Facilitating Feedback in Training Sessions

My workshop feedback method has a 100% response rate — and uses zero forms. I ditched post-workshop surveys because… no one filled them out and the ones who did wrote things like “Great workshop 🤗 ” (helpful… ish ⁉️ ). So now I use my four-question, four-colour sticky-note system at the closing of a workshop. It’s fast, visual, and human. It surfaces real language, real commitments, and real insight. Reflection becomes baked into the workshop instead of bolted on. Here’s the magic. I ask everyone to respond to these phrases individually 🟡 “I learned / liked / aha!” - Quick bursts of insight. One idea per sticky. No faffing. 🟢 “I will…” (What ideas do you plan to implement immediately?) - The gold. Actual commitments. I can instantly see what’s going to live beyond the room. 🔴 “I wish…” (What support do you need or what else do you wish we had explored today?) - Constructive, honest improvement ideas and what they need to succeed post-workshop. Better than any anonymous text box. 🔵 One word (What single word best describes your overall reaction to the session?) - These become my word cloud*, and it tells me the emotional temperature in one glance. Then, in small groups, participants choose their top insights, star them, and share them with the room. It turns into this joyful moment where you can see what activities really landed and what learning truly stuck. Impact? • I can literally see what resonated. • The “I will…” notes show behaviour change starting before people even leave the room. • The “I wish…” notes help me evolve each workshop immediately. • And the one-word cloud gives me a pulse check that’s surprisingly accurate. (see word cloud from 10 workshops* - 210 words - in comments) Yes, I still type them all into a spreadsheet by hand (there’s something human and connective about reading people’s handwriting). Then I let AI help me spot themes and patterns. It’s simple. It’s human. It works. And gives clients tangible, meaningful insights... Curious: how do you gather feedback that actually helps you get better? #PlayMore #JudgeLess #feedback #facilitation

BEYOND MODERATION - THE HIDDEN POWER OF FACILITATION Facilitators matter more than most people realize. In every workshop, sprint, and strategic conversation, they quietly turn talk into traction—designing flow, building psychological safety, and steering diverse voices toward a shared outcome. Because great facilitation feels effortless, its impact is often underrated. Yet when stakes are high and complexity rises, a skilled facilitator is the multiplier that transforms ideas into decisions and momentum into results. 🎯 DESIGNER - Great facilitation starts with intentional design. Map the flow of the workshop or discussion with crystal-clear outcomes. When you know where you’re headed, you can confidently animate the session, guide transitions, and keep everyone aligned. ⚡ ENERGIZER - Read the room and manage energy in real time. Build trust and comfort with timely breaks, quick icebreakers, and inclusive prompts. When energy dips, reset; when momentum rises, harness it. Your presence sets the tone for participation. 🎻 CONDUCTOR - Facilitation is orchestration. Ensure everyone knows what to do, how to contribute, and where to focus. Guard against tangents, surface the core questions, and gently steer the group back to the intended outcome. ⏱️ TIMEKEEPER - Time is the constraint that sharpens thinking. Listen actively, paraphrase to clarify, and interrupt with care. Adapt on the fly in agile environments so discussions stay effective, efficient, and outcome-driven. ✨ CATALYST - Your energy is contagious . Show up positive, grounded, and healthy. If you bring light, the room brightens; if you bring clouds, the mood follows. Protect your mindset—it’s a strategic asset. 💡TIPS to be a great facilitator: Be positive and confident; Prepare deeply, then stay flexible; Design clear outcomes and guardrails; Listen actively and paraphrase often; Invite quieter voices and balance dominant ones; Use pauses, breaks, and icebreakers wisely; Keep discussions outcome-focused; Manage time with compassion and firmness; Read the room and adapt; Practice, practice, then practice again. 💪 #Facilitation #HR #Leadership #Workshops #EmployeeEngagement #Agile #Communication #SoftSkills #MeetingDesign #PeopleOps #Moderator #TeamDynamics #PsychologicalSafety #DecisionMaking

Most people avoid difficult conversations at work at all costs. For many years, I was one of those people, until I realised I was making things worse by saying nothing at all (the opposite of the Ronan Keating song!). Second Commissioner Kirsten Fish and Assistant Commissioners Julia Low, Paul Corrie and I tackled this head on with 500+ colleagues. These are my 3️⃣ tidbits on handling tough conversations and giving effective feedback: 1️⃣ Care personally, challenge directly Embrace Radical Candor (check out Kim Scott’s book) – show you genuinely care about the person while being kind and clear. Don’t sugarcoat or shy away from providing your feedback. Feedback lands best when it comes from respect and empathy. 🧠 Feedback is a dialogue and not a monologue, measured at the ear of the receiver of the feedback. 2️⃣ Use BOOST Guidance Balanced (mix praise with criticism over time) and avoid the feedback sandwich Observed facts (first-hand examples only) Objective (focus on behaviour, not personality) Specific (pinpoint the action or event) Timely (address issues ASAP, not months later) 🧠 Praise more over time than you criticise (and criticise in private). 3️⃣ Structure the conversation with SBI+H Outline the Situation (when/where it happened), describe the Behaviour you observed (just the facts), explain the Impact of it (why it matters), and then discuss how you can Help. For example: “In yesterday’s meeting (Situation), you interrupted X twice (Behaviour). It stalled our progress and the objectives of the meeting (Impact). How can I support you in finding ways to smoothly join the conversation? (Help)” 🧠 This approach keeps the dialogue helpful and future-focused. There is so much more to what I’ve described above, what are your tips for feedback? #leadership #LinkedInNewsAustralia #linkedininsiderindia #theinsider #linkedinnewsuk ----------------------- ♻️ If this hit home, share it. Someone else might need it too. 📩 Don’t miss out on my Three Thursday Tidbits newsletter — 3 tidbits, 2 quotes and 1 recommendation to shape your growth and leadership. Tap the 🔗 in my profile to join hundreds of emerging leaders who have joined our growing Tidbit Tribe.

🧠 You Thought Your Feedback Was Helpful—So Why Did It Cause Confusion or Disengagement? We all know that giving feedback is essential for growth. But when feedback crosses cultural lines, it gets… complicated. What you meant as “supportive” may come off as “harsh.” What you intended to be “clear” might land as “confusing.” Here’s the real issue: If your feedback isn’t being understood, it isn’t being useful. And that gap can quietly erode trust, belonging, and performance across your team. Let’s change that. ✅ 6 Strategies for Culturally Competent Feedback That Lands with Clarity and Respect: 1️⃣ Use Simple, Clear Language Avoid idioms and business jargon that don’t translate well. Be direct—but gentle. Clarity builds connection. 2️⃣ Read Nonverbal Cues What you see may mean something different depending on the culture. Learn to observe without assuming. 3️⃣ Invite a Two-Way Conversation Ask: “How did that land for you?” or “What are your thoughts on this?” Feedback is a dialogue, not a download. 4️⃣ Understand Cultural Preferences Some team members may expect softened delivery; others want it straight. Ask how they prefer to receive feedback. 5️⃣ Use Collaborative Language Shift from “You need to…” to “Let’s work on…” It signals partnership, not judgment. 6️⃣ Follow Up in Writing (When Needed) A quick written summary ensures clarity, especially for non-native speakers or remote teams. ✨Remember: Giving inclusive feedback isn’t just about communication—it’s about creating psychological safety.✨ 🎓 Want to equip your team with tools to navigate cross-cultural communication, feedback, and nonverbal behavior? 👉🏽 Schedule your complimentary call to learn how our Mastering Cultural Differences workshops help teams build trust across cultures—one conversation at a time. #MasteringCulturalDifferences #InclusiveLeadership #CulturalCompetence #FeedbackAcrossCultures #GlobalTeams #PsychologicalSafety 

Ever notice how some leaders seem to have a sixth sense for meeting dynamics while others plow through their agenda oblivious to glazed eyes, side conversations, or everyone needing several "bio breaks" over the course of an hour? Research tells us executives consider 67% of virtual meetings failures, and a staggering 92% of employees admit to multitasking during meetings. After facilitating hundreds of in-person, virtual, and hybrid sessions, I've developed my "6 E's Framework" to transform the abstract concept of "reading the room" into concrete skills anyone can master. (This is exactly what I teach leaders and teams who want to dramatically improve their meeting and presentation effectiveness.) Here's what to look for and what to do: 1. Eye Contact: Notice where people are looking (or not looking). Are they making eye contact with you or staring at their devices? Position yourself strategically, be inclusive with your gaze, and respectfully acknowledge what you observe: "I notice several people checking watches, so I'll pick up the pace." 2. Energy: Feel the vibe - is it friendly, tense, distracted? Conduct quick energy check-ins ("On a scale of 1-10, what's your energy right now?"), pivot to more engaging topics when needed, and don't hesitate to amplify your own energy through voice modulation and expressive gestures. 3. Expectations: Regularly check if you're delivering what people expected. Start with clear objectives, check in throughout ("Am I addressing what you hoped we'd cover?"), and make progress visible by acknowledging completed agenda items. 4. Extraneous Activities: What are people doing besides paying attention? Get curious about side conversations without defensiveness: "I see some of you discussing something - I'd love to address those thoughts." Break up presentations with interactive elements like polls or small group discussions. 5. Explicit Feedback: Listen when someone directly tells you "we're confused" or "this is exactly what we needed." Remember, one vocal participant often represents others' unspoken feelings. Thank people for honest feedback and actively solicit input from quieter participants. 6. Engagement: Monitor who's participating and how. Create varied opportunities for people to engage with you, the content, and each other. Proactively invite (but don't force) participation from those less likely to speak up. I've shared my complete framework in the article in the comments below. In my coaching and workshops with executives and teams worldwide, I've seen these skills transform even the most dysfunctional meeting cultures -- and I'd be thrilled to help your company's speakers and meeting leaders, too. What meeting dynamics challenge do you find most difficult to navigate? I'd love to hear your experiences in the comments! #presentationskills #virualmeetings #engagement

I was having team with my neighbors who is Director at a reputed consulting firm. He has seen me facilitate teams for bring clarity through Sketchnotes 📝 He promptly asked me to suggest some way to resolve conflicts in his team. He said “they are always on fire, waiting to put each other down”. My eyes lit up and rolled up 🧠remembering what I did in my team few years ago. In high-performing teams, conflict is inevitable. When collaboration 👥is frequent and stakes are high, differing working styles, communication gaps, and behavioural patterns can often spark friction. But rather than letting these conflicts fester, what if we turned them into opportunities for clarity and growth? One powerful ritual I’ve found useful is something called a Behavioural Retrospective 🙌— a structured conversation that helps teams reflect on behaviours causing friction and co-create better ways of working together. Let’s break it down 🧩 What is a Behavioural Retrospective? Unlike project retrospectives that focus on processes and outcomes, a Behavioural Retrospective dives into the interpersonal actions and behaviours that impact team dynamics. It guides teams to safely surface frustrations, understand the root causes, and collectively agree on more constructive behaviours. Here’s a simple four-step framework to run one: ⸻ 1. Get Frustrations on Paper Start by asking team members to quietly write down actions or behaviours of peers that are frustrating them. Encourage specificity — focusing on actions, not people. ⸻ 2. Take Turns Sharing Create a safe, non-defensive space where team members can take turns sharing what they’ve written. A crucial mindset here: listen to understand, not to defend. Everyone deserves to be heard. ⸻ 3. Ask Revealing Questions Encourage the team to ask revealing, open-ended questions to uncover what’s beneath the surface. This helps build empathy, as people often act from unseen pressures or intentions. ⸻ 4. Make Suggestions for Alternate Behaviours End the session by inviting the team to suggest constructive, alternative behaviours. Focus on actions that can replace the problematic behaviours moving forward. Capture these as actionable, specific agreements. ⸻ Why This Works Behavioural Retrospectives promote empathy, mutual respect, and a culture of continuous improvement within the team. ⸻ If your team has been experiencing behavioural conflicts, this might be a good ritual to introduce in your next cycle. It’s a simple but transformative way to realign as a team — not just on what you build, but how you work together. Have you tried something similar? Would love to hear how you handle behavioural conflicts in your team. #TeamCulture #Leadership #Retrospective #ConflictResolution

I've facilitated 500+ workshops. These 5 closing techniques are the only ones that stick. Most facilitators spend hours designing the opening and the activities. Then the last 10 minutes arrive and they panic. → "Let's share a final thought." → "Any last reflections?" → "Thanks everyone, great session!" The closing is where behaviour change gets locked in or evaporates. Most facilitators treat it like an afterthought. Here are the 5 that actually work: 1. The One Commitment Round Every participant states one specific thing they'll do differently this week. Out loud. To the room. → Not: "I'll communicate better." → Instead: "I'll start every Monday standup asking my team what's blocking them before giving updates." Vague commitments die on the drive home. Specific ones survive. Public commitment creates social accountability. Say it out loud and it costs something to not follow through. 2. The Accountability Partner Every participant pairs up. They exchange commitments. They set a check-in within 14 days. Calendar invite sent before they leave. → Not: "Let's all keep each other accountable." → Instead: "You and your partner have a 15-minute call on March 31st. One question: did you do it?" Accountability without a name and a date is just a wish. 3. The Letter to Yourself Each participant writes a short message to their future self. What they committed to. Why it matters. The facilitator collects them and emails them back in 2 weeks. A delayed mirror. When the workshop energy has faded, you get a message from yourself reminding you what you promised when you were most motivated. 4. The Team Contract The group co-creates 3-5 agreements about how they'll work together. One page. Everyone signs. Photographed and shared in the team channel before they leave. → Not: "Let's agree to be more open." → Instead: "If you disagree with a decision, raise it in the meeting, not after. If you don't speak up, you've agreed." Invisible norms become a visible artefact. When someone breaks the agreement, anyone can point to it. The contract does the confrontation so individuals don't have to. 5. The Pre-Mortem Close Instead of "how was the session?" ask: "It's 30 days from now and nothing has changed. Why?" Participants write down every reason the commitments might fail. Then for each, one thing that would prevent it. → "It'll fail because I'll get pulled into daily fires." → Prevention: "I'll block 30 minutes every Friday to review my commitment." Instead of hoping for the best, you design against failure before it happens. The pattern across all 5? Every closing that sticks has three things: → A specific commitment, not a feeling → A named person responsible for follow-up → A date on the calendar Without all three, it was a nice ending to a nice day. Nothing more. ___ Save this for later (three dots, top right). Share with friends → ♻️ Repost. Get consultant-grade workshops every Sat → https://lnkd.in/eSfeUapJ

Ran a training session a few days back. Was asked for tips on how to ask for feedback, so here goes: 1️⃣ Confirm that you will do something (positive) with the feedback. If not, don’t bother. 2️⃣ Know yourself: if you’re a sensitive soul, overly defensive, a praise-junkie, factor that in. Especially if you want accurate data. 3️⃣ Know your client: if you’re asking a dream-crusher, hard-nosed b&stard, over-enthusiast, mute manager, people-pleaser: adapt your approach before and after. 4️⃣ Self-assess: feedback on you first so you get a lay of the land. 5️⃣ Give people time to prep the feedback, but not too much time - once a year, as in Xmas, is insufficent. 6️⃣ Specify: know why you’re asking, exactly what you’re asking for, and how you’d like people to deliver it. 7️⃣ Questions to use: - what do you see me doing well? - what don’t I know about myself? - where should I invest my improvement efforts? - what do you trust me with? - what not? - three words to describe? - who can I best learn from? 8️⃣…and breathe. In the build-up, in the room, in the moment, in the aftermath. 9️⃣ see FB as data you’ve collected, nothing more, nothing less. 🔟 thank ‘em. Through gritted teeth, if you have to.😬 Brucey Bonus: Look for patterns, not opinions. One person says it, <meh>. Three people say it? *That’s* your reputation. (FD: I am the *worst* when it comes to feedback, some of the above has made me better.) What to add?

🎯 How to avoid death by group feedback - the new and improved version 🎯 Last year, I wrote a LinkedIn post about a major challenge I face as a facilitator: trying to avoid "death by group feedback." The responses to the post from other facilitators were amazing, and I've combined their advice with my original ideas to create an updated version! Thank you to everyone who added their thoughts to the original post. It was such an inspiration! What's the problem? When facilitating, a common activity is to have people break into small groups for discussions and then bring everyone back together to share their reflections. This can often drag on, with groups repeating each other’s points, causing the energy in the room to drop. My original suggestions on how I get around this were: 🌱 The 1, 2, 4 all method from Liberating Structures - asking people in different groups to pair up and share reflections briefly. 🌱 Doing a 'carousel': each group has a flip chart and one person is responsible for writing down the headlines from the conversation. Then the flip charts are placed around the room, and people can circulate to read what other groups covered. 🌱 Share back 'bingo', where as groups feed back other raise their hand to indicate if they covered a similar topic, and then as each subsequent group goes they only add new or additional insights. Tom Styles also said he has done this before - it is a popular option! 🌱Forgetting about group feedback altogether, and ending break out group activities with a moment for individuals to write their own reflections / takeaways and add them onto a wall / flipchart for the group to read later / in their own time. Then the real gems came in from facilitators far and wide! 🔥 From Benjamin P. Taylor there was a reminder to think about 'what is the purpose of the feedback'? Once we know this, then the design can follow. 🎉 Julia Roig shared an example of getting each small group to create a skit to act out the main points they wanted to share back, and in the same vein Carole R Spicer has asked groups to come up with a poem or limerick to sum up their findings and Mille Bojer has asked groups to share an image or metaphor instead of words (a great way to keep things quick!). ❤️ I loved this idea from Payal Parekh who has hosted a "talk show," asking different breakout groups different questions - again keeping things quick and engaging. 🖥 A few facilitators use tech to help them speed up the group feedback process. Lauren Green said she is using #AI to quickly cluster themes together and Monika Udeani has used Mentimeter to get groups to share their insights back without the need for a verbal 'go round'. 🐟 And one I am planning to try soon is from Marjeta Novak who suggested using an open fishbowl prompted by a question with one person from each break out group discussing their reflections in the fishbowl.

Don’t end your session without this… 🛑✋ One of the most common criticisms of icebreaker activities - or any playful exercise, even if it’s framed as a “serious game” - is that they’re a waste of time. And honestly? That criticism is often valid. Not because the activity itself isn’t valuable… but because facilitators skip the most crucial part: 🧠 The debrief. Without reflection, the group misses the why. The experience stays surface-level. And all that potential for insight, connection, and growth? Gone. After the activity, the fun is fading, the adrenaline is dropping… and this is exactly when most facilitators move on. But the best ones? They pause and help the group make meaning. With just a few minutes of thoughtful debriefing, everything shifts. You give participants a chance to slow down, make meaning, and apply what they’ve just felt, learned, or experienced. Because it’s not the activity itself that creates transformation, it’s what we learn from it. I was recently reminded of a debrief activity called the "Traffic Light" after watching a video by Mark Collard, which I would love to share: Instructions 📋 1. Create three spaces (physically or metaphorically) based on the colours of a traffic light: red, yellow, and green. For in-person meetings, mark the spaces using coloured tape (maybe ⭕️🪄 Matthias has a fun #Facilitape Tip for us?) on the floor or place three papers labelled “Red,” “Yellow,” and “Green.” 2. Guide the whole group from one space to the next and ask: 🟢 Green – What should we continue doing that’s working well? 🟡 Yellow – What should we pay attention to or approach with caution? 🔴 Red – What should we stop doing that’s not helping? 3. With enough time, you could also have participants pair up for a conversation about each question, then invite them to share their thoughts in the larger group. But, here’s the key: For the best outcome, adjust the questions based on your activity and debriefing purpose. Here are a few more examples: After a new team experience: 🟢 What behaviours helped us work well together? 🔴 What slowed us down? 🟡 What worked… sometimes? Midway through a retreat or training: 🟢 What’s energizing you so far? 🔴 What’s feeling unclear or overwhelming? 🟡 What’s worth revisiting? After a tough discussion: 🟢 What helped you feel heard? 🔴 What felt off or uncomfortable? 🟡 What might be worth exploring more deeply? What I love about it is that it engages the whole group (especially when you incorporate movement from one space to the next), and it provides people with a safe structure to share honest feedback. Also, I often start with green, move to red, and end with yellow. This way, we always start with something positive and don’t finish on a negative note. 👉 What are your favourite debriefing activities and methods? #facilitationtips #icemeltersbook