will endanger your long-term goal .
Day 136: On the Desire for Happiness Replacing the
Need for Self-Discipline
Pitching is what makes me happy. I’ve devoted my life to it. (…) It
determines what I eat, when I go to bed, what I do when I’m awake. It
determines how I spend my life when I’m not pitching. (…) If it means in the
winter I eat cottage cheese instead of chocolate chip cookies in order to keep my
weight down, then I eat cottage cheese. I might want those cookies but I won’t
ever eat them. That might bother some people but it doesn’t bother me. I enjoy
the cottage cheese. I enjoy it more than I would those cookies because I know it
will help me do what makes me happy. (…) Life isn’t very heavy for me. I’ve
made up my mind what I want to do. I’m happy when I pitch well so I only do
those things that help me be happy.”
—Tom Seaver 130

If something makes you extremely happy, the desire to do it as much as you

can will replace or at least greatly diminish the need for self-discipline.
Obviously, the thing that you love must be good for you — eating French fries
may make you extremely happy, but devoting your life to them won’t be a good
idea.
For example, in my case, one of the things that currently determines many
of my choices and replaces the need for self-discipline is rock climbing. It’s the
number one reason why I perform hard bodyweight workouts (to be stronger to
climb better), why I maintain low weight (because it’s easier to climb if you
weigh less), why I constantly expand my comfort zone (because it improves my
mental game when I’m climbing), and so on.
The thing that makes you happy doesn’t have to be a sport, but it does need
to have a positive influence on you.
If you already have such a big passion in your life, link it to your new
resolutions. There’s always a way to combine a positive change with an
improved ability to engage in your passion (for example, eating better will make
you more energetic, which will make you better at everything you’re doing,
including your passion), so tap into this resource and let your desire to engage in
your passion render self-discipline unnecessary.
Day 137: On Waiting for Ten Minutes For a cooler,
wiser brain, institute a mandatory ten-minute wait for
any temptation.
—Kelly McGonigal 131

Telling yourself that you’re going to get something in ten minutes satisfies
your craving for the next ten minutes. After all, you are getting your reward; you
just need to wait ten minutes.
A curious fact is that after ten minutes, it’s likely that you’ll no longer
remember the craving or it will have diminished to such a level that you’ll be
able to handle it. And if not, you can tell yourself yet again that you’ll have it in
ten minutes and repeat the process until the urge is gone.
If you find the urge overpowering, use a stopwatch and stare at it the entire
ten minutes before succumbing to the temptation. After ten minutes, even if you
still reward yourself, at least you’ll have exercised your self-control muscle a
little.
Note that you can wait for ten minutes for any temptation in both
directions: either by waiting for 10 minutes before you give in to something, or
by giving yourself 10 minutes to do something and then allowing yourself to
stop.
For example, if you’re facing the challenge of unpleasant, but necessary
and urgent work to do, tell yourself that you’ll only do it for ten minutes and
then you can quit. More often than not, you’ll continue. And if not, as with
waiting for 10 minutes before giving in to a temptation, you’ll still have
exercised your willpower.
Day 138: On Nature Boosting Your Focus Nature,
which is filled with intriguing stimuli, modestly grabs
attention in a bottom-up fashion, allowing top-down
directed-attention abilities a chance to replenish.
Unlike natural environments, urban environments are
filled with stimulation that captures attention
dramatically and additionally requires directed
attention (e.g., to avoid being hit by a car), making
them less restorative.
—Marc G. Berman 132

Research suggests that spending time in nature regenerates your ability to

concentrate. What’s interesting is the finding that even viewing pictures of
nature can be restorative.
If you’re struggling to concentrate on an important task and no amount of
self-control helps, head out for a walk in a forest or any other non-urban
environment.
I take regular forest walks at least three times a week and consider it pretty
much a necessary part of my weekly routine. When you spend your entire days
in environments filled with stimulation, your ability to focus will be greatly
diminished. Give your mind some time to rest and seek places where you can be
by yourself, without blinking signs, crowds, cars, noise, and pollution.
If you can’t afford or don’t have easy access to the wilderness, at least try to
spend some time in quasi-natural environments like a city park or even just your
own backyard. If even that is not possible, put on your headphones and turn on a
video of natural scenery.
Day 139: On Tolerating an Absence of Novelty
(…) the use of a distracting service does not, by itself, reduce your brain’s
ability to focus. It’s instead the constant switching from low-stimuli/high-value
activities to high-stimuli/low-value activities, at the slightest hint of boredom or
cognitive challenge, that teaches your mind to never tolerate an absence of
novelty.
—Cal Newport 133

The ability to thrive in low-stimuli environments, such as when working

without distractions, is one of the most powerful demonstrations of self-control.
Sadly, most people don’t possess it, because they have developed a habit of
constantly interrupting their focus with low-value, highly-stimulating activities,
such as browsing social media or shopping online.
If you’re unable to tolerate an absence of novelty, you’ll be unable to focus
on anything for long enough to see it through to the end. Therefore, it’s key to
develop the willpower to resist the temptation to entertain yourself when things
get boring or too challenging for your mind.
I suggest a simple practice: follow the Pomodoro technique of time
management in which you work for 25 minutes and then give yourself 5 minutes
to distract yourself with whatever you want. Once the 5 minutes are up, you have
to get back to work, and after 25 minutes more of work, you can yet again let
yourself enjoy high-stimuli, low-value activities for 5 minutes .
The Pomodoro technique works so well because it doesn’t force people to
exert incredible amounts of willpower. It’s only 25 minutes of work, so even if
you’re usually interrupting work every 10 minutes, you’ll only need to wait for
15 minutes more before you can indulge.
After following this technique for several weeks or months, you should
notice an improvement in the quality of your work. Soon, 25 minutes of highly-
focused work will no longer be a challenge for you, and you’ll greatly strengthen
your self-control.
Day 140: On Longing for Paradise The problem with
longing for paradises is that it distracts us from our
efforts to extract pleasure and meaning from the
present.
—Gordon Livingston 134

In the pursuit of success, it’s easy to forget that we live in the present
moment. The struggle is certainly less attractive than the ultimate reward you’re
after, but it doesn’t mean that you should let the vision distract you from the
present.
There’s a danger in romanticizing the outcome: when you compare this
beautiful mental picture to the struggle you’re going through now, you may
become discouraged because of the painful contrast between what could be and
what currently is .
By all means, if it inspires you to work, from time to time indulge in the
fantasy, but don’t forget that the future lies ahead, and it’s the present moment
you should focus on to ensure that that future actually materializes.
Obsessing about the final outcome means robbing yourself of the pleasure
and meaning of the powerful, difficult process that you’re going through right
now.
The next time you catch yourself dreaming about the future, refocus on the
present moment. Notice the small but positive changes that have occurred
(thanks to your struggle), look at your progress so far, and draw inspiration from
your sacrifices and your resolve to keep going, despite all of the hardships.
WEEK 21
Day 141: On Punctuality
A person who cannot keep appointments on time, cannot keep scheduled
commitments, or cannot stick to a schedule cannot be trusted in other ways
either.
—Dan Kennedy 135

Punctuality is another facet of a self-disciplined person, while tardiness is

often a sign of a preference toward immediate gratification.
A person who’s late doesn’t give themselves a margin to arrive on time, so
they get the instant gratification of gaining a few minutes of time at the expense
of straining their relationship or their chances of making a good first impression.
Meanwhile, a person who arrives earlier might lose a couple of minutes, but in
the long haul enjoys the reputation of being a punctual, trustworthy person.
If you’re often late, realize that being late to an appointment doesn’t differ
from breaking a promise; it’s still an act that can cost you the trust of another
person. In addition to that, it demonstrates that you lack organizational skills and
self-discipline. Is this the message you want to display to the world? Is being late
something that will help you realize your full potential or stand in your way?
Set a new self-discipline challenge for yourself: resolve to always be at
least five minutes early for every appointment in the next 30 days. After a full
month, it should become a new norm for you, and you should benefit from
improved relationships, as well as newly-gained self-respect for having
developed the reputation of being a punctual person.
Day 142: On Keystone Habits
Typically, people who exercise, start eating better and becoming more
productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues
and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and say they feel less
stressed. Exercise is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.
—Charles Duhigg 136

A keystone habit is a habit that results in other positive changes in your life
without directly focusing on them. For example, the decision to start exercising
will affect your diet, productivity, patience, and overall well-being.
Instead of focusing on several different habits, you can concentrate on
making one change and, as if by magic, it will lead to other improvements that
are introduced virtually without effort.
If you want to get the best return on your efforts, focus on establishing
keystone habits first and only work on other routines when you already have
established the keystone habits as habits. Some keystone habits include:
- regular exercise;
- making your bed every morning;
- tracking what you eat;
- saving money;
- meditation;
- waking up earlier;
- expressing gratitude;
- regularly getting enough quality sleep ;
- trying a new thing every day.
Day 143: On Falling in Love With the Idea of Starting
What was the use of doing great things if I could have a better time telling
her what I was going to do?
—F. Scott Fitzgerald 137

There’s an inherent danger in sharing with everybody what you’re going to

do: you might fall in love with the idea of starting something at the expense of
actually doing it.
Telling others about your plan can be addictive because it delivers a reward
without you having done any meaningful work: you boast about what you’re
going to do, people are impressed, and you get a sense of accomplishment.
For example, I used to talk about starting to travel more, but whenever I
was faced with an opportunity to go on a trip, I was scared.
It was easier and more pleasant to talk with my friends about all the
exciting places I would go to. Today, while I still feel some resistance prior to
going on a trip (particularly a more demanding adventure, such as visiting an
exotic country), I almost never talk about my plans until I actually book the
flights and the trip converts from being a wish into becoming a real-world
action.
Are there any goals of yours that you “started” working on a long time ago,
but which in fact still remain in the realm of unmaterialized plans? An easy way
to figure this out is to think of your recent conversations and find a topic that you
frequently talk about, but never actually act upon.
Day 144: On the Work of a Human Bein g In the
morning when thou risest unwillingly, let this thought
be present — I am rising to the work of a human
being. Why then am I dissatisfied if I am going to do
the things for which I exist and for which I was
brought into the world? Or have I been made for this,
to lie in the bed-clothes and keep myself warm? —
But this is more pleasant. — Dost thou exist then to
take thy pleasure, and not at all for action or
exertion?
—Marcus Aurelius 138

Marcus Aurelius argues that we haven’t been made for embracing the
comfort of a warm bed. Is sleeping in more pleasant than doing work? Obviously
it is; otherwise nobody would ever do it.
Yet sleeping in is only more pleasant in the beginning or when you’ve
earned it . Making your life revolve around comfort and laziness doesn’t lead to
happiness in the long term; it leads to depression. Taking action and exerting
yourself rarely feels good at first , but upon completing valuable work, the
pleasure of sleeping in can hardly match the pleasure of being productive.
The most powerful proof of the fact that human beings cannot thrive if they
don’t act and exert themselves is the research on retirement.
For example, according to a report published by the Institute of Economic
Affairs in association with the Age Endeavour Fellowship, retirement increases
your risk of clinical depression by 41% and the probability of having at least one
diagnosed physical condition by 63%. 139 What’s more, the adverse effects
increase as the number of years spent in retirement increases.
Obviously, the effect of retirement depends on how the retired person
approaches retirement. Sadly, when facing a new reality in which they no longer
have to work, a lot of people stop being active and disengage from life — and
that’s what leads to the disturbing findings of the study. The ones who feel that
their golden years are indeed golden are the ones who continue to be active,
whether it’s helping their families, volunteering, working part time, or
embracing new hobbies.
Whenever you find yourself discouraged, remind yourself that while
succumbing to laziness feels good at first, ultimately it will only worsen your
situation and make you even less ready to face challenges. Embrace discipline,
stay active, constantly grow, and you’ll find both fulfillment and meaning in life.
Day 145: On Complicating the World for Profit
To earn a fortune in the diet and exercise industries, there is a dictum:
complicate to profit.
—Tim Ferriss 140

Fitness companies make a fortune on persuading people that exercise or

diet is complicated. The same situation applies to the investment world. The
more complicated something appears to be, the more people will decide that it’s
better to hire an expert to help them than do it themselves.
Consequently, many don’t start at all because they’re convinced that they’ll
fail without help — and help, whether it’s for fitness or in the investment world,
is expensive. This provides a legitimate excuse not to start. It also makes you
more likely to fall victim to the claims that some product —designed by the
world’s top experts, of course — is a miracle solution.
In reality, most things are simpler than you think. You don’t need to attend
expensive aerobics classes to become fit. There’s no need to buy pricey home-
delivered meals designed by some renowned doctor to lose weight. An
investment advisor can often deliver worse results than if you were to educate
yourself with free articles and invest on your own .
Whenever you want to make a change in your life and find that everywhere
you look, companies involved in the industry make it complicated, step aside
and review the fundamentals.
Somehow people were still fit before the advent of commercial gyms. They
still managed to build successful businesses without Internet gurus. It was still
possible to eat healthily in a world where bookstores weren’t filled to the brim
with diet books.
Don’t use the fact that the industry makes things complicated as an excuse
not to make a change. Educate yourself about the basics and draw your own
conclusions. For you to make a change in your life, no expensive coach is
necessary.
Day 146: On Decision Avoidance I saw myself sitting
in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just
because I couldn’t make up my mind which of the figs
I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them,
but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat
there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and
go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground
at my feet.
—Sylvia Plath 141

Not making a decision is also a decision, and usually the worst one. While
you’re torn between one choice and another, you’re losing time you could have
spent taking action — any action — and then figuring out whether it was the
right choice or not.
People often decide to not decide, or they put off their decisions because of
a fear of missing out. Choosing one thing means not choosing another. However,
not choosing either of them means losing both.
It’s also tempting to avoid making a decision because it creates an illusion
that you still have the freedom to choose. And while it’s true that you do retain
this freedom, there’s more freedom in commitment, as it frees you from inertia
and gets you closer to determining where you want to go.
If you’re hesitant about whether you want to pursue a certain goal or not,
figure out a low-investment way to get started. You can’t get much additional
insight by waiting for an excessive period of time, while you can gain an
immense amount of knowledge by going ahead and testing the waters.
Day 147: On Walking by Your Mistakes
Far too often we let little things slide. But just turn on the news and listen
as the anchors lament an auto-part defect leading to deaths and multibillion-
dollar recalls or a small leak in a gas pipeline causing an explosion that
endangers wildlife. Recognizing when something is wrong, big or small, and
holding people accountable can save industries billions and citizens their lives.
Sergeant Bowen instilled in me instantly that if you do walk by a mistake, then
you just set a new, lower standard.
—Ann Dunwoody 142

When you make an unimportant mistake, there’s a temptation to let it go

and ignore it. After all, it isn’t a big deal, so why bother? If your dishes aren’t
pristinely clean, it won’t change much in the grand scheme of things, and most
certainly won’t hurt anybody.
The problem is that walking by your mistakes sets a precedent of tolerating
small errors. You’re also missing out on a valuable exercise in self-control:
making sure that all that you do is done with the utmost care.
I’m the last person to say that from now on you need to make sure that
everything that you do is flawless. I’m fully aware that it isn’t feasible, and I’d
be a hypocrite to say that; my favorite tea mug is never entirely free of tea stains!
However, whenever you can, try to exercise a little bit of self-control and
correct a little thing that you consider unimportant. It can be a small tweak in
your posture, making sure that you sit properly in front of the computer. It can
be making an effort to speak more clearly and improve your articulation. It can
be ensuring that your bed is made properly or slicing a loaf of bread with more
precision.
I often spend several minutes trying to fix a paragraph that I don’t consider
up to my standards. In the grand scheme of things, one single paragraph doesn’t
mean much. However, when the little things are repeated over and over again, it
does have an effect on the final outcome and carries the risk of establishing a
precedent — in this case, of my being lazy with my writing.
WEEK 22
Day 148: On Fear Action cures fear.
—David Schwartz 143

Many put off acting on their goals because they’re afraid. Instead of facing
the challenge head on, they choose a more comfortable option: withdrawing until
they gain the courage to take action.
The sad truth is that courage never appears out of the blue, magically
manifesting itself if you only wait long enough. Brave people aren’t immune to
fear; they also feel it, but decide to act in spite of it. And in this very act of
refusal, fear goes away and they get to do incredible things.
As a rock climber, fear is my regular companion. Fear makes you question
whether you can climb a particular route, or when climbing, makes you back out
from a challenge.
While fear does serve an important purpose in situations like climbing,
when there sometimes is a risk of injuring or killing yourself, it’s often a wrong
counselor. The key is to ask yourself one fundamental question: Is there a
statistically-significant chance of harming myself?
In climbing, a potential fall is often safe, so any fear that makes you
question your abilities is unfounded. If a fall is safe, you might as well try and
fall; nothing bad will happen. However, sometimes the decision to continue
climbing needs to be carefully calculated, especially when a potential fall can be
dangerous. Then fear can actually save your life.
However, in most everyday applications, fear is unfounded. There’s almost
no risk involved in chatting up that attractive stranger, launching a side business
on a shoestring, applying for a new job, starting a diet, or implementing any
other change of a similar nature.
This means that unless you’re engaging in any higher-risk activity, you
need to go past your fear. I know — it’s not pleasant, it’s paralyzing, it causes so
much pressure that all you want to do is get away from it. However, if you want
to strengthen your self-discipline and build mental toughness, there’s no better
exercise than to repeatedly face your fears.
By regularly facing my fear of heights, I was able to largely cure myself of
it. If I were continuously avoiding it, hoping that one day the fear would
disappear by itself, I’d never have become a rock climber.
Day 149: On the Weak Point in Your Armor
The individual can attain self-control in great things only through self-
control in little things. He must study himself to discover what is the weak point
in his armor, what is the element within him that ever keeps him from his fullest
success. This is the characteristic upon which he should begin his exercise in
self-control. Is it selfishness, vanity, cowardice, morbidness, temper, laziness,
worry, mind-wandering, lack of purpose? — whatever form human weakness
assumes in the masquerade of life he must discover.
—William George Jordan 144

Inspect your armor and find its weakest point, the common thread that leads
you into most temptations or poses the biggest barrier to achieving your goals.
For example, in my case, one of my weakest points is patience. If I do
something, I want to go all out and get results as quickly as possible. While it
often serves as a strength, it’s also a common reason why I fail to achieve some
of my goals.
I follow rigid routines and am sometimes so strict with myself that
eventually I can no longer continue because I burn myself out. What follows is a
full-blown cheat day (after following too strict of a diet), an inability to write
(after writing too much for too long), or an injury (after exercising too hard).
My inability to be patient with the process was also one of the reasons why
I failed to build a profitable business for several years. Instead of accepting the
fact that all businesses need the owner’s undivided focus for a long period of
time, I constantly launched one business after another, thinking each time that
the new business model would surely provide a breakthrough.
Having discovered my weak point, when setting new goals I now focus on
sustainability. I try to accept the fact that it’s better to take the longer path with
fewer pitfalls than choose the quick route with a high chance of failure or delude
myself by thinking that switching my strategy (for no reason) will lead to
success.
What are your own weak points? How do they affect your goals and what
can you do to fix those weaknesses, to prevent them from continuing to affect
your life in a negative way?
Day 150: On Indulgences Charging You Interest It’s
this great paradox that only a few people understand,
but ultra-performers have realized that
procrastination and indulgence are like these
creditors that charge us interest. They make us feel
good now, it’s easy in the short term, but it’s what
creates the more difficult life.
—Rory Vaden 145

Metaphors can serve as useful tools to better understand and embrace

concepts that otherwise don’t produce an emotional effect.
If I tell you that putting things off and indulging yourself affect you
negatively in the long term, perhaps you’ll agree with me and stay away from
them. Or perhaps you’ll ignore me, because the statement in itself isn’t
emotionally-charged and memorable.
Instead, what if you embraced the metaphor that procrastination and
indulgence are like your creditors? They extend you some credit today, but don’t
fool yourself — they will be back, asking you to give the money back along with
interest.
The more you overeat today, the more time you’ll have to spend in the
future in a caloric deficit. A cake today is so tasty and nice to have, but don’t let
it fool you — under the friendly face hides a ruthless banker.
The more time you spend playing video games, the harder it will be in the
future to give up the habit and become more productive. Indulging yourself feels
good today, but there will be a price to pay for it!
What are the interest rates your indulgences charge you? The next time
you’re about to succumb to a temptation, ask yourself if you want to place
yourself in debt, in exchange for a fleeting moment of pleasure.
Day 151: On Changing Your Character If you make
disciplined, caring choices, you are slowly engraving
certain tendencies into your mind. You are making it
more likely that you will desire the right things and
execute the right actions. If you make selfish, cruel, or
disorganized choices, then you are slowly turning this
core thing inside yourself into something that is
degraded, inconstant, or fragmented.
—David Brooks 146

If you currently don’t see yourself as a self-disciplined person and your

desires and actions prioritize instant gratification over sacrifices that lead to
bigger rewards in the future, you may feel as if there’s no way you’ll ever
change. After all, it’s been your way of doing things for a long time, and it’s
probably already part of your nature now.
Fortunately, while your character takes time to change, it is possible to
change it — with thousands of little decisions and by embracing certain thoughts
over others.
For example, today you may not have a tendency to desire healthy food, but
rest assured that if you eat it for long enough, you will develop a desire for it.
I’m speaking from my own experience; initially I couldn’t stand the taste of
many vegetables, such as broccoli, Brussels sprouts, or cauliflower. As for the
other vegetables, I was neutral about most of them, which meant that — given a
choice between eating vegetables and something else, I’d go for something else.
Today, I often crave vegetables. I no longer need to force myself to eat them. A
tendency to consume them regularly is now a part of my character.
This little example is only one change that was engraved in my mind after
making disciplined choices over and over again. No matter which area of your
life you are talking about, what now feels like a difficult act of deprivation or a
sacrifice will eventually turn into something you consider essential in your life.
Day 152: On the Future Value of Money
If an item was listed at fifty dollars, consider the potential value of that
same fifty dollars after it has been invested for twenty years. Ask, “Is this item
worth $250?” If it’s worth $250 to you today, then it’s worth buying.
—Darren Hardy 147

Money has present and future value. At the very moment, 50 bucks is 50
bucks. However, when invested over a long period of time (with a rate or return
that exceeds inflation) , it can grow several times or more.
If you’re struggling to maintain self-discipline with your finances, use
Darren Hardy’s mind trick to reduce the number of unnecessary purchases and
assume that each purchase costs you five times more over the long term.
Alternatively, think of any purchase as hours of your work. 50 bucks is just
a number that has little, if any, emotional charge. How about two or three hours
of your life? Would you buy this new trinket with two or three hours of your
time, instead of paying with a $50 bill? What if it’s actually the same thing as
losing fifteen hours of your life over the long run? Is it still worth it?
Day 153: On Spontaneity As he walked across the
farmyard toward the hen house, he noticed the pump
was leaking. So he stopped to fix it. It needed a new
washer, so he set off to the barn to get one. But on the
way he saw that the hayloft needed straightening, so
he went to fetch the pitchfork. Hanging next to the
pitchfork was a broom with a broken handle. “I must
make a note to myself to buy a broom handle the next
time I get to town,” he thought…
By now it is clear that the farmer is not going to get his eggs gathered, nor
is he likely to accomplish anything else he sets out to do. He is utterly, gloriously
spontaneous, but he is hardly free. He is, if anything, a prisoner to his unbridled
spontaneity. The fact of the matter is that discipline is the only way to freedom; it
is the necessary context for spontaneity.
—John Guest 148

When you think of spontaneity, you might think of it as something positive

and fun. Going on an unplanned road trip. Dancing in the rain. Saying yes to
random invitations.
Spontaneity can be positive, as long as you don’t mistake it with
impulsiveness. Whenever you justify your uninhibited behaviors with
spontaneity, ask yourself if that’s what it really is or whether your unplanned
actions are in reality caused by a lack of self-control.
Another danger you need to be aware of is when people use spontaneity to
lure you in to betray your resolutions. For example, imagine you’re on a diet.
When you’re out having fun with your friends, at midnight suddenly one of them
announces that you’re all going to go get some pizza. If you back out, you may
be called uptight or a killjoy .
At that moment, it’s important to realize that your friend’s accusations are
unfounded because they mistake disinhibition with spontaneity. You can still be
spontaneous without ruining your goals. For example, instead of eating a pizza,
you can eat something less caloric (like a salad), eat just one or two small slices,
or if you decide to eat the entire pizza, schedule a strenuous workout the next
day (or reduce your caloric intake for a day) to burn off the excess calories.
If you’re wondering if self-discipline is going to make you a boring person,
realize that you can make an exception from time to time — just don’t do it
when you’re being pressured into doing it.
Day 154: On the Value of Doing Things Yourself
Know the pleasure of workmanship, the joy that comes from things made
well by your own hands, the happiness which comes from closer touch with the
fundamental things of life and the consciousness of being of value to the world.
—Ernest Thompson Seton 149

In today’s world, nobody is self-sufficient. Everybody is doing what they

do best and they rely on others to satisfy their other needs and desires. Division
of labor has led to prosperity, but it has also made us lazy: whatever you want,
you can buy it and get it almost instantly delivered to your door.
Have a backyard? Hire a gardener to tend to it. Don’t want to clean? Hire a
maid. Don’t have the patience to learn how to fix your sink? Call a handyman.
There’s nothing inherently wrong about it and in fact, more often than not
it’s a smart approach. Why waste time doing something you’re not good at if
there are people who would be happy to take care of the problem for you?
However, if you develop a habit that whenever you’re facing a problem,
you need to call somebody else to fix it, what will happen to your problem-
solving skills? How likely will you be to keep going when problems emerge in
your line of work and it will be you who will need to deal with them ?
Lastly, by avoiding doing things yourself, how many opportunities are you
missing out on to learn something new or face a difficult situation head on and
solve it yourself?
At the moment I’m writing this, I’m in the process of remodeling my
apartment. I debated on hiring an interior designer to handle the entire process:
design the apartment, buy materials, hire contractors, and manage it all.
However, even though I could afford it, in the end I decided against it,
realizing that in addition to financial savings, it was a good opportunity to learn
something new. Remodeling can be a frustrating and difficult undertaking, so it
can also serve as a valuable exercise in self-control. In the end, doing it myself
will not only save me money, but also lead to personal growth — and that’s the
primary reward of doing things yourself.
WEEK 23
Day 155: On Broadening Your Horizons
What do you know of history, biology, evolution, ethics, and the thousand
and one branches of knowledge? “But,” you object, “I fail to see how such
things can aid me in the writing of a romance or a poem.” Ah, but they will —
not so much directly as by subtle reaction. They broaden your thought, lengthen
out your vistas, drive back the bounds of the field in which you work. They give
you your philosophy, which is like unto no other man’s philosophy, force you to
original thought.
—Jack London 150

Jack London’s advice is for writers who want to improve their craft, but it
can also apply to any other domain. Expanding your knowledge and exposing
yourself to different disciplines is not only a fantastic way to become a more
educated person, but also a powerful way to become more successful.
Random bits of information from one domain can help you achieve success
in another. Likewise, experience gained in one field can provide the foundation
for another endeavor.
I’m an inquisitive person by nature and I’m always interested in learning
about new things from various domains. I often randomly stumble upon
powerful life lessons while learning about fields that are completely unrelated to
personal development .
For example, rock climbing has taught me the value of taking things one
step at a time. When climbing a difficult route, you focus only on the next
handhold or foothold. You slowly advance, with your vision limited to the
immediate surroundings. The same approach is effective when working on your
goals — instead of worrying whether you get to the top, you focus on what’s
right in front of you.
The experience and skills I gained when climbing are now useful to me in
every other sport, and thanks to that, I can learn them more quickly.
On a completely unrelated note, the experience of off-road driving has
taught me the power of momentum. It’s difficult to gain traction with nothing
but sand under your wheels, but once you start, you can traverse difficult terrain.
If you stop, it will be hard to start yet again. I don’t think I need to tell you how
much that applies to the world of personal development.
Draw parallels between different fields and strive to always expand your
knowledge. Becoming erudite can dramatically improve your ability to learn
quickly and achieve success with many different endeavors.
Day 156: On Wanting What We Already Have
One wonderful way to tame our tendency to always want more is to
persuade ourselves to want the things we already have.
—William B. Irvine 151

I’m a follower of intermittent fasting, a type of eating in which you

regularly alternate between eating and abstaining from food.
In addition to daily fasts of 16 to 20 hours, I sometimes fast for 40 hours or
more. When you fast for such a long time, your senses are heightened. Smells
are more intense and flavors more explosive.
In this state, you learn to want things you already have. A simple apple
tastes like heaven and is more than sufficient as a food source. I don’t need an
apple pie, a caramelized apple sprinkled with cinnamon, or apple pancakes
covered with apple-horseradish sauce.
You can persuade yourself to want the things you have by abstaining from
them for a period of time or imagining they’re no longer available for you. It
doesn’t apply just to food. Things can disappear in a blink of an eye — including
your house, car, clothes, family members, spouse, a comfortable bed, a warm
shower, or your health.
When you feel the threat of losing something you hold dearly, you’ll start
wanting it with more intensity than ever before. As a result, you’ll work harder
to keep it in your life and stop craving other things .
The applications of this practice for self-discipline are endless and go
beyond the example with fasting.
Stop driving for a few days and imagine you’ll always have to commute by
bus or bike. Suddenly you might realize that you actually love your current car
and there’s no need to strain your finances and buy a new one.
Imagine — and I’m sorry for the horrid mental picture — that your loved
one died in a car accident right after you had an argument with them. How
terrible would you feel if it was your anger — and not your expression of love
— that would accompany them in their last moments? Wouldn’t such a morbid
reminder make you less prone to anger attacks and more likely to exert
willpower to not shout at your partner, child, parent, or other loved one?
In many aspects, your life is already incredible. You just need to remind
yourself that you can lose it, so that you can relearn its value for you.
Day 157: On Remembering Death
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever
encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything
— all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure —
these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly
important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to
avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked.
There is no reason not to follow your heart.
—Steve Jobs 152

In the face of death, what does pride or fear of embarrassment mean? What
will you regret more in your last days: not going after your goals out of a fear of
failure or voluntarily putting yourself in uncomfortable situations that might
result in embarrassment in exchange for eventually making your dreams come
true?
It’s not a particularly pleasant practice to remember that you’re going to
die, but it can serve as a powerful reminder that — in the grand scheme of things
— there’s little you can lose and a lot you can gain by chasing after your dreams
(and on the other hand, a lot to lose and little to gain by not shaping your life the
way you want it to be just because you’re afraid of failure or embarrassment).
Day 158: On Learning From the Greats You do not
win in a big fight by any patent device. There is not
any way by which you can turn your hand and
conquer in a time of great trial. You have got to
conquer as your fathers and grandfathers conquered
before you. You have got to conquer as strong men
have conquered in every struggle of history, and draw
on whatever fund of courage, of resolution, of
hardihood, of iron will that you have at your
command, and you can conquer only if you draw on
just those qualities.
—Theodore Roosevelt 153

Whatever problems you’re facing today, somebody has already faced them
in the past. Perhaps not in the exact same way as you, but close enough that the
story of this person will resonate with you.
That’s why I find biographies (particularly autobiographies) so inspirational
— you’re getting to know the stories of great individuals and discover that no
matter what period of history they took place in, people always employed the
same or similar ways to achieve success. What’s so powerful about it is that you
can apply their lessons in your own life and have a reasonable chance that if it
worked for them, it will work for you.
It might sound like I’m opposed to the use of self-help literature (obviously
I’m not; otherwise I wouldn’t write my books!), but I strongly believe that
you’re often better served by reading biographies of people you want to emulate,
rather than yet another generic book about personal development. (And yes, you
have my blessing to close this book now, if you have a good biography waiting
for you on the bookshelf!) Here are some biographies I strongly recommend,
listed in no particular order: 1. Losing My Virginity and Finding My Virginity by
Richard Branson.
2. Shoe Dog by Phil Knight.
3. Elon Musk by Ashlee Vance.
4. How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big by Scott Adams.
5. On Writing by Stephen King.
6. How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis.
7. Let My People Go Surfing by Yvon Chouinard.
Day 159: On Having Option s
Always have options. Options are a primary source of power.
—Dave Kekich 154

Here’s an easy way to sabotage yourself: limit your thinking to black or

white. It’s either A or B. You either do it or you don’t. Having only two options
takes away your power to choose and makes you susceptible to decision
avoidance. This, in turn, makes you less likely to introduce important changes in
your life.
Rarely, if ever, are there only two options.
For example, let’s imagine you’re now working 9 to 5, but you’d like to
become an entrepreneur. Black or white thinking makes you believe that you
only have two options: keep your job or give notice and start your business.
With only two (opposite) directions to choose from, you can’t make it any harder
for you to decide.
What about continuing your career while building a side business? How
about asking your boss if you can work from your home office? What about
changing your form of employment to become a contractor instead of an
employee? What about finding a job in a startup that is looking for a cofounder
with your experience?
Suddenly you have other options, and those options can empower you to
introduce a change instead of having to choose between the status quo and
making an irresponsible decision.
Whenever you catch yourself thinking that you only have two options, think
again. Black-or-white thinking is mental laziness. Always find at least one more
alternative and give yourself a better chance of making the right decision.
Day 160: On Deliberate Practic e Doing things we
know how to do well is enjoyable, and that’s exactly
the opposite of what deliberate practice demands.
Instead of doing what we’re good at, we insistently
seek out what we’re not good at. Then we identify the
painful, difficult activities that will make us better and
do those things over and over. After each repetition,
we force ourselves to see — or get others to tell us —
exactly what still isn’t right so we can repeat the most
painful and difficult parts of what we’ve just done.
—Geoff Colvin 155

Concentrating on what you aren’t good at instead of exclusively doing what

you do well can dramatically speed up your progress rate, particularly in a
complex endeavor that has many moving pieces.
It’s tempting to stick to doing what you’re good at and ignore the rest. It
feels enjoyable, and if it’s a skill you can show off to others, that’s another
reason to stick to what you do well. However, ultimately you can find little
growth in repeating (over and over again) what you’ve already mastered, while
other aspects of your performance leave something to be desired.
For example, in rock climbing one of my weaknesses is climbing routes
that rely heavily on finger strength. I could choose to ignore any routes of this
nature, but doing so would mean dramatically slowing down my progress, if not
bringing it to a halt. Even though it gives me great pleasure to climb routes with
easier handholds and climbing the ones requiring finger strength is often a
nightmare, I know that ultimately, it’s the uncomfortable routes that will make
me a better climber.
Focusing on your strengths and ignoring or bypassing what you aren’t good
at is a form of instant gratification. Meanwhile, identifying the painful, difficult
activities that will address your weaknesses requires sacrifice, but ultimately
leads to bigger rewards in the future. Go with the latter.
Day 161: On Addressing the Real Mistakes When
expert putters miss, they don’t say, “I am a terrible
putter.” They say, “I picked the wrong target.”
—John Eliot 156

Proclaiming that you suck simply because you made a mistake is not only
being unfair to yourself. You also rob yourself of the opportunity to improve,
and increase the risk of developing learned helplessness.
Learning can’t happen if you believe that improvement is beyond your
control. Yet, that’s precisely what you’re doing when you’re pointing the finger
at yourself instead of at a specific action that you took.
Imagine an instructor who tells their student that they’re a terrible tennis
player. What does such kind of feedback accomplish besides demotivating the
student? The only effective way to teach is to deliver specific feedback
pertaining to a concrete aspect of their game, not by criticizing the person
playing it.
Do what expert putters do. Instead of wrongly criticizing yourself , address
the real mistakes in the form of specific actions you took that didn’t result in the
desired outcome.
WEEK 24
Day 162: On Inverse Paranoia
Inverse paranoid: someone who believes the world is conspiring to do him
good. Sees every situation as being heaven-sent to teach some valuable lesson or
make him successful. This is the most outwardly identifiable quality of a high-
performing person.
—Brian Tracy 157

Cognitive reframing is a process in which you change the meaning of a

difficulty, hardship, or failure and give it a positive slant.
For example, if you were injured during a workout, you can think of it as
the worst thing that could have happened to you or you can reframe it by looking
at it as an opportunity to recharge and focus on performing the exercise more
safely in the future, perhaps preventing an even worse injury by doing so.
If you cheated while on a diet, you can think of it as a stupid move on your
part. However, it would be better to look at it as a lesson by asking yourself why,
where, and when it happened, and what you can do to avoid doing it again in the
future.
If you’re ready to take cognitive reframing to the extreme (and I strongly
recommend you do so), develop what Brian Tracy calls “inverse paranoia”: the
belief that the world is conspiring to do you good and that everything that
happens to you contributes to your success .
Living with such a mindset not only makes you happier. It also makes you
more mentally resilient (because you know that everything happens for a good
reason) and consequently, less likely to become discouraged and give up.
Day 163: On Angry Comebacks Never respond to an
angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he
deserves it... Don’t allow his anger to become your
anger.
—Bohdi Sanders 158

Anger is one of the most infectious emotions. When somebody attacks them
verbally, for many people the urge to offer a nasty, angry comeback is so
overpowering that they do it automatically. Before you know it, you’re engaged
in a verbal fight. Working on controlling your anger can provide great benefits
when it comes to strengthening your impulse control.
Every time somebody attacks you, resist the temptation to engage in a fight
by either finding something funny about the situation, deflecting the attack (for
example by thanking the attacker for expressing their opinion, which might then
strike you as humorous), or if those are not possible, walking away from the
situation.
Remember that in the grand scheme of things you gain nothing — and risk
a lot — by responding with a fiery comeback. As good as venting feels at that
moment, losing your temper is not worth it when you consider the potential
longer-term cost, such as losing your job, your reputation, a key relationship, or
even just ruining your mood for the entire day.
Refusing to respond with anger is a simple exercise, but not easy . And
that’s why, combined with the fact that most of us deal with aggressive people at
least once a week, it can be a valuable opportunity for you to increase your self-
control when interacting with others.
As a bonus quote for today, ponder the words of Hazrat Inayat Khan: “Very
often in everyday life one sees that by losing one’s temper with someone who
has already lost his, one does not gain anything but only sets out upon the path
of stupidity. He who has enough self-control to stand firm at the moment when
the other person is in a temper, wins in the end. It is not he who has spoken a
hundred words aloud who has won; it is he who has perhaps spoken only one
word.” 159
Day 164: On Easing Yourself Into the Pain
One painful duty fulfilled makes the next plainer and easier.
—Helen Keller 160

If you have a few unpleasant tasks to perform and you have no idea where
to start, begin with the least unpleasant task to ease yourself into the pain, so to
speak. Once you cross off the first task, working on the next task — even if it’s
more painful than the first one — should be easier because you’ll be warmed up,
carried forward by the positive momentum.
It’s like taking a brief, 10-second cold shower prior to jumping into a cold
swimming pool (something I used to do when I was a regular at my local
swimming pool). You’ve already exhibited some self-control, warmed yourself
up for discomfort (I know, “warming yourself up” isn’t really a good choice of
words here) and now the more unpleasant act of submerging your body in cold
water should be easier. After all, you’ve already taken the first step and gained
some momentum.
If even the least unpleasant task on your list is still so overwhelming that
you don’t want to get to it, warm yourself up to discomfort by doing virtually
anything else that’s slightly uncomfortable, such as doing the dishes, performing
a quick set of squats, or cleaning your desk .
This way, you’ll slowly transition from being comfortable into being a bit
less comfortable, and eventually, into the unpleasant task you need to perform.
Day 165: On Not Living Up To Your Ideals Our
behavior sometimes falls short of our ideals not
because we’re bad people and not because our self-
interest outweighs our benevolence, but because we
don’t realize we’re not living up to our ideals.
—Russ Roberts 161

Self-awareness is an important part of the process of making any change. If

you don’t pay enough attention to your actions, you won’t be able to ensure that
you live up to your ideals.
Each week, perform a quick review. Ask yourself if your actions during the
past week were congruent with your ideals, values, and goals.
For example, if my goal is to become a calmer, more understanding person,
each week (or each day), I’ll ask myself if I exuded those emotions or let myself
go — and in both cases, specifically when I did so, and how and why.
Knowing when you make mistakes will help you avoid them in the future
and encourage further improvement. Don’t focus on mistakes alone, though. For
motivational purposes, it’s also important to think about when you did live up to
your ideals and feel proud of your progress.
Implement self-monitoring and periodic reviews in your routine, and you’ll
increase your chances of making a new change stick. If you don’t evaluate your
behavior, you’ll make everything harder.
Day 166: On Handling Emotion s
People with a strong physical constitution can tolerate extremes of hot and
cold; people of strong mental health can handle anger, grief, joy and the other
emotions.
—Epictetus 162

While people usually associate self-discipline with the ability to resist

temptations (such as laziness or overeating), another equally (if not more)
important benefit of self-control is the increased ability to control your emotions.
Both negative and positive feelings make our lives more exciting, but they
can also jeopardize our long-term goals if we let them influence our behavior too
much.
For example, if you’re impatient and tend to rush things, one wrong,
emotionally-motivated decision can destroy the progress of many months or
years.
A more disciplined approach to impatience — recognizing the difference
between when the emotion can actually inspire positive change and when it’s a
sign of dissatisfaction with something you can’t control — would serve you
more than letting impatience dictate all of your behaviors.
Positive emotions, as pleasant as they feel, can also affect you negatively.
For example, being overjoyed with your results carries the danger of self-
congratulation and subsequent complacency, which places you at risk of losing
the habits that you had to develop to reach that success .
A more disciplined approach to joy — expressing your happiness and
gratitude for your success, and then reminding yourself that you still have a lot
to learn and promptly looking for another challenge — would serve you more
than jumping from joy and assuming that now that you’ve accomplished your
goal, you’re a world-class expert and now nothing will ever stand in your way.
Be vigilant of both your positive and negative emotions and understand the
risk they can carry with them when left unchecked.
Day 167: On Routines Overcoming a Bad Mood
A solid routine fosters a well-worn groove for one’s mental energies and
helps stave off the tyranny of moods.
—Mason Currey 163

I’m a big proponent of daily routines, not only because they ensure that you
steadily advance toward your goal, but also because they reduce the likelihood
of negative moods ruining your progress.
Let’s not fool ourselves — we’re humans, and sometimes we feel bad. If
you don’t have a daily routine and wake up in a bad mood, it’s almost certain
that you won’t care much about your current resolutions and forego them for the
rest of the day. Handling your negative mood will be more important than any
other objectives you might have had.
However, if you’ve established a daily routine and it’s now instilled in your
mind, the risk that you won’t perform it is much lower. Why is that so? Because
the beautiful thing about a daily routine is that once it’s automatic, you feel bad
when you don’t do it. This means that if you’re in a bad mood, not performing
your routine will make you feel even worse, so the best choice is to stick to your
routine in spite of your bad mood.
When setting important long-term goals, also create daily routines that will
steadily move you toward achieving them. Once established, they will be some
of your biggest allies.
Day 168: On Wasting Your Energy When You Don’t
Have Important Rituals There is no more miserable
human being than one in whom nothing is habitual
but indecision, and for whom the lighting of every
cigar, the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and
going to bed every day, and the beginning of every bit
of work, are subjects of express volitional
deliberation. Full half the time of such a man goes to
the deciding, or regretting, of matters which ought to
be so ingrained in him as practically not to exist for
his consciousness at all.
—William James 164

Continuing on the topic of routines that we discussed yesterday, the more

routines you have (particularly routines for the most important parts of the day),
the more time and energy you have for making decisions.
Many top performers follow specific routines, but they all differ wildly. For
example, Pablo Picasso worked between 3 p.m. and 2 a.m., with a one-hour
break at 10 p.m., while Victor Hugo spent most of his day on leisure, except for
a 2-hour writing session between 6 and 8 p.m. Benjamin Franklin woke up at 5
in the morning, while Pablo Picasso didn’t wake up until 11 a.m.
This demonstrates that what’s most important is not following somebody
else’s specific routine, but following some kind of a routine that fits your
personality .
At a minimum, develop at least three routines in your life that will eliminate
indecision and improve your control of the day: 1. When you wake up and
when you go to bed. Life is unpredictable and things will happen, but you can
choose your working hours and ensure a highly predictable weekly schedule.
2. What you do in the morning to ensure a good day’s start. Discover
what types of mornings usually lead to happy, productive days and repeat the
same actions daily.
3. When you work. Most applicable to entrepreneurs and other people with
flexible work schedule. If you don’t have a flexible schedule, at least dedicate a
set period of the day for the most important part of your work.
WEEK 25
Day 169: On Stopping at the Right Moment to Help
You Tomorrow
The best way is always to stop when you are going good and when you
know what will happen next. If you do that every day when you are writing a
novel you will never be stuck. That is the most valuable thing I can tell you so try
to remember it.
—Ernest Hemingway 165

One simple trick a writer can use to help him or her resume writing the next
day is to stop in the middle of a sentence that leads to a clear conclusion. This
way, when they sit down to write the next time, there won’t be any writer’s
block: they can gain momentum right away by finishing the sentence.
This advice can be helpful for non-writers, too.
Each day when you’re finishing your work, leave an easy, unimportant task
half-finished so that you can immediately begin to work on it the next day with
little to no resistance.
If you’re reading a book about an important skill you want to learn, stop in
the middle of an easy chapter, not a difficult one.
If you want to improve your nutritional habits but your busyness often leads
you to eat less than healthy breakfasts, prepare a small, healthy breakfast the
evening before.
Make it easy for you to resume your activity the next day, and you’ll rarely,
if ever, struggle to get started.
Day 170: On Supply and Deman d
Supply and demand: the more people do something, the less valuable it is.
—Derek Sivers 166

An often-overlooked benefit of self-discipline is that it’s a rare trait.

Consequently, it makes you a more valuable employee when compared to your
lazy colleagues, a more respected boss when compared to a boss who demands a
lot from others but not from themselves, or a more trustworthy business partner
when compared to a person who doesn’t mind cutting corners.
Since self-discipline is so hard to attain, there will always be more demand
than supply. This can indirectly lead to more opportunities and a better financial
situation.
If you still find it hard to resist temptations, emotions often get the best of
you, and you can’t overcome the allure of instant gratification, try to give self-
discipline a monetary value.
The fact that you’re becoming more productive (thanks to more self-
discipline) increases your chances of being promoted at work. More self-
discipline means that you’ll improve more quickly at a skill that you plan to
monetize soon. And if you’re an entrepreneur, it directly affects how much
income you generate.
It probably sounds ridiculous to suggest that you can become a more self-
disciplined person by linking self-discipline with higher income, but can you
deny that money is a powerful motivator for many people ?
If I were to give you $100,000 if you eliminated three bad habits from your
life, I’m pretty sure that no matter how many times you had failed to get rid of
them before, this time you’d succeed.
Think of self-discipline in the same category as any other skill or credential
you could list on your resume or in a sales brochure. It doesn’t cost anything
(other than your time and energy) to develop this ability, and the return on this
investment can be higher than any other lucrative endeavor you might pursue.
Day 171: On Stres s Stress — including negative
emotions like anger, sadness, self-doubt, and anxiety
— shifts the brain into a reward-seeking state. You
end up craving whatever substance or activity your
brain associates with the promise of reward, and you
become convinced that the “reward” is the only way
to feel better.
—Kelly McGonigal 167

There are two types of stress: distress , which is negative stress in the
common usage of this word, and eustress , the good type of stress in which you
respond to stress with healthy, positive feelings (for example, during an athletic
competition or riding a roller coaster).
Distress, and particularly chronic distress, is one of the biggest enemies of
willpower. When you’re under stress, your ability to withstand pressure
diminishes. This means that you can no longer exhibit the same kind of mental
toughness and self-discipline as when you’re your normal self. It’s like
expecting your car (you) to have the same acceleration when there’s a semi-truck
(stress) attached to it.
As Kelly McGonigal notes, stress puts you into a reward-seeking state
where your priority ceases to be about personal growth (such as overcoming a
temptation), and becomes all about gaining comfort, often at the expense of your
long-term goals. And it makes a lot of sense: why would a person who’s stressed
out seek more stressors?
Chronically elevated levels of stress will not only have a negative effect on
your health and well-being, but also on your entire life. If you often get stressed,
make it your priority to relax daily, even if it’s just five minutes of cuddling with
your partner, reading a book, or taking a short walk.
In addition to that, avoid setting any new challenges for your willpower and
conserve your energy when you’re going through a tough period. It’s better to
deal with the stress first and then (having recovered) focus on personal growth
yet again, than it is to put too much burden on your shoulders and collapse under
the weight.
Day 172: On Having More Than One Identit y
Those who gain their sense of identity from many areas are more resilient
when failing in any one area. For example, a professional tennis player is more
likely to be upset by losing a match than is an amateur player for whom tennis is
only one of many activities in the week.
—Neil Fiore 168

If you define yourself by only one role — an entrepreneur, a surfer, a

writer, or a pianist — your self-image might be heavily dependent on your
performance in this role. This can make you incapable of effectively processing
big failures in that area.
For this reason, it’s good to define yourself by at least several roles. Then,
even when you fail in one domain, there will still be other areas in which your
performance might still inspire hope and help you recover from the failure in
that other thing.
For example, if I have a bad day when rock climbing, it won’t affect my
well-being very much if I’m still doing well as a writer or have recently
improved my language skills or strengthened a key relationship. If I considered
myself exclusively a rock climber, each failure would crush me.
How many roles do you have? How many of them affect your self-image?
If you have only one or two defining roles, consider adding an additional identity
or two. That way, you’ll disperse any negative emotions over several domains
and improve your ability to quickly bounce back from any failure in one of
them.
Day 173: On Eating Alon e
Meals eaten with one other person present were 33% larger than meals
eaten alone, whereas 47%, 58%, 69%, 70%, 72%, and 96% increases were
associated with two, three, four, five, six, and seven or more people present,
respectively.
—John M. de Castro 169

Here’s a super simple way to improve your self-control when eating: eat
alone. When people eat with others, they eat more — and the greater the number
of people who share the meal with you, the more you eat.
However, studies suggest that this phenomenon isn’t related to the amount
of time spent eating. 170 It’s the companionship in itself that makes humans more
likely to eat more when they are around other people than when alone. The same
happens with animals. With chickens, for example, a full chicken will continue
eating if a hungry chicken starts eating with it.
If you’re currently on a diet and you frequently have a bite with other
people, ask yourself how important it is for you to spend time eating with them.
Perhaps you could forego or reduce the number of shared meals while you’re on
a diet and find a different activity that you could do together.
Sometimes such simple tweaks can quickly produce big results, so give it a
go for at least a few weeks and see whether it can help you achieve your goals
more quickly.
Day 174: On Experiencing Life Accept what life offers
you and try to drink from every cup. All wines should
be tasted; some should only be sipped, but with
others, drink the whole bottle.
—Paulo Coelho 171

While this book and most of my other books glorify self-discipline and
make it sound like the most important thing in the world, I don’t want you to
think that a life of deprivation is the right one. In fact, I believe that unless you
espouse self-discipline in a healthy way, it might be close to impossible to
maintain it in the long haul.
However, what is a healthy approach to self-discipline? It’s the attitude that
self-discipline exists to support you in your goals, but it shouldn’t prevent you
from fully experiencing life.
For example, I’m now on an overseas trip. While I’m still largely following
my routine by waking up early and working in the morning, I also make
exceptions: I work less, my diet is not as strict, and I allow myself to be lazier.
I’m still working toward some goals, but I put some on a temporary hold. I can
always work on them later, while pushing myself now would mean that I
wouldn’t be able to experience the trip to the fullest and recharge my batteries.
I want you to be as self-disciplined as possible, but I don’t want you to skip
eating spaghetti, pizza, or ice cream while in Italy, avoid eating a piece of
birthday cake at your best friend’s party, or to not enjoy sunny weather and goof
off at the beach every now and then .
However, as the quote from Paulo Coelho’s says, please note that you
should experience some things only a little, while others are there to be enjoyed
to the fullest. There are also experiences that you can skip without any regrets.
For example, you don’t have to take hard drugs to know that it’s a bad idea,
while indulging in unhealthy food every now and then (ideally when celebrating
something with your loved ones) isn’t that bad.
Lastly, don’t treat it as a permission to cheat. You shouldn’t go on a trip
while in the middle of your diet just so you can indulge in unhealthy food or get
lazy because it’s sunny outside while you have an urgent job to do.
Accept with welcoming hands what life has to offer, but make sure that you
drink from the right cups, and in the right amount — not too little, and not too
much.
Day 175: On Improving Self-Control by Using Your
Other Hand
Using the mouse, stirring your coffee, opening doors. This requires people
to practice self-control because their habitual tendency is to use their dominant
hands.
—Thomas Denson 172

One interesting exercise to improve your self-control is to start using your

other hand for the things you usually do with your dominant one. For example,
use your non-dominant hand for brushing your teeth, pouring drinks into a cup,
washing yourself, doing the dishes, opening jars, stirring coffee, or opening
doors.
Psychologist Thomas Denson had people use their non-dominant hand for
two weeks for any task that was safe to do that way. After two weeks, people in
the group using the non-dominant hand controlled their aggression better.
What does it have to do with self-control? It’s because aggression, or
virtually any other thing you control by exerting self-discipline, is an impulse.
Just like you automatically open doors with your dominant hand, so do you
impulsively reply with anger, grab a cookie, or choose the elevator instead of the
stairs.
Conscious change in your automatic behaviors, such as intentionally using
your non-dominant hand, can then help you improve your ability to control
impulses, and by extension, make you more self-disciplined. I know, it’s a wild
theory, but why not try it? Even if it only produces small improvements, it’s still
a fun experiment.
WEEK 26
Day 176: On Jotting Things Down
The palest ink is more reliable than the most powerful memory.
—Chinese proverb

It’s all fine and dandy to tell yourself that you’re going to achieve this and
that goal. However, in the end, our memories are fickle. You can forget about
some goals, or stop working on them simply because they were never real in the
first place — you’ve never written them down, so they only existed in your head
and if something is only in your head, you can conveniently make it disappear
without a trace or simply forget it without intending to.
Develop a habit of writing down your goals, even if it’s only one sentence
or two. Thanks to the habit of tracking your goals on paper, you’ll look at your
objectives as real-world resolutions and not just mere ideas floating through your
head that you can disregard whenever you feel like doing so. It’s more difficult
to do the same if your goals are written, because erasing them — regardless if
it’s by deleting a text file or tearing up a piece of paper — will make it painfully
clear that you’re giving up on them.
In addition to writing down your goals, write down specific routines that
you plan to follow in order to achieve them. For example, for this book, I have a
spreadsheet in which I note down how many daily entries I write each day. That
way, I can hold myself accountable and compare my performance today to that
of the past. Moreover, it makes it clear to me how close I am to achieving my
goal, and all of that boosts my motivation to keep going. It also lets me see if
things are going as planned and if the plan itself needs revision in order to
improve the results.
Day 177: On Sleep
Good sleep habits could refuel a person’s ability to make more difficult
choices instead of opting for the easier choice or the easier task.
—June J. Pilcher 173

Sleep is one of the needs that you can’t control no matter how self-
disciplined you are. You can choose to go without food for a few days and you’ll
be fine. If you’ve been going without sleep for, say, 48 hours, even in a situation
like driving (when falling asleep means certain death), you still won’t be able to
control it.
For this reason, sleep is king and you should do all in your power to ensure
that you have a good night’s sleep. Studies show that a lack of or poor sleep can
negatively affect self-control. I don’t think I need to cite research to convince
you that it’s true. You probably have plenty of empiric evidence from your own
life, and so do I.
If you’re half-asleep the entire day, your only priority will be to go to sleep
as quickly as possible. Who cares about dieting, exercise, money, etc. if they can
barely think straight, their mental capacity reduced to zero.
There are several key things you can do to improve your sleep:
1. Make sure you have a comfortable mattress. Most mattresses should be
replaced at least every ten years .
2. Make sure you sleep in silence. Any noise will dramatically reduce the
sleep quality. Use earplugs if there’s no way to soundproof your bedroom.
3. Make sure you sleep in the right temperature. The most beneficial
temperature for sleep is 60-67 degrees Fahrenheit (15-19 Celsius). 174
4. Make sure you reduce the amount of blue light you receive in the
evening, especially during the last hour before you want to be asleep. This
means not using electronics before sleep, and if not possible (as is the case for
most of us), put on blue-blocking goggles and make sure to expose yourself to
bright light during the day.
5. Make sure your racing mind is asleep. If you have any lingering
thoughts, write them down and resume thinking about them the next day. You
won’t have to revisit them during the time you should be sleeping because you
will have written them down.
6. Make sure you don’t consume caffeine when it’s less than six hours prior
to sleep (it takes three to seven hours for caffeine to metabolize 175 ). Caffeine-
induced sleep disorder is a real thing, and even if you can fall asleep after
drinking tea of coffee, it doesn’t mean your sleep is of high quality.
7. Make sure you don’t consume a big meal prior to going to sleep. Give
your body at least two hours after eating before you go to sleep.
Day 178: On Losing Momentum
No matter what your goal/project, never allow yourself to miss two days in
a row.
—Leo Babauta 176

Momentum will carry you forward almost automatically for as long as you
stick to your resolutions every day. Missing one day every now and then isn’t
that dangerous, but if it’s two or more days without any action taken to get you
closer to your goal, the risk of giving up on your goal dramatically increases.
What I’ve found from my personal experience is that you don’t necessarily
have to always stick to your resolutions exactly as they are stated. If, for
example, you have a goal to write 1,000 words a day and for a weekend you can
only write 100 words each day, you should still be able to resume your regular
routine on Monday easily. If, however, you skip writing altogether, resuming
your routine will be much more challenging.
The same happens with exercise, where even a super brief 5-minute
workout will still be better than not exercising at all, or when changing your
nutritional habits, where adding even one tiny vegetable to your plate is better
than only eating junk food.
Whenever you find yourself in a situation where it’s hard to stick to your
goals, take one full day off if you need it, but on the next day perform at least
one tiny action associated with your goal. That way you’ll still maintain some
momentum and ensure that it will be easier to resume your regular routine when
you’re ready.
Day 179: On Effort Generating Satisfaction
We like sitting in a garden but don’t want to get sweaty and dirty digging
up a garden space or mowing the lawn, so we pay a gardener to cut the grass
and plant some flowers.
We want to enjoy a nice meal, but shopping and cooking are too much
trouble, so we eat out or just pop something into the microwave.
Sadly, in surrendering our effort in these activities, we gain relaxation, but
we may actually give up a lot of deep enjoyment.
It’s often effort that ultimately creates long-term satisfaction.
—Dan Ariely 177

On day 154 we discussed the value of doing things yourself. We focused on

the fact that resisting the temptation to delegate everything can help you learn
new things and ultimately grow as a person.
Today I’d like to approach this subject from another perspective — that
effort leads to long-term satisfaction. By choosing what now feels like a choice
that maximizes your happiness (delegating the work), not only do you miss
potential opportunities to learn, but you also lose the positive feelings you can
get from expending the effort yourself.
As I’ve already stated , it’s not possible for most people to do everything
themselves. However, whenever you can afford to do so, overcome your laziness
and inertia, exert some willpower and, instead of having somebody else do
something for you, do it yourself.
Yes, in the beginning it probably won’t feel as nice as the relaxation you
could get from somebody else handling it for you, but in the end the expended
effort will probably make you happier; this will also improve your ability to
discipline yourself instead of defaulting to delegating the work to others.
Day 180: On Paying the Price as Fast as Possible
No matter how long a situation continues, there’s always a way to get out.
But the sooner you handle it, the easier it is.
Whenever I can I choose to pay in advance. But if I become aware of a
mistake, I want to pay the price as fast as possible and clear the record. I’ve
become fanatically intolerant of permanent irritants.
—Harry Browne 178

Small irritating things tend to grow into bigger problems the longer you let
them continue. Moreover, the longer the situation continues, the more difficult it
is to resolve it.
For this reason, it’s important to develop a habit of paying the price as fast
as possible: engage in something a little unpleasant today to resolve the situation
before it gets worse and more difficult to handle.
To share an example with you, there was a time when I used to carry a large
textile bag and a duffel bag for each outdoors climbing session. I was too lazy to
take my climbing gear out of my gym bag and put it into a travel backpack that
was more suitable for transportation between one crag and another.
I used to complain about it, but I didn’t do anything about the situation
because it was only a small irritant. Usually it didn’t take more than a couple of
minutes to access the crag, so it wasn’t a big deal to carry the gear this way .
Then one sector required a twenty-minute walk on a hiking path with steep
declines and inclines. I quickly discovered how stupid and uncomfortable it was
to carry climbing gear in something other than a backpack.
On the next occasion, I overcame my laziness and put my climbing gear
into a backpack. It took me just a few minutes to repack my things, and now I
could comfortably walk from one crag to another. Paying the price as fast as
possible — the first time I realized there was a problem — would have helped
me avoid unnecessary discomfort.
This and other similar lessons have taught me that it’s best to act as soon as
you realize that there’s a problem or an unpleasant thing to do. Use your self-
control to handle any irritants, no matter how small they might be, right away.
You’ll not only get rid of the problem, you’ll also exercise your willpower
muscle each time you decide to act immediately instead of postponing it.
Day 181: On the Disciplined Pursuit of Less
If success is a catalyst for failure because it leads to the “undisciplined
pursuit of more,” then one simple antidote is the disciplined pursuit of less. Not
just haphazardly saying no, but purposefully, deliberately, and strategically
eliminating the nonessentials.
—Greg McKeown 179

It takes work to simplify one’s life, and perhaps that’s why most people are
engaged in the undisciplined pursuit of more rather than less.
Saying no is uncomfortable, so by default they say yes to new obligations.
They don’t pause and ponder on how they use up their energy because it takes
too much work. There’s always something urgent to do, and hence they never
take the time to deliberately eliminate what’s unessential in their lives so they
can focus on what matters.
It’s particularly important to remedy a situation in which your non-priorities
dominate your priorities. For example, when you spend several hours a week
cleaning your house and then don’t have time and energy for exercise, it’s a
clear case of nonessentials robbing your priorities. Harness the power of self-
discipline to make some uncomfortable changes, such as hiring a cleaning
person so that you can free up your time and energy to focus on what matters
more — your well-being .
If you want to retain control over your life, embrace the strategy of
deliberately pursuing less. Instead of thinking how you can add more to your
life, figure out what you can eliminate from it, in order to make more time for
what matters most for you. Think twice before you accept any new obligations
or add new events to your calendar.
Day 182: On Saying N o Don’t do anything you don’t
want to do. When you agree to do something you
don’t want to do, you will resent the person who asked
you to do it.
—James Altucher 180

Saying yes to something you don’t want to do can save you the discomfort
of saying no, but ultimately it’s like cheating on a diet. You get fleeting pleasure
(or in the case of saying yes, temporarily escape discomfort) now at the expense
of your long-term well-being. In addition to that, in the case of saying yes, you
risk feeling resentful toward the person who asked you to do something you
didn’t want to do.
Practice your self-control by saying no when you’re tempted to say yes just
to avoid awkwardness. It doesn’t mean that from now on you’ll never help
somebody just because you don’t feel like doing it; give a helping hand
whenever people need you, but establish boundaries and respect them.
If you have trouble saying no, start small at first. For example, offer your
help, but in a limited way, or put some conditions on it. After all, you’re the one
being asked for help, so even if you don’t use your right to refuse, you can still
exert your right to say when you’re available or what you can and cannot do for
another person.
WEEK 27
Day 183: On Shocking Your Body
“Your body needs to be shocked to become resilient,” Eric explained.
Follow the same daily routine, and your musculoskeletal system quickly figures
out how to adapt and go on autopilot. But surprise it with new challenges —
leap over a creek, commando-crawl under a log, sprint till your lungs are
bursting — and scores of nerves and ancillary muscles are suddenly electrified
into action.
—Christopher McDougall 181

One of the most common reasons why people don’t succeed at introducing
a permanent exercise habit in their lives is because their workouts are boring.
They do the same things over and over again, and even if they work in the
beginning, the body quickly adapts to them and stops responding to them in the
same way as in the beginning.
When the effectiveness drops down and a person gets tired of doing the
same things, the outcome is predictable: you no longer want to work out
anymore.
That’s why I’m so strongly against any kind of structured fitness classes at
the gym that you attend because you think it’s the only way to exercise.
Seek something enjoyable and exciting that won’t feel like dreadful
exercise. If you can’t find it, keep looking until you do. Ultimately, it’s the only
way to successfully maintain an exercise habit in your life .
However, please note that even if you’re doing something exciting, no
matter how fantastic it is in the beginning, if you don’t change your routine
every now and then, it also might get boring.
Mixing it up every now and then by focusing on a different aspect of the
activity, doing it in a different place, with different intensity or with different
people will boost your excitement, shock your body, and ensure that you’ll stick
to physical activity for the long haul.
Day 184: On Creating Value
Vow: “I will create value for society, rather than extract it.”
—John C. Bogle 182

In today’s world of consumerism, it’s easy to extract value without creating

much yourself. Millions of office workers all over the world pretend they’re hard
at work, while on their screens you can see solitaire, social media sites, memes,
or any other distraction that helps them to pass time until they can go home.
Instead of supporting somebody else’s efforts or creating something
themselves, millions of people pass time by hating the things that were created
by others. For example, watch pretty much any video on YouTube and you’re
guaranteed to see critical (if not blatantly hate-filled) comments, no matter how
high the quality of the content and presentation is. Look at other comments that
were posted by the same people, and you’ll often find that their primary
occupation in life is (unconstructively) criticizing the work of others without
ever creating anything themselves.
Instead of bettering themselves and encouraging others to do the same,
millions seek to live their lives in the easiest way possible, even at the expense
of their moral principles.
Harness the power of self-discipline to create more value than you extract.
In addition to making the world a better place, it will serve as a powerful
exercise in self-control and transform your mindset to that of a producer, a
person who will always be valued in society, regardless of the economy or
location .
For example, whenever you ask somebody for advice, share the knowledge
with two or more other people. At work, try to do your best — and if your job
doesn’t excite you enough to do so, do everybody a favor and find a different job
that will let you contribute to the world in a better way. Support other creators
instead of criticizing them. Don’t always wait for somebody else to take the
initiative: step forward and organize something yourself.
Resist the temptation to consume without ever contributing much yourself.
The more value you create, the better off everyone is — and the more that
eventually comes back to you.
Day 185: On Staying With Problems Longer
Students who were forced to struggle on complex problems before receiving
help from teachers outperformed students who received immediate assistance.
—Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness 183

Here’s a simple mindset change that can help you improve your problem-
solving skills and make you more persistent: whenever you face a problem, stay
with it for a good while before you ask anyone for help.
If you’re immediately seeking outside help the instant you find you can’t
deal with something, you’re robbing yourself out of the opportunity to struggle
and figure it out yourself.
Obviously, this doesn’t apply to life-or-death situations. I don’t want you to
spend a little while longer trying to figure out how to help a victim of a car
accident — call the ambulance right away. Practice staying with problems longer
only when it’s safe and sensible to do so.
For example, if something is not working properly on your computer,
before you call for IT help, seek answers yourself and only get help if you’ve
tried several possible solutions and nothing has worked .
If you’re learning a new skill and can’t figure out how to do something, try
to deconstruct it, piece by piece. If you still can’t figure it out, seek assistance
from your teacher.
By rejecting the impulse to ask for help right away, you’ll also practice
your self-control. The downside is wasting a few minutes on a problem you can’t
solve. The upside is developing more trust in your own abilities, becoming more
patient, and learning something new.
Day 186: On Simple Rules Simple rules are shortcut
strategies that save time and effort by focusing our
attention and simplifying the way we process
information. The rules aren’t universal — they’re
tailored to the particular situation and the person
using them.
—Donald Sull 184

I’m a big fan of using rules to simplify my life. In today’s world, we have
too many choices to make. Many of those choices are trivial, but because we
don’t want to miss out, we waste precious time deciding where we want to go for
dinner, whether we want to drink blueberry, raspberry, strawberry, or blackberry
juice, and then waste even more time choosing a meal we want to eat.
And that’s just one common situation in a sea of choices. Which brand of
bread to eat? Which fitness regimen to follow? Where to go for a vacation?
Which book to read? The choices are endless, and they’re all sucking energy that
you could spend on something more constructive and useful.
Embrace some simple rules in your life to pare down your choices to the
bare minimum.
For example, I have a simple rule when it comes to traveling: I never travel
to cold places. If it’s less than 60-70 degrees Fahrenheit (15–20 degrees Celsius)
there, I’m not going. This greatly limits my choices, I know that the weather will
be relatively good, and I get to spend more time planning the actual trip rather
than choosing the destination .
Another example, more from the realm of personal development, is my rule
of never giving up on anything that’s important to me. Having established that
something is important to me, I don’t give up. I can’t break my rule, so I’ll stick
to a goal for as long as necessary or until it stops being important to me.
My other rules include things like not taking group classes (I find it to be an
extremely ineffective way of learning when the attention of the teacher is spread
out over several students or more), rejecting interviews and social media (I’d
rather spend my time by writing a new book), and always choosing solutions that
minimize my time investment, even if they’re financially more expensive (such
as choosing more expensive airport parking to be closer to the terminal or
buying more expensive products to reduce the risk of them breaking down).
What are your rules? Think of some common decisions you often have to
make — including the important choices related to your goals — and think of
simple rules you could establish to simplify your life and your decision-making
process.
Day 187: On Not Judging Too Quickly
Realize that other people think their behavior is more responsive to
situational factors than you’re inclined to think — and they’re more likely to be
right than you are. They almost certainly know their current situation — and
their relevant personal history — better than you do.
—Richard Nisbett 185

You can develop your self-control while working on your most important
goals, but you can also practice it in everyday situations —when judging people,
for example.
Virtually all of us have done it at least once: you assume you know what’s
best for another person, while in fact you know nothing about their background
or approach to the current situation, yet you judge. It’s hard to resist this
temptation; after all, we look at the world through our own filters and consider
them suitable for everything and everyone.
Whenever you catch yourself judging someone harshly, pause and ask
yourself if you understand this person’s personal history, motives, and current
situation.
A driver who honked at you might have been a jerk, but he might also have
just been diagnosed with cancer, late to an important meeting or driving to the
hospital to visit a relative .
An overweight person might be lazy, but he or she might also struggle with
difficult family issues, health disorders, or be battling against depression.
You never know the entire picture, so the best approach is to refrain from
judging. You’ll improve your “people skills” and at the same time you’ll be
practicing your self-control.
Day 188: On Prid e
All men make mistakes, but a good man yields when he knows his course is
wrong, and repairs the evil. The only crime is pride.
—Sophocles 186

Pride has a positive connotation. You’re proud of your achievements, proud

of your children, or proud of your country.
However, pride often serves as an excuse to stick to the wrong path or deny
responsibility for your wrongdoings. It’s also dangerous when it converts to
egotism, a state leading to complacency and overestimating your abilities.
Embrace a healthy approach toward accomplishment: appreciate your
successes, but don’t put pride on the pedestal and discontinue further efforts just
because somebody acknowledged your triumphs.
I sometimes receive emails from my readers telling me that my books have
changed their lives. I’m happy to hear that they’ve found my work valuable, but
— as strange as it may sound — I refuse to feel proud of my books. My books
might have been the spark, but it’s the reader’s efforts that have helped them
change their lives. If I were to convince myself that my books are so incredible, I
would have probably become complacent or let the success go to my head.
Another aspect of pride is stubbornly following the wrong path. A common
demonstration of this behavior is particularly common among men: when they
get lost, they’ll put off asking somebody for directions for as long as they can,
while they continue their journey in the wrong direction .
Instead of acknowledging the mistake, swallowing their pride, and asking
for help, they waste time and energy just because they’re too prideful.
If you recognize such a behavior in yourself, vow to never again let pride
make you overinvest in the wrong endeavors. The moment you realize you’re
following the wrong path, stop. Go back to the drawing board, prepare new plans
and start again. In the grand scheme of things, your pride is of small importance
when compared to achieving your large long-term goals.
Day 189: On Adventures
So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the
initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of
security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one
peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more dangerous to the adventurous spirit
within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is
his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new
experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly
changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
—Jon Krakauer 187

Boredom is dangerous not only because it’s unpleasant, but also because it
usually means having the worst kind of security in life — complacency. It’s
good to feel satisfied with what you have, but the moment you get stuck in a rut,
afraid that any change will ruin the security you now enjoy, you lose the
opportunity for immense joy and personal growth.
Adventures spice up life. Without new experiences, life is boring and
there’s little growth to be attained. When you’re bored, you’re less likely to feel
inspired to make changes in life, so it leads to a downward spiral.
Embark on new adventures as often as you can. Traveling always means
encounters with new experiences, but you don’t necessarily have to leave your
hometown every week to live an adventurous life. Learning new interesting
skills can be an adventure in itself. Hiking to a nearby wilderness area or
spending the night in a tent outdoors can get you out of a rut, too.
Lastly, to actually be considered adventures, they are usually at least
slightly uncomfortable or dangerous, and that also means an opportunity to
practice self-discipline and toughen up. Plan your next adventure now!
WEEK 28
Day 190: On Being Specific About Your Resolutions
Instead of saying “I’m never going to cheat again,” say, “Today, I’m not
going to do that thing that makes me feel weak and shameful about myself
again.”
—Neil Strauss 188

When setting a new resolution, be specific about it, and particularly about
the way a certain behavior you want to give up makes you feel.
For example, saying “I’m not going to eat pizza anymore” isn’t going to be
as visceral as saying “I’m not going to eat that thing that makes me bloated,
obese, and tired anymore.” The former is a weak, non-emotional statement; the
latter is a strong resolution that reminds you about the reason why you want to
stop engaging in a given activity.
This strategy works the other way, too. Instead of saying “I’m going to
write 1000 words a day,” say “I’m going to write 1000 words a day, the activity
that makes me feel so energized, creative, and hopeful about the future in which
I’m a bestselling author.”
A more specific, emotionally-charged resolution will stick in your mind
better, and that will help you keep going or pause and think before breaking a
resolution.
Day 191: On Futile Determination If any man is able
to convince me and show me that I do not think or act
right, I will gladly change; for I seek the truth by
which no man was ever injured. But he is injured who
abides in his error and ignorance.
—Marcus Aurelius 189

Determination can change your life, but it can also lead to a lot of wasted
time if you stubbornly keep going when everyone around you who’s
knowledgeable about the goal you want to reach tells you that you’re following
the wrong path.
Obviously, if the only people who are trying to convince you that you’re
wrong have no idea about what you’re doing, you can safely ignore their advice.
If, however, people who have reached the goals you’re striving to achieve are
trying to correct your ways, heed their advice.
I sometimes offer advice to new entrepreneurs who have big dreams, but
the word “realistic” doesn’t seem to be a part of their dictionary. I tell them to
listen to the experts, get their feet wet with a simple business model and slowly
build real-world experience. Unfortunately, many of them ignore this advice
only to return months or years later, this time with more humility and a desire to
apply their immense desire and determination in a way that it can actually lead to
results.
Don’t get me wrong — I’m all for bold undertakings, but often what those
entrepreneurs do is waste time and energy, investing their vast reserves of
determination into a project that was doomed to fail from the get-go because
they had no real-world business experience to make it succeed.
I know how it works, because I was such a person, too.
The first time I read The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco (a book that
eventually changed my life), I didn’t heed the author’s advice about not pursuing
money-making schemes. I thought I knew better, and foolishly stuck to SEO
(Search Engine Optimization) and affiliate marketing. I had to suffer from
several more failures before I was ready to listen to people who were more
experienced than I was.
If you want to save yourself from unnecessary failures, be open to feedback
from people who have achieved the goals you’d like to reach. Don’t abide in
error and ignorance, digging for gold like a mad man where hundreds of people
had dug before you and didn’t find anything.
Day 192: On Being in It for the Long Term Tests
compared new musicians who saw themselves as in it
for the long term, versus just trying it. With the same
amount of practice, the long-term-commitment group
outperformed the short-term-commitment group by
400 percent. The long-term-commitment group, with
a mere twenty minutes of weekly practice, progressed
faster than the short-termers who practiced for an
hour and a half. When long-term commitment
combined with high levels of practice, skills
skyrocketed.
—Daniel Coyle 190

There’s something about long-term commitment that makes it immensely

more powerful than doing something once-off, even when the amount of time
spent practicing is the same in both cases.
What matters is not putting in the same number of hours every now and
then, but putting in time consistently, even if it’s a small amount of time. In
other words, the winning strategy is that of a marathoner, running long distances
slowly, and not that of a sprinter, running short distances quickly.
For example, as a writer, I currently follow a routine of writing at least
1000 words a day. I wouldn’t be able to do my best work by not having a
schedule and writing in a random fashion instead. It’s the everyday habit that
keeps my writing sharp, and whenever I take a longer break from writing, I need
at least several days to get back into the groove. Consequently, I make sure that
even if I can’t write 1000 words for some reason, I at least write something .
Are your goals designed in such a way that you’re working on them
regularly or are you doing them from time to time, in an erratic fashion? How
can you develop a system that will ensure that each day or each week you
practice for a set period of time?
Day 193: On Becoming a New Person If you want to
be a new man you have to stay in new places, and do
new things, with people who never knew you before. If
you go back to the same old ways, what else can you
be but the same old person?
—Joe Abercrombie 191

Changing yourself doesn’t necessarily mean throwing away your old life,
cutting ties with your family and friends and moving to another corner of the
world. If, however, certain aspects of your old life clearly hold you back, it is
necessary to replace them with something new to enable your identity to change.
If, for example, your primary way of spending time is going to nightclubs
and partying, don’t expect to become highly productive until you get rid of that
habit and embrace a new, less exciting, lifestyle. Some of your friends will
probably resent you for it, but if they’re against you doing what you need to do
for your personal growth, are they truly your friends?
Likewise, pursuing important long-term goals often means becoming a part
of a new community, visiting places you’ve never been to before, and embracing
habits that you’ve never thought about. It’s understandable to feel some
resistance toward destroying your old ways and replacing them with something
new, but ultimately it’s how you become a new person .
For example, I was apprehensive about terminating my bodybuilding
workout regimen and switching to an entirely different, bodyweight-based
approach to exercise. I had to follow new experts, perform new exercises, and
train in a different environment.
There’s no way around it; if you want something new in your life,
something old has to go, no matter how sentimental you are about it or how
scared you are that the new thing might not work well for you.
Day 194: On Pain and Quittin g
Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.
—Lance Armstrong 192

Pain, particularly during strenuous exercise, is often so overpowering that

you can barely think straight. However, it’s through this pain that we grow, and
it’s a necessary part of the process, just like embracing discomfort in general is
essential for rejecting instant gratification in order to accomplish your long-term
goals.
Whenever you feel tempted to give up because of momentary pain, do your
best to remind yourself that pain passes, but the disappointment you’ll feel upon
quitting will accompany you for a long time. Giving up will give you some relief
right now, but the price you’ll have to pay will be ultimately more painful than
bearing the pain a little while longer.
If you think that there’s no way you can handle the pain — something that
will probably happen to you during the first several weeks of exercising, for
example — tell yourself to only bear it for three seconds longer and then give
up. Often, pain is a fleeting high-intensity burst at the moment you first feel it,
and then it quickly recedes as your body adapts to it — something I experienced
in numerous workouts, as well as when I took cold showers. Waiting for three
seconds before you give up can be enough time to enable you to withstand the
pain and keep going .
As a quick disclaimer, please don’t mistake the kind of pain that’s safe,
signaling you’re pushing yourself, with the kind of pain that’s the signal of an
injury. Whenever you are pushing your limits, always prioritize safety over
everything else.
Day 195: On Procrastination as Your All y
If I defer writing a section, it must be eliminated. This is simple ethics: Why
should I try to fool people by writing about a subject for which I feel no natural
drive?
—Nassim Taleb 193

People consider procrastination an enemy and seek ways to eliminate it

from their life. What if I told you that procrastination can be actually one of your
greatest allies?
In essence, when you’re putting something off, it’s because you don’t care
about it enough to take action now. If there’s no natural drive to get it done, then
it means you’re forcing yourself into doing something that isn’t right for you.
Perhaps it’s the wrong action or you’re thinking about it in the wrong way.
Regardless, in both of those circumstances, procrastination tells you that you’re
lacking the right motivation.
If you woke up in the early morning in a burning house, would you put off
getting up for later?
Likewise, if you cared deep down about building a business, would you
procrastinate about doing the necessary work? Playing video games instead of
working would be a clear signal that you’ve yet to uncover a strong enough
reason to give up gaming in favor of doing something more productive .
The next time you catch yourself delaying action, reassess your motivators.
If you’re constantly putting it off, your chances of success are slim. Discover
better reasons why, or give up and do something else that won’t result in
constant procrastination.
Day 196: On Impermanent Motivation
Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is
something you should do on a regular basis.
—Zig Ziglar 194

Don’t assume that if you’re motivated now, you’ll be motivated forever,

and if the motivation is gone, it’s time to give up on your goals.
You should draw your motivation from your personal reasons why (such as
your desire to build a successful business to offer your family the best of what
life has to offer), but you’ll have to periodically do some spring-cleaning and
revise your motivators.
Resist the temptation to give up just because you temporarily lack
motivation. Instead of treating it as an excuse to discontinue your efforts, come
up with practical solutions that will recharge your motivation.
Just like you need to wash your body regularly to keep it clean, you need to
regularly take care of your motivation. Replenish it whenever it drops and
always look for new ways to strengthen it.
I strongly suggest creating a document in which you’re going to put
anything that fires you up. For example, I save articles I find inspirational, jot
down songs I find motivating, and download images that inspire me. Whenever I
feel under the weather, I can access my “inspiration bank” and lift my spirits.
WEEK 29
Day 197: On Eliminating a Negative Attitude I will
eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and
cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because
I know that a negative attitude toward others can
never bring me success.
—Napoleon Hill 195

All but a few enlightened individuals engage at least periodically in

behaviors and emotions like hatred, sarcasm, envy, jealousy, selfishness,
miserliness, cynicism, or indifference.
Fighting against those emotions is a battle that never ends, because no
matter how self-disciplined you are, those behaviors are often impulses
appearing out of the blue. What you can do is to be vigilant for them and
whenever they appear, instead of letting them linger in your head, replace them
with the opposite thought or regard them as mere useless distractions.
It’s important to note that you need to see the pleasure you get out of
engaging in negative emotions and behaviors as the worst type of instant
gratification.
Yes, in some twisted way it’s pleasant to hate somebody, use sarcasm to
hurt them, or be indifferent. However, if you engage in those behaviors without
any restraint, you’re training yourself to not control your impulses. Is this
something that will help you exhibit self-discipline in other areas of your life or
will it hurt your efforts to do so?
Day 198: On Your Maxims
The maxims of men reveal their characters.
—Luc de Clapiers 196

We’ve already talked about living in accordance with your principles and
using simple rules to improve your decision-making process.
Today I’d like to talk about a related topic: the importance of life maxims.
I’ve already told you that metaphors can help instill a change better than
any amount of specific step-by-step instructions — and so can the maxims you
live by.
Ponder the common statement that life is hard. If you truly believe that life
is hard, then how does it affect your character? Are you going to be a cheery,
optimistic person or adapt a defeatist outlook on life?
How about thinking that a stranger is a friend you haven’t met? Will this
make you more likely to be a friendly person and develop a supportive circle of
friends or close you off to new opportunities to connect with like-minded
individuals?
What about adopting the maxim that everything in life is possible as long as
you refuse to listen to reason? Okay, you won’t become the President of the
United States if you weren’t born in that country (and a few other things), but
other than that, would you say that living by such a maxim will hinder your
growth or perhaps empower you ?
Your maxims expose your character. If you want to be successful, make
sure that your maxims are empowering and positive. Make a list of the most
important truths you live by — consciously or unconsciously — and ask yourself
if they all serve you to become a better person. If they don’t, discard them and
replace them with different, more advantageous ones.
Day 199: On Your Inaction Hurting Others If you
were meant to cure cancer or write a symphony or
crack cold fusion and you don’t do it, you not only
hurt yourself, even destroy yourself. You hurt your
children. You hurt me. You hurt the planet.
—Steven Pressfield 197

If you can’t shake yourself out of inaction for your own benefit, perhaps
you can do it by having others in mind. This type of motivation is called
prosocial motivation ; it means taking action for the benefit of somebody or
something beyond yourself: your family, your favorite charity, your community,
the environment, etc.
Spend some time thinking how your inaction hurts the people around you.
For some people, the negative motivation they can get from such an exercise is
more powerful than any words of encouragement. The guilt they feel upon
realizing they’re betraying their family or harming the planet can be a more
enticing motivator than getting the rewards for themselves, whether they’re
internal or external ones.
It’s a technique I sometimes use to motivate myself to write. I’ve developed
the skill of writing and people seem to enjoy and benefit from my books. If I
don’t write more books, I’m hurting them by depriving them of the education
and possibly valuable insights that they could get by reading my works .
If you’re the type of a person who often cares more about others than
yourself, this sort of motivation can turn you into a high achiever, However, be
cautious not to overdo it: the point isn’t to spend your life working yourself into
the ground, forever feeling guilty that you could do even more. Strive to produce
value for everyone, including yourself.
Day 200: On Fretting About Yesterday’s Problems
“If a ship has been sunk,” Admiral King went on, “I can’t bring it up. If it
is going to be sunk, I can’t stop it. I can use my time much better working on
tomorrow’s problem than
by fretting about yesterday’s. Besides, if I let those things get me, I wouldn’t last
long.”
—Dale Carnegie 198

So many people waste time living in the past. They feel guilty because of
the mistakes they made last year, regret not making a different decision last
week, or wishing they could have somehow foreseen a failure five months ago.
What’s the point?
Like Admiral King says, if a ship has been sunk, it’s not like you can bring
it up and set sail again. If you made a mistake, it’s not like you can undo it. You
can fix some of its consequences, but you can’t turn back the clock. Likewise,
you can’t change the decision you made a week ago; all you can do is make a
different decision today. Nor can you foresee the future; all you can do is try to
do your best and prepare for the worst.
Tap into your resources of willpower whenever you catch yourself fretting
about yesterday’s problems. Instead of ruminating about them, think about what
you can do today — right here and right now — to improve your life.
Ultimately, the only control you have is over what you’re doing now, so make
sure you’re making the right choices today.
Day 201: On Teaching Others Teach others what you
are learning. You become what you teach. You teach
what you are.
When you attempt to articulate and explain a new concept to someone else, you
understand it and internalize it better yourself.
You only really know something to the degree to which you can teach it to
someone else, and have them understand and apply it in their own lives.
—Brian Tracy 199

Here’s an ingenious way to become more self-disciplined: while learning

how to strengthen your self-control, regularly share your lessons with other
people. Teaching is a powerful way to make the knowledge you already have in
your head become more organized and better internalized.
Guess why I write books about self-discipline! Just kidding, though writing
has definitely helped me clarify my ideas and better understand them myself.
The next time you find yourself in a conversation with somebody who is
wondering how to instill more self-discipline in their lives, don’t hesitate to
share your experiences or even serve as their unofficial coach and mentor.
Another wonderful way to teach others is to participate in online forums or
on social media sites. Teach others how you succeeded with your goals or how
you successfully overcame a recent temptation, and you’ll not only help them
achieve their dreams, but also solidify your own success .
Last but not least, if you aren’t willing to teach others, teach yourself by
journaling. Jotting down your insights, lessons, and conclusions will also serve
as a valuable tool for self-improvement.
Day 202: On Accepting the Wors t True peace of mind
comes from accepting the worst. Psychologically, I
think it means a release of energy.
—Lin Yutang 200

If you can’t stop worrying, accept that the worst will happen and let it go.
Having released this negative energy, you can now think of constructive ways to
deal with the aftermath instead of wasting your time fearing the worst.
This technique sounds simplistic, but it’s actually a powerful way to escape
from fear-driven paralysis.
For example, if you’re constantly worried that your business will not
succeed and you’re procrastinating about getting started, assume that it will go
bankrupt.
What can you do to ensure that the failure of your business won’t have a
big impact on your life? Make a list of potential solutions, such as starting your
business on a shoestring or working on it only during the weekends, without it
negatively affecting your day job.
Now, if your business actually fails, you’ll know how to cope. And if it
doesn’t, being prepared won’t hurt you. In the end, thanks to accepting the
worst, you can escape indecision and be better prepared both for success and
failure.
Day 203: On Maintaining Composur e
Those who have accomplished the greatest results are those who never lose
self-control, but are always calm, self-possessed, patient, and polite.
—Ryan Holiday 201

Being calm, self-possessed, patient, and polite are all traits that everyone
interested in building self-discipline should aspire to have. Let’s go through
them one by one and offer some pointers on how to develop them.
Staying calm means being free of nervousness, anger, and other negative
emotions that can take away your self-control and make you do things you’ll
later regret. In essence, staying calm comes down to mindfulness and the clear
logical thinking that comes from that.
One of the best ways to become calmer is to engage in some type of a
meditative practice. Whether it’s traditional meditation, engaging in a high-focus
sport, or doing something that captures your full attention, it will serve as an
exercise in mindfulness and thinking clearly. Being calm is a skill; the more
often you put yourself in a calm state, the easier it will be to access and maintain
it in your everyday life.
Being self-possessed means that you can navigate difficult situations with
grace and remain in control of your feelings in circumstances in which a person
lacking such an ability would lose their head. By far the best way to develop this
ability is by deliberately putting yourself in uncomfortable situations. The more
you stretch your comfort zone, the less future situations will overwhelm you. A
person who’s already been in a disagreeable situation several times, out of their
own volition, will be less likely to lose their head when they involuntarily find
themselves in such circumstances in the future.
A person who’s unable to remain patient — whether it’s with other people
or when waiting for results to materialize — is more likely to make impulsive
decisions that will sabotage their long-term goals. You need to train patience like
a muscle. One way in which you can exercise your patience muscle is by
engaging in activities that require patience or by learning a skill that takes a long
time to develop. Slow progress will help you develop more humility and
understand that some things can’t be rushed, no matter how hard you try to push
them.
Being polite seems unrelated to the topic of self-discipline, but there’s one
aspect of this trait that does affect your self-control: treating everyone as your
equal. People who are impolite are in essence putting themselves above others,
thinking that they’re superior. This arrogance can lead them to unnecessarily
putting themselves in situations that test their willpower, which carries a higher
risk of failure.
How do you become more polite? Easy. Assume that you aren’t better than
others and try to learn from everybody. It’s impossible to be impolite toward a
person you consider your mentor, because that’s what every person can become
for you when you embrace humility.
WEEK 30
Day 204: On Psychological Limits
The limit I thought existed was purely psychological. Now that I’d seen
someone doing a thousand pounds, I started making leaps in my training. It
showed the power of mind over body.
—Arnold Schwarzenegger 202

Our limits come primarily from our surroundings. If your role model of
financial self-discipline is your uncle Jimmy (who somehow managed to save
$500 this year), his example will set your own threshold — after all, he’s the
only person you know who has managed to save money, so $500 saved in a year
has to be a huge accomplishment.
Let’s imagine that your uncle has been networking with the movers and
shakers and invited you out to a dinner with Bob, an owner of a local chain of
bakeries. Bob instantly takes a liking to you, and answers all of your questions
with enthusiasm.
When you ask him how much a person should save during a year, he says
that everyone can easily save at least $5000 a year, and that’s actually what he
did for several years, in order to save enough money to bootstrap his business.
Suddenly your psychological limits stretch and now in your mind, it’s $5000
that’s a lot and $500 feels like nothing .
The same effect happens in virtually all areas of life, whether it’s finance,
fitness, health, learning new skills, eradicating deeply-rooted negative habits or
introducing new challenging ones.
Exposing yourself to high performers can be a wonderful way to push your
psychological limits and show you what’s possible. Reading stories of average
people like you or me who have managed to achieve their goals despite having
no natural talent, resources, or any other hidden advantages works almost like
brainwashing. What belonged to the realm of impossible is now something you
know can be achieved.
Day 205: On Treating Hate as an Exercise
I have no time to quarrel, no time for regrets and no man can force me to
stoop low enough to hate him.
—Laurence Jones 203

Critics can get the best of even the world class top-performers with millions
of fans.
Sadly, most of us have a tendency to focus more on a single instance of
hatred than on a multitude of people expressing their love for ourselves or our
work.
Fortunately, encountering hate can serve as a valuable exercise in building
self-control. As Laurence Jones points out, it’s your choice as to whether you
stoop low enough to radiate hate back, or ignore it and focus on something else
that is more important.
When you meet with criticism, skepticism or sarcasm, receive it as an
opportunity to practice self-control. Instead of responding to it, think of it as a
minor annoyance that tests your patience. You have just “down-sized” it to a
level where it’s just not worth your time or energy.
Just like you can practice restraint when you’re stuck in traffic, you can
improve your self-control by disregarding hate. That way, you’ll get two
benefits: you’ll improve your willpower and avoid ruining your mood by
engaging in negative emotions.
Day 206: On Vice Fasts
Go on a “vice fast.” Pick one vice and abstain for thirty days. Proving to
yourself that you’re still in charge.
—Darren Hardy 204

30-day vice fasts can be a great way to kickstart your self-control after a
period of decreased self-discipline. Since it’s just a 30-day challenge and not a
lifetime change, you’ll feel less resistance to starting it.
Even though it’s such a short period, it can still serve as a great way to
exercise your willpower. Some ideas for 30-day vice fasts include:
- 30 days without alcohol;
- 30 days without sugar in any form (or without processed sugar alone);
- 30 days without the snooze button;
- 30 days without watching TV;
- 30 days without watching pornography;
- 30 days without using social media;
- 30 days without spending money on anything besides necessary expenses,
such as food, transportation costs, and bills.
Day 207: On Enthusiasm and Endurance
Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.
—Angela Duckworth 205

In a perfect world, everyone who is pursuing their goals would be an

endless source of enthusiasm for themselves and always be ready to pump
themselves up when things get difficult. Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately),
life isn’t so simple.
No matter how passionate you are about your goals today, there will come a
day when everything will suck and all you’ll want to do will be to give up. On
that day, it won’t be feel-good enthusiasm that makes you continue. It will be
dogged determination and the tenacity to finish what you begin that will carry
you forward.
In a sense, enthusiasm is a fair-weather friend. By all means, you can have
a great time with it when things are going well, but if you’re having problems,
the only people you’ll be able to turn to would be your true friends, or in this
case, perseverance.
I once spent a weekend in miserable conditions, on the brink of
hypothermia, learning outdoor first aid — something I was initially enthusiastic
about.
I can’t even begin to describe how tempted I was to end that torture and go
back home. Nobody forced me to stay there. At any moment, I could have said
that I was unwell and announced that I had to leave the camp early .
However, doing so would have been to act against my most important
values and to miss out on an opportunity to instill endurance in myself. In the
end, I saw it through to the end. Even though the experience was hellish, I
reinforced my habit of keeping going and staying the course, even when
everything inside me is screaming to let it go and quit.
To train your endurance, vow to always see things through to the end. This
will help you develop an empowering habit of sticking to your resolutions, come
hell or high water.
Day 208: On Profiting From Your Losses
The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool
can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That
requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a
fool.
—William Bolitho 206

In an ideal world, everybody would succeed more often than fail. In reality,
failures are more common than triumphs, and so it means that the key skill is to
learn how to profit primarily from your losses, not your successes.
And how do you do that? Simple. Whenever you fail, don’t just shrug it off
and try again; carefully analyze what happened, what worked well and what
didn’t, and what ultimately led to a failure. If you fail to do so, you’ll miss out
on a valuable learning experience and probably repeat your mistakes in the
future.
As an author, I track my books’ sales performance. If a book doesn’t
perform well, despite my following the exact same marketing approach as I had
used with my previous successful releases, I know that I probably made a
mistake when I chose its topic and won’t write about it again.
When it comes my nutritional habits, I try to track how each food affects
me. That way, I discovered that potatoes always make me feel unwell, and that
no matter how many strawberries or blueberries I eat, I’ll still be hungry. Such
simple discoveries can have a huge impact on your diet, because you’ll know the
potential dangers and, instead of unconsciously exposing yourself to them over
and over again, you’ll correct your approach.
Don’t discount the value of a failure. There’s a hidden treasure underneath
each setback and struggle. Dig it out and use it to help you get closer to your
goals.
Day 209: On Finishing Quick Tasks Right Away
My rule is never to lay down a letter until I have answered it. I dictate the
reply to my secretary at once.
—William L. Sadler 207

There exists a big temptation to put off quick tasks. After all, they’re easy
and fast to do, so why do them now? Better to batch them and take care of them
later.
However, ultimately this strategy can generate more work. The reason is
simple: whenever you procrastinate about a quick task, you’re actually creating
two tasks: the task in itself, and the task of remembering to do it. True, you can
note it down, but it’s still another task to do. In the end, keeping track of it can
cost more time than simply doing the task right away.
Moreover, quick tasks have a tendency to accumulate, and what originally
would only take 5 minutes can ultimately take 3 hours, and then it suddenly
becomes a problem to find so much time to get it all done.
Finally, whether it’s a quick task or not, putting it off just because you don’t
feel like doing it now creates a habit of procrastination. Remember that all of
your behaviors contribute to who you are as a person. Procrastinating about
small tasks leads to procrastinating about big goals .
The next time you find yourself thinking about postponing a quick task, do
it right away. Anything important that takes less than 5–10 minutes should be
attended to immediately.
Day 210: On Deferring Happiness
I have found that one of the commonest causes of unhappiness among my
patients is that they are attempting to live their lives on the deferred payment
plan. They do not live, nor enjoy life now, but wait for some future event or
occurrence.
—Maxwell Maltz 208

It’s important to be future-oriented and prioritize future rewards over

instant gratification. However, this statement is only valid to a certain point. If
you live exclusively in the future, thinking that achieving some goal in the future
is the only way to bring you happiness, chances are you won’t be happy either
now or when you reach your goals — by then, you’ll come up with yet another
event that must happen in order for you to be happy.
For this reason, it’s important to ensure that while your focus is on the
future, it isn’t a condition for you to be happy.
For one, if you’re unhappy today, it will affect your well-being and make
you less likely to reach your goals. Positivity breeds more positivity, while
negativity spawns more negativity. A lack of happiness today can ruin your
chances of making your future vision turn into reality.
Second, happiness is a habit — and just like any other habit, it requires
some self-control to practice it. Activities like expressing gratitude for what you
have, reframing negative events into valuable experiences, and drawing pleasure
from the little things are all essential practices you need to engage in regularly to
stay in top mental shape .
Last but not least, if you’re always waiting for some future occurrence,
thinking that it will change your life, you’re essentially delegating the
responsibility for your own happiness to some event happening (or not) in the
future. Does that sound like a behavior of a successful person?
WEEK 31
Day 211: On a Simple Adherence Hack
Photograph all meals or snacks prior to eating. Subjects who use food
diaries lose three times as much weight as those who don’t.
—Tim Ferriss 209

Photographing all that you eat will make you more aware of what you put
in your mouth. It will make you pause and think before you cheat because there
will be a clear consequence of it: a picture that proves beyond a reasonable doubt
that you didn’t stick to your resolutions.
Such a simple hack can provide tremendous benefits or even be the single
thing that will finally make you stick to your diet in the long term.
I can attest to the benefits of this approach: when I was on a diet, I used to
track my food intake to make sure that I hit my nutritional targets for the day. If I
ate something, it had to be noted in the spreadsheet. This made it more difficult
to cheat because I could immediately see when and how much I was exceeding
my planned caloric intake for the day.
This trick doesn’t just apply to dieting. You can also use it successfully for
other goals. For example :
- If you want to become an early riser, take a picture of your clock the
moment you get out of bed.
- If you want to become more fit, record a video of your every workout or
jot down the exercises you did, the amount of weight that you lifted, the number
of reps, sets, and the duration of your session.
- If you want to save more money, photograph any purchase that isn’t a
necessity.
Day 212: On Learning From Your Illness
When you become ill, regard your illness as your teacher, not as something
to be hated.
—George Ivanovich Gurdjieff 210

Nothing in life is more important than health, but we fail to understand this
fact until we become ill and lose what we’ve been taking for granted for so long.
At first, you deny it. Then you start wondering, “Why me?” Then you start
hating it, and the more that negative emotions breed inside you, the more
difficult it is to battle against the illness.
Many illnesses are preventable, or at least you can greatly reduce your risk
for them by adopting healthy habits. Other illnesses can fall upon anyone,
making your life miserable without it being your fault.
In both cases, setting aside the obvious fact that it would be better not to
have it at all, an illness can serve as a teacher. In fact, regarding your illness as a
mentor is the only way in which you can effectively cope with it. Denial, hate,
regret, or frustration ultimately only work against you.
If you’re currently dealing with an illness, look at it as an opportunity to
review your life, your lifestyle choices, and your priorities. Take advantage of
the fact that now you understand on a visceral level how important health is and
make those healthy changes you’ve been postponing for so long .
Finally, think of the illness as a challenge to overcome, and if it’s chronic
and incurable, seek examples from people who live their lives to the fullest
despite not being in the best health or physical condition: Nick Vujicic (a
motivational speaker who was born without all four limbs), Sean Swarner (the
first two-time cancer survivor to climb the seven highest peaks of the seven
continents), Randy Pausch (a professor given three months to life who gave an
inspiring lecture entitled “The Last Lecture” which went on to become a global
phenomenon), or Jessica Cox (the first pilot without arms).
Day 213: On Sudden Trials
The art of life is more like the wrestler’s art than the dancer’s, in respect of
this, that it should stand ready and firm to meet onsets which are sudden and
unexpected.
—Marcus Aurelius 211

Preparing yourself for possible temptations and avoiding situations in

which you’re likely to encounter them is a solid strategy, but it won’t eliminate
one of the most formidable enemies: sudden and unexpected trials.
During my krav maga workouts (an Israeli self-defense system), my coach
often reminds me that during an attack in the street, I’ll be unlikely to be
prepared for it. I may be carrying shopping bags, coming home after a tiring
workout, feeling sick, or have my mind so occupied that I won’t notice the threat
until it’s too late. Consequently, during our workouts, we sometimes imitate
such situations so that I can be better prepared during an unexpected attack.
Self-discipline is similar to self-defense in this regard. It’s one thing to
remain self-disciplined when you’re mentally prepared or perform a self-defense
technique during training, and a completely different thing to face temptations or
an enemy when they’re most likely to emerge — when you’re tired, angry, sick,
heartbroken, or depressed.
As hard as it is, try to pay even more attention to your self-control when
you aren’t at your best. It’s during those testing times that you can learn the most
about your weaknesses, as well as your hidden strengths.
To better prepare yourself to handle such negative, unpredictable
circumstances, periodically test your character while you’re under the weather.
For example, while writing these words, I’m pushing myself to complete two
days’ worth of work even though I’ve been having low spirits the past few days.
Even though it’s hard, I know that it will serve me well the next time I’ll have to
deal with a different sudden, unexpected trial.
Day 214: On Fearing the Future The only thing we
know about the future is that it is going to be
different.
—Peter Drucker 212

A quick thought-provoking question for today: if you know for a fact that
the future will be different, then what’s the point of fearing it?
When people fear that they will fail or succeed (fear of success is a real
thing: success can change your life in many ways, and not always in the ways
you expected, which makes it scary), they’re essentially fearing that their lives
will be different, but it’s a fact anyway.
No matter what you do, your life will be different and you’ll have to deal
with the aftermath of your life changing, no matter if you pursue your goals or
not. If that’s the case, both fears are unfounded because a change is guaranteed
anyway.
And not only that — not taking action because you’re afraid of the future is
a worse choice, because when you pursue your goals, at least you have a certain
amount of control over how your future will be different.
If you let fear overpower you, your future will still be different, but you
won’t be able to steer it or know (with at least some accuracy) how it’s going to
change.
For example, if you change your nutritional habits and start exercising
more, you can predict with some accuracy that your health will most likely
improve, or at least not get worse. Can you predict what kind of health
deterioration you will go through if you don’t make any changes?
What’s scarier, the prospect that you’ll become a different person through
your new positive habits, or the prospect of not knowing if (and if so, what)
disease, a health disorder, or another unpleasant thing will hit you?
Day 215: On Self-Determination
The most successful people, the evidence shows, often aren’t directly
pursuing conventional notions of success. They’re working hard and persisting
through difficulties because of their internal desire to control their lives, learn
about their world, and accomplish something that endures.
—Daniel Pink 213

Take a cue from the most successful people and figure out how to link your
goals with the desire to control your life, learn about the world or accomplish
something that endures.
How can your desire to build a business play into your need for autonomy,
learning, or contribution? Easy. A business will give you financial freedom and
let you control your life to the fullest extent. Growing your business will help
you discover the parts of you that you’ve never known existed. And finally,
building a successful business will leave a mark on the world; even if it’s a small
one, it’s still a big accomplishment to build an organization of any kind.
What about dieting? How can you link something as mundane as caring for
your body to such high desires? It isn’t that hard, either. Only a healthy person
can control their life. A sickness can quickly remind you who’s the boss. Self-
discovery? Go on a diet, explore how you feel when temptations arise, and
you’ll get to know a lot about yourself. Accomplish something that endures?
Change your body permanently and you’ll not only build something that
hopefully lasts for a long time, but also discover how powerful a physical change
can be for your mental state .
Now, think of your own goals and go through the same thought process,
which will increase their significance to you and boost your determination.
Day 216: On Accounting for Flexibility in Your Plans
Another drawback of daily plans is that they lack flexibility. They deprive
the person of the chance to make choices along the way, so the person feels
locked into a rigid and grinding sequence of tasks. Life rarely goes exactly
according to plan, and so the daily plans can be demoralizing as soon as you fall
off schedule. With a monthly plan, you can make adjustments. If a delay arises
one day, your plan is still intact.
—Roy Baumeister 214

I’m a fan of daily routines: writing a specific number of words, sticking to

the same number of consumed calories, or learning the same number of words in
a foreign language every day.
However, at the same time, having experienced on more than a few
occasions that life often doesn’t go exactly according to the plan and disruptions
are bound to happen, I account for some flexibility in my plan. This way, when I
mess up one day, it doesn’t have to affect my entire progress.
For example, whenever I’m tweaking my caloric intake, I try to focus more
on what happens during an entire week or month than any specific day. This
way, if I mess it up one day by eating too little or too much, it doesn’t matter
because I can make up for it the next day or a week later. Granted, it carries the
risk of making regular exceptions and setting a precedent, so it’s important to
always plan exactly when you’re going to adjust for a day of variance .
Recently I set for myself a goal to write 10 daily entries for this book for 10
days so that after the end of this sprint, I will have written entries for 100 days,
or almost 30% of the book.
If I were to only count it as successful if I stuck to writing 10 entries every
day, without allowing myself any kind of flexibility, I’d have failed on the
eighth day, which I spent outdoors. However, knowing that such a disruption
would happen, I wrote 14 entries the day before my trip and 6 in the early
morning before my departure.
Thanks to accounting for flexibility, I avoided the demoralizing effect of
dropping the ball, and after 10 days, I had also completed my goal of writing 100
entries in total.
When setting new routines and goals, allow yourself some flexibility, too. If
you have a daily quota, don’t immediately count it as a failure if you don’t
perform it for one day. Work a little more for the next several days and instead
of falling off the bandwagon, you’ll still achieve your original goal.
Day 217: On Things Not Being Up to Us
Some things are in our control and others not.
—Epictetus 215

Living according to the most fundamental principle of Roman Stoicism —

acknowledging that some things are up to us and others aren’t, and it’s of no use
to worry or complain about the latter — is an excellent way to strengthen your
self-control.
At the moment I’m writing this, I’m in the process of launching a new
book. Things went bad from the start. I had to wait over 36 hours before my
book was published, something that normally takes a few hours. This in itself
delayed my entire launch schedule.
Then it turned out that because of another error, some early reviewers
couldn’t post their review. Then I realized I forgot to upload my audiobook,
which pushed back its release date. In the meantime, I had other fires to put out
related to other aspects of the business.
I won’t lie: I was frustrated. However, in the end it all proved to be a
valuable exercise in self-control. By trying not to get overly frustrated or worry
too much about something that I couldn’t control, I became slightly better at
handling such situations, which are bound to repeat in the future.
Whenever you’re going through hardships that are beyond your control,
look at them as an exercise in reining in your emotions. There’s nothing you can
do to change the situation, so at least you can learn something from it.
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Day 218: On Protein in Your Diet
Potential beneficial outcomes associated with protein ingestion include the
following: 1) increased satiety — protein generally increases satiety to a greater
extent than carbohydrate or fat and may facilitate a reduction in energy
consumption (…); 2) increased thermogenesis — higher-protein diets are
associated with increased thermogenesis, which also influences satiety and
augments energy expenditure (…); and 3) maintenance or accretion of fat-free
mass — in some individuals, a moderately higher protein diet may provide a
stimulatory effect on muscle protein anabolism, favoring the retention of lean
muscle mass (…)
—Douglas Paddon Jones 216

Research suggests that one of the simplest ways to improve your adherence
to a diet is to increase the amount of protein in it.
Protein is a miraculous macronutrient. It’s not only the body’s important
building block, but is also more satiating than carbohydrates or dietary fat.
Moreover, when on a diet, consuming higher amounts of protein helps to retain
muscle mass.
Foods rich in protein include meat, fish, eggs, cheese, milk, yogurt, beans,
nuts and seeds.
Making sure that your diet is rich in protein will help you lose weight, but
also to maintain a healthy weight later on, so if your diet is mostly carbohydrate-
and fat-rich, make some adjustments to include more protein-rich foods .
However, be careful to not increase your overall calorie intake. When
looking for potential high-protein foods, make sure that higher content of protein
doesn’t come with higher amounts of fat (it’s a common combination).
Day 219: On Dropping Unnecessary Tasks
You can complete a project by dropping it.
—Arianna Huffington 217

I understand: there’s certain allure in being busy all the time, always having
a long list of things to do. And let’s not forget, you’re the only one who can
perform all those tasks, right?
However, if you want to become more productive and still have energy for
your other goals, when you look at your to-do-list, in addition to thinking about
when and how to do a certain task, ask yourself if you can drop it.
For example, one of my contractors recently pointed out there was a small
mistake in one of my old books. I’m not going to lie. At first, I added it to my to-
do list. But then, the next day, I realized that the error was so inconsequential
that it made no sense to spend time fixing it. I had more pressing things to attend
to, and my readers would benefit more from another book of mine released on
time than me wasting time fixing a thing nobody had ever noticed before.
Look at your to-do list and be honest with yourself: how many tasks are
there on your list because you put them there automatically, without even asking
yourself if they’re important? How about dropping them to make more time for
what matters?
Day 220: On a Lack of Visio n
A lot of times when people come to us and they say, “Hey, I really struggle
with self-discipline in this area or that area,” what we almost always find is it’s
not that they struggle as much from a lack of discipline as they do from a lack of
vision. The amount of our endurance is directly proportionate to the clarity of
our vision.
—Rory Vaden 218

When you’re staring at this delicious piece of cake, you might start
wondering why you’re taking such great pains to avoid it. Unless you have a
clear, specific vision that acts as a mental picture reminding you why, it’s easy to
say “to hell with it!” After all, you aren’t really sure why you’re depriving
yourself of such a pleasure, so why continue to do it?
I strongly suggest starting each day with a quick mental reminder of your
goals. Imagine what you want to accomplish, how it will make you feel, and
why it’s so important that you want to reach it.
On my journey toward building a successful business, I regularly read a
document that described (in detail) the future in which my goals are
accomplished. It not only made it easier for me to stay productive and keep
going despite hardships, but also made the prospect of achieving my goal more
vivid and boosted my confidence that I would eventually reach it.
Write a few paragraphs that describe your own goals or create a vivid
mental image and frequently review it to boost your resolve and enable you to
stay away from temptations.
Day 221: On Antimodels
People focus on role models; it is more effective to find antimodels —
people you don’t want to resemble when you grow up.
—Nassim Taleb 219

A common piece of advice to inspire you to pursue your ideal lifestyle is to

find successful people whom you’d like to emulate.
However, what sometimes works better than positive motivation is negative
motivation. For example, you’ll most likely run faster if you’re running away
from a psychopathic killer than if you’re running in a race with monetary prizes.
In the same way, you might find more motivation in making a list of traits
or describing the kind of a lifestyle you don’t want to live, identifying people
you don’t want to resemble, and then using them as your antimodels.
Whenever you find yourself tempted to give up, cheat, or otherwise betray
your values, remind yourself that each time you’re doing it, you’re getting closer
to becoming your antimodel. If you’ve chosen your antimodels well, you’ll do
whatever you can to avoid their fate — and that’s the power of negative
motivation.
If you don’t know any people who can serve as antimodels, imagine your
future self as a person who did the opposite of what you want and is now stuck
in living the worst kind of a lifestyle that you could ever imagine. Treat the
undesirable “future you” as your antimodel.
Day 222: On Your Depleting Willpowe r
Self-control is highest in the morning and steadily deteriorates over the
course of the day.
—Kelly McGonigal 220

Some scientists (like Kelly McGonigal and Roy Baumeister) believe that
willpower is a depleting resource. You wake up with a specific amount of
willpower and it steadily decreases during the day until (in the evening) you’re
supposedly no longer in control of your actions.
In their research, critics of this theory like Veronika Job and Carol S.
Dweck pose that whether willpower is a resource or not largely depends on what
you think about the issue. 221 If you believe that your self-control is something
that you use up during the day, that will be the case. If you believe it’s
something that is with you whenever and wherever you want it, you won’t notice
a drop in self-control over the course of the day.
Instead of taking sides, I suggest being neutral about it. Even if your
willpower is not a depleting resource, it’s better to perform your habits in the
morning — not because your self-control will run out later on, but because
things tend to happen during the day that will capture your attention and possibly
make you forget about what you vowed to do in the evening. You might also
simply get tired and don’t feel in the mood to push yourself once again .
At the same time, don’t limit yourself by making an excuse that you’ve run
out of self-control. Try to exercise your willpower muscle, whether it’s in the
morning or in the evening. The moment you can’t lift a certain weight or
continue running is largely in your head and you can often push it 222 — why that
wouldn’t be the case when it comes to self-control?
Day 223: On Clear Cues and Rewards
People who have successfully started new exercise routines show they are
more likely to stick with a workout plan if they choose a specific cue, such as
running as soon as they get home from work, and a clear reward, such as a beer
or an evening of guilt-free television.
—Charles Duhigg 223

According to bestselling author Charles Duhigg, a habit consists of a cue (a

signal to perform a habit), a routine (action), and a reward for engaging in the
habit. This loop, when repeated over and over again, creates an automatic
behavior.
When creating new habits, make sure that you have clear cues and rewards.
This will help you introduce new routines with less resistance.
For example, if you want to start running every morning, keep your running
shoes by your bed and before you leave, put your coffee mug on the table in the
kitchen so that when you get back, coffee will serve as a reward for a job well
done.
One thing to be aware of is that your reward can’t undo the benefits of the
habit. If you want to reward yourself for exercising by eating a giant pizza,
you’ll be taking one step forward and two steps back each time you engage in
such a habit loop.
Instead, think of a healthier, less-caloric reward — a smoothie, some nuts, a
piece of fruit — or something that has nothing to do with eating, such as an hour
spent reading a book, watching your favorite TV series, or taking a long bath.
Please note that in the beginning a new habit like jogging in the morning can be
unpleasant, but with time the action itself can be a reward (a workout can
produce a feel-good endorphin rush).
Some effective cues include: another habit (like engaging in a positive habit
after you finish brushing your teeth), a certain place (like getting back home
after work and immediately sitting down to work on your side business for an
hour), or a certain time (each day at 6 p.m. you spend fifteen minutes stretching).
Day 224: On Juggling Five Ball s
Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are
called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them
in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball.
If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls… are made of glass. If
you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even
shattered.
—James Patterson 224

Self-discipline and your long-term goals are important, but throughout all
of my books, I periodically emphasize that life isn’t only about accomplishment.
In fact, your well-being, living with integrity, and the relationships you have
with your friends and family matter more than everything else.
What’s the point of self-improvement if you can’t share your successes and
failures with others? Is being super-rich worth it if you’ve developed a
reputation of a crook? Does it make sense to lose your health just to get a
promotion at work?
When balancing between different aspects of your life, always prioritize the
glass balls over the rubber one. You can always accomplish your goals later, but
you can’t always restore relationship with your family, revive your friendships,
recover your health, or regain trust.
Spend five minutes today thinking whether you’re careful enough when
handling the glass balls in your life. How often do you ignore your health or
family to focus on work? How can you work on your goals in a more sustainable
way that would reduce the risk of losing your health, integrity, or relationships?
WEEK 33
Day 225: On Following Someone Else’s Plan Ester
asked why people are sad.
“That’s simple,” says the old man. “They are the prisoners of their
personal history. Everyone believes that the main aim in life is to follow a plan.
They never ask if that plan is theirs or if it was created by another person. They
accumulate experiences, memories, things, other people’s ideas, and it is more
than they can possibly cope with. And that is why they forget their dreams.”
—Paulo Coelho 225

I like to say that self-discipline can change a lot in your life, but it won’t
change much if you’re following someone else’s dreams.
For example, I went to college because my parents wanted me to do it.
Graduating from college was, according to them, a necessity to succeed in life. I
couldn’t care less about formal education, but they did, and since I was young
and inexperienced, I obeyed.
Despite being a self-disciplined and persistent person, I didn’t last even two
years. I dropped out, tired of constantly forcing myself to follow a plan that was
not created by me. The day I decided to drop out was one of the happiest days of
my life. It was also the moment when I finally embarked on my own journey,
focused on my own goals .
If no matter what you’re doing, you’re finding it immensely difficult to
pursue your goals, ask yourself if they’re really your own goals. Are you
studying because you want to study? Are you a lawyer because it was your own
choice? Do you want to make money to buy a house in the suburbs because it’s
your idea of a perfect life or is it what society expects you to desire?
Don’t forget your dreams. Discard any goal or idea that was forced upon
you by somebody else that isn’t aligned with your values and personality. Get to
work on your own plans and then follow them instead.
Day 226: On Waiting to Be Save d
No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves
must walk the path.
—Gautama Buddha 226

It’s easy to fall victim to the belief that you need to wait for someone or
something to save you.
You won’t start a business unless you find an investor or a mentor. How
about starting your business on a shoestring and learning along the way?
You won’t change your eating habits unless you find the right diet that was
designed by a world-famous dietitian. How about eating more vegetables and
fruits and eliminating unhealthy foods from your diet, one by one?
You won’t start exercising unless you find the right coach. How about
putting on your sneakers and going for a walk or dropping to the ground and
doing a few pushups?
You won’t start a long-term relationship unless the perfect, flawless person
appears in your life. How about looking for a potential partner yourself,
accepting that nobody is perfect, and committing to the other person as they are
— with all of their positive traits and also their flaws?
Don’t wait to be saved. You yourself must walk your own path. Use the
resources offered by other people when you have access to them, but don’t use
them as crutches.
Day 227: On Being Stuck in the Past
People are all over the world telling their one dramatic story and how their
life has turned into getting over this one event. Now their lives are more about
the past than their future.
—Chuck Palahniuk 227

As a teenager, I was so insecure that I couldn’t talk with women. I was

bullied (fortunately, a stronger classmate stood up for me and the bullying
quickly ceased), had terrible acne (and needed to take expensive medication to
get rid of it), and exuded awkwardness that could earn me the starring role in the
Revenge of the Nerds.
Yet, I somehow managed to overcome all those debilitations and I turned
out okay. One of the keys was not letting my dramatic story define me. Yes, I
struggled with all those things and plenty more, but so did many other people —
and many of them struggled with issues that make my problems look like a joke.
If you’re using a past story as an excuse for what your life is like today, ask
yourself how this strategy has been serving you. Isn’t constantly looking into the
past reinforcing the belief that you’re a victim? And if so, how does it affect
your chances of succeeding in life?
Unless you turn the page and look to the future, you’ll be forever stuck
living in the past, reliving your dramatic story and never changing your identity
to create the future you desire.
Day 228: On Going Where Your Eyes Go
In racing, they say that your car goes where your eyes go. The driver who
cannot tear his eyes away from the wall as he spins out of control will meet that
wall; the driver who looks down the track as he feels his tires break free will
regain control of his vehicle.
—Garth Stein 228

When you face hardships and feel like you’re about to crash, heed the
advice of racing drivers: look at where you want your car to go, not at the wall
you want to avoid hitting.
In practical terms, this means focusing on taking the next step to solve the
difficult situation instead of busying your mind with worrying about what will
happen if you don’t manage to succeed. Doing the latter is not only a waste of
energy, it also actively works against you by convincing your brain that the
failure is inevitable, thereby making it less likely that you’ll avoid it.
For example, I was once close to being forced to close my business because
I didn’t have sufficient money to keep it running. Instead of thinking about
closing up shop and worrying about how it would affect my long-term goals, I
focused on the next step I could take — doing whatever I could to secure some
money to keep the business afloat. Instead of staring at the wall, I looked down
the track and managed to avoid hitting the wall.
Adopt the same attitude when dealing with problems and setbacks.
Obsessing about the imminent failure guarantees it, while holding the steering
wheel tightly and looking down the track increases your chances of escaping
such a fate.
Day 229: On the Opportunity in Chaos
In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity.
—Sun Tzu 229

When everything goes wrong, you might be tempted to think that

everything is already lost. You’ve already made a mistake, you can’t go past the
obstacles, the negative circumstances got the best of you.
There’s no denying the fact that chaos doesn’t make it easy to think
logically. However, if you exert some willpower and force yourself to examine
the situation without emotions clouding your judgment, you might discover new
opportunities in the middle of chaos.
For example, if you’re on a diet and somehow one cheat meal turned into a
week-long binge, you can conclude that everything is lost and give up. It’s the
easy choice, but as we’ve already discussed on many occasions, easy choices are
rarely the right ones.
The chaos that has ensued in your diet offers opportunities. For example,
you can now jot down the thoughts you have when you gorge on unhealthy food
after a long period of going without it. What makes you eat it? What’s the
underlying motive? How can you satisfy your need for junk food without
actually eating it?
If you’ve been following a healthy diet for several weeks, you can probably
also notice the difference in how you feel after eating crap. Whenever I spend a
few days eating less healthily, I have a craving to return to my usual diet. Your
mistake can then reinforce your will to part ways with junk food forever.
Treat chaos as an opportunity to learn, and you might benefit from it even
more than if you had never found yourself in the middle of it.
Day 230: On Laser-Focusing on Specific Aspects
Franklin identified the aspects of his performance
that needed to be improved and found a way to
stretch himself, the essential core of deliberate
practice. Significantly, he did not try to become a
better essay writer by sitting down and writing essays.
Instead, like a top-ranked athlete or musician, he
worked over and over on those specific aspects that
needed improvement.
—Geoff Colvin 230

Saying that you want to become more self-disciplined is too vague of a

resolution. You need to be more specific about what areas of your life you want
to improve and specifically how you’re going to do it.
In what domains or situations are you lacking self-discipline? How does it
manifest? What do the people who control their temptations in those situations
do? How can you work over and over again on those specific things to improve
yourself?
If you’re not good at exhibiting patience around people who annoy you,
that’s a specific aspect you can focus on to improve your self-control. If you
often overeat on French fries, that’s a specific trigger that you can focus on to
improve your self-control around food. If you struggle to wake up early, figure
out how to specifically boost your self-discipline in the morning when you’re
still half-asleep .
This laser-focus approach will make you more effective at strengthening
your willpower muscle, rather than merely trying to become more disciplined ,
as it’s too difficult to define what that entails.
Day 231: On Minimizing What You Need
A man is rich in proportion to the number of things which he can afford to
let alone.
—Henry David Thoreau 231

Thoreau was a big proponent of simplicity, particularly when it comes to

material possessions. We can extend his maxim to living a successful life in
general, namely that a human is strong in proportion to the number of things
which he or she can let alone.
If you can still manage to achieve your goals despite not having the right
resources, then ultimately you’ll become a stronger and more capable person
than an individual who has never gone without them.
Kenyan javelin-thrower Julius Yego won the gold medal at the World
Championships in Beijing. There would be nothing particularly interesting in
this story except that he learned how to perfect his technique without a coach,
and instead learned from YouTube videos. 232 Achieving such a feat without all
of the resources that world-class javelin-throwers usually have demonstrates
how capable and determined Yego is as an athlete.
Does it mean that you should deliberately reject the resources you have at
your disposal? Not really. Look at it more as encouragement that, even if you
don’t have the best tools available, you can still make it big .
In addition to that, practice your mental strength by sometimes deliberately
going without something you need.
For example, I sometimes climb with a blindfold on. Without being able to
see the next handhold or foothold, the sense of touch heightens, and it serves as a
valuable exercise in improving precision when climbing.
You can apply it in many other areas of your life: sleep on the bare floor for
a few days to discover that you can still get a good night’s rest once you get used
to it, exercise without any equipment whatsoever, or try to learn a new skill by
figuring it out by yourself instead of immediately looking for a coach or teacher.
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Day 232: On Going All In
I demolish the bridges behind me... Then there is no choice but to move
forward.
—Fridtjof Nansen

If working on your goals with a safety net makes you lazy and less likely to
reach your goals, try the opposite approach: demolish the bridges behind you
and go all in. You will either succeed or lose in a big way.
Obviously, before making such an extreme decision, take into account all of
the risks. If you’re the sole breadwinner of your family, quitting your job to
work on a business might not be an entirely good idea.
However, in many cases you do have an option to cut all escape routes.
For example, if you want to start a diet, you can throw away all of the
unhealthy food you have in your house, pay in advance for three months of a
healthy meal delivered to your doorstep, announce to all of your friends and
family that you’re on a diet, and give your friend a substantial amount of money
that he or she can spend as they like if you fall off the wagon.
If the only choices you have are a spectacular success or a spectacular
failure, it often makes it easier to stick to your resolutions because the
consequences of success and failure are balanced. If you have a safety net and
failure isn’t particularly hurtful, in a moment of doubt the temptation to back out
can be too alluring to resist it.
Day 233: On Obstacles as Filter s
The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep
us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want
something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want
it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.
—Randy Pausch 233

If obstacles piss you off, ask yourself how would you enjoy reaching your
goals if there were no difficulties and everyone would have been able to achieve
their goals without breaking a sweat. How valuable would that success be? How
sweet would it feel if you knew that you’d accomplished something that
everyone else easily could?
Think of setbacks as filters: each problem reduces the number of people
eligible to attain the ultimate prize. Are you going to be one of the also-rans or
are you going to prove how badly you want your goal and stick to your
resolutions for however long it takes?
Day 234: On Forgiving To err is human, to forgive,
divine.
—Alexander Pope 234

What is a quote about forgiving doing in a book about self-discipline and

success? The answer is simple: holding a grudge is like instant gratification. It
gives you a little reward today at the expense of your future. Meanwhile,
forgiving requires some sacrifice today, but eventually brings bigger benefits.
This means that the act of forgiving can serve as a valuable exercise in
improving your self-control, particularly emotional control.
Engaging in negative emotions by staying angry at somebody who hurt you
can give you some pleasure by satisfying your need for “fairness” in the world;
expressing your dislike or anger is like punishing the one who erred.
However, in the long run, holding a grudge poisons only one person, and
that person is you. Choosing to forgive — which doesn’t necessarily mean to
forget — is therefore an act of freeing yourself from pain.
Instead of being stuck in a negative emotional loop, you choose the
temporary discomfort of making peace in exchange for the substantial long-term
benefits of improved well-being.
Day 235: On Looking Only One Day Ahead When I
face the desolate impossibility of writing five hundred
pages, a sick sense of failure falls on me, and I know I
can never do it. Then gradually, I write one page and
then another. One day’s work is all I can permit
myself to contemplate.
—John Steinbeck 235

I share John Steinbeck’s sentiment every time that I start writing a new
book, particularly if it’s such a big and difficult project as 365 Days With Self-
Discipline . The most effective strategy I’ve found to help me is precisely the
same recommendation as Steinbeck’s: I contemplate only one day’s work.
Today, I need to write 10 more daily entries, and that’s all that counts. Each
time I catch myself calculating how many entries I have left and how much time
it’s still going to take, I demoralize myself, thus making it more difficult to keep
going and more likely that I’ll stumble.
While you’re standing at the foot of the mountain and looking at its peak, it
looks like it’s impossible to scale it. But then, if you decide to climb it — step by
step and minute by minute — you slowly advance and soon you’re looking
down, surprised at how high you are.
If you’re facing a big project, embrace the same attitude. Don’t look a year
ahead; instead, focus on what you need to do today to get a little bit closer to
your destination. Do it today, and then do it tomorrow, and then the day after
tomorrow. Then continue week by week and month by month, until you make
the impossible possible.
Day 236: On Being a Normal Chap
In response to the question, “So, Mr. Lamborghini, in short what type of
man are you?”:
A normal chap, a man who likes creating things. A good worker in the
morning, and a man who likes enjoying himself in the afternoon.
—Ferruccio Lamborghini

It’s easy to put successful people on a pedestal and think that they’re so
exceptional that you’ll never become even half as great as they are. In reality,
world-class performers aren’t that different from you or me.
Mr. Lamborghini, the creator of one of the most desired sports car brands in
the world, described himself in simple terms that can apply equally to any other
successful person: they like to create things (which comes down to never-ending
self-improvement), they’re good workers, and just like everybody else, they like
enjoying themselves after work.
Thinking that successful people live on a different planet can hinder your
personal growth. You might assume that their achievements are only within the
reach of similar superhumans, but not you. In reality, while there are certain
exceptions of people who were born with extraordinary talent, prior to their
success, most people didn’t differ much from others.
If you have a tendency to become star-struck, remember that beyond their
successes, they’re the same human beings as you or me. They might be
exceptional at one thing, but horrible at something else. The only reason why
many of them have achieved success might be because of their persistence, and
not because of any special abilities or resources that were available to them.
Stick to your own resolutions and with enough dedication, nothing will prevent
you from attaining their level of accomplishment.
Day 237: On Shifting Responsibility to Other s Many
seek to avoid the pain of their problems by saying,
“This problem was caused me by other people, or by
circumstances beyond my control, and therefore it is
up to other people or society to solve this problem for
me.”
—M. Scott Peck 236

I have a friend who’s often late. When confronted about his tardiness, he
says, “When I was a child, my parents were always late to pick me up at school,
so I learned it from them.”
This way, he conveniently shifts the responsibility for the problem to his
parents. It’s no longer his lack of self-discipline to leave ten minutes early: it’s
his parents who were late (decades ago), so now he’s late for his appointments,
too.
You can often notice similar sentiments among people looking for a job.
It’s not their job to find employment — it’s the government that should do
something about it, as if the government could create jobs out of thin air.
While those people wait for somebody else to fix their problems, other job
seekers take additional training, volunteer, or start small businesses, knowing
that even if the economic situation in the country is beyond their control, it’s
within their control to do something that can increase their chances of getting a
job .
Do you have any problems in your life that you think were caused by other
people and therefore you don’t accept that it’s your responsibility to fix them?
What do you think? What are your chances of ever solving them if you
deny that it’s within your control to do something about them?
Day 238: On Dividing Your Life into 10-Minute Units
You can do so much in ten minutes’ time. Ten minutes, once gone, are gone
for good. Divide your life into 10-minute units and sacrifice as few of them as
possible in meaningless activity.
—Ingvar Kamprad 237

No, there’s no need to divide your life into 10-minute units and behave like
a robot for the rest of your life. However, Kamprad’s suggestion can be a
valuable exercise in discovering how productive you can be if you develop better
control of your schedule.
Conduct an experiment: for one day, track every single activity you engage
in and how much time you spend on it. Jot down everything, including how
much time it takes you to get out of bed, commute, cook, eat, how much time
you spend on social media, how much time you spend on each specific task at
work, etc. For your electronic life, you can use RescueTime, which is time
management software that shows you how you spend your time on your devices.
Just one day of tracking your activity can give you an incredibly valuable
insight into how many 10-minute periods are gone, wasted on meaningless
activities.
As an additional exercise, choose a task — any important task you need to
perform — and set a timer for 10 minutes. For the next ten minutes, act as if a
huge meteor were to hit Earth and destroy everything on it if you failed to
maintain 100% concentration .
Even if you don’t finish the task, you’ll probably multiply your productivity
by a factor of five or ten — and that will serve as a powerful reminder that you
can push your limits if you’re only more diligent about your use of time.
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Day 239: On Imagining the Process as a Litmus Test
If we hate doing something, we imagine it as hard. We
think of it as broken into many pain-in-the-ass steps.
If we love something, it seems easy. We imagine it as one fun step.
—Derek Sivers 238

When setting new goals, do you imagine them as hard, broken down into
countless frustrating steps, or is the process clear to you, largely reliant on just
one big action you need to take consistently to make your dream come true?
The way you imagine how the process will go can serve as a valuable
litmus test that indicates whether you’re pursuing the right goal, and if so,
whether you’re pursuing it in the right way.
For example, I wanted to improve my flexibility and reached out to a
physical therapist to give me some pointers on the best exercises for my
particular weaknesses.
I received a list with several different stretches I was told to perform at least
two times a day (a day , not a week — this alone was completely unrealistic). I
thought about the program as broken into many pain-in-the ass steps instead of a
fun challenge. At first, I listened to the advice, despite having reservations about
it. Just a few days later I started skipping some exercises and soon stopped
following the program entirely.
I was still interested in reaching the goal of improving my flexibility, but I
had to come up with my own, simpler plan that I would consider fun and easier
to implement in my everyday life.
If you’re currently following a plan that feels as inspiring as my original
protocol for improving flexibility, perhaps it’s time to reconsider how to
structure it in a different way so that it will feel more like one fun step rather
than a long-term arduous journey.
Day 240: On Separating Yourself From the Pain
Elite runners feel pain and discomfort during their hard workouts, but they
react differently. Rather than panicking, they have a calm conversation: “This is
starting to hurt now. It should. I’m running hard. But I am separate from this
pain. It is going to be okay.” Like meditation, choose how to respond to the
stress of a workout.
—Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness 239

Pain isn’t you, and you aren’t your pain. Separating yourself from
temporary pain is a crucial ability if you want to put yourself in uncomfortable
situations for the sake of bigger and better rewards in the future.
Whether it’s exercise, dieting, work, or virtually anything else requiring
effort, pain is sometimes inevitable. Depending on how you react to it — with
panic or a calm inner conversation — you’ll either let it hinder your progress or
you’ll defeat it and progress further.
For example, when I’m climbing a particularly difficult route, my forearms
burn like hell, I can barely breathe, and my grip is so weak that I’m mere
milliseconds from falling. Whenever I’m able to do so, I try to disassociate
myself from the pain and try to advance my position further, even if I fall right
after grabbing the next handhold. This way, I get to train my mental toughness
and strengthen my ability to perform despite pain .
Whenever you feel temporary pain or discomfort, remind yourself that you
can make the pain partly fade into the background when you mentally refuse to
associate yourself with it. Obviously, make sure that the pain you feel isn’t a
sign of an impending injury or that it can lead to an accident.
Day 241: On Enabling the Futur e
Your task is not to foresee the future, but to enable it.
—Antoine de Saint Exupéry 240

Let’s perform a quick exercise…

Imagine your ideal future. To make it easier, for now focus on only one part
of your life, say, your financial situation. You probably desire to have more
money in the future. You want to be able to afford what you want and never
have to worry about money again.
Now let’s focus on the present. Think about your choices today, yesterday,
and the entire past week. Are they enabling the future you desire or disabling it?
Think of it as traveling on a toll road that will eventually take you to your
desired future. At each toll booth, you need to pay to continue your journey. If
you make the right choice, one that favors your ideal future, the toll barrier will
open. If not, you’ll be stuck there, standing in front of the barrier until you can
scrape something together — in this case, making the choices that enable the
desired future.
Whenever you find yourself torn between instant and delayed gratification,
think of sitting in a car in front of the toll booth. Do you want the barrier to open,
so that you can continue your journey toward your goal, or are you fine with
waiting and wasting your time?
Day 242: On Selectivity
Few people take objectives really seriously. They put average effort into too
many things, rather than superior thought and effort into a few important things.
People who achieve the most are selective as well as determined.
—Richard Koch 241

Selectivity is one of the key attributes for success. Nobody in the world is
good at everything. Most are exceptional at one, two, or perhaps three things,
okay at several others, and mediocre or horrible at a multitude of other things.
When setting goals, ask yourself what kind of performance you demand
from yourself. Would becoming merely okay satisfy you or are you seeking
excellence? Prioritize your objectives accordingly.
It’s also important to determine the place each goal has in your life.
For example, I made a decision to become as good as I can in rock
climbing, but not at the expense of my health. This meant that I had to forego
certain other activities (such as tennis, in which I was horrible and had little hope
for improvement), but it also meant that whenever I would find myself in a
situation that was a potential risk to my health, I would back out.
Now I have an easy rule in climbing: if there’s a substantial risk of injuring
myself in any way, I don’t push myself — and I don’t feel guilty when giving
up. I made a conscious decision about the role of rock climbing in my life, and I
won’t prioritize my performance in it over what I consider much, much more
important: my health and well-being.
Such clarity is important to help you understand how you should approach
your goals when they clash with other aspects of your life.
If you want to become a billionaire and run big businesses, are you so
obsessed about this goal that you’re fine with possibly not starting family for a
long time?
If you want to become a world-class athlete, do you accept the fact that
professional sports will put immense stress on you and take a toll on your
health?
Be selective with your goals, and once you establish which ones are the
most important, ensure that you know where they all stand in terms of their
priority in relation to other aspects of your life.
Day 243: On the Crime of Aiming Too Low
I will commit not the terrible crime of aiming too low. I will do the work
that a failure will not do. I will always let my reach exceed my grasp.
—Og Mandino 242

Aiming too low is in essence yet another manifestation of choosing

immediate rewards over bigger rewards in the future.
You set your sights low, which ensures success and gives you some peace
of mind from knowing that you’ll probably make it. However, at the same time,
you limit your accomplishments. You get some comfort today at the expense of
possible bigger rewards in the future.
The alternative is to set ambitious goals that make you feel uncomfortable
because they carry a higher risk of failure. You suffer some discomfort today,
but in the long run stand to gain more.
Which choice is more aligned with a person who values self-discipline in
life?
Please bear in mind that you shouldn’t confuse aiming high with being
unreasonable. If you have no idea what is possible and what is not, start slowly
with a safe, easily attainable goal, and aim higher only when you understand the
odds of making a more ambitious goal become a reality .
As a rule of thumb, if you’ve already been working on a particular area of
your life for several months or years, you probably know what is easy to
achieve, what is realistic and what might be beyond your reach. If you’re new to
something, it’s unlikely that you can determine that right away without first
gaining some experience.
For example, I know (from my experience in business) that, in a six-month
timeframe, it’s an easy goal to make $100 a month from an online business, a
realistic goal to make $500 a month, and a “stretch” goal to cross $2000 a
month.
At the opposite end of the spectrum is golfing. I don’t know anything about
it, so instead of setting an ambitious goal (something I can’t do properly because
I don’t understand the odds), I can only focus on an easy, attainable goal (such
as learning the basics of how to hit the ball properly), and only begin to aim
higher after I have understood the fundamentals.
Day 244: On the Fun in the Impossible It’s kind of fun
to do the impossible.
—Walt Disney 243

Continuing the topic of aiming high, there’s another benefit of doing the
impossible: it’s more fun than being realistic, and since it’s so much fun, the
excitement it generates supercharges your motivation to make it a reality.
As we’ve already discussed, this obviously isn’t about setting completely
impossible goals. Becoming a billionaire in five years is unlikely if you’re
starting from zero, but becoming a millionaire — while also unlikely and
impossible for most, isn’t actually impossible.
While it isn’t necessarily a good idea to set several impossible goals in your
life, it’s worth it to have one goal that borders on the line between what’s
possible and what’s impossible.
For example, I set a goal to make enough money to build a countryside
house for my parents while I had just a few pennies in my wallet. You could
have said it was an impossible objective back then, and you’d be right — except
that I did manage to accomplish it in the end, and I owe a lot of my personal
drive to this bold, inspiring goal. I doubt that I would have had the same resolve
if I had set a safer, more realistic goal .
If you want to test (on a smaller scale) the concept of impossible goals
fueling your resolve, set a small goal with a short deadline. Write a full-length
novel in two weeks. Learn a foreign language in three months. Make $5000 on
the side in six weeks. It’s a fun experiment, and if you treat it seriously, you
might be surprised at what you can accomplish if you dream big.
Day 245: On Following or Leaving a Path
Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind
that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay
with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined
life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront,
to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do.
But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or
ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many
times as you think necessary.
—Carlos Castañeda 244

A path is a tool, and it’s only useful as long as it’s getting you closer to
your goals. When it stops serving you, don’t feel obligated to follow it to the end
or you might end up in the bushes, scratching your head while staring at your
scraped knees.
The key to making an intelligent decision about whether to leave the path or
continue following it is to make that decision when you’re free of negative
feelings. People often give up their paths when they’re struggling, and while
they’re in pain, they fail to notice there’s a reward waiting just around the
corner.
Another danger is sticking to the same path out of ambition or ego. “I’ll see
it through to the end,” an ambitious individual proclaims, while it’s clear that
they should have changed the path a long time ago. They refuse to give up out of
the fear of others laughing at them, or in fear of themselves coming to feel as if
they had betrayed themselves.
I suggest periodically reviewing your path, but only after first ensuring that
you’re in a neutral state of mind. Ask yourself if your strategy is still delivering
results. Does it still feel right to you? Do you still see yourself following it for
another month, quarter, or year? Paths, like any other tool, sometimes need to be
changed.
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Day 246: On Learning the Big Ideas
You have to learn all the big ideas in the key disciplines in a way that
they’re in a mental latticework in your head and you automatically use them for
the rest of your life. If you do that, I solemnly promise you that one day you’ll be
walking down the street and you’ll look to your right and left and you’ll think
“my heavenly days, I’m now one of the few competent people in my whole age
cohort.” If you don’t do it, many of the brightest of you will live in the middle
ranks or in the shallows.
—Charlie Munger 245

All human knowledge is interconnected on some level. The big ideas can
often be applied to general life. For this reason, it pays to develop at least a basic
understanding of the key concepts of some of the most important disciplines,
such as mathematics, physics, biology, psychology, engineering, history, etc.
Let’s take compound interest, one of the most important big ideas in
investing. When the interest you earn each year is added to your principal, your
returns each year grow at an ever increasing rate. It might sound boring on
paper, but in the real world it’s what has made many investors millionaires or
billionaires.
This big idea can be applied to personal growth, too. You never want to
grow at a fixed rate; if you constantly build on top of your new experiences
(interest), you’ll grow at an ever-increasing rate. Your personal growth might be
relatively slow the first year, but each succeeding year, you’ll get better and
better results more quickly.
Strive to educate yourself in a broad variety of fields and focus primarily on
the fundamentals. Try to find a real-world application of those principles in your
own life. Even if you don’t always find it, self-education alone will be a valuable
exercise in self-discipline.
Day 247: On First-Order and Second-Order
Consequences
First-order consequences often have opposite desirabilities from second-
order consequences.
First-order consequences of exercise are the pain and time spent. Second-
order consequences are better health and more attractive appearance.
Food that tastes good is often bad for you and vice versa.
—Ray Dalio 246

When making a decision, resist the temptation to think of the immediate

consequences alone. Take into account both the first-order and second-order
consequences.
When the first-order consequences are unpleasant, second-order
consequences will usually make up for them. If it’s the other way around and
something has good first-order consequences, it’s possible it will be bad for you
in the long run.
If you’re about to take it easy for the rest of the day and skip a workout, the
first-order consequence is that you get to relax and do something more pleasant.
However, the second-order consequence is that you miss a day of exercise,
which will potentially affect your routine and in the long haul, lead to your
returning to your old, inactive and unfit self.
There’s more to each decision — no matter how small — than just how it’s
going to make you feel immediately. If you fail to account for the second-order
consequences, you’ll never learn how to discern between ultimately meaningless
immediate gratification and the power of delaying rewards for a better outcome
in the future (or vice versa — you won’t be able to see that the pain or
discomfort today can lead to immense benefits in the future).
Day 248: On Reducing Your Targets
Never reduce a target. Instead, increase actions. When you start rethinking
your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving
up on your dreams!
—Grant Cardone 247

When you’re struggling to make progress, there’s a temptation to let

yourself off the hook and reduce your targets.
Instead of learning 500 new words in a foreign language, you feel tempted
to drop it down to 300. Or better yet, make it 250, just in case.
Instead of giving 10 speeches this quarter, you’re thinking about reducing it
to 7 or 5. It’s still a lot of speeches, you’re still getting better as a public speaker,
so why not rethink your targets and make them a bit more manageable?
Instead of hitting your target weight when dieting, you cut yourself some
slack and settle with a weight 10 pounds (or 5 kilos) higher than your desired
goal.
I don’t entirely agree with Grant Cardone. Sometimes rethinking your
targets is the only intelligent thing you can do — particularly if you’ve set
unrealistic targets and the alternative is to give up altogether.
If, however, your goals are within your reach and you’re otherwise feeling
fine, but still making up excuses so you can let yourself off the hook, it’s time to
tap into your willpower resources, resist the temptation to take it easy, and start
taking even more action.
If you choose the easy way out, you’ll set a precedent: each time you feel
challenged, you’ll simply reduce your goals, and thereby never explore where
your limits actually are.
When in doubt, remember this rule of thumb: it’s better to fall short of
meeting your original goals than to succeed because you cut them by half.
Day 249: On Working Backward s A trick that
screenwriters use: work backwards. Begin at the
finish. If you’re writing a movie, solve the climax first.
If you’re opening a restaurant, begin with the
experience you want the diner to have when she walks
in and enjoys a meal.
—Steven Pressfield 248

When people set new goals, they often feel resistance because they find it
hard to figure out the process needed to get to where they want to go.
If you feel like you are spinning your wheels, frustrated by the impossibility
of discovering what the first step should be, start from the other direction.
Imagine yourself as a person who has achieved your goal. Now work
backwards: what have you done to get to where you are? What have you avoided
doing? What are you doing daily as the successful person who has accomplished
this goal? What are your beliefs? How do you feel?
Break it down into small parts and now you have a list of all of the actions
you need to take to get to your destination. Start with an action you think is
within your reach and take it from there.
Let’s go through a quick example to better describe this process. Let’s
imagine that you want to become a fit, healthy person.
What would this person certainly not do? Would he or she eat fast food
daily? Would he or she stay at home the entire day or lead an active life? Think
of any actions that such a person would certainly not do. Now you have a list of
smaller and bigger habits you need to implement in your life.
How would this person feel about themselves and which beliefs would they
embrace? Would you agree with me if I said that they would probably feel
firmly in control of their destiny and that their primary belief would be that
they’re the masters of their own fate and they would never blame anyone else
but themselves for not living up to their standards? Now you know where you
need to start to change your identity.
An additional benefit of this exercise is that you get to visualize all of the
actions that are necessary to achieve the change; unlike visualizing the outcome
alone (which is generally ineffective), this type of visualization can be helpful in
boosting your resolve.
Day 250: On Fluctuating Energy Alternating periods
of activity and rest is necessary to survive, let alone
thrive. Capacity, interest, and mental endurance all
wax and wane. Plan accordingly.
—Tim Ferriss 249

As great as it would be to always have the same high level of energy,

unfortunately it fluctuates.
Sometimes you’ll feel more determined, and sometimes less. Sometimes
you’ll feel deep interest in what you’re pursuing, and sometimes you’ll feel
bored, ready to give up and try something else. Sometimes you’ll be able to
deliver in one day what you usually create in a week, while on other occasions
you’ll barely do 25% of your daily quota.
Plan according to your fluctuating levels of personal resources. One of the
biggest lessons I’ve gained while on my own journey was the necessity of
learning how to be flexible and self-compassionate.
If you feel like you’re about to fall asleep because you’ve had a challenging
week at work, there’s no rule stating that you must still perform your usual
workout routine. Of course, it would be ideal to do so, but realistically, we aren’t
infallible and invincible. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know when the
exhaustion you feel is mostly an excuse and when it’s a genuine signal from
your body.
I consider myself a self-disciplined person, but sometimes I still skip
workouts or reduce their intensity when I feel it’s sensible to do so. I’ve learned
to listen to my body and plan accordingly .
This doesn’t apply to fitness alone. In virtually every other area of life, your
energy will fluctuate. Don’t be afraid to change your plans if your current mental
state isn’t conducive to certain actions and choices. Don’t stick to a calorie
deficit if you’re sick. Stop working on your side business for a few days if
you’re dealing with other pressing personal challenges.
You won’t always be able to carry the entire world on your shoulders. Tune
in to your body and mental state and rest guilt-free whenever you genuinely feel
you need it.
Day 251: On Relaxing While Working
We scowl when we concentrate. We hunch up our shoulders. We call on our
muscles to make the motion of effort, which in no way assists our brain in its
work.
Here is an astonishing and tragic truth: millions of people who wouldn’t
dream of wasting dollars go right on wasting and squandering their energy with
the recklessness of seven drunken sailors in Singapore.
What is the answer to this nervous fatigue? Relax! Relax! Relax! Learn to
relax while you are doing your work!
—Dale Carnegie 250

Many people have an erroneous belief that work — both in the literal sense
as well as work on your personal goals — has to involve a lot of effort and
struggle. Consequently, their bodies reflect their attitude. As Dale Carnegie
points out, they scowl when they concentrate, hunch up their shoulders and tense
their muscles.
In reality, tensing is counter-productive. A good example comes from my
rock climbing experience: whenever I get too tense and rigid when climbing, my
performance decreases, and by a big factor. I forget about proper technique, find
myself unable to breathe, and just like that, I can no longer hold onto the wall
and I’m falling.
The same goes with work. I do my best work not when I’m scowling and
punching myself in the face, trying to bring out my creativity. I work best in the
early morning when I’m sitting somewhere outside in sunny, warm weather,
with a cup of tea or water by my side. The environment relaxes me, unleashes
my creativity and my productivity shoots up.
Design your environment in such a way that it relaxes you instead of
making you tense. Whenever you catch yourself too tense at work, relax. Make a
conscious effort to work with poise. Flex and unflex your tense muscles a couple
of times while breathing deeply and you should feel tension going away — and
your performance going up.
Day 252: On Getting Older The average person is in
the habit of saying, “The older I get” and he thereby
calls the attention of his mind to the idea that he is
getting older. In brief, he compels his mind to believe
that he is getting older and older, and thereby directs
the mind to produce more and more age. The true
expression in this connection is, “The longer I live.”
This expression calls the mind’s attention to the length
of life, which will, in turn, tend to increase the power
of that process in you that can prolong life. When
people reach the age of sixty or seventy, they usually
speak of “the rest of my days,” thus implying the idea
that there are only a few more days remaining. The
mind is thereby directed to finish life in a short period
of time, and accordingly, all the forces of the mind will
proceed to work for the speedy termination of
personal existence. The correct expression is “from
now on,” as, that leads thought into the future
indefinitely without impressing the mind with any end
whatever.
—Christian D. Larson 251

One of the people I admire the most are the elderly who continue to live
their lives to the fullest despite the ocean of old people nagging and complaining
that it’s too late to change.
I never understood it: how can you conclude that your life is over and give
up simply because you’re older? Is there some force of nature that is making you
unable to think, act, and change or is it a deeply-held limiting belief of yours?
There are plenty of examples of people aged 60 or more doing incredible
things. I myself know a rock climber who’s in his sixties or seventies, and yet
(even after a complicated surgery) he is still climbing, and doing so better than
many young people .
Don’t use the process of aging as a rationalization for why you can’t reach
your goals. It’s true that getting older comes with a higher risk that your body
won’t function as well as it used to, but it doesn’t mean that now you should
retreat from life.
Do the best you can with what you have, surround yourself with people
who are mentally young (regardless of their biological age), and there’s no risk
you’ll ever turn into those bitter, cranky old people who are living their lives
while waiting for physical death (because mentally , they’ve already passed
away).
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Day 253: On the Invisible Prison Bars
You don’t see your prison because its bars are invisible. Part of my task is
to point out your predicament, and I hope it is the most disillusioning experience
of your life.
—Dan Millman 252

People like to lie to themselves, even when they try really hard to convince
themselves that that’s not the case. Self-denial is like a prison with invisible bars
— everything looks fine, except it isn’t.
For example, when I was overweight, I rejected the notion that I was too
fat. I was Big Martin. I sure as heck wasn’t Overweight Martin. What’s wrong
about being big? One day, I saw my predicament for what it was: a prison with
bars that would only move closer to me, if I continued to delude myself that I
wasn’t actually overweight.
If you can’t generate such an epiphany yourself, it might be worth it to
expose yourself to some constructive criticism from a professional — a doctor, a
fitness instructor, a business mentor, or a life coach — in order to see your blind
spots, or rather, take your blinders off and stop lying to yourself.
Are there any aspects of your life about which you lie to yourself? Is there
something that you think is generally considered bad but you think that it’s okay
in your case? What makes you think that you’re different?
Day 254: On Capitalizing on Your Talents
Overcoming deficits is an essential part of the fabric
of our culture. Our books, movies, and folklore are
filled with stories of the underdog who beats one-in-a-
million odds. And this leads us to celebrate those who
triumph over their lack of natural ability even more
than we recognize those who capitalize on their innate
talents. As a result, millions of people see these heroes
as being the epitome of the American Dream and set
their sights on conquering major challenges.
Unfortunately, this is taking the path of most
resistance.
—Tom Rath 253

Beware of applying your self-discipline where it’s least likely to make a

positive impact. If something is your weakness and it’s not a matter of life or
death (like healthy nutritional habits or regular physical activity are), it might
make more sense to give up than to try to conquer something in which ultimately
you’ll never be good.
For example, I’m a natural introvert. I don’t use it as an excuse not to
socialize or have poor communication skills, but I’ve accepted that I don’t
recharge when I’m in a large group of people.
Consequently, I don’t strive to become the life of the party because it
clashes with my personality. Instead of forcing myself to socialize as much as
it’s possible against my nature, I decided to focus on a different aspect of my
communication skills: better communication in one-on-one conversations .
This way, I can still improve myself, but in a way that will bring better
results than trying to triumph over something that isn’t (and never will be) my
natural ability.
In the case of working on your strengths or weaknesses, taking the path of
most resistance is the wrong choice. Focus on your strengths, and become as
good as you can in what naturally comes to you, as that’s where you’ll benefit
most from increased self-discipline.
Day 255: On Self-Image
You always behave consistently with the picture that you hold of yourself on
the inside.
—Brian Tracy 254

Your self-image directly affects your self-discipline and virtually

everything else in your life.
If you think of yourself as a lazy person, how likely is it that you will
engage in productive behaviors? The picture that you hold of yourself on the
inside won’t match your intended actions. Whenever people feel their actions
aren’t congruent with themselves, they stop engaging in them.
On the other hand, if you think that (deep down) you’re productive, you’ll
feel good when you manifest that in the real world. At the same time, whenever
you catch yourself being lazy, you’ll feel that it clashes with your personality
and subsequently, do whatever you can to avoid it.
Negative self-image keeps you away from making a change, while positive
self-image creates a virtuous cycle. Whenever you’re setting new goals, start
with your self-image. What do you think of yourself in relation to the goal you
want to pursue?
What if, instead of calling yourself a failure in business, you’d call yourself
a person with many experiences to draw from?
What if, instead of thinking of yourself as a person with weak self-control,
you’d call yourself a person deeply motivated to build self-discipline ?
Change your opinion about yourself and it will be easier to stick to actions
that would otherwise feel unnatural and clash with who you think you are, deep
down.
Day 256: On Taking a Real Decision
A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If
there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.
—Tony Robbins 255

Here’s a simple rule: don’t conclude that a decision has been made until
you’ve taken a real-world action that reflects it.
Examples:
If you decided to change your nutritional habits, no real decision has been
made unless you physically get rid of junk food from your house and prepare a
healthy meal.
If you decided to start saving money, you haven’t really decided unless you
have put some savings in a saving jar or wired some money to a separate savings
account.
If you decided to start a business, the decision will only become real when
you start physically working on your product or service or you get busy selling
it.
Don’t fall victim to the erroneous belief that making a decision is merely
saying some words in your head. The decision only becomes real in the moment
you take a real-world action and can no longer easily back out by pretending that
you were just “thinking” about making a decision.
Day 257: On Being Impeccable With Your Word
Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you
mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
—Miguel Ángel Ruiz 256

Self-control has a wide variety of applications, one of which is the control

you have over your own words. Negative habits like gossip, harsh
unconstructive self-criticism, telling half-truths or speaking without integrity are
all manifestations of a weak-willed person.
A person who’s in control of their speech, who makes sure that their words
are used primarily to tell the truth or are motivated by love and other positive
emotions, will spread positivity and respect. This, in turn, will make the other
person feel better, too, and it all creates a positive chain reaction. Moreover,
controlling your words and making sure that whenever you open your mouth,
you bring value to the world, is in itself a powerful exercise in self-restraint.
On the other end of the spectrum, a vile person who constantly gossips
about others, hides what they think, and uses their words to hurt others, will
ultimately live a bitter, gloomy life.
Being impeccable with your word is a big challenge, and possibly a lifetime
endeavor, but it’s well worth the benefits. Start now by developing more
awareness of how you use your words — and change them whenever your
motives aren’t positive.
Day 258: On Helping, With No Strings Attache d
Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others.
Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?”
—Brian Tracy 257

You can help others in two ways: help with no expectation for getting
anything in return but the pleasure of helping, or help in a calculated way,
expecting a reward.
Obviously, some situations require scratching each other’s back. It would
be foolish to help someone without expecting a clear compensation in return if
you’re conducting a regular business transaction.
However, many trivial everyday situations are opportunities for learning to
exhibit the other approach: offering help with no strings attached.
This type of help is a valuable exercise in learning self-discipline because
when you make difficult choices, you won’t always have a guarantee of a future
reward. Helping for the sake of helping is a powerful exercise in learning that
it’s worth it to do something positive for the sake of doing it, and not necessarily
for immediate compensation.
Nobody is going to jump out of the corner with a trumpet, clapping their
hands and congratulating you for making the right choice when you skip dessert.
However, just like when helping with no strings attached, doing it anyway
(without others’ congratulations or expressed approval) can help you learn to
draw pleasure from the mere fact of doing something that you know is good for
you.
In addition to that, looking for opportunities to help others will help you
develop the mindset of a successful individual — a person who’s constantly on
the lookout to contribute more to the world.
Day 259: On the Motivation to Get Up Early
It’s like waking up on a cold, snowy day in a mountain cabin ready to go
for a walk but knowing that first you have to get out of bed and make a fire.
You’d rather stay in that cozy bed, but you jump out and make the fire because
the brightness of the day in front of you is bigger than staying in bed.
—Pema Chödrön 258

Without a doubt, one of the most difficult challenges for self-discipline is

getting out of the warm, comfortable bed early in the morning, when you’re still
half-asleep, only partially able to think logically.
Curiously, in my personal experience, this rarely happens if I’m on a
vacation. I might even jump out of bed, eager to start another exciting day.
I’ve found that if I don’t have any particular expectations for the day in
front of me, I struggle to get out of bed. Whether you’re self-disciplined or not, a
lack of something you’re looking forward to during the day will make it hard to
get out of bed.
Each evening, before going to sleep, think about a convincing reason to get
out of bed early — or set an ambitious long-term goal on which you’ll work
daily that will ensure that each day you’ll have a reason to get up.
Unless the reason is more exciting or pressing than sleeping in, you’ll
probably have a hard time getting out of bed. Note that nothing — including
fancy clocks, tracking your sleep phases, or putting your alarm across the room
— will be as helpful for your self-control in the morning as having a good
reason to wake up.
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Day 260: On Courage
People who seem to act “courageously” usually have specific
consequences in mind; they know the consequences both of acting and not
acting. They’ve decided that the consequences of not acting are worse than the
consequences of what we consider to be their courageous acts.
—Harry Browne 259

Here’s a little trick to inspire courage to make a change: prepare a list of the
consequences of acting and not acting. List all the great things that will happen if
you change and all the bad things that will happen (or keep on happening) if you
decide not to act.
Aim to make the list of the consequences of not acting so terrifying that the
only valid choice would be to act. In essence, that’s what courageous people
often do in a split second: they see something that fills them with fear and do it
anyway because ultimately not facing their fears is an even scarier proposition.
For example, if you’re afraid to change your job, imagine what will happen
if you don’t act. You’ll have to continue working in a job you may even hate.
Day by day, week by week, it will probably get even worse. The same faces, the
same annoying tasks, the same frustrating boss. Isn’t that prospect scarier than
looking for a new job?
Day 261: On Giving Up the Last Word
Consciously giving up the last word is a secret prayer because the you that
wants the last word isn’t really you at all... it’s that dark spirit of one-
upmanship, that dark spirit of combativeness.
—Guy Finley 260

When having a verbal fight, it’s tempting to argue your case until you
convince your opponent to share your stance. Unfortunately, it rarely, if ever
happens. He or she who has the last word doesn’t succeed in anything except for
making the other person feel worse.
Consequently, here’s another challenge for your self-control: instead of
always trying to one-up somebody else, give up having the last word. Don’t try
to prove that you’re better (you aren’t) or that your opinion is right (even if it is,
you won’t convince anybody by arguing with them). Agree to disagree and
change the topic to something more pleasant.
Exercising self-restraint this way will not only improve your relationships
with others, it will also help you improve your self-control by learning how to
resist one of the strongest temptations: to continue to argue your case when
you’re convinced of your rightness.
Day 262: On Fragility Caused by Comfort
Diseases of civilization result from the attempt by humans to make life
comfortable for ourselves against our own interest, since the comfortable is what
fragilizes.
—Nassim Taleb 261

There’s no doubt that modern comforts make our lives easier. However,
while the benefits are clear, there are also disadvantages of living in so much
comfort: we rarely get to experience the discomfort our ancestors had been
dealing with on a daily basis, and consequently, we are less able to handle it
when it manifests in our lives.
That’s why I’ve mentioned more than several times throughout the book
how important it is to voluntarily put yourself in uncomfortable situations. One
additional thought that is related to this topic is to think of experiencing
discomfort as a vaccine.
For example, I’ve fasted so many times on so many occasions that now
whenever I find myself in a situation in which I’m forced to fast for some
reason, I don’t mind it. I’ve essentially immunized myself against the need to eat
often, and this has made me a stronger person.
The immunization you get from practicing discomfort quickly adds up,
making you more resilient in all areas of life. Think of the ways in which you
make yourself fragile through always choosing comfort over discomfort, and
every now and then temporarily forego that comfort, in order to toughen up.
Day 263: On Thinking for Yoursel f You and you
alone are the sole arbiter of the meaning in your life.
The second you turn to someone and say, “What does
life mean?” or, “What should my life mean?” you
have slipped into a mind-set that courts inauthenticity
and depression. The second you agree with someone
simply because of her position or reputation, whether
that someone is a guru, author, cleric, parent,
politician, general, or elder, you fall from the path of
personal meaning-maker.
—Eric Maisel 262

One of the things I emphasize in every book is that I’m not a guru nor do I
wish to be one. I don’t want you to take my advice at face value, assuming that
it’s right simply because I share it in my book.
Agreeing with somebody simply because of their position or reputation is
dangerous, because you’re essentially delegating your thinking process to this
person. I make mistakes, you make mistakes, and even the world’s most
successful performers make mistakes.
Moreover, what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another
person. For example, I often take the extreme approach, which usually works out
fine for me, but might hurt another person who isn’t used to pushing their limits
in such a way. Granted, you won’t know which approach is good for you until
you test it for yourself, but it’s important to think before you act and to question
any advice, including the tips you find in this book.
Finally, don’t make the mistake of letting others decide the meaning of your
life. You, and only you, can figure out how you want to live your life and what
you want to get out of it. Following somebody else’s recipe for an “ideal” life is
a recipe for depression. Even if your dreams are considered weird by others, it
doesn’t make them incorrect. They’re your dreams, and that’s the only thing that
counts for them to be valid.
Day 264: On Being Honest With Yourself About Your
Feelings
Always be honest with yourself about how you are feeling, no matter what
kinds of emotions might be building up inside of you. (...) Pretending to
ourselves that we are not feeling something does not make that emotion
disappear.
—Nigel Cumberland 263

Pretending to yourself that you aren’t feeling a temptation to cheat on your

diet, waste time instead of working, or vent your anger on somebody else
doesn’t make those urges disappear. If anything, there’s a risk that those
emotions will build up inside of you and explode one day. If there’s one
characteristic thing about explosions, it’s that they’re uncontrollable.
Instead of denying those emotions, observe them and seek a different outlet.
Perhaps you could vent in a different way without hurting anyone. Maybe you
need to schedule a cheat meal and indulge a little to avoid an unplanned cheat
week. It’s possible that you’re overworking yourself and the temptation to take it
easy is in reality your body’s cry for help.
Be honest with yourself about your feelings, especially those that stand in
direct opposition to what you want to achieve. Remain vigilant of them and
manage them instead of denying that they exist, or one day those feelings might
take control of you.
Day 265: On Transformation Taking Place Now
The present moment contains past and future. The secret of transformation
is in the way we handle this very moment.
—Thich Nhat Hanh 264

The way you handle this very moment might mean nothing for you today,
but in reality, each present moment is an opportunity to change your life. It all
starts with one decision.
Maybe you’re now reading this book and wondering if you could learn how
to play the guitar. It’s only in this present moment that you can decide to stop
reading and head to a music store, buy a guitar and start learning.
In the very same moment you might glance at a bag of chips on your lap
and instead of finishing it off, close it and put it in the trash.
When you’re going about your day, each little choice subtly affects your
future. Each repetition of a negative habit reinforces it, while each repetition of a
positive habit makes it more likely you’ll engage in it again in the future.
Personal transformation doesn’t happen in the future — it’s happening now.
How are you making sure that you’re transforming in the right direction?
Day 266: On Temptations and Your Decision What to
Do About Them
An eye, when open, has no option but to see. The decision whether to look
at a particular man’s wife, however, and how, belongs to the will. And the
determination whether to trust what someone says, and then, if we trust them,
whether we should be angered by it — that also belongs to the will.
—Epictetus 265

When shopping, you’ll undoubtedly find yourself surrounded by shelves

filled with unhealthy food. However, the decision whether it lands in your
shopping cart depends on you .
When taking a pause from learning for a difficult exam, you might receive a
message from a friend asking you to hang out. The decision as to whether you
hang out or finish your coffee and resume studying is yours to make.
When browsing online, looking for information to help you grow your
business, you might stumble upon a cat meme or a funny video. It’s within your
control as to whether you waste your time on low-quality entertainment or
continue your search for information.
It’s tempting to shift the responsibility to the external factors, but does it
benefit you in any way to claim that you cheated on your diet because you
happened to go through the aisle with the potato chips? Is it a legitimate excuse
to say that you didn’t go for a jog because there was a comfortable sofa in your
living room and it demanded your attention?
Do whatever you can to avoid situations that might tempt you to do
something that will jeopardize your long-term goals, but if you happen to come
upon them, remember that it’s still your decision — and a test of your self-
discipline — as to whether they will affect you negatively.
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Day 267: On Self-Monitoring
The more carefully and frequently you monitor yourself, the better you’ll
control yourself.
—Roy Baumeister 266

People who monitor their weight regularly have a higher chance of

maintaining weight loss permanently.
People monitoring their output at work have a higher chance of remaining
productive in the long run.
People who monitor the hours when they go to sleep and wake up are more
likely to become permanent early risers.
Self-monitoring is a crucial tool to help you keep track of your results and
then, upon achieving your goal, maintaining them forever. I strongly suggest
monitoring yourself at least weekly, and if possible, daily.
For example, to keep myself in check, even though I’m fit, I weigh myself
daily and regularly monitor my physique in the mirror. No, I don’t obsess about
my appearance like a narcissist or feel my heart rate going up when I step on the
scales. The only purpose of doing these things is to ensure that if I somehow fail
to notice a slip-up in my habits, my body will communicate it to me and help me
address it before it gets worse.
I follow the same approach in my business. I have a daily word count, but I
also monitor my output compared to my output last year. That way, I always
know when I’m getting lazy and when I need to concentrate on strengthening my
work ethic.
How often do you monitor yourself? Is it a part of your daily or weekly
schedule? If not, it’s time to make that happen.
Day 268: On Taking Ownership for Your Ideas
Regardless of what we create — a toy box, a new
source of electricity, a new mathematical theorem —
much of what really matters to us is that it is our
creation. As long as we create it, we tend to feel rather
certain that it’s more useful and important than
similar ideas that other people come up with.
—Dan Ariely 267

When people create something themselves — say, a birthday card for a

friend — they value it more than something created by somebody else.
Similarly, people take ownership of their ideas and feel they’re more valuable
simply because they’re their own ideas.
You can use this phenomenon to improve your self-discipline. Instead of
relying on my definition of self-discipline, come up with your own. Jot down
what self-control means to you, when you feel it, how you feel it and why is it
important to you. I can write all day long how important self-discipline is, but if
you do it yourself and apply it to your personal situation, you’ll immediately
understand it on a deeper level.
In addition to reading the tips and tricks I share in this book, come up with
your own ideas. You’ll be more likely to act on your own ideas than on the ones
that you learned from me or from any other person.
I usually give two or three applications for every piece of advice, but it’s
rarely limited to just those two or three uses. Think about how you can adapt the
lessons to your own life or even test the opposite way of doing things — there’s
rarely, if ever, only one correct method. Discovering the right answer for your
unique situation can deliver better results than reading even a hundred books
about personal development.
Day 269: On Stretchin g
The benefits of stretching are enormous. Stretching can increase your
strength by 10%. It is a lot. The man [Russian Master of Sports Alexander
Faleev] explains that “when you lift a weight your muscles contract. And after
the workout the muscles remain contracted for some time. The following
restoration of the muscles’ length is what recovery is. Until the muscle has
restored its length, it has not recovered. Hence he who does not stretch his
muscles slows down the recuperation process and retards his gains.” Besides,
tension and relaxation are two sides of the same coin, “if the muscle forgets how
to lengthen, it will contract more poorly. And that is stagnation of strength.”
—Pavel Tsatsouline 268

Here’s your willpower exercise for the week: stretching. Stretching isn’t
only great for your physical health; since it’s generally uncomfortable but
provides long-term benefits, it’s also great for your self-discipline.
I strongly suggest always beginning a workout with dynamic stretches
(short stretches, usually with some kind of a dynamic motion) and concluding
each training with static stretching (holding a stretch for a longer period of time,
usually at least 15–30 seconds).
Static stretching is better for exercising your willpower because that’s
where you actually need to hold a stretch and keep at it, even though it’s
uncomfortable.
5-10 minutes of stretching a few times a week, focused particularly on the
tightest areas (probably your hips, lower back and hamstrings) is a good target.
If you don’t know how to stretch, a quick search on YouTube will yield plenty
of detailed video tutorials.
Day 270: On Self-Reflectio n Socrates compared living
without thinking systematically to practicing an
activity like pottery or shoemaking without following
or even knowing of technical procedures. One would
never imagine that a good pot or shoe would result
from intuition alone; why then assume that the more
complex task of directing one’s life could be
undertaken without any sustained reflection on
premises or goals?
—Alain de Botton 269

Set a timer for 15 minutes and do nothing else but sit or lie comfortably and
think about your current problems or anything that’s been on your mind recently.
It’s incredible how much insight you can get by hitting the pause button for
mere 15 minutes and simply thinking, without doing anything else.
When people are new to personal development, they tend to think more
than act. They spend more time reading than actually implementing advice.
Once you gain some experience and develop a habit of taking action, the
opposite is often true: you take a lot of action, but rarely reflect on it.
The exercise for today can remedy this situation by reminding you that you
get the best results not only when you act, but when you act and reflect on your
actions to ensure the highest effectiveness.
Day 271: On How to Use Books
Books... are like lobster shells, we surround ourselves with ‘em, then we
grow out of ‘em and leave ‘em behind, as evidence of our earlier stages of
development.
—Dorothy L. Sayers 270

When you’re new to the world of personal development, you read whatever
you can grab your hands on. Every single classic, every book recommended to
you by somebody you respect, every new bestselling release. At first, it’s a fine
strategy: you get to expose yourself to different authors, learn the fundamentals,
and look at personal development from different perspectives.
However, as time passes, you should leave some books behind and progress
to more specific advice. For example, I used to read one general self-help book
after another. Soon I found them all similar to each other. Each new title added
little to my knowledge. I outgrew those books, and needed to find a new teacher.
I transitioned to reading books about a more specific topic than general
personal development: how to change myself to become a successful
entrepreneur (and how to actually start and run a profitable company), how to
improve my communication skills, how to eat healthily, or how to develop
focus.
Then I started reading more biographies and autobiographies, where the
lessons usually aren’t as clearly laid out as in a regular how-to book, but which
are unique and more insightful, related to a specific problem the person
portrayed in the biography had dealt with.
Recently I started expanding my horizons and seeking out books about
specific problems I struggle with (for example, how to develop a better life
philosophy) and reading books from other domains, so I could draw parallels
from them and apply their principles to my own life.
Think of different categories of books as your development stages. When a
given type of a book no longer serves you, find a new teacher.
Day 272: On Extinguishing Bad Habits
You can never truly extinguish bad habits. Rather, to change a habit, you
must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.
That’s the rule: If you use the same cue, and provide the same reward, you can
shift the routine and change the habit. Almost any behavior can be transformed
if the cue and reward stay the same.
—Charles Duhigg 271

Some time ago we talked about the habit loop: a cue (a signal to perform a
habit), a routine (action), and a reward for engaging in the habit. This loop, when
repeated over and over again, creates an automatic behavior.
You can use this loop to create new habits, but you can also use it to replace
bad habits with more empowering routines.
For example, instead of always eating a chocolate bar during a lunch break,
eat a banana. Your cue is a lunch break and your reward is eating something
sweet. Two parts of the habit loop remain the same, but are now satisfied by a
healthier alternative.
Instead of always dealing with a stressful situation by emotional eating,
head out for a quick run. Your cue is feeling stressed, and as a reward you get to
reduce or eliminate the anxiety. Running can become an alternative, healthy way
of satisfying your need for self-comfort .
If you have any bad habits you want to get rid of, think about how to keep
your cue and reward the same while replacing the negative routine with
something empowering. You’ll reduce the risk of reverting to the old habit
because it will only be the action in itself that changes — not your cue or the
reward.
Day 273: On Reprogramming Your Brain
Given our human impulse to pick up the habits and energy of others, you
can use that knowledge to literally program your brain the way you want. Simply
find the people who most represent what you would like to become and spend as
much time with them as you can without trespassing, kidnapping, or stalking.
Their good habits and good energy will rub off on you.
—Scott Adams 272

Research shows that resisting peer pressure causes emotional discomfort. 273
Consequently, humans have a tendency to want to fit in, even when it means not
thinking for themselves or doing things they would otherwise never do.
While it’s not a positive phenomenon among college kids who all want to
emulate the popular guy or gal who’s into partying hard, it can be a beneficial
tool for an adult who consciously chooses the group whose features he or she
would like to acquire.
If there’s any shortcut to building self-discipline, it’s this: find a group of
people who possess discipline and let the power of peer pressure change you.
For example, if you want to build self-discipline to exercise regularly, join a
fitness group or hang out in the park with ripped guys who are into calisthenics.
If you want to become super productive and have enough self-discipline to
wake up every single day at 5 in the morning to work on your start-up, join a
local networking group of entrepreneurs or work in a co-working space.
If you want to stop spending so much money on unnecessary things, join a
forum about frugality or follow bloggers in the personal finance niche.
Look at it from other perspective, too: if the groups you currently belong to
don’t exhibit the traits you’d like to acquire (or worse, exhibit the complete
opposite of those traits), ask yourself whether you want to continue to let them
influence your life.
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Day 274: On Constant Movement
Well, I always know what I want. And when you know what you want — you
go toward it. Sometimes you go very fast, and sometimes only an inch a year.
Perhaps you feel happier when you go fast. I don’t know. I’ve forgotten the
difference long ago, because it really doesn’t matter, so long as you move.
—Ayn Rand 274

Constant movement is the key to a successful life because humans are

programmed to always be on the mission to improve their lives. The journey in
itself can give life meaning, and obsessing about not being able to shorten it can
only bring unnecessary frustration.
In addition to that, certain goals require years (or sometimes even decades)
to achieve, and there’s little, if anything, you can do to turn them into reality
sooner. Complaining only breeds negativity, which does nothing to help you
attain your goals.
You might think that it doesn’t make sense to work on a goal if your
progress is slow and you consequently feel tempted to give up.
But what’s the alternative?
If you give up, you’re guaranteed to not meet your objectives. What sense
does it make to give up, frustrated by the slow progress, and then resort to
wishing you could somehow magically turn your dream into reality?
Day 275: On Staying a Champio n You will never be
entirely comfortable. This is the truth behind the
champion — he is always fighting something. To do
otherwise is to settle.
—Julien Smith 275

I’m sorry to break it to you, but if you expect that one day all discomfort
will be gone from your life and you’ll be able to enjoy the fruits of your hard
labor for the rest of your days, you’re wrong.
If you not only want to become a champion, but also stay a champion, by
definition you’ll always need to fight something: fight to reach a new goal,
overcome hardships, expand your comfort zone, and continue improving
yourself little by little.
For example, at the time I’m writing this, it’s been two years since I started
rock climbing. I used to be terrified of heights and taking falls. While my fear of
heights and taking falls has greatly diminished, I’m still not free — and will
never be free — from fear and discomfort when I’m climbing.
If you want to improve your climbing, you need to climb harder and harder
routes. They will still make you uncomfortable and scared. Even the best rock
climbers in the world still feel fear and experience discomfort — just like
skydivers, public speakers, successful businesspeople, athletes, and any other top
performers.
If you’d like to stay a champion, accept the fact that discomfort is here to
stay. Embrace it as a teacher that will strengthen you and help you achieve ever
greater feats, not as an annoying part of the process that you’d like to put behind
as quickly as possible.
Day 276: On the Price of Personal Growth
Personal growth has its price, and she was paying it without complaint.
—Paulo Coelho 276

As we’ve discussed it in yesterday’s entry, staying a champion means that

you’ll always need to put yourself in new, uncomfortable situations. It’s the
price you have to pay for excellence.
Personal growth in general has its price, too. From my personal experience,
here are several things you should expect on your journey toward improving
your life:
1. People being confused about your actions. Unless you’re surrounding
yourself solely with top performers, your immediate social circle will probably
be puzzled why you’re subjecting yourself to discomfort, prioritizing work over
enjoying yourself, or rejecting pleasures today for the sake of tomorrow. The
sooner you learn to ignore those voices, the better off you’ll be.
2. Outgrowing certain people in your life. It’s painful, but you’ll probably
outgrow some friends or loved ones. You’ll find it harder to connect with them
and they’ll find it harder to connect with you. This doesn’t necessarily have to
happen in every situation and with everyone, but prepare yourself for the reality
that some of your relationships will probably weaken or stop being as fulfilling
as they used to be .
3. An incessant desire to improve everything. Once you start making
positive changes in your life and experience in your own skin how powerful new
habits and attitudes can be, you’ll feel the desire to improve everything. This can
be a source of frustration when you realize that certain people don’t want to
change or that certain social mores actually value mediocrity over excellence.
4. Self-guilt that you have it better than other people. As strange as it
sounds, if you successfully introduce some important changes in your life —
develop a healthy physique, form positive nutritional habits, set aside some
savings and find meaningful work you enjoy or at least one that satisfies you
financially — you might start feeling guilty that others have it worse.
Considering that most people are either obese, unhealthy, broke, or
unhappy at work, chances are you that you will indeed live a better life than they
are living. However, in the end you gained the right to enjoy the life you have
now through your own efforts. Don’t feel guilty because you made better
choices. Other people could have done the same.
5. A difficulty to enjoy what you have. The more you achieve in your life,
the more you’ll want to achieve. When you notice that something is lacking in
your life, you’ll want to change it. This carries the risk that you’ll never be able
to enjoy what you have or unrealistically expect that everything and everyone
needs to be perfect. Sooner or later (ideally sooner) you’ll need to learn how to
be grateful for what you have and be content with it.
Day 277: On Making Things Convenient
Nutritionally speaking, frozen veggies are similar to — and sometimes
better than — fresh ones. This makes sense, considering that these veggies are
usually flash-frozen (which suspends/pauses their “aging” and nutrient losses)
immediately after being harvested. Frozen veggies are often picked in the peak
of their season, too.
—Ronald B. Pegg 277

Here’s the ultimate hack when it comes to eating more vegetables: eat ones
that have been frozen. At least 50-60% of vegetables I eat have been frozen (the
rest are canned and fresh). Research shows that nutrition-wise, frozen vegetables
aren’t worse — and might be even better — than fresh vegetables.
One of the biggest issues when it comes to improving your eating habits is a
lack of time or being too lazy to prepare fresh vegetables. You can get rid of this
excuse by buying a frozen vegetable mix. Steam it, sprinkle it with some good
herbs and spices and voila! You’re getting your veggies for the day with no need
to go through the entire ordeal of peeling, washing, and cooking fresh vegetables
(for which you might not have enough willpower).
Please note that this entry isn’t merely about frozen vegetables; it’s about
making sure that your new positive habits are as convenient to stick to as
possible .
The more convenient you make it to stick to a healthy diet, the more likely
you’ll be to stick to it. Even if one day scientists discover that frozen or canned
vegetables aren’t as healthy as the fresh ones, it’s still better to eat them than not
eat vegetables at all because it’s too inconvenient for you to eat them fresh.
The same applies to other goals. Yes, it would be ideal if you found a fun
outdoor activity, but if you really can’t afford to do so, buying some basic
equipment and exercising at home (to make it more convenient) is still better
than not exercising at all.
When you’re choosing between failing to stick to a positive habit because
it’s inconvenient or making it more convenient but perhaps a little bit less
effective, choose the latter.
Day 278: On the Rent Axio m The Rent Axiom says
that success is never owned. Success is only rented and
the rent is due every day.
—Rory Vaden 278

The Rent Axiom is a powerful way to look at success. Instead of thinking

of success as something that is given to you, thus risking that you’ll take it for
granted and become complacent, you assume that you only rent it — and to keep
it in your life, you need to pay the rent each and every day.
Another consequence of adopting this perspective is that you’ll stop looking
for shortcuts or temporary solutions. The rent is due every day, so it’s not like
you can take one magic pill and forever solve all of your problems.
It’s an empowering outlook on life that will help you not only reach
success, but also (which is even more important) to maintain it.
Thousands of people all over the world have successfully lost weight,
started exercising more, built successful businesses, improved their
relationships, learned new skills, wrote books, and achieved other goals.
However, thousands of them also lost their success when they assumed it was
there forever.
Spouses stopped putting in the effort. Businessmen let their competition
crush them. Dieters reverted to their old habits and regained weight. If you don’t
want this to happen to you, remember to pay your rent every day and always
make sure that your current actions confirm that you deserve the success you’ve
achieved.
Day 279: On Learning With Ag e It’s very simple. As
you grow, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-
two, you’d always be as ignorant as you were at
twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It’s
growth. It’s more than the negative that you’re going
to die; it’s also the positive that you understand
you’re going to die, and that you live a better life
because of it.
—Mitch Albom 279

As time passes, one might feel tempted to believe that their best years are
behind them. Now decay commences, and things can only get worse. How about
looking at it from a different point of view and embracing aging as the learning
process?
I like to say that if in five years I’m the same person that I am today, then
I’ll have failed. Ideally, in five years I should feel slightly uncomfortable about
the type of a person I was in the past.
Aging is not merely about your body’s cells dividing and multiplying —
it’s also about your knowledge , which (if you make an effort to do so)
constantly expands, gives you new perspectives and helps you live an ever better
life.
You can look at aging in both ways: a process of deterioration or a process
of improvement. Which attitude will bring more happiness and success in your
life?
Day 280: On Seeing Your Troubles from the Proper
Perspective
I try to see my troubles in their proper perspective. I say to myself: “Two
months from now I shall not be worrying about this bad break, so why worry
about it now? Why not assume now the same attitude that I will have two months
from now?”
—William L. Phelps 280

At the moment I’m writing this, I’m questioning my ability to persevere for
another two weeks before I finish this book. I’ve been working on it for a long
time, and it’s been my most difficult project so far.
The thought that helps me see my current troubles from the proper
perspective is imagining myself two months from now, when the work is already
done and the book is published.
In the grand scheme of things, what does two additional weeks of work
mean? I’m almost done, so now I only need to push myself for a little while
longer and the situation will resolve itself.
In the past, a friend helped me handle my financial troubles in a similar
way. I was worried about the money I owed to the bank, but in the grand scheme
of things it mattered little: my friend made me aware that my new business had
been making money, it was quickly growing, and it would only be a matter of
several months and I’d be debt-free.
If you’re currently struggling or worrying about something, try to look at
your troubles from the perspective of you in the future. If your situation will end
in several days or weeks, then is it really such a big problem? Even if it’s going
to take at least several months, it’s still a temporary condition and worrying
about it excessively is counter-productive.
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Day 281: On the Hardships Writing Your Life Story
You can recall everything you have worked hard and patiently for in your
life, but how many things that you have attained with little or no effort can you
remember?
—Thomas Sterner 281

When you’re struggling with your goal and feel tempted to give up, remind
yourself that ultimately, it’s the hardships that write your life story and make it
so exciting and memorable.
As Thomas Sterner points out, we don’t remember things that we achieved
easily — and often, they don’t even make us particularly happy or we don’t
consider them significant.
Working hard and patiently to achieve an important but difficult goal isn’t
just an unpleasant thing that you need to do to get to your destination — it’s life
itself, a state a human being needs to feel fulfilled and inspired. A life without
challenges is neither happy nor does it lead to you realizing your full potential.
See your current hardships for what they are — a powerful opportunity to
embrace your human nature, grow as a person, and an awesome inspirational
story you’ll be able to share with others in the future.
Day 282: On Analysis Paralysi s
The ten thousand questions are one question. If you cut through the one
question, then the ten thousand questions disappear.
—Xinxin Ming

Analysis paralysis happens when you overthink a situation to such an extent

that you never take a decision.
For example, a person who wishes to lose weight will never commence a
diet because they’ll forever keep searching for the right diet or the ultimate
answer to the question of which foods are healthy and which are not (hint: even
scientists don’t know the correct answer).
As a result, weeks and months pass by, and all you have is more and more
unresolved questions and zero real-world results.
While it often pays to think deeply about your goal and how you want to
approach it, if you have a tendency to over-analyze and overcomplicate things,
give yourself just one day to figure out the answer to one key question — and
instead of aiming for the perfect answer, aim for an answer that’s good enough .
For example, if you want to start a diet and are unsure which one to follow,
research the most common and most successful diets. Limit your choices to the
few best options and then choose the one that feels like the best fit. Don’t worry
about getting it perfect — in the state of analysis paralysis you won’t get any
results, so even mediocre results are still an improvement .
Think of it as driving a car in foggy weather. Even though you can’t see
everything around you, you can still drive. It’s the same with goals — even with
limited knowledge, you can still work on your objectives.
Day 283: On Being Hungr y
Stay hungry. Be hungry for success, hungry to make your mark, hungry to
be seen and to be heard and to have an effect. And as you move up and become
successful, make sure also to be hungry for helping others. Don’t rest on your
laurels.
—Arnold Schwarzenegger 282

One of the biggest dangers of success is that when people achieve it, they
frequently lose the hunger that has led them to demonstrate the incredible
amounts of willpower and determination it took to make their dreams come true.
As a result, they run a huge risk of losing the success they’ve worked so hard to
achieve.
If you don’t want to be like those people, once you’re done celebrating your
success, find another source of hunger that will make you pursue new challenges
and continue to grow. Set bigger goals, or find a deeper meaning behind your
actions. Discover a new itch to scratch, to keep yourself always learning more.
Note that always searching for a new source of hunger doesn’t mean that
you can’t ever be content with what you have. It’s not about constantly chasing
the carrot, dissatisfied with what you have. It’s about making your life ever so
much larger, while being appreciative and protective of what you have.
For example, I’m extremely grateful for my successes in the self-publishing
world — and for people like you reading my books — and precisely because of
that, I still push myself. I know that it’s only through constant effort and through
producing new works that I can reach even more people and achieve new goals.
Writing new books protects my success and lets me grow as a writer, constantly
taking things to the next level. Should my hunger for writing disappear one day,
I’ll find a new reason to be hungry in a different area.
Don’t let comfort persuade you that challenges aren’t important in life.
When there’s nothing difficult that you’re striving to achieve, you will
eventually lose your hard-earned achievements, habits, and traits — and along
with it, the comfort that you’re now enjoying.
Day 284: On Habits as Handcuff s
Don’t let your habits become handcuffs.
—Elizabeth Berg 283

Few, if any, self-help authors would challenge the opinion that habits are of
key importance to a person wishing to improve their life. Most would agree that
good habits unlock success, while negative habits are destroying you.
Yet, sometimes even positive habits can act like handcuffs that limit your
life and choices to a preselected set of routines that you’ve decided are most
optimal for you.
Is waking up early generally a positive habit? It is. It can become like
handcuffs, though, if you assume that now you need to wake up early every
single day, even if there’s a special occasion to celebrate the evening before,
such as your spouse’s birthday.
Is eating healthy a positive habit? Of course it is. However, it can act as
shackles if you never let yourself lower your guard for a while and enjoy
(preferably in great company) whatever food strikes your fancy.
Is being highly productive and always working on something new a good
habit to have? It is — but if you never relax or get a little lazy, you’ll miss out on
some valuable experiences in life and eventually burn out.
Whenever forming new habits, establish rules as to when you’ll allow
yourself to temporarily forego them. Self-discipline and positive habits are
important, but life isn’t about living like a robot that always follows the same
routines, no matter what.
Day 285: On Small Efforts at Self-Control
Committing to any small, consistent act of self-control — improving your
posture, squeezing a handgrip every day to exhaustion, cutting back on sweets,
and keeping track of your spending — can increase overall willpower.
—Kelly McGonigal 284

Don’t discount the power of small efforts. They count, too. Little challenges
that you can do throughout the day (with a small time investment) can help you
improve your overall self-discipline.
In fact, some of those small things (such as reminding yourself to have a
good posture or avoid cursing), when done repeatedly, can deliver immense
personal changes because they force you to be more mindful of your everyday
actions. By pausing yourself intermittently throughout the day to control your
small behaviors, you develop more mindfulness, and consequently, more self-
control.
Here are some little exercises you can consider adding to your everyday
routine to improve your self-discipline, even when you’re strapped for time:
- keep your back straight when working;
- every hour, stand up and do five bodyweight squats;
- pause for five seconds before you start cursing;
- keep a notebook with you and, each day, write down three new ideas to
improve yourself ;
- every day put one dollar into a savings jar — if you don’t have money to
spare, this means resisting a temptation to buy something you consume daily,
like coffee or a bagel.
Day 286: On Avoiding Problem s
Avoid what causes the opposite of what you want to achieve.
—Peter Bevelin 285

If you want to be safe, it’s best not to attend dangerous venues. For
example, one of the most common places where bad things happen are
nightclubs and their immediate vicinity. If you don’t go to nightclubs, your risk
of getting into a brawl or being attacked by a drunk person is greatly decreased.
It’s the same with self-control. Instead of exerting self-discipline, it’s better
to avoid problems that can cause the opposite of what you want to achieve.
If you want to be a frugal person, don’t go to shopping centers if you don’t
have to, and don’t hang out with people who love shopping.
If you want to become more productive, sell your TV set, video console,
and any other thing a lazy person considers a must-have.
If you want to stop drinking alcohol, stop going to parties where alcohol is
the primary source of entertainment, and don’t spend time with people who live
for the weekends.
Think about your goal, figure out what its opposite is, and then ask yourself
which actions, people, and places can lead you to that opposite result and avoid
them.
Day 287: On Reducing Procrastination That Comes
From Overwhelm
The bigger and more overwhelming the project seems to you, the greater
your tendency to procrastinate.
—Neil Fiore 286

A common reason why people procrastinate about something that they

consider extremely important to them is exactly that — they consider it so
crucial that it overwhelms them and paralyzes their actions.
When you think of something as your only big chance in life, you’ll
understandably try to tread as carefully as possible. This, however, can quickly
convert into procrastination when your fear of ruining the opportunity will
prevent you from taking action.
If you currently find yourself in such a situation, ask yourself what is the
end result of putting off this big, once-in-a-lifetime chance in life. Isn’t
procrastinating about it going to lead to the exact same thing you’re afraid of —
losing the opportunity?
Whenever setting new resolutions, manage your attitude about them so that
you aren’t overwhelmed by them.
Think of it as having an opportunity to meet a famous person. You can hold
them in high regard, but it doesn’t mean that you have to act like a crazy fan
around them. In fact, that’s what will put them off, while a person who treats
them as another human being will be a welcome difference.
It’s the same with your goals. Yes, they might be so important that they will
change your life. However, this will only happen if you keep a cool head about
them. Otherwise you can let them overwhelm you to such an extent that you’ll
altogether fail to act.
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Day 288: On Routines and Relationships
People are offended when you repeatedly turn down their invitations. But,
at that point, I felt that the indispensable relationship I should build in my life
was not with a specific person but with an unspecified number of readers. My
readers would welcome whatever life style I chose, as long as I made sure that
each new work was an improvement over the last. And shouldn’t that be my duty
— and my top priority — as a novelist?
—Haruki Murakami 287

Haruki Murakami’s dedication to his readers is impressive, but you might

wonder if it means that if you want to achieve your goals by adopting consistent
routines, you’ll lose friends and live the life of a social recluse. The answer is:
partly yes, and partly no.
You often can’t choose when you’re the most effective. For me, it’s
mornings, between 5 and 9 a.m. This means that each day I need to go to sleep
around 9 or 10 p.m. at the latest, in order to to have a good night’s sleep and
ensure maximum productivity the next morning.
Obviously, this affects my life. I rarely hang out with my friends in the
evening. However — and here’s where we get to the core of the issue —
sometimes you need to make a choice between a routine and a relationship .
A person whose primary role is that of a parent will understandably adapt
their routine to that of their child.
An entrepreneur will choose to not spend time with some of his or her
friends, if that means that his or her business can grow more quickly.
A person who wants to banish negative emotions from their life will ensure
that their day is constructed in a way that is most conducive to positive feelings.
Define your most important priorities and roles in life and adjust your life
accordingly. Don’t try to please everybody, because it simply can’t happen.
Day 289: On Accounting for Taxe s
Everything you do has a tax attached to it.
For example, the tax on traveling is all the waiting around.
Disagreements and occasional frustration are taxes placed on even the
happiest of relationships.
Theft is a tax on abundance and having things that other people want.
Stress and problems are tariffs that come attached to success.
Simply pay the taxes in life, and enjoy the fruits of what you get to keep.
—Ryan Holiday 288

It’s exciting to set new goals and imagine how your life will change when
you achieve them. However, people often forget that everything in life has a tax
attached to it. When they wake up to the reality that their goals aren’t all roses
and require some sacrifices on their part or generate problems, their excitement
fades away and their odds of success decrease.
As Ryan Holiday notes, there are taxes on traveling, relationships, and
financial success, but they aren’t limited just to those areas.
If you want to become healthier, one of the taxes is that you’ll have a harder
time when you eat in a social setting.
If you want to get more fit, you’ll most likely have to forego some other
activities in order to make time for physical activities .
If you want to become a bestselling author or become virtually any kind of
an expert, you’ll undoubtedly attract critics.
Thinking about the dark side before you even start working on your goals
doesn’t sound like a good way to motivate yourself, but it’s necessary to
acknowledge it and be prepared for the fact that any change in life — including a
positive one — will bring some new problems with it, and it’s a price you have
to pay to enjoy it.
Day 290: On Letting Go of the Old Person
You must be willing to let go of the old person in order to become the new
person. You must be willing to stop doing certain things in order to start doing
the things that are consistent with the new you.
—Brian Tracy 289

People want to get rid of their flaws and improve themselves, but at the
same time they aren’t willing to let go of their unfavorable behaviors and habits.
They’re slaves to their weaknesses, often equating them with who they are.
An overweight person will never change unless they stop thinking of
themselves as an overweight person. If being obese is something that you use as
your personal definition and (what’s even worse) you feel fine referring to
yourself in such a way, how do you expect to become a new person?
I was overweight as a teenager and in my early twenties. One day I realized
that, in some twisted way, I enjoyed it. Upon discovering this fact and realizing
that my future wouldn’t be very bright if I were to stay faithful to this definition
of myself, I decided to let go of this identity and lose weight. Today, I’m proud
to define myself as a slim, fit person.
A person who defines themselves as a video gamer and wears it as a badge
of honor will be unlikely to adopt new, more productive behaviors until they
become willing to let go of their old identity of a gamer. True, there’s nothing
inherently wrong in being a gamer. However, if it stands in the way of
accomplishing your goals, rethink whether it’s an identity that serves you or if
perhaps it’s time to give it up so you can start doing other things that are more
consistent with a new you.
Who’s the old you and who’s the new you? How often do you engage in the
behaviors of the old you and how often do you manifest the traits of the new
you? Shift the balance toward the new you and one by one, eradicate the
undesirable old behaviors.
Day 291: On the How Instead of the Outcome
Many people don’t understand that how you climb a mountain is more
important than reaching the top. (…) The goal of climbing big, dangerous
mountains should be to attain some sort of spiritual and personal growth, but
this won’t happen if you compromise away the entire process.
—Yvon Chouinard 290

All goals require you to go through a process to attain them. If you

compromise away the process by cutting corners, you’re missing out on what
goal achievement is really about: personal growth, through making the journey.
When all is said and done, you aren’t going to talk for hours about how you
stood on top of the mountain, but about the ordeal you had to go through to
reach the top.
You won’t grow because you got to the peak — it’s everything that
happens prior to reaching it that results in growth, not the mere act of putting
your foot one more step forward and achieving the summit. Whether you take
that last step or not, it won’t erase all that you’ve had to go through to get that
far.
In the quote, Yvon Chouinard refers to the wealthy individuals with no
climbing experience and skills — or any desire to develop them — who pay
huge sums of money to reach the top of Mount Everest (with the help of the
Sherpas who carry the equipment needed to make the ascent as easy as possible).
Those rich men and women aren’t after the personal growth — they’re after the
bragging rights of getting to the top of the tallest mountain the world at all costs.
They reach the top, but they deprive themselves of the lessons the difficult
process would offer them.
When chasing after your goals, don’t be like those wannabe climbers. By
all means, do whatever you can to achieve your dreams as quickly as possible,
but don’t cut corners, compromise your moral principles, cheat, or hurt anyone,
just so you can brag that you accomplished your objective.
Day 292: On Mental Resilience Do not grieve.
Anything you lose comes round in another form.
—Jalaluddin Rumi 291

The essence of mental resilience is the belief that anything bad that happens
to you will ultimately turn out to be good for you.
However, I wouldn’t go so far as to say “don’t grieve” after losing a loved
one, so please note that today’s entry is about being mentally resilient when it
comes to less impactful negative events happening in your life.
When faced with heartbreaking losses such as a business going bankrupt, a
lost job opportunity, a breakup, or even your new diet going south, it’s hard to
see it as a possible blessing in disguise. After all, you’ve just lost something — a
business, a relationship, a job, or hope for improvement.
As an immediate reaction, it might be challenging to not feel bad about the
situation. However, once you process that it has happened and accept that, one
of the best ways to move on is to remind yourself that what you’ve just lost will
come around again in a different form.
Maybe a breakup was necessary so that you can start over again and find a
different, better partner. Maybe your business had to go bankrupt so you could
free up your resources to focus on a better idea. Your diet went south, and
maybe it happened because now you’ll discover new nutritional habits that will
be easier to maintain than your previous restrictive diet .
Each time something bad happens, try to find a lesson in it and the new
opportunities it presents. I suggest that you start small, with less significant
negative events, as it will take time and experience to learn to handle bigger
difficulties with calm and dignity.
Day 293: On Cutting Your Losse s
Cut your losses short and let your winners run.
—A Wall Street saying

I once invested several thousand dollars in an extensive coaching course. I

thought that since I was already an author, it wouldn’t be that different to
become a coach, too. I spent over a month learning from that course, and
ultimately gave up with little to show for it.
After a month of studying, I didn’t feel I knew that much more about
coaching to be able to coach — and it didn’t matter, because I knew that I
wouldn’t do it, anyway. My idea to become a coach was a mistake. I realized
that my strengths lie in writing books, and not in giving personalized advice.
Continuing my education would have been continuing to invest my time and
energy into something that was destined to fail anyway. I cut my losses short and
refocused on writing.
Due to loss aversion, people have a tendency to avoid losses over acquiring
equivalent gains, 292 This means that you’d rather keep investing your time and
energy into a failed project than cut it short and redirect your attention to
something that can produce better results.
It’s a dangerous trap for persistent people, because you might spend months
(if not years) doing something that will ultimately lead you nowhere. If you’re
keeping at it only because of what you’ve already invested, ask yourself if it’s
the best use of your time. If it isn’t, and there are better things you can do, accept
the losses as a learning experience and move on.
Day 294: On the All-or-Nothing Mentality
Part of abandoning the all-or-nothing mentality is allowing yourself room
for setbacks. We are bound to have lapses on the road to health and wellness,
but it is critical that we learn how to handle small failures positively so that we
can minimize their long-term destructive effects. One setback is one setback — it
is not the end of the world, nor is it the end of your journey toward a better you.
—Jillian Michaels

People often don’t act on their goals because they don’t see how they can
make it big right away. For them, it’s all or nothing.
It’s either a sexy, firm, and beautiful body or nothing. It’s either a
glamorous start-up, backed by the biggest names from the Silicon Valley, or
nothing. It’s either being a perfect dancer or not learning how to dance at all.
It’s easy to see that there’s only one outcome of this mentality: you do
nothing because no matter what you do, you won’t get your perfect results right
away. Even if you do start, one setback will discourage you from further efforts:
after all, it’s all or nothing and since you just suffered a failure, it’s time to give
up as you won’t be perfect anymore.
Avoid developing such a mindset in yourself by acknowledging that
everybody has to first be bad at something in order to become good at it. No
world-class performer started out with incredible skills; they all fumbled and
failed on their journey toward success. If you don’t believe me, read some
autobiographies.
If you managed to get past the all-or-nothing thinking and started working
on your goals, but small slip-ups discourage you from further efforts, tell
yourself that you only have to adhere to your resolutions in 90% of your efforts.
The remaining 10% is your margin for mistakes.
That way, one slip-up won’t destroy your entire progress: after all, you’ve
already accounted for it, so it’s not ruining your forecast result.
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Day 295: On Wandering Aimlessly
We are engineered as goal-seeking mechanisms. We are built that way.
When we have no personal goal which we are interested in and which “means
something” to us, we are apt to “go around in circles,” feel “lost” and find life
itself “aimless,” and “purposeless.” We are built to conquer environment, solve
problems, achieve goals, and we find no real satisfaction or happiness in life
without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve. People who say that life is
not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals
which are worthwhile.
—Maxwell Maltz 293

If you’ve been wandering aimlessly, asking yourself what’s the point of life
and feeling like you have no purpose, it’s possibly because you don’t have any
important long-term goals to achieve.
Whenever I found myself in such a situation, it was always during a
transitory period between finishing work on one important goal and looking for a
new challenge.
When you reach an important long-term goal, by all means celebrate it, but
don’t give yourself more than a couple of weeks to set a new challenge. Failing
to identify a new exciting target and living your life without any big goals
eventually leads to depression.
I’m talking from my personal experience: if I don’t have a guiding star in
the form of a significant long-term goal, I lose motivation for everything,
including my passions .
For this reason, I always have secondary goals. Whenever I accomplish my
primary goal and don’t immediately come up with a new primary goal, I
promote one of the secondary goals to become my new objective.
I strongly suggest creating a “waiting list” of goals to achieve, so that when
you find yourself without a goal, you’ll be able to quickly refocus on a new
challenge.
Day 296: On Your Habitual Thoughts
Such as are thy habitual thoughts, such also will be the character of thy
mind; for the soul is dyed by the thoughts.
—Marcus Aurelius 294

The thoughts you entertain most often will have the biggest impact on who
you are as a person. If you think about your business every day, you’ll define
yourself as an entrepreneur. If you have negative thoughts every day, your
attitude will be negative. If every day you blame everything and everyone but
you for your problems in life, you’ll self-identify as a victim.
For this reason, it’s a good exercise to periodically take stock of your most
habitual thoughts and their potential impact on who you are as a person.
For example, I recently discovered that I had been engaging in too many
negative thoughts. While those negative thoughts usually represent a small
percentage of the thoughts I have, lately they had multiplied. Using Marcus
Aurelius’s words, I don’t want to let them dye my soul black, so I’ve made a
decision to focus on cultivating more positive thoughts and weeding out the
negative ones.
Think of the most common thoughts you’ve been engaging in recently and
ask yourself if they represent the kind of a person you want to be. If not, it’s time
to exert some self-discipline and regain control of your mind.
Day 297: On the Best Time to Work
I do my best thinking at night when everyone else is sleeping. No
interruptions. No noise. I like the feeling of being awake when no one else is.
—Jennifer Niven 295

The best time to work — and by work, I mean work on your highest
priorities, not necessarily your day job, with hours that you can’t control — is a
highly individual matter, but for most people there are only two choices for
maximum productivity: early morning, when people aren’t awake yet, or late at
night, when everyone is already asleep. The common denominator is the lack of
interruptions that can ruin your concentration in a matter of seconds.
Early mornings have the advantage of being easier to combine them with a
normal everyday schedule. Even if you wake up at five in the morning, you can
still lead a regular life: go to work or attend other obligations during the day with
plenty of energy, spend time with family and friends during the afternoon, and
every now and then stay up late and enjoy the evenings.
Unlike the way most self-help slogans go, staying up late doesn’t mean that
you’ll never reach success, but in general it’s more difficult to maintain this
schedule when compared to waking up early .
For one, most humans don’t handle night shifts well because we’re
programmed to sleep when it’s dark and be active when there’s light. Second,
having to sleep during the day means missing out on many social events.
Moreover, a typical employee can’t afford to stay up late; they need to be at
work at 9. In the long run, it’s impossible to survive 8 hours of work after only a
couple of hours of sleep.
For this reason, working at night is most suitable to people with flexible
schedules. I used to follow such a routine — I worked until 3-4 a.m. and woke
up around 1-2 p.m. In the end, I switched my routine and took the opposite
approach. While I was generally productive while working at night, my mental
health and energy levels visibly deteriorated, due to a deficiency of sunlight and
a messed-up circadian clock.
Still, it’s good to test both approaches and see which one is most suitable
for you. The key is to find a period of time when you feel most productive and
able to concentrate.
Day 298: On the Suffocating Mantras
The Yogic sages say that all the pain of a human life is caused by words, as
is all the joy. We create words to define our experience and those words bring
attendant emotions that jerk us around like dogs on a leash. We get seduced by
our own mantras (I’m a failure... I’m lonely... I’m a failure... I’m lonely...) and
we become monuments to them. To stop talking for a while, then, is to attempt to
strip away the power of words, to stop choking ourselves with words, to liberate
ourselves from our suffocating mantras.
—Elizabeth Gilbert 296

Self-talk can build you up or it can drag you down. If each day you repeat
in your head the mantra that you’re a failure or you’re lonely, guess what you’re
going to get… Success and companionship? Think again. You exhibit actions
congruent with your inner self-talk. If you consider yourself a failure and a
lonely person, that’s what you’re going to get: more failure and loneliness.
Be aware of the suffocating mantras in your life. Liberate yourself from
suffering by refusing the negative self-talk. Each time you tell yourself
something negative, seek the proof of the opposite.
When you say to yourself, “I’m a failure,” think of one — just one —
situation in which you succeeded. How can you be a failure if you experience
successes?
When you say, “I’m weak-willed,” think of one — just one — instance in
which you managed to overcome a temptation. You might not have the level of
self-discipline you desire, but it doesn’t mean that you’re automatically too
weak-willed to change.
Strip away the power of negative mantras by citing (in your head) the
evidence against them. Repeat this evidence as a sort of a “counter-mantra” so
that you can, instance by instance, weaken the grip of the negative mantra and
eventually free yourself of it.
Day 299: On Generalization s
I often wonder why the whole world is so prone to generalise.
Generalisations are seldom if ever true and are usually utterly inaccurate.
—Agatha Christie 297

Generalizations demonstrate lazy thinking, and lazy thinking is one trait

that you most certainly don’t want to have if you want to improve your self-
discipline.
Resist the temptation to categorize everyone and everything. Acknowledge
that — besides black and white — there are all kinds of shades of gray.
One of the most dangerous types of generalizations is assuming that a
frequently repeated opinion is a fact. Examples include:
1. Every salesman is a liar wanting to make as much money as they can on
every sale. If that’s the generalization you believe, how effective will you be at
selling your own services or yourself to a potential employer?
2. All men/women are horrible people. Good luck developing happy
relationships with people if you categorize every member of the opposite sex as
a horrible person.
3. All successful people got lucky. If that’s what you believe, do you think
it’s possible you’ll ever achieve success?
4. The only way to become properly educated is to go to college, and (what
usually follows that generalization) your education ends the moment you
graduate. Without lifelong learning, achieving and maintaining success will be a
tricky proposition.
5. You need to be white/wake up early/start a business/be rich/live in the
United States/be male/fill in the blank to become successful. Be cautious not to
equate success with a single trait or habit. Warren Buffet drinks five cans of
Coke every day. 298 Does it mean that drinking Coke leads to success and
longevity?
Catch yourself whenever you proclaim generalizations that masquerade as
facts. Unless you can state beyond a reasonable doubt that everything or
everyone is the way you describe it (and it takes only one thing or person to
prove otherwise), you’re only voicing an opinion.
Day 300: On Walkin g
All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking.
—Friedrich Nietzsche 299

Walking is not only a fantastic exercise that almost everybody can perform,
but also a powerful way to awaken your creativity and boost your problem-
solving skills.
I strongly suggest adding the habit of walking regularly — even if it’s just
15 minutes — to your weekly schedule. For even better results, pick a route
leading you through natural surroundings or at least away from the hustle and
bustle of city living.
I like to take walks with a specific intention in my mind. For example, I
think of a problem I’ve been struggling with recently and dedicate my entire
walk to brainstorming potential solutions. I sometimes listen to important
podcasts when walking because I know that if it weren’t for the walk, I wouldn’t
listen to them with as much focus as they deserve.
Don’t underestimate the power of this simple exercise to change your life.
Walking gives you an opportunity to move your body, recharge, reflect, and
potentially resolve difficult problems that you wouldn’t otherwise be able to
handle in your distracting, day-to-day life.
Day 301: On the Power of Rituals
A growing body of research suggests that as little as 5 percent of our
behaviors are consciously self-directed. We are creatures of habit and as much
as 95 percent of what we do occurs automatically or in reaction to a demand or
an anxiety.
—Jim Loehr 300

If the vast majority of what we do is an automatic behavior, then what we

need to focus on in the first place is making sure that our rituals are empowering.
But first, we need to identify and assess our automatic behaviors.
Starting from when you wake up, make a list of all of the automatic
behaviors you engage in throughout the day.
Do you immediately go to prepare coffee? When commuting to work, do
you always swear at other drivers? When you arrive at work, do you
automatically start gossiping with your colleagues? When shopping, do you
automatically buy things you don’t necessarily need if you see that they’re
discounted by 50%? When you’re tired but there’s still one more chore to attend
to, do you routinely watch TV first and then take care of the chore (or forget
about it entirely) or do you do it immediately, instead of giving in to the
temptation to procrastinate?
This simple exercise will help you take stock of your rituals and decide
which ones to keep and which ones to discard. Since automatic behaviors often
take place without us being entirely aware of them, making such a list may help
you discover your blind spots .
In addition to performing this exercise, pick one day during which you’ll
try to catch yourself whenever you’re automatically engaging in
disadvantageous behaviors. It’s only with heightened self-awareness that you
can identify some of the little everyday habits that negatively affect your
willpower.
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Day 302: On Listening to Your Gut
You might find the idea of listening to your gut feelings odd or even
ridiculous. Some people I coach, normally left-brain individuals who use logic
and facts all day like engineers or accountants, are not used to following their
intuition and feelings. Instead of asking themselves “What do I feel?”, they are
more comfortable asking “What do the facts tell me?”
—Nigel Cumberland 301

Using logic and facts is essential in accomplishing your goals, but

sometimes it’s important to listen to your gut, instead of what you can determine
through using a rational thinking process.
For example, I was once running a company in a profitable industry, with a
good and proven business model. There were many possibilities for growth,
clients enjoyed the service, and it was probable that (with enough persistence) I
would get venture capital funding and expert coaching.
However, in my gut I felt that the business wasn’t for me. It clashed with
my personality, and no amount of rational thinking, facts, and logic would have
persuaded me otherwise.
In the end, I sold the company and it proved to be the right decision, a
decision that was based primarily on my intuition and feelings, not logic.
Don’t ignore the usefulness of your gut feelings. It’s fine to be self-
disciplined and remain persistent no matter what, but if deep down you no longer
care about your goal or it otherwise makes you feel uneasy, let your intuition
make its case. It’s highly probable that it’s right.
Day 303: On Buddha’s Counsel The Buddha also
counseled the monks and nuns to avoid wasting any
precious time by engaging in idle conversation,
oversleeping, pursuing fame and recognition, chasing
after desires, spending time with people of poor
character, and being satisfied with only a shallow
understanding of the teaching.
—Thich Nhat Hanh 302

Buddha’s advice offers several interesting challenges you can dedicate

yourself to in order to work on your self-discipline.
The first one is not engaging in idle conversation. Small talk might be
useful to initiate a conversation, but the sooner you get to the business at hand,
the more effective your communication will be. By “idle conversation,” we can
also include gossip, criticizing others, or complaining, all of which are not
practices in which a disciplined person should engage.
The second suggestion is simple: avoid oversleeping. As long as you don’t
need more sleep to recover from a difficult workout, illness, or any other similar
situation, sleeping too much doesn’t deliver any benefits and, according to
scientific research, might even hurt (in one study, sleeping too much was
associated with psychiatric diseases and higher body mass index 303 ).
The third suggestion advises against the pursuit of fame and recognition.
Too often, people care too much about their status in other people’s eyes and
neglect other, more important aspects of their lives, which may only be visible to
themselves. Focus on becoming better, but not necessarily with the expectation
that somebody will reward you for it.
The fourth recommendation is not to chase after desires. There’s not much
to add here — this entire book is about learning how to control them and focus
on something more important than your temporary urges.
The fifth piece of advice pertains to structuring your social life in a
disciplined way. Spending time with people of poor character increases the risk
that you’ll develop a poor character, too.
Lastly, Buddha reminds us not to be satisfied with only a shallow
understanding of what we’re learning. This advice is particularly useful for
students and virtually any person learning a new skill. Resist the temptation to
learn just the bare minimum and only scratch the surface of the topic you’re
learning before you leave it altogether. Use your willpower to make sure that
you thoroughly understand the fundamentals and then proceed to more advanced
concepts, so that you deepen your understanding of what you are seeking to
learn.
Day 304: On the Unsexy Reality of Work
How much time can you spare each day? For that interval, close the door
and — short of a family emergency or the outbreak of World War III — don’t let
ANYBODY in. Keep working. Keep working. Keep working.
—Steven Pressfield 304

Some people believe that super-productive individuals have some kind of a

secret or a natural inborn talent that allows them to produce so much output.
However, the reality is unsexy: all they do is put themselves in front of their
computers (or whatever else they need to do their job), close the door, and work.
There are no miraculous solutions, no pills, frameworks, or blueprints that
the most productive people have to be able to produce more than you do. When
reading his masterpieces, it’s difficult to imagine Stephen King simply sitting in
his room and tapping away on his keyboard, but that’s how his day-to-day life
looks.
If you’re unsure whether you’re doing it “right” because there’s nothing
attractive nor particularly outstanding in how you perform your daily work, stop
worrying; everyone else — including world-class performers — works in the
exact same way. The only difference between you and them is that they have
spent a bit more time than you have, working on their craft, but there’s a level
playing field here that requires the same resources from every participant: self-
discipline, persistence, and an unbreakable resolve.
Day 305: On the Addiction to Electronics
It is one of the unexpected disasters of the modern age that our new
unparalleled access to information has come at the price of our capacity to
concentrate on anything much. The deep, immersive thinking which produced
many of civilization’s most important achievements has come under
unprecedented assault. We are almost never far from a machine that guarantees
us a mesmerizing and libidinous escape from reality. The feelings and thoughts
which we have omitted to experience while looking at our screens are left to find
their revenge in involuntary twitches and our ever-decreasing ability to fall
asleep when we should.
—Alain de Botton 305

There’s no denying the fact that modern technology is a blessing. It allows

us to learn, make money, connect with our loved ones and other people from all
over the world, entertain ourselves, and with each passing year, do a whole lot
more.
Yet, there exists a danger of becoming addicted to electronics. Smartphones
reduce our attention spans, easy access to information makes us too lazy to learn,
and since it’s now so easy to get new things delivered to your doorstep, we’re
constantly looking for a new shiny thing that will be the ultimate magic pill and
solution to all of our problems.
I don’t believe that technology is our enemy, but I do believe that too much
of it — as with excess in anything — leads to problems. Fortunately, where
there’s a problem, there’s an opportunity to learn. You can dramatically improve
your self-control by periodically reducing the amount of time spent using your
phone or other devices.
For example, while you’re on vacation, resist the temptation to take a
picture and share it on Facebook. Instead, focus on the present moment and
engrave it in your memories, not your social feed.
In the evening, at least every now and then, turn off all of the blue-light
emitting devices and spend an hour reading a book. You’ll have an easier time
falling asleep, and it will be more recharging, too.
Whenever you catch yourself feeling anxious to check your phone or social
media feeds, it’s a sign that you’re losing control. Reestablish it by periodically
going on short technology fasts or deliberately checking your phone less often
than usual.
Day 306: On Ignoranc e There is nothing more
frightful than ignorance in action.
—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 306

Ignorance is a manifestation of laziness. Instead of actively choosing to

expand your knowledge, you instead choose to willfully bypass the opportunity
to educate yourself. A side effect of ignorance is the fostering of negligence and
laxity, two traits that are the opposite of what a successful person should
embrace in their life.
Disregarding important information and choosing to not know when you do
have access to education is like willfully asking for trouble.
Being financially illiterate, for example, can lead to economic problems.
Ignoring the needs of your partner — instead of learning about what they need
from you — can destroy your relationship. Ignorance of the law can lead to
prison. Ignoring new technologies and failing to learn about relevant modern
inventions makes you less relevant in your professional life.
Choose to be prepared rather than ignorant. Know too much instead of too
little. Practice your self-discipline by constantly expanding your knowledge —
and don’t discontinue your self-education when the truth is uncomfortable or
leads to difficult questions.
Day 307: On Breaking Your Rule s
Laws and principles are not for the times when there is no temptation: they
are for such moments as this, when body and soul rise in mutiny against their
rigour. (...) If at my convenience I might break them, what would be their worth?
—Charlotte Brontë 307

We’ve already talked about adopting principles you’ll live by in order to

make your decision-making process more efficient and make choices that are
more aligned with your true desires.
It’s important to note that those principles aren’t for the times when
everything goes smoothly. In fact, you don’t necessarily need them when things
are going well. It’s primarily when there’s a temptation to give up that you can
experience the power of rules. You create them to prevent yourself from making
the wrong choices, no matter what the circumstances are and which temptations
you feel.
For example, I have a rule that growth happens outside my comfort zone. I
don’t always feel like subjecting myself to discomfort and fear. However, there’s
a reason why I adopted such a rule: without it, I know that I would back out
more often, and thus miss out on those opportunities to grow.
Whenever you feel a temptation to break your rule, remind yourself that it’s
there for a reason. Breaking it means that the principle — and the reason why
you chose it — isn’t important to you. What does breaking your own rules say
about your reliability? Can you trust yourself if you fail to keep a promise that
you made to yourself?
Day 308: On Not Having Money
“If only I had more money” is the easiest way to postpone the intense self-
examination and decision-making necessary to create a life of enjoyment — now
and not later.
—Tim Ferriss 308

It’s easy to say that you don’t have money and consider it the ultimate
excuse as to why you aren’t working on your goals.
I don’t have money, so I won’t start exercising because I can’t afford fitness
equipment.
I don’t have money, so I won’t start saving money because how can I save
money if I don’t have it?
I don’t have money, so I won’t start eating more healthily because healthy
food is too expensive.
Is it really true that nobody has ever become fit without having loads of
money? The marketing techniques of the fitness industry lead you to think that
expensive gear is needed to get fit, but many do without it (often as their own
choice), and are more than fine.
Are you really unable to save even one dollar a day, just to establish a new
positive habit? Are you saying that your every single purchase is necessary and
can’t be reduced even by a small fraction?
Is healthy food really more expensive than junk food? Ask any person
taking hypertension or diabetes medication — caused by their own bad dietary
choices — whether they think that eating junk food was a more economical
choice. You don’t need to eat all organic or shop in expensive stores to eat
healthily .
Using money as an excuse is taking the easy way out, defaulting to mental
laziness rather than seeking a solution. True, it helps you avoid some effort and
hard thinking today, but costs you future improvements in your life and leads to
a victim mentality.
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Day 309: On the Matters of Right and Wrong
Right is right even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong even if everyone is
doing it.
—Augustine of Hippo

More than 70% of U.S. adults aged 20 and over are overweight or obese. 309
Does that mean that it’s right to be obese?
On average, American adults are watching five hours and four minutes of
television per day. 310 Does that mean that it’s right to spend a third of your
waking hours and well over a half of your leisure hours watching TV?
If you’re after self-improvement, you need to acknowledge that the right
thing is right even when few people are doing it — and that no matter how many
people are doing the wrong thing, it’s still wrong.
Don’t comfort yourself by saying that your negative habits aren’t that
negative because so many people engage in them. Even if everybody exhibits
such behaviors, it doesn’t make them right.
Have the courage and self-discipline to resist the temptation to compare
yourself to the majority. Instead, if you must compare yourself to anyone,
compare yourself to the people you want to emulate, even if they’re but a speck
in an infinite crowd of people who don’t care in the slightest about becoming
better.
Day 310: On Having Good Private Teachers
From my great-grandfather, [I learned] not to have frequented public
schools, and to have had good teachers at home, and to know that on such things
a man should spend liberally.
—Marcus Aurelius 311

Here’s one of the ultimate shortcuts for success: if you want to learn
something or achieve a goal more quickly, find a good private teacher to guide
you. Spend your money eagerly on one-on-one instruction, because expanding
your knowledge and experience (unlike many other investments) is a sure-fire
way to get a positive return.
Group classes are extremely ineffective teaching tools because the teacher’s
attention is spread over too many students. If you have an hour-long class with a
teacher and there are 9 other students, on average you only get 10 minutes of the
teacher’s attention. Even if the teacher’s fee for a private class is five times
higher, it’s still cheaper than a group class, considering how much more you’ll
learn.
Consider hiring a coach for any important endeavors or to kickstart a new
change. For example, you can hire a nutrition expert to develop a meal plan for
you or a fitness coach to design a workout plan for you. You don’t necessarily
have to keep paying them forever; the initial help can be sufficient to get you
started and then all you have to do is continue to practice what you learned from
them, until your needs change.
One additional benefit of hiring a private coach is that once you start paying
to get professional help, you’ll start taking your objectives more seriously. It’s
easier to back out if there’s nobody to whom you need to give an explanation as
to why you want to give up.
Day 311: On Setting an Example
Example has more followers than reason.
—Christian Nestell Bovee 312

Does it bother you that people laugh at your efforts, wonder why you’re
deliberately making your life so difficult, or feel otherwise puzzled about your
recent efforts at making positive changes in your life?
Save your time and energy trying to reason with them — it won’t work.
Instead, focus on your goals and set an example. Soon, when you achieve some
results, people will start following your example, understand why you’re doing
what you’re doing, or at least shut up.
For example, people criticized me when I was on my diet, saying that I was
already skinny and shouldn’t lose more weight. However, I knew that I had to
drop some additional pounds to uncover more muscle definition. Once I reached
that goal and my muscles became more visible, it became clear that I had been
right from the get-go.
No amount of reasoning will make people change their minds in the same
way as an example standing right in front of them.
Similarly, don’t try to persuade people to implement positive changes in
their lives just because that’s what you’re doing. Leave them be, and if they
notice your results, some will probably ask you for advice and try to achieve the
same results themselves. Again, it’s about setting the example, not expending
empty words.
Day 312: On Learning Without a Desire to Learn Just
as eating contrary to the inclination is injurious to the
health, study without desire spoils the memory, and it
retains nothing that it takes in.
—Leonardo da Vinci 313

You can learn almost anything you want as long as you have a desire to
learn. Without a good reason why you want to learn something — or worse,
being forced to learn it with no interest whatsoever on your part, as is often the
case with college students — you’ll retain little of what you learn.
The reason is simple: the human brain needs to be picky about what it
remembers and what doesn’t, so if you consider a fly on the wall as more
exciting than the subject of your study, you’ll be more likely to remember the
fly’s position during the entire hour of the class than the topic of your lesson.
For example, I once took a few Russian classes to prepare myself for a trip
to Kyrgyzstan, a rugged mountainous country in Central Asia.
However, unlike with Spanish, a language I speak fluently and am fond of,
I couldn’t develop an interest in Russian. My classes weren’t particularly
effective because, deep down, I had little desire to learn that language; there was
no positive emotional connection with it .
That’s why I so strongly emphasize that each endeavor — including the
goal of learning a new skill — needs to start with a strong desire. If you don’t
have that, you’ll be fighting an uphill battle.
If you’re forced to learn something and are struggling, try to find something
interesting about the subject. For example, you might find that Russian grammar
is not particularly interesting, but perhaps trying to improve your accent in it is
fun for you.
You can also use educational resources that teach in an entertaining way.
YouTube videos can be a good source for that. When it comes to learning
languages, I’m a big fan of watching TV series that are broadcast in that same
language.
If you still can’t find anything exciting in learning the topic itself, turn
toward the reward it offers you, such as a promotion at work or being able to
graduate from your learning program, and use that (the reward) as your sole
motivation. Be careful, though: extrinsic motivators are weak motivators, and
it’s always better to combine them with internal rewards, like the enjoyment you
get from learning or from the challenge it poses for you.
Day 313: On What You Demand From Life
Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in
life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is
required to accept misery and poverty.
—Napoleon Hill 314

It all comes down to what you demand from life. Accept nothing less than
abundance and prosperity, and if you combine it with diligent work, you’ll
eventually get it. Tolerate misery and poverty, come up with rationalizations
about why you’re miserable, and bad fortune will stay in your life.
It’s important to understand that it takes virtually the same amount of effort
to come up with excuses as it is to find reasons why you can accomplish
something. You can direct your energy either way, but only one of them leads to
success.
The next time you catch yourself thinking that you’re destined to be
unsuccessful and that you should accept your bad fortune, change your thoughts:
remind yourself about how dissatisfied you are with your current circumstances
and come up with reasons why you will be successful instead of continuing as
you are.
For example, while I was trying to build a successful business and failed
one time after another, I still kept reminding myself that I would never tolerate
being an employee. Nothing would have stopped me from making my goal come
true; I would never accept anything else than abundance and prosperity.
They may sound trite, but some self-help bromides are actually true: your
attitude and expectations do impact your life in a big way.
Day 314: On Neatness People exert less self-control
after seeing a messy desk than after seeing a clean
desk.
—Roy Baumeister 315

Here’s an easy self-discipline hack for today: clean your immediate

surroundings and benefit from improved self-control.
A messy desk — and the unpleasant thought in the back of your head
reminding you that eventually you’ll have to clean it — occupies precious
mental space you could otherwise spend on something more useful. Chaotic
immediate environments are also distracting, and thus lower your productivity.
In addition to taking up both physical and mental space, clutter can also
affect how you feel about yourself.
People feel better when they take a shower, shave their faces, put on make-
up or perform any other grooming habit — and they feel worse when their
appearance is not up to their standards.
A messy room has a similar effect: it indicates that the person working
there isn’t organized or lacks the self-discipline to keep it tidy. Keeping your
room neat and tidy demonstrates in a physical way that you are organized and
self-disciplined — and that will subsequently affect your inner world, too, just
like dressing for success gives a small boost to one’s confidence.
Day 315: On the Cost of Education and Ignorance
If you think education is expensive — try ignorance.
—Ann Landers 316

One of the worst excuses you can use to rationalize that you can’t educate
yourself is to say that you don’t have the money needed to do so.
For one, ignorance is more expensive than education. One valuable piece of
advice from a book can recoup its price a thousand times or more, while
committing one big mistake (that educating yourself might have prevented) can
lead to devastating losses.
A person who has never taken the time to learn how to eat healthily —
something a $15 book can rectify — can ultimately pay for it with their life,
while a person new to fitness may pay for their ignorance with a painful injury
— something they could have prevented by watching a few free videos on
proper form.
Second, in today’s world, education is available freely to anyone who has
access to the Internet. While a private teacher can help you immensely, you can
also learn a lot (on your own) from free videos, tutorials, articles, and books.
For example, I taught myself how to write (I’ve never taken any formal
courses, yet I’m now a bestselling author), how to create and modify websites
(I’m not a programmer, yet I can design a professional website, using available
resources), or how to promote my books (even though I don’t have a degree in
marketing).
It’s important to escape the paradigm of “education equals a college
degree.” You aren’t educated merely because a piece of a paper says so. In fact,
it’s often the opposite. Many students treat college as an extension of their
childhood instead of an opportunity to learn and gain experience. Meanwhile,
those who skip going to college often gain valuable, real-world experience that
they can build upon.
When hiring contractors to help me in my business, I never look at their
formal education. All I care about is their reviews, portfolio, and proposal
specifying how they can help me. It’s what they can specifically do for me that
counts, not mere words that may or may not confirm that they’re educated.
If you aren’t sure where to find high-quality education online for free or for
a low price, check out Udemy, Coursera, Khan Academy, Stanford Online,
Harvard Extension, Open Yale Courses, Codecademy, or simply look for the
topic that interests you on YouTube, Amazon or in the iTunes store.
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Day 316: On Doing What You Love Every man loves
what he is good at.
—Thomas Shadwell 317

If at first you don’t fall in love with the process necessary to make your
dream come true, don’t despair. As long as you don’t hate it, everything is fine.
The love for the process comes along with consistent improvements. It’s
impossible, or at least unlikely, to eventually not fall in love with what you’re
becoming good at.
For example, many entrepreneurs think that they need to do what they love
in order for their business to succeed. In reality, what matters most is that their
business fulfills a certain need or solves a certain problem.
If I hire your company to clean my house, I don’t care if you’re passionate
about it. All I care about is whether you can do it well, on time, and for a
reasonable price. Initially, you might not love being in the cleaning business, but
if your business starts doing well and you become good at running it, you’ll
probably enjoy doing it — and thanks to that, it will get even easier to grow it.
The same applies to any other goal. Get started, make sure that you feel at
least neutral about it, and be patient, because once you start getting better at it,
the process will become addictive and you won’t want to stop.
Day 317: On Thinking You’re Abl e They are able
because they think they are able.
—Virgil 318

It might be a trite reminder, but it’s nonetheless frequently true: people

often achieve impossible feats merely because they think they are able to do so.
If you don’t think that you’re able, you either won’t try at all, or if you try, it will
be a half-hearted attempt that is almost guaranteed to fail.
In rock climbing, I sometimes deliberately try routes or single moves well
above my ability. I’ve found that sometimes the mere belief in your abilities can
lead you to climbing a difficult route that, without such a belief, would result in
a spectacular failure.
In business, the companies that grow the fastest are led by entrepreneurs
who don’t set any limits for themselves. If they decide to sell their services to a
Fortune 500 company, they’ll start figuring out how to do it instead of wasting
time pondering whether they’re able to do so.
In sports, it’s often not the training in itself that makes an athlete successful.
It’s what they tell themselves during the competition that makes the difference
between winning or losing.
The next time you face a big, seemingly insurmountable challenge or find
yourself in a situation with a low chance of emerging victoriously, assume that
you’re able to overcome it — and then act as if it were true. Life isn’t a fairy
tale, so it won’t always work. However, if you assume that you aren’t able —
and that will manifest in your hesitant actions — you’ll be always doing yourself
a disservice.
Day 318: On the Inconvenience of Change
Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better.
—Richard Hooker 319

If you want to remodel your house, you expect and accept the
inconveniences it will cause.
There’s no way to replace the old windows, tiles, doors, or kitchen cabinets
without making a mess. Repainting your bedroom means that you have to move
furniture to another room. Giving your bathroom a makeover means that you’ll
have to use a different bathroom or go to a friend’s house to take a shower.
You accept the disturbance that remodeling causes in your life because you
want your house to be nice and cozy. Likewise, if you want to change something
in your life, in order for the old to go, there also must be some mess involved in
the process of replacing it with the new.
You might feel cranky upon waking up earlier than usual. You might be
exhausted after the first several workouts. You might despair while you are
trying to figure out how to learn a new skill.
Whenever you feel this way and feel tempted to give up, frustrated by how
inconvenient the process of change is for you, remember that to go from worse
to better, some minor (and sometimes major) annoyances are par for the course.
Get over it and get on with your life!
Day 319: On Learning From Refusal One never
knows a man till he has refused him something, and
studied the effect of the refusal; one never knows
himself till he has denied himself. The altar of
sacrifice is the touchstone of character.
—Orrin Philip Gilford 320

Let’s be clear: denying yourself nice things is neither easy nor fun.
However, in addition to the incredible benefits it brings in the form of increased
self-control, it’s also a powerful test of your character and a self-discovery tool.
For one, self-refusal provides an opportunity to understand what you need
in your life and what you only think you need in your life. Unless you stay away
from what you consider your “necessities” for a period of time, you won’t know
whether they’re really necessities, after all.
For example, on many of my adventures, I had to sleep in less than
comfortable circumstances, such as in a car parked by the road or in a soaking
wet tent with homeless dogs fighting outside.
I had always thought that I wouldn’t be able to recharge in such
circumstances, but often I was actually more recharged after several hours of
such uncomfortable sleep than in my own bed. What I considered a necessity
was in fact a luxury. This realization made me a stronger person. I expanded my
comfort zone and now I know I can handle sleeping in a wide variety of weird
places .
Second, refusing yourself pleasant things can show you the depth of your
addiction for them. For example, I used to eat a few pieces of dark chocolate
daily. I assumed it wasn’t a big deal and I thought I could stop eating it
whenever I wanted to. However, when I decided to take a break from eating all
kinds of sweets, I felt immense cravings. Denying myself a few pieces of dark
chocolate — an innocent pleasure — made me realize that I had been addicted to
it.
Finally, while we were young, it was our parents or other caretakers who
told us we couldn’t get something. We fumed and protested, but there was
nothing we could do about it. This way, unbeknownst to ourselves, we learned
that we couldn’t always get everything we wanted — and I daresay it was one of
the most powerful lessons in self-discipline a child could receive.
Today, as adults, most of us don’t have such gatekeepers. If you want to eat
chocolate, you can go to the store and buy it; nobody will force you to eat
broccoli instead. If you want to spend the entire Sunday in bed, nobody will kick
you out of it and force you to go out and play with other kids.
This freedom feels good, but there’s also danger in it — by spoiling
ourselves this way, we eventually do ourselves the same disservice as parents
who spoil their children. Self-refusal, in essence, can act as an emergency brake,
stopping us from spiraling into overindulgence.
Day 320: On Change as a Cold Bath A great change in
life is like a cold bath in winter — we all hesitate at
the first plunge.
—Letitia Elizabeth Landon 321

Hesitation is normal when you face a big change in life. After all, you’re
facing the unknown, and what’s unknown is scary. In the end, though, the longer
you stare into the abyss, the more frightening it appears, and the more difficult it
is to jump into it.
For this reason, it might be useful to think of a great change as being similar
to taking a cold bath — the less time you give yourself to worry about how cold
it might be, the more likely you are to actually jump into it.
For example, instead of wondering how tiring and uncomfortable it will be
to go running, just put on your sports shoes and get out of the house. The more
time you spend meditating on how unpleasant it might possibly be, the more
likely it is that hesitation will kill any remnants of willpower you still have
inside of you.
When decluttering your house, the same strategy can help you resist the
temptation to keep things out of sentiment. Some old items are indeed so
valuable that it might be worth it to keep them, but more often than not, people
who tend to accumulate things use this rationalization for every piece of junk.
Give yourself three seconds. During those three seconds, if you can’t come up
with any powerful memory that the item gives you, throw it away.
If you need to make a difficult phone call or have an uncomfortable
conversation, hesitation will make it even scarier. By taking the plunge as
quickly as possible, you’ll prevent your anxiety from growing and probably
resolve the situation more effectively than if you were to wait.
Day 321: On Being the Creator of Your
Circumstances Man is not the creature of
circumstances, circumstances are the creatures of
men.
—Benjamin Disraeli 322

It would be nice to blame our circumstances for everything bad that

happens in our lives. Finally, there would be something else that is responsible
for our deficiencies, inaction, lack of willpower, etc.
Unfortunately (or rather, fortunately), we’re the creators of the
circumstances in which we find ourselves today.
While you can’t change where you were born, you can change where you
live.
While you can’t change who your parents were, you can choose your
teachers and mentors.
While you can’t change whether you were born blind, deaf, mute, or with a
different physical disability, you can change how you think about it.
So many people accept their circumstances for what they are, instead of
acknowledging that they always have some control over them — even if it’s just
the ability to change how you think about them.
If you don’t like something about your circumstances, you can change
them, accept them, or find power in them .
If you don’t like where you live, you can move to a different place. If for
some reason you can’t do that, you can accept where you live and focus on other
aspects of your life there. You can also find power in your environment and
discover the hidden benefits of where you live (for example, a small town might
not be great for job prospects, but your costs of living are lower).
Don’t make yourself a victim by believing that you’re a creature of
circumstances or you might as well give up any hope for a better future.
Day 322: On Subtraction We survive on too little
sleep, wolf down fast foods on the run, fuel up with
coffee and cool down with alcohol and sleeping pills.
Faced with relentless demands at work, we become
short-tempered and easily distracted. We return home
from long days at work feeling exhausted and often
experience our families not as a source of joy and
renewal, but as one more demand in an already
overburdened life.
—Jim Loehr 323

It makes me exhausted just to read this quote, let alone imagine that it’s
possible to achieve any kind of positive results while living such a life.
If you’re overburdened and feel like you have no control over your life, it’s
time to change your life philosophy from the philosophy of addition to the
philosophy of subtraction . Let me explain…
The philosophy of addition is thinking that more is better. It means that
you’re afraid to miss out on opportunities and that you say yes to everything,
worried that saying no will make you unpopular or that you’ll appear selfish or
lazy.
You constantly add and add, thinking that it’s through adding that your life
gets better. Of course, in a certain way it does. The more you learn, the better
you are. Generally speaking, the more money you have, the easier your life is.
However, this doesn’t apply to obligations and your calendar. The more
tasks you have in your schedule and the more duties you need to attend to, the
more difficult it is to stop, reflect, and decide what deserves your attention and
what doesn’t.
For this reason, I suggest adopting the philosophy of subtraction. You
believe that less is more. You think twice before you accept any new
responsibilities. You constantly seek to simplify your life and free up your
calendar instead of stacking one task on top of another. You feel proud of having
leisure time instead of feeling guilty about it.
As an exercise for today, think of just one regular task in your schedule that
you could eliminate, in order to make your life less of a burden.
Perhaps you can hire a maid to save time spent keeping the house clean.
Maybe you already have enough money, but not enough time, and it would
make sense to reduce the number of hours spent at work and accept the trade-off
for the sake of your well-being.
Maybe you can move closer to your workplace, or the opposite: start
working at home.
Perhaps it would be a good investment to use the services of a home meal
delivery company and save the time spent on cooking and grocery shopping.
Subtract the unessential from your life to increase your focus on what is
essential, but doesn’t get enough attention because of all the other, less-
important obligations.
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Day 323: On Prolonged Sitting
Because a dramatic reduction in energy expenditure was not accompanied
by reduced appetite, prolonged sitting may promote excess energy intake,
leading to weight gain in both men and women.
—Kirsten Granados 324

Research shows that even though there’s a dramatic reduction in energy

expenditure when we sit, our appetites don’t drop down accordingly. This means
that the more time you spend sitting, the more of a caloric surplus you create,
and you gain weight more easily.
This poses a big problem for self-discipline because no amount of self-
control will help you lose weight if you don’t expend much energy but your
appetite behaves as if you did.
If you sit at work, consider standing up for at least a period of time when
working. Stand-up desks are getting more and more popular, so it might be
worth it to consider buying one or building it yourself. If it’s not possible to
work standing up, at least get up every now and then and perform some quick
exercises to offset some of the negative consequences of sitting.
At home, one of the biggest offenders is mindlessly watching TV. You can
greatly reduce the amount of time spent sitting by eliminating cable TV and only
watching specific movies or TV shows. Channel-hopping puts you in a zombie-
like state, which, when combined with snacking, can make it almost impossible
to ever get in shape.
Think of sitting as a debt you need to repay. Fortunately, you can repay the
debt not only with actual exercise, but also with little actions: standing up in the
kitchen, performing household chores, taking the stairs instead of the elevator,
parking a little bit farther away from the entrance to the supermarket.
Strive to move as much as you can, and you’ll reduce the negative impact
prolonged sitting has on your well-being and increase your chances of
successfully shedding that belly fat.
Day 324: On Ignoring the World When You’re Down
So long as the man with ambition is a failure, the world will tell him to let
go of his ideal; but when his ambition is realized, the world will praise him for
the persistence and the determination that he manifested during his dark hours,
and everybody will point to his life as an example for coming generations. This
is invariably the rule. Therefore pay no attention to what the world says when
you are down. Be determined to get up, to reach the highest goal you have in
view, and you will.
—Christian D. Larson 325

Larson’s words were as true during his era (he wrote those words in 1912)
as they are now. If you’re ambitious — something that most people lack —
you’re already considered a little weird by society’s standards.
People will try to persuade you to give up or take it easy because it’s a
threat to their own egos. If you — a person just like them — manages to turn his
or her dreams into reality, what does it say about their capabilities?
This invariably changes when you reach success. While you were down,
few people stopped to lend a helping hand or offer you words of support. When
you’re successful, suddenly everyone proclaims that they knew from the get-go
that you would succeed.
If you’re currently struggling and feeling down, make an effort to surround
yourself with positive input as if you wanted to build a protective bubble around
yourself. Keep away from negative people who would love to finish you off with
their nasty remarks. Get up, try again, and keep going until you get there.
Take note of who was there for you while you were struggling and don’t
forget to reward them with your gratitude. As for the others? Forget them; fair-
weather friends are no friends at all.
Day 325: On Being the Child of Your Own Works
Every one is the son of his own works.
—Miguel de Cervantes 326

Here’s a fun metaphor for today: you’re the parent of yourself, and hence,
you’re the child of your own decisions, habits, and beliefs.
Would you raise your children in the same way as you’re raising yourself?
Are you being a good parent, ensuring that their child grows up with self-
discipline, or are you lax, constantly cutting your child some slack and
ultimately turning them into a weak-willed adult?
Are you understanding and supportive or critical and mean when your child
makes errors while trying to fail their way to success?
Lastly, are you setting a good example? Do you expect one thing from your
child and then do the opposite when they aren’t looking?
Day 326: On Your Deeds Determining You Our deeds
determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.
—George Eliot 327

You control what actions you take or don’t take, but in the long run, the
actions that you take or don’t take also control you because they determine who
you are.
As confusing as it sounds, there’s an important lesson hiding in there: when
pondering what to do or not do, ask yourself what the person you’d like to
become would or wouldn’t do. We define people by actions they take, so if you
change the actions you take, you’ll also change your own definition of yourself.
For example, a person who runs often is a runner, while a person who
constantly exposes themselves to danger for the fun of it is a daredevil. On the
opposite end of the spectrum, a person who sits on the sofa the entire day is a
slacker, while a person who never stands up for themselves is a doormat. The
primary determinant of a runner, daredevil, slacker or doormat — rather than a
specific adjective or trait — is what actions they take or don’t take.
Each action of yours, just like each thought or habit you have, has an
impact on the direction your personal change is going to take. Think beyond the
immediate consequences and consider each deed as a building block of the new
you. What actions are congruent with the person you desire to become and what
deeds aren’t ?
When thinking of the person you want to become in the future, along with
setting new goals, make a list of actions the desired “future you” will engage in
regularly and the actions that person will refuse to perform.
For example, if you want to become a more positive person, some of the
actions you’ll engage in regularly include smiling, laughing, and expressing your
gratitude, while some of the actions you’ll refuse to perform would be
complaining, brooding, and criticizing.
Day 327: On the Biggest Person Standing in Your
Way You might occasionally feel that some people are
standing in the way and slowing your progress, but in
reality the biggest person standing in your way is you.
Others can stop you temporarily — you are the only
one who can do it permanently.
—Zig Ziglar 328

When others sabotage your efforts to implement a positive change in your

life, it’s tempting to blame them for your lack of results. However, while they
can affect your endeavors temporarily, in the end it’s only you who can torpedo
your dreams.
For one, ultimately it’s you who makes a judgment of what the action of
another person means to you and your goals. You can approach somebody’s
effort to sabotage your dreams as an excuse to give up, or you can treat it as an
obstacle that is an inherent part of the process. A “friend” who taunts you about
your lack of results when dieting might discourage you, or they might boost your
resolve to show them what you’re capable of.
Second, when other people try to limit your dreams, question your abilities,
or tell you to stop having your head in the clouds, ultimately it’s not their belief
that counts; it’s what you yourself think about the feasibility of your goals. Will
you be bothered by people who doubt that you’ll ever build a successful
business? Of course you will. Will they make you doubt that you’ll succeed?
That would happen only if you let them, by valuing their words more than your
own belief in your abilities.
Finally, when others are required to make your dreams come true and it
seems as if they’re actively against you (say, a gatekeeper who won’t let you get
through to the CEO of the company you’d like to sell your services to), yet again
they are not the ones who can destroy your goal. It’s still up to you; you can
come up with a different way to reach the CEO or develop a completely different
approach to sell your service and grow your business.
Others can slow your progress, but it doesn’t mean that you’re powerless.
When somebody stands in your way, jump over them, crawl underneath them,
go around them, or punch them in the face (just kidding with the last one).
Day 328: On Ange r
If you don’t want to be cantankerous, don’t feed your temper, or multiply
incidents of anger. Suppress the first impulse to be angry, then begin to count the
days on which you don’t get mad.
—Epictetus 329

Anger — or any other emotion that leads to impulsive decisions that you
later regret — is an enemy of self-discipline. While it’s not always possible to
catch yourself feeling angry before it converts into a full-blown attack of rage,
whenever you can, act quickly and suppress the anger instead of feeding it.
Anger that compounds on itself will quickly take away any remnants of self-
control that you may have.
For example, when I’m stuck in a traffic jam, annoyed at other drivers or at
the traffic lights seeming to take hours to change, I try to redirect my growing
anger into another emotion, stop myself from cursing, or at least try to curse in a
humorous way that won’t feed my frustration. That way, I prevent my anger
from taking control of the situation. It’s a simple technique, but don’t let it fool
you — it’s one of the most effective strategies to overcome attacks of
unnecessary anger.
If you want to eliminate frequent attacks of anger from your life, begin
counting the days on which you successfully suppress the first impulse to be
angry. After a 7-day winning streak, you won’t want to lose all of your progress
because of such a trivial thing as another driver driving too slowly or things
temporarily not going your way .
Will this strategy always work? Obviously not. Everyone gets angry from
time to time. However, if you make a conscious effort not to feed your temper,
you’ll reprogram your default behavior, greatly reduce the frequency of losing
your temper, and gain better control over your emotional state.
Day 329: On a Change in Belief s
All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we
change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to
the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost
you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only
bring you pain in the future.
—Tony Robbins 330

You won’t change until you recognize your bad beliefs and habits as your
enemies. The best way to change them is to associate them with the pain that
they’ve been steadily delivering to you ever since you first adopted them.
For example, I overcame my habit of staying up late and waking up at 1-2
p.m. largely because of associating it with the depression I felt each winter
because of a lack of sunlight.
Upon realizing that my habit and belief that I was a night owl had cost me
so much and would bring me so much more pain in the future, I switched my
routine. Today I can hardly think of a better feeling than getting up early and
being super productive from beginning my day in the early morning.
What are your habits and beliefs costing you? You need to recognize all the
different kinds of costs they have generated, are generating, and will continue to
generate in the future if you don’t make some changes in your life. You will only
be ready to change when you feel deep down in your gut how detrimental they
are to you and your life.
WEEK 48
Day 330: On Turning Back Right at the Very End
Don’t turn back when you are just at the goal.
—Publius Syrus 331

Many people have a tendency to back out right at the end of the journey,
mere steps from accomplishing their long-term goal. If they knew that success
was around the corner, they would find it in themselves to keep going. However,
since it’s so difficult to diagnose whether success is right around the corner or
still a long way off, it happens that many throw in the towel mere seconds from
their opponent falling to the ground.
To prevent such an unfortunate situation from happening, from now on
assume that if you’ve been working on a given goal for a long period of time and
you’re down on your knees, ready to accept defeat, it’s the last test. Stand up,
brush yourself off and take a few more steps. Give yourself a week or two more
and make the last effort.
If your situation doesn’t change and there’s still no success around the
corner, accept a (temporary) defeat and step away to recover. If it does change
and you meet success, you’ll be glad you’d used the last remnants of energy to
keep going.
Day 331: On Finding an Easier Way
Once you figure out what it is you really want, ask yourself if there’s a
better way to get it than to go down the path you’re planning on going down.
Maybe you want to be rich so that you can travel all of the time. But do you
really need to be rich to do that, or is there any easier way? For example, I
wanted to be rich to buy an island, but then figured out how to do it without
going through the hassle of getting rich first.
—Tynan 332

There’s nothing wrong or dishonorable in finding an easier way to

accomplish your goals. If you can make it easier for yourself to make your
dreams come true — given that it’s legal and moral to do so — do it. Anything
that reduces the amount of self-discipline and mental energy you need to reach
your goals is a good thing.
For example, if you want to travel all of the time but you currently don’t
have a million or two in the bank, it doesn’t mean that now you need to dedicate
a decade of your life to making millions. You could achieve this same goal by
doing such things as finding a location-independent job, getting a flexible job,
working on a cruise ship or as a flight attendant, starting an online business, or
working on short-term contracts in different countries.
If you want to become fit, you can take fitness classes at your local gym
and hate it every time you go there, or you can find a type of a physical activity
you actually and genuinely enjoy .
If you want to lose weight, you can go on a restrictive diet that makes you
feel miserable, or you can adopt lifestyle changes and embrace nutritional habits
that give you some leeway while still helping you get thinner.
Oh, and for the curious: Tynan managed to buy an island without getting
rich first by buying the island together with a few friends.
Day 332: On a Lack of Variet y
Routine releases us from the work and willpower required for choice.
—Mark Sisson 333

When you ask several people for their first thought about what “a lack of
variety” means, you’ll probably get answers with negative connotations. To
them, a lack of variety means boredom or being stuck in a rut. While routine can
indeed be bad for you and your goals, it can also be a good thing.
For example, in dieting, eating the same meals over and over again (but
changing them every several weeks or so when you get bored of them) simplifies
the entire process. You no longer have to carefully calculate every macronutrient
of a different food because you always eat the same things and can easily eyeball
their caloric content.
In fitness, dedicating yourself to one sport or type of physical activity
makes it easier to establish a habit of regular exercise. You don’t have to be
watchful about how much you move every given week because you have
workouts scheduled on the same days, lasting the same amount of time, each
probably with the same intensity.
In managing your productivity, waking up and going to sleep at the same
time ensures that the structure of your day is always the same, which allows you
to maximize your productivity and reduce the amount of time spent figuring out
when to attend to each task .
There can be more freedom in a lack of variety than in living your life
without such a restriction. For a period of time (say, a week), test this approach
by limiting your choices and letting your routine make your decisions for you.
Day 333: On Happiness as a Dut y
It is our duty to be happy.
Why? Because our moods and happiness or unhappiness are catching. They
inevitably infect other people. When we are happy we make other people happy,
especially the people closest to us, physically, at home, at work, socially; and
even people we speak to on the phone, online, or by email.
And, vitally important, there is the multiplier effect. I am happy, I make you
happier, you make them happier, they make yet other people — whom you may
never know — happier. The effect is incalculable, and it is always large. The
same is true in reverse when you are miserable.
So time spent being miserable is antisocial. Stop it now! Relax, change your
mood, be happy, and make the world hum rather than shudder.
—Richard Koch 334

Just like you need self-discipline to become fitter, save money, learn a
foreign language, or keep your house clean, so you need it to become and remain
happy.
As we’ve already discussed, in some ways, being a negative person is being
a lazy person. It takes more work to think positive thoughts, so we choose to feel
unhappy because it’s an easier state to access; we could just as well invest some
energy and feel good.
Whether you’re happy or not wouldn’t mean much for your goals if it
weren’t for the fact that a positive attitude is one of the keys to accomplishment.
It makes you believe that you can achieve the impossible, boosts your courage,
and keeps you going when you’re hit with one difficulty after another.
Consequently, you need to work on happiness, just like on any other
important aspect of a self-disciplined life. If you find it challenging to put
yourself in a good mood, think of happiness as a moral duty. You owe it to your
loved ones and strangers to be happy because your mood — to a smaller or a
larger extent — will infect them.
When you have the flu, you don’t deliberately go to crowded places or
sneeze near your loved ones; you try your best not to infect them. Why would
happiness be any different? Exert some self-discipline to think happy thoughts
and eradicate the bad mood. It’s within your control to feel great or miserable.
Strive to infect others with happiness, not sadness. A great side effect is that
the happier you make other people, the easier it will be to remain happy yourself.
Day 334: On Self-Criticis m
Self-criticism is consistently associated with less motivation and worse self-
control.
—Kelly McGonigal 335

Berating yourself for your failures simply doesn’t work. Instead of

motivating you to do better next time, it only brings you down, causing you to be
even less likely to exert your willpower. In fact, being too harsh towards
yourself can turn one slip-up into a full-blown crisis or even into giving up on
your goals because you become convinced that you’re too weak to change your
life.
Instead of self-criticism, give yourself self-compassion. Whenever you fail
to meet your standards, remind yourself that you were probably doing your best,
but this time it simply didn’t work. Human beings aren’t perfect, so don’t
assume that you’ll have 100% adherence to a diet, a workout program, or any
other resolution you have.
Then, instead of looking for reasons why you suck because you failed, look
for lessons in your slip-up and vow to do better next time, being careful to not
repeat the same mistakes. Being kind to yourself will ultimately motivate you
more to try again than poisoning yourself with your critical voice ever could.
Day 335: On Wishing When people say “I wish,” they
don’t really believe it. “I wish I could save money” or
“I wish I could lose weight” means “...but I don’t
believe it’s possible.”
—Brian Tracy 336

One effective (and at first glance, perhaps a bit naïve) strategy to help you
develop success-friendly habits, traits, and behaviors is to change your language.
The words that you use have a direct impact on you . If you tell yourself
that you wish you could be different, you’re essentially telling the world that it’s
not within your control to change.
How likely are you to change yourself if the words like “I wish” come out
of your mouth so frequently? How much confidence will you have in your
ability to reach your goals if you don’t believe it’s possible that you can achieve
them?
Set a simple challenge: for the next seven days, whenever you catch
yourself saying you wish you could do something, stop and rethink it.
Is it really something that you will never be able to accomplish (such as
become younger), or is it just your brain serving you your own limiting beliefs?
If it’s the latter, make a list of immediate actions you can take to transform “I
wish” into “Here’s how I’m going to do it.”
Day 336: On Remembering That Your Time Is
Limited Thinking that we have ample time to do
things later is the greatest myth, the greatest hang-up,
and the greatest poison. If we knew that tonight we
were going to go blind, we would take a longing, last
real look at every blade of grass, every cloud
formation. If we knew that we were going to be deaf
tomorrow, we would treasure every single sound.
—Pema Chödrön 337

Death can be the ultimate motivator. In a 2007 movie, The Bucket List , it’s
their impending death that motivates two terminally-ill men to embark on a road
trip with a wish list of things they want to do before their illnesses claim their
lives.
From time to time I like to imagine that I have a few months of life left. I
ask myself if I would die fulfilled or if there would be something I would deeply
regret not having done. Taking a few minutes to imagine such a scenario is a
helpful exercise in discovering your true priorities and serves as a powerful
boost of motivation to act now.
Thinking about death is morbid, but ultimately can also act as an inspiring
experience that can shake you out of inaction. Imagine your last hours and think
that you’ll never be able to do the things that you’ve wanted to do your entire
life, but never acted upon. The only thing left is regret that when you could have
done them, you chose to put those things off and now you can only imagine how
it would feel to accomplish them.
Now realize that you’re still here, still alive and kicking, and there’s still a
possibility of making your dreams come true. Why on earth are you still putting
off those important goals, knowing that one day you’ll no longer be able to
pursue them?
WEEK 49
Day 337: On a Coin Flip
When you are undecided on a difficult decision, flip a coin.
Why?
Because when the coin is in the air, you suddenly know which side you
really want.
—Nathan Barry 338

This simple trick is one of the most powerful decision-making tools.

Whenever you’re hesitant, let fate decide for you and you’ll immediately realize
which option you prefer to take.
If you don’t have a coin, name your options A, B, C, etc. and ask your
friend to randomly pick one letter. If there’s nobody around you and you need to
make a quick decision, randomly pick one of the options and ask yourself how
you feel now that you’ve decided on it.
We often know in our gut which option is better, but we get stuck in the
decision-making process out of a fear of missing out on something that another
option might offer us. Turning the final decision over to something that is
outside of your control amplifies your inner voice and leads to better decisions.
Day 338: On “I Don’t” vs. “I Can’t”
“I don’t” is experienced as a choice, so it feels empowering. It’s an
affirmation of your determination and willpower. “I can’t” isn’t a choice — it’s
a restriction, it’s being imposed upon you. So thinking “I can’t” undermines
your sense of power and personal agency.
—Heidi Grant Halvorson 339

Be careful not to say “I can’t” whenever you’re working on implementing a

new positive change in your life that requires you to give up something (such as
going on a diet).
Thinking of your decision in terms of a restriction (“I can’t do it”)
inevitably leads to discontent and approaching your change as a short-term
solution. Admitting that a change is your choice by saying “I don’t do it” lends
itself to treating it as a permanent identity shift.
A related technique you can use to give up something that’s bad for you is
to associate it with the discomfort it leads to and deciding that you no longer
want to suffer from it. You aren’t saying that you can’t do this thing any longer
and thereby think of it as a restriction. You’re saying that you don’t do this thing
because it’s your own choice, dictated by your wish to avoid the unpleasant
consequences.
For example, I was once a big lover of potatoes and they greatly contributed
to me being overweight. When testing how certain foods affected me, I realized
that potatoes made me bloated, tired, and led to digestive issues. Just like that, I
stopped eating potatoes that I had been previously eating in copious amounts at
least three times a week. I’m sure that if it weren’t for uncovering my food
intolerance and a conscious decision not to eat potatoes anymore, I would still be
eating them. A restriction in the form of “I can’t eat potatoes” wouldn’t work.
Catch yourself whenever you say “I can’t” and replace it with “I don’t” or
“I choose not to do it.” It’s a small change in your vocabulary, but the way you
think about your changes can impact whether they become permanent or are
only short-lived.
Day 339: On Appreciating Your Body When all is said
and done, the most important thing is to respect and
appreciate the body you have. It’s great to strive for
physical perfection, but the journey matters more
than the destination.
—Al Kavadlo 340

If you have a car, you probably regularly take it to the carwash. You drive it
carefully in order not to scratch it or ding it. You respect it and appreciate it
because it’s your vehicle.
Sadly, while most people take great pains to keep their cars pristine, they
don’t think about their bodies in the same way. They fail to notice that while a
car is replaceable, their body is the only body they’re ever going to get.
If you’re constantly failing to introduce healthy habits, think of it as an
expression of respect toward your body. I know, it sounds cheesy, but ultimately
many people fail to care for their bodies because they never adopt a good,
empowering metaphor to help them in their efforts.
Make exercise primarily about self-respect and appreciation for your body,
and not an obsession to build a perfect body (which often leads to so much
pressure that people completely give up). It doesn’t matter if you’re obese, if you
can’t run for more than a minute, or if you can’t perform a single push-up. What
matters right here and right now is to learn to start caring for your body in the
same way as you care for your other prized possessions.
Once healthy living becomes a habit (just like taking your car to the
carwash or cleaning your house), then you can set more specific fitness goals to
further strengthen your body. For now, your only preoccupation should be to
change your actions so that they manifest your respect toward the only body you
have.
Day 340: On Better Learning Research shows that
people who follow strategy B [read ten pages at once,
then close the book and write a one page summary]
remember 50 percent more material over the long
term than people who follow strategy A [read ten
pages four times in a row and try to memorize them].
—Daniel Coyle 341

Books can change your life, but only if you read them with the intention to
learn.
Merely reading a book from cover to cover, closing it, and immediately
finding another book to learn from might work as entertainment when reading
fiction. However, it doesn’t work with non-fiction. In order to learn, you need to
exert a bit more self-discipline and read the book, along with noticing and
remembering its key points. You can highlight important parts, make notes, or
write short summaries.
What might be an even better idea than highlighting, making notes, or
writing summaries is to make a bullet-point list of its practical applications in
your life. A summary can be helpful if you need to memorize the information in
itself, but a bullet-point list of practical implications will be more valuable if
you’re after a real education — changing your life through what you read.
Start today with this book. Grab a notepad or open a new document and
make a list of at several practical applications of the advice you’ve discovered in
this book. We’re on day 340, so I’m pretty sure you can make a list of at least
10, if not 100, possible changes you can introduce in your life to instill more
self-discipline.
Day 341: On When Not to Make Important Decisions
I’ve found that it’s a good rule to never make an
important decision when your emotions are in control.
I try to program myself in advance to remember this
rule when I need it. When I’m in an emotional state
(either positive or negative), I try to keep just enough
intellect working to tell me one thing: don’t decide
now. I wait until I’ve relaxed and can think more
clearly.
—Harry Browne 342

If you want to greatly increase the chances of making a bad decision, make
it when you’re “under the influence” of strong emotions (either negative or
positive). The same is true in reverse: to make a good decision, only do so when
you’re in a neutral emotional state, relaxed enough to think clearly and weigh all
the pros and cons.
For example, I have a rule to never agree to make any big purchases over
the phone or in person without giving myself at least a day to think it over. That
way, I can think objectively about whether I really need to make such a
purchase, and if so, research whether I was given a good offer.
Establish a similar rule in your life and always wait before making any big
decisions. This also applies to setting big new goals. It’s better to set them when
you’re in a neutral state of mind than when you’re pumped up, because if you do
so while being influenced by a temporary strong rush of endorphins, you’ll
probably overestimate your abilities and set goals that are beyond your reach.
Day 342: On Doing the Best You Can With What You
Have
Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the
doing, not the getting — in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal
standard — reaching for the highest that is in us — becoming all that we can be.
If we do our best, we are a success. Success is the maximum utilization of the
ability that you have.
—Zig Ziglar

One of the best ways to destroy your resolve is to associate success with
results alone. If you fail to generate any results for a long time (as is often the
case when working on difficult, long-term goals), the belief that you’re only
doing well if you’re getting immediate results will discourage you from
continuing.
The proper approach is to espouse the belief that success means doing the
best you can with what you have. Regardless of the outcome, as long as you’re
doing your best, you’re keeping yourself to the highest standard and that’s what
matters the most. The results might come today, tomorrow, six months from
now, or even a decade later.
Obviously, it’s not like you’re pursuing your goals for the sake of pursuing
them — you want to get something for your efforts. However, it will be hard to
make your dreams come true if you only obsess about the end result and forget
to focus on the current process. After all, ultimately it’s the journey itself that
will shape you to become the person deserving the goal you’re after.
A successful businessman isn’t successful because he runs a successful
business. He’s successful because he stuck to his business, despite difficulties,
failures, and the seemingly hopeless situations in which he found himself. He
wouldn’t have built a successful business if he had only defined himself by the
results (which are rarely anything to brag about anyway, at least in the first
several years of running a business).
A successful athlete isn’t successful because she has received a medal.
She’s successful because she’s been training harder than her competitors and
kept going despite pain, exhaustion, and discomfort. She would have failed to
become a successful athlete if she had obsessed solely about the prizes, and not
on the act of bettering her performance.
Embrace success as holding yourself to a high personal standard and focus
on the process of consistently becoming better. As long as you do your best with
what you have, the results will show up eventually.
Day 343: On Turning Intentions into Actions
I always wrote down my goals. It wasn’t sufficient just to tell myself “lose
twenty pounds and learn better English and read a little bit more.” No. That was
only a start. Now I had to make it very specific so that all those fine intentions
were not just floating around. I would take out index cards and write that I was
going to: • get twelve more units in college; • earn enough money to save
$5,000; • work out five hours a day; • gain seven pounds of solid muscle weight;
and • find an apartment building to buy and move into.
—Arnold Schwarzenegger 343

The more vague your plans are, the more likely they are to remain in the
realm of intentions instead of real-world actions. You need to make your plans
specific, quantifiable, and (ideally) repeatable in some way so that each day
brings you closer to accomplishing your goals.
“I’m going to write a book” is a good start, but it isn’t going to lead to any
accomplishments unless you make it more specific by listing the specific actions
that you’re going to take, such as: “Plot my story in 2000 words,” “Write the
first chapter,” and later on, as the sole daily action that is required to reach your
goal, “Write 1000 words every day.”
With goals that make it difficult to tell whether or when you’ve
accomplished them, such as Arnold’s “I’m going to learn better English,” it’s
crucial to set specific, quantifiable sub-goals, such as “ Master 100 common
words related to medicine” or “Read ten history books in English,” so that you
can objectively say that because of the effort you’ve exerted, you’ve indeed
improved your abilities and have evidence that supports that view.
Note that the real work doesn’t begin until you take the first action designed
to get you closer to your goals. Even the most specific and well-designed goal is
still a dream until you figure out what concrete actions you need to take — and
then take them — to convert it into a true goal with chances for success.
WEEK 50
Day 344: On the Desire for Safety
The desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise.
—Tacitus 344

When setting any new goals, the desire for safety will fight against the
desire for growth. Choosing safety is choosing instant gratification, while going
for growth might be uncomfortable now, but will eventually deliver bigger and
better rewards.
Learn how to overcome the desire for safety by regularly expanding your
comfort zone and reaping the rewards of doing so. It’s hard to imagine how
beneficial temporarily giving up safety can be unless you actually do it. No
words of mine will persuade you more than you actually venturing out, testing it
for yourself, and feeling more powerful, thanks to facing your fears.
You can also follow the strategy of alternating between periods of safety
and growth: after each big step forward that required courage and put you in an
uncomfortable situation, give yourself a few days to enjoy safety. Then, when
you feel secure and recharged, expose yourself to danger and growth again. That
way, you’ll consistently stretch yourself in a sustainable way, without ever
completely exhausting your mental energy.
That’s what I often do during my rock climbing workouts: on some
workouts I favor technical routes that require little courage but lots of focus and
then on other workouts, I climb difficult, mental routes where a fear of falling
enters into the equation.
Thanks to this approach, I rarely don’t feel like climbing; whenever I don’t
feel mentally ready to give up the feeling of security, I can simply do something
else and then expand my comfort zone the next time, when I’ll have recovered.
Stretch your comfort zone frequently, but do it in a sustainable way: ensure
that you regularly get to enjoy at least a short period of security to gather energy
for another expedition that will take you beyond your comfort zone.
Day 345: On Injecting Adventure in Your Routines
Writing interests me more than anything else. If I made a chore of it, my
enthusiasm would die. I make it an adventure every day. I get more
entertainment from it than any I could buy.
—Willa Cather 345

A daily routine sounds boring, but it doesn’t need to be. If you inject some
fun and adventure in it, you’ll find it will be easier and more pleasant to stick to
it.
For example, if you’re on a diet, there’s no rule stating that you can’t cook
exotic healthy meals or try foods you’ve never tasted before. Starting a diet can
be a good opportunity to introduce more variety in your nutritional habits.
If you want to become more financially disciplined, turn it into a game. Set
a challenge to save as much money as you can. Find better deals for the items
you need to buy regularly. Come up with ways to make some money on the side.
If you want to become more productive, challenge yourself to get as much
work done as possible in a short period of time. Experiment by working in
different places. Try new ways of getting things done.
If your resolutions don’t feel like chores, but more like opportunities to
have some small adventures and entertain yourself, you’ll be more likely to stick
to them than if you looked at them as boring obligations.
Day 346: On Surpassing Yourself
A man’s life is interesting primarily when he has failed — I well know. For
it’s a sign that he tried to surpass himself.
—Georges Clemenceau 346

One interesting and empowering way to look at failure is to consider it a

sign that you’re trying to surpass yourself. After all, you can’t fail if you’re
doing something that is well within your abilities. You fail when you’re doing
something that is difficult for you, in order to grow. Hence, if you aren’t failing,
you’re probably not stretching yourself enough.
If you’ve been going a long time without any failures, it’s time to think
bigger. Not experiencing any failures is a clear sign that you’re setting your aims
too low and it’s time to seek a more challenging environment or establish new,
more difficult goals.
Success is obviously a positive thing, but bear in mind that if you’re
constantly succeeding, it comes with the risk of getting too cocky and assuming
that you’re invincible. Setting goals with a high risk of failure will help you stay
humble and ultimately aid you in keeping success in your life.
Day 347: On Enduring Your Tyrants Power concedes
nothing without a demand. It never did and it never
will. Find out just what any people will quietly submit
to, and you have found out the exact amount of
injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon
them; and these will continue till they are resisted
with either words or blows, or with both. The limits of
tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those
whom they oppress.
—Frederick Douglass 347

Likewise, the limits of problems in your life are determined by your

tolerance of them. If you have a slight pain in your little toe, you probably aren’t
going to go see the doctor, but multiply the pain by a factor of five and you’ll be
at the doctor’s office in a split second!
Think in the same way about your bad habits or any other harmful actions
of yours. If the perceived pain (negative consequences) is weak, you’ll most
likely continue to tolerate it for as long as it doesn’t increase. Intensify the pain,
and you’ll start looking for solutions.
There are two ways to inspire you to give up negative behaviors: 1. The
pain caused by your negative behaviors intensifies by itself. One day you realize
that the problem has grown to such proportions that you must do something
about it. For example, your negative nutritional habits lead to a heart attack or
failing to improve your self-confidence makes you a loner without any friends .
This is not a good way to deal with negative behaviors, because you’re
letting the problem grow uncontrollably until it poses a big risk in your life.
2. Intensifying the pain by making yourself aware of how deep the pain
goes. Instead of ignoring the pain and keeping it running in the background, you
tune in to it and focus on all of its consequences. Make them bigger and assume
they will get soon get worse. Use the negative visualization to inspire the
change.
For example, once you notice you’re gasping for air after climbing a set of
stairs, assume that it’s the first sign of an incoming rapid deterioration of health.
New symptoms will soon follow, and each will be stronger than the previous
one. The slight discomfort you have now is only the beginning. Amplify its
message and act now while you still can. Don’t ignore it by thinking that you can
forget about it for now and you will address it later if it gets worse.
Unless you can convince yourself how far-reaching and dangerous the
consequences of your behaviors can be in the long term, you won’t act. Think of
any negative behaviors of yours as tyrants: to what extreme measures must they
go before you stop enduring their oppression?
Day 348: On Using Your Strengt h Greatness lies not
in being strong, but in the using of strength.
—Henry Ward Beecher 348

I’ve never understood the point of going to the gym, lifting weights and
then heading back home, sitting on your butt for the rest of the week and
avoiding any kind of physical movement — never actually using your strength
for anything besides lifting weights. Doesn’t one find the purpose for getting
strong by actually using it for something besides training?
Throughout the book, I’ve listed numerous exercises you can use to boost
your willpower and become a more self-disciplined person. Those exercises
aren’t there for entertainment purposes; I’m sharing them with you so you can
actually perform them and then apply the lessons and improvements that you
gained through them to your goals.
There’s little point in practicing self-control for the sake of practicing self-
control. Of course, nothing prevents you from taking cold showers just because
you’d like to test yourself or controlling your thoughts just because you’d like to
get better at controlling your thoughts. However, remember that ultimately the
intention of those exercises is to build strength, which you then use to make your
life better.
Day 349: On Managing Energy
Energy, not time, is the fundamental currency of high performance.
—Jim Loehr 349

You can have all the time in the world, but if you don’t have energy, it
won’t mean anything. Your energy is your primary resource needed to change
your life for the better; if you lack it, your chances of attaining your goals drop
to zero.
For this reason, it’s vital to learn how to manage your energy. That’s why
I’m so adamant about the importance of healthy habits like getting enough sleep,
eating healthily, and exercising regularly. If you don’t have such habits, your
energy levels are compromised and you’re less likely to achieve your goals.
In addition to healthy habits, consider making a list of things, places, and
people who energize you and a second list of those that rob you of energy. Now
that you have both lists in front of you, think about how you can restructure your
life to spend as much time as possible in an energizing environment with
energizing people, and as little time as possible in situations that rob your
energy.
For example, large crowds exhaust me, so you’ll almost never find me in
one. On the other end of the spectrum, spending time in nature recharges me, so
I strive to be outdoors at least a few times a week.
Energy management is one of the key skills you need to perform well in
both your professional and personal life. Let me assure you that no matter how
disciplined you are, if you routinely exhaust yourself, one day you’ll burn out.
Wouldn’t it be better to learn how to manage your energy today, so that you can
avoid this unpleasant problem altogether?
Day 350: On Doing Things Deliberately
Working slowly in today’s world goes against every thought system. You
can only work slowly if you do it deliberately. Being deliberate requires you to
stay in the process, to work in the present moment.
—Thomas Sterner 350

In rock climbing, when you’re clipping the rope into a quickdraw and you
rush it, your movements will be imprecise. In the end, with rapid movements it
will take you more time to clip in the rope than if you were to do it slowly.
Working deliberately, particularly when the stakes are high, takes a lot of
self-control. You need to battle against the temptation to rush things and
maintain your concentration when stress threatens to consume you.
Doing things fast — but not necessarily well — isn’t a particularly good
strategy for achievement. In fact, it’s usually the slow, deliberate, poised
movements that lead to great outcomes, and not rushed, nervous, or impulsive
actions.
Identify when your behaviors are hasty and unfocused and take advantage
of such opportunities to exercise your willpower by doing things slowly and with
precision.
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Day 351: On Admitting You’re Struggling
To cut out every negative root would simultaneously mean choking off
positive elements that might arise from it further up the stem of the plant. We
should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow
anything beautiful from them.
—Alain de Botton 351

I often talk about my failures in my books because I want my readers to

understand that hardships are an inherent part of the process. If somebody claims
they’re successful but they’ve never failed, you can be sure they’re lying.
Whenever you’re dealing with problems and struggling to stick to your
goals, don’t be afraid to share your troubles with others and reach out for help.
You might feel tempted to protect your ego and demonstrate that you’re
infallible, but doing so is counterproductive.
Denying that you have problems — or denying that you could use help or
support — doesn’t make you better than a person who publicly admits that
things aren’t going well and is looking for assistance.
In the end, there’s nothing to be ashamed of when you’re struggling. The
only shame is in failing to recognize your problems because that’s when you
miss out on some of the most valuable opportunities to grow.
Day 352: On the Empowerment in Trade-Offs
Essentialists see trade-offs as an inherent part of life,
not as an inherently negative part of life. Instead of
asking, “What do I have to give up?” they ask, “What
do I want to go big on?
—Greg McKeown 352

We’ve discussed that it’s essential to replace “I can’t do it” with “I don’t do
it” in order not to think of your resolutions as punishments. This entry is about
taking that even further: instead of asking yourself what you have to give up,
think of something more important that you want to gain. In other words, frame
your perception of giving up a harmful behavior as an act of empowerment, not
an act of sacrifice.
For example, if you want to start saving money, it’s not a question of what
you won’t be able to buy anymore. The right question is what will saving more
money let you “go big on”? How about improving your peace of mind, spending
less time shopping, treating your family to a nice vacation, or (ultimately)
perhaps even retiring early? In the grand scheme of things, what does giving up
some purchases mean in comparison to that ?
Approach each trade-off in the same way: ensure that you understand deep
down that it’s an act of choosing to get more of something you consider
important, and not an act of sacrificing something to get something else.
Day 353: On Glancing at Your Smartphon e If every
moment of potential boredom is relieved with a quick
glance at your smartphone, then your brain has likely
been rewired to a point where it’s not ready for deep
work — even if you regularly schedule time to
practice this concentration.
—Cal Newport 353

If you have a tendency to glance at your smartphone every few minutes or

the thought of leaving your smartphone in another room for a few minutes gives
you an anxiety attack, it’s time to embrace your self-control to defeat this habit.
It sounds like a little insignificant thing, but in fact it’s a sign of a deeper
issue: your brain has been rewired in such a way that you physically cannot
resist the urge to periodically check your phone. Consequently, you can’t
maintain focus for more than a few minutes, and I don’t think I need to explain
why this ruins your productivity.
Start slowly. Instead of checking your phone every five minutes, wait for
ten minutes. Then, when it gets easier, try twenty. Thirty. Forty. One hour.
Again, it’s a tiny bad habit, but working on it presents a valuable exercise in
growing your willpower. It will also eventually improve your ability to engage
in deep work that you’d otherwise keep interrupting by checking your phone
every few minutes.
Day 354: On Focusing on the Good Thing s
I think it’s almost an indulgence to focus on the dark side of things. And as
you get older, you want to focus on the positive.
—Rob Brydon 354

On several occasions, we have talked about cultivating positive emotions

when things go bad. I argued that focusing on the bad things is an act of mental
laziness because they’re easier to access than the positive ones. Today I’d like to
talk about this topic yet again, this time by looking at it as a new habit to instill.
As people get older, they tend to focus more on the dark side of things.
Perhaps it’s because they’ve experienced more things, suffered more failures, or
were let down by more people. Whatever the reason, if you want to remain a
happy and successful person, grumbling is not the way to go.
If by default you focus on the dark side, it’s time to develop a new habit:
whenever you catch yourself focusing on the dark side of things, come up with
one good thing about the situation and focus on that thought instead. Keep your
mouth shut if you want to voice a complaint.
For example, if you’re out enjoying a walk with a friend and it’s starting to
rain, resist the temptation to complain about the bad weather. Instead, say (for
example) that it’s nice to take a walk despite the rain because there are fewer
people around, or redirect your attention to something else, such as your friend’s
recent success.
Exhibiting a positive attitude takes work, but it’s work that is well worth the
effort. Strive to focus on the positive and train yourself to always find something
good, even in the worst circumstances. You’ll get better at controlling your
thoughts and become more optimistic and resilient.
Day 355: On Luxuries The taste for luxuries increases
with marvelous rapidity under indulgence.
—George Payne Rainsford James 355

The more luxuries you consume and surround yourself with, the more
you’ll become accustomed to them — and the harder it will be for you to tolerate
something less than perfect.
While there’s nothing wrong in enjoying the fruits of your labor and
making your life a little bit more convenient, be cautious to not overindulge in
luxuries. They can spoil you and make you less resilient and capable of dealing
with difficult situations.
Not being able to accept something less than perfect is ultimately a big
weakness. A disciplined person will be able to train in every gym or even
without any equipment, eat healthily even if there are no Whole Foods markets
available where they are, and stay productive even without a proper work desk.
Periodically go with something of a lower quality to remind yourself that
things don’t have to be world-class in order to still serve their function. Forego
some conveniences to improve your tolerance of the hardships. Don’t indulge
yourself after a success, in order to remind yourself that ultimately the most
valuable reward is the process you had to go through to achieve the final
outcome.
Doing all of those things will increase your appreciation of what you have ,
and remind you that discomfort is always just a step away — and yes, there’s
always the risk that one day it will be you who will have to tolerate it again.
Day 356: On Taking the Initiativ e I’ve trained myself
to propose solutions instead of ask for them, to
elicit responses instead of react, and to be
assertive without burning bridges. To have an
uncommon lifestyle, you need to develop the
uncommon habit of making decisions, both for
yourself and for others.
—Tim Ferriss 356

You need a lot of self-discipline to take the initiative instead of taking the
easy way out and waiting for somebody else to act. It’s easier to present a
problem and ask for solutions than to suggest some yourself. It’s easier to
delegate the responsibility for the decision to someone else, essentially freeing
yourself of the discomfort of having to make a decision in exchange for losing
control over the situation.
To obtain better results in all kinds of endeavors, become the person who
takes the initiative.
If you’re dealing with a problem that affects others, instead of only
presenting the problem to the group, propose several solutions. Resist the
temptation to be lazy by relying on others’ ideas and come up with your own.
I used to work with a few business partners and I can tell you that there’s
nothing better than an associate who doesn’t merely wait for the solutions, but
offers them himself or herself. And the reverse is also true: there’s nothing worse
than a collaborator who only brings you problems and expects you to solve them
all .
In addition, become proactive and react as quickly as you can. Yes, it’s
uncomfortable to stand out and take the initiative while everybody else is
looking at you and judging you. However, ultimately, he or she who acts first is
the leader; immediately reacting to situations also trains you to overcome
hesitation and to develop a habit of taking action.
For example, if you’re walking down the street and somebody looks like
they’re about to faint, overcome your social fears and ask them if they’re fine.
Such a small decision of yours might mean the difference between life and death
for that stranger.
I was once on a bike ride with a friend when we noticed a man lying down
in the middle of the sidewalk, blood dripping out of his ear. Nobody stopped to
help him, and yet he was a stone’s throw away from a church packed with
people.
Who knows? Maybe nobody offered to help because they were afraid to
take action or thought that somebody else would take the initiative. Fortunately,
we attended to the man and the ambulance arrived quickly to take him to the
hospital. What if nobody had stopped to help him for several hours?
Taking the initiative is often uncomfortable, but that’s just one more reason
to do it. Don’t react — act. Don’t present problems , present solutions . Don’t
shrug it off by saying “whatever”; choose an option if nobody else is willing to
do it.
Day 357: On the Rare Indulgenc e Rare indulgence
produces greater pleasure.
—Juvenal 357

Here’s a simple trick to postpone acting on a temporary urge: tell yourself

that you’ll engage in it later, and your reward for postponing it will be the
greater pleasure it will give you.
I know, it sounds like an overly simplistic tip, but try it out.
I regularly tell myself that I’ll reward myself with something that I crave
right now, but only after I finish my work or any other important (or
uncomfortable) task that I have to perform.
That way, I stop obsessing about getting the reward right now and I actually
want to get it later, because I know that it will taste so much better than giving in
to it now.
WEEK 52
Day 358: On Acting Differently From Others
Unless you think that the majority of people are living successful lives,
chances are that at some point you will have to act differently from those around
you. Success can take many forms and it is often about standing out from the
crowd or being above average, spotting when the crowd moves one way and
making sure that you move the other.
—Nigel Cumberland 358

It takes guts to stand out from the crowd and move the other way when,
deep down, you know that it’s you who’s right and not everyone else. Even if
you’re a self-disciplined, mentally tough person, it’s still hard to go against the
crowd.
For this reason, one of the most powerful exercises you can do to improve
your chances of acting differently from others when you know that you’re right
is to practice holding your ground. If somebody tells you to do something in a
given way but you don’t understand why, ask them to explain their request. If
the explanation isn’t sufficient, suggest a different way of doing things that you
think might be better.
Note that this isn’t about confrontation for the sake of confrontation. It’s an
exercise in questioning doing things in a given way just because “that’s how
they’ve been done until now,” but nobody knows why.
This way, you get to learn (on a small scale) how it feels when you’re
opposing the current, and this experience will help you hold your ground when
the stakes are higher.
Day 359: On Treats vs. Reward s
A treat is different from a reward, which must be justified or earned. A treat
is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want
it.
Treats give us greater vitality, which boosts self-control, which helps us
maintain our healthy habits. When we give ourselves treats, we feel energized,
cared for, and contented, which in turn boosts self-command. When we don’t get
any treats, we feel depleted, resentful, and angry, and we feel justified in self-
indulgence. We start to crave comfort — and grab that comfort wherever we
can, even if it means breaking good habits.
—Gretchen Rubin 359

Trying to totally do without treats and rewards is a posture that is destined

to fail. I don’t know of a single person, no matter how self-disciplined, who
doesn’t treat themselves to a small pleasure or indulgence every now and then
and who doesn’t use rewards as a motivational tool. Treats and rewards serve an
important role: they help you to recover and to face future discomforts with a
more positive outlook.
Don’t make the mistake of assuming that you’re so disciplined that you
don’t need rewards or treats in order to work on your goals. There’s only one
outcome from making such a dangerous assumption: after a period of doing
well, you’ll start craving comfort. Since you’ll deny yourself the needed
comfort, the desire to indulge will build up, eventually explode, and destroy any
remnants of self-discipline that remained .
Set rewards for accomplishments and don’t be afraid to indulge in small
pleasures from time to time — as long as they’re small and don’t compromise
your long-term goals. Self-care reinforces self-command, while self-denial
depletes it.
Day 360: On Self-Myofascial Release
Self-myofascial release is a fancy term for self-massage to release muscle
tightness or trigger points. This method can be performed with a foam roller,
lacrosse ball, Theracane, or your own hands. By applying pressure to specific
points on your body you are able to aid in the recovery of muscles and assist in
returning them to normal function. Normal function means your muscles are
elastic, healthy, and ready to perform at a moment’s notice.
—Jeff Kuhland 360

As the quote explains, self-myofascial release is a term for self-massage.

You focus on trigger points in your body to release tension and bring back the
previous elasticity of your muscles.
What does it have to do with self-discipline? Here are three ways that it
applies:.
First, it’s difficult to be on top of your game if your body is constantly
tense. I find it hard to focus on work if I suffer from back pain. When I spend a
few minutes massaging the tightest spots, the mental tension goes away along
with the physical tension.
Second, one common reason why people skip workouts or avoid putting
themselves in uncomfortable situations is because they’re in pain. A lot of that
pain comes from your body being tight like a bowstring. Several weeks spent
addressing your most painful trigger points can work miracles when it comes to
eliminating chronic pain.
Finally, self-myofascial release (such as using a foam roller) isn’t a
particularly comfortable thing to do. In fact, it can be immensely painful. And
that’s precisely why self-massage can be a valuable exercise for your self-
discipline.
Just like in any other exercise, you suffer some temporary pain or
discomfort but eventually get a bigger reward. With self-massage, you
experience the temporary pain of applying pressure to your trigger points, but
then benefit from increased mobility and free yourself from the chronic pain of
tight muscles.
Buying an inexpensive lacrosse ball or a foam roller can be one of your best
investments. Greatly reduced (or even eliminated) pain, increased mobility, and
improved self-discipline are more than worth the twenty or thirty bucks spent on
a self-massage tool.
Day 361: On Smilin g If in our daily life we can smile,
if we can be peaceful and happy, not only we, but
everyone will profit from it. If we really know how to
live, what better way to start the day than with a
smile? Our smile affirms our awareness and
determination to live in peace and joy. The source of a
true smile is an awakened mind.
—Thich Nhat Hanh 361

Smiling is one of the easiest, and one of the hardest things to do. It’s natural
to smile when you’re happy and feel good, and almost impossible when you’re
in pain or feeling unwell.
With increased self-control, your ability to do things in spite of what you
feel like doing increases. Smiling can be an excellent exercise in this practice.
I don’t want to downplay the negative things that may be happening in your
or anyone else’s life. However, the truth is that we often resort to scowling,
crying, worrying, and radiating negativity when we experience negative
emotions, just because this state is easier to access than the positive one.
When you think about it logically, it makes no sense to further ruin your
mood after experiencing something negative. If you have a cold, you don’t go
out naked in the middle of the winter to catch pneumonia, too. Yet, that’s pretty
much what we’re doing anytime we decide to humor negative emotions instead
of smiling despite them, or at least trying to lift our spirits a little.
Obviously, it’s easy to say that. Some negative events are such that they can
destroy a person from the inside out, and telling them to smile would be
ridiculous. Apply this advice primarily to the small everyday struggles you
encounter, where your negative reaction isn’t necessary.
For the next week, try to handle every difficulty with a smile on your face.
It doesn’t matter if your smile isn’t entirely genuine. The point is to make an
effort in overcoming your default reaction of feeling negative and replace it with
a more positive attitude.
Even if you fail to maintain a better mood for more than a couple of
minutes, the exercise in itself will help you better control your impulses and
might even lift your spirits slightly. And if you repeat it often enough, your
brain’s pathways will change and make you more capable of feeling positive,
even when bad things happen — and that’s not a bad ability to have, is it?
Day 362: On Professionalis m Amateurs think that if
they were inspired all the time, they could be
professionals. Professionals know that if they relied on
inspiration, they’d be amateurs.
—Philip Pullman 362

Inspiration is important to get you to start working on your goals, but you
can’t rely on it alone if you want to pursue excellence and become a high
performer. The keys to professionalism are: 1. Routine. Don’t wait for
inspiration to strike you. In an ideal world you’d be inspired all the time, always
pumped up to work. In the real world, you’re probably going to be uninspired
more often than you’ll be inspired. Yet, if you want to become professional, you
need to deliver on both good and bad days.
Establish a routine of what you need to produce each day (whether it’s 1000
words of a book, playing the guitar for an hour, making 50 sales calls, or
learning 20 new words in a foreign language) and stick to it, regardless of your
mood.
2. Reliability. If you give a promise, you fulfill it — and that includes any
promise you make to yourself. This also means sticking to deadlines and
resisting the temptation to extend them just because they’re difficult to meet.
3. Constant improvement. Amateurs dabble, while professionals
constantly improve their craft. Always seek new ways to improve your
performance and avoid the laziness of rejecting new, possibly better methods,
just because they can disrupt your current way of doing things.
Day 363: On Relying Upon Yourself
It always makes more sense to concentrate on the direct alternatives — the
things you do control. What others do is up to them, but there’s always a great
deal you can do. Choose from the alternatives that require only your decision —
not from among the many hopes that someone will be something other than what
he is. To rely on your rights or on your ability to change others is far less
promising than to rely upon yourself.
—Harry Browne 363

One dangerous pitfall to be aware of when setting goals is to avoid tying

them to the performance or willingness of other people.
For example, I believe that the best business partner is yourself and nobody
else. If you have a goal to build a successful business so you can eventually
dedicate yourself to your children and your business partner doesn’t have such a
strong motivation, it will be a source of conflict forever. You’ll need his or her
approval for any business decision, and 50% of the success of your business will
depend on the other person. Losing full control over the decision-making process
means lowering your chances of success.
In exercise, you might feel tempted to wait before you buy a gym pass until
you persuade your friend to start exercising with you. Yes, working out with a
partner is more effective, but if you’re relying on this person to establish a
positive change in your life, you’ve already failed. And what if your friend drops
out? Will you drop out, too ?
Don’t wait for another person to change your life. You can hope that their
desires will be in line with yours, but it’s a better strategy to rely on yourself by
choosing alternatives that require your decision alone.
Day 364: On Books, Part Tw o Books are the
treasured wealth of the world and the fit inheritance
of generations and nations. Books, the oldest and the
best, stand naturally and rightfully on the shelves of
every cottage. They have no cause of their own to
plead, but while they enlighten and sustain the reader
his common sense will not refuse them. Their authors
are a natural and irresistible aristocracy in every
society, and, more than kings or emperors, exert an
influence on mankind.
—Henry David Thoreau 364

On day 79 I shared with you three inspirational books and then, on day 158,
I suggested some biographies to read. Today, now that we’re at the end of this
book, I’d like give you some additional recommendations that you might find it
valuable to read after you finish 365 Days With Self-Discipline . Here they are:
1. Make It BIG! 49 Secrets for Building a Life of Extreme Success, by Frank
McKinney. Brilliantly inspiring and practical book written by a fascinating
entrepreneur and philanthropist.
2 and 3. Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within, by Tony Robbins.
Two self-help classics that everyone should read.
4. Essentialism, by Greg McKeown. If you’re struggling to identify your
priorities and focus on what matters most, this book will help you.
5. The Obstacle Is the Way, by Ryan Holiday. An excellent book, loosely
based on the Roman philosophy of stoicism, that teaches you how to succeed in
spite of hardships .
6. How Not to Die, by Michael Greger. If you want to learn more about the
why and how of healthy eating habits, this book is for you. Understanding on a
deeper level how your unhealthy choices can affect your life can boost your
resolve to finally make a change.
WEEK 53
Day 365: On Sweeping the Floor
My friend the philosopher and martial artist Daniele Bolelli once gave me a
helpful metaphor. He explained that training was like sweeping the floor. Just
because we’ve done it once, doesn’t mean the floor is clean forever. Every day
the dust comes back. Every day we must sweep.
—Ryan Holiday 365

As we’re about to part ways, I’d like you leave you with an important
reminder: cultivating self-discipline, like training or sweeping the floor, is
something that must be done daily.
As incredible as it would be to build self-discipline just once and then enjoy
it for the rest of your life, it requires constant work to maintain it so that it can
aid you in your objectives.
The moment you put instant gratification back on the pedestal is the
moment you start losing your self-control.
The moment you decide that it’s time to embrace the easy life and stay
away from the challenges is the moment your life starts getting harder.
The moment you decide that you’re already strong enough and nothing can
break your spirit is the moment you start losing mental resilience.
We’ve spent 365 days together, but your journey toward self-discipline
doesn’t end here. Grab the broomstick and start sweeping!
Epilogue
Our journey has come to an end and I don’t want to keep you here for long.
I hope that you’ve gathered so many different ideas to apply in your life that
you’ll be busy implementing them for a long time to come!
As a quick final reminder, please remember that accumulating knowledge
without applying it in real life is like reading cookbooks without ever actually
following any of the recipes. What’s the point? Put on your chef’s uniform and
get cooking; you have 365 different recipes to try!
Finally, please note that I wrote this book to give you inspiration and offer
various tips that apply to different aspects of self-discipline. I prioritized brief,
universal suggestions over detailed how-to advice.
If you want to get more specific, in-depth lessons about self-discipline
please refer to my other books about self-discipline, which address areas like
dieting (Self-Disciplined Dieter ), exercise (How to Build Self-Discipline to
Exercise ), entrepreneurship (Self-Discipline for Entrepreneurs ), impulse
control (How to Build Self-Discipline ), and long-term habits (Daily Self-
Discipline ).
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Table of Contents
Prologue
WEEK 1
Day 1: On Living the Hard Way
Day 2: On Your Choices
Day 3: On Being a Human
Day 4: On Creating Systems
Day 5: On Enslavement to Self
Day 6: On Superhumans
Day 7: On Poverty and Self-Discipline
WEEK 2
Day 8: On Unessential Necessities
Day 9: On Your Future Self
Day 10: On Building Your Story
Day 11: On Self-Discipline and Talent
Day 12: On Calmness of Mind
Day 13: On What You Want Now and What You Want Most
Day 14: On Long-Term Focus
WEEK 3
Day 15: On Constant Improvement
Day 16: On Self-Reliance
Day 17: On Rising from the Ashes of Failure
Day 18: On Higher Standards
Day 19: On Fighting Well
Day 20: On Taking Small Steps
Day 21: On the Importance of Habits
WEEK 4
Day 22: On Self-Discipline as Freedom
Day 23: On Disciplined Education
Day 24: On Happiness Through Self-Discipline
Day 25: On Starting Today
Day 26: On the Long-Term Consequences of Your Choices
Day 27: On Following the Wrong Path
Day 28: On Living in Offensive Mode
WEEK 5
Day 29: On Avoiding Effort
Day 30: On Looking Like a Fool
Day 31: On Being “Normal”
Day 32: On Cultivating Self-Discipline Like a Plant
Day 33: On Things You Can’t Rush
Day 34: On Enlightenment
Day 35: On the Value of Difficulty
WEEK 6
Day 36: On Pushing Your Limits Step by Step
Day 37: On Initial Resistance
Day 38: On Moderation as a Good Thing
Day 39: On Moderation as a Bad Thing
Day 40: On Talking vs. Doing
Day 41: On Arrogance
Day 42: On Diligent Practice
WEEK 7
Day 43: On Making Continuous Efforts
Day 44: On Optimism
Day 45: On Honesty
Day 46: On Looking Fear in the Face
Day 47: On the Folly of Loafing Around
Day 48: On the Deadening of the Soul
Day 49: On Obeying Lusts
WEEK 8
Day 50: On Not Resting on Your Laurels
Day 51: On Taking Action, in Spite of Potential Criticism
Day 52: On Thinking for Yourself
Day 53: On Having a Burning “Yes” Inside
Day 54: On Underestimating the Long-Term Approach
Day 55: On Bearing Misfortunes Nobly
Day 56: On Thinking You Can
WEEK 9
Day 57: On Two Types of Happiness
Day 58: On Cultivating Physical Excellence
Day 59: On Your Vices Masquerading as Virtues
Day 60: On Pressing On
Day 61: On Extreme Actions
Day 62: On Moonshot Projects
Day 63: On the Will Being Stronger Than the Skill
WEEK 10
Day 64: On Seeing Obstacles as Hurdles
Day 65: On Self-Discipline with Money
Day 66: On Pointless Complaints
Day 67: On Borrowing Money
Day 68: On Choosing the Right Motivator
Day 69: On Climbing Steep Hills
Day 70: On Parkinson’s Law
WEEK 11
Day 71: On Taking a Step Forward
Day 72: On the Value of the Struggle
Day 73: On Having Fun
Day 74: On Acting Less and Thinking More
Day 75: On Haters
Day 76: On Changing Your Mind
Day 77: On Hurting Yourself with Your Own Judgments
WEEK 12
Day 78: On Collaboration
Day 79: On Books
Day 80: On Cultivating Positivity When Things Go Bad
Day 81: On Identifying Your Resources
Day 82: On Extreme Focus
Day 83: On Changing Your Identity
Day 84: On Work and Chatter
WEEK 13
Day 85: On Experimenting to See What Happens
Day 86: On the Spillover Effect of Success
Day 87: On Attributing Failure to External Factors
Day 88: On the Comfort Zone
Day 89: On Not Making Excuses
Day 90: On Quitting in a Smart Way
Day 91: On Starting Now
WEEK 14
Day 92: On Pleasure Gained from Abstaining
Day 93: On Connecting Dots
Day 94: On Overidentifying With Your Emotions
Day 95: On Early-morning Workouts
Day 96: On Silence
Day 97: On Treating Yourself Well
Day 98: On Society (Not) Holding You Back
WEEK 15
Day 99: On Applying Knowledge
Day 100: On Being a Leader
Day 101: On the Ultimate Excellence in Self-Discipline
Day 102: On the Deeper Meaning Behind Temptations
Day 103: On Controlled Burn
Day 104: On the Past Predicting the Future
Day 105: On Predicting When You’ll Give In
WEEK 16
Day 106: On Valuing Your Own Opinion
Day 107: On the Innocent Distractions
Day 108: On Following a Routine
Day 109: On the Size of Containers
Day 110: On Moving Yourself Closer to the Finish Line
Day 111: On Patience With Mindset Changes
Day 112: On Self-Licensing
WEEK 17
Day 113: On a Lack of Time
Day 114: On Fulfilling Your Own Standards
Day 115: On the Cost of Indulgence
Day 116: On Taking the Low Road
Day 117: On Dressing New Things in Old Habits
Day 118: On Free Things
Day 119: On Hatching the Egg
WEEK 18
Day 120: On Handling Interruptions to Your Routine
Day 121: On the Mark of a Champion
Day 122: On Making Agreements With Yourself
Day 123: On Doing This or Nothing
Day 124: On Daily Gratitude
Day 125: On Going Away From Work
Day 126: On Shedding Light on the Dark Things
WEEK 19
Day 127: On Cold Exposure
Day 128: On Principles
Day 129: On Everyday Practice
Day 130: On Working on Laziness
Day 131: On Building an Ark
Day 132: On Being Willing to Be Bad
Day 133: On Self-Caring
WEEK 20
Day 134: On Staying Congruent
Day 135: On Staying in Love With Your Goals
Day 136: On the Desire for Happiness Replacing the Need for Self-Discipline
Day 137: On Waiting for Ten Minutes
Day 138: On Nature Boosting Your Focus
Day 139: On Tolerating an Absence of Novelty
Day 140: On Longing for Paradise
WEEK 21
Day 141: On Punctuality
Day 142: On Keystone Habits
Day 143: On Falling in Love With the Idea of Starting
Day 144: On the Work of a Human Being
Day 145: On Complicating the World for Profit
Day 146: On Decision Avoidance
Day 147: On Walking by Your Mistakes
WEEK 22
Day 148: On Fear
Day 149: On the Weak Point in Your Armor
Day 150: On Indulgences Charging You Interest
Day 151: On Changing Your Character
Day 152: On the Future Value of Money
Day 153: On Spontaneity
Day 154: On the Value of Doing Things Yourself
WEEK 23
Day 155: On Broadening Your Horizons
Day 156: On Wanting What We Already Have
Day 157: On Remembering Death
Day 158: On Learning From the Greats
Day 159: On Having Options
Day 160: On Deliberate Practice
Day 161: On Addressing the Real Mistakes
WEEK 24
Day 162: On Inverse Paranoia
Day 163: On Angry Comebacks
Day 164: On Easing Yourself Into the Pain
Day 165: On Not Living Up To Your Ideals
Day 166: On Handling Emotions
Day 167: On Routines Overcoming a Bad Mood
Day 168: On Wasting Your Energy When You Don’t Have Important Rituals
WEEK 25
Day 169: On Stopping at the Right Moment to Help You Tomorrow
Day 170: On Supply and Demand
Day 171: On Stress
Day 172: On Having More Than One Identity
Day 173: On Eating Alone
Day 174: On Experiencing Life
Day 175: On Improving Self-Control by Using Your Other Hand
WEEK 26
Day 176: On Jotting Things Down
Day 177: On Sleep
Day 178: On Losing Momentum
Day 179: On Effort Generating Satisfaction
Day 180: On Paying the Price as Fast as Possible
Day 181: On the Disciplined Pursuit of Less
Day 182: On Saying No
WEEK 27
Day 183: On Shocking Your Body
Day 184: On Creating Value
Day 185: On Staying With Problems Longer
Day 186: On Simple Rules
Day 187: On Not Judging Too Quickly
Day 188: On Pride
Day 189: On Adventures
WEEK 28
Day 190: On Being Specific About Your Resolutions
Day 191: On Futile Determination
Day 192: On Being in It for the Long Term
Day 193: On Becoming a New Person
Day 194: On Pain and Quitting
Day 195: On Procrastination as Your Ally
Day 196: On Impermanent Motivation
WEEK 29
Day 197: On Eliminating a Negative Attitude
Day 198: On Your Maxims
Day 199: On Your Inaction Hurting Others
Day 200: On Fretting About Yesterday’s Problems
Day 201: On Teaching Others
Day 202: On Accepting the Worst
Day 203: On Maintaining Composure
WEEK 30
Day 204: On Psychological Limits
Day 205: On Treating Hate as an Exercise
Day 206: On Vice Fasts
Day 207: On Enthusiasm and Endurance
Day 208: On Profiting From Your Losses
Day 209: On Finishing Quick Tasks Right Away
Day 210: On Deferring Happiness
WEEK 31
Day 211: On a Simple Adherence Hack
Day 212: On Learning From Your Illness
Day 213: On Sudden Trials
Day 214: On Fearing the Future
Day 215: On Self-Determination
Day 216: On Accounting for Flexibility in Your Plans
Day 217: On Things Not Being Up to Us
WEEK 32
Day 218: On Protein in Your Diet
Day 219: On Dropping Unnecessary Tasks
Day 220: On a Lack of Vision
Day 221: On Antimodels
Day 222: On Your Depleting Willpower
Day 223: On Clear Cues and Rewards
Day 224: On Juggling Five Balls
WEEK 33
Day 225: On Following Someone Else’s Plan
Day 226: On Waiting to Be Saved
Day 227: On Being Stuck in the Past
Day 228: On Going Where Your Eyes Go
Day 229: On the Opportunity in Chaos
Day 230: On Laser-Focusing on Specific Aspects
Day 231: On Minimizing What You Need
WEEK 34
Day 232: On Going All In
Day 233: On Obstacles as Filters
Day 234: On Forgiving
Day 235: On Looking Only One Day Ahead
Day 236: On Being a Normal Chap
Day 237: On Shifting Responsibility to Others
Day 238: On Dividing Your Life into 10-Minute Units
WEEK 35
Day 239: On Imagining the Process as a Litmus Test
Day 240: On Separating Yourself From the Pain
Day 241: On Enabling the Future
Day 242: On Selectivity
Day 243: On the Crime of Aiming Too Low
Day 244: On the Fun in the Impossible
Day 245: On Following or Leaving a Path
WEEK 36
Day 246: On Learning the Big Ideas
Day 247: On First-Order and Second-Order Consequences
Day 248: On Reducing Your Targets
Day 249: On Working Backwards
Day 250: On Fluctuating Energy
Day 251: On Relaxing While Working
Day 252: On Getting Older
WEEK 37
Day 253: On the Invisible Prison Bars
Day 254: On Capitalizing on Your Talents
Day 255: On Self-Image
Day 256: On Taking a Real Decision
Day 257: On Being Impeccable With Your Word
Day 258: On Helping, With No Strings Attached
Day 259: On the Motivation to Get Up Early
WEEK 38
Day 260: On Courage
Day 261: On Giving Up the Last Word
Day 262: On Fragility Caused by Comfort
Day 263: On Thinking for Yourself
Day 264: On Being Honest With Yourself About Your Feelings
Day 265: On Transformation Taking Place Now
Day 266: On Temptations and Your Decision What to Do About Them
WEEK 39
Day 267: On Self-Monitoring
Day 268: On Taking Ownership for Your Ideas
Day 269: On Stretching
Day 270: On Self-Reflection
Day 271: On How to Use Books
Day 272: On Extinguishing Bad Habits
Day 273: On Reprogramming Your Brain
WEEK 40
Day 274: On Constant Movement
Day 275: On Staying a Champion
Day 276: On the Price of Personal Growth
Day 277: On Making Things Convenient
Day 278: On the Rent Axiom
Day 279: On Learning With Age
Day 280: On Seeing Your Troubles from the Proper Perspective
WEEK 41
Day 281: On the Hardships Writing Your Life Story
Day 282: On Analysis Paralysis
Day 283: On Being Hungry
Day 284: On Habits as Handcuffs
Day 285: On Small Efforts at Self-Control
Day 286: On Avoiding Problems
Day 287: On Reducing Procrastination That Comes From Overwhelm
WEEK 42
Day 288: On Routines and Relationships
Day 289: On Accounting for Taxes
Day 290: On Letting Go of the Old Person
Day 291: On the How Instead of the Outcome
Day 292: On Mental Resilience
Day 293: On Cutting Your Losses
Day 294: On the All-or-Nothing Mentality
WEEK 43
Day 295: On Wandering Aimlessly
Day 296: On Your Habitual Thoughts
Day 297: On the Best Time to Work
Day 298: On the Suffocating Mantras
Day 299: On Generalizations
Day 300: On Walking
Day 301: On the Power of Rituals
WEEK 44
Day 302: On Listening to Your Gut
Day 303: On Buddha’s Counsel
Day 304: On the Unsexy Reality of Work
Day 305: On the Addiction to Electronics
Day 306: On Ignorance
Day 307: On Breaking Your Rules
Day 308: On Not Having Money
WEEK 45
Day 309: On the Matters of Right and Wrong
Day 310: On Having Good Private Teachers
Day 311: On Setting an Example
Day 312: On Learning Without a Desire to Learn
Day 313: On What You Demand From Life
Day 314: On Neatness
Day 315: On the Cost of Education and Ignorance
WEEK 46
Day 316: On Doing What You Love
Day 317: On Thinking You’re Able
Day 318: On the Inconvenience of Change
Day 319: On Learning From Refusal
Day 320: On Change as a Cold Bath
Day 321: On Being the Creator of Your Circumstances
Day 322: On Subtraction
WEEK 47
Day 323: On Prolonged Sitting
Day 324: On Ignoring the World When You’re Down
Day 325: On Being the Child of Your Own Works
Day 326: On Your Deeds Determining You
Day 327: On the Biggest Person Standing in Your Way
Day 328: On Anger
Day 329: On a Change in Beliefs
WEEK 48
Day 330: On Turning Back Right at the Very End
Day 331: On Finding an Easier Way
Day 332: On a Lack of Variety
Day 333: On Happiness as a Duty
Day 334: On Self-Criticism
Day 335: On Wishing
Day 336: On Remembering That Your Time Is Limited
WEEK 49
Day 337: On a Coin Flip
Day 338: On “I Don’t” vs. “I Can’t”
Day 339: On Appreciating Your Body
Day 340: On Better Learning
Day 341: On When Not to Make Important Decisions
Day 342: On Doing the Best You Can With What You Have
Day 343: On Turning Intentions into Actions
WEEK 50
Day 344: On the Desire for Safety
Day 345: On Injecting Adventure in Your Routines
Day 346: On Surpassing Yourself
Day 347: On Enduring Your Tyrants
Day 348: On Using Your Strength
Day 349: On Managing Energy
Day 350: On Doing Things Deliberately
WEEK 51
Day 351: On Admitting You’re Struggling
Day 352: On the Empowerment in Trade-Offs
Day 353: On Glancing at Your Smartphone
Day 354: On Focusing on the Good Things
Day 355: On Luxuries
Day 356: On Taking the Initiative
Day 357: On the Rare Indulgence
WEEK 52
Day 358: On Acting Differently From Others
Day 359: On Treats vs. Rewards
Day 360: On Self-Myofascial Release
Day 361: On Smiling
Day 362: On Professionalism
Day 363: On Relying Upon Yourself
Day 364: On Books, Part Two
Day 365: On Sweeping the Floor
Epilogue
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