Court date and its GO TIME!
I filed my court papers on December 21st. The man told me that it would be about two weeks, and I’d get a letter in the mail with our case management hearing date.
I waited three weeks for good measure, considering holidays and all, and then I started calling. I had to leave two messages, but someone called me back yesterday.
February 7th at 2:30 pm.
Phew. Ok. I put it on the calendar.
My letter came in the mail last night confirming what the lady on the phone told me. This means that X’s letter came last night to. To his parents house. I didn’t assume they’d let him know so quickly, but apparently they did. Here the conversation between him and A last night.
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Dadhey bud
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AHi
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DadNot sure why, but I got a call from clay today saying that I am heading back to court
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AWhy…n
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Dadgood question…might be go time my man lol
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AOh
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Dadjust thought I would give you the heads up cause I do believe that there are many things that need to be dealt with now/
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AI see
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DadJust remember that I do love youpretty good game this weekend too huh
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AHaha ya
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DadAlright I need to get back at it, will you be on later?
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Yeah probably
There are a couple of things I want to point out here, besides the obvious amount of WRONG that is talking to your kid about court, or insinuating that he’s going to destroy me in court.
X initiated this conversation. He is looking to his son for support here. He wants to suck him in and have him be disgusted and angry. I am happy that A didn’t fall for that. I know that one word answers mean that he doesn’t want to talk and he’s just being polite. I also know that when he has an opinion about something, he is like me, he won’t shut up. I don’t like that he’s trying to get my kid to be part of this, but I am happy that nothing came of it.
I’ll also note that X didn’t answer A’s question about why we’re going back to court. X pretends he doesn’t know. But he does. He was served. Twice.
X initiated this conversation. He is looking to his son for support here. He wants to suck him in and have him be disgusted and angry. I am happy that A didn’t fall for that. I know that one word answers mean that he doesn’t want to talk and he’s just being polite. I also know that when he has an opinion about something, he is like me, he won’t shut up. I don’t like that he’s trying to get my kid to be part of this, but I am happy that nothing came of it.
I’ll also note that X didn’t answer A’s question about why we’re going back to court. X pretends he doesn’t know. But he does. He was served. Twice.
I guess he must have thought that his attempt at bullying and intimidation worked, and that I wasn’t going to actually file the court forms. I should have been fearful of him being “legally aggressive”. And since I wasn’t afraid, I guess its “Go Time”. Whatever that really means.
After a deep breath and thinking logically about this process – here is what happens now.
1. He may or may not file an answer to my request for modification.
2. We will attend a case management hearing. We will be asked about the items to be modified. We will be asked if we’ve come to an agreement. The judge will attempt to discuss any answer he may submit refuting the idea of a modification. Regardless, he will be ordered to pay child support.
3. We will be ordered to mediation.
4. I will be requesting separate rooms. I will not be in any enclosed space with him.
5. We will agree. Or we will not agree.
6. Another case management hearing to discuss whether or not we have come to an agreement. If not, the judge will schedule a hearing for us.
7. I will hire a lawyer.
8. A judge will decide for us what we could not agree upon for ourselves.
2. We will attend a case management hearing. We will be asked about the items to be modified. We will be asked if we’ve come to an agreement. The judge will attempt to discuss any answer he may submit refuting the idea of a modification. Regardless, he will be ordered to pay child support.
3. We will be ordered to mediation.
4. I will be requesting separate rooms. I will not be in any enclosed space with him.
5. We will agree. Or we will not agree.
6. Another case management hearing to discuss whether or not we have come to an agreement. If not, the judge will schedule a hearing for us.
7. I will hire a lawyer.
8. A judge will decide for us what we could not agree upon for ourselves.
There is no room in that list of events for “Go Time” or for him to be “Legally Aggressive.” I filed papers, I am the one requesting a modification. He can either agree, or not. If he wants something else, if he wants his OWN modification, then he needs to file his own paperwork. How does he not know this? If I had a dollar for every time I asked that, he wouldn’t have to pay child support, I’d be RICH!
Looking Forward 