I was having trouble knowing where to start with this…lets see how it all shakes out.
A, who is 15, went to Boston with a friend to stay with the friends grandmother earlier this summer. X was mad he didnt get proper notice. Fine. Sorry. I sent him the contact info as soon as I knew A was going…should have known that wasn’t the end of it. This is part of the conversation A had with his Dad over Facebook IM on Saturday, over a month since A has been back.
X: I am not going to say shit about you going out of state like that – the contact number for his mother was in state, no idea where you really were at all. Just gald your smart enough to stay out of the mix
A: We were with his grandmother, not mother
X: point being I didnt get a heads up or anything about it which is a blatant violation of what the judge said. I digress, I cant be that person anymore. but still it makes me nervous… guess it is a dad thing lol
A: lol
X: easy for your dumbass teenage hormonal self to laugh about, but I cant have any more kids so I do worry about the two that I have ya know!
Ok, so wait a second…did he just say that he can’t have more kids so he worries about the ones he has? As in if he COULD have more kids, the ones he has now would just be a distant memory? Yes. That IS what he said. Gross.
Besides that, as if that wasn’t enough, my son was going to go to a concert on Saturday, but didn’t end up going. the girl he was going to go with decided to go drinking instead, so he asked me to just come get him in town, he just wanted to come home. I offered to go with him to the concert, or I could buy him some junk food and just take him home…whatever he wanted. I felt bad that he was being stood up like that, but I was crazy proud of him for choosing to come home instead of going out drinking. This is what his father had to say about it:
X: no concert?
A: the chick i was going to go with decided to go to a pary and gett drunk instead and i didnt want to go get drunk so i came home
X: I see, did you have tickets?
is that the kayla girl?
A: yaaaa and yaaaaa
X: hmm – you know you could have gone out with her and just not have drank
A: lol no
X: why not?
you just get a soda and carry that around in a big red cup
was there a fo0tball game tonight?
A:she was with a bunch of people that do hard drugs and smoke too much and drink to much. she doesnt do hard drugs or anything but i just wasnt interesting in going out toinight
X: hmmm
Seriously? Encouraging him to go out with people who are underage and drinking and doing drugs? Wow.
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In other news – as I’ve mentioned before the X is my landlord. I can’t even explain how much this situation is just wrong…but , here we are – so all I can do is wait for it to be over with.
When I was married, our mortgage was due on the 10th of each month, therefore, my rent payment is due on the 28th on the previous month, to allow time for it to reach his mother and for his mother to deposit it for him. Lately, he’s been squawking that my rent payments are coming late and he’s going to charge me a late fee. I’ve explained to him that he is mistaken. The lease says that “payment is to be made within 3 days of the due date” I made payment, I put it in the mail and it is postmarked within 3 days of the 28th. Every time. Its not late. It doesn’t say it needs to be received, only that payment is to be made. Here are the string of emails I got over the weekend:
X: The rent payment for this month was sent late as evidenced by the postmark on the envelope and was received late enough so that it has once again caused me to receive a corresponding late fee. I can not afford to cover these fees for you anymore. You are hereby assessed the late fee of $40.00 per the rental agreement which is payable ‘before’ the next rent payment is due – the 28th of this month. If it is not received before hand it will result in an additional $40.00 fee to you.
ME: X, Thanks for the email,
the lease states that payment is to be made within three days of the due date, so the postmark could have been as late as the 31st and still been within the 3 day window.
Also, according to the lease, the late fee is not 40.00. It is 35.00.
X: The lease states that the payment must be “received” and not postmarked. Your payment came in on the 1st – again. And you are correct in the 35.00, which is what needs to be sent along before the next payment is due if you wish to avoid further late payments (which I am being charged for your tardiness).
ME: X, Thanks for getting back to me. Hopefully this will be the last email concerning this issue. No where in the lease does its say payment is to be received within three days of the due date, only that payment is to be made within three days of the due date. I made payment and mailed it within that three days, as evidenced by the postmark.
X: The meaning of ‘made’ and the ‘three days’ was made crystal clear to you prior to you signing the lease. As we discussed at that time – the due date was set to give you enough time to get the payment to me prior to the date that the mortgage was to be due (the 1st). You agreed to that orally as well as with your signature on the lease. There is no question as to the meaning of when payment was to be received by me from you. Additionally, as we have previously discussed, you were made aware of you pattern of late payments (more than three previous instances of late payments) and that any further late payments would result in the late fee assessment. As it stands you currently owe 35.00 in late fees for your late payment. I will expect payment prior to the next rental payment due date of 9/28. Failure to ensure that the late fee is received by that date will result in an additional late fee that you will be responsible for.
He is just to exhausting to deal with. And a dummy. Have I mentioned that lately? My ex is a giant dummy. He knows nothing. He makes it all up pretending he knows stuff. But he doesn’t. He is also a crappy landlord. And a crappier father.
Looking Forward 