Looking Forward

We almost have a provider!

For the last few weeks I’ve felt disorganized. Disjointed. Lost. And, as always, Tired.

X continues to fight with me about choosing a provider so the kids can get into counseling. He threw 5 names at me, how he picked them, I have no idea. One of them, magically was on our provider list. And was a male. Yes! Him! I pick that dude! Good lord and sweet baby jesus, FINALLY! I know X didn’t realize this because after I agreed he said “I have no idea if he is even in your network.” Yeah, I know you don’t. You assumed none of these people were. And frankly, I think that was his only qualifying factor in choosing a provider.

Either way – X called him and talked about D. Said that D has some serious anger issues. Then, the therapist called me. We talked. He seemed very nice. He, however, would only want to see one of the boys, (just D) not both. Apparently X hadn’t even asked him if he’d see A. All the same, he believes unless he is doing family therapy, its better to just see one member of the family. This was fine with me. We talked about insurance, co-pays, X’s controlling, manipulative and angry behaviors.
He mentioned that X had said D has an anger issue.
I asked if X had mentioned that D has ADHD?
He had.
I said that once we addressed that issue, his anger has been much more controlled. He has a much improved attitude now. What I would like for D is for him to feel like he can be himself, no matter which parent he is with. I want him to be able to speak up for himself and not be afraid of making anyone mad.
I said X would be bringing D to his first appointment. He asked me if I was ok with that. I said if X needs to be first, best, in charge, or whatever it is that he gets out of this – that’s fine with me. I know your number, I can talk to you about D as I choose. He said Ok.

Phew! Done! I emailed X and said for him to make the appointment for D if he was planning on taking him to his first appointment. X replied “Have you worked out the billing issue?” How about you mind your own fucking business for once? How about you realize that I have done EVERYTHING for these kids at every single turn. Everything gets paid for. Everything gets scheduled. Everything happens BECAUSE OF ME. Yes. Jackass. Billing has been taken care of. I told him that he had until the end of the week in order to make the appointment and relay that information to me, or else I’d be happy to do it myself.

Anyone want to take bets that Friday rolls around and he still hasn’t done it? And I’ll have to call to do it myself? And he’ll have a fit of some sort, change his mind on the therapist and we’ll be back to square one?

Then I asked who A was going to see. X picked someone from the list he’d sent.
I said no. (It was a woman, and I think A would do better with a man – considering all the shit X talks about women and how they are all terrible and trying to trap men. And, she wasn’t on our provider list.)
X replied that he’d be calling her and seeing what her availability was for the next week.
I replied again and said that I did not agree to that provider for either child. I CC’d my lawyer so he could see. He then replied and asked me to give him some names that he hadn’t already said no to.

Yes of course. We’re all here to serve you after all.