Until n unless your being you is not toxic for you and others, Don’t be ashamed of your own being. Its most important to love yourself. It’s not about being what everyone wants you to be, it’s about being yourself and finding someone who truly loves you for what you are in your original skin, accept the fact that you will not always be loved back by everyone. Your faking yourself to be like someone people want to see you will never make you happy,  The only thing that can make you happy is being happy with your real self. Accept and be comfortable with your flaws. Have faith in the creator who created you like this, he will never use your flaws against you,so you don’t have to change just to please people. “Love God & Love yourself”. Circumstances may not stay consistently good or bad in life, just learn to love yourself, loving and believing in yourself is all you need to get through all the situations you are dealing with.Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you.                             

Put an end to your miseries, don’t expect from people who caused them, they will never help if they had that good intentions for you they would not have put you into it. 

End all Toxic relationships. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than amazing doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life. Don’t follow their path, stay as you are,you dont have to adopt negatives in negative circumstances, treat others with love and respect. It makes us feel better about ourselves when we treat others the way we hope to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours.                                                                                                Forgive yourself. You know that thing you did one time (or maybe a few times) that made you feel bad, embarrassed, ashamed? It’s time to let past go in the past. You can’t change whats done in the past but you can control your future. Take them as a learning experience and believe in yourself that you can change & do better.

The fresh moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are– bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling- when you don’t feel the need to apologize for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.”

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Growing up in her own solitude , choosing the right battles to fight without being judgemental on anyone. Enjoying the moment, counting the blessings and appreciating it with a silent expression. Silence isn’t a sign of her weakness.
Maybe her thoughts have been walked over sometimes, as people they think they can walk over those who are quiet and modest. Maybe she may have let you get away with pushing her around sometimes. But then its about her, her choice on breaking silence and choosing on to the right battles.
About choosing to fight for the things that matter and she believe in.
Having no intentions of judging or being judged or thinking who is better?
She is just listening to learn.
“The quote by Epictetus, ‘we have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak,’ is our life. We will gain more taking everything in than we ever will talking”
Her silence doesn’t mean she has nothing to say… There are a million thoughts running in her head at once. But maybe its about “she” trying master the art of knowing not everything she thinks, needs an expression .
Her silence is not the sign of being unhappy, its her Solitude…

Sometimes we get connected to other’s feelings. Their story is unknown but their expression is the strongest and unforgettable once you heard them. Got this story on my phone, so just could not resist sharing.

When I heard the story of the Gautam Buddha, my question was always about his wife and son that he left behind…this write-up by Vikram Bhattacharya touches that part of the story
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He left her in the middle of the night, the very night their son was born.
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When she heard the news
she was naturally devastated.
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Yet, she did not complain but her
life lost all meaning.
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The only reason for her to live now was her son. She wanted him to grow up to be a man that the world would look up to.
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Her friends and relatives came
around and asked her to forget
about the man who had left her
and start life all over again.
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They asked her to marry again
but she refused. She was young
& beautiful & suitors queued up
outside her door, but she refused each one of them.
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Then one fine day He came back !
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He stood in front of her and she could hardly remember him as the man who had left her.
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“They call you the Buddha now….” she said to him gently.
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“I hear they do,” he answered in
a measured, calm fashion.
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“What does the word mean?” she inquired further…
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“I think it means the enlightened one, a knower,” he replied…..
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She smiled and then a silence.
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“I suppose we have both learned something. Your lessons O Buddha, will make the world richer in spirit, but my lesson will unfortunately remain largely unknown.” She reflected deeply….
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“ And what lesson is that ? ” The Buddha probed.
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Her eyes sparkled with unshed tears,
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“That a courageous woman does not need anyone to complete her…..
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SHE IS COMPLETE ON HER OWN”
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Saluting womanhood for the spirit of Yashodhara!!!

THE SECRET SUBJECT
Curious to know that subject which was not there in my curriculum but was there in the curriculum of my male counterparts may be from same university or college or a different one.
That SPECIAL SUBJECT that gives them an edge over women who have opted or not for similar courses.
Where are the changes in curriculum coming from?
And which educational body has approved it.
Several surveys, done almost everyyear reveals girls score better, okay interruption, as I ve n’t done masters in special subject (I don’t want to sound like an another EDGY),I will correct myself, that both girls and boys have scored wonderful at par, may be… Forget who did more or less. But when these girl or women go out for work and succeed, they get tags (special tags if they are beautiful too).
Taboo
A women can either be beautiful or intelligent and if she is both and successful too then she must have used her beauty for success.
Really?
There are so many good looking successful men around, they are intelligent too after all coming from reputed universities achieving good scores. So they can always owe the credit to their success. But a women if beautiful can’t be successful and if she is then she is too fast( several stories are cooked around her).
Where is this edge coming in the mindset of most of the men-I feel that must be from that SPECIAL SUBJECT.
A country where women are treated as or even called avatars of goddesses, a country where girl child are worshipped during Navrataras but what After or Before Navratras-they no more remain the goddess. Thousands of them are killed before or after the birth.
So basically these goddess aka women should be chained in temples or at their homes. And if they decide not to follow this they will be destroyed mentally or physically.
The land of ‘University in Diversity ‘ equally diverse and rich in double standards with countless discriminations like gender, skin colour, caste etc… Men and women are equal. Women today excelling in all fields, equal opportunities.
But how much of it is true?
You consider any behaviour pattern…
A mother does everything all her life, its her responsibility and she is supposed to do that. A father who sometime play with the kids or narrate stories or may attend few parents session at school is always considered a caring father.
He is the bread earner of the family afterall but similar situation-now mother is working too-then??
Is she a caring mother.
No ways!!!
Taboo – She is selfish, she choose work over family and kids.
Men coming home after the work behaves like a king, he has done his share of the day now its his off but a working women will resume her second workplace after coming from office that is her home – cummon who asked her to work. She is doing this for herself afterall (selfish self).
Both these are from same universities.
Some men, who asked their wives to be at home and take care of the home and family while they went out to be the sole bread earners for family will not approved of the same notion when it comes to their daughters.
Women often mocked at, for their obsession with shopping, window shopping and fashion, but a man who is glued to tv for cricket or stock market or may be to his phone for games or social networking, is considered as cool.
Who will decide whose obsession is better or no or whose is stupider or intelligent?
A women who chose to wear a Crop Top is considered as a bad girl as she is revealing her waist but if she reveals the same amount of waist and adding a clear neckline by wearing a saree its cultural. A man abusing a girl (physically by touching, raping or mentally by passing cheap comments) if asked how he would feel if his sister or daughter or mother would be treated this way. His immediate response would be my sister is not like that girl he is abusing. What exactly goes in his mind and who exactly he thinks of himself to be, to decide which women to be respected, which to be degraded.
A girl is considered inauspicious during her periods. Was periods a choice given to her-its a biological process not her choice, but still she cannot enter in the temple of the same god who has created women to be like this. On the other hand a man who can be a rapist or a murderer or a abusive person or eve teaser is still allowed in temples because he is a man and gets no periods. Infact it is believed to have a dip in the holy Ganga water to wash off all the sins and thousands of us do that. Real sins can be washed off but periods…
My question is not to just these men who have such mindsets but also to women who passes such mindsets further, who expect their son’s first child and if not successful then second a must to be a baby boy. And when it comes to their daughters and if her in laws expects the same, they become the Criminals.
Discrimination is in the minds and outsets. What was not acceptable to us as a daughter or daughter-in-law is passed to our daughters and daughter-in-laws with of course some polish of being the advanced version.
So many myths, so many tricks to give birth to a boy( chinese calender,movement of moon). I am interested in that one trick where it can be all achieved without a women.
Question to all these Special Subject degree holders-
Were they opted or given the choice to be born as a male?
Next to those women who passes this-who is she herself if she cannot respect her woman hood. How she expect others to respect to her choices?
The pride of being a woman is entirely in our hands.

Cravings are perfect meditation! 

Every time if you have a craving and if you are getting it fulfilled, you are actually letting your mind breathe through your mind via your heart to stomach. So much air and relaxation of mind and senses comes when you give attention to cravings.
Cravings are driven by brain’s need for reward-not body’s need for food. It is important to realize that craving is NOT the same as hunger. Its not your body calling for energy, its your mind calling for something that releases lots of dopamine in the reward system.

People say cravings are harmful. Yeah they are if you are ignoring them. However if you have a craving and you are hungry that makes it much, much worse.

Restrictions are never appreciated even if we do with a half hearted consent. A little small corner of our heart keep sinking saying – “NAAH!! I was limitless why am I doing this”. Dietery restrictions definitely make cravings worse. But does this means we should give into food cravings? Well that probably depends on your level of control once you begin eating. If you have a choclate craving and you are able satisfy it with few choclate kisses or may be snicker bar – “GO FOR IT”.
But if you are someone whose cravings get out of control (like you end up eating a full bag of choclates or whole choclate cookie box) then it becomes more complicated. If this is the category you fit in then you need to cut down on portions of your desired food in your hand like if you are craving for a cake then buy a pastry instead or may be icecream cravings, then treat yourself wth a scoop of your favourite instead of a whole gallon of it.

Every craving has a story. Yes it may increase your calorie intake as per your decided limits but then it will release your mind and will get you a beautiful sleep that will finally give you a sound body and will boost your metabolism, finally leading u to put less effort for a further burning calorie process.

So how you are letting these cravings shape you, your body & your skin the way you want.
So if you have a craving – kill it! Once it is fulfilled you will be relaxed and you will stop trying alternatives, which were just giving you the feeling of adjustment. The only way you can get rid off from your food thoughts is to follow and listen to them. You will feel more motivated and put a real true effort on your workout which you were doing before half heartedly or just for the heck of doing it. When you eat you feel energetic and happy. People say it’s a guilt, but it’s a motivation for the next beautiful guilt free food story. On the contrary escaping of it would only result in low motivation resulting in a half hearted workout and a hell of pressure and complaints from your thoughts – “How long will I have to sacrifice, why can’t I eat like them, damn they eat hell, but where does that go & more, more cribbing”. So time now to beat the body’s mind through our mind.