Aruba
In October of 2009 he planned a lavish vacation for us. Ideally, He wanted to go to italy for a month. I told him he could – go right ahead. He’d constantly do this – Talk about going places, look online for ticket prices, hotels, tours, etc…But, it was always the kids that were holding him back. Which, wasnt realized until I’d say “Oh the kids would LOVE to go to Italy! That would be so good for them!” And when he’d say “Well they arent big enough for that kind of trip” then I’d ask “well what do you plan on doing with the kids for a month while we’re in Italy?” He’d never have an answer. What kind of person could just up and leave his kids for a month at a time to do something HE wanted to do? And I was supposed to go along with this because he wanted to take ME with him – I should feel special. I should be willing to figure out child care for a month.
He planned a trip to Aruba for us for a week. Without the kids. It was beautiful, but I had a very hard time being away from them for that long. I wanted to buy them things, but he controlled all the money and there was never enough. When we got back I couldnt wait to go pick them up from my parents house – he was more excited to get the dog from the boarding kennel. We spent a stupid amount of money on that vacation … the kids would have LOVED it … thats all I could think about.
But, I should have been happy! I should have been grateful! He did it for ME! Its funny how he’d do things for me that he THINKS I want, I MUST want, who WOULDN’T want a trip to Aruba?! I would have much rather had a shorter trip someplace we could have taken the kids.
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