Looking Forward

In a relationship

Facebook says X is “in a relationship” now. Her name is Nicole. She is divorced. She was married to my boss’s nephew. She has a daughter. She is apparently not bothered by X weighing over 300lbs. Or that he is unemployed. Or that he doesn’t pay child support. Or that he lives someone’s basement without enough room to house both of his children at the same time. 

She’s been warned by my boss about X. She was told about the time X came to my office screaming at me in front of everyone about what a whore I am. She’s been told about the lack of child support I receive and the lack of phone calls for birthdays, Christmas’s and the like. She won’t listen, because his “Friends” back up his story about how I’M the bad parent. How he is the victim. How I cheated on him with 100 men during the 13 years we were married. How I lined up a new life with my new husband for years before I ever asked for a divorce. How I’ve turned D against his father. How I refuse to cooperate and how I’m trying to take money from him when I have plenty. I’m sure she questioned him about it and I’m sure he tells her, he DID reach out to the kids when he should have, but it was me who was stopping the communication. I didn’t answer the phone. I wouldn’t let them talk. I told him to leave the boys alone, they have a new father now. Why wouldn’t he tell her that? He’s told his friends that. He’s told the kids that too. No one likes to pay attention to the order I fought to get that gave him HALF OF THE TIME WITH THE KIDS. 

Are the lies ever going to stop? How can this person have my kids’ best interest in mind if she doesn’t understand how he is using them as pawns to ‘win’ and to fuck with me? How can she be around my kids, thinking that their mother locks them out of the house and treats them like shit? 

I can see her page from my blogs facebook page, but no results show up at all for her when I search for her from my own page. I’m sure she’s blocked me. I don’t know why she would. Unless of course X told her that I’ve messed up every relationship he’s had since we got divorced, and that I’ll try to mess this one up too. I’m sure he told her to block me so that I can’t try to contact her and fill her with lies. I suppose when he shoves her into a wall for talking back maybe then she’ll learn. If that doesn’t work, then I’m sure the subtle comments about her every thought being wrong won’t work either. At least not at first. 

I just want the lies to stop. I just want people to be adults. Clearly, I want too much.