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31 Jan 2014
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Bullshit is his air.

We are all fine. Everyone is really doing ok. 

I found out about the HELOC this week – which really pissed me off – but really….whatever. Maybe, if he’ll just hurry up and default, I might be able to make a case to the credit reporting agencies to get that ‘charge off’ taken off of my report, since, you know, ITS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY! We’ll see. 

The claiming the kids on his taxes issue – again – really pissed me off. This creates more work for me. I really have enough to do. I met with an accountant this morning who advised me about how to best proceed with my return and supporting paperwork. Husband and I will visit our local IRS office this afternoon. 

See? We’re all doing just fine. 

In other news, I picked up A yesterday and he informed me that if everything goes according to dad’s plan, dad is moving back to the old house. This weekend. Its like bullshit is his air. He can’t live without it.  

Apparently his renters bailed on him. Who knows whats true and what isn’t – certainly not me. I emailed my lawyer about it this morning to get her take on things. We still haven’t received our order. Things are still up in the air.

A says he’s considering staying with me during the week because he doesn’t want to walk the mile up and the mile down the private dirt road the old house is on. He doesn’t want to take the bus all the way in every morning and back every night. He also won’t be able to stay for weight lifting with the football team after school since there is no late bus. He thought he might go to dad’s on the weekends, but then realized that would prevent him from being able to hang out with his friends on the weekends. A said he hadn’t talked to dad about any of this yet, and wasn’t sure what he wanted to do yet. 

All I could think was, well thank goodness I spent 5k on a lawyer to make a solid schedule! (Insert eye roll here)

So, the immediate issue is, A says that when I drop him off at dad’s this Sunday, it will be at the old house. That’s a long drive – and not what we agreed to. But then – so what? Asshat doesn’t care about what we agreed to. Asshat doesn’t care that A doesn’t want to spend half his time out in the middle of the woods with no cell phone service. Asshat cares about Asshat, and nothing more. 

 

 

 

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29 Jan 2014
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The fun just never ends.

Asshat is at it again…

He tried to claim one, maybe both boys on his tax return. How do I know this? My return was rejected because at least one SS# on my claim has already been used by someone else.

I added up the days. Asshat had A 153 days. I had A 212 days. He’s mine to claim….right?

So now, I guess, I have to paper file my returns like it’s 1985 or something. According to the research I did today, once the IRS sees the problem they’ll try to figure out who should get to claim A (and / or D) and the other parent will get forms in the mail requesting more information to try to prove who should get to claim the dependent(s) in question. And the super great thing is that if they decide that Asshat should get to claim him (them) instead of me, I’ll be assessed penalties and fees for the IRS’s trouble.

Oh and MORE good news? He’s 83 days late on the HELOC. The bank lady told me yesterday that if he gets to 120 days late, they’ll charge off the loan, which will stick to my credit report for the next 7 years…NOT foreclose on the house like she’d originally told me.

Amazing. I know.

Also, still no order yet. The judge said it could take up to 30 days. Its only been 27, so I guess I’m just being impatient.

I’d like to scream. Just a little.

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18 Jan 2013
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Tax Time!

 
In 2011, I filed my taxes for 2010, as we all did. X declared he would be claiming both the kids. I did not claim them, for fear of getting in trouble with the IRS. I ended up paying in close to 2k in taxes. Single parent. One income. No support. I begged him for financial help to pay the electric and the cable he’d strapped me with. NO. No help. He can’t afford it. Though, I knew he’d gotten his tax money back – close to 7k. Whatever. My parents helped me pay my debt. They are amazing. 
 
Later that year he came back to Maine, took A for 6 weeks, and refused to return him.
I went to talk to a lawyer while he still had A to ask how to best remedy this vague divorce decree. He gave his advice, then asked, “Do you want to play hardball?” 
My husband, who was with me said “YES!” 
The lawyer went on to ask me about why I didn’t claim the kids on my taxes. I told him that X said he was going to, and that I didn’t want to get in trouble. He reread the divorce. He said, “there is no agreement here. Is there another agreement about this anywhere?” No. “Did you sign anything else?” No. “You’re positive?” Yes.
He gave me the business card for his accountant, told me to mention his name when I made my appointment, and said that the accountant would help to take care of it. 
 
I made the appointment, I mentioned the lawyers name and I got, not some intern or ‘associate’, I got the guy whose name was on the building. 
He looked over my stuff, took some notes and told me he’d take care of it. A week later his office called, charged me 85 dollars and handed me an envelope of all my stuff. He said the IRS does NOT like it when people do what the X did. Its a big no-no. He also said the IRS would take care of getting back the money they’d given him.
It might take a long while, there might be more correspondence. But, in the end, I was entitled to a refund. In November I got a refund check for a little over 5k.
 
Last year, I filed taxes for 2011. I claimed the kids. I got a refund. No issues. 
 
This year, we’re anxiously awaiting our w-2s so we can file our taxes. I count on that refund. As most people in my position do. Then 2 weeks ago, I get this: 
 
From: X
To: Me
Sent: Friday, January 4, 2013 9:54 PM
Subject: Taxes

Per our agreement to alternate years, I am claiming the boys on my tax return this year.

 

I didn’t know how to respond. I had to pay a lawyer and an accountant to explain the IRS rules to me about this kind of thing. I’m not going to give him all the information that I have for free.
Even if I did tell him, “No, you can’t.” Or “Its illegal”. Or “There is no agreement” It would only instigate an argument and lead to more bullshit, and there is no way to know if he’d still try to claim them anyway. So, I didn’t respond at all. Legally, the kids are mine to claim. Nothing he does or says is going to change that. 

What I’ve read about this is that if two people try to claim the same kids, we will both be audited and made to prove with whom the kids lived the majority of the time. This can take a long time to sort out. But, in the end, they live with me, 365 days a year. They are mine to claim. If I have to wait for my refund, so be it. I’d rather have it that way than have to deal with him for any reason. 

 

 

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