Mexican Tales – What Happened in Puerto Vallarta with the CJNG Gang Chase?

Welcome back to the final part of my winter vacay in Puerto Vallarta. In the previous two parts I shared some of the fun and food in PV. In this part I will explain what went down on Sunday February 22nd, day six of my vacation.

The Gang War:

There seems to be much confusion for most of the world’s population about Mexico and their Cartel – there are Cartel and there are the CJNG (Cartel Jalisco New Gang) gangs who are a bunch of rogue ex-cops among an assortment of other undesirables whose mission is to take over territories and destroy and disrupt, and who think that they can somehow take over the famed Sinaloa Cartel. This is what the various wars across Mexico have contended with for years. The Cartel are not the problem in many parts of Mexico, as much as the gang wars are. The original Cartel do their illegal thing, they also own properties, which are mostly used for money-laundering purposes, and they mind their own illegal business with zero reasons to come out in public and stir up unnecessary shit. They’re like the Mafia, except in Mexico. Mafia don’t approach innocent people, they do their own thing and take care of their own problems, not harassing the average citizen in the streets. These new gangs have to prove themselves as powerful thugs as they try and take out real Cartel for power, and sadly, whoever is in their line of fire become a victim of carnage. The real Cartel aren’t looking for street action. They own hotels too and rely on the tourism; they want to keep their investments safe, and need their investment properties for money-laundering. I know they own plenty in Puerto Vallarta. Puerto Vallarta is known as one of the safest cities to visit.

An enlarged view from my hotel rooftop – smoke up in the mountains

What happened in February in PV didn’t begin in PV. There has been a price on the head of the CJNG leader, known as ‘El Mencho’, for decades. It just so happened that the Mexican police and Federales received intel on Sunday, February 22nd as to his whereabouts and he was shot and wounded and was being sent for medical assistance, but died enroute to hospital. This occurred in the city of Talpapa, Jalisco, about a five to six hour drive, east from Puerto Vallarta, Jalisco. Only, when gang members heard their leader and son and six other members were killed, they rebelled in various areas of the state. We originally heard the backlash was in retaliation for the shooting of El Mencho, and also because the gang wanted the leader’s body back. In Puerto Vallarta, there were some members up in the mountains who began lighting fires in demand. Many cars in public parking lots were also set afire. It all happened so fast, and just as quickly, the Mexican police and Federales had Puerto Vallarta cordoned off pronto. All traffic ceased, roads blocked, hotels and condos locked down.

I took these pictures when we walked up the empty street the next day and saw these cars parked in the grocery plaza parking lot

Where was I?

It was about 8:30 am-ish on that Sunday morning, when we dashed up to the rooftop pool to secure our sun lounge chairs. We grabbed our pool towels and proceeded to where we liked to sit, when we were told we couldn’t stay at the pool, we must go back to our rooms or to the lobby. We went back to put our pool gear back in our room and I called Zahra to see where she was and if she knew what was going on. Of course she did! She’s Zahra who missed her calling as a reporter or cop, lol. She told us to come down to the lobby and briefly gave us the lowdown on the lockdown. I then went back to my balcony where I had a bird’s eyeview of the layout of the land. I saw quite a few fires burning up in the mountains. I’m quite used to seeing smoke come from the mountains every so often, so it wasn’t shocking. What was shocking was looking at the main drag below and seeing nobody, not a vehicle, not a siren, but the odd army truck or Federale vehicle and the odd police helicopter circling round. As I found out, the city was in lockdown and being patroled by the army, navy, local police and the Feds. It was surreal seeing the bustling city quiet as a churchmouse.

View from my balcony of the mountain fires and the ominously, quiet main drag below

A view from the rooftop pool as quite a few vacationers were also looking down at the carnage

I began checking the news, looking up Canadian media sites and Youtube to see if the world was aware of this incident, but nobody seemed to be talking yet about what was happening. I decided to contact our local CTV news channel here in Toronto. I sent an email with what was transpiring, along with some images – and then I totally forgot I’d sent the email and literally, never checked my email again until the next night where I discovered journalist, John Woodward, replied to my email asking if I’d do a live Zoom with him. I burst out laughing as I read the email much too late, and told Cheryl about the email. I replied with some more facts, and my opinion about how much the media was blowing up everything to epic proportions from what I’m seeing on both Canadian and American news. I told him the event was handled and over by 5pm the same day, so anything I had to report was late in the news cycle spin, but if he still wanted to Zoom or see my footage that I’d be happy to. I didn’t hear back from him.

I could have been a star! Below is some short balcony footage I took from my balcony after we were sent back from the pool – with my amateur commentary.

As soon as lockdown happened, the hotel took all the emergency exit doors by elevators off their hinges – just in case.

Yellow alert from red, lockdown over next afternoon, with nothing still open except the big grocery store across the street, and we could see the lineups blocks long just to get in. We were allowed out, but nothing opened until Tuesday, and it was full on business as usual everywhere then, but a ghost town on Monday – save for the busy grocery store. Sadly, Zahra and her hub were leaving Tuesday morning, so their last two days were spent locked out from doing anything. But their flight got out on time as scheduled. Cheryl was staying another two days and then I’d be moving over to Liz’s rented condo next door.

Moving Updates

The Grand Venetian didn’t give me that same old comfortable vibe. First off, the outdoor pool tables with umbrellas and chairs were moved from ‘our’ section. This section offered breezes despite the sun’s rays because of its strategic location. Instead, management placed potted plants around the area and argued the tables would make it difficult for the gardeners to water them. So the few tables left are further down along poolside where the sun blazes from 11am onward with nary a breeze. I found myself sitting by myself on the cooler part while ‘the gang’ sat around two or three tables, gabbed and drank under an umbrella, daily. The forging of tables somehow forged a few groups of people together – expanding our circles. I began to feel excluded among my once familiar surroundings – save for my dear friends Brenda and Saul, and Liz. I’m very selective who and where I choose to spend my time with, so I didn’t feel comfortable auto-pulled into a cluster of people I didn’t prefer to hang around. I was also a bit peeved at two events planned with reservations with ‘the group’ for outings that I wasn’t even considered asking to attend. I don’t hold grudges and move on, but I also prefer to disappear and slither away silently if I’m not into the scene. That’s how I’ve always rolled. I also didn’t feel like the welcomed guest I did the previous year when I stayed at Liz’s, which was taking an internal toll on me to both, endure and keep my thoughts zipped. Without elaborating, I will state – this had nothing at all to do with Liz.

Something was definitely in the air with that blood moon, lunar eclipse, mercury retrograde, that hit the last week of my vacay. Each of these planetary happenings have a tendency to affect me. And this clusterbomb was a lot. Which brings me to the real energetic forces working against me, beginning on my long awaited massage day. It began early morning when I took the elevator down to lobby and walked to the spa in the next building – I got stuck in the elevator for ten minutes. No thanks to anyone’s help, I finally got out. After my massage, when I went to pay, my Visa card wouldn’t go through. It was my last few days in PV and I didn’t want to run out of Pesos, but I told the girl I’d bring down the cash. While I was upstairs I called my bank to see what the problem is and there apparently wasn’t any. After I went back down to pay the girl, I found out that other Canadians were having trouble with their Visa cards there as well. The same day, my email morphed into some weird configuration right before my eyes, nothing looked familiar, no current emails, only emails from 2022. It took me over an hour of Googling and Youtubing in search for some aid from whatever morphed onto my screen, to get it back to normal. Then to top it all off, I grazed my hand over a cactus plant and had to then pull out MANY needles. It was a day that kept on giving.

A few interesting images: Setting up for a beach wedding on the public beach in front of the Grand Venetian pool (taken from my lounge chair)

A nightly view from the condo balcony – firework clip (pay no attention to the background chatter)

I felt the time had come to move on, the universe was showing and telling me. But it was all good, although the fun part of my trip was with my homies. 🙂 I did go out for a few more meals, but not many. I went to one of our fav spots with Brenda and Saul – it’s kind of become our ritual to visit Bonito Kitchen. Nobody else appreciates the small little Asian fusion restaurant the three of us love.

A few pics with me, Brenda And Saul:

A few more images at Abulon with me, Kevin and Tina

And I also went back to Abulon with Tina, Laura, Kevin, Brenda and Saul. Liz didn’t come because her husband caught whatever seemed to be knocking someone we knew, down daily in that gang. It wasn’t until I caught the ‘not feeling so great today’ moment two days before I was coming home, I was next. Oh yes, It became a familiar feeling, perhaps a bit milder than the time I experienced Norovirus on a cruiseship. I was too sick to even look at my phone for the rest of the day or night. Keeping my eyes open made me dizzy. The next day I made a point to Google – What on earth is going around Puerto Vallarta making people sick for a day or two. The reply was Norovirus. Boom! Not exactly the best way to spend my last two days – in bed, but very grateful I was well enough to fly home.

It’s been quite a ride! I’m quite sure I’m ready to move on to new pastures next year. Time to let go of my comfort zone and make new memories somewhere else. Who knows where that will be!

Waiting for a cab to airport and my posse – Liz in the middle and Brenda sending me off

©DGKaye2026

Blogging Break Happening Now

Alas! The time has come for my longgggggggg awaited winter break. And I can say with certainty how badly I need a break from winter!

Here in very cold Canada, it feels as though we’ve been living in the frozen tundra for over two months now. Sure, people joke about Canada and the cold, but this kind of cold is NOT even the kind we grew up used to here – the usual 20 degrees F to zero. But these minus 20 and 30 temps for weeks on end are something I never signed up for as a Canadian. 🤣😂 I can’t recall going anywhere in winters past that required myself dressing for the Arctic every time I have to run out for an errand – just in and out of the car turns my legs into frozen blocks after mere seconds.

But this frostmare will be ending real soon! This will be my last post until April. I’m preparing for the summer temps I’ll be feeling in a few day’s time. My Canadian winter friends are already in Puerto Vallarta sending me messages and pics of some of our gang who are fortunate enough to already be there. I can’t wait!

Vacation time

As you can well imagine, there will be stories galore as always upon my return to blogland. This vacay is going to be so action-packed, I may need a vacation after my vacation. Lol. This year, my friend, children’s author, Cheryl Spears, will be joining me for the first leg of my trip, along with my very close friend Za and her husband will be flying down as well and staying in our hotel, because they need a break from the deep freeze. So many friends guarantees another amazing time. After the hotel holiday, I’ll be moving into my old homestead next door, the Grand Venetian, staying again with my good friends, Liz and Grant.

Don’t forget the Tshirt! Yes, it was last year that our friend Kevin who works in corporate for Vista Print, announced that it’s time we all had a club Tshirt, and one we are all going to wear at the Canadian karaoke dive bar we discovered last year. And he was kind enough to have them all delivered to us – so he didn’t have to use half his suitcase to bring them all.

Canadian Club Tshirt

I love the image. The Grand Venetian is the condo complex where we all stay and became friends at. Featuring the most important artifacts of both Canada and Mexico – hockey and margaritas! Lolol.

Vacation

©DGKaye2026

I’m Back from Mexico

Hello! I’m back from my wonderfully warm and sunny trip to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Every year I think I’m not going back, and then I ultimately, end up there.

I left a bit late for my liking this year as I prefer to be gone the worst month of winter here – February, but snafus with friends and their availability to have me stay with them were unsettled. My friends Brenda and Saul who I stayed with last year had delays with their children and grandchildren letting them know when they were coming, and my friends Liz and Grant were anticipating some other friends coming before they declined late, which left the opening for me to arrive.

Liz left, Brenda center

This February was one of the worst winter’s we’ve had in years here in Toronto. We had snowstorms that made up for the lack of snow we hadn’t had the past few winters, and terribly frigid temps for most of February ranging in the MINUS 20 – 30 degrees for a good part of the month. So, once I got a firm date from Liz and Grant, I tacked on an extra week at a hotel two buildings away from the condos where all my friends were staying. I needed to get to that sun!

The hotel was great and centrally located for me to pick up a few groceries and takeout meals I could store in the small fridge provided. And when the hotel pool was too full, I just walked over to my friends’ condo building and spent the day with them at their pool. It worked out well. On the Saturday, they had a live band up at the hotel rooftop pool playing some great oldies such as Pretty Woman, Brown Eyed Girl, and more from that era.

The flight to PV worked out well and was a smooth flight. But then, the crazy busy PV airport was a nightmare. They’ve already expanded that airport a few years ago and are currently under construction to add a whole new Canadian wing to the airport to accommodate the many Canadians who visit there. But in the meantime, the airport was a zoo. Three flights landed at the same time, which caused huge lineups and wait times in the customs lines, despite them finally adding a few kiosks to digitally pass through customs. After dragging my carryon bag(s) through the mile-long Canadian airport, flying, then trudging through what felt another mile upon landing with said bags, and the customs lineup, and then the next huge lines to exit the airport security, it was approximately two hours until I got out into the hot Mexican sun, only to join the hundreds in line for the taxi wait – another hour and ten minutes! Yes, travelling is still no fun as far as I’m concerned. And finally, the five minute cab ride to my hotel!

I’d chosen an adult only hotel near my friends, which worked out perfect. A week later, I moved into Grant and Liz’s beautiful rented condo for another ten days. I also learned that many of my friends had or were still having that brutal flu that was going around in Canada, which I’d already endured in January. My friend Liz was in the middle of suffering that flu when I arrived to the hotel, and that horse cough still lingered with her throughout my stay. I was careful not to get too close to her. A few days in and my friend Brenda caught the dreaded flu. It became like doing a dance around my sicko friends, especially when another friend caught the Norovirus that is also in circulation globally. I took all my precautionary naturpathic meds to combat catching their germs. So far, so good, but I won’t brag because upon my return home I was stuck in a middle seat with a screaming baby in my right ear most of the way home, and a man to my left who sounded like he was coughing up a lung – constantly, the whole way home! Oye! I was happy that I’d put on a mask before entering the plane, and added a second as soon as I realized what was sitting beside me, pulled up the hood on my jacket and kept my face toward the screaming baby all the way home. Seriously, when someone comes on a plane sick, it would have been COURTEOUS of THEM to wear a mask!

So, what did I notice on my visit back to PV? The city was crowded as usual with majority Canadian tourists. Media indicated that tourism was full but restaurant business was down. No surprise there as I witnessed myself that many restaurants that always required a reservation to get in, weren’t full, why, because of the jacked up menu prices. The condo where I stayed and used to rent in myself, wasn’t full. That meant no having to fight for lounge chairs and uncrowded pools. This condo complex is typically very hard to get a spot in, yet, units were empty. Why? Because majority of renters there are Canadian, our dollar is crap, and despite everything being in Pesos there, where Canadians still get good value for the dollar, all rentals are charged in US dollars. And for a Canadian, a $5,000 US monthly rental has become $9,000 CAD for renters. That’s too steep for my blood and wallet, so I am thrilled to have friends there who invite me to stay with them. I’m a good guest who always pays her way, does the dishes, cooks a few meals for my friends, buys my own groceries, and gives everyone their space. Good guest etiquette that got me invited back again for next year, lol.

As always, I took lots of photos, particularly, of some gorgeous sunsets from the balcony. Something about those Mexican sunsets where in the span of the half hour or so as the sun sets, the sky changes to many colors. Just gorgeous. I’ll leave you with a few beautiful images here and next week I’ll share more of my fun in the sun.

Where the sun meets the horizon

These next few sunset pics are an example of how many colors the sky changes through within twenty minutes of sun setting

Stay tuned for Part 2 next week!

Blog Break Time!

I’ve usually already begun my blog break, but my winter break fell a little later this year. I haven’t really spent a February at home in well over a decade, and I’ve been getting a bad taste of what I’d been missing all those years with some doozy winter storms. Usually, me and friends in Mexico are checking the weather at home while we’re at the pool, laughing at sub-zero temps and huge storms we didn’t have to endure. Not fun.

It’s finally almost that time for me to get out of winter Dodge and relax in my beach chair in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Where else better for a Canadian to escape the deep, cold dredges of a winter that never seems to end than Mexico. Guaranteed sun, beautiful country, many Canadian friends are there awaiting my arrival, and most of all, about the only country where our crappy and very low Canadian dollar is still very worthy.

I’ve been quite busy these past few weeks with medical appointments and necessary errands, and of course, going to the gym, so I haven’t yet finished a longer read to share a review today. I will return back to Sunday Book Reviews later in March. I should have some good reading done while away – in between gabbing. I may pop by some blogs randomly to check on things as well as keeping up with Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord where I know I will be kept abreast, when I’m not out socializing or sunning. 😎

Stay safe, and warm – for those who are experiencing extreme winter temps. I can’t wait to feel that hot sun on my skin!

Vacation

©DGKaye2025

I’m Back! Warning!

Warning! This is a much longer post than my usual, but I seemed to have a problem breaking it up into two parts without losing the flow. So grab a coffee or some tequila, or wine, as I share some of my adventures in Mexico.

I recently returned from a new destination for me in Mexico. Huatulco, Mexico, in the state of Oaxaca. But honestly, I think it should be named Hotulco. I’ve been to many places along the Pacific coast in Mexico and thought they were hot. But this was another kind of hot I’d only ever experienced in one other place, Venezuela. The only time I ever remember being so over-heated and sometimes feeling as though I were going to pass out was in Venezuela some decades ago and burnt my boobs right through my bathing suit.

Same deal in Hotulco, only I couldn’t sit out and sunbathe as my per usual for very long and spent most of each day in the pool. By the last two days it was even hotter, if I could imagine that was even possible. So much that the lovely ‘adult’ pool I was floating along in all week that was once cool and refreshing, had turned to substantially more than lukewarm, which had me running out of pool and under a freezing shower by the pool about twenty times a day.

Unsurprisingly, not one tourist there that I saw,had a nice brown tan, nor on the airplane home. Including myself. (Yes, I was purposefully observing.) And thanks to my seasoned sun habits and protection I used, I didn’t get burned. Oh, but in all fairness, talking in the pool for hours on end, the inside of my bottom lip definitely got a whack. 🙂 All one could do there was get redder and redder and most being careful about it. Many wearing long-sleeved SPF sun protective shirts. I applied sunscreen about eight times a day and dived back in. And heaven help you if you thought you could walk to the pool in bare feet, (like my new and hilarious gay friend and fellow widow, Ray from Calgary did).

This most southern west tip of Mexico is still an unspoiled Mexican gem. With two other main small towns and surrounded by beaches and bays, made for calm waters and great swimming in the ocean. On one of our four beaches on the property, you could just walk in and snorkel and see an array of beautiful fish. But don’t expect any pictures of that from me because I’m not an ocean-swimming girl (fear of the unknown of what’s below) and find staying on the beach twice as hot than at the pool.

The resort was beautiful and hugeeeee.The staff were all so friendly and accommodating, and it’s the first place in Mexico I’ve been to that actually accepted our most crappiest Canadian dollar for great value. The area was originally belonging to the government because it’s UNESCO Heritage land with tons of wildlife, such as many species of birds, vultures, Iguanas, and something that fled past us one night, kind of badger-y looking, and some very mischievous red breasted squirrels.

One has plenty of entertainment eating down at the Mexican breakfast restaurant, meters from the ocean, where I may add that the woman who made me vegetable omelettes daily as my main source of protein, was bueno. The birds and squirrels hang out there, just waiting for a patron to drop a crumb, or more often, get up from the table for a mere moment and leave their plate as a calling card for the crows. Twice I watched a fearless squirrel hop right on someone’s table, lift the sugarbowl lid off and seek out raw sugar packets – smart enough to know the difference between them and the sugar substitutes. 🙂

The rooms were housed in orange two-storey long bungalows with each long bungalow named as sections as clouds and stars. We were in Nimbus section. To get to these rooms situated on many, many acres of land, we had to call the lobby to send a golf cart/driver to go through the paved cement roads, pick us up through the jungle, and take us to wherever we were going as restaurants, lobby, and beaches were all spread out. At first I found it scary as they tore through what looked like a labyrinth through the jungle. I told my friend the way we sat in these 12- passenger golf carts reminded me of the Scrambler ride. 🙂 And then we’d walk some more stairs.

Between the stairs to everywhere or ramps (I still can’t decide which was more brutal), my quads are like steel and feeling like lead when I walk. One needs good walking legs to stay there, despite some wheelchair ramps. I literally felt like I was half mountain climbing every day and night. AND no air-con anywhere except one section of the lunch buffet restaurant and OUR room, which was kept at a frigid, max ice-box temperature by us from the moment we checked in. It became our salvation. Ceiling fans in lobby and anywhere else were always on slow mode and recirculating hot stagnant air, with zero breeze. LOL. Now if anyone knows me (like my gym girl pals do) they know I’ve got every kind of fan on or around me in Zumba class. Hot flashes are the gift that keeps giving.

Views from our room

Our makeshift dryer because no balcony

The theater had a nightly show, and a special Halloween night show and especially, on Day of the Dead show. Very talented dancers who my heart went out to in that open-air theater room, with zero breeze and not enough slow turning high ceiling fans as they were adorned in Mexican costumes, hats, and some in leather boots. We never lasted longer than ten minutes at the shows because it was so hot. One night the show began and the fans weren’t yet turned on. My friend chased down a waiter to tell someone to turn them on.

The daily temps were 40 celcius-ish. Climbing and walking and walking and sunning and swimming and tequila-ing really tested my endurance. I go to six gym classes a week here at home and remain the same weight no matter how hard I workout. I lost four pounds. LOL. The strenous workouts just to walk somewhere, the gallons of water daily and the severe lack of appetite in constant heat all playing a part. And that was just as well because I love Mexico but don’t care much for Mexican food, except fajitas, and I saw those there only once. This resort had five ‘specialty restaurants’. We were permitted to book four for the week. Three was enough for me. Let’s just say that Mediterranean food as I know it well, was not remotely Mediterranean. We plan B’d it over to the buffet, and thank goodness there was always something good on the grill at the back, especially the tadaki grilled tuna. Another night we were mystified to try out the Moroccan restaurant, that of course, wasn’t very Moroccan. If anyone has ever had tagine chicken done proper, it’s a sweet and savory slow-cooked stew in a tagine for hours and served in the same vessel. The version I received was in a soup bowl, two pieces of dried chicken cubes with couscous, no Moroccan ingredients, serviced with a piece of raw carrot and cucumber on top. They had the low tables and foot stools as chairs and many an overweight person looked pretty uncomfortable. I waited for my friend to eat her lamb dish, ( I do not like lamb). And then off to the buffet to get me some protein and steamed veggies, and yes French fries!

Moroccan/Mexican Tagine, Just no.

Onion soup much better at another restaurant

Weather reports will tell you that in winter temps there, they CAN go down as low as 68F at night and typically always in the 80s, except July/August 96 F to over a hundred. So what the heck in November? My friend Ray informed me it was hotter in April and advised me to come back January/ February when it’s usually 85 – 90F, lol. I thought it was the cool time after summer. But let me tell you we arrived at 103 degrees F in stagnant air, zero breeze, and had to walk five long, sweaty minutes in our Canadian clothing on the tarmac to the customs and baggage in the very small and quaint airport. Our clothes were matted to us in mere moments. And the heat never left, and just got hotter daily. Not even at night was there any relief. No mercy. But there were some pockets I found where I could sometimes feel a faint, momentary breeze.

Some pics of the tarmac as we waited to depart to our plane:

I went through two fans in one week, lol. And my right wrist has had quite a workout. The smaller fans weren’t cutting it, so I finally caved and purchased a lovely and large hand-fan in the hotel store for a painful value of $14 Canadian dollars, but I had to cave. And then it got hotter and the fan gave out on me. My friend said I should try and go back to the store for a new one. Gratis. I took her advice and they gave me another one that’s still good after two very heavy days and nights of use – especially when it was live Latin band night at the outside lobby bar full of Mexican tourists from Mexico City who came for their long weekend to celebrate Day of the Dead.

We were sitting outside in the still heat with my new pals from Calgary, Marlene and Fiona and some of their friends they met on the airport pickup bus. It was that night my friend and I had come back from the main town, Crucecita, where we hired our guy who drove us from the airport, for a very cheap fee (and nice tip) to take us around Crucecita where he took us to a chocolate mole and coffee tasting and then let us off at the boiling hot indoor market where he left us for a few hours and we did some Mezcal tasting, as we dripped with sweat. We were spent and had no wifi to call our buddy Philipe to come earlier to our meeting spot, and when we finally got back went down to lobby bar outside, we drank some straight up tequila and sucked on limes. We both came to the conclusion we preferred tequila to Mezcal. 🙂 We learned the difference between the two. Tequila is made from blue agave and Mezcal is made from green. Big difference in taste.

I know this post is getting long, so I’ll leave you with this little story about one night when the power went out. Yes, you heard me. So, after dinner one night, we decided to go back to our air-con room and call it a night around 9pm (considering we’re up at 6am daily). By the time we showered for the umpteenth time in a day, gabbed and got under the covers in our comfy beds in our morgue-like temperatured room, my friend was just dozing off and I was reading on my Kindle, when suddenly, all the power went out. That meant no wifi, no phone to lobby working, no lights, pitch darkness around, save for the tiny outside light in front of each room. AND, No air-con!

It was literally maybe five minutes before we were stifling. We thankfully, had just charged our phones and used our built-in flashlights, and in our Tshirt pyjamas, opened our door to see if it was just us or the whole block of rooms in our section. We opened the door and the heat smacked us in the face hard. We heard men’s voices below, so we hung over the balcony as I asked the one man if his power was out. The Spanish man had found a callbox somewhere near the ice-machine and phoned the desk to make them aware of what happened. We found the power outage was over the whole property, except the lobby and outside porch lights on generators. The Spanish man called three times, because the first two, he hung up on them when they wouldn’t give him an ETA on the power back on or say what happened. It took about an hour until it was restored. The next day in the pool, I was gabbing with my new pool buddy, Ray, who informed me it wasn’t just our resort, but every resort in the area had no power. Ray cracks a joke a minute and said nobody could say what happened the previous night, so he blamed it on Russia. 🙂

One more thing. There are mosquitos. You don’t see or feel them when they bite. But you sure do within hours. Some, like my friend, got zero bites. I, on the other hand, have a roadmap of welts on my back, arms, calves, and feet. Just a public service announcement for those who are magnets like me. 🙂

I’m sorry I spent hours trying to load some fun video shots here, but Windows was fighting me all the way.

So I’m home since late Sunday night, slept four hours and went to Monday morning Zumba class because my friend said, if she has to go, I have to go. Plus I missed my other friends. And they apparently haven’t finished the jack hammering on our balconies where I live, so I’m limited to write when I can hear myself think.

I found this non verbal video clip to give you a glimpse of the property we stayed at. Our room looked exactly like the video displayed. The staff told me Americans don’t come there because there are no direct flights and must connect in Mexico City. I’m not verifying this, just what I heard. Most people I pooled with were from Calgary or Edmonton, and only a young couple from Toronto with their toddler. The resort wasn’t too busy until the long weekend rolled around and became full with Mexican tourists as well.

I hope you enjoyed my vacation, lol.

©DGKaye2024

Taking A Short Sun Break

Just a quick note here to let you all know that I’ll be taking a short digital week off soon while I take a mini escape – one of my shortest vacays in decades, but thrilled no less. A new part of Mexico beckons and I’m going to check it out with my Zumba teacher/friend. It’s been many a year since I’ve done an all-inclusive, and despite my excitement, the anxiety stirs. I hope I can put that to rest quick enough once I get there. No doubts I’ll have much to share upon my return!

I‘ll be looking forward to some good margaritas.

Margarita Time

This is a new venture for me to a new state (one of the safest), and riddled with all kinds of nature. Huatulco, Mexico is in the state of Oaxaca, the most south western tip (and the hottest), on the Pacific coast of Mexico. In fact, next stop south is Guatamala and Nicaragua! I just know there are going to be stories!

If you’re interested, check out the link below to a Google map and if you click on the map it will give you a description of Huatulco. It was also interesting for me to see on the map that I will have now been to the last five destinations of what were all fabulous parts of Mexico – Puerto Vallarta, Manzanillo, Ixtapa, Acapulco, and Huatulco. I’d like to go back to Ixtapa to see how it’s grown as my husband and I were there twenty years ago and it was not yet fully developed into the thriving tourist town it is now. Sadly, Acapulco that was once ‘the place to go’ in Mexico, back in the 80s, and some of my best holidays, is not safe there anymore since the late 90s. Apparently, Huatulco is THE safest place in Mexico, and not yet spoilt yet as Puerto Vallarta is beginning to feel more Americanized than the different feeling I used to get there before it got crazily built up there with expat money, which of course drove up the prices on everything. So I will now get to check out a new destination in Mexico that still has that old Mexican charm and offers scenic views, sunny skies, R & R, and of course, margaritas!

There will be pictures!

Hasta la vista!

©DGKaye2024

Standing in the Light – See You Soon! #Blogging Break

The light – something I strive daily to stand under.

I need the light to stay in the light. Does that make sense? When I think of the woes of the world I have to stop myself and take my thoughts right back to where there is light – far away from the darkness. When my grief (at the loss of my beloved) bubbles up as it does daily, I say the words, “I love you honey” out loud. For me that’s a method I’ve been working that helps me get through the trigger moments. When that old grief monster creeps into my head and to scenes of my husband’s dying I shout out my love for him and stop myself from going ‘there’ – to that dark place, and strive to put my brain in happier thoughts. But let me tell you, this dancing around grief ain’t for sissies!

SAD syndrome is real. It certainly doesn’t help with my dark moments. I am someone who is most definitely affected by the lack of light. I’ve recently purchased a Lightbox. Does it help? I’m not feeling the love. No, I want sunshine. I don’t care if it’s snowing with sunny skies or on a tropical island, just give me the light. For me, I feel happy, energetic and just plain motivated when the sun is shining. And the fact that I haven’t even sat in the sun since last winter’s Mexican getaway just exacerbates my need. Last summer, we didn’t have one. Oh yes, we did have a season that has been typically known to be summer, but this past one all we got was sickening humidity with grey covered smokey skies. Ironically, the sun would fight the smoke and stick out its face well after 4pm when the motivation to go out to the sundeck had long passed.

There’s a lot to be said about sunshine and its uplifting benefits as well as giving us well needed Vitamin D, which in this country is sorely lacking for many months a year here, having to supplement with the vitamin. So after one longgggggggg year of being pastey white and praying to the sun gods, I’m thrilled to announce that my winter break with sunshine is finally nearing. If you would have asked me in early December if I’m going away, I would have told you I still wasn’t booked for anything because I couldn’t get a suitably priced condo to rent, and the prices of airfare have gone out of control. So I threw up my arms after putting my wishes out to the universe, and magically, opportunities came to me.

The agent I previously rented from texted me with an offer to rent a brand new condo he just sold to someone, too late in the season to put up for rent, so he called me with a great price offer to rent the condo. In the same week, my good friend Brenda from Manitoba who rents in the condo complex I used to stay at, invited me to come stay with her for two weeks. I told her I wasn’t flying all that expensive way for just two weeks and that I would try and put together an add-on before I got to her place, and the condo my agent offered me fell right in line with the time-frame. And just after I accepted to book the condo for two weeks, my good friend here, Mahvash called me and told me she would join me for the two weeks. So lucky me! I’ll soon be off with Mahvash for what I think will be a very fun and interesting time together, especially since she’s never been anywhere tropical, and then off to Brenda’s to my old stomping grounds right on the beach, for what I know will be filled with laughter – and margaritas – but maybe a gin and tonic for Bren.

So, I am happy to announce that I most certainly am going back to Puerto Vallarta this year for some well-needed sunshine and girlfriend time. I am determined to turn this pastey skin into something more sun-kissed. My camera is ready at the helm with all its new features and I look forward to taking some fun and spectacular photos to share with you upon my return. Until then, I’m signing off here on the blog and will resume blogging later next month. As always, I will still be checking comments here and although I won’t be reading blogs during my break on any kind of regular schedule, don’t be surprised if I show up here and there in some quieter moments.

Take me away Calgon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

©DGKaye2024

It’s A New Year – What’s Going On?

Happy New Year! I don’t know about you guys, but 2023 seemed to just poof by. Is it me or is it a thing that as we get older we feel time passing faster? Or, is time really passing faster?

I’m usually a fairly organized person, but it seems this past year I couldn’t focus my attention on any serious book writing. The muse refused to participate. I usually know what I have planned for my new writing year, but I still don’t. I just keep myself busy, and accountable at the gym with the various classes I take weekly. Maybe my lack of ambition to write is because of the gym schedule I follow strictly. I’ve been feeling more like enjoying gabbing with the girls after classes and workouts and making myself healthier, rather than asserting myself to concentrate. But I think because I was in mostly seclusion since 2020 – first with Covid seclusion then taking care of my dying husband, the aftermath, and the grief seclusion, my need for human interaction took precedence. I still don’t know my goals for 2024, but I have ideas floating around and lots of jots in my notebook, so who knows what I may fill pages with.

champagne toast

For New Year’s Eve, it was friendship night, three single gals, margaritas and wine, lots of food and laughter took place at my home. My third new year as a solo. It never lightens – the weight of love that resides in my heart, living in the form of grief. But being with friends is good for the soul – a respite from the weight that is my constant companion, often, a good diversion from me getting lost in too many thoughts.

We had many chuckles about the fact that the three of us stall out when it comes to remembering some names, lol. As we watched the Rockin’ New Year’s Eve shows, flicking back and forth to avoid commercial ads and gossiped about celebrity news and trivia, we laughed at the fact that all three of us kept ‘umming’ when we tried to remember and say the name of someone. We all knew what and who we meant, but for some reason, our tongues weren’t cooperating with what our minds wanted to say. But, together we learned that we could piece together a name with clues and collaboration amongst each other, and when we couldn’t, one of us would shout out, ‘Google it!’ LOL, sometimes I worry about this blank name thing that I’ve noticed many of my friends my age, in early seniordom seem to have developed the, ‘I can’t think of the name’, or, ‘I forgot what I was saying’ mid sentence. We joke about it, but secretly, I don’t mind saying that it sometimes scares me if it’s a precursor of memory issues to come. But since it seems I am not alone in these momentary lapses of names, I’m not going dwell on the blank moments.

book love

On the Goodreads Reading challenge 2023 I read 48 out of my projected 40 books I pledged to read. A few less than the previous year, but I know the two reasons for that: I read less books on last winter vacation because my social life was nonstop, and the summer here is when I get some good reading done out at the sundeck – except there was barely any sun as most of the summer skies were grey and laden with smoke from our northern fires. I will try to do better for 2024.

What?

To be honest, I’m still deciding what I will come out with this year, but there are a few for sures: I will be putting out blogs and book reviews throughout January – taking my annual blogging break through February and March, and return to blogging in April, I will be starting a new series at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine in the spring – topic still to be decided, and I will get working on a new book, and of course, read many books. I cannot force myself to begin revisions and edits for the grief book I thought I might have finished writing and publishing in 2023. Grief is a funny animal and I’m not over the hump yet, so I’ve learned by several attempts to go back to my writing that I am far from ready to begin rereading and reliving that part of my life yet. But on another note, I ‘feel’ a new book coming on after my winter getaway next month. Coming on, you ask?

Mexico

Mexico! Yes, after much deliberation and decision and searching for a place in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, it finally came together for me. Like everything else in this world, the prices for vacation have gone up exponentially crazy – condo rentals, hotels and airlines all in sync with high prices. I can no longer afford the luxury beach condo I’d been renting in for the last eight years so I kept brushing the ‘where am I going?’ aside and allowed the chips to fall and the universe to answer me when there was a good solution. In December of 2023, it all came together for me.

I have managed to put together another Puerto Vallarta trip for just under a month. My agent in Mexico messaged me asking if I’d like to rent a condo he’d just sold to someone on short notice for high season. At this point, my wonderful friend Brenda from Manitoba had called me and invited me to stay with her and her hubby at the beachfront property I’d always stayed at – at the beginning of March for two weeks. Their two-bedroom condo has been booked up with family until then and she wanted me to stay with them for their last two weeks in March. My Mexican agent came up with this condo offer just in time so I could add on a few weeks stay to the almost two weeks more when I’ll be staying at Brenda’s rented property. The condo I will be renting for two weeks, is ironically, in the building that my husband and I were thinking of buying in while it was going up in 2020. It’s across the street from the beach in a beautiful neighborhood. Even so, I didn’t feel like staying there for a month on my own, so I and my agent agreed on the two weeks from mid February. And for more added surprise, my very dear friend Mahvash called me shortly after I booked and had previously asked her if she wanted to go to Mexico with me, to tell me she will come and share the condo with me in February. I am so excited to be going away with my good friend and I just feel like after this very different trip it will be and different than I’ve been used to for eight years, it’s going to give me lots of fodder for a new book! I know this, because all I do is laugh with Mahvash and Brenda, so I feel that I will be writing a more lighthearted and humorous book before I can tackle the big grief book – maybe next year.

And so there you have it. January is ‘cleanup’ month for me as far as paperwork, projects left on back burners and of course, getting started on the dreaded tax season so I don’t have to ruin my vacation buzz upon my return. February will be all about ‘the packing’, lol. And so, what are your plans? 😍

©DGKaye2024

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